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To be or not to be, that is the question. Whether it is nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune or to take arms against a sea of troubles. Speaking of troubles, have you ever taken the time, anger is our topic of discussion, if you haven't yet figured it out. We're going to chat about anger today. Have you ever sat and calculated the cost of anger? I would venture to say if I purvey the current climate and culture that surrounds us, I think it's safe to say there's a lot of angry people out there. And I think we see that displayed really on a daily basis. I've, over the years, had my opportunities to, one, deal with my own anger, as well as the anger of others. And curious today to find out maybe how you deal with anger, whether it be your own or perhaps the anger of another. Well, if you're familiar with me hosting this show anytime in the past, you also know I just love Bible trivia, and I love giving away personally autographed 8x10 photos. So far, we've had at least one winner on any of the shows that I've hosted, and I'd love to give some more 8x10 autographed photos away today as well. So we're going to throw this first trivia question out there before we dive into our discussion on anger.
Here it is. The remnant left in Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar. Now, if you're familiar with the story, you know that Nebuchadnezzar captured Jerusalem and took a good majority of the people back to Babylon. But there was a remnant that was left in Jerusalem, and the question, the Bible question for today is, the remnant that was left in Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar desired to go where? Now, Babylon is one of the choices, but some of them chose not to go. So where did they go? Where did they choose to go?
Here's your options. Lebanon? Egypt? Syria? Now, I'm going to give you, this is a little tougher question, so I'm going to give you a hint for the Jeremiah chapter 43. If you go research Jeremiah chapter 43, you may find out the answer to this question.
I'd love to give away an autographed 8x10 photo. The remnant left in Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar desired to go where? Syria? Syria? Egypt? Lebanon? Or Babylon? You know what's amazing, even as I look at this list?
Three out of the four, like, are, like, those are, like, they exist. Like, today. Syria. Egypt. Lebanon. Pretty amazing. 866-348-7884. That's 86634 truth. If you have an answer to my trivia question, love to give an 8x10 out to you and for yourself, or maybe a loved one, or someone you know who's a rasslin' fan.
Give us a call. Anger. Anger. Anger. There's, you know, Proverbs, the Book of Proverbs, is loaded, loaded with all kinds of wisdom.
It's said it's one of the best books on wisdom ever written by one of the wisest men ever to live, as well as some other contributors to it as well. Proverbs 29-22, an angry person causes trouble. A person with a quick temper sins a lot.
Something to ponder right there. People with understanding control their anger. A hot temper shows great foolishness. That's in Proverbs chapter 14, verse 29. I may share some other Proverbs along the way regarding anger, but that's what I want to hear from you. How do you handle anger, whether it be your own or somebody you know?
Call 866-348-7884, 86634 truth, and or if you have the answer to my trivia question, my Bible trivia question, give us a call. When someone is angry with you, it's easy to show anger in return, right? I mean, if we don't exercise self-control, we can be just sucked right into that whole argument or that whole discussion. I'm reminded, one more just popped in my head before we go to break here. A gentle answer shall turn away wrath. A gentle answer shall turn away wrath.
Boy, have I exercised that one over the years. I'll talk more about that when we come back. Don't go anywhere. We are on Truth Talk Live, your host, Nikita Koloff, the devil's worst nightmare. Hey, I want you to stay tuned. Welcome back, welcome back, welcome back to Truth Talk Live, your host, Nikita Koloff. And it looks like we might have an answer to my trivia question here, and my favorite caller, Buxman up at Dayton, Ohio.
Buxman, are you there? Oh, hey, Nikita. I'm going to take a stab at it, brother. And I love you, brother. Ask are not the real easy Sunday school questions, Nikita. I'm very impressed, brother. You actually got me scratching my brain and I even told Saint Nick, I said I could cheat Nick and dial in Bible Gateway and have Max McLean read me Jeremiah 43. And it would be an open book test. Nikita, I'm going to go for it, brother. I'm going to go all the way. So I do not know for sure what the answer is, but I want to throw out.
