God has promised, I want to use your precious family to further my redemptive plan. Your family is crucial in my plan to redeem my world. Watch me. And when we just bow down before the Lord and say, I offer myself to you, I offer my family to you. I bow down, I surrender.
God says, Now that's what I'm talking about, and he will make it happen. Just say. Yes. All right, we've got Ray and Janny Ortlin in the studio. I mean, what a pleasure to have.
We've had Dane in here many times. He's been on the Love Like a Municipal cruise with us. Yes. And had a great time. And I found out something.
I don't know, Jan, if you were there, but that Ray got to do, I've never. Been able to do in my entire life. It is a bucket list that I wish, it'll never happen because it's impossible. But he did something I would have wished I could have done.
Well, a Super Bowl ring. Do you have a Super Bowl ring? I wish. I'm getting one of those this year.
So he, in 1968. 66. 66, so. Oh, yeah. Theresa.
I wanna hold your hand. I wanna hold your hand. We saw the Beatles at where LA Delger Stadium. Delgier Stadium, LA. Yes.
I heard the Beatles live.
Well, go ahead and tell them the truth. You didn't hear them. You heard a bunch of girls screaming.
Okay, that's true. It really was fun to see them. You know, the real deal, right there. But the sound system, it was 1966, you know, and it was just terrible quiet. The box amps.
The Beatles even said we couldn't hear ourselves. It was just crazy. And that was their next to last ever concert. Yeah. I didn't know that.
Yeah. They went more from there. The next day they flew to San Francisco and they quit touring. But it was, you know, 20,000 screaming teenage girls. And did you love the Beatles?
Oh, yeah. Are you kidding? Who did it back then, right? Yeah. Well, take us back.
You were married right around then, right? A few years later.
Okay, 68. But you met in when? 68th? September 12th. nineteen sixty eight about 5 p.m.
I was I was minding my own business. I was just walking from the dorm to the dining hall. We call it my player. Yeah. Okay.
And it was the dining hall opened at 5. It was like five minutes to five. I was hungry, so I was on my way. And I saw over to my left, about 50 feet away, a guy I had met a few days before. He was also on the football team.
He was a freshman.
So I just thought, I'll say hi on my way.
So I walk over and little do I realize here is this gorgeous. New student on campus. Oh my goodness. She's a freshman. Yeah.
And you're a sophomore. Oh, big sophomore. Yeah. And oh my goodness, I just melted. And Danny, did you sort of plant yourself over there?
Were you trying to. Me playing myself so I could meet Buddy Ortlund, the football player. Is that his nickname? Buddy. Yes.
And he was my roommate's. A pastor's son. In her growing up years, so I had heard all about him and his family. I really wanted to meet him. I almost tripped him on his way to the dining room.
But Jani was from Minnesota. It was like almost to this California boy. It was almost like the mythical far northern land. And oh my goodness, walking out of that northern mist, here comes this amazing woman. And I had never seen an ocean before.
So, you know, to meet someone from California who loved the Lord and was so cute to boot. Here's the truth of it. Couple weeks later. I was in a conversation with another freshman guy, I don't know how he knew this. But He had heard through the grapevine that a guy had taken Janny out and tried to put a move on her, and she shut him down.
And I thought, no, wait a minute. We're talking about an absolutely gorgeous woman with like Christian standards. I am taking her out.
So I that was what did it. I I called her up and we just began to fall crazy in love. Did you date all through college? Yes. And then when did you get married?
The week I graduated. She wouldn't marry me until I graduated.
So December 18th, 1971, I went. Through summer school to graduate early.
So, give us a little bit of your history in terms of how many kids. How long have you been married now? We can add it up, but you can just tell us something about us. It will be 54 years this December. We've been married.
We have four children and all married, loving Jesus. Oh, we thank the Lord for that, don't we, darling? 15 grandchildren. Yes. We're so great.
We just feel immeasurably rich. And we didn't cook this up. We didn't, you know, we didn't have a whiteboard. And markers to, yeah, we didn't mastermind this. It's God's grace.
Not to us, O Lord, not to us, but to your name be glory. Psalm 115.
Well, you know what it's like. You just live each day. And God is the one masterminding. the better future we really long for. And if we were to draw the plan, it would be inferior to what God gives.
I mean we sit here and we hear the story and we think, oh, it must have been pretty easy and no struggles. Wow. Where are the struggles? Oh, my goodness. Do you want to hear about our first fight or our Argument yesterday, or let me ask you because we saw the argument yesterday.
Oh, yeah, did you? We were talking about it yesterday.
Well, I wouldn't call it an argument. It was, it was an extraordinary question. Yes. I said to Jani, we were in the Orlando airport, you know, and I'm just being me, and I'm annoying her. And I can tell that I'm annoying her.
And I said to her, Honey, I really like it when you chew me out. Because then I feel more comfortable. I feel like you can, you're free to tell me what you really think and feel.
