How To Have A Blessed and Successful Marriage

Harvest podcasts featuring Pastor Greg Laurie are brought to you by harvest partners to receive Pastor Greg free online daily devotions or to become a harvest partner, please visit us online@harvest.org tonight were going to talk about marriage. So let's begin by asking the question how many of you people are married, raise up your hand.

Okay, that's a great many of you.

How many of you are happily married, raise up your hand very good. How many of you are unhappily married, you better not okay that all of the bath. Interestingly, the probably said something about you unhappily married sit in the back and evidence of the thing that happy people happily married their role toward the front. Did you notice that family. Single people do we have out there using let's cut by the CU here because when I'm in a talk about tonight relates to you as well. Our text is Ephesians chapter 5 and the title of the message is how to have a blessed and successful marriage. Ephesians 5 let's begin with the word of prayer father. Marriage is a gift from you. And when the right man of the right woman come together led by your spirit and the obeying what the Bible teaches. It can be glorious. But when they disregard what your word teaches. It can be disastrous Lord we've seen so many struggling marriages. So many failing marriages way too many divorces, but we've seen some good ones to and we pray will see more. I pray that we will have the kind of marriage you want us to have for those of us that are married above those of us that are single that we will find that right man that white woman and even more to the point that we will be that right manner right woman, and that we will honor your word so we commit this time a Bible study to you now in Jesus name we pray. Amen. I heard about a husband and wife. There were celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary, so the husband announces wife.

Therefore, our 25 years of marital bliss together. I'm taking you to China while she was amazed China.

I've never been to China.

I'm so excited you're taking me to China if you didn't do something this extravagant is that for my 25th wedding anniversary. What you get into for our 50th.

That's what I'll pick you up said not so good by the web never told that joke before okay that's not a recycled job but this one is I heard about a couple that were celebrating 50 years of marriage together and that such an unusual occurrence that at their party newspaper reporter was sent to interview them to try to find out the secret to the longevity of their marriage. And you know how this one goes that and so that the reporter said that with a husband since her tell us how does you been married for 50 years of the same woman the minutes it will only tell you what my wife she's from Texas and does.

She's a plainspoken woman but probably goes back to our honeymoon in the reporter said. What happens is my wife and I decided on honeymoon in the Grand Canyon and we are writing those you know pack mules together and went along a very narrow little path and I noticed my wife's pack mule stumbled a little bit and she leaned forward and said that mule that someone in the thought that was kind of weird. He didn't know her that well this is what does that mean that one since they went a little bit further in the mule stumbled again and ceiling forward and said in the meals there.

That's why says that we went out a few feet further. Again the mule stumbled, she pulled 357 pistol out of her purse and shot the mule and they had told him that right there on the spot.

I said that's outrageous you shouldn't do that to an animal that's horrible.

I can't believe it is that you look at me and said that's one of their married ever since told her to talk about how to have a marriage God's way. You really don't want to have the world's way the world doesn't know anything about the world largely and when I see the world. I mean our culture today is largely hostile toward the family and everything that it stands for. I have never known a time when the family is under attack like it is today from those who want to redefine what it is those that just simply want to undermine it so we don't want to look to our secular culture for advice on how to have a successful marriage. We want to look to the word of God. I mean we look at all these Hollywood celebrities that hook up and are married for like eight minutes and then they get divorced.

Let's find some credible source here and of course we have that in the pages of the Scripture.

The Bible speaks directly to men and women and tells us how to have a successful marriage.

I know a little bit about marriage and a little bit about divorce. I've never been divorced. Thank God for that. My wife is never considered divorce murder. Yes, never divorce, but my mom was married and divorced seven times and she went through a lot of what you might describe his relationship so I don't really think they were. And so I saw how not to do it for many years of my childhood and then when I was at the point of getting married. I knew that I was going to make a lifelong commitment that I plan by the grace of God to honor in keeping I met those valves when I said you know something people come up to me and asked me to redo their valves and I have a problem with that, but I've never felt a great desire to redo my golf. I haven't broken them yet don't plan a break in them. I think once is good enough and I meant that when I said that to my wife and I know she meant it when she said it to me as well.

So what we want to do is find out how God tells us to do it you know it. There are people that talk about infatuation or love at first sight, and it's been said love at first sight is nothing special. That's when two people are been looking at each other for years and it becomes a miracle live in looking at the same woman now for 35 years and she looks better all the time.

You know, our love is only growing stronger or love is only grown longer.

The Bible says many waters cannot quench love. Neither can drown it. I remember the day we got married as though it were yesterday. My wife was a vision of beauty walking down the island. I look like something the cat draw again this gnarly long hair and this big bushy red beard. I am the ugliest tuxedo ever made. I didn't want to get their traditional one. So I got one that I thought was ultracool and I was a look of those old photos I just think what thinking on no, but my wife could see that underneath all of that here was a bald man and so we just been thankful to help people. The Lord is been the both of us and we sought to build our marriage on some of the principal going to share with you tonight. This is not an exhaustive message on the topic. There is much, much more than can be said there will be principles AND YOU'LL BE THINKING I NEED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THAT AND I'M SORRY I CAN'T COVER IT ALL IN ONE FELL SWOOP, BUT WE WILL TOUCH ON THE NUMBER OF IMPORTANT AREAS, THINGS THAT EPHESIANS 5 SPECIFICALLY TEACHES ABOUT MARRIAGE BEFORE I DIG IN.

I LIKE TO READ YOU A LETTER THAT CAME INTO ME THIS WEEK BECAUSE I ANNOUNCED I WAS SPEAKING ON MARRIAGE AND SO A COUPLE NAMED JIM AND LIZ WROTE THIS LETTER TO LET ME TAKE YOU BACK TO APRIL 1989. THIS IS JIM WRITING LIZ AND I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 5 YEARS, BUT SINCE NEITHER OF US KNEW THE LORD AT THAT TIME OUR MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP WAS NOT BOUNDED ON THE WORD OF GOD. OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS CONTENTIOUS VERSUS VERBALLY ABUSIVE AND AT TIMES EVEN PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE AS WELL. WE WERE CERTAINLY HEADED FOR DIVORCE COURT WHEN THE LORD BROUGHT A COWORKER INTO OUR LIVES.

HE INVITED US TO COME TO HARVEST ONE SUNDAY MORNING IN APRIL 1989 WE WERE RELUCTANT TO COME AND I EVEN REMEMBER THE THOUGHT OF WANTING TO TURN AROUND AND GO HOME SEVERAL TIMES AS WE DROVE THE CHURCH AS HE SAT IN THE PEWS OFF TO THE RIGHT SIDE CENTER. I STILL REMEMBER WHERE WE SAT AND WAITED FOR THE MORNING'S MESSAGE I FELT LIKE I SHOULDN'T BE THERE, BUT THAT WAS TO CHANGE VERY SOON.

FOR WHEN PASTOR GREG BEGAN HIS TEACHINGS. YET THE CONGREGATION TURN IN THEIR BIBLES TO EPHESIANS CHAPTER 5, WHERE HE BEGAN TO TEACH ABOUT THE MARRIAGE COVENANT AND THE ROLES OF THE HUSBAND-WIFE AT THAT MOMENT LIZ AND I BOTH FELT WE WERE THE ONLY PEOPLE IN THE SANCTUARY AND PASTOR GREG WAS SPEAKING DIRECTLY TO US. EVEN LOOK DIRECTLY AT IT SEVERAL TIMES DURING THE SERMON. PEOPLE ALWAYS THINK OF LOOKING AT THEM. YOU KNOW I I'M NOT LIKE HIM LOOKING AT YOU RIGHT NOW AND I'M LOOKING AT YOU. AND I DON'T MEAN I MEAN LITERALLY LOOKING OKAY SO I'M NOT REALLY I DON'T BUT PEOPLE THINK I DO THAT JUST BECAUSE THEY HAVE A GUILTY CONSCIENCE WORKING AS NONE BUT ANYWAY YOU GAVE THE INVITATION EXCEPT TRY TO REMEMBER MY HEART POUNDING IN YOU THAT VERY MOMENT GOD WAS CALLING TO HIS FAMILY. THE REST IS AS THEY SAY YES. OUR MARRIAGE WAS HEALED IS STRONGER NOW THAN EVER BEFORE, AND I PRAY AS YOU TEACH ON THE SUBJECT OF MARRIAGE AND THE FAMILY, OTHERS WILL HAVE THAT SAME EXPERIENCE SO YOU KNOW THE WORD OF GOD WORKS OKAY THAT'S ALL I WANT TO TELL YOU. I KNOW IT WORKS. I KNOW IT'S TRUE. I'VE SEEN IT WORK BUT SOMETIMES PEOPLE DON'T LIKE WHAT IT SAID. SOMETIMES PEOPLE DON'T LIKE WHAT THE BIBLE TEACHES ABOUT THE ROLE OF THE HUSBAND-WIFE. THIS IS THE WORD OF GOD. ONE THING THAT I OFTEN DO WITH COUPLES WHEN THEY COME TO ME FOR COUNSELING. BY THE WAY HAVE A COUPLE ENDS UP WITH ME FOR COUNSELING. THAT PROBABLY MEANS THEY TRIED EVERYTHING ELSE. IT'S ONE OF THOSE WELL WILL TALK TO PASTOR GREG ONLY IN THERE HANGING BY A THREAD.

SO USUALLY BY THE TIME I GET HOME. IT'S PRETTY FAR DOWN THE TRACK, BUT ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS I WILL ASK COUPLES WHEN THEY COME IN AND SIT DOWN FOR MARITAL COUNSELING. AS I WILL ASSUME THAT THERE BOTH CHRISTIANS ARE USUALLY SINGLE, THEN ALLOWS THEM TO, THEY BOTH BELIEVE THE BIBLE IS THE WORD OF GOD USUALLY SAY YES IMMEDIATELY. THEN I ASKED HIM ARE YOU WILLING TO DO WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS EVEN IF YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT, AND THEN THEY REALIZE I'M KIND SET THE TRAP FORUM BECAUSE I'VE NEVER FOUND A COUPLE DIVORCING YET THAT WERE DOING WITH THE BIBLE SET NEVER AND YOU KNOW WHAT, I DON'T THINK I EVER WILL. I THINK WE DO WHAT GOD SAYS WE WILL NOT BE HEADED TO DIVORCE COURT. BUT IF WE DON'T THEN WERE GOING TO HAVE TROUBLE SO WE CAN DIG IN WHAT THE SCRIPTURE HAS TO SAY. AS WE LOOK HERE IN EPHESIANS CHAPTER 5 FOR THOSE OF YOU THAT ARE SINGLE. I WOULD LIKE TO JUST POINT OUT THAT EVEN IF YOU'RE SINGLE TODAY. CHANCES ARE YOU WILL BE MARRIED. EVENTUALLY, STUDIES SHOW THAT 9/10 AMERICANS ARE MARRIED AT LEAST SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES NEXT TO ACCEPTING JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR SAVIOR AND LORD. THE MOST IMPORTANT DECISION YOU'RE GOING TO MAKE IS WHO YOU'RE GOING TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH IT SOMETHING YOU WANT TO ENTER INTO VERY CAREFULLY AND VERY PRAYERFUL.

