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Being a Husband God’s Way (Part 2 of 2)

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June 17, 2022 4:00 am

Being a Husband God’s Way (Part 2 of 2)

Truth for Life / Alistair Begg

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June 17, 2022 4:00 am

The Bible doesn’t actually instruct husbands to rule or command their wives. So how are they supposed to lead their households? What’s the ultimate goal? Listen to Truth For Life as Alistair Begg examines Scripture to find out how to be a godly husband.


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Contrary to what you may have heard the Bible never instructs husbands to rule or commander. Why so how are they supposed to leave their household today on Truth for Life will find out how to be a godly husband.

What ultimate goal would be Alister Greg is teaching from first Peter chapter 3 today, but he begins with a look at chapter 1 verse. Peter has been explaining this or wonder of salvation.

He comes to application and the 13,000 he says now therefore, in light of these doctrinal indicative here are some of the model ethical imperatives.

Now you should live in a certain way, prepare your minds for action B, self-control, set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed. And as verse 14 as obedient children do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in this okay so as non-Christians we didn't notice we were not simply ignorance of the way of salvation, but we were ignorant of the purposes of God for the way that life should be live.

Now all that has changed. So the Christian husband discovers that salvation for him must impact his marital relationship with his wife. He no longer lives in ignorance.

He is now to live according to knowledge the knowledge which is become his as a result of the work of redemption within his life.

What kind of knowledge will certainly these things that husbands are to live with her wife's in the knowledge.

First of all of the wonderful provision that God has made flyers and manage.

He also comes in the knowledge of the clear parameters that God is set for marriage to be live the way God intended it to be.

So the Christian husband is different from his non-Christian golfing buddies.

He doesn't laugh at the same jokes. He doesn't read the same literature why because he is committed to dwelling with that woman Nelson according to the knowledge that he cannot step out with the parameters that God has created for that marriage bond and still enjoy the privileges God intended.

Thirdly, in the knowledge of the unique purpose for which God is, or didn't husband-and-wife forcefully in the knowledge of what it will mean for his wife to live out the principles of first Peter three verses 1 to 6 drawing your life's in light of what I just said says Peter, you're living with a lady who is seeking to fulfill verses 1 to 6, you need to understand the implications of that and fifthly, in the knowledge of what his wife is by nature and what she is by grace that comes in the phrase by nature. She is the weaker partner by grace. She is a joint heir to that will come in a moment but notice the next phrase with with me will you husbands in the same way.

Bravo. Your wives according to knowledge. Notice this and treat them with respect. Again, I think the authorized version is better here than that it uses the word honor word honor has it has more majesty to it is is a richer word. For example, we may respect the 35 mile an hour signs along the road by we don't get down and plant flowers around the men and our salute every time we pass, we may respect the decision of the referee on the basketball court. We don't bow down and worship him at the end of the game so there is a distinction in some measure, even in our English usage between respect and honor and in actual fact the word which is used here is the same word that is translated in the seventh verse of chapter 2.

By then, by the word precious now to you who believe this stone is precious. Okay, so the literal translation by Kieran first Peter 37 is that husbands treat your wife's with preciousness led to her wife's know how precious they are to you precious things are afforded a special place and are treated with particular care and courtesy one is just pause for a minute indicative discourses in the real intense practicality of this gentleman? Have our wife's lately being made unmistakably aware of the fact that apart from Christ. They are two arts the most precious relationship that we enjoy in the whole world have we been about the business.

Husbands of making sure that the preciousness of our wife's is manifested and is exalted and is expedience and is enjoyed by how we realize lately what it means for our wife's to endeavor to live out the first six verses of one Peter three. Have we realized what it is for them to walk into an environment which is totally alien to these things as they have sought to invest themselves in mother boot as they have endeavored to work out the implications of submission and that they done so, they are bombarded by their peers are saying to them, you're a freak. Do you realize that there aren't many ladies like you left. Why do you get out of that narrowest range. Judy estate roots and get in here in the mainstream get when RIS where the women of tomorrow in our lives have been saying no to realize what it takes for them to say no, you realize how much they are in need of affirmation, approval, affection, action, super encouragements preciousness come from, why is it between the ages of 57 and 42 that is the greatest declension amongst women in the marriage bond.

I'll tell you why it is guys because were not doing the job we are doing a job as an hours a week but were not doing the usual here comes Mr. X. He walks in, opens the back door from the Gary Teasley he's tired and he's inconsiderate.