And I've been thinking of this in the bus mobile. I believe I know that the majority went to Babylon. I know that they bought the Assyrians at one point. So I'm going to say Syria on your question.
Then I also have an anger story for you, too, if you want. That is a good guess. That is a good guess, Buxman.
Not the right answer, but it is a good guess. So now you've narrowed it down for the next caller between Syria. You've narrowed it down now between Lebanon and Egypt. So we've scratched Syria.
We scratched Babylon. But that's okay. You took a good stab at it.
All right. Give me a quick story on how you deal with anger. Come on, talk about it. Well, what I do, Nikita, seriously, I ask myself, Buxman, what's making you angry? And that has really helped me, Nikita, because like you said in your monologue, there's so much that can make especially us here in America that can make us angry. So I literally got to ask myself, Nikita, okay, what is it that you're angry about? And when I narrow it down to something that I can control, Nikita, I can let it go.
I can say, you know what, I'll tell that person I'm sorry. And I'll do the Matthew five thing. Hey, I can't have an aunt against my brother and then go to church with a good conscience.
So I'll call my brother back if that is the issue. If it's something that I cannot control, Nikita, I have to then work. I think it's first Peter, brother.
And you know this being a Bible scholar. Well, I have to cast that care onto the Lord and know that he cares for me. And if I can't fix what's got me angry, Nikita, then I have to turn it over to our great and glorious father.
Bring it to him. Great advice, Buxman, great advice. Hey, thank you for being such a loyal listener to Truth Talk Live, man. I appreciate you, Buxman. I look forward to the day we meet face to face, okay?
I would love that. And I was hoping I was going to meet your face on an 8x10, but I missed it. Well, you're going to get one, you're going to get one, you're going to get one.
I'll keep trying. Hey, how far are you from St. Clairsville, Ohio? Just out of curiosity. St. Clairsville. I got a dear friend, Nikita, who lives in St. Clairsville. I'm actually, they're up north.
I'm about probably 80 miles would be my guess, Nikita. All right. Because, just make note to self, Saturday, August 3rd, man up steak dinner, St. Clairsville, Emmanuel Baptist Church, 5 p.m., just note to self, Buxman, just in case you make the trip.
I may have to saddle up the Iron Horse and ride up there. I'd love to meet you in person. Hey, you have a great day.
That would be awesome. You too, Nikita. God bless, my friend. Bless you. Thanks so much. All right. Buxman took a stab at it.
Well, it's a 50-50 shot at it now for the rest of you, Egypt or Lebanon, where the remnant left in Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar desired to go well, to go where? I love when he said open book test. Well, I did kind of give you that opportunity, though, didn't I, when I gave you the chapter and where to go research the answer.
But I would love to give away an 8x10 autograph photo. We're talking about anger today. I'm just looking at some of my different notes that I've made here regarding anger. And I'd love to hear what you think about anger. 866-34-8784, 866-34 truth, how do you handle it?
Like maybe either your own or somebody you know, how do you handle it? I did mention before the last break, I quoted the proverb, a gentle answer will turn away wrath. And I really embraced that when I first read that and kind of understood that, that man, if somebody starts blowing up at me and I just remain calm, now here's the challenge, remain calm, and if I answer at all, it's with a very calm answer, a gentle answer without raising my voice.
Now, of course, that's the challenge, right? Because there's a tendency for us to be sucked into the anger argument, you know, the argument or the anger or what's being spewed by the other person. But when it comes to taking control of your anger, if you don't take control, there is a cost. Like, I'm sure all of you have probably figured that out by now, but it doesn't hurt to reinforce. You know, the repetition is the first law of learning, I learned many years ago, you're going to get in trouble if you don't take control of your anger.
