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A Lesson About Romance

The Urban Alternative / Tony Evans, PhD
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February 8, 2022 7:00 am

A Lesson About Romance

The Urban Alternative / Tony Evans, PhD

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You got married. Dr. Tony Evans talked about romance and God's not right in the midst of that. This is the alternative Dr. Tony Evans, author, speaker, senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas Texas and president of the urban alternative, regardless of whether we're married or single, the need for love is hardwired into our DNA.

That's the way God made us is also given a specific way she wants us to seek and express our romantic side and that's what Dr. Evans covers today. Let's join him in the song of Solomon plans, so why the player is the principal single.

He would sound like Barry White because very well before God because he lost everything because he was a player uses this man. What relationships cannot be to be a little of what relationships be written romance low dating, sex, marriage, from God's viewpoint got so all book in the Bible that most people have never read and few people read it, understand to give us how romance is to be expressed in the text of those know God. First of all, slapshot of the character of romance.

Chapter 1 the song of songs song like this one, which is Solomon maybe kiss me with the kisses of his mouth for your love is better than wine and fragrance and your name is like purified oil may love you job you would let us run together the king and brought me into extreme should look like Brad doing the ship with King Solomon and she murdered with character. She says that I am pleased with your fragrance. In verse three that is, you smell good when you walk into the role.

I am overwhelmed with with you would notice. Not only do you smell from your body oil is your name is like purified. In other words, your cologne makes you smell good, but your character makes you smell better to put it another way, my love, Solomon not only do you smell good on the outside but I can pick up your scent will be inside ladies, be well smell good on the outside but levels of a personality make themselves sound like a player. But when you come to find what makes them on the inside. There are no frequencies there. Do not measure your romance purely by the extra little but by what he calls, call your name in the Bible.

Name refers character always character love you. In other words, I have other people know about your character to give you the only one thinking a great guy. Go slow on the people had picked up on the this is a man of excellence in command of them so much and so she says you run the government. You take the lead and come alongside with if you date me many not leaving you now have great expectations, he believed, you win. She goes on to say, I am black, but lovely. Verse the print Solomon do not stare at me because I am smarter than the sun has burned me. My mother's sons were angry with me. They made me Think up the yard, but I have not taken care off of no in other words, like this been so I better stay out of the sun so long that while not taking care of my business. I have not taken care of my son because I'm not presentable right now.

I'm not up to snuff.

I'm not where I need to be. I'm going to maintain my standards. I'm not going to be like the ladies who hang out at the seven blocks of your companions. What we would say in our day-to-day convention sentence because even though life is rough.

I'm still going to maintain my dignity and my character. Yes I've had a bad background and yes, my brothers were angry against me. They put me out to do extra work in the field. No life is tough but you still will find available topics point is to be God's kind of woman you maintain your character.

No matter how tough things get, no matter how difficult days off you maintain your dignity. Yes, I want you but I will not displace myself to have. Yes, I love you but I'm not go myself to be with you. I'm going to maintain my dignity.

I'm going to maintain my report.

I'm going to maintain my commitment. Even though life rough. You won't find me bailing myself.

I will be like one of those linked teenagers you make in respect to what you make in respect to is you don't send to the level of expectations you make the pasta to the level of your dignity you let you you find you under God.

In verse eight, Solomon speaks and said still in this first snapshot. If you yourself do not know most beautiful among women go forth on the trail of the flock, and pastor, your young adult. The 10th of the shepherd.

To me, darling.

You are like my mail among the chariots of Pharaoh that I simply watch what he says. She says don't look at me now because I got my hair and put my makeup.

I have jeans all I'm sweating like it's been the steps it is still pretty without your makeup on your prettiest thing I see no still look good to me. You like the mad that leaves the shower you growing up like a prize lost in the parade to make a woman saying in other words, high self esteem is low, is in the house.

The temperature goes up because not agree you are.Kim, LeeAnn/RV lines far in terms of how you think you want herself in the job of the biblical level. The job of a man who knows God is not to reinforce your mate's failure, but to raise up her level of expectation your chick lovely with with strings of beads. I love you just the way you unconditionally backed her self esteem to get another view of herself and Whitney.Sweeney gives a different perspective of herself that now how she looked around all of this understanding in God's economy of man's you always start from the inside, not from the outside in chapter 1. She was in the sun, messing with him and she's in the shade someone ask you love does your wife find shade when she once believed the sun of the burdens of her life. Can she come sit down at your feet and cover her wishing or is it as hot actual feet as it was from that which is burdening her you want to be her shade. The place where she finds comfort in the midst of the school. That's the character of romance. It has to do with what is on the inside.

Moving to what is on the outside and not getting checked because something looks good. Dr. Evans will come back in a moment with more on what godly romance looks like goes for married couples and for singles when he continues this message from a series dealing with one of his most requested topics ever it's called marriage matters and recovers practical issues like finances and communication as well as digging into the spiritual roots of the marriage covenant dealing with the spiritual side of sexuality and laying the groundwork for a real family revival would like to send you the complete 14 lesson collection on CD or digital download so you can explore these important topics with your spouse or even your small group Bible study. Just contact us by phone or online. Make a contribution and will send you a copy of all the messages in this two-volume series with our thanks and appreciation and for a limited time will also send you three of Tony's popular booklets covering more these marriage topics and quick to read, easy to digest format you'll receive marriage matters for married men only and for married women only, along with all the full-length messages from the marriage matters series, just visit Tony to get the ball rolling, or color resource request line at 1-800-800-3222 anytime of the day or night. I repeat that contact information for you again after Dr. Evans returns with more of today's lesson right after this I'm standing here in Alaska.

