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So What? / Lon Solomon

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This is long Solomon and I like to welcome you to our program today. You know it's a tremendous honor that God is given us to be on stations all around the nation bringing the truths of God's word as it is uncompromising and straightforward and I'm so glad you tuned in to listen and be part of that.

Thanks again for your support and your generosity that keeps us on the radio and now let's get to the word of God.

Well, good evening everybody how are you got all I could add a guy were in the middle. We just started laughing. We got a series on relationship and if you missed last week we talked last week about the seven marks the seventh rate of a great made a great partner for life and so I urge you to go and pick up a copy of the tape from last week and I think it really help you tonight were going to talk a little more about the second of all the talk a lot of about chemistry. Okay, great. Paula Abdul thought about 10 years old and is called opposites attract things and we're going to play up and I but we, granted by our keys, meter team and they all went and you know so when I got a player for you but if you remember what the thought is all about. It basically says hey, people were very different. Sometimes end up attracting one another and then kind of the very things that were different that they really liked about each other that once there together and drive them crazy about each other. Now my wife and I are perfect example of this for the first 15 years of our marriage we had unbelievable conflict unbelievable conflict.

Can you say well if you guys had such a hard time getting along. I mean, what was it about you, then, that your wife was so attracted to the Kerber marriage in the first place.

Well to be honest with you it was the way I look.

When we first met. Now I got a picture. I went back and dug out an old picture.

I want to see what I look like what you say that life he felt for me what you think God God will be only got up long because we know you girls can handle it. But anyway and and what happened was some of the information I'm going to share with you tonight.

We learned about 10 years ago and it totally changed our relationship because for the first time in our marriage. We actually began to understand and and why the other person was acting the way they were acting I mean, Brenda, for example, I looked at her and I thought this woman is just being hard to get along with enough owners do it. She's picky about everything I do, no matter what I do I cannot do anything right. She's always pointing out. Why didn't know what exactly the way I was supposed to do it and I didn't know exactly what was wrong with her but I knew whatever was it wasn't something a little Valium would fix understand what I'm saying and and she looked at me and please she thought I was mentally irregular. She looked at me and said the man is out of control. The man is completely impulsive. The man does not use his head at all.

The man has never grown up and she figured whatever was wrong with me was something that you know a little lobotomy wouldn't fix and so so there we were just walking it out. I mean just slugging it out until we suddenly learn when I'm there to share with you this evening and it revolutionized our relationship because we began to understand why is it that that other person in this relationship is acting the way they're acting and I want tonight as we go through this when I really got into a Bible thing the night. Although this is very biblical but what were going to try to do is to talk about. There are four basic personality type IV basic types of chemistry to people and if you understand that it explains why people act the way they do and why. When they get in a relationship they have some of the tensions the problems and the interactions that they do. And when you understand that you know Brendan, I've learned over the last 10 years, not only to understand one another better. But miracle of miracles, we've actually learned to appreciate the differences in one another.

That's a wonderful thing.

Writing that was ever going to happen to the two of us, but it really has. Because we understand better now.

So as we do. This is what I want to do.

Number one I want you to try to figure out what chemistry type of before you are.

That's really important to know that. And then if you got a boyfriend or girlfriend right now. Or a husband or wife. I want you to try to figure out what personality type they are, because understanding those two things will help you a lot in figuring out why you're relating to each other and why you're having some of the conflict that you are and if you don't have a boyfriend you don't have a girlfriend I want to die. When you figure out who you are. It will help a lot in helping you decide all right will what kind of a person about looking for them which of these personality types.

Do I really want to find as a potential partner. Okay so come on along. This is really going to help you.

And as I said there are four types of personalities and remember none of them are better or worse than the other. Okay, none of these are good, and none of them are bad is just the way people are.

Each personality type has certain things and each one has certain weaknesses and you may not be all one and none of the elders, but you will probably be primarily one okay and that's the important thing now number one personality type number one liar's horror all right liens.

These are the leaders of the world. These are the take charge people of the world, diesel to George Patton's of the world. These are the Schwarzkopf's of the world.

