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FINDING FAITH WITHIN, Audio Ep 118

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December 20, 2020 1:07 pm

FINDING FAITH WITHIN, Audio Ep 118

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December 20, 2020 1:07 pm

Discussing self-esteem and confidence with author, coach and podcaster Jonny Pardoe, on the latest The Cure with Aimee Cabo.

 

Jonny Pardoe - Self Esteem and Confidence Mindset

says : "Self esteem is NOT something you are just born with and that’s it. It is a muscle you just have to work on it. Confidence is also a muscle to work for different areas" Find more about Jonny on jonnypardoe.com

 

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Aimee Cabo Nikolov is a Cuban American who has lived most of her life in Miami. After many years of healing, finding love, raising a family and evolving her relationship with God, Aimee's true grit and courage led her to pen an honest, thought-provoking memoir. Years of abuse became overshadowed with years of happiness and unconditional love. Now Aimee is the president of IMIC Research, a medical research company, a transformational speaker, syndicated radio host and focused on helping others. You can read more about Aimee by visiting her website. Dr. Boris Nikolov is the CEO of Neuroscience Clinic. You can read more about Dr. Nikolov and the work he is doing by visiting his website.

 

 

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Johnny realized how many others had challenges too, including some close to him, which led him to the creation of The Self-Esteem and Confidence Mindset show, channel, book and coaching. Johnny Pardoe, thank you for being on the show. You are now live. Thank you very much, Amy. It's an honor to be here today. Thank you very much. What a great cause and what a great cause this show is. Thank you for having me.

And it's so nice all the way from England. How blessed are we? John, let's just dive right into it. Can everyone build a good self-esteem? And let's start by describing what is self-esteem. Yeah, of course.

Yeah, I am calling again from England for any of the listeners who noticed the odd accent, first of all. Yeah. So I believe there's many, many people who can who will have these self-esteem challenges in life, such as myself. We all have different situations, so should never compare. But I do believe that everyone has the capability within them to build up self-esteem and their confidence. But it's just the fact that we can get so overwhelmed sometimes with all these challenging thoughts or negative things that have happened to us. And again, we all have different situations, some worse than others. But it's about finding the right tools and right techniques.

And that's what I try and share. Now, what is self-esteem was your other question. So self-esteem, if you look on the Internet, what self-esteem, what's confidence is the simplest definition. Self-esteem is for me about how much you like yourself, not in terms of your achievement, in terms of I managed to win this medal or I've managed to win that award. It is simply how much do you like yourself and value yourself as a person?

Right. So you're basically learning that you are valuable. I mean, for a spiritual person, you find your value in being God's child.

I mean, that's what works for me anyway. But it's important that everyone knows that they're precious, that they're here for a purpose. Their being here is not a mistake.

And it was really it's a great creation, each and every one of us by our awesome creator. And but is there a difference between self-esteem and confidence? Yeah, of course.

Great question. As I'm sure many of your questions are. But yes, self-esteem and confidence. So as I kind of touched on a little bit there, self-esteem is how much you value yourself and see yourself in terms of how you describe it, in terms of how valuable you are to yourself in God's creation. But in terms of what confidence means, confidence is to be if someone says to me, first of all, if they said, right, I'm not I'm not confident. My first question instantly is confidence in what?

Because there's two different types that I've come across. There's your self-confidence, which is about how you feel your abilities are in life, like how much you're going to willing to go out and try things and you've got faith in yourself to try stuff. But then there's also specific confidence. So this is more about how you feel about going into a given situation.

So I'll give you an example. Me personally, I'm quite confident at writing a book because I've done it for a long time. But if you ask me to see in front of people, different story, I wouldn't do it, not because I'm scared in front of going in front of people, but I just don't have any faith. So confidence can be this self-confidence, which is very much in line with your self-esteem and how much you value yourself and value yourself. But also this specific confidence in terms of how you think you're going to be at certain situations in life. So it's kind of how whether it's kind of self-esteem is about feeling better about yourself and who you are. Or confidence is about being brave and taking that extra step, believing that you're capable.

Do I get this right? Yes. Yes. So self-esteem is about that faith in yourself and the value you see in yourself. But yeah, confidence is very much about taking those steps, taking those actions. But you get more of it as you try to explore more and you practice things and you take more courage.

