Anger Management

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I think some of you might have to listen to it more than once. But we had Joseph Warren on the show and we brought him back this week to talk more about anger and the seven points, six or seven points he's going to bring out in order for you to redirect this anger and just get it out of your life. And the only way you can do that is you have to submit yourself to the Almighty God. So again, welcome back, Joseph Warren, we thank God for you and we just love you for all of the things that you've shared up to this point. Thank you, Will and Roy. Let's do this, man. I'm about to share the seven steps for mastering anger and stress. So brother, if you're listening now and you deal with anger and you press things down, those negative emotions, and you're scared to go on the inside and look at what's down there deep in your soil, I'm going to show you how to get rid of those rocks, I call them, that head trash once and for all, and we're going to access God's power in a way you've never had before in order to get rid of them permanently.

This isn't therapy, this isn't counseling, we're not going to talk about your rocks, we're not going to move them from one side of your backpack to the other and learn to manage or cope with your rocks or air your grievances and blame and complain. We're going to let God blast them once and for all. That's what we're about to do. Tell me when, Will and Roy. Fire away. Lead off.

We're ready. Okay, so as of right now, brother, as you're listening, there are three options in front of you as far as outlets for your anger and your stress. As men, we all deal with anger and stress, but nobody teaches us what to do with it. How do we process it? We're told, as Will and Roy alluded to, you know, we're told to cope with it, we're told to manage it, but how do you actually do that? And is it even productive to keep and hold on to it?

Wouldn't it be better to get rid of it for God to heal you from it? So there's three outlets you have. The first outlet is many men, I would say millions of Christian men. They process their anger by yelling at their wife and kids more often than they like, and then they afterwards, they feel guilt and shame because they know it's wrong and they know it's wrong and they know these are the people they love most, but they didn't know how else or where else to direct it. So eventually the inner volcano exploded and it came out the side and it hurt the people they love and because they feel the guilt and shame, some of them can't even apologize to their wife and kids because they know they're only going to do it again next week or tomorrow.

So this is where most men find themselves, even good Christian faithful men. And then the second outlet for anger, and this is something a lot of men don't consider, the reason why we're so angry, not just because of, you know, stress in our life, but it's mostly from feeling out of control in the areas of our life where we're being complacent. Now some areas, you know, they're just outside your control.

There's nothing you can do about it. But then there are those other areas in our lives that we look at and we're like, I really should be doing this or I should start this or I should stop doing this. Think of my addiction I shared with, right? I had massive sex addiction, right? And that made me angry.

I felt so out of control, right? So you have that outlet of, uh, you know, like it's just festering and festering on the inside. So what I say to men is another outlet for your anger, uh, from that complacency in your life where you're not doing what you ought to do and you're, and you're, uh, you know, you're not stopping what you should be stopping is for you to actually project the anger, righteous anger, which is good anger. Project righteous anger at the enemy and his evil doers as you watch evil spreading across society right now and new laws being changed and passed that you disagree with that go against your faith and the kingdom of God and you stay silent. That builds up as anger in a man because he's being passive rather than fighting like a warrior that he's made to be a prince of the son of God, right? So you can project your anger in a healthy way and fight the enemy and his evil Jewish. However, the best, the best, uh, outlet for anger is to surrender your anger to God. But how do you do that? Nobody teaches us how to do that. So here are the seven steps for mastering anger and stress. Brother, as you're listening.

Step one, and I would advise, take notes if you're a note taker because you're going to want these. Step one is outrageous ownership, outrageous ownership. This means that I or you take extreme ownership for the life that you've created. No one else is to blame. You face and embrace the consequences of all your past decisions, your present decisions and future decision. You're not going to try to escape your life ever again.

That means no more smoking pot, alcohol, sex, porn. These are pacifiers. Think of my little baby. He's eight months old, my little son, and he sucks on a pacifier to still soothe when he doesn't know how to control his outbursts, his emotions. We have millions of adult men walking around with pacifiers in their mouth rather than giving these, these angers, these rages to God.

So outrageous ownership. You got to take ownership of all your, your decisions and your mask. And then number two, step two, radical responsibility. This means that you will lean into your life and do whatever it takes to create workability in all areas of your life. And that you accept that no one is coming to save you. No one is coming to save you.

You have one savior is Jesus Christ. And he expects your participation in your own life. If you've created the messes in your life and you're, you're ready to take ownership of that, then you have to take radical responsibility as well, that it's on you to go to God and bring all that mess to him.