These are the people or even the president of the company. Or else they believe that the president of the company that sees people I now there are some words to describe these people see if any of these adjectives work for you. These people are confidence. These people are bold. These people are determine these people are persistent. These people are competitive, they will run over their mother at home plate if they have to store that out for crop duster often say they're sorry but they'll kill her at the plaintiff they have to score these people are goal oriented. They are independent they are self-reliant. They are strong-willed people. These people are take charge people they are controlling people they want to control you and everything else in the world they want to be in charge. They love being in charge their entrepreneurial their risktakers and the more power you give him and the more authority you give them the more they love it there also pushy. There also overbearing. There also like a bull in a china shop sometime. They also rollover people.

A lot of times, and then when they turn around and you tell them they did it. There like hello they don't even know they didn't. This is the person who if you assign them a hill to take. They will take that hill, no matter how many people they have to kill in the process.

If they're the last person alive. They're going to take that hill because that's just the way there why this is the person who gets right behind you on the Beltway and flashes their lives and beats their horn, and when you finally move over, they Eric you dirty when they drive by that sees people. These are the people that are horrible to go on vacation with they got up at 6 o'clock in the morning. We got 45 things you gotta do. They've got to do this we got all left right here to get all this done by sundown to sundown. We got a whole bunch of stuff we gotta do, and you say to them. Are you crazy this is vacation at 6 o'clock in the morning. Had you lost your mind know a lot of things we gotta do today. These are the people want cut right to the bottom line.

They want executive summary are in a hurry all the time you left, talk about it is given a thought. All I want to just want other wonderful people are. We need these kind of people in the world.

Everything will it make the world go round, but there's sometimes very hard people to live with when you lived with a line you feel like you're in the ring for the professional hockey player all the time. They're just bouncing off the people everywhere they go.

That's the line now. Then we have a daughter.

In fact, I can put my hand inside his little booger and make you move say hi this is a daughter, honors the other party people of the world. These are where the party or parties not that I want to party these are people who were not readily on her back and cry cry cry thoughts and do anything else in the world. These are the fun people of the world. These are the people who know everybody who know everybody who knows everybody.

These are the people love to be in crowds love to have a party here some of the words that describe these people there fun-loving their spontaneous their friendly their optimistic, you know, these are the people in favor two words are. Trust me. Don't ever trust these people have a clue what they're doing.

Family thought about it yet they're energetic, you're very verbal. They're popular. They love large groups. They mix well with people they were enthusiastic their promoters and hirers, and inspirational. They can talk anybody in anything even if it makes no sense. But there also goofball their irresponsible impulsive people in their dangerous people there dangerous to themselves and their dangerous to everybody else around them because I don't think they just party that these people, these are the people who could care less about taking a hill all they want to know is where is the victory party. Once we take it, that's all they care about these other people who cause accidents on the Beltway because they're so busy dancing to the music to listen to paying any attention to where to go. They missed their exit don't even know the song was great that even people that are terrible with money to they never balance their checkbook. They just change banks every once in a while. They're wonderful people to go on vacation with because there were party all day long. But God help you if ever have to get anything accomplished with these people for the people to commit themselves to go to three parties on the same night and he stroked all three of forgot whatever. What you told him to bring, but there there is party time. These are wonderful people. They are, they keep laughter and on in the world, but they can be hard to live with because they don't care if anything gets done right now. Next we have the beavers. Now the beavers of the world. These are the people who not only enjoy writing instruction manuals they actually enjoy reading instruction manual. These are the Felix Unger's of the world. By the way the otters they were the Tommy boy's of the world you got that right.

You know an animal house. They were the Bluenose of the world. These are the Felix Unger's of the world. These are the annual people of the world. These are the people who value accuracy. These are the rules people.