He stalked out he turns to the usual spot where the male is where he likes it discovers it is in their surroundings said in a house he says where's the mail nice greeting to begin with, so his wife scurries off to find it. Unless of course she is decided not to go with the one Peter three, 1 to 6 route, in which case she answers. Finding yourself which is of course a possibility not in this illustration as he waits for his meal to be served, which you will eat alone because he is now not come home for the 17th time in a role to meet with his family. He grabs the remote control for his television and flopped down half reading the plain dealer in half watching 16 channels on the television. His wife watches and meets and up. He scrambles off to his racquetball appointment which he can never miss. He returns sweaty with just enough energy to turn on the stereo. Listen to his favorite song which goes like this, in which he always sings along on the course Shell Silverstein put another log on the fire.

Cook me up some bacon and some beans and go out to the car and change the tire and wash my socks and so my old blue jeans.

Come on baby, you can fill in my pipe and then go fetch my slippers and blow me up another pot of tea then put another log on the fire baby and come and tell me why you're leaving me I don't I let you wash the car on Sunday but I warn you when you're getting fat and I going to take you fishing someday well a man can love a woman more than that in. I always nice to your kid sister and I to go driving every night. So sit here at my feet as I like it when you're sweet and you know that it ain't feminine to fight another log on the fire baby, interesting thing is that when you turn to the pages of Scripture. You asked the question what her husband's told to do to their wives and for their wife's none of the verbs that we bought into nowhere husband's told to rule their wife's know where they told the commander. Wife's noteworthy told the subject wife's know where the told or their wives where they told her due to the wife's love their wife's let them know how precious they really are gazing too many cases, there's been an abdication wholesale big style abdication no meaningful communication.

No tenderness nor understanding no sweetness on the rice part.

Your response in this crazy sweaty racquetball who now arrives back will things that, despite the fact that a meaningful conversation with his wife in the last 26 days find how X Neil, nor any vacuum. She is going to be supremely interested in display of affection.

She thinks is hardly surprising. The owner that we bestow upon our wife's is to be restored in light of who she is naturally and spiritually. Now let's deal with these two phrases and were through for this morning with our study and we can praise God together and worship notice, display, honor the preciousness of your wife. First of all because she is the weaker partner to most important letters in the phrase the weaker partner you are going to go through that encircled two letters that are absolutely crucial to understanding that phrase.

What are the day what they are the Arctic E are on the end of the word week week for see as the week partner yet so often it is read as the week partner. I am the strong guy. She is the week is not a sex is already set in the 24th verse of chapter 1 of your Bibles will you see it there double all week that we are all in humanity week all men are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field. The grass withers and the flower falls the same picture that you have in Jeremiah 18 and Romans nine concerning the Potter and the clay. The Bible says that as humanity, we are weak. Therefore, we share that weakness.

But in some guy mentioned the wife is the weaker partner.

Notice of the word partner is there as well but let's miss that in the recognition of the wife's greater weakness is not derogatory and it is not in any way implying in fealty to meet all those ladies out there that are telling you that one Peter 37 and its counterparts is suggesting that a woman is a doormat. The woman is this the woman is that you know your Bibles guys good ability thought, no, you don't let me let me explain to you, son. And that's not that's not the truth, because the environment is setting up straw men and women so that they made power hose them down. Make no mistake that this is an arena of spiritual warfare.

I want a physical factor in this phrase the weaker partner has been the traditional explanation. I wonder if there isn't another possibility. In explaining this because the fact of the matter is that whites are not weaker in so many ways.

They're certainly not mentally weaker than us. They're certainly not morally weaker than us. So in what way would they be weaker than us. While there, they can carry as many breaks up a ladder. All right, well, is that it is that all we can find this and maybe that's all it is.

Maybe it is simply an acknowledgment of the physical constitution of the woman. What about this possibility. Section Bibles and see if there's any validity to what about the notion that one Peter is with that into here is the unique position taken by the first Peter 31 to 6.

Wife I the wife, and assuming her God-given role has accepted a position of submission and therefore a position of vulnerability and therefore a position of potential weakness and saltpeter rights to the man and he says your wife because she wants to be a wife.

God's way has put herself in a position of vulnerability in her role as a woman, therefore, make sure that you do not exploit her.

Make sure that you do not take advantage of.

Make sure that you value her as precious don't make her do everything to the degree that she is overwhelmed with life and goes under John prevent her from the opportunities that are uniquely hers. Otherwise you make her feel useless or in control of nothing. A tall recognize that delegation within the marriage bond is not talk down his lateral if women live with our wife's. According to knowledge than we need to recognize who they are naturally and finally spiritually, they are heirs with us of the gracious gift of life. Joint heirs. The King James version puts in other words, our wives believe in the same Savior I wife's it redeemed by the same ransom. I wife's live by the same grace and we look forward to the same destiny and you will notice that the final phrase reminds us of the transcendent die mention of all of this. Why is all of this important ultimately notice he does not say so that you will all be a happy family is not interested but is an approach to family life which is nothing more than idolatry.