YOU DON'T WANT TO RUSH THIS BECAUSE I'LL TELL YOU WHEN LIFE COMES TO AN END IS ONLY A HANDFUL OF THINGS THAT ARE REALLY GOING TO MATTER IF YOU REALLY COME DOWN TO SAY FAMILY AND TO A LESSER EXTENT. YOUR FRIENDS THING YOU'RE GOING TO THINK ABOUT IS YOUR FAITH, YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR LACK THEREOF, WITH GOD AND OFTEN WHEN I SPEAK WITH PEOPLE OR AT DEATHS DOOR THEIR THOUGHTS AND THEIR CONCERNS ARE ABOUT GOD AND THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM AND THAT ENTIRELY APPROPRIATE AND THEN IT GOES TO FAMILY, AND OFTEN THE RECOGNITION THAT THERE MAY HAVE BEEN FAILURES THERE ARE SHORTCOMINGS IN OR YOU WANT YOUR FAMILY AROUND YOU, AND I TELL YOU ALL THOSE OTHER THINGS THAT WERE IMPORTANT YOU PRIOR TO THAT DON'T MEAN ANYTHING AT THAT POINT. SO THESE ARE THINGS THAT WE WANT TO GET RIGHT. WE WANT TO SEE WHAT GOD'S WORD HAS TO SAY BECAUSE IS ALREADY TOUCHED ON FOR A MOMENT.

DIVORCE IS SO COMMONPLACE NOW. IT'S ONE THING WHEN PEOPLE BREAK APART OUT THERE IN OUR WORLD WHEN WE START SEEING THE SEEN IT HAPPEN IN THE CHURCH THAT REALLY CAUSES ME GREAT DISTRESS. WHEN YOU SEE IT HAPPENING AMONG PEOPLE THAT PROFESS TO BE FOLLOWERS OF JESUS WHO SIMPLY DISREGARD WHAT THE WORD OF GOD SAYS MOST DIVORCES THAT I SEE COULD BE AVERTED.

THEY COULD BE AVOIDED, BUT THEY JUST DON'T WANT TO STICK WITH IT AND I'LL TELL YOU MOST DIVORCES THAT I THINK ARE NOT BIBLICAL. AND BY THE WAY, THERE ARE BIBLICAL GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE BUT FOR MOST OF THE DIVORCES I SEE THOSE ARE NOT THE GROUNDS THAT ARE BEING DRAWN FROM ITS RATHER OTHER REASONS THEY DON'T BELONG ANYMORE OR THERE AND HAPPY IN THE RELATIONSHIP ARE OTHER THINGS THAT THOSE SITES SO WEDLOCK SHOULD BE A PADLOCK. OKAY SO FOR YOU SINGLES OUT THERE, LET ME JUST SAY THIS TO YOU.

TAKE YOUR TIME DON'T RUSH IT.

AND IF YOU DON'T PLAN ON SPENDING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE FOR THAT PERSON. PLEASE DON'T GET MARRIED, JUST STAY SINGLE. BUT IF YOU'RE WILLING TO DO IT GOD'S WAY. YOUR RENT FOR A GREAT ADVENTURE AND GREAT BLESSINGS BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS RIGHT. LET'S TAKE AN EPHESIANS CHAPTER 5. I WILL READ VERSES 1 TO 12. NOW BEFORE WE ACTUALLY GET TO THE TOPIC OF MARRIAGE.

PAUL LAY SOME VERY IMPORTANT GROUNDWORK EPHESIANS 5 VERSE ONE THEREFORE BE IMITATORS OF GOD'S DEAR CHILDREN AND WALK IN LOVE, AS CHRIST HAS LOVED US AND GIVEN HIMSELF FOR US IN OFFERING AND A SACRIFICE TO GOD FOR A SWEET SMELLING SAVOR. BUT FORNICATION AND UNCLEANNESS, OR COVETOUSNESS, LET IT NOT EVEN BE NAMED AMONG YOU, AS IS FITTING FOR ST. NEITHER GODLINESS NOR FOOLISH TALKING, OR SUGGESTING WHICH ARE NOT FITTING BUT RATHER GIVING OF THANKS FOR THIS. YOU KNOW THAT NO FORNICATOR UNCLEAN PERSON OR COVETOUS MAN WAS IN IDOLATER, HAS ANY INHERITANCE IN THE KINGDOM OF CHRIST AND OF GOD. LET NO ONE DECEIVE YOU WITH EMPTY WORDS OR BECAUSE OF THESE THINGS THE WRATH OF GOD COMES UPON THE SONS OF DISOBEDIENCE. THEREFORE, DO NOT BE PARTAKERS WITH FOR YOU WERE ONCE DARKNESS, BUT NOW YOU ARE LIGHT IN THE LORD WALK AS CHILDREN OF THE LINE FOR THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IS IN ALL GOODNESS, RIGHTEOUSNESS AND TRUTH FINDING OUT WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE TO THE LORD AND HAVE NO FELLOWSHIP WITH THE UNFRUITFUL WORKS OF DARKNESS, BUT RATHER EXPOSE THEM WORD IS SHAMEFUL EVEN TO SPEAK OF THOSE THINGS WHICH ARE DONE BY THEM IN SECRET. NOW PAUL GETS DOWN TO THE NITTY-GRITTY. IN THIS SECTION OF EPHESIANS, HE DEALS WITH ISSUES AND TEMPTATIONS WE FACE EVEN AS CHRISTIAN AND HE STARTS BY TELLING THEM THAT THEY ARE TO BE IMITATORS OF GOD. VERSE ONE.

I LOVE THIS PHRASE, HE SAYS, BE IMITATORS OF GOD AS DEAR CHILDREN, LISTEN, YOU'RE NOT JUST A CHILD OF GOD. DEAR CHILD OF GOD. DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH GOD LOVES YOU. ARE YOU AWARE OF THE DEATH OF HIS AFFECTION TOWARD YOU WILL REMEMBER WHEN THE LORD WAS BAPTIZED WHEN JESUS WAS BAPTIZED BY JOHN THAT THE FATHER SAID THIS IS MY BELOVED SON IN WHOM I AM WELL PLEASED YOU GOT WAS VERY PLEASED WITH THE SITE.

GOD LOVED AND LOVES HIS SON THE LORD JESUS CHRIST IS A THAT'S GREAT THAT'S JESUS, NOT ME. BUT LISTEN TO THIS. JESUS SAID IN JOHN 1722 TO 23. I'VE GIVEN THEM THE GLORY YOU GAVE ME. SPEAKING OF THE FATHER AND THE TRUE LORD'S PRAYER HERE SO THAT THEY MAY BE ONE AS WE ARE IN THEM AND YOU AND ME AS THEY ARE PERFECTED IN THE ONE OF THE WORLD MAY KNOW THAT YOU SENT ME, I WILL UNDERSTAND.

LISTEN TO THIS THAT YOU LOVE THEM AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE ME. WHAT JESUS JUST SAID TO THE FATHER THAT GOD LOVES ME AS MUCH AS HE LOVES JESUS CHRIST THAT GOD LOVES YOU AS MUCH AS HE LOVES THE SON OF GOD. IF THE LORD HIMSELF ABOUT SET IT I WOULD NEVER SUGGEST SUCH A THING. THIS IS WHAT THE BIBLE TEACHES YOUR DEAR CHILD OF GOD. WE NEED TO START LIVING LIKE THAT WE DON'T BEHAVE AS CHILDREN OF GOD SO OFTEN, BUT WE ARE WERE ADOPTED INTO HIS FAMILY, WITH FULL RIGHTS AND PRIVILEGES.

THE BIBLE SAYS THAT WHEN WE BECOME BELIEVERS IN JESUS WERE ACCEPTED IN THE BELOVED.

AND THAT SIMPLY MEANS THAT NOW GOD SEES YOU IN CHRIST, HE DOESN'T SEE YOU FOR WHAT YOU WORRY SEES YOU FOR WHAT YOU ARE AND WHAT WILL MAKE YOU INTO TO LET THAT SINK IN FOR A MOMENT YOUR DEAR CHILD, NOW AS I CONTEMPLATE THAT THAT YOU HAVE ME IN THE WAY THAT I LIVE IN THIS WORLD.

HOW SHOULD IT AFFECT ME NUMBER ONE, IT SHOULD CAUSE ME TO WANT TO STAY FROM A STAY AWAY FROM IMMORALITY. AGAIN IT YOU BECAUSE YOU WANT TO STAY FROM IT AWAY FROM IMMORALITY VERSE GREAT FORNICATION AND UNCLEANNESS, OR COVETOUSNESS, LET IT NOT EVEN BE NAMED AMONG YOU, AS IS FITTING FOR ST. WHAT WOULD ALL BRING UP SUCH UNSAVORY THINGS LIKE THIS WILL UNDERSTAND THESE BELIEVERS WERE LIVING IN EPHESUS. EPHESUS WAS THE CAPITAL OF THE ROMAN PROVINCE OF ASIA WAS A BUSY COMMERCIAL PORT OF WEALTHY AND AFFLUENT AREA WAS ALSO THE HEADQUARTERS OF THE CULT OF THE GODDESS DIANA IMMORALITY WAS RAMPANT THROUGHOUT EPHESUS. THOUSANDS OF PROSTITUTES WORKING FOR THE TEMPLE WOULD COMB THE STREETS OF THE CITY LOOKING FOR POTENTIAL RECRUITS MEN THAT THEY WOULD DRAG OFF TO THE TEMPLE AND ENGAGE IN THESE SEXUAL RIGHTS AS THEY OFFERED WORSHIP TO THIS FALSE DEITIES SO THESE EPHESIAN BELIEVERS WERE GODLY PEOPLE LIVING IN A GODLESS PLACE A POSITIVE GET DOWN TO BRASS TACKS EXAMINE, AND IT JUST FELL IT OUT FOR YOU GUYS AS FOLLOWERS OF JESUS.

YOU CAN LIVE THIS WAY ANY MORE. NO MORE OF THIS IN MEN.

IF YOU THINK YOU HAD A BAD THEN IMAGINE WHAT THEY WOULD THINK OF OUR CULTURE TODAY. NEED I SAY THAT WE ARE A SEX OBSESSED CULTURE.

SO PAUL TELLS THEM WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT TO DO HERE IS AN INTERESTING THING I WANT TO THE NOTICE HE SAYS OR SHOULD NOT BE FORNICATION THAN JUST A BREAKDOWN, FORNICATION IS SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. THERE'S NEVER ANY JUSTIFICATION FOR THAT. NEVER ANY RATIONALE FOR THAT. NEVER ANY SPECIAL ALLOWANCE FOR THAT.

