Shame Off You! [Part 2]

Pastor, author and Bible teacher Alan Wright this is what is churning down inside the soul. I need to do something more. I never feel at peace. I never feel totally harassed pastor excited for you to hear the teaching today. In the series for yourself yourself.

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There was there was a story in there about the Iraqi national soccer players. This was right in that period of time in which Saddam Hussein had been ousted and yet he had not been found, and yet it had become clear that he was often thrown and people began to feel safe about speaking up for the first time and this was an interview with some of the Iraqi soccer stars reading it beat is absolutely just my heart was just torn reading about what they were saying because there there*soccer player. He said I love soccer and he said, but I hated the idea of playing because before every game is Saddam's nephew Hussein would call them would threaten them, especially before the important games and threatened them with punishment if they didn't win the game will this this this was news to me and then he went on further to say I love soccer. I just wanted to play for the fun of the game, but I so wanted to quit, but I couldn't quit because he had threatened my family if I quit on us in reading this article to begin his grip. My heart and I thought what lien why is this distant story seeming so real to me and sometimes when that happens you know is good just to pause and let the Holy Spirit speak to you, and I felt the Lord just saying this because as you Alan and begin to meditate on it more. I began to come to this very simple truth that when it comes to life all of us are either living life for the joy of the game or we're living it for fear of somebody's disapproval. In other words, all of our attempts at success. All of our all of our attempts to excel there either being motivated by fear of what will happen if we don't succeed, or by faith in the joy that accompanies it in the hope that a company as it the faith that says I'm accepted so I might as well I might as well spread my wings and fly. These were the kind of things.

It began to lead me onto a pretty serious self assessment. I began to take inventory and it did not happen at one time for me but I began to notice some things in my life I noticed I was overly hurt by criticism that this was this was, not just as a pastor were someone would have some critical to say.

Although that was really bother me, but you know sometimes it's when it's the closest to home and I began to realize that sometimes with my wife and she might say something and it wasn't critical at all. It just was no. She said the garbage needs to go out and that I would take it is.

Oh so if you are a better husband than you would've taken the garbage about it. Why was I so sensitive. The bottom line to that I began to realize that I if I was honest with myself I had too many mixed motives is likely something really noble that I wanted to do to help somebody.

I was always plagued by this idea of it the same time that I want to help them.

Am I also having a little bit of a motive here that I'm afraid they won't like me. If I don't help them. I just was. There was this this ease I had with the mixture of motives I felt also that it was sometimes hard to speak the truth in love, and this is one of the basic things Scripture tells us that the walk in the light is he's in the light speak the truth in love. Tell people what you really feel just do it in a loving way. This was just not something I was able to do saw something was comfortable doing.

I was too afraid of hurting somebody's feelings. Why couldn't I just love people and speak the truth to why couldn't those things go together. I was also found that I just could become critical in one of the things it will learn in this series is that people tend to hurt people, shamed people tend to shame other people.

People who feel inwardly condemned.

They tend to condemn others.

People who have been criticized over and over again begin to be critical of others. Why was that was that tendency in me that I saw that I didn't like it would make the effort will be critical this part I felt doomed by failures too often is something went really wrong, instead of just okay. I made a mistake okay move on one of the things it would happen immediately and start becoming too obsessed with. Think about it too much. Think about the about the mistake in all and replaying it and thinking about it again and again.

As such, you begin to feel like that you're just your somehow it's doomed you towards the future. I also realize that a hard time saying no to learn… It really hard for anybody especially for pastor.

If you have a hard time saying no because it always somebody that wanted to do something and eventually realize that your not have time to do it all and it leads to many other ponds like white and have healthy boundaries. What was at the root of that. I also assist for my family really laughs at me a lot actually, this is done, but I actually turned down some honors. I turned down some things it honestly now looking that were blessings from the Lord and why couldn't I be okay. Maybe there was a blessing that came to my life and in the Lord's will be to have better take that position of I also had feelings if it fell asleep like an imposter business is feeling like if there's somebody that if they knew who I really was. Then they they would think it's I also do this feeling of being an imposter. I'm also just had a sense in this was the most important thing wasn't his sense that it was some ceiling over how far I could go or how far I could rise how how how much could the Lord use me like there was something and this has to do with destiny. This is to do with with with not missing destiny.

I think if there were if there were no other reason why I wanted to pursue and discover what shame is, how it is healed and get it all the same Adam like if there was no other reason than this right here is I didn't want to miss my destiny.