There is a cost. There's a good chance it might lead you down that path of sinning, going to cause, it'll cause arguments, like, you know, when you blow up, it'll potentially make a mistake. There's the potential to make a mistake when you lose your temper. Ever lost your temper? I think, come on, who hasn't lost their temper? But how do you deal with it?
How do you do? You take the chance then, if you're one who constantly or sometimes loses your temper, really, ultimately, who loses, and what do you lose? Well, you might lose respect. You might lose somebody's respect. Like, if you're a person who constantly gets angry all the time.
You know, Bucksman brought up something interesting and just kind of popped up, bubbled up in me as well. I think he said, you know, he was talking about, like, if he gets angry, like, why? Like, there's probably a deeper root cause, something deeper going on, like, especially if you consistently have anger issues, or struggle with your anger, there's probably something deeper going on. We've dealt with this a lot at our camps in the past.
Lex Luger and I do this camp called Man Camp, and we bring men in for, it's a five-day catalyst, and we just dive deep into, you know, into equipping men to be godly men and godly husbands and godly fathers, and want to send them home with the tools to do that, and to be that individual. And anger has come up at many camps, you know. Guys have gotten angry at camp. Guys have confessed they struggle with anger. And so what we want to do, what we try to do is get down to the root cause of that anger.
What's the root cause of the anger? And, hey, I'd love to hear you share a couple of your thoughts, 866-348-788-TRUTH, or call in with the answer to the trivia question. Love to give away another 8x10 photo, personally autographed by yours truly, Nikita Kolov, formerly the Russian nightmare. Don't go away. Stay tuned. Don't go anywhere.
Ruck, I'm looking for you. You're listening to the Truth Network and truthnetwork.com. Welcome back to Truth Talk Live. Your host, Nikita Kolov, and we're talking about anger, to the cost of anger, to be angry or not to be angry. That is the question.
We also have an 8x10 autographed photo to hand out, to send out 866-348-788-TRUTH. We know Nebuchadnezzar captures Jerusalem. He takes the majority of people back to Babylon. Thanks to Buxman, we have scratched Syria. We are down to either Lebanon or Egypt. What's your guess?
Give me a call, 866-348-788-TRUTH. And we're talking about anger. Losing your temper.
We're talking about losing your temper and who ends up really being the biggest loser when you lose your temper. I mean, you can lose someone else's respect. You can ultimately lose the love of your family. It'll affect your health. Come on, if you're getting angry all the time, it can affect your health.
In some extreme cases, maybe even lose your job, right? Maybe you're someone who uses anger to motivate people to do the right thing. Well, there may be a short-term payoff there, but I assure you in the long run, that anger will ultimately produce more anger and more apathy and even potentially alienation. I mean, how many kids have been alienated from a parent because of out-of-control anger? You know my men have come to camp and said, my dad was just always so angry. I just don't have a relationship with my dad.
I just had to alienate or separate myself because I just didn't want to be in that toxic environment, right? Certainly, we know that anger has destroyed marriages over the years, right? Whether it be a husband or a wife, it's destroyed friendships when somebody lost their cool. Anger can destroy relationships faster, really, than just about anything else, I think.
What are your thoughts? What do you do? I'd love to hear from you. I'd love to hear from you, what do you do, whether it's an anger issue of your own or someone else, how do you handle it? How do you handle it? Because there's a price to pay. There is a price to pay. And then some will return anger for anger. That's not the best path to go down, really.
I have found from personal experience, that's not the best path. But if you go down that path, you're likely to get angry. And let's face it, let's be honest, you know somebody's buttons, how to push them. If you live with anyone long enough, you know exactly what to do to push their buttons to get them upset or to get them angry, and that's not necessarily a good thing, is it? I don't know, 866-34-TRUTH, I'd love to get your perspective either on how you deal with your own anger or how you deal with the anger of others or some thoughts on how, just in general, how to address anger. And here's some questions you could ask yourself, you know, before you retaliate with anger is, you know, do I really want to go down this path, right? Like maybe just paused, a 10-second pause, take a deep breath.
