A Dad's Gift to His Children with Down Syndrome: An Ice Cream Truck?

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Here's Joel. So I grew up in Southeast Kansas, went to college there, and became a teacher, taught in Kansas for a few years. Then I moved to Cincinnati right after I was married for one year. Then we moved from Cincinnati to the St. Louis area and took a teaching position there. We stayed there about 16 years. Many of our 10 children were born in the St. Louis area, and we still have friends back there. And one of my daughters is also living back in that area.

Then in 2002, we moved to Cincinnati. I started a fundraising business and was also doing some teaching at a local Christian school. Now, while I was in education and then also now that I'm doing the fundraising business, most of my time was filled up during the school year, and I had time during the summers to do other activities and try to make a little extra money to support my family.

I've done a lot of different things in the summers. One of the most interesting things that I have done before the ice cream truck was I ran a fireworks business in Missouri, a tent along Highway 61. My children helped me do that, and we have a lot of stories, a lot of fun, a lot of hard work, and on a good year, made some pretty good money doing that. I sold that business several years ago, so over the last few years, I've been looking for something else to occupy my time. Last summer, I saw an ice cream truck here locally, and that planted a little seed in my mind of something that I might want to do in the future. So I put it in the back of my mind until January of this year and then started doing some research and trying to find out if it was a viable business option. I joined a couple of Facebook groups and was able to find an ice cream truck in Columbus, Indiana, and because I wasn't real sure this was gonna make a go of it, and some of my older children were not all that supportive, that they thought it was maybe another one of my crazy ideas.

I went low budget, but I found that an ice cream truck owned by some people that have a special needs daughter, and they had used it to help raise money for her therapy as well as give her something to do. And so we went over and met them. They actually also have a storefront where they sell hot dogs and other things and employ special needs individuals. So it was really a neat connection there once we went over there and really felt that it was the right thing to do, that God was directing us to that particular ice cream truck.

So we purchased it, it needed some repairs, it needed some cleaning. We started doing that and working on that along with my other responsibilities with the fundraising business. And on April 15th, I set that as the deadline, not for taxes this year, but the deadline to hit the streets with my ice cream truck.

So I found a local wholesaler, went through all the licensing and all that. And Mary Kate, my 21-year-old Down syndrome daughter, and I went out on April 15th for about an hour, and we sold $74 worth of ice cream. And I said, we're on our way. And just to back up a little bit about our family, we do have 10 children back in the year 2000. Of course, the world was shaking in their boots about Y2K, that maybe all the computers were going to crash and all that on January 1st. Well, we survived that. During that time, my wife was pregnant. And in March 19, 2000, my daughter Mary Kate was born, and we did not know beforehand, but soon found out that she had Down syndrome.

She also had some other health issues, was in the hospital for about 10 days. And that was a very pivotal time in our lives. And we were so fortunate to have such support from our family and friends and church.

But it was a change, we did not expect that. And we were not fully prepared for the journey that God had chosen to place us on. But we worked through that, we worked together, and we just counted Mary Kate a blessing like all the rest, a blessing from God. So we went through that, and then we had another child, which was a son about a year later, and he was normal, I guess. I haven't decided if any of our kids are totally normal, but he was considered normal.

And then we moved to Cincinnati. Then when she delivered here in Cincinnati, our next child, it was Josh, and he also had Down syndrome and had some health issues, heart issues, had to have open heart surgery at four months, but has more or less fully recovered from that, a little heart murmur. So we've been blessed with two Down syndrome. It's been a journey, and I've told people, I'm sure my wife and I are better people because of this journey that God has placed us on with Mary and Josh. So when Mary was born, every parent, when a child is born, wants to say, mom's fine, baby's fine, everything's normal. That's what you want to say. That's what people want to hear.

And so when it isn't, what do you say and how do you handle that? And how do you still accept it and have joy in having a new baby in your life, even though it's not the baby that you would have ordered? If there was a catalog to order babies, nobody would flip back to the Down syndrome section or whatever else, fill in the blank.

Nobody would go back to that section of the catalog or online, go to that, click on that tab. Now, I have a high degree of respect for people that are willing to adopt special needs kids from other nations and all that. You know, that's just incredible. That process of accepting that child as yours and as a blessing from God and for others to see it that way as well.

And so that, you know, that takes a process. You know, and we had, I worked at a school near St. Louis and the faculty and staff were so supportive of us during that time. Church and just family, friends, and I remember my aunt and uncle sent me a book. I think it's entitled, Sometimes Miracles Hide. And so we had people that just came alongside us and helped us in that journey. And we all know it, sometimes miracles do hide. Ten kids, two Down syndrome children. My wife and I are better people. Because of the journey with Mary, Kate, and Josh.

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Listen to Untold Stories, Life with Myasthenia Gravis, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. And we're back with our American stories and the story of Joel Wegener and special neat treats, an ice cream truck Joel bought to run with his two adult children with Down syndrome. When we last heard from Joel, he was discussing the difficulties that often come with raising children with special needs, but also the community that rallied around him and his wife during those hard times.

Back to Joel. But it is an adjustment. And then it's not just one time when they're born that you have to do that. You have to continually process it, almost more so when they get older. Because when they're young, even though they may have a disability, they're still cute, people still, and you go through kind of the normal steps at a delayed rate. But then at some point, you know, then you have to think about careers. You've got to think about their long-term care, their physical issues that they're going to have as an adult. And then, you know, we're facing now, you know, their desire to get married and have children and how that all plays out, you know, for someone with a disability. So those are all things.