THAT IS ALWAYS A SIN BEFORE GOD FORNICATION. BUT PAUL DOESN'T JUST MENTION THAT HE MENTIONS UNCLEANNESS AND COVETOUSNESS, AND THERE SHOULD NOT EVEN BE I CAN OBJECT FOR IMPORTANT NOT JUST THAT YOU SHOULD NOT DO IT, BUT THERE SHOULD NOT EVEN BE A HUMAN OF IT. YOU SEE, WE MAY NOT TECHNICALLY DO THE THINGS THAT WICKED PEOPLE DO, BUT WE MAY WATCH THEM DO IT WITH SOME PLEASURE AND ARE VOYEURISTIC IN TWISTED WORLD THAT WERE LIVING IN TODAY WE CAN FOLLOW THE LATEST ANTICS OF THE GODLESS OR THEY MIGHT POSTED ON YOUTUBE. THEY MIGHT EVEN TWEET ABOUT IT, WE CAN SEE A PICTURE OF WHAT THEY'RE UP TO. WE CAN SEE IT IN REAL TIME AND I'VE NEVER SEEN SO MUCH INTEREST IN THE LIFESTYLES OF THESE PEOPLE LIKE WE SEE TODAY. BUT HERE'S WHAT PAUL IS SAYING HERE AND IMITATOR OF GOD.

NOT ONLY SHOULD YOU NOT DO THOSE THINGS. THERE SHOULDN'T EVEN BE A CANDIDATE IN YOUR LIFE GOING TAKE TO THE STEP FURTHER, NEVER TO GODLY PEOPLE SHOULD NOT ONLY AVOID IMMORALITY, BUT THEY SHOULD ALSO AVOID OBSCENE TOP GIVERS FOR NEITHER FILTHINESS, NOR FOOLISH TALKING, NOR COURSE SUGGESTING WHICH ARE NOT FITTING BUT RATHER THE GIVING OF THANKS. THIS WORD FILTHINESS HAS TO DO WITH GENERAL OBSCENITY TALK THAT IS DEGRADING AND DISGRACEFUL. PAUL ALSO MENTIONS COURSE TESTING YOU KNOW WHAT THAT IS.

COURSE SUGGESTING IS THE DOUBLE ENTENDRE THAT SEXUAL INNUENDO YOU KNOW HOW SOME PEOPLE CAN TURN EVERYTHING INTO A WEIRD JOKE IN YOUR LIKE YOU ARE SO SICK.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH EVERYTHING. I REALLY DON'T WANT TO PUT WORDS TO THAT UNIT. SO WHAT I'M SAYING THIS IS AGAIN EVERYTHING IS SET YOU SEE EVERYTHING THAT WAY. THAT'S HOW THEY SEE THE WORLD YOU KNOW BEER GOGGLES, YOU KNOW, AND THROUGH SEX OBSESSION BECAUSE THEY FEED THEIR MIND AND THE HEART. WITH THAT SORT OF THING. SO IT COMES OUT IN THE WAY THAT THEY LIVE AND THE WAY THE FACE NO.

IT SHOULD NOT BE THAT WAY. AMONG CHRISTIAN CERTAINLY SHOULD NOT BE THIS WAY AMONG PASTORS WE GET A POPULAR TREND IN SOME CHURCHES TODAY IS FOR PASTORS TO COST FROM THE PULPIT. HEY, HOW COOL IS THAT OUR PASTOR BECAUSE SAYS WHAT HE JUST SAID THIS MORNING THAT WERE THE OTHER DAY AND EVERYBODY LEFT. THAT'S NOT COOL AT ALL. THAT'S IRREVERENT AND IT'S WRONG. WE USED TO BE THAT WAY WERE NOT THAT WAY ANYMORE. THAT'S WHAT I HAVE TO DO TO BE RELEVANT AND I'LL BE IRRELEVANT. OKAY, I DON'T THINK I HAVE TO CROSS THAT LINE AND SPEAK THAT WAY AND YOU KNOW SOME WILL SAY WILL IT'S AUTHENTIC, YET IT'S AUTHENTICALLY WRONG.

THAT'S WHAT IT IS YOU CAN BE AUTHENTIC WITHOUT CROSSING THE LINE AND THEN THERE'S THIS TREND IN SOME CHURCHES TODAY WERE THAT THEY HAVE SUCH AN EMPHASIS ON SEX TO ATTRACT CROWDS SO DOCTORS WILL GET UP AND SAY, RUBBING THE SEX CHALLENGE AND WE WANT TO HAVE DOWNTURN ITSELF.

THEY HAVE SEX EVERY NIGHT WITH YOUR WIFE FOR 30 DAY OKAY AND YOU KNOW AND I WANT TO TEACH ON THIS AND THE MOTIVES OF THE BOOK OF THE SONG OF SOLOMON, WHICH IS FINE AT THE BOOK IN THE BIBLE IT INSPIRED BY GOD BUT THEY TEACH IT IS OVER SOME KIND OF A SEX MANUAL INSTEAD OF TEACHING IT IN THE WAY IT'S PRESENTED IN SCRIPTURE WITH RESPECT WITH DELICACY HONOR.

NO, IT'S SORT OF PLAYING TO THE PROCURING INTERESTS OF THE TWISTED CULTURE AND THIS IS ALL DONE IN THE NAME OF RE-ENVISIONING CHURCH AND REIMAGINING CHURCH FRIENDS. WE DON'T NEED TO RE-ENVISION OR REIMAGINE THE CHURCH.

WE NEED TO REDISCOVER IT THE WAY GOD GAVE IT TO US IN THE BIBLE, THE CHURCH IS FINE, JUST AS IT IS AND I JUST SEE THIS BAR GETTING LOWERED MORE AND MORE AND I WHEN I THINK I'VE SEEN AND HEARD IT ALL. I HEAR SOMETHING OF THIS SHOULD NOT BE AMONG GOD'S PEOPLE. THE CHURCH NEEDS TO BE THE CHURCH. I DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR THE FACT THAT WE COME HERE TO WORSHIP GOD, WE COME HERE TO HEAR THE WORD OF GOD. I'M NOT A STANDUP COMIC BOY TRY TO BE AT TIMES. I'M NOT AN MC AM NOT AN ENTERTAINER I'M NOT A MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER. I MET A CULTURAL ARCHITECT. I'M NOT A POP PSYCHOLOGIST. I AM A PREACHER OF THE WORD OF GOD AND I'M Happy TO BE ONE THAT'S WHAT I'M HERE TO DO AND YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD, YOU'RE A DEAR CHILD OF GOD AND THAT WE HAVE SERIOUS RAIN COMING DOWN YOUR ABOUT THAT RAINDROPS KEEP PULLING MY HEAD.

THE KEY OF SOMETIMES UNDERSTAND THE CURRENT VERY GOOD ONE. NUMBER THREE GODLY PEOPLE MUST NOT COVET RESPONSE KNOW THIS IS NO FORNICATOR UNCLEAN PERSON OR COVETOUS MAN, WHO IS AN IDOLATER, HAS ANY INHERITANCE IN THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND WHAT IS COVERED INTERESTING THING YOU CAN TRANSLATE THE WORD COVET TO ENHANCE AFTER SIR LIKE AN ANIMAL YOU KNOW IT JUST TONGUE HANGING OUT.

THE THIRSTY, THEY WANT SOMETHING. MAYBE IT'S A PREY. WHATEVER IT IS.

THIS IS THE CONCEPT THAT IS GIVEN COVET TINA'S ECO-VILLAGES EAGERLY DESIRE SOMETHING THAT BELONGS TO ANOTHER TO SET THE HEART ON SOMETHING UP IN YOUR NEIGHBORS WIFE OR HUSBAND OR SOMETHING THAT IS THEIRS AND WERE CLEARLY TOLD IN SCRIPTURE TO NOT COVET. NUMBER FOUR GODLY PEOPLE ARE TO WALK IN A NEW WAY. VERSE 8 TO 10 YOU WERE ONCE DARKNESS NOW YOUR LIGHT IN THE LORD WANT HIS CHILDREN OF THE LIGHT FOR THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IS IN ALL GOODNESS AND RIGHTEOUSNESS AND TRUTH FINDING OUT WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE TO THE LORD WHAT IS THIS MEAN HE USES THREE WORDS, GOODNESS, RIGHTEOUSNESS AND TRUE. THIS IS HOW WE ARE TO WALK HOW IN GOODNESS BETTER TRANSLATION OF THE WORD WOULD BE GENEROSITY GODLY PEOPLE SHOULD BE GENEROUS PEOPLE, NOT STINGY. SECONDLY, WE SHOULD BE RIGHTEOUS IN ITS CONTEXT AND SPEAKS OF INTEGRITY IN YOUR DEALINGS WITH OTHERS. INTEGRITY IN YOUR FIELD AND DEALINGS WITH OTHERS.

CHRISTIAN SHOULD BE GODLY IN THEIR BUSINESS DEALINGS.

YOU CAN'T JUST SAY WHAT BUSINESS IS BUSINESS. WHILE YOU KNOW THAT SOMETIMES A WAY OF SAYING I'LL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET A HEAD OF MY PARTICULAR LINE OF WORK. NO FINE.

YOU HAVE YOUR LINE OF WORK, BUT DO IT WITH INTEGRITY. DO YOUR WORK WELL DO IT WITH PRECISION, DO IT WITH HONESTY. THAT'S HOW WE ARE TO LIVE AND IN TRUTH.

AND THAT MEANS THE ABSENCE OF FALSEHOOD AND DECEPTION. GODLY PEOPLE SHOULD BE HONEST PEOPLE. NOW HE TAKES IT A STEP FURTHER. NUMBER FIVE GODLY PEOPLE ARE SUPPOSED TO CONFRONT SIN GODLY PEOPLE ARE SUPPOSED TO FRONT CONFRONTS IN VERSE 11, HAVE NO FELLOWSHIP WITH THE FRUITFUL WORKS OF DARKNESS RATHER EXPOSE THEM. WHOA, THIS GETS TRICKY.

NOW, BECAUSE THE WATCHWORDS OF OUR DAY ARE TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE, UNDERSTANDING, SOMETIMES EVEN WHEN I'M DEALING WITH THE SUBJECT IN THE COURSE OF TEACHING THE BIBLE. I'LL SAVE THIS PARTICULAR TEACHING IS WRONG WITH THIS IDEA IS INCORRUPTIBLE. YOU KNOW THAT'S NOT LOVE YOU. WE GOT IS IT IS LOVING BECAUSE I'M LOOKING OUT FOR THE SHEEP.

