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March 5, 2021 7:00 am
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Dr. Tony Evans is forgiving others releases us from one source and prevents a brand-new one feels celebrating 40 years of faithfulness. This is the alternative Dr. Tony author, speaker, senior pastor of Oakland Bible Fellowship Dallas, Texas, president of the alternative, it's easy to talk about forgiveness. Someone cut you off on the highway or do something else to ignore you but when you're the victim of a hateful tragedy. Once we hear about so often in the news. It's a different story. Dr. Evans can you help us understand forgiveness in that context. One of the reasons that forgiveness is critical is not just for the person you're forgiving. It's also for the giver because unforgiveness holds you hostage. But first of all got understand what forgiveness is all about the women seek to clarify that but also for the forgiven for that person to know that they can get right with God, and they can have the opportunity to seek reconciliation because forgiveness has been offered.
Let's get started with this. Look at how to follow God's ultimate example of forgiveness. We have all seen a dog being held hostage by Leach by links in a chain collect and they can go a little distance once it goes too far. It's unable to go any further, and many times I yanked back, unable to be free because they have been collared by something that limits their movement by unforgiveness. The links in the chain on the leash involve anger, bitterness, resentment that revenge and all links, called unforgiveness, shame on you for days or months, maybe years or decades. One thing is for certain, not able to get free slack, but that read as you to forgive happen man was told to tell you wish me happy new year. I wish you but only one in Colossians chapter 3, Paul the apostle says to forgive one another in verse 13, forgiving each other, so let's clarify definition stick with me today because whether you all let you know someone and we probably all do. This is no small issue. As you will see forgiveness means to release a person from any obligation that had been incurred to relieve a person from wrong committed against you.
Forgiveness does not mean approving or excusing or justifying or pretending not to be hurt if not repressing it and pushing it in the basement of your mind so that you don't have to think about it, but it is releasing by choice from an obligation to you because of all the gigs in the equation we have needed to be forgiven and we have needed to forgive everybody whether small or large, has been on the forgiveness continuing and it is the quintessential issue of human relationships. Forgiveness is to push button because of all the gigs forgive necessarily mean reconciliation very important distinction you can forgive people with whom you are not yet reconciled forgiveness.
Whether or not the decision of the true reason, the party that has done them wrong.
Whether or not we have a hookup again whether or not we have become friends again whether or not we ever do business together again.
Whether or not we would each other again. That is a goal that is a need that maybe something you strive to that may or may not happen does not determine whether forgiveness is so please make the two evil one to believe but one is not. You can forgive for that which he has yet to be reconciled a Sunday school teacher asked the class what does it take for you to obtain forgiveness for sin. What do you gain forgiveness first said one of the students really know what you must build to obtain forgiveness for what he said because forgiveness assumes all done. That is an immense evil that is detrimental to the person who is a party and who needs to be the forgive our to the person who is let's clarify. Forgiveness can be either unilateral forgiveness can also be transactional. Let me explain what I mean unilateral is to go one way, forgiving people who have asked you to forgive them what to say I'm sorry but I'm sorry you don't forget you by what they do or do not you forgiveness is forgiving someone who is to ask you for like someone who abused you the rest of your life. Because if you waiting for request that the requester could never come. Maybe it's a person you what you don't know they relocated somewhere you don't, you can't locate so there is no way for there to be a transaction that unilateral forgiveness. That's what Jesus did on the cross, father forgive them for they know not what they do without you ever saying anything. Forgiveness was granted transactional forgiveness.
Transactional forgiveness is forgiveness, because a person confessed and repented of against you, that the transaction occurred in its two ways, and requested forgiveness and strain it repentance that they are indeed sorry except the words followed up by the action, which now opens up the door for reconciliation reconciliation can occur when there has been transactional forgiveness that takes place when there is no transactional forgiveness. It's merely unilateral forgiveness and reconciliation is difficult or impossible. That's why to restore the relationship. The Bible says that Jesus paid the sins of all that was unilateral but offering transactional because if you come to Christ in faith, you will be reconciled with the father. The father is already reconciled with you for the forgiveness of sins. But when the transaction occurs because you come to Jesus Christ and reconciliation with the father can occur. So let's get this right. Forgiveness is releasing unilaterally all, whether transactionally, but the transactional forgiveness gives a potential for reconciliation. Depending on what the infraction was at the time needed to get over the hurdle of the pain that was caused by the infraction.
