"My Husband Has A Backwards Heart"

Chrissy Little Rock Chrissy good morning. I feel think and how you owe just precious was going on.

I wanted to agree with what you said about creating boundaries with one of the other colors because I've definitely had to experience that I am married to a man who is born with a backwards heart like his condition. Cognitive transposition of the great battle that of everything is all switched around.

And therein when we met.

He ended up shortly thereafter had a non-open heart surgery and is had another stance has a pacemaker. It's got lots of things going on, but currently defined entrance plant list. While not on a transplant list.

Sorry in a transplant chair by is also very function the whole human being like he Walker walked around you never really know that there was anything going on with him if he didn't tell you or whatever so it's an interesting situation as a caregiver because I'm not necessarily carry caring for him, like some people who have a debilitated person that they you have to do everything for any of that. That I thought definitely created it. You know life is, and has the stresses that has sets and downs and has all of those things that we each walk through. But that's of course is its own animal and it has all of it out and I think you know the thing that I've learned the most is just like you are saying that he has a God and he is accountable to that guy and he's got a Savior. You know that Savior do the work.

Here's what this is not the first time of heard about this ago very close friend versus the same condition is you know I think that but that such a metaphor for who we are is as human beings at the grow born with backwards heart. This is what this is what the gospel is all about is he is physically dealing with what would he physically deals with is is a beautiful metaphor of what all of us do was spiritually the God is working these things right meal.

This is not to be for you to look at your heart was God working in your heart you didn't do this to your husband.

You can't undo it, but what you can do is deal with your stuff white male and how you respond to him in this journey, how you deal with this is is that's that's where you have the, the, the walk, this is long as you say okay Lord, this is it mine to fix it. You have no power over this, but you do have power over how you act around him how you feel with you feeling obligate one of things to talk about with caregivers as we feel obligated all the time within that obligation leads to resentment. It doesn't take very long either. Here's how you know if you struggle with obligation to Junior say things like I need to have to a should be a must. All those kind of things will you not obligated this your steward you there to be a helper you love this man, but you didn't do this to you, and you can't undo it and so your role changes. Once you understand that concept that you can learn to live a little bit more peacefully with this. However, this thing plays out in it it it weighs heavy on because the valley the shout of this process. Caregiver sometimes you feel like a very very long valley is is that but close to the mark with this. I definitely agree with everything you said. And by that great guide. I have learned that my friends like you were mentioning that will allow me of made some of the same mistakes are maybe not all, and then I've definitely gone through several of them by identifying I've yeah I've just learned that this had situation to deal with and it's not that I won't be here for hand and I won't support him and anything that I I can, but I'm also myself and my spine and you know we have so far family. Yes all the above. You and your son this is your right.

This is his situation to be supportive. You reflect the gospel, but understand that he has a journey to what looked out at you and Jessica so often looked out at your hands if you don't see male princes and cheers to fix. Okay Chrissy listen to the show keep engaging like this because this is how we do it.

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