A Mother's Love

Welcome to the Christian Car Guy Radio Show. With today's guest host, our Christian Body Shop Guy, Jerry Mathis.

Good morning, and welcome to Christian Car Guy Radio. I tell you what, I should have been in the studio. Bob Young over here was just dancing away to the... If that music don't get you moving, want nothing.

That's right. This morning, I'm just hoping that Robbie's having a great time, is filling in, get the opportunity, and get the opportunity to be in the studio with two really good friends. I'm excited about this morning.

I don't know about y'all, but we talked about it. The theme for the day this weekend is Mother's Day weekend. Tomorrow is Mother's Day. The theme is going to be Mother's Day. We're going to share some stories. Also, this is a calling show. If you have a story about your mom or your wife, because she may be your child's mom or stepmom or whatever it is, we'd love to hear your story, because we're going to try to share a few of them.

It is a calling show, and the phone number is 866-348-7884. We'd love to hear your story. Bob, Mark, I'm going to read from Proverbs 31. We all know this, that passage, the Proverbs woman and stuff, and when I read through this, and I think I shared this when my mom just passed away recently, and I was saying it's a little bit tough being the first Mother's Day without her being here, but also she had struggled with Alzheimer's for the last seven years, and so in a way it's almost lost her twice, but still she was always there and was able to go and sit with her and stuff, and she always had that nature about her, I mean just pleasant, and which sometimes you always wondered how much they changed during that process, but one thing they didn't change was her gentle and kind spirit and stuff, but I'm just going to read a couple verses from the Proverbs 31, because it's one of the things that really kind of, I mean it just dead hits what I think of mom and stuff is, she is clothed with strength and dignity, and she can laugh at the days to come, she speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. My mom had to have a lot of faithful instruction and stuff, and she grew up in a time that so many of our parents grew up in, when it was when it was tough, and it was hard, and it was a lot of things was put on her, and I'm looking at Mark, and I'm sure with your mom, and Bob with your mom, where things weren't, it isn't easy now, but it was a chore. I can remember us growing up and having a boatload of kids in one car, and I can remember her walking us to the store, and we had a wagon, and she'd pull it, and if you got lucky you could ride in the wagon. I was older, so I didn't ever get to ride in the wagon, even though, I will say one thing about about mom, she did always know that her firstborn, it was hard to beat that, it just, it didn't ever, my brother and sisters had just never quite lived up to the same quality that I was, and Bob you older brothers always think that us babies really know that we're the apple of their ride.

There you go. I guarantee you, that is a fact, because I can, I think that did really, reality is it got better as she went on, so, but there's so many stories and stuff, and I just look forward to that, but one of the things was, you know, we grew up, and my mom made it where, I mean, we struggled financially and stuff, father worked at Reynolds, and quit, which I can always remember, I was very young when that happened, and, but I can still remember, I couldn't understand why she was devastated and crying so much, but as time went on, I realized why, I mean, somebody had a, in this area, if you work for Reynolds Tobacco Company, that's a job you wouldn't want to walk away from. Right, I got that taken away from me, I had a job there for three and a half years, but as a result of the buyout, they no longer needed my services, and it was crushing, because, you know, I worked at Reynolds, woohoo, and I was so sure that I had life by the tail, but it all worked out, it all worked out, but it was a little tough for a while when I lost that job, so I can relate to what you're saying about RJ Reynolds Tobacco Company, that was a really great place to work. Yeah, it was, I worked there a little bit, and I still worked at the store with my dad, but I worked there for a little while, but there was in that time period where it was temporary, temporary, temporary, and, you know, we don't need you this, just for a month, they wouldn't, they'd call you back and call you back, and I said, look, you know, if you want me, hire me, if you don't, I'm staying with the family business, which I've done, so. Yeah, and you know, when you're on the tailwind, y'all stories on the tailwind of when, before that, I mean, if you went to work at Reynolds, you went there, and it was a career, I mean, that was, you just didn't go anywhere else, and you were, I mean, you were set, I mean, they, you know, looked after you, in my opinion, I mean, I know there's a lot of talk, you know, not being union, union, whatever, but, I mean, really, you look at it, they took care of you, and looked after you, and, and, and. They hired family, that's what they wanted. Hired family, had that health care, dental care.