I didn't want to have things that God had for me to do, but there was something inside of me that was saying all know I'm not able in two to shame the two unworthy up to to do whatever because the fact of the matter is that God can do anything through anybody right and what is that that would cause that kind of feeling. I could list more I can list more but that was the kind inventory that I began to take and I encourage you to take a similar inventory. I encourage you to begin to look at your life and and and say if there is something that is recurring.

Maybe there is a thought pattern, and you continue to have that kind of thought pattern. Maybe it is negative cycle of thought, or maybe there certain sent you continue to stumble in that area. Maybe if you're drawn towards negative things. Maybe even addiction.

What is beneath all this talent right will have more teaching moment from today's important series to be accepted perfectly free to be yourself with no fear of injection rolled her eyes. Last no more anxious feeling that you feel like the pressure is always on longing for life with no shame in paradise before sinking into the world's relationship. No shaking ever since the fall has been riddled with shame you can't beat some condescending small tiny perfect in order to be satisfied since I'm not a measure at them as well. Right now the road ahead is pleasing shame and there is only the grace of God in Jesus Christ kind look for yourself yourself exposes the lies of shame. He leads you into a revolution of God's love that heals your cell discover freedom joy as you shall performance-based rating shame a few for good life-changing full-length book from Alan Wright for yourself. The gospel is shared when you get Alan Wright Ministries.

This broadcast is only possible because of listener financial support. When you get today. We will send you a special offer, six 877-544-4860 877-544-4861 come to our website pastor hour and.org these teaching you once again is I could list more I can list more but that was the kind inventory that I began to take and I encourage you to take a similar inventory.

I encourage you to begin to look at your life and and and say if there is something that is recurring. Maybe there is a thought pattern, and you continue to have that kind of thought maybe it is negative cycle of thought, or maybe there certain sent you continue to stumble in that area.

Maybe if you're drawn towards negative things. Maybe even addiction.

What is beneath all this, we will spend so much time and money trying to get better at other things. I mean I will go out and buying the new golf clubs just to get just hit it 5 yards further. You know, we will take lessons to learn. We will study the book but so many people go through their life and never examine their own life or singing of the most important thing is for me to be healed and to be set free so that's what this is really all about shame, says you don't measure up in there something that you need to do to make yourself acceptable and if you don't find out what that is and make yourself acceptable. Then you are going to have to keep working harder at it is what happens is that the same root of shame can lead us down equal and opposite negative paths we can go down a path that says if I've got to make myself more acceptable and I've got to got to do something to fix myself in order to really ever have approval and acceptance and love, then the answer is just work as hard as I cannot that to be constantly constantly thinking about what I need to do to get you like me what I need to do in order to make myself more acceptable and that is will be saying just leads down a path in my life. It led towards tendencies toward being a workaholic perfectionist and and and all the while very anxious, very anxious, but that same root of shame. It can lead an equal and opposite direction. But is the same root because another person might say, instead of saying what I just ought to try to be perfect. What they'll tend to say is, I'll never be perfect, so why try at all. So that person might just go into rebellion the words.

I think for so many of us, we tend to either move down a path that you could call religion and that is what do I need to do to get God to accept me. What do I need to do. It's all about me and what I need to do or we go down the path of rebellion and that path is also all about me.

What can I do to gratify my desires, but the root of this is anxiety. Here's the way I think it works is I think we have this lie that says I need to measure up and then we realized I don't measure up. In that gap in between there between. I don't I don't measure up.

And I need to measure up in between that gap right there I think is the greatest source of anxiety and the whole universe because right at that point that that's where all of hell taxes is right at that point because if if you don't measure up. And you have to measure up. Then for ever anxious about what if you're not measuring up. Now that anxiety leads to so many, many, many of our problems. In fact, I think this is what causes so much of the Senate. Our lives is so much of the addiction that people face. This is this is what is churning down inside the soul.

I need to do something more.