They're not easy. And I'm not complaining about that. I'm just saying, hey, that's what life is. But once you realize and make that firm commitment that for some reason that we will never fully understand, God allowed, ordained, however you want to explain it to yourself or to others, for us to have Josh and Mary in our lives. And people can talk about unconditional love all they want. Until they've been around a Down syndrome kid, they probably haven't seen it.

And that's, they're stubborn, but they also, they have a very, very good unconditional love. You know, we get so caught up and worried about all these things. And sometimes it's just a reminder when all Josh and Mary want to know is what are we going to have for supper?

Can we watch a video? You know, what are we going to do Friday night as a family? You know, so they kind of keep us focused on the things that really matter as opposed to all these other little things that we're worried about. In the state of Ohio, when they turn 22, they age out. So Mary Kate will be 22 within this school year.

So she was unable to continue with the public education. So that is a big challenge for all special needs parents, is what is the next step after being in the public education. She has often mentioned that she would love to work with her papa.

With the fundraising business, I found a few little things periodically that she could do to help, but nothing that I could really utilize her in a great way. So as we developed this idea of the ice cream truck, we started thinking this would be ideal to bring Mary in and also Josh in and let them be a part of it. We were thinking about the name for the truck and the business, and my wife had the brilliant idea, in my opinion, somewhat of a play on words of special needs, but it's special neat treats.

And so that's what we named the truck. When we first started, we went to neighborhoods somewhat randomly, fairly close to Loveland, Ohio, where we live here. There was a local magazine that asked if they could feature us. It is also an online magazine. And so this magazine came out in July, and right after that, I started getting so much attention locally and some local TV stations to ask to do features, and it just has exploded since then. It's funny because, you know, when I first had this idea, I thought, well, you know, it'd be something, you know, if I wanted to go out, fine. If I want to stay home someday, I'll see what happens.

But now it's just taken off. And the response has been so unbelievably positive. It seems like almost every day that I go out to a neighborhood, I meet families with special needs kids. And just to be able to share with them, they see Mary Kate and our Josh working with me, but just them seeing my kids in the truck working with me gives them hope and gives them some ideas. Probably one of my all-time favorite stories that I really feel like was a turning point in my mind as far as what the purpose of special needs treats was all about.

Thursday afternoon, several weeks ago, I went to a school. They were doing a summer program for special needs kids. And so they had contacted me. They had heard our story and they went with the low budget thing. And I was fine with that. There wasn't all that many kids. So from a business standpoint, it wasn't a real profitable afternoon.

But I wanted to do it. And so I went out there. They had the kids come out onto the parking lot of the school. They got their treats.

Everybody got their treats. And Mary and Josh had something going on that day. So I was by myself. But a little girl came back up to the truck. I asked her name. She said it was Maddie. She said, thanks for coming. She said, you've made my day. So I started chatting with her. I showed her a picture of my kids. And she shared with me her disabilities and her diagnosis had several things that she's been diagnosed with. But she was very talkative.

We just had a short little visit there. And without even premeditating or planning it, I looked at her and I said, Maddie, I just want you to know that God made you just like you are. And He has a special plan for your life. And I get emotional thinking about that moment because I was able to make her day. I wasn't able to cure her autism, her other disorders.

I didn't cure those. But for one day, Maddie had a good day and I had a real small part in it. When I drove off, I'm not generally a real emotional person, but I got emotional. I was wiping tears. And I thought, you know, I made her day, but she made something come into focus in my mind that had been somewhat building throughout the summer. But at that point, I was like, you know what? God has me doing this for some unknown reason. But here's part of the reason. Being able one at a time to make their day to give them hope and courage.

And boy, do we need some hope and courage during these days. This happened even more recently. I was up in Dayton, Ohio, north of here. I was at an event and they had a playground there for special needs kids. And after it was all over, I had Mary and Josh with me. And I said, I asked Mary and Josh, hey, do you want to go over and see the playground?

So they went over there and they played and I did a few things in my truck. And then I walked over there and Josh was on a piece of equipment. And there was a little Down syndrome girl that was more or less in his way. And Josh was waiting and the mom saw what was going on, came rushing over there and said, sorry, and moved her little girl out of the way. And I said, no problem, no problem. And she looked at Josh and Mary and then she looked at me and she said, are you the ones that have been on the news with your ice cream truck? And I said, yeah, that's us. And she goes, I was just showing that article to my husband this morning or yesterday.

And so we chatted for a little bit. She had this little Down syndrome daughter named Esther. And then the mom came over to me and she told me, she said, and she started getting choked up as she told me, she goes, I was telling God this morning, I needed something to let me know that he was still there and he cared about our family. She said, we've been going through a lot and she needed a reminder from God that everything was going to be all right. And she said, this is it. And I was like, wow. Because it's not me, it's a lot of work.

There's hot days, my air conditioner went down. I've had a lot of setbacks with the equipment this summer, but I'm determined to push through it because I see now that there's some real purpose in an old ice cream truck. I never in my wildest dream thought, yeah, buy an ice cream truck and you can really make a difference in somebody's life.

But, you know, I think it's one of those things you, you know, you trust God and make the best decisions and then you just watch and see what happens. And what a beautiful story and a special thanks to Robbie for finding it, for editing it and for producing it. And a special thanks to Joel Wegener for sharing his story and for just loving his Down syndrome kids and doing something special for them. And doing something special for them and himself. And in the end, his neighborhood and all those families with special needs kids. And frankly, just people seeing unconditional love at play and miracles at play. I made her day, he said, about that young girl, Maddie.

But in the end, she made his too. And that's what we try and do here on this show is spread this kind of joy and possibility. Joel Wegener's story, Mary and Josh's story, the Wegener family story, here on Our American Stories. Travel. See how to elevate your experiences at American Express dot com slash with Amex.

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