Before they went to a, you got this staff and stuff now, but back then, they'd come and say, look, you got somebody in your family wants to work, we need, send them to us. Yeah, well, I'm gonna go ahead and let Mark and, and, and Bob introduce themselves this morning, and, and I'm gonna share, one of the stories I'm gonna share includes Mark and Pulliam's Barbecue, because that's something, every time I get the chance to, and I share about it, is one of the things that I've always cherished was, was, was the time I spent with my mom when we'd go, is when I was a kid, going up there, and we'll come back to that in a moment, but Mark, good having you this morning. Good, thank you, Jerry. Glad to be here with you and Bob, and I'm Mark Flint from Pulliam's Barbecue and Hot Dogs. Good hot dogs. Thank you.

Good barbecue. And I'm Bob Young, Christian, Christian junkyard guy, retired, and, but I just love doing this show, and what you said about the mom struggles, and this and that, and how they handle the struggles. I have to claim responsibility for a lot of my mom's struggles, because I was not a good child all the time. I had my moments, but there were times when it's unfortunate that, that mom didn't let dad take my life.

He wanted to throw me back for a while, but you know, she always saw, she knew there was something good in there. It was just buried really, really deep for several years, and it was one of the joyous days of my life, when my dad said, I finally see what she saw in you, and when that happened, it was just a really, really uplifting day for me, but you know, no matter how I was, how I was doing, the trouble I got into or whatnot, mama loved me. Mama loved me. Mama protected me. Mama helped me out, and just kept on loving me, and I'm just glad that she can see now that things have turned around a little bit. Yeah, that's the way I feel about my mom too.

I mean, I knew we all probably tried to be like myself, push it to the limit the best we could without getting in trouble, but that didn't, wasn't always the case. Yeah, and I'm glad y'all come on that subject, because I'm going to also read Proverbs 22 6, because I think this is important as a mother, and what I cherish so much about my mom, and I know with Mark and Bob also, and probably hundreds of you out there listening, or thousands, is the fact that they understood, they saw something, and a mother sees something in her kids that maybe nobody else even sees, but when I was growing up, I had to and my siblings also had a drug problem, because my mom drug us to church every time the doors were open, and I'm going to read Proverbs 22 6, and it is, start your children off on the way they should go, and even when they're old, they will not turn from it, and I think sometimes that that passage may not turn from it, but sometimes I think it's, they need to, they will turn back to it, because there was times when, when I've always felt like I was a Christian, but I think there's probably times that I would have a hard time getting a jury of 12 that would agree with that, you know, but part of it was always, I knew what my mom, if the doors were open at church, I mean it didn't matter, Sunday morning, Sunday night, Wednesday, VBS, whatever it is, we were in church, and it wasn't, it wasn't even anything that got debated, I mean, it was, as long as you're under this roof, you're going to church in the morning, and that is sort of the thing that I think a lot of times as parents and as mothers we've drifted away from, we'll be back in a moment again, we'd love to hear your mother's story, 866-348-7884. Radio, I'm Gerry Mathews from Ray's Body Shop and Record Service. Also, like I said, this morning we're kind of, this is a Mother's Day weekend, and we're going to kind of throw that as a theme out, theme for the morning, and I look forward to hearing some more Mark's stories and Bob's stories about their moms and stuff, and I'm going to share one real quick one with, because I said I wanted to talk about puyans, that it's a memory that I've shared on the air multiple times, but I think now when we, we're in a society that parents and kids and people just don't communicate, one thing that I can say is, when I was growing up, I may not have always liked the communication, but I always communicated with Mahama, I mean, that was one of the things, she was always wanting to be involved in everything that I did or Dale did or Julie, Lisa or Gina, any of them did, any of them did, she wanted to be 100% involved in it and stuff, and today, you sit there coming up the road, you can see people in a car, if there's a family of four, all of them are on the phone, and sometimes even the one driving is on the phone, but it's, and you go into a restaurant, they're not even talking to each other, they're, they got a tablet in front of them or some kind, but when I was growing up, one of the highlights for us as a family, and Ray and mom would load us in the car, and on a Sunday, when Poyms was open on Sundays, and Mark will remember that, and we'd go up there, and you get one hot dog, and probably two of us would split a drink, and if you were really good, you could maybe get ice cream, but we sat there, and we sat up there for hours outside, and at the time, I can't remember if it was, if it's not, I don't think it'd be the same stumps that were there, but we were sitting on something outside, I think it was stumps, or crates, or grass, yeah, or I remember we had a note, you know what, the body shop guy never had a car back then, Ray's cars looked like they needed to be in the body shop, or they need to be at 109, you pull it in the junk pile that's getting ready to be crushed, we had a station wagon, the whole back end of it was just wiped out, but the tailgate would still work, so we'd go up to Poyms, and sit outside, need a hot dog, lower the gate down, and watch planes land at Smith Reynolds Airport. Well, the things that amazes me too, is I want to think about you say splitting drinks, and hot dogs, and stuff, compared to the day's prices back then, it wasn't about 35 cents, a hot dog, it is hard to believe that you, back then, you think about now, what it is, you're thinking 35 cents for a hot dog, you could have bought your bunch, but you got to remember, money wasn't, yeah, and every time I walk through those doors, that's the kind of the memories that I always think about, I always think about mom, always think about Ray, but it's just, I think about my brothers and sisters, because it's just one of those memories that I always stick, I can come in, and I just smell the slaw, and the the hot dogs, and all that stuff, and it just instantly, I go back into that time. I know it's Mother's Day, but I mean remembering your dad coming in there all the time, now that, I really miss him, yeah, we we really had some good conversations, and that's that's one of the stories about mom, I knew how tough she is, because I loved Ray, loved my father, later on, later on in life, I became, sort of, in some ridges, and stuff, because it was a tough time there at different times, and stuff, because of what he put my mom through, and stuff, and he was old school, and hard-headed, but man, mom was always faithful, and stood by him, no matter what. Real quick, we got Patricia calling from Greensboro, I think she has a mother story she'd like to share with us. Good morning.