YOU SEE, TRYING TO PROTECT GOD'S PEOPLE FROM GETTING IN THE SOMETHING THAT CAN HURT THEM. HOW IS THAT NOT LOVING THAT WOULD BE LIKE SOMEONE SAYING YOU KNOW IF YOUR LITTLE TODDLERS IN THE BACKYARD AND YET CO WILL CLIMB OVER THE FENCE AND YOU GET A STICK TO DRIVE AND WHAT WILL. THAT'S NOT LOVING ALL IT IS LOVING FOR THE CHILD ON THE JOB WALL WITHOUT ANY PAYING OF CONSCIENCE.

I PROTECT THE CHILD IN THE SAME WAY WE HAVE TO CONFRONT SIN WHEN WE SEE IT. IN FACT, AS YOU LOOK AROUND IN OUR CULTURE TODAY. IF YOU JUST SPEAK UP FOR WHAT IS TRUE. YOUR BRANDED AS INTOLERANT, PURITANICAL, BIGOTED, AND SO FORTH.

BUT THE BIBLE SAYS HAVE NO FELLOWSHIP WITH THE UNFRUITFUL WORKS OF DARKNESS, BUT EXPOSING THE WORD EXPOSED HERE IS THE IDEA OF RE-PROOF CORRECTION PUNISHMENT OR DISCIPLINE. IT'S TO CONFRONT SIN SO IF YOU HAVE A FRIEND THAT YOU KNOW THAT MAYBE IS A FOLLOWER OF JESUS, AND YOU SEE THEM COMPROMISING.

YOU NEED TO CONFRONT THEM NOW, HAVING SAID THAT, LET ME ADD TO IT WITH LOVE AND WISDOM AND OTHER SOME PEOPLE THERE JUST A LITTLE TOO QUICK TO CONDEMN EVERYTHING, BUT THEN THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE THAT NEVER DEAL WITH ANYTHING A GREAT MODEL IS NATHAN THE PROPHET. YOU KNOW DAVID AND FALLEN INTO SIN. IN FACT HE HAD BEEN LIVING IN CENTRAL FULL YEAR IN THE NOT YET REPENTED ALREADY COMMITTED ADULTERY WITH BATHSHEBA AND SO NATHAN WAITED FOR THE RIGHT TIME TO GO TO THE KING. HE TOLD HIM A LITTLE STORY AND ILLUSTRATION THAT HE IS. DAVID TOOK THE BAIT AND NATHAN THEN BOLDLY SAID YOU ARE THE MEDICAL LOSSES LIKE TO SAY THAT TO A KING WITH THE IDEAS HE DID SPEAK UP WE ARE TO GO HUMILITY WHERE TO GO ON LOVE AND WE ARE TO SPEAK THE TRUTH TO PEOPLE THAT NEED TO HEAR IT. SO THIS IS HOW WE ARE TO LIVE.

THIS IS WHAT GOD'S WORD IS TELLING US NOW LISTEN TO VERSE 13 ALL THINGS THAT ARE EXPOSER MADE MANIFEST BY THE LIGHT. WHATEVER MAKES MANIFESTOES LIKE THEREFORE HE SAYS AWAKE YOU THAT SLEEP ARRIVES FROM THE DEAD IN CHRIST WILL GIVE YOU LIGHT SEE THAT YOU WALK CIRCUMSPECTLY, NOT AS FOOLS, BUT AS WISE, REDEEMING THE TIME, BECAUSE THE DAYS ARE EVIL.

THEREFORE DO NOT BE UNWISE, BUT UNDERSTAND WHAT THE WILL OF THE LORD IS AND DON'T BE DRUNK WITH WINE, IN WHICH IS DISSIPATION, BUT BE FILLED WITH THE SPIRIT SPEAKING YOURSELF IN PSALMS AND HYMNS AND SPIRITUAL SONGS, SINGING AND MAKING MELODY IN YOUR HEART TO THE LORD, GIVING THANKS ALWAYS FOR ALL THINGS THAT GOD THE FATHER IN THE NAME OF THE LORD JESUS. VERSE 21 UNDERLINE THAT WILL COME BACK TO IT SUBMITTING TO ONE ANOTHER IN THE FEAR OF GOD KNOWS WE ARE CLOSING IN PAUL'S TEACHINGS TO HUSBANDS AND WIVES.

LET'S CONSIDER THE WORDS THAT PRECEDE THE FIRST, HE TELLS US WE ARE TO TURN ON THE LINE.

VERSE 13 ALL THINGS ARE MADE MANIFEST FOR THE LIFE WHATEVER MAKES MANIFEST HIS LIFE. WE CAN FIND SOMETHING YOU NEED TO TURN ON THE LIGHT. NEVER LOSE SOMETHING IN THE DARK, SOMETIMES IN THE MORNING WHEN I'M GETTING READY OFTEN TRUST IN THE DARK AND THEN WHEN I GET ON ALIVE WHO THIS DOESN'T EXACTLY MATCH NOW DOES IT LIGHT HELPS LIGHT EXPOSES THINGS LIKE SHOWS THINGS FOR WHAT THEY REALLY ARE. SO SHINE THE LIGHT OF GOD'S WORD ON YOUR LIFE AND THE WAY THAT YOU LIVE AND SHINE IT ON YOUR MARRIAGE OR YOUR SINGLENESS AND WAKE UP FROM YOUR SLEEP NUMBER TWO VERSE 14.

AWAKE YOU THAT SLEEP YOU CAN'T SLEEP WALK THROUGH LIFE WAKE UP, TAKE ACTION, WAKE UP TO THE REALITY OF A CULTURE THAT IS HOSTILE TO YOUR FAITH, AND HOSTILE TO THE FAMILY AND THEN WALKED CAREFULLY, NUMBER THREE VERSE 15 WALK CIRCUMSPECTLY THIS WORD IS THE BASIC IDEA OF SOMETHING THAT IS ACCURATE AND EXACT.

IT CONVEYS THE IDEA OF LOOKING EXAMINING AND INVESTIGATING SOMETHING WITH GREAT CARE. SORT OF LIKE A CONTRACT THAT YOU'RE ABOUT TO SIGN READ THE FINE PRINT BEFORE YOU AFFIX YOUR SIGNATURE TO IT ITS ATTENTION TO DETAIL THE SAME WAY IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. READ THE FINE FRIENDS OF WHAT THE WORD OF GOD SAYS DON'T SAY YOUR VOWS UNTIL YOU'RE READY TO LIVE BY THAT A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS A RESULT OF ATTENTION TO DETAIL.

GOOD MARRIAGES DON'T JUST HAPPEN RANDOMLY, OR BY ACCIDENT. THEY HAPPEN BECAUSE PEOPLE APPLY WITH THE WORD OF GOD SAID, FOR ALL PRACTICAL PURPOSES TO BE THE HUSBAND, THE WIFE THE FATHER AND THE MOTHER GOD WANTS US TO BE REQUIRES US TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT WE NEED HIS HELP TO REDEEM THE TIME, HE SAYS, BECAUSE THE DAYS ARE EVIL. VERSE 16 MEANS TO REDEEM OR TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR TIME, GET THESE THINGS SORTED OUT, GET YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER, AS THE PROPHET SAID TO KING HEZEKIAH, GET YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER FOR YOU SHOW DIE AND NOT LIVE AS YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER. IS IT WHAT GOD WANTED TO BE SINGLE. GREG GOT IT'S HARD TO BE A HUSBAND. IT'S HARD TO BE A WIFE. IT'S HARD TO BE A PARENT. I KNOW GOD IS NASTY TO DO ANYTHING HE DOESN'T GIVE YOU THE POWER TO DO THAT BRINGS THE POINT NUMBER 550 FILLED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT. NOW THIS APPLIES TO ALL SORTS OF THINGS NOT PURELY TO MARRIAGE.

OBVIOUSLY, BUT IT CERTAINLY APPLIES TO MARRIAGE AS WELL. IF YOU WANT TO BE THE HUSBAND. GOD WANT YOU TO BE.

YOU NEED THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. IF YOU WANT TO BE A WIFE. GOD WANTS YOU TO BE.

YOU NEED TO BE FILLED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT, VERSE 18.

DON'T BE DRUNK WITH WINE WILL BE FILLED WITH THE SPIRIT YOU NEED THIS POWER IN YOUR LIFE. AND OF COURSE YOU KNOW THAT FROM THE ORIGINAL LANGUAGE IS AN INTERESTING SHADES HERE DOWN.

THAT HELP US TO UNDERSTAND THIS RINSES THE BOURBON. THE GREEK VERB REBUILD IS IN THE IMPERATIVE MODE, MEANING THAT IT'S NOT A SUGGESTION BUT IT'S A COMMAND THAT THE COMMANDER FAILED TO DO SO. TO EFFECTIVELY CUT OFF YOUR POWER SUPPLY AND RENDER YOU, UNABLE TO BE THE HUSBAND, WIFE, OR PARENT GOD WANTS YOU TO BE SO.

GOD'S COMMENDING YOU TO BE FILLED WITH THE SPIRIT NOT ONLY FOR MARRIAGE BUT FOR EVERYTHING IN LIFE TO LIVE AS A CHRISTIAN, YOU NEED TO BE FILLED WITH THE SPIRIT.

IT'S NOT AN OPTION NUMBER TWO. THE VERB IN THE GREEK SPEAKS OF A CONTINUOUS ACTION THEY COULD BETTER BE TRANSLATED BE CONTINUOUSLY FILLED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT. YEAH THIS MAY HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR EMOTIONS.

WE ATTACH WAY TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE TO THE FEELING OF THE SPIRIT WILL EVEN SEE PREACHERS YOU'RE GETTING READY TO PRAY FOR SOMEONE YOU'RE JUST GONNA RECEIVE THAT POWER GET READY GET READY AND I'LL THINK YOU KNOW THERE'S A HEAVEN FOR ALL AND ALL THAT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THAT WAY BECAUSE THAT'S NOT WHAT IT MEANS TO BE FILLED. ANOTHER WAY YOU COULD SENSING THE WORD BE FILLED BE CONTROLLED BY THE SPIRIT CONTROLLED BY THE SPIRIT. THE IDEAS OF THE WIND FILLING THE SALE. THE IDEAS ALSO OF SALT PERMEATING MEAT GOES AWAY. THE WORD WOULD BE USED IN OUR COMMON LANGUAGE AND SO HERE'S WHAT GOD IS SAYING.

LET THE HOLY SPIRIT FILL YOUR SALES. LET THE HOLY SPIRIT PERMEATE EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE. LET THE HOLY SPIRIT CONTROL YOU IN ALL THAT YOU SAY AND DO AND THIS IS A COMMAND AND THIS IS SOMETHING YOU SHOULD DO OVER AND OVER AGAIN. RIGHT NOW, HAVING SAID ALL THAT LETS START DIGGING INTO THE ROLES OF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE. LET'S START WITH THE WORD THAT VERY FEW PEOPLE LIKE TO HEAR A VERY UNPOPULAR WORK. THE WORD SUBMISSION. SUBMISSION.