Right? Take a deep breath. Do I really want to go down this path? Because I said earlier, anger can lead to making mistakes, saying things you later regret, right? And then that's a whole other deal, that now you've got to come back and ask for forgiveness, right?
And I mean that just opens up a whole other can of worms, right? It can lead you, you know, into even more sin, obviously cause arguments, act fool like a fool. How many times have you been out and about and seen someone blow up and just act like an absolute fool, right? Well, there's a proverb for that, I quoted it earlier, people with understanding control their anger, a hot temper shows great foolishness. Anger comes with a price tag. So what you may want to consider, or what you may want to do is count or calculate the cost and then choose the wise path of controlling your anger. I mean if you're one that says, my anger is just out of control, I don't know what to do Nikita, I don't know how to control it. I was joking earlier with my producer Nick, or mentioning earlier, you know, a lot of people, if you're familiar with, court has something called anger, sends people off to what they call anger management classes.
And I've always honestly kind of chuckled at that because in my mind I'm like, you know, I don't want to learn to manage my anger, I'd love to be set free of anger. You know, if that's something that I struggle with or deal with, and that goes back to what I said earlier about root causes. Root causes. What's causing, I think Buxman again brought it up, what's causing this reaction? What's causing, what's the root cause of this emotion? Now if it's infrequent, that's one thing, but if it's like all the time, we're pretty consistent, man you may want to dig a little deeper into that and just be honest, be honest with yourself and be willing to dive deeper into that, to find out, and when I say root cause, I'm like, let me see how far back I can go, is to see when really the first anger outburst happened or when it all began or what triggered it. And sometimes I think, you know, we think we're healed of certain things, you know, trauma or trouble of our past, only to find out that it's just a scab that's over a wound that's much, much, much deeper, a wound that never got healed, it just maybe got scabbed over, but then something happens, something's said that triggers and then there's a blow-up, there's a blow-up. The remnant left in Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar desired to go where, Egypt or Lebanon? Those who were left behind and weren't taken off to Babylon went where? Give me a call, 866-348-7884, 86634-TRUTH, is this going to be the first show where I don't give away any 8x10s?
Maybe, I don't know, hope not, but hey, you never know. Give me a call, tell me about your experience with anger, 866-348-788-TRUTH, 884, I keep saying 884, 86634-TRUTH, give me a call and let's talk about it. I know it's maybe not the most favorite subject to talk about, but I think it's very relevant for the day when we just look at what's going on in our society and maybe we can be a peacemaker. Hey, you want to be a peacemaker? Hey, you want to be a peacemaker? Don't you want to be a peacemaker? How about a peacemaker over a troublemaker? Excuse me, how about a peacemaker over a troublemaker?
Your choice, you get to choose. Good news is you got a free will, God gave you a free will. You want to be a peacemaker? Want to be a peacemaker?
Want to be a troublemaker? Peacemaker. Seek peace and pursue it. That's another scripture I believe and that's not even in Proverbs. Seek peace and pursue it. What did Jesus say? Peace I give to you, my peace I leave with you. I think it is close to the quote. So many amazing scriptures in the Bible that help us overcome an emotion like anger.
I could give you a litany list of scriptures that if that's something you struggle with, I could give you some what I call spiritual anecdotes, a resource to overcome that anger. Hey, don't go away, we got one segment to go, True Talk Live, Nikita Koloff, your host. And when we come back, we're going to talk to Mike up at Dayton, Ohio, about how he overcame his anger. Don't go away, stay right where you're at. Truth Talk Live.
You're listening to the Truth Network and truthnetwork.com. Welcome back, welcome back to Truth Talk Live. We got Mike up in Dayton, Ohio. Mike, are you there?
I'm here. Hey, Mike. How are you doing, sir? I'm doing fine. How are you doing, sir? I'm doing fine. How are you doing, sir? I'm doing fine. How are you doing, sir? Hey, Mike, I'm doing well. You want to talk about how you overcame your anger?