One of the most glorious places in God's great creation and I want to invite you to join me permit alternative plan for the Alaskan cruise were going to have a magnificent time in God's Word and God's creation we going to enjoy great fellowship great fun. Great and I'm looking forward to meeting and greeting on our QA Alaskan cruise registered. Can't wait to be with more unforgettable Alaskan cruise, visit Tony today Tony that leads to the cultivation of romance in chapter 2 verse four is brought me to his banquet hall and his banner over me is love how romance cultivated many of you got married and love.

Now you're married and it's called sickle. That's only one reason we have different personality.

Different personality when you met the difference you stop cultivating the romance get different. You change change what you would always been that way change sustainably with raising pigs refresh me with apples because I am love sick I can't stand, I'm, I'm, we can now take it. I'm awake at the knee's when winter comes the job 128 says she will be a fruitful line with my house because I am thermostat and she is she to give the reading of my temperature setting.

So if you want something like don't bring home with the web, said most men don't know the power over me, God told Adam name the animals which we have authority over the day he names her that wasn't already because a man is powerful, he could change the temperature he could take a woman said to all of a sudden he that bad to like you. All romances have conflicts and that leads us to the conflict of romance we discover this conflict as they enter into a difficult time fibers to I was asleep but my heart was awake. A boy's mother loved with knocking open to me, my sister, my darling, I love my perfect one for my hand as George would do my lot with the dam of the night, but her responses. I think again I am again.

I'm tired.

I know in other words she used the before she said to me what you want to be with you baby with you. I'm tired bad. I want to be daddy again hello but notice the player, my beloved extended hands through the opening in the door and my feelings were around man goes around comes around.

He said distal turnup turn up the heat in the first three verses of chapter 6 with one another. They overcome the conflict with more love for chapter 8 verse five. She is leaning on her beloved underneath the apple tree underneath the stars lit night there mother was in labor with you like a woman crying out in pain. There are times in love. Where there is pain, but you don't walk up because not hard sometime anymore because it's too painful. No more painfully Chrysler cross walk away from Calvary. Love is painful sometimes medicine but it does not mean that you skip, it is often times like a woman having a baby, but it is also persevering her sick put me on the feel of your heart medicine will be doing all the love and strong as death.

In other words per minute. Death is permanent you love should be a permanent edge of death will be when you die you will never come back. And when you love should never come back were divorce should not come up not know God allow certain exceptional circumstances, but that should not be the routine, it should be like this, you will find that it actually but divorce will not come up with because it's a single reversible verse seven.

Many waters cannot quench love was overflowing for member to give watch this all the riches of his house for love. We would be utterly despised words by six okay my love because lot must be given. Love cannot be demanded must be given one who's doing the word for those waiting for romance single not married nobody loving you right now. Verse eight says when I was a little sister and had no breakfast of the child had not developed talking verse nine wall shelf behind on a battlement of silver all meeting starting get a bunch all T's man chase in good shape called ground. We were rewarder. She said I stood my ground and I was wall not a door.

Every man knew you not walking in and out of okay I am not your door. I am not your plaything.

I am not your toy on the wall.

King Solomon with a common woman. She wasn't so common. Yeah, late evening, when I'm around women who are loose. One thing want to marry ones that want to marry town's strong. Dr. Tony Evans will come back in a moment with the final story for single Shubin Towers for so long that their strength is running out. First, take a moment to get in touch with us and request a copy of our current 14 part compilation by Dr. Evans called marriage matters is designed to help you keep the epidemic of family failure from infecting your home as I mentioned earlier, when you make a contribution to help keep Tony's ministry strong here in the first part of 2022 will send you both volumes of marriage matters is our thank you gift as a special added bonus will also include for married man only for married women only and marriage matters. Three popular booklets. Tony's written on these important topics get all the details and make the arrangements.

When you visit us once again that's Tony or call our resource request line at 1-800-800-3222 were team members are standing by to assist with your request day and night.

Again, that's 1-800-800-3222 the last couple of years we've all become very aware that we can catch something from those we come in contact with. Fortunately, not everything that is contagious is bad for us. In fact, there are many things we can spread that are helpful. Kindness is one of those good viral things and we encourage you to practice acts and words of kindness so others will see and do the same. Revival is another contagious good and tomorrow. Dr. Evans will explain how we can help it spread to the people who mean the most to us, our families right now though his practitioner a final word of encouragement for struggling shingles. I have go to Memphis for a brief meeting and the plane was delayed. I'm get a little nervous because when I get to Memphis I would have to drive an hour away to Jackson, Tennessee, and I'm not dressed for the engagement. I have my closing overhang hour later we still have important runway for another 30 minutes before we take off. I have a 733 how to change clothes. I am somewhat relatively did you pick me up one that begins at 730.

Don't worry, their weight was such a job just don't know when we get the jacket I will pull off thinking to my father's house and you go in and change. But don't worry I will try to change merely take it away sweat and frustrated get McLean 1230 o'clock when I put engagement where walk into this glorious grand ballroom.

Thousands of people stand up and applaud not only did they wait, they celebrated my silly single week that the airport alone their weight a long time but we know yet like you want to look yet what you want what you want off on their way when you step in the right he or she will stand up the alternatives with Dr. Tony, have you made possible by the generous contributions from listeners like

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