I DON'T LIKE TO SET WE DON'T DO THIS IS A WORD THAT IS USED IN THE PAGES OF THE BIBLE.

WHILE WE AFRAID THIS EVENT WILL I DON'T WANT ANYONE TAKING ADVANTAGE.

I HAVE MY RIGHTS.

I KNOW I HAVE A SAY-SO HERE AS WELL.

AND SO WE HEAR THE VERSE QUOTED WILL COME TO THE MOMENT WIVES SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND DIED NOT DISAGREE WITH GOD, AND KNOW WILL HOLD ON NOW. FIRST OF ALL, LET'S MAKE SURE WE UNDERSTAND WHAT IT MEANS AND LET'S READ THE BURSAR PROCEEDED BEFORE WE ARE TOLD THAT WIVES SHOULD SUBMIT THE HUSBAND'S WE REVERSE 21 SUBMITTING ONE TO ANOTHER IN THE FEAR OF GOD FOR 22 WIVES, SUBMIT YOUR OWN HUSBANDS, AS TO THE LORD FOR THE HUSBAND IS AND OF THE WIFE AS CHRIST IS THE HEAD OF THE CHURCH IS THE SAVIOR OF THE BODY. THEREFORE, JUST THAT THE CHURCH IS SUBJECT TO CHRIST, SO LET THE WIVES BE TO THEIR OWN HUSBANDS IN EVERYTHING. NOT ONLY ARE WIVES TO SUBMIT TO HUSBANDS BUT LISTEN. HUSBANDS ARE TO SUBMIT TO THEIR WIVES AS WELL SAY NOT WHAT WHAT IS THAT ME THAT'S WHAT IT SAYS. VERSE 21 SUBMITTING TO ONE ANOTHER IN THE FEAR OF GOD. BUT WHAT IS THAT MEAN TO SUBMIT MEANS TO GET AN ORDER UNDER SOMETHING INTENSELY SOMETIMES USED IN THE MILITARY SENSE AND A MEANS TO RANK THE KNEE TO RANK THE NEED FOR INSTANCE, IN THE MILITARY YOU HAVE DIFFERENT RANKS SEARCH.

THERE'S MANY OF THEM. BUT BRENT SENT YOU THE FIRST LIEUT. MANY OF THE COL. VIEW OF THE GENERAL AND SUPPORT YOU'VE A CHAIN OF COMMAND IN THE MILITARY AND YOU HAVE A CHAIN OF COMMAND IN LIFE AS WELL. SO HERE'S WHAT IT SAME. HUSBAND SUBMISSION TO HIS WIFE.

THIS MONTH DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE ABDICATES HIS RESPONSIBILITY OF LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME, BUT IT DOES MEAN THAT HE HELPS HER TO BEAR HER BURDEN. ANOTHER WAY YOU COULD TRANSLATE THIS VERSUS SUPPORTING ONE ANOTHER IN THE FEAR OF GOD.

HE GETS UNDERNEATH HER TO HELP CARRY HER CARE IS ALWAYS READY TO MEET HER NEEDS AND SACRIFICE HIS OWN DESIRES AND SHE IS WILLING TO DO THE SAME FOR HIM.

HERE'S THE IDEA YOU PUT THE NEEDS OF YOUR MATE ABOVE YOUR OWN WILL SHUT UP. YOU DO THIS, DON'T THINK ABOUT THAT DON'T READ EACH OTHER'S MAIL. HERE'S YOUR MAIL MEN, WOMEN, DO YOUR PART IS IMMEDIATELY DUDE IN THE ELDERLY. I UPDATED OKAY YOU PUT THE NEEDS OF YOUR MATE ABOVE YOU JUST WANT TO BE YOUR MARRIAGE THING I WANT TO MAKE THIS THE HAPPIEST WOMAN THAT EVER LIVED ARE THE HAPPIEST MAN THAT EVER LIVED IN ON THE MAKE IT ABOUT THEM, NOT ABOUT ME. YOU KNOW HOW MUCH THAT WOULD CHANGE YOUR MARRIAGE WE DON'T LIKE THAT.

BUT LISTEN.

WE'VE BEEN TOLD IN THE BEGINNING THAT WE ARE TO IMITATE GOD WE ARE TO WALK IN LOVE, AND FAR TOO OFTEN WE MAKE EVERYTHING ABOUT US. HOW CAN SHE/HE FULFILL ME. HOW CAN THEY MAKE ME A HAPPIER PERSON. WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR ME. A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS NOT SO MUCH ABOUT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON IS MUCH AS IT IS ABOUT BEING THE RIGHT PERSON. THERE IS NO PERFECT PERSON OUT THERE IT'S ABOUT YOU CHANGING PHILIPPIANS 246 IS DON'T THINK ABOUT YOUR OWN AFFAIRS BE INTERESTED IN OTHERS TO ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE DOING. YOUR ATTITUDE SHOULD BE THE SAME THAT JESUS HAD THE WAY WAS GOD. HE DID NOT DEMAND RIGHTS AS GOD. ANOTHER SCRIPTURE THAT UNDERGIRDS THE IDEA OF MUTUAL SUBMISSION IS FIRST CORINTHIANS 7, 3 TO 4 AND IT TALKS ABOUT SEX OKAY SO I'M IN A TALK ABOUT SEX, ARE YOU READY, THE HUSBAND SHOULD NOT DEPRIVE HIS WIFE OF SEXUAL INTIMACY WHICH IS HER RIGHT IS A MARRIED WOMAN, NOR SHOULD THE WIFE DEPRIVE HER HUSBAND, THE WIFE GIVES AUTHORITY OVER HER BODY TO THE HUSBAND AND THE HUSBAND GIVES AUTHORITY OVER HIS BODY TO HIS WIFE IS SEE THE HUSBAND NO MORE POSSESSES HIS WIFE AND SHE POSSESSES HIM HE IS NOT SUPERIOR. SHE IS NOT INFERIOR.

SHE IS NOT SUPERIOR. HE IS NOT INFERIOR, THEY BELONG ONE TO ANOTHER, TO PULSATE LOOK. HER BODY BELONGS TO YOU.

YOUR BODY BELONGS TO HER. SO DON'T DEPRIVE EACH OTHER SEXUALLY. UNLESS YOU'VE AGREED TO THIS KIND OF THINK THE IDEAS YOU BELONG TO EACH OTHER. YOUR SUPPORTING ONE ANOTHER OR SUBMITTING TO ONE ANOTHER.

YOU'RE HELPING ONE ANOTHER TO HAVE BECOME ONE IN NO WAY DOES THE BIBLE TEACH THAT MAN IS BETTER THAN WOMAN OR EVEN THAT MAN IS ABOVE WOMAN AS WE STAND BEFORE GOD.

WE STAND ON EQUAL GROUND. GALATIANS 328 SAYS IN CHRIST THERE IS NEITHER JEW NOR GREEK, SLAVE NOR FREE, MALE NOR FEMALE WERE ALL ONE IN JESUS. BUT LISTEN NOW THOUGH THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN IN THE NATURE OF THEIR SALVATION OR STANDING WITH GOD. THERE IS A PRINCIPLE OF AUTHORITY IN THE FAMILY AND THOSE WHO STRUGGLE WITH THE CONCEPT OF THE HUSBAND BEING THAT HEAD OF THE HOME MIGHT BE HELP BY CONSIDERING PAUL'S WORDS IN FIRST CORINTHIANS 11 THREE LISTEN TO THIS I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT THE HEAD OF EVERY MAN IS CHRIST, AND THE HEAD OF WOMAN IS MAN. I DON'T LIKE THAT OLD ON IT CONTINUES ON AND SAYS IN THE HEAD OF CHRIST IS GOD, WHAT, WHAT DOES IT MEAN THAT THE HEAD OF CHRIST IS GOD, THE BIBLE SPEAKS OF THE TRINITY OF FATHER SON AND HOLY SPIRIT, ONE IS NOT BETTER THAN THE OTHER. THEY ARE ALL THE SAME IN NATURE AND ESSENCE AND SO WHAT WE DISCOVER IN SCRIPTURE IS THAT THE SUN SUBMIT TO THE FATHER. IT'S NOT BECAUSE THE SUN IS LESS THAN THE FATHER BUT EVEN IN THE TRINITY.

THERE IS THE IDEA OF THE SON SUBMITTING TO THE WILL OF THE FATHER. WE SEE THIS PLAYED OUT BEAUTIFULLY IN OUR LORD'S LIFE IN THE EARTH WHERE HE CONSTANTLY SUBMITTED TO THE FATHER AND CALLED ON THE FATHER AND PRAYED TO THE FATHER. YET JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF WAS GOD INCARNATE IN THE HOLY SPIRIT IS GOD AS WELL.

SO THE RELATIONSHIP STRUCTURE OF JESUS CHRIST TO GOD THE FATHER IS THE SAME AS THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP OF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE EQUAL IN THEIR STANDING BEFORE GOD IN ORDER FOR THE FAMILY TO FUNCTION IN HARMONY.

THE WOMAN WITH NO LOSS OF DIGNITY TAKES THE PLACE OF SUBMISSION TO THE LEADERSHIP OF HER HUSBAND GOD'S DIVINE DESIGN INTENDS THAT HER RESPECT. HELP AND OBEDIENCE WILL BE MATCHED BY HIS SERVANT LEADERSHIP IS A SUBMIT TOGETHER TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST AND TO EACH OTHER KNOW ANY GUY WITH HALF A BRAIN, NO EVIDENCE OF PARTNERSHIP AND HE DOESN'T TRY TO RUN THE HOME LIKE HE'S A DICTATOR THAT'S NOT WHAT IT MEANS TO LEAD IT. SERVANT LEADERSHIP, IT'S THE LEADERS, JESUS LED AND WILL GET INTO THAT IN JUST A MOMENT SO YOU GO SOMETHING NOT PICKING ON YOU GUYS MOMENT IS COMING BIG JOHN OKAY WE JUST WANT TO UNDERSTAND THESE ROLES HERE. IF A MAN IS HAVING THE YELLOW ON THE HEAD OF THIS SONG AND YOU DO WHAT I TELL YOU SOMETHING'S WRONG BECAUSE IT GIVES TRUE AUTHORITY ONE AFTER RESORT TO SCREAMING AND YELLING AND POUNDING WALLS AND THINGS OF THAT NATURE WILL HAVE HER RESPECT. HOW IS IT TO BE DONE. HOW'S A WOMAN TO SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND.