So it was did you chew him out pretty good?
Well, what's your definition of pretty good, Dave? I don't think so. We laugh a lot more now in our marriage. We do. Isn't it wonderful?
Yeah, yeah.
Now why do you think that is? A lot more now. What do you what happened? Before I was worried. That He would never get me.
And I would have to fight. For my to be understood and accepted. But through the years, he has proven over and over, Janny. We're going to make this a win-win. And he has.
He has done that.
So now I can just. laugh when he annoys me and tell him And by now, we know we're going to get through the crisis du jour. Yeah. Not because we're so great at it, but because the Lord is present. Mm-hmm.
Underneath are the everlasting arms. We don't always feel that, but we can know that. And even if we forget it, still underneath are the everlasting arms. Mm-hmm. He's not just keeping our faith alive, he's keeping our laughter bubbling as well.
That's sweet, isn't it? Yeah, it is. Let me ask you, when you got married, did you think you would struggle? The way you did, because every single couple struggles. There's not a couple living that hasn't gone through some real valleys.
Whether in life or marriage. And Dave and I thought because we were so in love and because we loved Jesus so much, we would not struggle. What did you think? And we did. We did something immediately.
Yeah. But we sort of thought, you know, the past is buried. It's the old creation. We're new in Christ, 2 Corinthians 5, which is all true.
So we thought that meant, oh, we won't struggle. We love Jesus. We love each other. We're going into ministry. And then we struggled and we were surprised.
Was that your story or no? You knew you were going to struggle.
Okay, here's my theory on this. Let me try this out on you, honey. Tell me what you think. First time on. Yeah.
Okay. God Gives us as a gift this crazy euphoria we call romance. Because if we were in our right minds, we would never make the total commitment of marriage. I mean, you're committing in advance to what you can't foresee. Yeah.
That's crazy. Making a promise, covenant. Yes. Yeah. And so I think God says, well, if they were sensible at all, they would never make the commitment.
So I'm going to sort of propel them into it. And He sprinkles His pixie dust on us, and we enter into temporary insanity, do the deal, and then it sort of wears off. With little spikes along the way. But without that surge of crazy, wonderful romance, we might not take the risk. And I believe that taking the risk of total love.
It's not just Okay, you have to be a Christian to be crazy enough to believe this. If Ephesians 5 is telling us the truth about reality, Christ and the church in in romantic love? Mm-hmm. We've parachuted into a universe where ultimate reality is is romance. Hmm.
And we're receiving, as married couples, we're receiving the privilege. of sort of replicating it. On a small scale, imperfectly but really, in our own experience.
So that People can people who will never darken the door of a church. And to hear the gospel can see the gospel just because we're married. Exactly. That's crazy. When you love someone and see all of their flaws, but continue to love them unconditionally, that's the gospel.
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Okay. Alright, I'll just take yours. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. We're talking today about your book. to the tenth generation.
What is that about? What a good title. Explain everything.
Well, the subtitle God's heart for your family far into the future. True. It's a new concept that the Lord gave us. What? Five, six years ago as we.
I was sitting Just very innocently reading my Bible. And I know this has happened to you and to our listeners. I read through the Bible generally once a year, and I was in Deuteronomy 23 of all places. Really? Yes, Deuteronomy 23.
And I came to the first few verses, two and three, I think they are, where God says, and tell those people groups, I think it's the Ammonites and the Edomites, that they're going to be excluded from my presence. to the tenth generation. Because and he he explained why. And I stopped. and thought, wait a minute, That doesn't seem Fair and that question arose in my heart: Lord, I don't get this, this is not what makes sense to me, and I found myself.
I'm embarrassed to admit this, but Judging God's ways, saying, How could you to the tenth generation? And so I prayed about it, I thought about it, I brought it to Ray, we started talking about it. we began thinking about who God really is. not what I make them out to be by reading one or two verses. Yeah.
And we began thinking throughout all of scripture, God's bias toward blessing. God's bias toward welcome, God's bias towards receiving us. Supremely in his son. We see it there. And so I thought, well, I've had this question mark.
Now, from Deuteronomy 23 on, I'm going to start looking for verses that talk about God's blessing. the generations. They're everywhere. I mean, I wish we had time to go through all of them. I had just read a a few days before that time in Deuteronomy twenty three, in Deuteronomy seven, where he talks about Being the faithful God who keeps Who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments to a thousand generations?
That's amazing. That is amazing. A thousand generations and over and over and over again. If you look through my Bible, you'd see the. little symbol tenth.
Page after page after page, where God has promised, I want to use your precious family. To further my redemptive plan. It's your family is crucial. In my plan to redeem my world, watch me. That's what this book is about.
What would you add, honey?
Well, as we thought about Some of those Old Testament passages. through a gospel lens Exactly what Jenny was saying. If God had his reasons, for excluding certain people People groups and families to the tenth generation, how much more in Christ? Does he long to bless families to the tenth generation and beyond. Like you guys, when we got married, we weren't thinking far into the future.