Yeah. And so what comes first, self-esteem or confidence? And I know they go hand in hand. Is one more important than the other?

Can you live with one and not the other? Yes. So I think it's absolutely, you know, like you just said, absolutely essential to have them hand in hand and work on them both.

But I'd say a real focus in terms of where you want to start if you're really struggling to get out there and try and take action and do anything is really focusing on the self-esteem, because you still have to face fear and use courage, but you're more likely to be able to be in that position if you've got more self-esteem and you've got that more faith in yourself. We'll continue after the short break. We'll definitely continue talking about this because we all need it, don't we? Yeah, we do. So we'd love to hear from you.

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Can we just take a quick question? A caller. A caller. Narki from Charlotte. What is your question? How can we help? Actually, my name is Narki.

I am from Morrisville. I have a 501c3 children's program that provides free therapy and mindfulness to children. And I'm curious to know with your experience, sir, in my efforts to really bring children out and have leadership and really strong confidence, what is the difference between cockiness and this self-esteem and confidence? Like, there's a very thin line, so, you know, what would you say could be a good differentiator of when you need to draw the line and having that confidence and when it's not, you know, it's too much? And having to express that with children, you know what I'm saying? That's a great question. Yeah, of course.

Great question. So what I term the difference, the main difference between them is the confidence is that you've got that belief in yourself and it's very genuine and you believe in yourself, whilst the cockiness sometimes is often us trying to show off in the light, well, in front of others just because we want to make ourselves feel a bit better. But the true confidence is about feeling good within who you are and enjoying that and knowing your ability to do things and try things, whilst the cockiness part is very much about just trying to show to someone that you might be better rather than actually keeping it to yourself and knowing it.

I like the way you answered that because it makes me feel like confidence gives a bit of peace to yourself, you know, but cockiness seems like it's more of a constant showing off of, you know, an agitation to do something that's not necessarily natural. So, yeah, I appreciate what you said. Please look us up. It's Waka Boomers, W-A-K-A-B-O-O-M-E-R-S dot com.

Waka Boomers dot com. Thank you. I mean, I like to say I can do all things through Christ and always remember that I always need God's help. I find my confidence in God through God.

I mean, I know that without God, I am no one. And so, that keeps me in check. I mean, we can teach that to our kids. It is our responsibility to raise them right.

And that's the best way to go about things because it's God that makes all things possible. And there is a fine line. And so that brings me to the next question, Johnny. It's a great thing that she called because my next question was, what are the challenges that we are faced with, especially kids, about feeling good about themselves, especially when kids are told words hurt? And I mean, I happen to know kids that were confident that suddenly become insecure because of the things that their friends say or because of what their environment has made them to believe. How can we, what can we do about that? So the question about what are some of the challenges and what can we do about that? So I think some of the challenges, like you said, sometimes someone's attitude or what someone says rather can rub off on someone so that actually it starts to make them feel not so good about themselves. I think in this world where we've got a lot of news and social media and things, it's quite easy to do that as well, since we've got constant comparisons as well. And to top it all off, we've got this little voice in our head that is trying to keep us out of danger.

There's a part of the brain that's called the limbic part of the brain. Some people are familiar to this, some people less familiar, but it's trying to keep us alive and trying to keep us to survive rather than progress. So it keeps us in our comfort zone. So I think a mixture of those things can impact on us. And then, of course, there's limiting beliefs, which are caused from sort of early, to be caused by early childhood. But actually, what can we, and they're formed from just hearing something, an idea that sticks within us. Now, what can we do about that?

So it really comes down to individually, what can we do for ourselves? We can look at actually what these beliefs are and understanding what are these voices saying? What am I saying about myself? And then understanding how true are these beliefs? So you might think, oh, I'm not good enough to do that.

Actually, how true is that? What have you accomplished? And if, you know, if you've got kids, it's about constantly, I don't have kids, but my parents personally, like, used to give me quite a bit of praise now and then. And that would lift my mood, but we can do that to lift people up. We can also just try and take some time out from, like, social media and the news and negative things like that, because it can impact us.

