Today, on Insight for Living, Chutzwindahl continues his biographical series called Fascinating Stories of Forgotten Lives. with a penetrating look at family dynamics gone awry. Esau's story is shocking, heartbreaking, and surprisingly relevant. You see, Isaac and Rebekah waited 20 years for children. And then God blessed them with twins.
Imagine the irony, the chaos, and the joy.
Well, it wasn't all neat and tidy. They had their hands full, especially with Esau, who lived in the shadow of his brother and grew to resent him. Chuck titled his message, Esau, the Son Who Couldn't Win. I want us to study in this particular story the life of a man named Esau. I'm calling him the son who couldn't win.
And I have a feeling, in all honesty, That some of you hearing this story, some of you for the first time hearing this story, will have little difficulty identifying with some of the struggles Esau had. My Bible is open to Genesis 25, verse 19. Which is one of the earlier references to the genealogy of Esau. Let's say a word to begin with about his birth and childhood. These are the records of the generations of Isaac, Abraham's son.
Abraham became the father of Isaac. And Isaac was 40 years old when he took Rebekah, the daughter of Bethuael. Verse 21, Isaac prayed to the Lord on behalf of his wife. Because she was barren. And the LORD answered him, and Rebekah his wife, Conceived.
Before I go any further, let me put to rest a misunderstanding. The immediate thought after you read verses 20 and 21 of Genesis 25 is that shortly after Isaac prayed, God caused her to conceive. Wrong. You remember reading that he was 40 years old when they married? Look at verse 26, the last line.
Isaac was 60 years old. when she gave birth. Yeah. Let's go back to verse 22. Mm-hmm.
The children struggled together within Rebekah. And she said, If it is so, then why am I this way?
So she went to inquire of the Lord. There were wrestlings within her womb. There are mysteries known only to a mother that are known to no one else. And she felt within her changes. And conflicts.
and struggles going on within her. She had no idea that she had the makings of a war. within her own body. And so she inquired of the Lord, and in those days the Lord spoke audibly. to those who inquired of him.
And he said to her, You don't simply have two children. You have the roots of two nations in your womb. Two people shall be separated from your body. One people shall be stronger. Then the other.
Now notice. And the older shall serve The Younger She discovered from God's voice that not only was she to have a baby, she was to have two children. and that the conflict within her womb Was by the design of God. She's told These will not be simply two children, they will be nations, and the younger. Yeah.
will as a matter of fact be the most dominant. The older will serve. the younger. When her days to be delivered were fulfilled, behold, there were twins in her womb, and the first came forth red. all over like a hairy garment.
And they named him Esau.
So he's the older. And afterward his brother came forth with his hand holding on to Esau's heel.
So his name was called Jacob. And Isaac was sixty years old. when she gave birth to them. We're not told much about the childhood. We're told when the boys grew up Esau was different from his younger brother Jacob.
Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the field. Jacob Was a peaceful man. Living in tents. Nothing wrong with that. That's the way God designs them.
But something is wrong in the next verse. And humanly speaking, it is the seed. of great difficulty. Isaac loved Esau. But Rebekah loved Jacob.
Isaac loved Esau because he had a taste for game. I suppose Isaac was the outdoors type. He liked it that his boy liked to hunt. He liked it the way his boy conducted himself and handled himself. He was a man.
He was rugged. Rebekah liked it that Jacob stayed near the tent. Maybe he liked to cook. He stayed around the house, we would say. He didn't like the field.
Nothing wrong with the boys being different, but there is something wrong with this parental favoritism. which, by the way, haunts Esau's steps. for the balance of his life. When Jacob had cooked stew, Esau came in from the field and he was famished. And Esau said to Jacob, Please, Let me have a swallow of that red stuff there.
For I am famished. Jacob said, First, sell me your birthright. And Esau said, Behold, I'm about to die.
So of what use then is the birthright to me? And Jacob said, First, swear to me.