You know, we just. The next day. Yeah, that's right. Yeah. But.
What we've come to realize is this. God has an intergenerational plan. For our family, here's why that matters. In the United States of America right now, there's a lot of fear, there's a lot of anger, a lot of anxiety, a lot of uncertainty. And but God has put Covenant promises on his churches and on Christian families, as he has not put covenant promises on nations, corporations.
sports teams, and so forth. And so churches. and Christian homes. are receiving promises from above. That will last.
They're durable, their industrial strength, their military grade. And these promises of God are going to get us through these hard times.
So Janny and I thought it through. We did the math.
So December 18th, 1971, just two of us. We have four kids, they get married, so two become eight. in one generational shift. Yeah. Those eight Have now produced fifteen grandchildren.
So two, eight, fifteen. You see where this is going exponentially. At this point, it starts becoming hypothetical. but not implausible One of those grandchildren is already married, so they're going to have babies now at present trends. Our family.
In 10 generations. It's going to be 55,000 people. Oh, geez. Yes. And it's all our fault.
And so we, the. The hope and dream of this book is that families will catch the vision that they really matter to the Lord. Yes. And that what they're doing today can matter far out into the future. Yes.
Yeah, we were trivialized by our world every day. We're told in so many ways: you don't matter. You might matter as part of a voting block, you might matter as part of a market niche, but you actually don't matter. And your family is only at best. Useful and and we believe that we we take that in as families we think oh my family's so boring it's just the daily routine get up feed the kids do the laundry go to work We don't see the magnificence of the Lord in it.
He promises. Is it in Exodus 20 that everywhere I cause my name to be remembered, I will come and bless?
So his blessing is on the mundane, the boring. Let's not be Christians who settle. For Less than what God has envisioned, His mighty purposes for our families.
So, what we've come to realize is just equally true of you and every Christian dad and mom listening. We have our family right now. We also have a future family, and we can love our future family. Right now. We can't control the future.
But we can invest in the future. and we can give our hearts our prayers and our devotion. Right now, such that dominoes are going to fall over. Far into the future, we're way more significant than we've ever realized. Anyway, this landed on us, and it changed how we saw our family and how we treat them.
But you guys, no wonder there's such a spiritual warfare, a battle going on over the family. There is. Of this impact that we can have on the entire world. That's a good point. 55,000 people is a city.
Yeah. Sarasota, Florida. Yeah, it's a big city. Yeah. So let's be Christian leaders who encourage our fellow Christians that God is bigger than our fear of the future.
Yes. Because I can sit here in this chair and be so scared about everything. But God has promised. We're in Acts 2.39, For the promise is for you and for your children and for all who are f far off. He's promised me already.
that if I look to him, it will have an impact. My children, my great-grandchildren, far into the future for all those who are far off. How big is our God? Isn't that wonderful? We don't need to be scared.
That's your quote in the second chapter: How big God is matters more than how frightening the future is. I've always said the size of your God is more important than the size of your faith.
So answer this. How does. A normal Christian. Get a bigger gut. How do we grow the size of our gut?
What would you say?
Well, One thing is to just dare. dare to believe the promises of the Bible. They were paid for in advance, in full, by Christ at his cross. And Every bill we run up from then on, God pays it. Let's believe in grace upon grace, John chapter 1, verse 16.
I love the way Martin Luther taught us how to Fight back against Satan's lies. Luther said this from his commentary on Galatians. He said, When the devil comes to us and says to us, You are so evil, you're going to be damned. We should reply. Precisely because you say I am so evil, I will be justified and saved.
And Satan will reply, No, you will end up damned. And we will say, No, for Christ died for my sins. My sins are on his shoulders, not on mine.
So, Satan. When you tell me how sinful I am, You don't dishearten me at all. In fact You comfort me.
So when we think we're so you know, we're failures, we're inadequate, we're disqualified, I had my chance, but I blew it, God's finished with me now. Those are the very people. That God loves, embraces, includes, if we think. God could never use me. We're ready for God to use us.
Such a good reminder. I would add and emphasize what you've been saying, honey, this way. That How do we increase our faith? We go to His Word, we listen to Him, and we look for those promises that Ray has mentioned and that we've been sharing. And we pray them.
Lord, you said this.
Now make it happen today in my life and in my future, in my children's life, over and over. And into the 10th generation, we have several of those promises. We hope your listeners might pick it up and look through it and be encouraged for how God loves the generations. Like one of my favorite verses is from Isaiah sixty five. First.
23 says they shall not labor In vain, don't you love that word, Anne? The laboring of a woman, they shall not labor in vain or bear children for calamity, for they shall be the offspring of the blessed of the Lord and their descendants with them. It's not just you, Jani. I'm looking at Your grandchildren and your great-great-grandchildren hold fast to me. It matters today for them.