These are the do it right. People easily get it right people to the safety inspectors. The quality controllers the bankers the accountants the OSHA inspectors and the computer programmers of the world right here. They care about the talus gotta be right here are some words that describe these people there predictable. Their careful, their perfectionistic daughter be perfect their detailed their analytical their structured precise people there very schedule people. They have their little you know daytime or everything is written down and little day timer that they gotta get done for the next 30 days there orderly their conscientious these people have a wonderful sense of duty. They do a high sense of duty with they commit themselves to stalking brother they will die before they'll let it go without getting it done but also they tend to be very critical people very critical of themselves, mostly, and then by extension, they can be very critical. Other people because you just gotta be perfect. You just gotta do it right. These are people of stomach trouble all the time because everything stresses them out. You know it blessed the world with perfect they got problems and if you go to a beavers house and looked in the drawer. Let me tell you what you find. You'll find all their socks rolled up in color coordinated in the front row in the drawer.

Their closets are perfectly neat. Their shoes are all in a row and beavers are wonderful people. They really are. They help keep the world organized. These are the people balance their checkbook. Somebody does these are the people actually know how much money they have in the bank but they can be frustrating to live with because if you're not a beaver they'll drive you nuts and finally we have our friends the golden retriever's this these of these other nurturers of the world. These, of the George Bailey's you know and it's a wonderful life these of the George Bailey's of the world is of the lassies of the world. If you come to McRae Bible Church. These are the richer parts of the world right here. If you know Richard yeah these are people who have the words I won't hurt you stamped right across therefore head everywhere they go. These of the safe people of the world they could avoid confrontation at all costs. All they want to do is just you all over making more money.

That's all they want to do their wonderful here some words that describe these people there sensitive their thoughts their loyal to a fault.

These people are good listeners there indecisive they can make a decision you know wanted to make a decision about whatever decision they make will hurt somebody's feeling that one heard about his feelings what he wanted Ledbetter wherever you want to go.

I know quickly what I want to know what you want to go for that matter to me.

I want to go wherever you want to go but I want to take you somewhere that you really would like to go where would you like to go wherever you want to drive you crazy. These are the people who are tender their nurturing that the peacemakers of the world they want to bring everybody together and a bear. Everybody just feel wonderful about everybody. They avoid confrontation at all costs. There very sympathetic people.

These are the people you love to talk to when you got a problem you want a golden retriever to talk to but also on the negative side, these people often end up carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders. They take everybody's problem. They carry everybody's problems that they've been very clear that they can't say no very easily and they worry too much about what people think about now when it comes to taking hills. This person says well if it'll make you feel better you take the hill. I don't need to take for you to take it fine with me. These people don't even go on the Beltway they don't even get near the Beltway.

They go forget it, I'll make an enemy. I'm not going out there. These are the people who work for the Red Cross. These are the people who volunteer to work in hospitals.

These are the people who have to and I have our phone conversations because they're afraid if they say they have to go somebody's feelings so it's like being these are wonderful people.

These are the warm and fuzzy people of the world, the world would be a cold and heartless place. Without these people there wonderful, but they can be frustrating to live with because sometimes you want to say to them, why don't you ever do something for you. Why don't you ever do something that that that you want to do. Why do you spend your whole life worried about everybody else enjoy something you want to do for today a single survey how many liens do we have here raised hand. How about how many auditors do we have here that's just like otters. They would scream and do that with all that I how many beavers do we have here while I do you guys am I doing it right okay so I'm doing right okay just got a check as I know that matters to you guys.

How many golden retrievers do we have here all around you wonderful okay now that's interesting because you know most crowded breaks down about 25%. It's really kinda interesting how God how God Out among people. Let's see all foreign action. Okay, let's try couple of these out. How about when it comes to money okay all liens, liens love when it comes the lines love to make.

They don't care about. He didn't want to make money beavers.

They love the Savior all man beavers have a savings account to savings account three savings account at all.

They want to do what we say to you, we need to save money. Everything above me like otters. What are they love the money and they don't care about nothing but ended it and golden retrievers know what they do. They just sit around telling everybody what a wonderful job they're doing. Managing the money.