And then, and actually having that headspace for ourselves. But the other thing is, who we surround ourselves with is really, really important. So trying to choose the right people, the right friends around us. Now, there's certain people in your life you can't choose, like family or close friends.

Well, you can choose friends, but sometimes you've got a close friend who just you can't get away from. But in those cases, it's best to talk to them as minimal as possible. But when you can, try and choose the right people for your environment, the right people you're speaking to, because that can really rub off on you. And I'm constantly going to events where I've got uplifting people with me. So I think those would be some of my key points, if that makes sense. Yes, that's a great, that's a great statement.

I mean, people that can lift you up, not bring you down. And it's important to differentiate between the truth and a lie. It's basically, what are you willing to believe? Do you want to believe something that makes you feel bad or is hurtful? Or do you want to believe something that can help you move forward? Something that's productive, just like as in productive conversation or conversation that's no good. It's a choice that we can make.

Is it not? So we will continue speaking with Joni Pardoa about self-esteem. We'd love to hear from you. Call us with your question on 1866-34-TRUTH. Tell us whether you have good self-esteem or maybe not so good self-esteem. 1866-34-TRUTH.

And any ideas? We will be right back with Amy Cabell and The Cure. Cause at least I know that it's not temporary. And at least we'll share something that's real. I can tell that you're just trying to feel. I can tell that you're just trying to feel. I can tell that you're just trying to feel. I can tell that you're just trying to feel. I can tell that you're just trying to feel. I can tell that you're just trying to feel. I can tell that you're just trying to feel. I can tell that you're just trying to feel.

I can tell that you're just trying to feel. And now we will continue with Amy Cabell and The Cure. Welcome back.

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So it's not omitted anymore. But we're still talking to Johnny Pordo about self esteem and confidence. Hi Johnny. We're back.

So Johnny. Hey Amy. Let's talk about misconceptions. What misconceptions could there be about self esteem and confidence?

I thought it was all good. Yeah so it's an area, this area is one I particularly started to research and understand when I was really struggling with my self esteem issues and confidence issues at times. And there's some misconceptions that I used to pick up that suddenly confidence people had no fears for example. In that like they were just able to go and do things without feeling anything.

Just like that was them. But actually I started to watch and research the most charismatic appearing people. I'd ask people when I was talking to people at work who appeared really charismatic. They have the same fears I did.

It's just they went through with them. So the idea that confident people have zero fears was absolutely wrong in my understanding. It's just the more we do something the more comfortable we're going to feel.

But there's always a stage when we feel that fear. So I really like to express that to people listening in general because sometimes people think I've got a way to get confident to do something. So that's one misconception. The other main misconception is that someone who appears maybe famous, rich, successful on the outside. Or perhaps perceived as attractive to people in the public eye or any of those things doesn't have issues with self esteem.

And again that's absolutely false. I was myself I was perceived as sometimes someone who was confident but I wasn't on the inside. And there's examples of celebrities who have had. We've gone in there's been insights into their life now I don't listen to much celebrity gossip. But there's some critical really bad celebrities who appeared so successful on the outside. Have really had a bad turn in their life or kind of the worst case they've been that low self esteem that they're no longer with us.

But those are the probably two of the main misconceptions that I really wanted to point out. Well there's something very fundamental to Christian faith and I know that it's what works for me. I think we're all stricken with fear at one point or another in our lives. And sometimes we can get insecure and we can get beaten down.

Life can do that to you. But there's this really strong fundamental belief to the Christian faith is the realization that God loves us. When we deeply understand this important truth we begin to see ourselves and love others the way that God loves us. And also God said have no fear. And if you don't think that you're capable of you're not strong enough of you're not good enough. God certainly is and he can always work through you. So that's how I was able to combat that because nobody's exempt. We all get hit sooner or later even the most confident people.

Nobody's superhuman but we can try we can certainly try. I sometimes am. You try to be which I give you credit. You have high self-esteem. So tell me the importance of looking after yourself in your self-love then.

Yeah absolutely. So your self-love and looking after yourself is absolutely critical for your self-esteem because when we look after ourselves we're saying we deserve it. And yeah we deserve to feel happy. And actually what it's going to do is help us feel a lot happier in life. I mean if you don't like yourself it's going to be hard to like you. But there's also you're going to back yourself a little bit more to face those challenging situations rather than back out of them. But also there's the other side of what it does for others and the love we want to spread around us.

