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Loving Your Woman

The Urban Alternative / Tony Evans, PhD
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February 16, 2022 7:00 am

Loving Your Woman

The Urban Alternative / Tony Evans, PhD

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Dr. Tony Evans is a man who wants his wife to meet his knee start out by meeting words. This is the alternative with Dr. Tony Evans, author, speaker and pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas Texas and president of the urban alternative. It's not enough for a man to love his wife. He has to love her with the right kind of love today.

Dr. Evans reveals how you can do that talked about the changes that take place when you do, let's join him day, love distinguishing words were that differentiated the meaning of love was being meant they would just say I love you why I love hot dogs like me they had words that made a difference when you distinguishing words today and so we use the word love the cover everything back to the New Testament day and you explain the three concepts of love that work existed then and those concepts are brought into the Bible.

The first kind of love is a word that was called Eros. Eros. Eros was sexual fulfillment or to put it more bottom-line. It was basically lost. That's the kind of love that most of our music is made up today. The Greeks also had a second word and that word with Leo Leo the second Greek word was not love friend told you he was saying, I am your friend. Now the uniqueness of this is a post Eros that would not try to sexual but it did have something that was also true Eros that is, it was tied to some degree, unselfishness, Eros. There was a desire to have one physical needs met in all that was a response to a person because of how they treated you with they were your friends in other words, that all is someone who's like a brother to you each to cover your back at you, his backup is your body. You know you can count on him. You know that the people treat you right and treated right so that if you have a political relationship and he got treat you right, you will say I thought you were my friend.

That's Plato it was that mutual friendship that had an understanding about it. But I will treat you right, you will treat me right as long as you treat me right, I will treat you right. If you stop treating me right then our friendship will be in jeopardy because I will trust you anymore. Well that was a legitimate term among friends, that Jesus knew that what Peter when he said are you my friend of the Greek word is political.

Are you by friend now is another word this morning is different than the other two, because it expresses God's love defines love from God's perspective and that word what agape agape reason I'm taking this time out is because before I can talk about loving your life meaning below because I tried to establish love mean different things to different people. Agape is unique because like Eros like Leo agape has nothing to do with what the other person.Eros is tied to meeting my needs sexually lay all if… You're treating me as a friend but that's what agape is unlike the other two, because it had to do with taking the initiative on someone else's behalf at your own expense, the following agape is different because it had to do with acting on someone else's behalf for the betterment of another without necessary demand expectation anything in return. Go back to my original script. Paul says husbands agape July not husbands.

Eros July look at them as sexual objects, not husbands, love your wives necessarily defining them as friends husband agape your wives that's the Greek term.

We would use love and perhaps it would cover all three kids New Testament. If a specific term. When you look at your life.

Agape that is love in such a way that your orientation is to their need. This, regardless of what you receive in return.

That's okay don't I don't like it but because of the problems that we have with our why is tied to the fact that they do not owe us or quickly tied to the fact that they do not Eros else I agape I the idea when the Bible says well have nothing to do with their sexual response, and has nothing to do with their friendship response because this Romans 584 God demonstrated his agape, his love toward us in that while we were yet what centers Christ died. God locked one of that while he was now do you know how much God hates sin, God hates up the bottles of God is angry with the wicked, everyday mise en scène is our evil thoughts are evil actions are you allowed to disarm rebellion against lifestyle here I positive thoughts and all that and said what they are doing but I will demonstrate my love you even though I can't stand hi how you talk about how you will. I'm still going back that is biblical love and that's why you can love people that you don't necessarily like, because life is political love is agape. That's why Jesus can say on agape your enemies that likes their enemy like somebody who hates that got adopted this broad got like this at the level because love has nothing to do with what you get in return. Most of the world will reject Jesus Christ, but that did not stop him from loving even though God knew that anything first Peter chapter 3 verse seven husband. Likewise, not whatever you read the word likewise in the Bible it means that he's building off of something already been stated.

What is building off of the end of chapter 2 where it says in verse 21 four to this you were called, because Christ also suffered your suffering which was all right.