Ask for forgiveness, repent, give it to him, and then ask him to take over. Step three, loving leadership, loving leadership, leadership. I have a three word definition for real leadership.

It applies to business, personal, all areas, success, money. Leadership means you go first. You go first. You want to be a spiritual leader in your home, brother. You hear it from the pulpit all the time. Your pastor saying, Hey, you guys spiritually in your home.

And you're like, I don't know how. Well, it looks like you go in first. That means you've got rocks in your soil, brother, that God wants out. You got to go first and let God do the heart surgery on you before you start correcting your wife and your children. You go first. It's scary.

It's confronting to look on the inside because you don't like the darkness within, but you got to go first. So loving leadership means that you're going to put yourself at risk, not your wife, not your kids, not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends, not your employees. You're going to take the arrows and you're going to do it today. That's loving leadership, brother. So that's step three.

Step four. How am I doing, gentlemen? Are you tracking? You're doing great. Absolutely.

You're doing great. All right. Step four, gentlemen, is spiritual surrender. Spiritual surrender.

We spoke about it earlier. This means that you give total and complete control over your business. That means your money, brothers. And your family, the God. You give them all of it. That means no more white knuckle death grip of control, you little control freaks. I'm one of you.

I get it. Little control freak is very successful in business, but it destroys your home life. It destroys your relationship with God. So you got to relinquish control to God. He's the only one in control of the universe.

Look at the pandemic as evidence. Right? Absolutely. Spiritual surrender means that you are only responsible. This is a game changer for your life. This will set you free, brother, if you let it. You are only responsible for your life. You are only responsible for your actions and your inactions. All outcomes and results belong to God, not you.

Let me say that again. Brother, you're only responsible for your actions or inactions in your life. All outcomes of those actions and inactions, all results belong to God, not you. Stop playing God in your life. Stop trying to manipulate the outcomes of the meeting in your life.

Stop trying to manipulate the results of that conversation with your wife to get her to agree with you and do what you want. Stop it. You got to spiritually surrender all the outcomes and results to God. When you do this, when I did this, I was set free, man. That was like a pile of rocks came off my shoulders.

I still had to do the action or stop doing the thing. Right? But man, the outcome and results, I didn't have to worry about.

I would deliver those in his timing. Step five, bold belief, bold belief. This means that you place all your trust unreservedly in God's providence and biblical promises. You believe that the king of the universe is your father and he's faithful. Therefore, it is unreasonable, brother, unreasonable for you to doubt, complain or worry about your future, your family's future. It's unreasonable. If you truly believe that the king of the universe is your father and he runs the universe and he loves you and he has only plans for good and not for harm for you, then it's unreasonable for you to doubt, complain and worry.

So stop. You know, Joseph, that that's such a blessing on that, on the last point you were talking about, you know, about because I think men, when we lose control, we have a tendency to want to attempt to figure out how we want the end result to be. But if we yield over to the spirit of God, then we, those outcomes that whatever happen, it won't be our predetermined outcomes. It won't be how we're leading people down the road and God will in turn do those miraculous things in our life to ensure and let us know that he's the one that's governing our actions. Amen. What you said is brilliant, right?

That's exactly it. God wants you to take action on the areas that he's prompting you, right? The areas where you need to clean up. But when you run out of your own strength and you still have not attained the result, that's exactly where God wants you, brothers. Exactly where he wants you.

That's a place of spiritual surrender to say, God, my strength is insufficient. I need yours. Create a miracle in this area of my life. I've exhausted all my strength and options and possibilities.

I don't know what to do. I give it to you. Take over.

I give you permission to take over. You know, and that's what God's waiting for. Absolutely. And, you know, it reminds me, it reminds me, we got 30 seconds, but it reminds me of Gideon, you know? Yeah. And, and, uh, you got too many men. What? Yeah, you got too many.

I mean, absolutely. And, and see, he wanted Gideon to understand that when you get down to the amount of people that you think can't do the job, that's when I come in and take over and you will know that I'm involved. We'll be right back after this. Welcome back to Man Talk. Hopefully you caught the first half of this with Joseph Warren. Just good stuff, about seven steps of how to handle anger. And I'm sure every man listening and sure many women listening have had to deal with this in the past. And what great counsel you're giving here, Joseph.

We thank you so much for joining us for week two, and we'll let you pick it back up here, Joseph. I think you had gotten through step seven. No, he was in step five talking about bold. Oh, I was already getting the head of it. You were, you were getting the head. You were talking about bold belief.