Good morning. Can you hear me? I can hear you. Can you hear us? Yeah, it's clear.

Good. I just wanted to say that I grew up in North Carolina, and my mother was from South Carolina, via New York, and my father married her in New York, and they lived there having six kids, so when they came south, my brother just older than I, than I am, and I was born in North Carolina, and what I remember mostly about my mom is that my mom was consistent, and she was dedicated, and whatever she set out to do, she was very loyal about doing that, even if it meant neighbors, kids, or neighbors who needed help, or some assistance in something, she would make herself available, even with the little bit of time that she had personal of her own, and she taught me to read at a very early age, and then my siblings assisted along the way, family friends assisted along the way, so I came up kind of precocious, but not able to express things the way that I wanted to, or the way that I really saw them, and she was just a gentle person, but there was a strength inside of her that I draw from to this day, and I've tried to teach my children, I have three children, tried to teach them to pull from that strength too, because they never knew her, she passed before the second two children were born. I said to someone yesterday, and I'm gonna cut this short, Mother's Day is every day, and it doesn't matter if it's a holiday celebrated nationally, as long as your mom is in your life, and even if she's left your life, Mother's Day is every day. I tell them Christmas is every day because of Christ, but when you think about your mom, do something simple but special for her. Don't miss those opportunities, because you may not get it a second chance.

Amen. You can take her out somewhere, take her out to dinner, take her out to dinner. Don't tell her you take her out to dinner. Say, Mom, come on, go ride with me, and then take her to dinner, even if it's not expensive or it's eloquent or whatever. Just take her out, because those little things count, and if you have a home where the father is not there, he isn't there to date her anymore, but as her children, you can date your mom, and it's okay, and she will appreciate it in so many ways that she may not express it in the words that she might want to, but when you need her, she'll be available. She'll make herself available even if something else is going on, and I just wanted to just share that, because we make a big deal out of these kinds of holidays, but then throughout the year, so many times you miss opportunities to still celebrate the holiday. The fact that she's with you in your life is a holiday, it's special, and they may not be the most effective moms, like we have moms that kind of, you know, they're doing their own thing or whatever.

Maybe if you date your mom, and you do things for your mom, which you don't have to, and it's not a holiday to be celebrated, mom may come around and be the mom that you might want her to be, or the mom that she really wants to be, but don't know how. Absolutely. Patricia, thank you for calling. I appreciate everybody. You're welcome. All right. Thank you for calling.