So he swore. Mm-hmm. and sold his birthright to Jacob. Jacob gave Esau bread and lentil stew, and he ate. and drank and rose.
went on his way. The chapter concludes with a brief commentary on the mentality of this older son. Esau despised is birthright. In a hurried moment of hunger, where he says, I'm famished. He trades his birthright.
And all of those blessings. For a bowl of soup. It is the problem of instant gratification. And when we come to the end of this message, I'll say more about that. But he bases an enormous amount of uh Of this decision on that instant moment of finding himself satisfied with a bowl of soup.
He releases all of those blessings. to his brother. Jacob, by the way, has been pictured By some, as a man who deceived his brother out of his birthright. I don't find any deception right here.
Well, later I find deception, but this is out in the open. You want a bowl of my soup? Give me your birthright. Jacob was bright, but But he wasn't here deceptive. I'll give you the soup if you give me your birthright.
He didn't hide the fact that he was an out-and-out trade. The point I want to make is that Esau is of such a mind. as to despise something that is significant. and heavy for the satisfaction of his physical needs. Jacob takes advantage of it.
I think Jacob was a better student of Esau than Esau was. A Jacob. Tells us something of his perspective. Spiritual priorities weren't nearly as important as physical comforts. Intangibles meant little to Esau.
He saw only the need of the moment, and that was to fill his stomach. Perhaps that's why Hebrews 12:16 refers to Esau as a profane man. By the way, let's don't just go through the story. Let's let the story go through us. you may have a boy like Esau.
Or you may have a boy like Jacob. Pay close attention to what there is to learn from this interesting conflict between the two sons. What we are witnessing in the end of chapter 25. You're the early seeds of a carnal nature. And a lack of parental guidance.
and confrontation. I'm convinced the parents didn't even know about the trade. By now, Isaac must be seventy-five. It says in verse twenty-seven: when the boys grew up, Giving them the benefit of the doubt, let's place Esau at age 15. If you make him 20, then Isaac is now 80.
And age has a way of removing a father from the immediacy of his son's needs. One of the problems you have to deal with if you are an older father with younger boys or younger girls. Isaac becomes increasingly less involved in his children's lives. He sort of watches life pass. but he doesn't get involved with their needs.
Chapter 26. Verse thirty-four is our next Stop off. When Esau was 40 years old, does that have a familiar ring? That's when Isaac Married. When Esau was 40 years old, he married Judith.
the daughter of Beri the Hittite, And Bezmeth, the daughter of Elon the Hittite, two daughters of Heth. And they brought grief. to Isaac And Rebecca. We have noted that Isaac was 40 when he married. I wonder and it's just passing imagination.
It is not inspired. It is just a thought, just a suggestion. I wonder if by now Esau realized he was out of the loop of parental affection. or at least his mother's affection. I wonder if he thought there might be something that could be gained by seeking a wife at this age.
Something that would get him back in the loop of favor and blessing. And so at age 40, like his father, he marries, but he marries Canaanitish women, as they're later called. Daughters of Heth, he loses again. And as is customary in those homes, he brings those wives with him back under the roof of his family. and they become a heartache.
To both his father and his mother. You cannot win. By the way, if you are out of the loop of blessing and favor, A marriage. will not help. Finding a wife or finding a husband will not automatically solve the conflicts you have with your parents.
Certainly, finding wives like Esau did. did not do it. And one more word of a practical note: only those whose family has been hurt. by an unhappy marriage. Can understand fully the meaning of verse 35: that they brought grief.
to Isaac and Rebecca. Haven't you seen it? Or have you experienced it? Where your son or your daughter makes an unwise choice. and as it were brings home someone Out of your favor.
There's a grief connected with that that isn't healed.
Now, chapter 27 is clearly the most significant chapter in the story of the boy or the son who couldn't win. I want to take our time through it. Not too much, but enough for you to see four scenes as they unfold. Much of this is familiar, I understand, but the first scene is Isaac. and Esau.