HERE'S THE MOTIVE OF SUBMISSION GIRLS VERSE 22 WIVES SUBMITTED YOUR HUSBAND AS TO THE LORD AS TO THE LORD THE MANNER OR ATTITUDE OF SUBMISSION IS THE BEAT OF THE LORD. WIVES SUBMIT TO THEIR HUSBAND IS AN ACT OF SUBMISSION TO CHRIST HIMSELF.

COLOSSIANS 323 SAYS, WHATEVER YOU DO, WORK AT IT WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART BECAUSE YOU'RE WORKING FOR THE LORD, NOT FOR MEN. WHATEVER YOU DO IT DO IT FOR THE LORD. I REMEMBER YEARS AGO WE RAN RUTH GRAHAM'S HOME AND SHE WAS SUCH A WONDERFUL WOMAN OF GOD AND SO MUCH FUN TO BE WITH ONE OF THE MOST FUN-LOVING PEOPLE I'VE EVER MET, QUICK TO LAUGH WITH A TWINKLE IN HER EYE AND A TRUE BIBLE SCHOLAR, A WOMAN THAT KNEW THE WORD OF GOD SO WELL BUT GENOCIDE OVER HER SING. THAT SAID, DIVINE SERVICE DONE HERE THREE TIMES A DAY AND I REMEMBER WHEN WE WENT OVER TO RUTH'S HOUSE AND SHE MADE US LUNCH. AFTER WE SPOKE, I AT THE CALLED THE BILLY GRAHAM TRAINING THERAPY, AND YOU KNOW IT. RUTH GRAHAM MADE THE FOOD. RUTH GRAHAM WASH THE DISHES AND I WAS JUST SO IMPRESSED BY THAT YOU KNOW SHE WAS JUST THERE DOING IT YOURSELF DOING IT IS ON THE LORD, AND YOU CAN DO ANYTHING IS ON THE LORD, YOU KNOW, IF YOU'RE A GARDENER YOU MOW THAT LAWN IS ON THE LORD YOU WORK IT IN AND OUT BURGER YOU FLIP THOSE BURGERS YOU MAKE THOSE BURGERS ANIMAL STYLE SO I'M GETTING HUNGRY. WHAT'D I SAY IN A NUMBER ANYWAY YOU FLIP THOSE BURGERS IS ON THE LORD YOU MAKE A BURGERS ON CHRIST HIMSELF IS GOING TO EAT IT. DID GET A DOUBLE DOUBLE FOR SURE NOT GIVING YOU IS JESUS HIMSELF WAS GOING TO PICK THAT ORDER UP YOU WRITE THAT SONG IS UNDER THE LORD. YOU DO THAT WORK IS UNDER THE LORD WHATEVER WORK HEREIN. IT'S ALL TO BE DONE IS ON THE LORD, SO WIVES AS YOU SUBMIT DON'T JUST DO IT FOR YOUR HUSBAND DO. IT IS UNDER THE LORD IS JESUS AND SAW A BASKET OF NUMBER TWO. THE MODEL OF SUBMISSION MODEL OF SUBMISSION.

VERSE 22 TO 23, HE HIMSELF BEING THAT THE SAVIOR OF THE BODY AS A CHURCH IS SUBJECT CHRIST LET THE WIVES BE TO THEIR HUSBANDS IN EVERYTHING. THE ULTIMATE MODEL OF SUBMISSION IS JESUS CHRIST. AND THE FACT THAT HE GAVE HIS LIFE FOR US. HE LAID DOWN JESUS LAID ASIDE HIS PRIVILEGES AND RIGHTS.

JESUS TOOK OFF HIS OUTER GARMENT GOT OUT OF HIS HANDS AND KNEES AND WASHED THE FEET OF THE DISCIPLES.

HE'S YOUR MODEL.

HE'S OUR MODEL. NOW THE QUESTION SOMETIMES ARISES WELL ARE THERE LIMITS TO SUBMISSION.

IN OTHER WORDS, THERE IS A CHRISTIAN WIFE HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING A CHRISTIAN HUSBAND SAYS NO MATTER WHAT YOU KNOW. NO, THE BIBLE DOES NOT TEACH THAT THE HUSBANDS AND WHY SUBMISSION SHOULD FIRST BE TO GOD, BUT THERE CAN BE LIMITS TO SUBMISSION PRINTED OR TOLD IN SCRIPTURE TO SUBMIT TO THE CIVIL AUTHORITIES RIGHT BECAUSE HER: FIRST PETER 213 TO 14 SUBMIT YOURSELF FOR THE LORD'S SAKE TO EVERY AUTHORITY, WHETHER THE KING OR THE GOVERNORS WERE SENT BY MEN TO PUNISH THOSE THAT DO WRONG COMMANDOS TO DO RIGHT NOW. THAT MEANS THAT I SHOULD OBEY THE LAWS OF THE LAND I MEANS THAT AS A CHRISTIAN I HAVE TO PAY TAXES.

IF I THINK MY TAXES ARE TOO HIGH BOTH FOR SOMEBODY ELSE NEXT TIME AROUND.

BUT FOR NOW YOU GOING TO PAY THOSE TAXES YOU'LL DO OBEY THOSE LAWS. THAT'S THE WAY OUR COUNTRY WORKS AUTHORITY IS BEEN INSTITUTED BY GOD.

AND WE HAVE TO RESPECT AUTHORITY TO SAY THAT THE GOVERNMENT PASSES A LAW TOMORROW THAT NO ONE CAN PRAY TO GOD ANYMORE.

WELL WE HAVE TO OBEY THE SOUL GOVERNMENT CIVIL GOVERNMENT RIGHT NOW. DANIEL WAS PRESENTED WITH THIS EXACT QUANDARY WHEN A LAW WAS SIGNED INTO PRACTICE THAT NO ONE COULD PRAY TO ANY GOD, AND HE PRAYED AS HE ALWAYS HAD BECAUSE THE COMES A POINT WHERE THE LAW OF GOD SUPERSEDES THE LAW OF MEN WITH A GOVERNMENT PASSES A LAW THAT WE CAN PREACH THE GOSPEL ANYMORE TO BE SHUT EVERYTHING DOWN KNOW WE HAVE TO DO THIS AND THE APOSTLES WERE TOLD TO NO LONGER PREACH FOR THE ROMAN AUTHORITIES BUT THEY SAID IN ROMANS 529 WE OUGHT TO OBEY GOD RATHER THAN MEN. OKAY SO LET'S APPLY THIS TO MERIT LET'S SAY THE HUSBAND IS A NONBELIEVER. YOU'RE THE SWEET GODLY CHRISTIAN WIFE AND HE'S KIND OF ENJOYING THIS THING YOU KNOW ALL OF THE BIBLE TO SUBMIT TO ME WELL WANTED TO SUBMIT TO BE WHAT WE GOT DRINKING TONIGHT AND THEN SUBMIT TO ME WHY I ASKED YOU TO DO THIS A MORAL THING RIGHT NOW.

OKAY HONEY I GET NO NO NO YOU TO BE THERE IS A HIGHER LAW THAN YOUR HUSBAND. AT THIS POINT AND IF YOUR HUSBAND WOULD ASK YOU TO DO SOMETHING THAT'S AGAINST GOD'S LAW THAN YOU ARE NOT TO SUBMIT, BUT UNLESS IT IS NOT AGAINST GOD'S LOVE TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITY.

SUBMIT PETER TELLS US THAT YOU CAN WIN YOUR HUSBAND THE LORD WITHOUT A WORD BY YOUR GODLY LIVING IN NO SOMETIMES LESS IS MORE WITH MEN, YOU'RE NEVER GOING TO NAG HIM INTO THE KINGDOM OF GOD. OKAY, CAN I JUST TELL YOU THIS NAGGING DOESN'T WORK.

THAT'S WHY KING SOLOMON ORDER THOUSAND WIVES SAID LIKE THIS DRIPPING WATER RIGHT HERE THE DRINKABLE WATER ON THE ROOF ARE THE WORDS OF A CONTENTIOUS WOMAN YOU WANT TO DRIVE YOUR HUSBAND CRAZY NAGGING HIM ALL THE TIME. HERE'S THE SECRET. TELL THEM WHAT YOU NEED THEM TO DO BUT THEN LIT AND LIVE IN SUCH A WAY THAT HE WILL SEE SOMETHING NEW THAT WILL CAUSE THEM TO WANT TO CHANGE LIVE A GODLY LIFE AND FAR TOO OFTEN WOMEN FEEL THEY HAVE TO PUT THE PRESSURE ON THE HUSBAND OR TRY TO MANIPULATE THE HUSBAND, HOLD THIS AWAY FROM THE HUSBAND AND CONVERT FASTER. I'LL DO THIS TO LISTEN.