One of my favorites is in Luke's Gospel, chapter one, Mary says, in the magnificat. And in this wonderful prayer that she declares when she knows that our Savior, our Messiah, is coming through her. She looks using Old Testament language, she just rejoices in the ways of God. The strategies of God, how he rolls, what's going on here. And she says in verse 50 of Luke 1, God's mercy is for those who fear him from generation to generation.
In other words, God's not making this up as he goes. He's not right now nervously working on plan B. He's got his plan. Everything is going his way. And his plan includes intergenerational blessing for those who fear him.
What then does it mean for Janny and me, for you guys, to fear the Lord?
Well, my mind goes back to Genesis chapter 22, where Abraham... Puts his son down before God and surrenders his son to the Lord. And the Lord says, Now I know that you. Fear me.
So fear is reverent openness. To God. And when Janny and I, when you guys, every Christian dad and mom listening, when we just bow down before the Lord and say, I'm not good at this. But I'm I offer myself to you. I offer my family to you.
I bow down, I surrender. Now be glorified in us. God says, Now that's what I'm talking about. And blessing kicks in. And that's all we have to do, guys.
We don't have to deserve his grace. We don't have to qualify. We don't have to keep earning it. Our obedience has no purchasing power. We just yield to him, and he will make it happen.
Just say Yes. Yeah. Just say yes to him. And that's what our children's book that accompanies this teaches, helps parents. To teach their children.
And what's the title of your children's book? Your Family is God's Plan. I love it. His mercy from generation to generation. It's based on Luke 1:50.
Teaching your child to say, yes. When you say yes to God, no matter how hard it is, you can trust Him. I think that. In a nutshell, is everything because we make it so complicated. I need to do this, I need to go here.
And what it really is, and Dave and I did this, I bet you guys did this too. On our honeymoon night, we knelt at the foot of the bed before we got in the bed and we prayed that prayer. God, we pray, we give you our marriage, we surrender our lives, our future, and we pray that you would give us a marriage, not a good marriage, but a great marriage that would impact the world for Christ. In other words, all it did is, we give you our lives, God. We don't know what we're doing, we have no idea what's ahead, but we surrender.
That's the prayer for a family. That's it. That's it, you guys. It's the best, the biggest, and Jesus is like, okay, I got you going till you see the journey. And it's not easy.
No. But it's good. We wouldn't want it to be easy. I would, Ray. I would like it to be so.
Ian and I have a different opinion about that. I remember reading about Bill and Von Ette Bright. Yes. And he was in the candy business, wasn't he? Yeah.
And they came to a kind of a threshold in their life together when they took out a piece of paper, as I understand it, and literally signed themselves over to the law. Contract. Yeah. Yeah. You know, every listening dad and mom.
What a great idea. Literally take out a piece of paper and write out. A commitment to the Lord. I remember a day in 1988 when I was at a very low point. I was um I was a pastor in Oregon.
I was Sincere? But clueless. Been there. And I wasn't doing a very good job, and it was not going well. But I didn't know what else to do.
And I took out my typewriter and I typed out the total surrender of as best I could articulate it. It wasn't fancy, but I just handed myself over to the Lord. I signed it. I dated it. And I came to realize later that was a turning point.
Really? And I didn't orchestrate. How things would turn around and get better. I did not do that. All I could do is give the Lord my need.
So I, you know, we all deeply believe the four of us are living proof. Oh, yeah. You know, God's faithfulness over the long term. for people who really don't deserve it. I love that.
Yeah, I always, you know, I didn't think of it at the moment, but when I surrendered. I mean, when I became a Christian. Um I mean, literally, I just sort of caught my girlfriend, wasn't Ann, with another guy.
So there was this betrayal and lying that was going on that I sensed, and I literally. Found out it was true. And it was the last draw for me. I was like, I've been holding on to this, been holding on to my football future, and just having second knee surgery. And I'm like, I'm done.
I'm done trying to live my way and get what I want. And it was that moment I was broken. I get on my knees in my childhood bedroom. And I just said just what you did. I said, I'm done.
I'm not living for me anymore. I repent of my sin. I'm a broken sinner, and I need. Forgiveness and I know the gospel and you've I've heard it enough times in the last year. And I just said right there, I said, I'll go and do and be anything you want me to be.
My life is now yours, whatever you want. And I look back in that moment, I didn't feel this.
Now I look back, sort of what you were saying, Ray. It's almost like heaven is looking down. And I, and I, I've said this sometimes in a sermon, like, I think Jesus is up there looking down at me like this. And I go, I know this isn't theologically accurate, but just go with me here. It's like he looks down at me and he sees me on my knees and he goes, Hey, Wilson, you serious?
You really serious? And I'm like, Yeah, I'm serious. He goes, All right, you won't believe what I got for you. This is so different than you thought it was, but I'm going to just take you on the journey of your life. And again, that doesn't mean easy.