Good Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example that we should walk Before Going to Brother I Want You Talk about That When Jesus If I Was Even a Document with That Alleges I Don't Want You Talking That Because He That You Live in One so… So Little Replied to Him, but It's an Example You Now He Says Who Committed No Sin, so He Wasn't Guilty about One Live without the True about Us and He Had Done Nothing Wrong. But He Got the Blame That Was with the Cross Is All about Who Took Probably Verse 23. Because This Man, the Introduction of Husband-Wife Relationship When He Was Reviled Did Not Revile in Return. I Have No Human Being.

Talking to Me like I'm Not Going to Be Human Being.

Treat Me like That… I Can Cut Loose and Find Me Somebody Else. Don't They Know I Don't Have To Deal with. Don't They Understand Why Is Good but When He Was Reviled Did Not File a Return Know What Goes around Comes around, Stop When Suffered, He Did Not Treat Me like That Again Will Be Pickingup off the Floor Didn't Threaten but Come Sell Judges Rightly at the Proper Time Is Always Don't Tell the Truth Himself Bore Our Sins, He Was Responsible for All Body on the Tree, That We, Having Died to Sin, Might Live for Righteousness. Bottles like You Might Guess That Bible Stripes Walk.

We Were Healed Could Be the Only One You like to Come around His Body Stripes You Bear on Her Bed While Watching Them Brought the Stripes, but We Get the Healing. Remember That You Might Walk in His Steps. School Verse 25 You like Sheep Going Astray, but Have Now Returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of Your Soul.

You Will Go on the Wrong Direction.

Stripes. But Where He Was Wearing the Best Stripes That Were Turned around Some of You Are Only Going to Win Back Your Wives When You Love Them Enough to Take Some Stripes. The Streets Stripes Gemstone Don't like None I Hello Now We Come to Verse Seven Husband like Wives like My Jesus. Remember with Following His Steps Just like Jesus.

What You Do. First of All with Your Wives in an Understanding Way, or Dwell with Them According to Knowledge or to Put It More Simply Study Your Mate Anyway. Learn What Makes Them Tick, Giving Honor to the Wife Give You Wife the Concept of Giving Honor Is the Concept of Placing Her on a Pedestal like It or Not That's What That Means. The Concept of Honor Is Placing on on a Change Your Wife If You Try to Change Right You Mess up, You Must Not Change in Your Wife, If Not by Changing Your Life Changing Your Life Is by Honoring Your Wife, Dr. Evans Will Come Back in a Moment with Some Specific Examples of What Honoring Is All about.

First I Want to Let You Know That This Is the Final Message from His Marriage. Matter Series. It's a 14 Lesson Look at God's Blueprint for Marriages and Families Helping You to Get Serious about the Role God Is Designed for You As a Husband or Wife Leading to a Godly Marriage That's Both Thriving and Fulfilling This Complete Two-Volume Collection Is Available As Our Gift to You and Appreciation for Your Financial Contribution to Tony's Ministry and As a Special Bonus Were Also Included Copies of Tony's Companion Three Booklet Bundle Marriage Matters for Married Men Only and for Married Women Only to Get This Special Package Sent Your Way. Visit Tony and Make Your Donation or If It's More Convenient Just Call Us at 1-800-800-3222 Where Team Members Are Ready to Assist with Your Resource Request.

Again, That's 1-800-800-3222, or 20 will come back with the conclusion of today's lesson right after this Alaska is truly one of God's masterpieces and unspoiled paradise. We can see the magnificent creativity of God on full display from August 6-13. You can experience Alaska with Tony in the urban alternative on a cruise will pamper you with luxurious accommodations, incredible meals and a large variety of leisure experiences taken the wonder of God's creation in God's word. As you learn from Dr. Evans and other gifted teachers spots for this August 6-13 crews are filling up fast so find out more and book your spotted Tony have and start to work before the mirror of how she looks/addresses when you look in the mirror and bring themselves by making themselves feel good about themselves now honoring her is your adding to what you were self not pampering or pampering herself is you making her feel good about her day and the reason why many of our lives. Rebel is because what they need.

They're not receiving women need on. They need to be pampered or put on a pedestal and everyone you did that when you want baby you should you off on the you hear me, do you hear me talk about our bad mammogram.

Are you fine I I am pulling out of the chair we pamper her in opening the door with pamper her and we walked alongside a street you're moving out to the other side we move.