Talk to me. Yeah. Well, when I was about 21 years old, I was raised in an angry home, I guess. You know, my dad was always demanding, wanting this done. He got angry when those things didn't happen.
So that was kind of installed in my nature. But over the years, you know, you know, God kept dealing with me about anger. You know, do you love your wife? Show her you love her. Don't be mad at her. You know what I mean?
Because she didn't do something. You know, your kids didn't do the right thing. You know, you love your kids while you're angry at them. You know, I mean, you need to train them and not nurture them.
You need to love your wife and nurture her. You know, over studying the Word of God and listening and praying and fasting and doing those things after 21, you know, I learned to have a better nature. You know what I mean? And I still push that anger down all the time. You know what I mean?
It's just, it's there. You know, I mean, you know, people want to try to push your buttons and I walk away from it. You know, I mean, I try to, you know, humble myself and check myself, take a deep breath. Lord, what do you want me to do in this situation?
That's the first thing that come out of my mouth. Lord, what do you want me to do in this situation? Please help me, Lord, here. You know, that's good, Mike. Yeah, that's that, you know, that will help your anger right away.
You know, I mean, it'll calm it down. Well, give a story. Go ahead. And I give a story about my kids. They threw a bull. We're a big bowling family and we've, they threw a bowling ball through my wall. One of my kids did and I got upset and it's in the middle of winter and there's three feet of snow on the ground. And, and I, and I, I got so angry. I just walked outside in my underwear and I started walking around the house and it's snowing and it's a blizzard out there and it's three feet and I'm in my underwear and socks and I'm walking around the house and I'm cooling off. Yeah, you know what I mean?
Yeah, literally, yeah. Well, yeah, and my kids are going window to window to window to window, you know, and, uh, and then they're looking and mom's, my wife, Tammy, she's saying, he's upset. He's cooling off.
He's upset. So, you know, and so I come in and I said, go to your room and they just went to the room, you know? And, and I said, God, thank you for helping me handle this. You know what I mean?
And at the time, and that was the turning point in my life when that happened, you know, I just turned, I just turned from being angry all the time to being loving more. You know what I mean? No, that's good. Everything. That's good, Mike.
I appreciate you sharing some of that story. Hey, quick question for you before I let you go. Egypt or Lebanon? I would say Egypt because that comes to mind. I don't know why I, my mind says Egypt. A lot, a lot of history in Egypt, right? In the Bible. Right.
A lot of history and ding, ding, ding. You hang tight. Let Nick get your address. I do want to send you an eight by 10.
You can keep it for yourself or hand it off to somebody up there in Dayton, Ohio. Okay. Yes, sir.
I have a person in mind and I'll witness with it. Yeah, there you go. That's awesome. Mike, thank you for sharing some of your story. Appreciate you. I appreciate you, sir. All right.
Hang tight. He'll get your address there. Well, Mike gave a great example there. A great example of really what we've been talking about, you know, when I've been talking about the root cause of anger, I think what immediately came to mind is he was talking about his dad, which I, you know, environment, right? The environment you grow up in, what he saw modeled, right, by his dad. I think I mentioned to you how many men at our man camps, you know, have mentioned, you know, their dads and what they saw modeled. And some will say, many will say, and truly many will say, you know, I want to grow up and I don't want to be at all like my dad, you know, and how he treated me or how he treated the family, how he treated my mom, right, sort of thing.
And then there are others on the other side of the spectrum that had a good situation and a loving dad and modeled something completely different, right? But Mike brings up a great point of, you know, how what's modeled in the home or what kind of environment we grow up in can really set the stage. And really, Mike, you're still listening out there. That also, you know, you said it's still there. I get that. But what's great is, I believe, is you identified the root cause, like where it began and then the ability to go to the Lord and ask for the Lord's help. You know, how many times do we do that last and not first, right?