No. I mean, difficulties and trials were in the future, but it means you're going to live the life I've created you to live. Not even thinking in that moment. That decision affected this and now a legacy of Wilson's and grandkids. That was not in my mind there, but it was in God's.
What's crazy is the same night that he did that, I was working a factory job earning college money to go to school in the summer. The same night I was I was on an assembly line shooting screws into dishwasher doors, praying the same prayer. God. I feel like I've just been trying to. I'm on the fence.
I'm living both sides of the world, and for you, I'm done doing that. I give my life to you, I surrender everything. I'll go. Same words: I'll go anywhere, I'll do anything for the rest of my life. I'm gonna follow you.
At the end of my prayer I said And God, and I was dating this other guy. It seems like that Dave Wilson guy. We are from the same hometown. It seems like he is passionate about you. Maybe he could find me somebody to disciple me.
I think she thought I was cute and she wouldn't. He was very cute.
So cute. You know what I love about this? Every listener. Who is This just works for everybody. It has.
You don't have to have a PhD. It doesn't matter what you do. You don't need to be spiritually gigantic. I mean, we're just. His mercy.
We've been talking about his mercy.
Okay, let me hear him from me.
So I was. Totally falling in love with Jani. And I called her up to ask her out. This was in April 1969. And she'd already accepted a date with another guy.
I'm jealous enough to come in. She's playing hard to get. I get it. And I thought, what? This is not good.
I need to ask Jane to go study with me. Do your listeners know what going steady means? Does that even stay?
Now they do. It's a thing on Facebook. We know.
So, okay, talking about, you know, not being theologically sophisticated.
So I decide I'm going to play Bible roulette here. I'm going to just start reading the Bible because I need guidance from God. I really want to ask him to go study with me, but I don't want to cook this up on my own because I really want God to be part of this.
So I'm just going to read the Bible until a verse leaps off the page at me, and then I'll know what God's answer is.
So I'm turning to the book of Leviticus. Hey, listeners, by the way, this isn't a great way to read. No, no, no. I think you turn to Leviticus. No, well, I was on my way there because I was thinking that's the most unhelpful book.
So when I get the answer, it'll really work. Then I'm thinking, no, Ecclesiastes is even more weird.
So I'm turning to Ecclesiastes. I start reading in chapter 1, verse 1. Having no idea how incredibly relevant Ecclesiastes is. Oh, what a fuck.
So I come to chapter 11. And this this is what I read. Rejoice, O young man, in your youth. and let your heart cheer you in the days of your youth. Walk in the ways of your heart, and the sight of your eyes.
I thought, what? God is affirming God is saying, you like her, don't you?
So ask her. I'm not promising she'll say yes. But Treat her right. Because she belongs to me. But go ahead and ask her.
And I will bless you. And he did, and he said yes. And here we are, 54 years later. You said no to that other guy?
Well, I went out with him at Never again. Yeah, so I called her back, asked her out for the next weekend, and she said yes. But the point is. Here we are. We're just, you know, we were dopey teenagers.
And God loves dopey teenagers. Yeah. God loves parents who feel inadequate and exhausted and worried. God loves worried grandparents who are anxious for their Young ones, right? Yeah, that's right.
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Now let's get back to the conversation.
Now what do you say to the couple that's listening? That I'm guessing right now is thinking, yeah, listen to the Wilsons in New Orleans. Their life has been pretty marvelous and special, and they're blessed, and God answered their prayer, but we are struggling. We have kids that have walked away from the faith. My husband's walked, you know, whatever their struggle is.
I know there's people watching or listening and are like, we're not blessed like you, these two couples. They have a special blessing. They're in ministry. They're pastors. They've, you know what I'm saying?
I know a lot of people think that our blessing is uniquely better than theirs, even here in our stories. Like, look, it God was in it, but he's not with us. You just said he's with them, and we know he is, but what would you say that couple that really right now is struggling to believe in their life is charmed like ours? You know, we were at the low point of our life in 2007. And We had the privilege of spending a day with David Paulison, who was a biblical counselor back in Philadelphia.
Yeah, I know the name. Yeah. He's with the Lord now. And he was so wise and so helpful. He said, Okay, you guys are going through a horrible.
Season in life. And this is going to take a while.
So here's what I recommend. Why don't you ask the Lord for a verse of scripture? Ask the Lord for a promise, an encouragement. And when the Lord gives it to you, Latch onto it. Wallpaper your reality with that promise.
And however dark the night-time sky might be, you can look up and see that North Star. Get your bearings. Keep going. Oh, that was so helpful.
So, about two weeks later, Janny is sitting there reading 1 Peter chapter 5. She reads verse ten. She says, Ray, listen to this And she reads it and this verse. And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace. who called you to his eternal glory in Christ.
will himself Restore. Confirm. strengthen and establish you.
So we claimed that promise because of David's kind. Counsel to us. We wrote it out, put it on our mirror where we brush our teeth and on our refrigerator door in the car. And we memorized it and asked the Lord, This is your promise to us. We know you will confirm it eventually, maybe in our lifetime.