Side note – lucky if we should give them a call before we drive off limits when we talk about things of gotten bad. I pamper your wife on her, make her feel like some body special. If you do that without expecting anything in return that everything that is a bonus. Don't do it then okay. I heard passes one I'm going I baby you got a week pampering if you don't get something together in a week. I pampering you know more. None of your I want to communicate is why auto agape love means don't expect anything return or don't demand anything return now. That's what God would use though give you something in return. You can go demanding. I'm going to business. You better do that. I'm a doctor you know you better get see I will die for you.

And salvation is available if you want, but I'm still going back and some of you men in the homes of God to decide to be striped to be kicked and abused and you still very much a man you haven't become less of them if you all managed to do that to take them. I would not be willing to do that as to the weaker vessel because the weaker she can't take what you can take to configure physically she's physically weaker, she's emotional croppers. Generally, this is mostly weaker she can take what you type so you take more than she has to the Bible sessions with her and she gets upset that because she's wake up.

She cannot take what you want and I think her sockets are often overloaded. She can't take what you and then you get magazines not available at night. But if the circuits are overloaded. She can't take it. I can't respond okay and you feel like a tramp, for she spots the respond biblically, but she can't because of overload because she's weaker. The Bible says God made a week really close by saying and being heirs together of the grace of life trigger is an equal heirs together. Don't freedom as somebody under your foot the way some men treat their wives like dogs like dogs. They treat them disgracefully, not as an equal.

She is your equal. But she still is equal in essence everything you as an equal then he says that your prayers may not be your new newsprint law changed my wife.

God says you have hindered prayers if you honoring your wife if you're not willing to take strikes for your wife to get up off your knees and you're not loving your wife. Let me give you couple things you can do specific number one the first thing you do each day on the life you go to pamper do something special for you wife or say something special that the cost money but expect nothing in return. She's making up the bed, go to the other side of the bed for him honey, let me help you Matthew. She gets up off the floor. No, she does the wash dishes honey let me put them in a drought. Let me drive every day do something or say something special, you will know how much it affects your wife when you said on the way out the door honey. You sure look beautiful today.

Each day, say or do something special. Expect nothing done. Baby you look wonderful and she said my life that you feel about the floor keep on trucking. Make sure you include the unexpected stop being so boring. Sick, I can predict which of all silent when you when we got a nice surprise that created the Bible for the Lord versus the new everyday was, that's what you want to get in the habit of thinking and planning and being creative alone.

Special love no idea. Once we twice a month deeper twice a month at night about the kids or whatever with Duke. I'm going to take you out for the dinner went for walk events, but we will go out. I can't wait to be with you.

I want to be with a knife but there's nothing like being with you because the husband and wife relationship, the president of a personal relationship you prepared to leave quick okay so what I'm saying is please please couple times a month. Next is given her time from the kids and you see the men can get away from the kids a lot easier than willing to give her time with honey. Let me keep the kids the night you just going to stop you. With that said that you are important. I really want to him why I care about the fact that you have the burglar children. Most women do level with your words (which words in the wake of tenant night when you know you want some call in the middle of the day and simply say to do so. I called because minimum I heard your voice. It's all in good level which were Saul was out simply said lover 100 way lover 100 way should change it may not be tomorrow.

Remember you not Eros enough Leo your agape you lover expecting nothing in return.

So whenever you get something God Dr. Tony Evans with advice from then on showing the right kind of love to their wives as he wraps up this final message from his current series marriage matters. Remember, if you contact us today and make a contribution to help us keep Toni's teaching on the station will send you all 14 messages in this two-volume collection along with the three booklet bundle I mentioned earlier that includes for married men.

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That's 1-800-800-3222. Dr. Evans believes there's a desperate need to reclaim civility in our culture, and he encourages each of us to find ways we can demonstrate kindness to our friends, our neighbors, coworkers, actually anyone we meet in the course of our day. Your act of kindness can alter the atmosphere of our culture for good and for God and along those lines will prejudice takes practice, Dr. Evans, as most of us have been getting plenty of it since we were kids unlearning prejudice is an easy, but tomorrow for sure how we can do just that as she begins a series of messages in tribute to Black history month called Faith Hope unity be sure to join the alternative with Dr. Tony ever brought you fighting made possible by the generous contributions listeners like

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