Last and not first. Great life lesson, Mike, up in Dayton, Ohio, right? So, you know, the problem, as we've been discussing today, the problem is anger, right? When you get angry, your intelligence goes out the window. You say and do foolish things that usually end up being self-defeating, right? You get angry, you're in dangerous territory.
You're on a path of hurting others and most likely even hurting yourself. Mike just gave that example, right? Like with his boys, throwing the bowling ball. I love the story, he threw the bowling ball through the wall. He walks outside in his skivvies and in the cold of winter, right?
In the cold of winter, you know, the snow and the cold of winter to cool down, like literally what a visual of cooling, a way to cool down, go out and walk around in your socks and without, you know, without being clothed and that'll cool you off rather quickly. A life lesson there, control your temper, stay out of arguments and you and other people will be glad you did. So the problem is anger, the solution, the solution, Mike kind of led into that. The word, the Bible, right? Our relationship with Jesus and having that relationship with Jesus and then being able to go to Jesus as a source, a resource to say, Jesus, you're going to have to help me on this, you know. How many times do we try to do things on our own, whether it's dealing with anger or lots of other things, that we try to do things on our own, right?
Oh man, enough to do this myself. Well, I'll be the first to raise my hand and say how many times, you know, I can't count how many times, you know, I've said that or tried to do that only to fail miserably and then realize or recognize, maybe I should bring Jesus into this equation. And so, you know, I just want to say to all you out there listening, maybe you don't have a personal relationship with Jesus yet. You know, you're a Truth Talk Live listener, you're with us, you know, all the time and we have had many, many stories of people who, if you want to say, stumbled across the radio station, the radio dial or a podcast and became a fan of truth radio and ultimately led them to the foot of the cross. So many amazing stories. Grateful for Stu Epperson, his vision, Michael Carbone, Robbie Dilmore, Nick, next door, Saint Nick, I didn't realize that little tag right there.
Saint Nick, the producer, my producer over there. And hey, if this topic is something that is really hits close to home, I just want to encourage you, consider some of the things we said today, if you struggle with anger issues, it's a real problem for you, that you need to seek out the root cause, seek out the root cause. I think Mike brought a great illustration there, life lesson there, modeled in his home by his dad, the environment he grew up in, and through some things that happened in the home, in his own home with his own kids and wife, he is now making that transition to be able to exercise a fruit of the Spirit, which is self-control. Who knows the fruit of the Spirit? Galatians 5, 22, 23, anybody out there?
I bet you do, some of you do. Joy, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, self-control. Hey, meditate on study, Galatians 5, you know, Buck's been up in Ohio in some of our, some conversations I had earlier today, doing some interviews for the Man Up show, we talked about Philippians 4-8, go meditate on Philippians 4-8 sometimes on things you should meditate on, really read the whole entire chapter.
Really, just read your whole entire Bible. Just go ahead and start, Dave, you've never done that. Just a reminder, I open the show, I'll close the show today with a reminder, if you don't have the Truth Talk app on your phone, go to your app store, do it now, because I know you pulled the car over and you're going to go to your app store right now and download the Truth Network app to where you get access to, I mean, 24-hour live talk radio as well as many amazing, amazing podcasts. Be sure to check out the Man Up show on Saturdays with yours truly, Nikita Kolov.
Tuesdays, Q&A with Kolov drops on our podcasting platform where you get a personal phone call from The Russian Nightmare and you get to ask me some questions. Looking forward to hitting the road here soon. I mentioned St. Clairsville, Ohio, Saturday, August 3rd, Emmanuel Baptist Church Man Up Steak Dinner. Talk to the pastor, he's got some great steaks that we're going to be cooking for you. Open to the public, men of all ages, bring your sons. Thank you for tuning in, for dialing in today to Truth Talk Live. Go out and live a God-filled and have a God-blessed day. Till next time, Nikita Kolov.