And he has. Yes. Just one step after another.
So we would encourage people who feel like failures to go to the Word again and look for a promise. For them. And Hold God to it. Wallpaper your reality with it. Yes.
And it wasn't what a phrase. It wasn't a quick fix. No. We had a lot of things to work through, but that verse gave us hope. And hope is what gets us through anything.
We still will say, Oh, that's a 1 Peter 5:10 experience. We say that about today, being with you, whom we respect so much. I I might add here. About Those who feel like they're failures We do write about that in our book, To the Tenth, but Jesus Died for failures. He didn't die for successes.
Those who are successful don't need him. It's the weak. That's when he enters in. It's the weak who receive his power and his strength and his grace.
So, where You feel you're failing. That's where Jesus welcomes you most. He doesn't want to just pat you on the back and say, Hey, way to go, you don't need me. Go on. He loves it when we come to Him with our failures and say, This is hopeless.
There's nothing I can do. Only you can save this situation. I mean, what was? Do you remember your failure or your struggle that? Oh, yes.
That put you in that counselor's chair. We do. Yeah, it was a ministry catastrophe. And I wondered if I had a future in ministry. It wasn't just less blessing than normal, the bottom fell out.
And in a particularly humiliating way, I was psychologically incapable of experiencing what the English word encouragement. Is talking about. I was not able to trust the Lord. Janny was the one. I said, sweetheart, let's go on your faith for a while, you know, until I can get back on my feet.
My precious warrior wife got me through that. Because I knew what Ray was hearing from a few men in particular that was Not true. Janny, did it make you mad? Oh, I was so angry. I was going to say.
I was so angry because it was slanderous. Right. And it was totally against the gospel. In the middle of it all, Ray's beloved father passed away. And Ray's dad was his hero, my hero.
I mean, it was just awful. You know, on my dad's dying day, we were over in Ireland and. He was at the hospital, of course, there in California. The family gathered around His bedside. They sang hymns, they read scripture.
He gave a word of. patriarchal blessing to each member of the family before he died? And when we got back. I asked my sister, what did what had Dad what was his word to me? And Dad said.
to them, tell Bud Ministry isn't everything. Jesus is. Hmm. And uh Yeah. I want to say that to all our listeners, whatever it is that you feel like you're losing or have lost.
Ministry really matters. That's why we care. Family matters. Jobs matter. I mean, everything about us matters in the sight of God.
But only Jesus is our salvation. And when Jesus is our salvation. Other things in life. tend over time to fall into place. There's hope.
There's hope. And and I didn't engineer that. I didn't deserve that. I didn't mastermind it. I just received it.
Mm.
So I would just say to our listeners. who are deeply disheartened and brokenhearted.
Well, one, I wish I could just put my arm around you right now because you're my people. Secondly. God is with you. Yes. He is your everything.
Move all your chips over onto his square. I like that. Yeah. Say, Lord, you're my future. You're my hope.
I'm going to hang on to you. For dear life, I'm going to wallpaper your reality, my reality, with your... Promises. And I'm just going to believe, I'm going to defiantly believe you're going to get me through this. And he will.
Something that's helped me in the midst of times when I felt like an utter failure. to ask myself Why does that failure matter so much to me? There's something about it. Part of it is: I want my kids in heaven. I want my grandchildren in heaven.
I want to run their lives in a way that looks good to me. When I've gone through hard times in my life, I keep coming back to a verse that God gave me in Psalm 62, Psalm 62, 1 My soul finds rest in God. Alone. You know it. And so, when I'm struggling with a fear of failure, I'll feel that after today when I go home and think, oh, why didn't I say that?
Or why did I say that? I have to ask myself, what is my soul finding her rest in? Is it in being successful on the radio program? Is it whatever it is? My soul finds rest in my children following the Lord or my husband loving me, whatever.
Those are wonderful things. But I have to ultimately rest in the fact that God. is all I need and he will be enough.
So good. And, you know, in the Magnificat, again, in Luke chapter 1, verse 50. Mary did not say. that for those who deserve him. His mercy continues from generation to generation.
To those who fear him. And again, you have to be a Christian to be crazy enough to believe this. That God. The gospel is not God's concession to us. It's not God's plan B.
God loves to give to the undeserving. There's something about Him. We're not like that. No. You know, we deeply believe in the pay-as-you-go plan, right?
That's how life works. Earn it. Earn it. Every inch of it. And God says, no, actually, I have different ground rules.
I love to give to the undeserving. Oh, man. Where would we be? Where would we be? Without the grace of God.
What does uh. And I know you talk about this in the 10th generation book. What does blessing look like? When you think marriage, when you think family, when you think generational. What does that look like?
How does God bless? Blessing is hope. coming into our experience. It's that feeling, that thought. Oh.
I've made so many mistakes. There's so much I don't understand. But you know? Maybe my life really is going somewhere. Maybe God is with me.
