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February 22, 2022 7:00 am
Music of marriage.
The man takes the lead in the woman is a real Rogers service was God made us different but it might make us one what God gave you one major and God gave your wife, a mother nature and God gave you masculinity and God gave you responsibility that you are to assume all of us are going to have to begin to practice what God's word said that there might be harmony in the home. Welcome to love word findings featuring profound truth. Simply stated, pastor, teacher and author Adrian Rogers, Mary.to be a duet. Do you sing the same song take different parts.
Part one of today's message.
We learned that there are general differences between men and women designed to complement each other in order to implement our differences, we need some dynamic direction as head of the household. Husbands must assume responsibility if you have your Bible turn to Ephesians chapter 5 will begin in verse 18. As Adrian Rogers reveals more about creating melody in the home. We have a generation of kids today who are very mixed up.
They don't know whether being raised by a feminine man are masculine woman. There has been a blurring today.
The distinction between the sexes. Most of it brought about by the radical feminist the radical feminist, but I attribute to the failure of man to be the kind of masculine man that they ought to be. We have a generation of miniature man, rather than mature masculine man and what we see today is really tribute to the failure of man.
The divorce epidemic, sexual abuse, promiscuity, social awkwardness, emotional distress, and suicide. I think primarily is laid at the feet of the man and when he failed God did not primarily blame me. God blamed Adam for Eve's failure, and man must assume responsibility now.
With that in mind, let me give you five things that we man must do number one number one. Sir, you must assume responsibility look at their will. In verse 22 wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord for the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the Savior of the body to be the head literally means that you are responsible for doesn't mean that you exist to have your needs met. Because you the head.
It means you exist to meet me now husbands.
We cannot escape that responsibility. But in your margin. First Corinthians 11 verse three. The apostle Paul says, but I would have you to know that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God and our problem is today that we have so many men who have not assume responsibility they have wanted to have headship without responsibility. Now, when your wife is told to be subject to you that mean she's to look to you. It doesn't mean that she's there to be a servant, but she is there to have those basic needs met by you. The fact that she submits to you means that you have. Therefore the responsibility to take care of her and your leadership is to be servant leadership number two number two best difference between the sexes means that you as the husband are to let your wife know that she is number one in your life.
The Bible says. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself some translations. I gave himself for it.
Your wife must know that she comes before the children she comes before your own mother.
Your own father for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife Joyce knows that she is number one of all human beings in my life. She is number one. I know the onset of any that I am number one in Joyce's life that gives me a sense of security to think that of all the people who ever lived today and have ever live there is one person who loves me more than any other person on the face of the earth. What a feeling that is my heart that she loves me. That way, and she is to know that I love her that she is number one.
I need to treat her. Therefore, as Christ treated the church that Jesus gave himself for the church and I was not going to bear on this point very long. But some of you men here who are not guilty of sexual adultery but you are guilty of emotional adultery you are sharing things with other females that ought only to be shared with your wife and emotional adultery. Before long, can lead to physical adultery and if it never leads to physical adultery emotional adultery is a crime and a saying against your wife and us in against God. There is a woman who needs to be absolutely number one in your life. Now the third thing. Not only do you need to let your wife know that she is number one but thirdly you need to ProTect your wife from emotional trauma. Look, if you will hear in the same chapter, the Bible says that he gave himself for it.
Verse 26 that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word that he might present to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their own wine. Now this means that you are to protect her from emotional trauma and damage that your job and your responsibility.
Sir, you see the word spot that the Lord might present the church to himself without spot what that word spot means trash refuse dirt. It's your job to keep things from being dumped on your wife trash being dumped on her. You have to be careful that you're not the guy that dumps on her that you come in and leave me and just unload on your wife things that maybe she cannot bear right at me very carefully because she does want you to share your hurts with her. She does want to know where you are hurting so she can come in and weep with you and caress you and care for you, but you have to be careful the things that you alone are especially I would say sorry. One of the things I've learned most important time that I spend in the day is the first five minutes after I walk in the house at the end of the day. I mean if I go right to the house and go right in my study or go right through the house and go right to the news or whatever. I have failed Joyce, I need to go right to Joyce.