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Now's the time to buy. See the Dodge boys now for a new kind of deal. Welcome back to Christian Car Guy Radio. I'm Jerry Mathis raised body shop and record service and studio with Mark and Bob and say Mother's Day theme this morning, and I tell you what, Patricia said one thing that kind of stuck when she said about her mom had all the neighbors and everything were around, and the whole, that's one thing I remember about mom was every neighborhood kid spent time at our house I believe because she, it was always something going on if she was making banana splits or ice cream sundaes and just people just, I mean all the kids just gravitated to that, and she always had a way with kids. I can remember, I'm sitting there with Bob and I can remember this as if it was yesterday. When Bob first got started and he had a real fine rollback and he had this young buck that rode around with him and stuff his partner and mom used to always think that was the coolest thing and she always said I don't know why you don't get tailored to ride around with you well. It's like well I don't know if that's gonna happen, but Bob and Rob would be coming down and stuff and she just always enjoyed that and I always think about how much it meant to her just just the memories and stuff because I have those memories at poor years but she also had the same thing whenever somebody was out and about would get hot dogs especially even when she had dementia had kind of set in I could go get a hot dog and bring it down and and we'd sit around the table and eat that and she would it's kind of amazing wouldn't know my name but she could remember stories from from back to going up there and stuff and she'd be telling as if it happened yesterday but it's some pretty cool stuff. I tell you what you mentioned that me and Rob used to ride around on the weekends and go out looking for junk cars we'd we'd go and just ride and if it was a big one he called it a bobsled daddy bobsled because we liked them big heavy cars you know and we'd just ride around but put cars cards out on people's doors and stuff if they if we thought they might have something we could use so that really warmed me up you telling that but my mom's uh I lost uh she lost her battle with cancer but in the end stages she was going through chemo and she would work she'd come home at lunch time and rest for a little bit go back to work she would take off half a day on Friday go get her chemo come back rest up over the weekend so she could be back at work on Monday and just she was determined to stay with work as long as she possibly could and just the absolute strongest woman in the world and she had her mind made up that she was going to work as long as she could and she did and uh she was working up to a few days before she passed within a week I believe you know she maintained that and for people who have lost their mom I lost my mom day after Christmas in 93 but if you've lost your mom don't let it be don't let Mother's Day be a bummer celebrate all the great things she did celebrate all the great times you had and and you know don't let the fact that she's no longer here steal the joyous memories and the awesome things that she did for you so that's my advice to anybody who's uh uh experiencing tomorrow without their mother on this earth because she's still with you brother absolutely I'll tell you good and it just happened this week with me now you know we usually have junior rentals on here with us which juniors out of town couldn't be with us today but I was standing out there talking to junior at the driveway the other day that goes down to my lower drive where my wife has a hair salon that where she used to cut hair there was a reflector sitting down there on the ground that I had put on that telephone pole and the reason why I'd done that was years ago my mother wouldn't tell me that she where it ever happened at but I was over her house and her rear view mirror was torn completely off of her car and I said I ain't telling you where I did that at I'm not telling you finally she give in and told me weeks later that she had hit that telephone pole so I went out there and put that reflector on it for her and all the other people that are getting their hair done but mainly because my mother had hit it and that reflector was laying down there at that base of that telephone pole and AC I said you know what that was for don't you AC says uh people bass is mainly my mother because she knocked her I'm gonna tell you something else that comes to mind too I don't know if this happened to y'all with all those kids it reminds me a lot of Mother's Day was when I was growing up in church as a kid on Sunday Mother's Day if your mother was alive you wore a red rose or carnation yes sir if she was passed away you wore a white one yep so I do remember all that too as far as Mother's Day went I don't know if churches still do that but I don't think it's the bigger thing as it was but like you say in the past it was it was huge yes it was yeah I remember I mean we didn't we didn't have the money to go out and buy flowers so we'd oh yeah we would canvas the neighborhood and somebody had a wife had a red flower in their yard and my mom would go out and sniff the rose off the red rose off of them absolutely in the yard all right we've got a call from Dale in Winston Dale how you doing this morning I'm doing good how you doing hey looky there I was just saying he missed talking to you there you go Bob there you go yeah I just wanted to say you know I just hope I'm I can be half the reflection of mom and uh especially since I was her favorite and that's all don't don't don't lie on don't ask for those of y'all don't know this is Jerry's brother on the phone and and uh us younger kids we took precedence over them older ones yeah all right that's all I want to say