You don't want the job you do love what job over there to wonderful job about shopping on liens blindly store want to say I want to help one salesperson I see what I want I buy it, bring it up, got things to do on out here that's alliance often know how beaver shop, a beaver spend $25 in gas going all over the county trying to save $0.20 on the article. That's a beaver you know what an honor God when a lot of go shopping and otter goes in and get busy talking to sales personnel that they forget what they even went shopping for they come moment ago I forgot why what dreadful on Sunday for new friends, wonderful and golden retrievers fell off and go shopping and buy stuff they don't even need because they're afraid of hurting the feelings of the shopping score you think I need it will not take it because I want her to feeling so short that you level one more when you were a teenager. If your mother was a lion all your mother wanted to know is what are your goals for the next 10 years. What is your action plan to achieve it and I want prioritize the list. I want a written set of action plans and I want to know when are we going to get all these things going with your mother was and otter all your mother want to do is go to the movies with you when you can.

I don't know if your mother was a beaver you know what she wanted you to do clean your room that drive you crazy once and if your mother was a golden retriever. All she wanted to do is come down and sit on the bed next to you at night and go honey are you okay healing house will go with dinner.

Okay that I overcook anything on the pillows too hard about new pillows today.

I can take him back to fiddle. It's a lot harder. They okay how's everything going. Are you awry now friends knowing these things about yourself really helps because it explains why when you get into a relationship with one of these people. They act the way they do people or not.

When they get in relationship they act inside of the kind of tent chemistry, the kind of personality type that they are and if you understand that, then you'll realize that they're not just being difficult. They're not just being hard to get along with them. Not just trying to make your life miserable with some of the things from time to time but actually they're just acting exactly in line with what they are and really you know God often matches up opposite. Because he wants us to learn from one another.

He wants us to grow by rubbing shoulders with one another. He wants us to do together moved to the middle so that both of us become more well-rounded people because we live with the other person. We have a relationship with the other person and and also you can predict much easier knowing what the other person's personality type. As you can predict how they're going to respond which means you can prepare yourself to deal with the middle come out of the blue, well I don't know if this helps it all. I had fun doing it automobiles you would all or not but I hope it does because once Brenda and I learned once I learned that she was a beaver and I know exactly how she's gonna react in every situation. It's like clockwork, like clockwork, and I know it's always going to be. These are the rules and I know it's always going to be.

We need to keep the rules and I know it's always going to be long.

You need to keep the rules like everybody else does. I know and she knows exactly how I'm gonna react coming from liens, rules, or suggest you stop signs a suggestion you know stop long enough to so you don't hurt yourself, but you know if you want to roll it just cuts right there suggestion and you know, so we understand each other and we actually reach the point that we can, laugh about it together and you know say well you know the that I mean you know you're beaver.

That's what I expect from you and we learn to appreciate one another. You know, if you learn who you are you really going to be a lot more predictable than you think you're going to be because these are very real things that God is built into us and if you learn who your partner is they'll be predictable and it will really help you not to fight all the time and not to feel that other people the other person is just trying to be hard to get along with, but to appreciate the fact that God made us intrinsically different and it will let one another, rub off on each other. We can be a blessing to each other so I hope these things will help you and him were to pray together and thanks again for coming tonight. Let's pray.

Father, we want to thank you for reminding us tonight that you built human beings a certain way and that these things that we talked about. These are not accidents that you have built us as people to to have certain strengths and and also sometimes we have certain weaknesses and it many times we get matched up to someone who has strengths were weakened and we have strengths where there week because you intend us as the Bible says that the two shall become one flesh, and will grow to complement each other and together as the team of a guy and a gal. We will be stronger as a team that even just the sum of the parts so teachers from all of this this evening to learn to appreciate each other, teach us to learn to appreciate our differences teach us to learn to to to look at our relationships and to treat the other person's differences with respect and with honor. Instead of despising them and I pray you would use what we talked about the like to bring some harmony to relationships that may be have like friended me had been fighting for years just because they really don't understand each other. We commit all that we've learned to lie to you. Lord help us build better relationships because we were here tonight, and I ask this in Jesus name and listening to their wetland nonchalance. Solomon plan is an outrageous Milan Solomon ministering to listen to today's message, or for more Thank you for your support. If you would like to contact us, please visit our website or call 868788777 we had people join us next time in line to answer one of life question

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