Yeah. And you got to Gideon and got to the, uh, got to the cutoff there during break. So Joseph, we have a good time on the show, but it's so good to have you back with us and we'll let you pick it back up in the bold and the belief. And then, uh, step six and seven on the back half of the show here. You got it. So like, I'm happy to be here.

If you're listening today, you got a black guy, you got a white guy, you gotta, you have a Greek guy. There you go. There you go.

All right. So, uh, we left off with, uh, step five, which is bold belief, right? Just really leaning into God's biblical promises. And it's not putting God to the test, but it's putting his promises to the test, right? And knowing that he is faithful and that he wants to give you these.

So you got to believe that he actually will write and believe that he's a good father. All right. Step six, step six brothers. You've been waiting patiently. Thank you for that powerful, powerful perseverance, powerful perseverance. This means brother, that you will wait patiently on the Lord to bring you his best. And as you wait, you will be brave and courageous, trusting that God will not fail you because you actually realize and believe that to receive God's best, you must pass the test to receive God's best.

You must pass the test. So every time you're being tested, you're being stretched and you got to allow the stretching and it hurts and it's painful and you're in a storm and you're looking at the wind, the rain and the water and Jesus is saying, look at me, look at me, persevere, take the step, right? So powerful perseverance. We give up way too quickly when it comes to God.

Absolutely. It's difficult enough to align with God's will in our lives as men, difficult enough. And very few of us ever do. But when even the ones that do, then there's another prerequisite God asked for. You must align with God's will and you must align with God's timing.

There's timing, right? And we don't like how slow God moves sometimes because we're little control freaks, right? Yeah, we want immediate gratification. Especially his culture.

Yesterday, like God, I don't like how long you're taking and honestly, I don't agree with the way you're doing this thing in my life, so I'm going to take back the wheel. And that's what we do. And we steal from God. That is not recommended, brothers. Absolutely.

Not recommended. So powerfully persevere and wait on the Lord's timing. Well, Joseph, what do I do in between? Well, the Bible verse says it, wait patiently on the Lord, be brave and courageous.

Yes, wait patiently on the Lord. It says it twice for us little control freaks. And in the middle, it takes bravery and courage to wait on God to move mountains while you sit and be still, right? That takes bravery and courage.

So powerful peer perseverance. And finally, brothers, we made it to the end. Steps, Devin, eager expectation, eager expectation. This means that you expect only good things from God because you're his son and he loves you. You expect miracles because you believe that everything is possible with God and that you can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens you.

Let's go. You have to have that childlike, eager expectation that God's going to do something big in this area after you surrender all control to him and you boldly believe he will and you powerfully wait on his timing and persevere. Now you've got to expect the big thing, right? And when you put all seven of these together, let's do a quick recap.

We got outrageous ownership. We got radical responsibility, loving leadership, spiritual surrender, bold belief, powerful perseverance, eager expectation. These are the seven steps to master your anger and stress. And, you know, Joseph, I mean, that was some wonderful information because the one that really resonates with me is the, when you're talking about the radical responsibility and the spiritual surrender. And I think when men, we're not getting into the word of God on a daily basis. Now what we're doing is we end up starving our spiritual man. And because that spiritual man needs to eat, he needs to eat just like we feed the natural body.

And so when he starve, he become frail, just like if we were to go on a hunger strike with our natural bodies, we go frail and all of a sudden we don't have any strength. We can't reason, you know, we start getting confused, you know, because we're lacking nourishment. The body is calling for certain things, just like the spiritual man is calling for certain things. And it reminds me of 1 Corinthians chapter two, when God says that that individual out there, he or she, whoever they may be, and we're talking about men now, that you as a man need to be able to understand when God is speaking. So you have to exercise spiritual discernment. And when you exercise that spiritual discernment, God, he opens up to you and gives you exactly what you need in the time that you need it. When you were talking about, you know, things that you were going through as a boy. And a lot of us have gone through some of those things as a man, you know, in development.

And we still have not conquered it. So listener, you need to listen, go back, listen to this podcast, the seven steps that Joseph is presenting to us and let the spirit of God speak to you. Don't get in a hurry. Let the word of God, just like you put that stake in some marinade, and you let that stake marinade, you let this information marinade with your spirit, because we're here for you. And God wants you to be the absolute best that you can possibly be in this time, in this place in your life.