The older boy. It came about when Isaac was old. and his eyes were too dim to see, that he called his older son Esau And said to him, My son, And Esau said to the father, Here am I, here I am. Isaac said, Behold, now I am old. And I do not know the day of my death.
Now then, please take your gear, your quiver, and your bow, and go out to the field and hunt game for me. And prepare a savory dish for me, such as I love, and bring it to me that I may eat, so that my soul may bless you before I die. See, the father knows nothing of the exchange of the birthright. He's looking forward to passing the blessing on to his older son. whom he favors.
So he says to the boy, let's eat this meal together that I might be strengthened and I might pass along the blessing. Rebecca was listening.
Now this is an interesting study also, this woman. or I should say the wife of Isaac, should speak of her with a little more respect. Isaac's wife, Rebecca, is listening while Isaac spoke to his son Esau.
So when Esau went to the field to hunt for game to bring home, Rebekah said to her son, Jacob. Did you catch something that I read? while Isaac spoke to his son Esau. She later spoke to her son, Jacob. Both of them are both their sons.
But the favoritism by now is so strong, one is referred to as one son, the other one is referred to as the other's son. What we have in this next section, 5 through 17, scene 2, is Rebekah and Jacob.
Now you will see a conniving spirit at work. Rebekah said to her son, Behold, I heard your father speak to your brother Esau, saying, Bring me some game, and prepare a savory dish for me, that I may eat, and bless you in the presence of the Lord before my death.
Now, therefore, my son, Listen to me as I command you. Go now to the flock, and bring me two choice kids from there. That is two goats. that I may prepare them as a savory dish for your father, such as he loves. Then you shall bring it to your father, that he may eat, so he may bless you before his death.
Jacob answered his mother Rebekah, Behold, Esau, my brother, is a hairy man. and I am a smooth man. Perhaps my father will feel me. Then I shall be as a deceiver in his sight, and I shall bring upon myself a curse and not a blessing. Ah, she's got that all thought through.
His mother said to him, Your curse be on me, my son. Only obey my voice. Go and get them for me.
So he went and got them and brought them to his mother, and his mother made savory food, such as his father loved. Rebekah took the best garments of Esau, her elder son. Which were with her in the house, and put them on Jacob, her younger son. She even dressed her boy in his twin brothers' clothing. She put the skins of the kids on his hands.
Can you picture that? and on the smooth part of his neck. What a strange plan She put the skins of the kids on his hands and on his neck. She also gave the savory food and the bread, which she had made, to her son. A Jacob.
Scene 3, verses 18 to 29. Jacob and Isaac his father. Then he came to his father and said, My father, And he said Here I am. Who are you, my son? You see, he's almost blind.
Jacob said to his father, I am Esau. your firstborn.
Now you see Jacob as a true deceiver. I have done as you told me. Get up, please, and sit and eat of my game, that you may bless me. Isaac said to his son, How is it that you have it so quickly, my son? He said, because the Lord your God caused it to happen to me.
Wow. When you have begun to deceive And you take it far enough, it won't be long before you can even enter the name of the Lord in your game plan. Without hesitation. Isaac said to Jacob, Please come close, that I may feel you. My son, whether you are really my son, Esau, or not.
Jacob came close to Isaac, his father, and he felt him and said, The voice is the voice of Jacob. But the hands or the hands of Esau. He did not recognize him because his hands were hairy, like his brother Esau's hands.
So he blessed him. And he said. Are you really my son, Esau? he said. I am.
Just a moment before we proceed. Jacob learned to deceive. from his mother. He picked it up from her. To be sure, he has a nature of deception.
Which you see as far back as the action in the womb when he is coming out of the womb, he's grasping the heel of the brother Esau, the older brother. But he's learned the plot from his mother. He's learned the script from his mother. And he's not hesitating to carry it. The full nine yards because he's been coached.
by his mother. Never underestimate the impact. of your character on your children.