I never feel at peace. I never feel totally at rest. What happened in my life was. I took this inventory and I began preaching about this many many years ago I preached a sermon and it was like the heavens began to open up and I ended up preaching about 16 weeks but I knew then that it it it was just beginning my life I knew that I was on a journey and what happened from there was the Lord began to show me how this one lie was connected to many many other lies how it was a whole web of thoughts that just weren't really true and I began one by one to replace those false ideas with the truth of the gospel and that's what I am praying for you and I'm praying for all who are watching or participating or small groups or you're just you just want to be on this journey and you want to learn and grow. The sea is not just a study of the Scriptures and the promises of God going to see is an amazing truth of the gospel is what the gospel of Jesus Christ tells us is a message that is exactly the opposite of shame with the message of the gospel tells us is that yes you have said you fall short of the glory of God here is true in and of ourselves we don't measure up. But instead of telling you measure up, and then you'll be accepted. This is the gospel message that God left you while you were still in your sin. That is exactly the right moment. Christ came and he died for the ungodly. That Christ came while we were still lost in our sin still enemies of God. And so, the precise opposite message of shame is given to us in Jesus Christ. You can't measure up on your own. You never will be able to measure up on your own. But there is one who came in he is human. He was he was God, but he was totally human born as a baby in Bethlehem grew up as a carpenter in Nazareth and the hand of God was upon him. He was perfect in every way. He was totally righteous.

He deserve nothing but to be accepted by his father, but an unthinkable exchange. Jesus chose to lay down his life for you and for me, so that the message of the cross to you and to me is that the one who only deserve to be accepted in that moment was rejected by the world in his own father turned his face and he who knew no sin became your sin and mine so that we who believe in him could be reckoned as a righteousness of God. Shame says you need to measure up or you'll never be accepted.

Shame says I'm gonna withhold my love and my acceptance from you into you prove your worth to you prove that you can measure up to you fix those problems that you have been withhold love and acceptance to motivate you.

That's what shame says to what God says is exactly the opposite is.

Here's how I'm going to transform your life.

I want to transform your life by showing you love, that is perfect even when you don't deserve it in the perfect love of God will cast out the fear in your heart. It is absolutely remarkable delicious extraordinary and wonderful. It is paradise.

If you ever have a sense even for a moment of being totally and completely and fully love despite all of your weaknesses and shortcomings because in that you can be real and that you can love others, and in that you can be transform the whole world might be saying to us in one way or another. You are to be ashamed of yourself.

Shame on you, but through Jesus Christ. The gospel announces something entirely different.

Shame off you. That's what it's all about the hope that you will be able to begin digging into the wonders of the grace of God and for each of us as we continue to learn and grow. May every live shame be replaced by the astounding truth of the gospel, God's love for you is never ending. God's love is prominent. God's love is for God's love is unconditional. God's love can't be quenched.

God's love can't be earned. God's love is free. God's love is for you and Alan Wright. Today's good news from the teaching coup d'état in our series for yourself so vast realm is back with this in just a moment with today's good news thought to be accepted perfectly free to be yourself with no fear of injection don't roll their eyes in front of you. I love you last no more anxious feeling that you feel like the pressure is always on longing for life with no shame in paradise before sin came into the world and this relationship no shaking ever since the fall has been riddled with shame you can't be too soon.

Condescend how tiny perfect in order to meet others to decide who listens on a measure at them as well. Right now the road ahead is pleasing shame and there is only the grace of God in Jesus Christ kind look for yourself yourself exposes the lies of shame.

He leads you into a revolution of God's love that heals your cell discover freedom joy as you shall performance based living shame a few for good life-changing full-length book from Alan Wright for yourself. The gospel is shared when you get Alan Wright Ministries.

This broadcast is only possible because of listener financial support, six 877-544-4860 877-544-4861 come to our website past Rowan.org that chemistry with Pascarella and and I love the way you close that reminder again that this can be a shame. All you moment I think that the revolution that's going to be happening in many listener flies right now, Daniel, and this was the invitation is to hear the gospel in a deeper way.

God loves you. Not because you've performed for God, but because God is love. Does God care about our behaviors absolutely, but he does not need our good behavior. He doesn't need us to measure up in order to be accepted. We could never measure up. So God came to us in the person of Jesus Christ. And when you accept Christ. You are fully accepted in the beloved and nothing can ever change that God's love is perfect and perfect love casts out fear. What if there is a hidden tyrant in your soul like there was in my this tyrant doesn't put itself on billboards, but it certainly lords over you, maybe you don't realize it.

Shame it can be the motivational force and we don't even realize it. And I am inviting every listener to join me in the coup d'état to overthrow shame and replace it with the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, so that our lives gets fueled not by fear of failing not by the anxiety of not being accepted.

But we gets fueled by the certainty we have been accepted in Jesus Christ.

It will change everything in your life. Thanks for listening today. Visit us online@pastor.org or call 877-544-4860 that's 877-544-4860 if you only caught part of today's teaching. Not only can you listen again online but also get a daily email devotional that matches today's teaching right to your email inbox free. Find out more about these and other resources@pastor.org that's pastor out.org.

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