I remember a man who ran into my car. He hit my car, find out he was insured so we had no insurance to fix my car. I have a dent in my car caused by somebody else who was unable to fix the problem fixed now done was drive around with my caused by someone else being mad every day that they didn't fix that no good driver should draw the unfortunate living with dental vessel on the soul so that somebody is running into your life and put in your spending some time being mad that they were uninsured that they couldn't fix what they the children running around and living life with a dent that if forgiveness took place would have been repaired by you.
You can become so angry that you get used to it and don't know how to live without it. Because every time you see that it justifies you the person. Forgiveness is releasing someone for an obligation because of an offense against you. Please notice he says stay with me here in verse 13 says, forgiving each other, who complain against anyone, just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.
Says what makes it possible to forgive is recognizing you have been forgiven that you are forgive on it will be much more difficult for you to forgive and nobody who needed to be forgiven now different for different balls, but if you say it's because God has forgiven you action against him. Dr. Evans will have more force in the moment on that link between being forgiving and being forgiven. Well, if you want to start experiencing and exercising the kind of forgiveness that can heal relationships in your home, your community, your church, and even our nation. Tony's put together a step-by-step program to help you.
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The enemy knows that he can keep bringing this thing up can keep it rolling around like a record recording in your mind can you control you, break down relationships even have nothing to do with the person, but you can't move forward on the legitimate relationships because of the abuse, the pain, the stress, the struggle that was caused you to forgive as you have been forgiven.
When Jesus prays the Lord's prayer.
Forgive us our debts as we forgive those who have trespassed against us to remember that the Lord's prayer. He says he says amen.
Verse 14. Matthew six forgive transgressions and father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others. You all know will not forgive your transgressions. Watch this minute walking around with because of an unwillingness to forgive, if you refuse to forgive you and God are on the same page you God ration in your life no matter how many prayers you praying about how many Bibles you read how many church services you go to refuse to forgive totally breaks down fellowship with God vertically because the protocol is there to the horizontal. Forgive, just as your father has forgiven you.
Jesus tells another story.
In Matthew 18 he's talking about forgiveness.
Peter wants to know how many times beginning in 21 times you have to forgive somebody you ask. Jesus says that was a man who will demand millions of dollars and he could not pay me campaign because he was getting ready to be thrown and sold his family and the slavery it says that the king was sitting on the bed and did not require that he is now free and comes across a guy who owns a couple thousand bucks to grab my money.
You always somebody you're not paying me. I will jail you and says things went okay and told various and said don't get that when he says you are not willing to thousands going to do when going to untie you pale the story of this thing and so shall your father due to you is James 213 for mercy will receive mercy.
The one that doesn't show mercy will not receive mercy love the way Ephesians puts it. Ephesians talks about the same thing here is what Ephesians 4 verses 30 to 32 says it says do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ forgave you. Here it is with you.
You have just over into the supernatural reset again when you do. As difficult as being you have just crossed over from the not to the super natural wife because the Holy Spirit is no longer sad agreements to make said, walking around with the Holy Ghost and that's why we all said people Holy Spirit.
So with the Holy Spirit.
That's why we are discouraged and depressed because he says do not grieve the Holy Spirit know the Holy Spirit. If you because you're walking around because you're walking around thinking about go get you what goes around comes around.
If you are walking around thinking and feeling my wife what you know it's great inside of you because you are the person you taken that person's name you are seeking damages. You can do. That means that you are so hostage to a noose around your he says it's a Holy Spirit issue, but forgiveness. He says not excusing all but forgiveness is to cross into the fray is brought up just one doctor 2011. On that link between being forgiving and being forgiven.
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We can't live anywhere but the present, but that doesn't stop a lot of Christians from being trapped in the past. Next time, Dr. Evans will take a biblical look at how to break free. I hope you will be with the alternative with Dr. Tony have celebrating 40 years of faithfulness, thanks to the generous contributions of listeners like you