I need to put her in my arms I need to hold her. I need to tell her that I love her. I need to call her on the phone before I get there and tell her I'm coming and that I can hardly wait to see her that so very important that five minutes it says to her you are number one. I'm not coming here to trash but I've come here really to take a load off of you and that I might present you myself without spot and then the next word is wrinkle the essay that and the word wrinkle is an interesting word.
It speaks sort of an internal womb, a trauma that shows itself literally sometimes on the face. I'm not talking about the normal wrinkles that all of us get and the laugh lines in the crinkly places around the eyes, because we've laughed a lot through life. But I'm talking about. Sometimes the trauma that comes to a woman who has lived with a man who is not really loved his wife is your I can sometimes spot these women you see them with their taught faces the countenance is tense and drawn. Because of these internal traumas they've not been loved as they ought to be love. You can see sometimes that pain just written on the face of a husband is to ProTect is why my assignment from God sir, and your assignment from God is to make your wife on more radiantly beautiful Christian. And so that's what you to do. Now here's the next thing that you reduce or not only are you to assume responsibility not only to let your wife know that she is number one. Not only are you protect your wife from emotional trauma, but also you are to make your wife feel secure. Now look again here. He says here that you are to nurse and cherish her verse 29. No man ever yet hated his own flesh he nourishes and cherishes his flesh. Now the word nourish is obvious and means to get nourishment when you're hungry you want to eat and when you are thirsty want to bring you on your needs met and as a husband. It is your responsibility to provide for your wife the physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual nutriment that she needs to grow.
You are to nurse her to help her to grow, but not all you to nurture mature to cherish her, the word cherish actually means to warm with body heat and illustration of this is a hand setting on her eggs and if that Hannah setting on those eggs you can come along and, while passed in sheer peck at you but she will move a snake will combine shipwreck at that but she won't move. She will settle those eggs onto their hats. What she is doing is nourishing them with body and that's really friend the way that you can get your wife as it were, to hatch, you can just break that shell, but what you can do is to warm her with body heat what you need to do is to take her in to your bosom and hold her and nourish her and cherish her now.
Last of all, let me say that it is the husband who is to take the initiative. The husband is to take the initiative.
I would say primarily if the home is wrong. It is because the husband is wrong. The husband takes the initiative. We are to love our wives how as Christ love the church now to finish it. Jesus took the initiative, we love God because he first loved us out of the ivory palaces into this world of woe only has great eternal love made my Savior go Jesus is pictured in the Bible is loving us first.
Revelation chapter 3 verse 20 behold, I stand at the door not not us knocking at his door but he knocking on our door, they caused us to open the doors and the true. The Bible says is not to seek after God. No, not one and the husband is to do the same. I will earn this that the man is the initiate tour and the woman is to be responder turn with me for an illustration of that to the song of Solomon, would you do that I want you to see this again speaks of the music of marriage. Here's an entire love: actually a song is called assault that talked about marriage as music and I want you to see how the male lover the pictures Christ loving his church is pictured here in, for example, chapter 1 and verse eight.
Here he is speaking to his companion, if thou will know not old thou fairest among women he's pursuing her with beautiful language and you will never find more beautiful language than this verse 15 behold our fair, my love.
Behold our fair that has does eyes, thou art fair, my beloved day pleasant, and so forth. But it is incredible language you say why cannot talk like that. Maybe need to work at it. I don't think Solomon just did this overnight and then look if you will in chapter 4. For example, verse one behold our fair Myla. Behold our fair that has does eyes within my logs and so forth and he goes on to speak of his great love for her and look if you will in chapter 5, verse two, I sleep and I hear she's talking.
He's been away and she says I sleep, but my heart wake of it is the voice of my beloved that knock essay open to me, my sister, my love, my job, my undefiled phone. My head is filled with new and my locks with the drops of the night. I've been up all night just trying to get to you sweetheart and so he's knocking on the door. When I asked what she says. She says then I wait a minute I'm already undressed and I'm in the bed I have put off my coat.