I appreciate y'all thank y'all very much thank you brother good hearing from you all right and sort of uh to what Bob was saying and also Mark and then also Patricia said earlier you know we shouldn't we need to celebrate our moms 24 7 uh every day it's sort of like it is you know Christmas is every day because Jesus Christ is it should be the we should be celebrating that every day and also our moms we should be celebrating them every day and if they're not there and and I know that for Bob it's been more longer been more years for me it's been less than it's been months but then also I know Mark's going through that with uh sharing his wife who's just lost her mom just lost her mom here about maybe listen a month ago and it's really hard she was a great lady yeah so my thing is make sure if you're if your mom's alive and then make sure you celebrate her but also do it beside don't just wait to one day a year and stuff and also when I celebrate Mother's Day I also celebrate the fact uh Myra my wife is a great mother to my daughter and stuff and we have uh absolutely absolutely I think about that dearly about my wife and my daughters they're great mothers well the verse you read while ago about uh teaching them when they're young and it'll show up in their life later uh Laurie was very she's read that to me several times and uh you know I know she's a firm believer and what an awesome mother and she was great to rob uh and he wasn't always easy to be great too but uh he had a lot of me in him and uh but she was great to my biological son she's great to both of her sons um we have a new daughter-in-law in the family and and I think she will mother her all she'll let her and uh it's just awesome to be around her and and see the love she has for the boys and and our new daughter yeah I think uh I think sometimes we we just uh I don't know what it is about a mother but I think there is that thing you always hear that there's something special about them that's a gene they have and it's so true I mean it's they're able to radiate just love I mean you just just feel that right you're talking about young ones like that too though and I can remember back in the day when of course my sibling was gala a female but you always heard that the mom was all you always heard the mom was attached to the the son and the dad was attached to the daughter so it was I mean I feel it kind of felt that way in a way but you know it's just always gala always say yeah mom lets you get away with everything just I said well daddy let you I never heard that growing up every day every day being the baby you know lord have mercy they my brothers uh they gave me that a lot they gave me that a lot yeah and you know talk about talking about stories one of the stories that I always just just used to amaze me about mom one thing she she loved NASCAR and she was uh I remember her and Ray and them were at Daytona when Dale Sr. got got killed and stuff and how hard that was on her I mean you thought that was her child that that that had happened to and stuff but also another got a lot of stuff don't know if we'll have time to share it but one thing that she had had in her mind and now this is a funny story that if you had an animal we had a a horse that had a colt and every day she went out to lift it up as long as it was uh lifted every day she could do it no matter how big it got we'll be back in a moment again calling show you're listening to the truth network and truth and truthnetwork.com. Welcome back to Christian Car Guy Radio I'm Jerry Matheson studio with Mark and Bob and real quick before we go into another talk about mothers I'm going to speak about mothers from a different angle Jesus' labor of love a great opportunity for people to to to help mothers that are in certainly in a crisis and we don't realize how important transportation and automobile is until you don't have it and we live in a society now where it's as I said I grew up as a as a kid we had one car but you worked around it today I don't know everybody had a car back then and now there's so many people that don't yeah that's the truth so I just encourage you to go on on Christian Car Guy and there's a link for Jesus' labor of love man it's a great opportunity to help a mom and Bob knows he's been been on this ride with with Robbie from from day one and I will also say and I said this to to Robbie many many times I've said it to Bob we had a meeting with Robbie when he had envisioned this this uh where God had called and put it on his heart to help single moms that were in crisis and needed transportation needed a car needed cars repaired and when Bob when he presented this I I was oh yeah I'm I'm with you but I walked out and I think I told Bob is he crazy this ain't gonna work we uh we had our doubts and you know I I admit I confess I I had my doubts but uh the passion Robbie had for it and everything and uh he got some people with him and it's really worked out well and we've been able to help a whole lot of people through the years and uh we just encourage anybody to go on the website and uh find out about donating to us because uh it it really really really helps yeah one of the things Mark you don't notice but every penny that goes in if somebody donates and contributes to uh Jesus' labor of love there's no no administrative fees we have a people who we've got some administrators and one of them is uh the wife of the guy sitting across from me uh and they don't charge it and so every penny goes into helping somebody and if you have a vehicle that's sitting in your driveway that even if it's one that doesn't run we can turn that into cash and help somebody or if it's one that does run there's there's a list of people that's in need of a vehicle yeah so you could be the one that could answer that prayer and if you don't do anything else man just go on that website and sign up and be