LOVE YOUR HUSBAND BE A GODLY WIFE SHOW WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A FOLLOWER OF JESUS. THAT'S HOW TO DO IT ACCORDING TO FIRST PETER CEMENT GREG EVEN MAKING A REALLY TOUGH FOR GIRLS TONIGHT. OKAY, GUYS, TURN READY. THIS IS NO CAKEWALK FOR ANYONE RIGHT. VERSE 25. HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR HER, THAT HE MIGHT SANCTIFY AND CLEANSE HER WITH THE WASHING OF WATER BY THE WORD THAT HE MIGHT PRESENT HER TO HIMSELF A GLORIOUS CHURCH, NOT A SPOT OR WRINKLE OR ANY SUCH THING, AND SHE SHOULD BE HOLY AND WITHOUT BLEMISH. SO ON HUSBAND TO LOVE THEIR OWN WIVES AS THEIR OWN BODIES EITHER LOVES HIS WIFE LOVES HIM SO NO ONE EVER YET HATED THIS CLASS, BUT NOURISHES AND CHERISHES IT, JUST AS THE LORD DOES THE CHURCH WERE MEMBER OF HIS BODY/VISIBLE HERE NOW FOR MEN ARE FOUR WORDS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR MARRIAGE. ARE YOU READY MEN WRITE THESE DOWN FOR WORDS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR MARRIAGE. CURSE GOD AND DIE. THOSE ARE FROM JOB'S WIFE VERY KNOW THOSE ARE NOT THE WORDS I'M JUST KIDDING THIS ONCE. IF YOU LISTEN THAT'S BAD COUNSEL. HERE THE FORWARD TO CAN CHANGE AMERICA DRIPPING FROM HER HUSBAND'S LOVE YOUR WIFE. I'M TELLING YOU RIGHT. IF MEN WOULD DO THIS, IT WOULD CHANGE SO MANY THINGS IF MEN WOULD MAN UP AND DO WHAT GOD CALLS THEM TO DO WHAT A DIFFERENCE IT WOULD MAKE IN OUR WORLD AND THE CHURCH IN OUR CULTURE. YOU SEE, HERE'S THE PROBLEM WITH MEN IS AT THEIR BEST. THERE OFTEN PASSIVE AND AT THEIR WORST, THE DRAGON EVERYONE THIS FAR TOO MANY SITUATIONS WORK. THE MAN IS AGAINST THE THINGS OF THE LORD AND HE'S OPPOSING THAT IN IS A HINDRANCE TO THE FAMILY AND IT'S A TRAGIC THING THAT WHEN YOU FIND THE GUYS ACCURSED A LOT OF TIMES THE BEST THEY CAN BE AS PASSIVE ALL TRY TO KNOW. I GUESS WE COULD GO TO CHURCH TODAY, BUT I'D RATHER WATCH THE GAMES THAT YOU KNOW COME ON AND CANNOT BE IN THE LEAD. YOUR WIFE AND LEAD YOUR CHILDREN AND SHOW THEM WHAT A MAN OF GOD, LOOKS LIKE THIS IS THE CHALLENGE. THIS IS THE GAUNTLET THAT PAUL IS THROWING DOWN FOR MEN TODAY. DID YOU KNOW THAT 90% OF THE BOOKS SOLD ON THE TOPIC OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY ARE PURCHASED BY WOMEN WHY WELL MEN JUST INTUITIVELY KNOW THESE THINGS NOT THE WOMEN ARE OUT THERE BUYING THE BOOKS TRYING TO FIND OUT HOW TO BE BETTER WIVES HOW TO DO IT GOD'S WAY GUYS AND THE CHANNELS YEARS MIGHT. I DON'T KNOW YOU KNOW. HEY, HOW ABOUT YOU BEING THE SPIRITUAL LEADER, 75, 80% OF CHRISTIAN BOOKS IN GENERAL ARE BOTHERED BY WOMEN. WHAT'S WITH THAT WE DON'T NEED TO LEARN MORE AND SUBMIT WE DON'T NEED TO GROW IS MEANT. HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES, IT WILL. THAT'S NOT SO HARD IS IT WILL, IT IS BECAUSE OF THE WORD PAUL USES FOR LOVE USES AGAPE AS YOU KNOW, THERE ARE DIFFERENT WORDS IN THE GREEK USED FOR LOVE THERE IS FOR LEO THAT SPEAKS A BROTHER LOVE THEIR STORE GAY THAT SPEAKS OF FAMILY LOVE THEIRS HERE WROTE THAT SPEAKS OF PHYSICAL LOVE. AND THEN THERE'S AGAPE THAT SPEAKS OF SACRIFICIAL ALL-CONSUMING RADICAL LOVE. IT'S A WORD THAT IS USED MORE OFTEN THAN ANY OTHER IN THE GOSPELS DESCRIBING THE LOVE THAT GOD SHOWS FLORIDA FOR GOD SO AGAPE THE WORLD HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON NOW YOU WANT TO READ THE DEFINITIVE THE DEFINITION THE BEST INFORMATION I SAID TO LOVE. GO TO FIRST CORINTHIANS 13.

NOT NOW READ IT AND EVERYWHERE YOU READ THE WORD CHARITY. IT'S THE WORD AGAPE IF YOU'RE READING FROM KING JAMES LOVE HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIFE NOT JUST A BENIGN ATTITUDE, BUT ACTION MEANS INVOLVEMENT, NOT DETACHMENT. IT MEANS LOVING THE UNLOVABLE. EVEN IF YOUR WIFE DOES THINGS THAT ARE UNLOVABLE YOU LOVE HER AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH WHY CAN'T A LOVER WILL AND LOVE YOUR ENEMY, YOU NOT GETTING OUT OF THIS OKAY IS JUST NO WAY OUT. YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR WIFE AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH WHICH HE DRIVES ME CRAZY. MAYBE SHE DOES LOOK SO HARD AND I DON'T FIND HER ATTRACTIVE ANYMORE.

I I DID THINK SHE WAS ATTRACTIVE ONCE, BUT SHE HAS MANY MORE WILL CONSIDER THE WORDS OF THIS POEM VERY SERIOUS PHONE IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

NEVER MAKE A PRETTY WOMAN YOUR WIFE FOR MY PERSONAL POINT OF VIEW IN AN UGLY GIRL TO MARRY YOU A PRETTY WOMAN MAKES HER HUSBAND LOOK SMALL AND VERY OFTEN CAUSES HIS DOWNFALL AS SOON AS HE MARRIES HER.

THEN SHE STARTS TO DO THE THINGS THAT WILL BREAK HIS HEART. IF YOU MAKE AN UGLY WOMAN. YOUR WIFE WILL BE HAPPY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. SO THIS IS GOOD NEWS OF YOUR WIFE'S UNATTRACTIVE, THIS IS A JOKE LIKE I IS HE REALLY SAY THAT IT'S A SHOW IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY FOR THE REST THE MEMBER THAT THAT'S IT THAT'S IT THAT'S ON THAT'S "HERE'S THE THING, I DON'T CARE IF YOU FIND UNLOVABLE I DON'T EVEN CARE IF YOU DON'T FIND HER ATTRACTIVE ANYMORE.

YOU NEED TO LOVER'S CRIES LOVES THE CHURCH AND YOU NEED TO LET HER KNOW YOU LOVE, YOU NEED TO TELL HER YOU LOVE HEARD ABOUT COUPLE THAT WAS STRUGGLING SO THEY WENT INTO A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR. AFTER LISTENING TO THE WIFE AND HUSBAND FOR A WHILE. THE COUNSELOR GOT UP FROM HIS CHAIR, CAME AROUND THE FRONT OF HIS DESK AND ASKED THE WIFE TO STAND UP AND SHE STOOD UP AND PUT HIS ARMS AROUND HER AND GIVE HER A GOOD HUG AND HE SAID TO THE HUSBAND. THIS IS WHAT YOUR WIFE NEEDS EVERY SINGLE DAY FROM NOW ON. SO THE HUSBAND SAID WHAT TIME YOU WANT ME TO BRING HER BACK TOMORROW WHEN THE LAST TIME YOU HUGGED YOUR WIFE GUYS WITHOUT WANTING ANYTHING ELSE THAN THE LAST TIME HE JUST TOLD YOUR WIFE. SHE'S BEAUTIFUL YOU THINK IT, BUT YOU DON'T SAY SHE'S BEAUTIFUL. SHE COULD READ MY MIND. ACTUALLY, SHE CAN TELL HER TELL HER THAT WAS A GREAT MEAL. SOMETIMES I WIPE A MAKE A GREAT MISSION NEVER MAKES A BAD DEAL HONESTLY.

THAT'S WHY YOU SO YOSEMITE CAN BRING YOU. HOW IS IT.

I THINK KATHY MY SILENCE IS THE HIGHEST COMPLIMENT I CAN PAY DESIGN SO CAN EATING THAT I CAN'T STOP EVEN SEE HOW GOOD SHE DOESN'T TOTALLY BUY THEM AT WORK.

SOMETIMES TRY KNOW THAT SERIOUSLY, YOU NEED TO VERBALLY COMMUNICATE TO YOUR WIFE THAT YOU LOVER THAT YOU APPRECIATE HER AND DO THE THINGS THAT YOU NEED TO DO IS A LITTLE ROMANCE IS GONE AND HER MARRIAGE THEN GET BACK IN THERE WHAT YOU DID IN THE BEGINNING. DON'T WAIT FOR THE SURGE OF A MOTION TO THERE'S A PROBLEM. ALL THE ROMANCE IS GONE AND THE MARRIAGE AND NOW YOU'RE DOING THOSE THINGS WITH WHAT SOME OTHER CUTE GIRL YOU JUST MET, OR SOME OTHER CUTE GUY YOU JUST MET. MAYBE YOU NEED TO GET BACK WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND DO THE THINGS YOU USED TO DO WHEN YOU FIRST CAME TOGETHER, GOING ON A DATE TOGETHER ABOUT DOING THOSE SIMPLE THINGS LIKE PULLING OUT THE CHAIR AND PUTTING IT BACK IN SO SHE CAN KNOW THAT. SERIOUSLY THOUGH, DON'T WAIT FOR THE FEELING OF ROMANCE TO ROMANTIC THINGS JUST DO IT IF YOU WILL DO IT. THE ROMANCE WILL COME BACK.

THE FEELINGS WILL COME BACK, BUT FOR NOW YOU HAVE TO JUST TOUGH IT OUT AND IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO DO IT IF YOU DON'T THINK SHE DESERVES IT.

NONE OF THAT MATTERS HERE ARE YOUR MARCHING ORDERS FROM GOD. HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIFE RIGHT.

LOVE WERE ALL COMMANDED TO DO THAT TO GIRLS. I TOLD I HAD YOUR BACK THAT I TELL YOU I WAS COMING BACK FOR YOU. YOU THOUGHT YOU WERE LOVE, NO WERE LISTENING TO THE BIBLE BIBLE FOR BALANCED MEALS. EVERYBODY IT'S A SACRIFICIAL LOVE VERSE 25. LOVE HER AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH. THIS IS THE WAY WE ARE TO LOVE.

THIS IS THE WAY WHERE TO DO IT. YOU NEED TO HUSBANDS ENTER HER WORLD KNOW YOUR WIFE. THE BIBLE SAYS WELL WITH YOUR WIFE. ACCORDING TO KNOWLEDGE.

THAT MEANS KNOW YOUR WIFE AND IT ACTUALLY GOES ON TO SAY, AND IF YOU DON'T DO THIS, YOUR PRAYERS WILL BE HINDERED. DID YOU KNOW THAT MEN YOUR PRAYERS CAN BE HINDERED BECAUSE YOU'RE OUT OF ALIGNMENT WITH YOUR WIFE. YOU FORGOT SHE'S SUPPOSED TO BE NUMBER ONE, YOUR BEST FRIEND. OKAY MY WIFE IS MY BEST FRIEND. I'M NOT EMBARRASSED TO SAY THAT SHE'S MY BEST FRIEND SHE IS MY CLOSEST CONFIDENT SHE'S MY MOST VALUED COUNSELOR VERY GOOD COOK. I YOU KNOW, BUT SHE THAT IS WITH WHO SHE IS TO ME AND AND SOMETIMES WE FORGET THAT SPEND TIME WITH THEM. YOU KNOW SHE ENTERS YOUR WORLDVIEW CAN ENTER HERS YOU KNOW MY WIFE.

WE AND I WERE VERY DIFFERENT PEOPLE. I DON'T LIKE A LOT OF THE THINGS SHE LIKES NETZER LIKE PRINCESS MY WIFE. SHE LIKES TO WATCH COOKING SHOW RIGHT BEFORE WE GO TO SLEEP NOW THIS IS A PROBLEM BECAUSE I GET HUNGRY. YOU SEE SHE'S GETTING IDEAS. I'M GETTING HUNGRY. I WASN'T HUNGRY TILL THE SHOW STARTED.