So if we're not in our best state then it's going to have a knock on to others and I certainly remember doing that myself. And I've talked to people work with people who have felt like they've impacted on people because of their lack of self-esteem and therefore they wanted to get coaching in it. So actually if you work on your self-esteem it's going to have a good impact on others. And actually if you're doing what you want to do so say you want to be a writer but you're holding yourself back from doing so because you don't think it's good enough.

You could actually be giving some good work out to the world and people could be getting some good value from you. So it's not just yourself and being happy and going for what you want but also you're having this positive knock on to other people by caring and looking after yourself first of all. Well I don't know I just came up with this idea you know some of us we just don't like ourselves no matter what. But do we really need to like ourselves if God loves us if we believe God loves us and if we can be who God wants us to be won't others love us and won't that promote self-esteem and confidence? If you're lacking the ability to like yourself can you learn to love yourself knowing that God loves you the way that you are and if you become the person that God wants you to be you follow his truth you follow his word you live you walk in his footsteps others will love you. And as others love you won't that not build self-confidence and self-esteem we'll continue talking about that when we return hold on to that thought. We would love to hear from you again tell us a personal story of self-growth or ask a question 1-866-34-TRUTH 1-866-34-TRUTH how confident you are in you.

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The song that just played was Intentions by Justin Bieber. You can be perfect. Be like me is what God said.

Follow me. You are my image. I'm the life and the bread. I created you with great intention. To every detail I gave careful attention.

All was planned. The good times and the sad. It's what made us grow even though at times it made us mad.

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So kiss the ring. God's our king and we are his base. So we're talking to Jon Pardoe about self-esteem. And earlier I was talking Jonny because I feel for those of us who find it hard to like ourselves. We've all had different experiences. And it's not so easy for some of us who the magic dragon feel okay about yourself. Though God's love is unconditional. It's a magic one too we can use. Now God's love is unconditional and I can imagine him singing that very song that just played for us.

And how can you go wrong? Even if you can't find it within yourself. You can find it in God. So if Jon if someone is overwhelmed and doesn't know where to begin to improve their self-esteem.

How could they start? Yeah of course. So I think you made a couple of great points there around God's love but also the love of others. So I think it's really important to include that and understand that there's something there's a reason for you. And there's a reason why other people or God loves you. So it's really important to remind yourself that first of all. Now one thing I would say to start off with first of all is to understand why you're perhaps that self-awareness. Perhaps understanding why you're not loving you. And actually what are these beliefs?

Why are they there? And then understanding that actually what is the real truth? And then like you said talking about people loving you there is love to support you. Understanding that and listing it and constantly looking at it. There's also it's really important to think about and making it as simple as possible to look at the way you're talking to yourself. So if you're saying oh I'm not very good at this I'm hopeless things like that that's never going to make you feel good. So identifying new phrases that you could use such as I am blessed, I have a wonderful life or what you want to believe about yourself.

And saying those things over and over again it's going to be personal to you. But saying it with power rather than just the words saying it with the power so you can feel the meaning behind them. And listening to information, music that's going to make you feel good thinking about what your habits are. So perhaps I should have said that before the music and the information. But perhaps really understanding what is it that's making me feel bad about myself and what is it that makes me feel good about myself when I have felt good.

And really trying to do more of those things. You make a very good point to say things with power and if you really mean it. And if there is no power behind it isn't it true that if you say things in enough times repetitively you eventually believe it? Basically brainwash yourself?

Right wrong or indifferent it does happen. And so if you're in the practice of being positive and saying positive things to yourself you eventually believe it. Whereas if you're being negative all the time then that's what you will believe. And that's why I say what you believe becomes your reality.

And what is it that you want your reality to be? Positive. I want positive. For a lot of us it just takes someone who cares. Somebody that believes in you. Somebody who says you're worth it. Somebody who says you're loved.

Somebody who teaches you about God. That would be helpful too. Yeah I agree. I think Joni she wants to be a coach too.

