Marriage is a 100%, 100% proposition, an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person, requiring sacrifice and perseverance, and not a 50-50 proposition as commonly believed. Christy Brinkley has a new book out, and she goes, just I have one regret. I've been married four times. I've just never been able to make a marriage work. Or you look at some of the most famous people, think of some of the people that played in Friends, or my heart goes out to a J-Lo, a beautiful woman, super successful, and You know, it's this guy, then it's the next guy, then it's the next guy, and it's the next big wedding, the next big wedding. See, if you believe that it shouldn't be hard when it gets hard? You just jump to the next person. And here's the thing. The pain and the attachment And the scars are of each and every relationship. And I'm no expert, but believe me, I've studied a lot of psychology and I can tell you this, with every broken relationship, there are scars and there's deep down issues in your heart that I don't measure up. You can say it's the other person and you can whine and you can blame and you can say all kind of things. But when you go after serial multiple relationships that don't work. It brings a brokenness in your soul. You know how Jesus feels about people that have been through things like that? He weeps for them. He cares about them. He has a plan. It's called marriage. He has some rules called fidelity, trust. He created marriage so that we could flourish. So we could be loved. And as the song says, we're looking for love in all the wrong places. The truth is that everything of great value requires commitment, sacrifice, and perseverance. As my spouse and I face challenges and overcome them, our intimacy and joy will far outweigh our present problems.
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