And God can take this this wreckage. and make something beautiful out of it. That That sense of what Janny just said: my soul finds rest in God alone. He is my better future. He's going to make this happen.
That's blessing coming down. even before things turn around. Blessing takes the form of hope and the mercy of God. It comes down before it spreads out, comes down upon us, and then. Start spreading now.
I'm playing Devil's Advocate a little bit. What if uh... The couple listening, or maybe even a single person's listening and wishing and wondering and hoping to get married. But either or, but they feel like. It isn't coming down.
It isn't. Turning. They're not seeing God's blessing. I'm in a valley. It's been a long, dark valley, and there's no end in sight.
In fact, I know there isn't going to be. A quick turnaround the next three months, six months, it might be years, if ever. How do you speak to them? They're just in the dark right now.
Well, who isn't in there? It's just so true. I mean, who isn't living? People would say you guys aren't. Oh.
Who isn't living a Plan B life? You know, back when we were seniors in high school, and we were awesome and the sky was the limit, you know, and we thought of the future, we painted that picture in our minds. Who actually goes on to live that? Nobody. But, honey.
Davis. is thinking of those pe Those women who Aren't married. And that single woman who's approaching age 45, where she knows she will not be able to bear children. If she's to be given children, they'll be through adoption. He's asking, what do you say?
to that person. Mm-hmm. They do look at us, honey, come on, I get to be married to Ray Ortland. No, Jenny. No, Jenny.
The great Ray Ortland is your husband. He's mine. He's mine all mine. All yours. Keep that in.
Don't take it out. Yeah. But isn't that what you're asking, Dave? I was just hoping Anne would say the same thing about her husband. But obviously she didn't.
Now's your chance. Here's the end of that moment. It doesn't matter. The thing is, God orchestrates each individual life. With individual sorrows and trials for his glory.
For his purpose, he's working, Ephesians 1, he's working all things. According to the counsel of his will. Whether I'm married to Ray for 60 years or I'm single, he's working it according to the counsel of his will.
So we want to keep pointing your listeners. To God. Yeah. You know, John Piper wrote that great book, Don't Waste Your Life. That really helped me.
I'd like to write a sequel. He will not waste your life. Oh, that's good. You know, the person, the listener who... Who is thinking somehow I'm excluded?
Yeah. Somehow it doesn't work for me. Right. Or for my marriage or for my family. Yes.
My children. We're divorced. After I've been divorced several times. Yes. Yes.
So teach us. Not like we. No, we're talking about us now, right? Because we are in the same category. Um Who else is God going to work with?
Yeah. Mm-hmm. Who's walking up into the presence of God thinking? You know, frankly, you're lucky to have me on your team. I'm strengthening your hand.
You're welcome.
Okay. The person who's listening to this thinking, God has passed me by. I'm not in that stream of blessing. That is the person. Most ideally primed.
To receive God's blessing. And I would say to that listener, Um Down at Rock Bottom I ask you. To do what Dave did that night. And what I did in 1988. And so many times.
Just get down on your knees. Hand yourself over to God. Tell him what you're really thinking. Tell him what you're really feeling. He welcomes your honest reality.
Tell him of your broken heart. And hand yourself over to him completely, withholding nothing. And God promises. That your life will make an eternal difference. Your life.
He will not waste your life. You gotta write that book. You do. You know, it came to my mind, Dave, as you were sharing that, Ray, was. I thought of your mom.
Dave comes from a family of five children. His parents were divorced. I'm thinking about her because Dave's dad had multiple affairs, alcoholic. beat them horrible.
So the older children, Dave was 10, 12, 14 years younger than my brother dies of leukemia. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Right after the divorce. They go through divorce because the older sibling's like, mom, you have to get out of this for your safety. She divorces, moved to another state to be with her parents, and then Her youngest son and his brother, Dave, was seven.
This boy was five, Craig was five, and he died of leukemia six weeks after the divorce. You talk about a valley. But the thing that I think about with your mom was her heart for Jesus, her surrender to Jesus. And Look what we are doing. Yes.
You know, she got to see.
So much of that. of you starting a church. Thousands of people attending a marriage. Grandkids, like she saw that. But the valley, I mean, she didn't do anything but surrender.
That's it. That's all she did. But that valley that she walked for years. Yeah, I remember, you know, as a. Seven-year-old when dad left, and then teenager, and watching mom.
Hmm. Cling to Jesus, and I remember laughing, like, You're gonna believe in a God that let my little brother die and your husband, my dad, leave. You believe in that guy. You know, I've mocked it and And then, yeah, and then when I was uh still in high school, she starts dating a guy, a coach of uh one of my baseball teams. They decide to get married.
I'm gonna have a dad. He dies. a month before the wedding. She never remarried. I mean, she just had tragedy after tragedy.
And, you know, hearing Ann right now say she got to see. Yes. The tenth generation come to Jesus. Yeah, watching her. Cling to her Jesus.