Let's announce it baby. We're going to do a coaching session in Miami. Oh yeah okay. Okay Joni since you're the coach what's the difference between taking action and creating habits when looking to improve yourself? Yeah so have action is very much about how you build that confidence and like I talked about earlier that you the misconception is sometimes that confident or charismatic looking people have no fears. But when you take action you start to gain more confidence. Now you might be listening to this and thinking whoa hold on I want to do this but I'm too terrified to do it.

So let's use the example of public speaking where you don't want to do an update through a big bunch of people. Instead what you do is break the action down because when you take action you build momentum and confidence. Now I attach that very much to confidence and the more actions you take to go towards your confidence or what it is you want to overcome fears the more confident you'll become. Now what a habit is, a habit is I very much associate habits with self-esteem and what you do over and over again. So a habit could be what you're eating every day, the amount of sleep you get every day. Even the way you talk to yourself every day is one.

How, what you're listening to every day, what you're consuming. So that's what I like to do when I'm working with someone really look at actually what are their habits and are these helping them. So the difference between an action is it's kind of an act of courage or something you'll do.

Usually a one off or multiple things whilst a habit is something you repeatedly do. And so I suppose if you're repeatedly doing things that are good for you, you'll feel better about yourself, right? I mean if you're having good behaviors, that is. But if you're afraid, I mean... This is even with dogs, you know, you just give them food, they feel good and then... We're not dogs. Well, but same idea, right? But if you're afraid, you know...

There you are. God did say do not be afraid. So if you're afraid, then you would be lacking faith. If you're lacking faith, then you're being disobedient. And don't you want to be obedient? And don't you want to have faith?

And don't you want to increase your faith? And the only way you can do that is to face your fears. That's my take. So also now with the fear of everybody scared of COVID. With some probably, you know... God decides what happens. He's in control. Everything's going to be alright. Johnny, but what if somebody is unhappy with their job?

Wait. Like, does it affect their confidence? Should they change it?

Or should they face their fears and try to make the best out of it? If someone, if we're looking at someone's job in particular, I think it's really important to... Again, it comes back to the self-awareness. Is it the fact I genuinely don't like this job? Or is it the fact that there's a current circumstance that I don't like about it? Is there something in the work environment, obviously it's mostly remote working for most people, but at the moment, is there something I don't like? So it's understanding, do I genuinely not like this?

Or is it just something at the moment? And that will depend on the action you would take. And if it's the case that you really don't like your job, I would suggest really deep diving exercise, understanding what it is you want to do, what you want to try. And I wouldn't suggest, yeah, just leaving your job.

That's never a good idea. Obviously we need to pay the bills and everything. But it'd be certainly a good idea to make a plan, understand what it is. It's about taking that time out to understand what it is I actually want to do. And then leave it at that journey because it's at the end.

We ended the show. I wanted to ask you how we overcome being scared of failure, but just to learn that failure is a stepping stone. We live and we learn, and that's a good thing. Yeah, you can use it to learn something.

But we're finished and I wish we had more time. Your time is so valuable, and I love the things you're saying. Thank you so much, Johnny, for helping us boost our self-esteem.

Well, I boosted mine. More information on him can be found on johnnypardo.com. Thank you, Johnny. Thank you very much for having me, and I hope I've been valuable to your listeners on such a great show. Thank you. Thank you. And thank you to the audio producer, Beth Ann, the truth projector, for being with us, making the show sound good and making the music possible. Thanks to the Christian car guy who gave me my elf name. It was so cute.

Robbie Dilmore, we love your shows. Now let's pray. That's important. A prayer for self-confidence. Oh, Father, thank you, Lord, that we are daughters and sons of a king, loved and cherished, and my inheritance is eternal goodness. So today we wear our crown like a princess or prince, full of humility, for we do not earn this honor.

We simply choose to live in it. We place this price upon our heads, a jewel already paid for, the symbol of belonging. We feel the grace of God within our hearts, grace that enables us to try hard and not to fear failure, grace that causes us to stay true to our values and visions, but not to be overwhelmed by them, grace to walk tall, follow in your footsteps.

Thank you, Lord, for we are daughters and sons of the king, a princess or prince with a crown of jewels, and children with a loving Heavenly Father. In Jesus' name, amen. This is Amy Cabo. You have been listening to The Cure.

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