MY WIFE WE GO TO A RESTAURANT YOU LIKE ORDER SOUP AS AN ENTR�E, THAT'S A GOOD JOKE TO ME SOUP IS PRACTICE AS IS SOLID AND IS WARMING UP WHAT'S UP WHERE THE REAL FOOD. BUT YOU KNOW I ENTER HER WORLD. SHE ENTERS MY WORLD. IT'S A PARTNERSHIP WALKING THIS ROAD TOGETHER. LISTEN HUSBANDS TO QUESTION FIGURE WALKING ON THE STREET WITH YOUR WIFE AND KIDS A COUPLE GUYS CONTORTED WITH A VERY THREATENING LOOK IN THEIR FACE, OBVIOUSLY INTENDING TO DO HARM TO YOUR FAMILY, WHAT WOULD YOU DO YOU DEFEND YOU TAKE CARE OF THOSE GUYS YOU DO WHAT YOU HAD TO DO TO SAVE THE LIVES OF YOUR WIFE AND CHILDREN ABOUT THIS, LET'S SAY THAT YOUR HUSBAND YOUR WIFE AND YOUR BABY GIRL WERE STARVING. THEY HAD NO FOOD WHATSOEVER. WOULD YOU TRY TO FIND THEM SOME FOOD SOMEWHERE. OF COURSE I WOULD'VE A MAN CAME ABOUT THIS.

THERE HUSBANDS TODAY THAT HAVE SURRENDERED THE ROLES OF SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP, THEIR WIVES AND CHILDREN ARE BEING ATTACKED BY SATAN WHILE THE MEN STAND BY IDLY AND DO NOTHING AND THE FAMILIES ARE STARVING SPIRITUALLY. THE MEN DO NOTHING TO HELP. OKAY YOU DEFEND YOUR WIFE PHYSICALLY, AND YOU TAKE CARE OF HER PHYSICAL NEEDS, AND FEED HER ABOUT DOING IT SPIRITUALLY ABOUT BEING A MAN OF GOD AND A LEADER IN THE HOME AND REALIZING THAT IS WHAT GOD IS CALLED YOU TO DO WHAT SHE'S NOT SUBMITTING THIS UNDER THIS IF WE WOULD LOVE OUR WIVES AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH THEY WOULD RESPOND AS THE CHURCH'S RESPONSE TO CHRIST.

WHY DO I FOLLOW JESUS TONIGHT BECAUSE I'M SUCH A WONDERFUL PERSON AND JESUS IS SO FORTUNATE TO GET SOMEONE LIKE ME KNOW. I FOLLOW JESUS BECAUSE HE WON ME OVER. HE WON ME OVER WITH HIS LARVA WITH HIS PATIENTS AND THEM WITH THIS PERSISTENCE AND FINALLY I RESPONDED TO HIM I LOVE HIM BECAUSE HE FIRST LOVED ME, YOU WANT YOUR WIFE TO BLOSSOM. YOU WANT HER TO BLOOM YOU WANT HER TO BE THE WOMAN OF GOD THAT SHE CAN BE YOU LOVE HER YOU VALUE HER YOU TREASURE HER AND YOU WATCH WHAT HAPPENED. DON'T WORRY ABOUT HER PART. YOU CONCERN YOURSELF WITH THIS PART, GIRLS, YOU'RE STILL SUPPOSED TO SUBMIT OKAY.

YOU'RE NOT A POET. YOU'RE STILL IN PLAY.

OKAY, WE BOTH HAVE OUR PARTS.

LISTEN, IF WE WOULD JUST STOP. AS I SAID EARLIER, READING EACH OTHER'S MAIL AND QUOTING THE VERSES THAT ARE GIVEN THAT WE SHOULD BE QUOTING THE VERSES GIVEN TO US RATHER THAN WORRYING ABOUT THE OTHER VERSES AND DO WHAT GOD HAS CALLED US TO DO. YOU WOULD BE AMAZED AT HOW YOUR MARRIAGE TO TURN AROUND IN CLOSING AS OF THE TWO BEST WERE DIFFERENTLY SAY TONIGHT.

STANDARD ENCLOSED.

EVERY MARRIAGE IS GOING TO COME UNDER ATTACK. EVERY MARRIAGE IS GOING TO HAVE TO WEATHER STORMS. THERE'S NO EXCEPTIONS. JESUS CONCLUDING THIS TEACHING ON THE SERMON ON THE MOUNT TALKED ABOUT TWO MEN WHO BUILT HOMES ONE BUILD HIS HOME AND A ROCK ONE BUILDERS HOMELAND SHIFTING SAND PIECES AND THE STORMS CAME AND BEAT UP ON BOTH HOMES.

THE MAN THAT WAS BUILT UPON THE SAND'S HOME CRUMBLE. THE MAN THAT WAS BUILT UPON THE ROCK IT STOOD THE TEST, HE SAYS, HE THAT HEARS THESE SAYINGS OF MINE AND DOES THEM. HE'S LIKE THE MEN TO BUILD THIS HOUSE ON THE ROCK. HE THAT HEARS THESE SAYINGS OF MINE, AND DOES NOT DO THEM. HE IS LIKE THE MAN WHO BUILT HIS HOUSE ON THE SET. SO HERE'S MY QUESTION. ARE YOU BUILT ON THE ROCK OR ARE YOU ON THE ROCKS.

IF YOU'RE ON THE ROCK RIGHT NOW. YOU WILL STAND THE TEST THAT WILL COME YOUR WAY. OUR MARRIAGE OF 35 YEARS GOING INTO YOUR 36 IS WHETHER THE WORST STORM EVER LAST YEAR WITH OUR SON GOING TO HEAVEN AND BREAKS MY HEART TO LOOK AT MY WIFE. SHE LOVED HIM AND THEY HAD A VERY CLOSE RELATIONSHIP AND IT'S VERY HARD FOR ME NOT ONLY FOR MY OWN PAIN, BUT TO SEE THE PAIN THAT MY WIFE EXPERIENCES AS WELL, BUT I'VE SEEN QUALITIES OF MY WIFE. I WAS NEW SHE WAS A WOMAN OF GOD THAT SEEN QUALITIES THAT JUST BLOW MY MIND. I MEAN SHE WOULD NEVER SAY THIS ABOUT HERSELF, BUT I MEAN WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT A VIRTUOUS WOMAN. I'M TELLING YOU SHE IS A VIRTUOUS WOMAN.

SHE'S PROVERBS 31 RIGHT DOWN THE LINE AND I WOULD SAY THAT IF I DIDN'T MEAN IT AND THAT'S JUST SHE'S BEEN A TREMENDOUS EXAMPLE TO ME, BUT I THINK IF WE DIDN'T HAVE THE LORD. IF WE DIDN'T HAVE THE LORD. HOW COULD WE DEAL WITH THIS.

IF WE DIDN'T HAVE WHOLE OF REUNION.

IT IS HARD STILL BUT OUR MARRIAGE IS BUILT ON THE ROCK AND YOU KNOW WHAT OUR MARRIAGE IS STRONGER THAN IT'S EVER BEEN BEFORE HIS GOD IS GIVEN US A STRING. EVERY MARRIAGE WILL BE TESTED, BUT WE AND THE SUCKERS WERE GREAT PEOPLE DON'T KNOW BECAUSE WE JUST TILTED ON THE ROCK, AND WE SOUGHT TO LIVE BY THESE PRINCIPLES NOT PERFECTLY ALL I WOULD BE THE FIRST TO ADMIT THAT IT'S ALWAYS A LOT OF ADJUSTING. YOU KNOW WITH THE ANSWER: NOT TO SLOW AS I WAS DOING THAT AFTER YOU ALWAYS ARE WORKING AT THIS IT IF YOU LET IT GO. IT'LL BEGIN TO UNRAVEL THE JUDGE TO KEEP AT THIS READING THE FINE PRINT APPLYING YOURSELF, YOU WILL DO THAT GOD WILL BLESS YOUR MARRIAGE AND YOU'LL STAND WHATEVER TEST COMES YOUR WAY. ALL RIGHT, ARE YOU MARRIED PEOPLE STAND UPRIGHT, JUST MARRIED PEOPLE I WANT TO PRAY FOR YOU ALL RIGHT TAKE THE HAND OF YOUR WIFE. I HOPE YOU'RE WITH YOUR SPOUSE TONIGHT, BUT MAYBE IF YOU WANT PASTOR JEFF AND PASTOR BRAD DON'T HAVE WIVES AND COME HOLD HER HANDS APPEAR ALL RIGHT TAKE THE HAND OF YOUR SPOUSE RIGHT NOW. LOOK AT HER LOOK AT HIM SAY I LOVE YOU GIVE MCINNES THAT'S IT CHURCH THE SPRAY LORD I PRAY FOR EVERY MARRIAGE REPRESENTED HERE.

NOW I PRAY YOU WILL BLESS. I PRAY LORD THAT EVERY MAN IN THIS ROOM WILL TAKE TO HEART WHAT WE'VE READ AND WANT TO LOVE HIS WIFE IS YOU LOVE THE CHURCH LORD. HE CAN'T DO IT ON HIS OWN. NONE OF US CAN HE NEEDS THE POWER OF THE SPIRIT, SO FILL THEM WITH THAT POWER. LORD HELP THEM TO LOVE HER, SACRIFICIALLY HELP THEM TO PUT HER NEEDS ABOVE HIS OWN. HELP THEM TO BE A SPIRITUAL LEADER LORD, A MAN OF GOD. LORD I PRAY FOR EVERY WOMAN HERE HELPER TO APPRECIATE HER HUSBAND VALUE HER HUSBAND NOT TAKE HIM FOR GRANTED HELPER LORD TO SUBMIT TO HIS AUTHORITY, NOT UNDERMINE IT. HELPER LORD TO UNDERGIRD AND SUPPORT HIM IN THE CALLING YOU'VE GIVEN WITH ALL THE PRESSURE THAT HE CARRIES LORD, HELP HER TO BE A WOMAN OF VIRTUE AND FINALLY, LORD. I DON'T WANT TO FORGET THE SINGLES THAT ARE SITTING WOULD YOU HELP EVERY ONE OF THEM TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON HELP THE LORD TO BE PATIENT. I KNOW IT GETS HARD. I KNOW THEY FEEL LONELY AT TIMES AND SOMETIMES THEY WANT TO RUSH IT.

LORD, HELP THEM TO WALK IN THE CENTER OF YOUR WILL, AND BRING THE PERFECT MAN OR WOMAN YOU'VE CHOSEN FOR THEM, AND THEN THAT YOU WOULD BLESS THEM, AND THAT SPECIAL MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP. HELP US ALL TO WALK IN YOUR SPIRIT AND LIVE LIVES THAT ARE YOU AS IMITATORS OF GOD, AS DEAR CHILDREN, WE ASK ALL OF THIS NOW IN JESUS NAME, AMEN. AND THEN LET'S ALL STAND UP