I found that Jesus later.
So I know what you're feeling. If you're Ray, when you said he's with you, hang on. It's true. He is. You don't feel it.
You don't see it. He's right there. You said earlier, his everlasting arms are your strength. Yes. Cling to him.
Surrender. He's there. And Your mom Faithfully Gave herself away to you. Yeah. She did.
And that single person who's listening, I would say. Find a faithful church, a Jesus-centered, gospel-teaching church. Go give your life away. Take a risk, stick your neck out. Go give your life away.
And when you walk into heaven, There's going to be this huge fist bumping, high fiving, team cheer, massive celebration as you walk in through the grace of Christ and people are going to come up with tears in their eyes. And say thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Yeah, I mean, what a great. You don't know this transition, but we've got a couple. Audio tributes. from couple of your kids That they recorded. And we're going to play them.
Right now. What? What? Yeah. Get the Kleenex out.
It's right there. Bruce, which one do we want to play first? I've got Dane right here.
Okay. Here's your son, Dane. We just ask him to share a few words with you. I am immensely thankful for my dad and mom, and I love them with all my heart, respect them greatly, and just revere their lives and their. They're great loves, and there are really three loves in their hearts that I have watched and seen and seen lived out, seen proved and demonstrated.
and um and that have been deposited in me. And one is a love for the Lord Jesus Christ. As a real person, as an actual savior and master, not a theory, not a formula, not a force, but as An actual person who is there caring for them and for me. The second great love in their life is a love for the Bible. I can picture my mom reading under a Blanket down on the couch in the living room early in the morning with her cup of tea every morning.
Whenever I would come down, whatever time it was, mom was there reading scripture, dad likewise. Has given his life to the study of the Bible, not just the study of it, but. Living in light of it and working it out in his life, and I greatly respect that. And a love for the local church, a love for the Lord Jesus Christ, a love for the Bible, and a love for the church. Um Imagine or consider Living a life myself or leading my own family and living a life that does not centralize the local church.
It's unthinkable to me because of what. I saw in Dad and Mom and what they have uh The way they have given their lives to the local church, as they should, and as not all Christians do.
So they have been such a godly example in that way.
So. With regard to the Lord Jesus, with regard to the scripture, with regard to the local church. And many other things, but those are the three great loves that they have lived out and given to me and which. I am seeking to pass on. To my own five children now with deep gratitude and love and respect.
to them and for them. Oh, that's that's sweet.
So good. Wow, you guys. Hey, mom and dad, I want to take a moment and just say thank you for your faithfulness to Christ over the years. I've said this to you many times before, but I can't say it enough, and I mean it from the bottom of my heart: that the way both of you have served Christ over the years, not just in ministry, but just in who you are and how you relate to people. The ways you think things through, the way you care for people genuinely, just the sincere devotion to Christ that is in both of your hearts, has more of an impact than you could possibly know.
And the consequences of that rumble on day after day in my life. for Esther, for each of our five kids. Your faithfulness to God matters, and it's making a difference every single day that will last on to eternity. Um I I think it's far beyond what you know, because You're not, you've been doing it for so long, you're probably not even noticing it as much as others do. It's just instinctive to you.
You know, you think about, oh, you know, oh, they need us to babysit the kids, we can do that. Or, oh, we're going to speak, we want to encourage them. It's just who you are. It's just instinctive.
So, you're probably not even aware of how much of a blessing you're being because it's habitual. It's just how you function. is with a a heart of service and love toward others and honoring of Christ. And the difference that that makes for me Uh for my family. And for so many others is incalculable, and only in heaven will the true uh measure of it be possible to see.
So, thank you. You have made uh you've made my life a joy. By being faithful to Christ, you've painted the target for me. I know how to live. Because I just say, okay, I want to follow the Lord, serve the Lord, and I've seen a model in that in you.
Not that you're perfect, none of us are perfect, but you've been a faithful model. Of serving Christ.
So I just want to say thank you, and I love you both from the bottom of my heart. Oh, gosh. Oh, that's so sweet. Take me home. I think we're done.
You guys, that's everything, isn't it? Oh, yes. Oh, it is. It's everything. It is that your kids love the Lord.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Everything. Thank you for that.
Oh, my goodness. Well, this book is so rich. We didn't even get into so many things like making your home a foretaste of heaven. There's just so many chapters. There was so much underlined and highlighted.
This is a book every parent, every home should read because it's inspiring and it points us back to Jesus. And if you're thinking, what is my next step? We said it at the beginning: surrender. Every day it's a re-surrender, God. Amen.
You can't do it. I can't do anything apart from you. And after you get off your knees, go to a computer, your phone, whatever. Go to familylifetoday.com, click on the show notes. We'll have this book here that you can buy to the 10th generation.
You want to get it. Thank you guys, man. What a day. What a privilege to be with you. We just feel overwhelmed with gratitude to you.
We feel that.
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