So he said, Bring it to me, and I will eat of my son's games that I may bless you. And he brought it to him, and he ate and brought him wine, and he drank. And his father Isaac said to him, Please come close and kiss me, my son.
So he came close and he kissed him. And when he smelled the smell of his garments, he blessed him. See, she even knew he would do that. When you're blind, your senses, your other senses are heightened. She knew his smell would be good, his ability to smell would be acute.
And so she dressed him in the other boy's garment. And he blessed him and said, See, the smell of my son is like the smell of a field which the Lord has blessed. And he gives the blessing to him in verses 27, 28. and twenty-nine. Scene four begins at verse 30 and takes us through verse 40.
And as you can imagine, it is Esau the older with his father Isaac. It's a tragic scene. All the while this deception has been going on, Esau has been out in the field trying to find game. He has located game and he has killed it and he's brought it back in hopes of receiving the blessing from his father. Verse 30.
Came about as soon as Isaac had finished blessing Jacob. Jacob had hardly gone out from the presence of Isaac his father that Esau, his brother, came in from hunting. He also made savory food and brought it to his father. And he said to his father, Let my father arise and eat of his son's game, so that you may bless me. And Isaac his father said to him, Who are you?
And he said, I am your son. your firstborn Esau. Isaac trembled violently and said, Who was he then that hunted game and brought it to me?
So that I ate of all of it before you came and blessed him? Yes. And he shall be blessed when Esau heard the words of his father.
Now watch this pathetic scene. He cried out with an exceeding great and bitter cry, and said to his father, Bless me, even me also, O my father. He's now pleading for the blessing. And he said, Your brother came deceitfully and has taken away your blessing. And he said, Is he not rightly named Jacob?
For he has supplanted me these two times. He took away my birthright. And now, behold, now he has taken away my blessing. And he said, Have you not reserved a blessing for me? Isaac answered and said to Esau, Behold, I have made him your master.
And all his relatives I have given to him as servants. With grain and new wine. I have sustained him.
Now as for you then What can I do, my son? And Esau said to his father, Do you have only One blessing, my Father, bless me, even me also, O my Father.
So Esau lifted up his voice, and wept. Isaac's words follow, and then Esau's tragic. Response. Verse forty-one Esau Naturally. bore a grudge.
Against Jacob. Because of the blessing with which his father had blessed him. And Esau said to himself, The days of mourning for my father are near. Then I will kill my brother. Jacob.
Cool. Just look at that for a moment. Let's don't leave this quickly. It's a scene that's sort of a mixture of pathos and tragedy and. irresponsibility and deception and Yes, Esau is getting what he had coming if you look at it strictly theologically.
He passed off the birthright for a bowl of soup. And now he looks at the whole thing as it has unfolded, and he says, My dad will be dead soon, and when he dies, I will get back at Jacob. Remember the prophecy that had been made to the mother before she even gave birth? Two nations are in your womb, they will be separated from one another, and the older shall serve the younger, and it's beginning to transpire. Esau Cannot.
Where? It's a pathetic moment in the life of Esau. And it's an essential part of his story, not to mention Jacob's and their family's story as well. You're listening to Insight for Living, and we're midway through a biographical study from Chuck Swindahl. Today's topic, Esau, the Son Who Couldn't Win.
This study is just one in a larger collection of Bible studies. Chuck titled the series Fascinating Stories of Forgotten Lives. He focuses on the often overlooked characters of Scripture. These ordinary people, whose complex stories and lives accomplished God's purposes, proved that true significance comes from serving Christ, not personal gain.
Some, like Esau, expose common pitfalls that keep us from God's best. But in the end, regardless of our missteps, God is waiting with open arms, ready to forgive us and prepared to redeem our story. This series of biographical sketches speaks to every believer, whether you've walked with Christ for decades or you've just begun your journey. At its heart is a life-changing message. God sees you, loves you, and knows what you're contributing to His kingdom.
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