part of the prayer team because the most important thing may be the fact that we we lift people up in prayer and that's right and back to the to mothers I mean I wonder if that Bob Mark you got any other stories because well we told him we got we got a caller and I don't want to run out of time so Ronnie from Lynchburg Virginia I've been in Lynchburg a few times with Liberty University that's for sure Ronnie how you doing this morning doing great doing great what can we do for you I just like to tell a little story about my mother we'd love to hear I'd like to say that the people listening and I'll ask a question is there anything that has more power than and a mother's influence and the reason I say that I don't know of anything that grown alpha male rough men will stand around and cry about years down the road you know affecting the lives of them from from their mother it's just I don't know of anything else that's more powerful to break men down than the love of a mother I've second that yeah as strong all right and I'll go on into this my mother I was the youngest of three graduated in 82 and 80s and 90s my mom volunteered with the Red Cross on numerous disasters she was down in Florida she got sent to Florida to work a hurricane and I think it was Andrew so after they'd been there about a week she was there over three weeks after they had been there a little over a week her fellow workers got to notice and she was missing about an hour before supper and one of her friends asked her about it thought there's something they could help her with and come to find out my mother when she got there the second day had given away all her clothes to a woman her size and almost every day for the following two some odd weeks that was left she would give her clothes away to a woman her size and go to Kmart and buy clothes to wear the next day wow that's great I'm 61 I'm a combat veteran and I don't I can think of a lot of things that shakes me but even my childhood and I learned this as an adult in my I don't know 30s or 40s and I'm like that hit me in the face like a two by four the character that my mother had to do something like that and that's just one that's just one of many just one of many but that's the one that just when I'm sitting here when y'all came on this morning you know I well up in tears because I remember it and I think about it wow thank you for calling in and sharing that that's that's you know I think sometimes we when we sit there and there's little things that that doesn't seem to be big things that we remember and I think Bob will agree with this and Mark will it's the little things that just sort of take for granted in life and stuff where we're especially with our moms and stuff the marks they made on our character and just like he the gentleman said there it's it's there's it's irreplaceable it is and it's awesome and it's nothing that you can study and create and come up with it's it's god-given I'm sure it's god-given I'm sure yeah absolutely well thank you for calling in and sharing it's that's sort of point that's effective go ahead just before I go I appreciate you guys I'm a Tar Hill born and bred I was born in Forsyth Memorial uh hospital down there back in the 60s 100 years ago um I heard you some say something about Smith Reynolds Airport so I know you're in Winston or close by yeah we're in Winston okay it didn't in the 70s when they started the busing deal of daddy migrated us to the mountains I grew up grew up in the Asheville area where the flood wiped out back there in September so uh my my family my people y'all my people I keep you in prayer and uh we're not alone not alone absolutely and and for those up there that's still suffering from the the floods and the the devastation I mean it's it's we can't put enough prayers up there and and stuff and y'all hang in there that's fine now and the only request I got is somebody please send us a barbecue because they don't know what it is up here hey marsh got the barbecue there you go what hey I read them I raise them and I cook them and uh I'm like an oddball up here so either way y'all have a great weekend and anybody love your mama like there's no no day tomorrow amen on that that's for sure there you go you know we bob go ahead I need to say so well I had to you know it's it was tough losing mom but I had the blessing of holding her as she passed and took her last breath and and and that gave me so much comfort that I could return some of the comfort my brother was like a little bit upset with Mika it was I was singing Jesus loves me to her I couldn't think of nothing else you know and um but I can't count the times that she just held me and and sang sang to me or comforted me and so the opportunity to return a little of that comfort right there at the end it just it was a blessing for me it really was I just want to say real fast I'll say this real quick is when my mother was had passed away in the room when my daughter's friends had sent some tulips and they had drooped and when my mother passed away those tulips went up that's a that's the truth the tulips went straight back up wow all I can say is take the opportunity if your mom is still alive celebrate her tomorrow celebrate her every day every day and don't take any of that for granted if if it's your wife the mother of your child celebrate her tomorrow that's right your in-laws mother-in-law celebrate her tomorrow God is good and God has given us a special gift of our mothers and just make sure that we take the opportunity to just say thank you and if they're not here take a moment to just as Bob opened us up remember the those memories I mean it can be a sad time but also man there's joy in knowing that you know what remember those those those joyful times yeah it's it's the thing that carries me through life is how my mama was and when things get tough she always got a little tougher