How shall I put it on.
I washed my feet. How shall I defile them know. Maybe she lived in a house with a dirt floor and she saying that like I'm already in bed and don't bother me now, and he's out there knocking at the door and she's pretending she didn't want to go to the door now. Look, if you will. Verse four my beloved put his hand by the whole of the door, and my bowels were move for him. That sure is a poor translation right what that says is my heart is your that's what what that means, that is my innermost being what she is saying is he's out there and say would you open the door.
Honey I just want to get you in my own head. She's pretending hard to get. She's out, and also I'm already in bed and what is happening is Carhart is going somebody thought and notice in verse five is up to open to my father than my hands with murder and my thing is sweet smelling murder upon the handles of the law all the time she'd been putting on perfume say not only of the door. I listen she wants to be pursued is the husband who was to take the initiative. Did you know that if you don't take the initiative in loving your wife that you're going to cause her trauma if she takes the initiative something in her very spirit will be wounded because God did not make her to take the initiative. God made you if the law initiates, she doesn't feel right now I'm not talking about the fact that she cannot be amorous to her husband and as she cannot flirt with her husband. Of course she can. But if the total import of the life is the woman taking the initiative.
There something vitally wrong.
I want you to turn the book of Proverbs or chapter 7 here for just a moment. Remember that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and Christ took the initiative.
You know what the mark of a harlot is the mark of a harlot is somebody a female who is brazen who takes the initiative. Look, if you will hear in the chapter 7 in verse 10, and behold I met him a woman with the attire of a harlot. The dress did you know there is the address of a harness and you let comparison. Some of these others. Design your dresses for you ladies that some women go outside things element of even come downstairs and the Bible calls it the attire of a harlot you say will I just want to be attractive you.
But ask is that what you trying to attract. Intellect is not for sale not to be advertised to do know that all woman ought to dress herself beautifully. You read Proverbs 31 but not with suggestiveness.
The Bible calls that the attire of a harlot why this you dress yourself that way. Well just continue to look in verse 11. She is loud and stubborn woman lady. God never made you to be a loudmouth or Mueller's person in public.
It is not feminine. It is a form of harlotry and her feet abide not in her house. She is now without now Street and life in wait at every corner. She's not a keeper at home. She is not under protection. She's out in public on the street and notice how she is the aggressor. She caught him and kissed him and was an impudent face said to him I I have peace offerings with me in this day I paid my bowels and therefore came I forth to meet the diligently to seek my face and I have found that he and I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry and carb fine linen of Egypt visible. I perfume my bed with murder, aloes, and cinnamon come, let us take our fill of love until the morning. Let us solace ourselves with love, Marco Barnett, God demands as much purity from a man as a dozen, but we live in a day-to-day work with the feminist have done such a job.
Bonus that it is now the women who in the grass and the manner of our becoming the one who is the initiate whole God never intended that the man is the one who is to initiate all of this annual problem with men is remember I told you that men are goal oriented. If it according wanting to get married there goal is to get married as of a court in court in court until I get married men of America going off to another go, and she can hardly wait to get married because she thinks is going to be one perpetual courtship and she wonders what happened wonders of you. I don't know what I want to do. Talking to her mother. She said my sweetheart is just spending so much money only just spending so much money so I just don't know what to do about it. She said just get married.
Listen, the courtship should not, and with the marriage ceremony is a matter fact you need to turn up the heat and just continue in that courtship now serves listen to me. God made us different that it might make us one, but God gave you one nature and God gave your wife. Another nature and God gave you masculinity and God gave you responsibility that you are to assume and in that responsibility that you are to assume that you may give your wife authority. But you can never get rid of this spots ability then you let your wife know that she is number one.
And once you let your wife know that she's number one, you move in to probe picture wife from trash and those internal traumas that you can present her to you without spot or wrinkle to make her more radiantly beautiful Christian and then my dear friend. Once you have done that.
Then you move in to encourage her.
That is, to nourish her and to cherish her, and it is up to you, sir dictate the initiative. All of us are going to have to begin to practice what God's word is said that there might be harmony in the home.
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