Yeah, it's great, Will. Joseph, one of the things that comes to mind was when you were speaking a few steps back about complacency and anger, that when you're not doing the things you know you're supposed to be doing can create anger. And that really resonated when you said that. I'm thinking, you know, sometimes my frustrations come in a particular situation. Maybe it's not the situation, but it's because something that hasn't gotten done or that I should have done is weighing on my mind and then something else triggers that really shouldn't have triggered.

Yes. And I thought that was a great point. So folks, there again, the procrastination, the complacency of not doing the things that you know that need to be done, if you'll get those things done, it's another trigger that's off the table, right?

So you don't have to worry about that setting something off because you're just weighing heavy on it if you haven't done it. I thought that was a great point. Absolutely. And God has given each and every one of us who are in the body of Christ, He has given us gifts of the Spirit.

That's right. And every one of you listening, if you've been in Christ for any period of time, you have a spiritual gift and you need to be open to the Spirit so that He can show you how, when, why you're using that spiritual gift. And it's all for number one, His glory and number two, for the edification of the body of Christ. And that means to build up and to let those individuals who are individual members in that body be fruitful because it all comes back to giving God the glory.

No glory for you, all the glory to God. Joseph, one thing, we've got just a few moments here. I wanted to ask, if I remember seeing your picture on your podcast, it said The Broken Catholic, and I just wanted to see if you could, if I remember that correctly, if you could give me a little bit of insight to what that was about.

Yeah, for sure. So I'd like to take a minute and just boast in God for just a minute or two here regarding Broken Catholic as well, right? So as I shared in the previous episodes, my life was a mess when I was in control of it. And when I finally gave it to God and totally surrendered and took the seven steps that I have given here and presented here today, today everything has changed. My faith, my family, my finances are thriving, praise be to God.

I host two Top 100 podcasts with hundreds of thousands of downloads and tracking for millions right now. One of them's a business show, but we teach entrepreneurship how to make six figures in 12 months for Christian entrepreneurs. And then the second you brought up is Broken Catholic. And praise God, that's become the number one podcast on iTunes for Protestants and Catholics, which goes back to, I think I heard it in one of your commercials here, or taglines of outside of race and denomination, right, where one body of Christ and I believe the enemy has us divided.

There are over 120 million Protestants and Catholics in the United States today. And because we're fighting each other, instead of fighting the enemy and his evil doers, right, this is why evil is spreading. This is why darkness is overtaking some of the light. It's because one, we're not sitting with God the Father and letting him remove and blast the smithereens, all the rocks in our soil, right as men as individuals, so that we can go out now and be fertile and fruitful. So you can't be fertile and fruitful.

If you got rocks in your soil, you have rocky ground. And this is the step most of us skip as men, because we don't know it's a blind spot. So that's what I'm hoping to shed light on today is that brother, you've got rocks in your soil, you got to get them out first before you go out and start evangelizing. And evangelizing.

Otherwise, the enemy will make a field day of you, right? Because he's going to use those rocks and those weaknesses and those addictions. And he's going to eventually no matter how high you get, he's going to make you come tumbling down. This is why you see so many men at the top, good preachers and pastors fall to sin, right?

And just, you know, bad things. And God takes the hit for that, right? The church takes the hit for that.

And people run away and they're like, see that you call that a Christian. So we have to show up as authentic men. That means we go first.

We got to go under the knife, so to speak with God, the heart surgeon, and let him heal what's broken inside of us. Amen. Joseph, give your website one more time. Yes, for sure. So brokencatholic.com is the podcast.

First 100k is the business podcast. But what I get to do, gentlemen, is I get to be an elite men's coach for Christian husbands and dads and business owners that are typically doing six, seven or eight figures in their businesses. They're killing it, but they're going home miserable, angry, stressed. And I help them go from that place of heaviness and rocks in their soil. I bring God's power and I give them access to it the same way I did.

He did with me. I give them the tools that work practically in their lives. This isn't, you know, woo woo stuff or anything like that. This is any man can do this. And I teach them how to blow those up. And you can get more information at blowuprocks.com. And I want to give you guys listening my book free of charge, freepurposebook.com, freepurposebook.com.

If you want to learn how to blow up these rocks on your own, go there. I'll cover the book. You cover the shipping.

That's freepurposebook.com. Praise God. We thank God for Joseph.

We got about less than 30 seconds left. And so we just want to say, Joseph, that this has been a very rewarding experience. Thank you, Joseph.

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