Or I can worship I can come to this. I can go to that why I am worshiping at the shrine of family that we do pay attention family. Of course we are. But is that to become a God before the only God who exists in the whole notice what he says the reason your to fulfill these role relationships as per God's instruction is so that nothing will hinder your prayers. In other words, he says your domestic relationships have a profound impact upon your spiritual fellowship.

If your relationship with your wife is wrong. The doors the windows of heaven will be close to our relationship with God will never be right. As long as our relationship with others is wrong. When's the last time we let our wife's in prayer, I often ask couples when they come to talk with me concerning their marriage. Perhaps they've got an area of peculiar concern. Perhaps their burden with some particular sphere and they've read this and they've read that many things helpful in coalescing for the as they seek the way for asking this question. Husband, when is the last time you to your wife by the hand and knelt down at the site of your bed and letter before the throne of grace. When's the last almost without exception, one makes the discovery that husbands and wife have been going everywhere and to everyone.

I did have neglected to go the one place that God says, to his throne, will he find grace to be that kind of husband to be that kind of wife and where we find Massey forgiveness would be in the wrong kind of husband forgiveness for being the wrong kind, Peter is not calling us to an action that is unique new. He is calling us to continue what he is saying is I want you to get better at fulfilling the roles uniquely given you, but by God, even if society laughs, even if society sneers, even if it stretches you to the limit resolved today. God said it that settles it over my knee. I believe that comes next.

Remember that the old pastor from the inner-city sort.

It is out on that member that I was with him and he said my congregation says God says it, I believe it, that settles it says I told him God said it that settles it. I don't care. We believe it or not.

So here we go.

God said it that settles it. Now, here we go. I believe it I'm going to live. I ask you this morning.

What will become of another generation you think will happen to this nation when a generation of sure granting out any corrupted society and in a confused church. When that data does not really supposed to do. Mom who hasn't got a clue. Finally hit the streets to make their way in life, loved ones, so husbands let your wife know how precious they really are. Clearly this is a challenging message were hearing from Alastair big the day, especially in our current culture. This is Truth for Life. Alastair returns with prayer in just a minute. Our mission here at Truth for Life is to teach the Bible every single day, even when the message is challenging like the message we've heard today. Scripture never errors it remains applicable God's word has something to say to everybody to every person in every generation to supplement Alistair's messages we choose books with our mission in mind to help you dive deeper into our series topics. The book recommending today is titled gospel shaped marriage grace for sinners to love like saints. This is a brand-new book that helps Christian couples view marriage in the context of the gospel. The book explores the biblical history of marriage. It shows how marriage emulates Christ and his relationship with the church when you read the book you learn how you can rely on Christ to exhibit the grace needed in a marriage relationship gospel shaped marriage is a book that Alister highly recommends Becky wrote the forward for this book saying the Christian marriages that are patterned after God's instruction present us with an opportunity to shine as lights in the world, request the book gospel shaped marriage. When you give a donation to support the ministry of Truth for Life. Simply click on the app or visit and if you prefer you can give us a call at 888-588-7884 that hears Alastair to close today's program with prayer father.

We want your word to take root in our lives today. We confess to you the gaps that we find this we turn to the mirror. That's before I see we thank you that with you there is forgiveness and plenteous mercy that we can come this morning and say what I was yesterday, but this is a new day, and by your grace. I want to be the man of your appointing help is Lord, we pray, how else will we live as lights in the darkness. What will it mean in our society. Surely this at least in part, as we going to restaurants as we involve ourselves in recreation. We take our wife's to office functions as we drive in the car and as we walk the street's there would be some dine mention of the world would look at and wonder so that we might be able to magnify the God of all creation, and his son Jesus Christ. We want to offer you our lives today.

So we pray that you will calm and stir up our spirits within us that we might love you and serve you and follow hear our prayer for Jesus Bob Lapine just about every marriage will be tested by various temptations. Join us Monday to learn how to put a hedge protection around your relationship and we hope you enjoy your weekend and are able to worship with your local church. On behalf of all of us Truth for Life. Think a minute and wish every dad who's listening. A very happy Father's Day weekend Bible teaching of Alastair big is furnished by Truth for Life with the Learning is for Living

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