Praise the Lord. Welcome to this program of R.G. Harding Ministries because we know faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. I'm Sharon Knotts thanking you for tuning in today because we have a very special message for you if you are married or are planning to be married. If so, this message by my father Brother Hardy is one you don't want to miss.
Two shall be one. Even if you have a good marriage, you can benefit from this down-to-earth biblical teaching. Two shall be one. I'm talking about Finding your place in your marriage. Husband Give yourself up for your wife like Christ.
gave himself up for the church. If a husband We'll live for his wife's benefit and good and love her That he can expect her. to order her life under him. and look to his lead. And rely on him.
to supply her need. How many say amen? And there will be no The visions. No separations. Nobody's gonna tear them apart.
They're going to have a strong marriage that will weather every storm, every trial. of life that'll come down the path to separate them. One more little subject, and we'll conclude. Marriage, two shall be one. I want to go to 1 Corinthians the 7th chapter.
And I want to talk about sex. In marriage.
Now, the minute you say sex, most people get a funny look and think you said a dirty word.
Now, sex is not dirty, God created it. God in Mm-hmm. Huh? God was the one that ordained it. And like I read the scripture in the beginning, marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled.
What is dirty is whoredom. And fornication. and kinky, dirty sex. But the highest expression Of a man and a woman of giving theirself to and for one another. is consummated in the sexual act.
The husband and the wife can't give theirself any more. to one another than they do in the sexual act. And only in the sexual act Or you won. Did you know that? Only in the sexual act.
Or you want. Because in 1 Corinthians the 7th chapter, Paul talking about he that is joined to a harlot. is a harlot. For two saith he shall be one.
So the oneness really comes in the sexual act. You'll never be more than one that when a wife willingly and lovingly Gives herself up to her husband, and her husband gives himself up for his wife. How many say amen? A lot of wives and Some husbands After they get married... don't want to have sex.
Well, you know what? You should have never got married. Wife, woman, girl, young girl, young lady, if you don't want sex, don't get married. Because that is an obligation. of the marriage covenant.
How many say you men? And I'm gonna start off at 1 Corinthians, the 7th chapter and the first verse said, Now, concerning the things which you wrote unto me, The Corinthian church wrote unto him and asked him about this question of sex and marriage. Is it good for a man not to touch a woman? He said, Nevertheless, to avoid fornication. Let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own Hospital.
So God's on record. It's not good for man to be alone. He should be married. He's incomplete without a wife. He's lonely.
His life is incomplete. There should be one man and one woman. It doesn't say let every man have his own wives and every wife her own husbands. How many say you met? One wife, one husband forever.
The only Exception is if the one of them's committing unfaithfulness on chastity. How many say you met? All right, third verse. Let the husband render unto his wife due benevolence, and likewise also the Wife unto the husband. In other words, The due benevolence means the debt.
The husband owes the debt of sex to his wife. when she wants and needs it. And the wife O's the debt of sex to her husband when he needs it. Fourth verse. The wife have no power over her own body, but the husband, and likewise also the husband, have no power over her.
Of his own body, but the wife. You see the equality? You see, each has to submit to the other.
Now this fourth verse means I cannot say To my husband when he can have or my wife when she can have sex to me. How many say you map? My wife cannot say to me. One, I could have sex with her. I have authority.
over my wife's body. The wife has authority over her husband's body. Whenever the wife Needs to have Sex, the husband, owes the debt. to fulfill it. Whenever the husband needs to have sex, the wife owes the debt to fulfill it.
Neither one can hold back when the other one needs to have sex. Fifth verse. Defraud ye not one the other. You see. Don't you hold back.
Now, a lot of wives, when they have their little petty fights, are going to punish their husband By making him sleep on the sofa. Brother, you fell into the biggest trap of the devil that you ever heard of. You're out of Bible order? You're disobeying The word of God, you have no authority, power over your body, your husband does. Don't you do it because you know what you're going to do.
As you read down in this seventh chapter, you can read it later. You'll find out. That Paul tells them don't get married, but if you can't contain If you have no self-control, it's better to marry than to burn.
Now there's two. Sides of commentators on the burn, either burn with lost or burn in hell. How many say amen? Now if your husband got married for one reason He could not contain And you withhold sex from him. You are giving the devil the tool to tempt him.
And you know what you're gonna do? You're gonna drive him. to that Jezebel down the block. Because there's nothing that the devil delights in doing more than to tear up Bible marriages. Because a lot of these Jezebels And Lavides Macho lovers See a good marriage.
They'll see. A husband providing for this wife and giving him everything, and they're going to try everything in the book to break that marriage up to get him. And vice versa with the husband. How many say amen? And if one of the other party has a weakness that they cannot contain.
And they have to have sex. and you deprive them of them. You have disobeyed the word of God. Fell in the trap of the devil, and you might be the means of them. committing fornication.
And adultery. And seeing their souls lost, and God's going to judge you because that you deprived and withheld. sex from them. If you don't want to have sex, don't get married. You cannot control the other person's need.
They have a need? That need has to be satisfied. You don't have the authority over your body. Your husband has a right to demand sex when he wants it. The wife has a right to go to the husband.
and demands sex. when he wants it. Fifth verse. I'll read the three so you'll get the flow. Let the husband render his wife do benevolence.
In other words, the Greek words pay the debt. Pay the debt. of sexual Satisfaction to his wife. and likewise also the wife to the husband. The wife has no power of her own body but the husband, and likewise also the husband have no power of his own body but the wife.
defraud ye. Don't you hold back.
Don't you punish one another? I'm not going to give you sex. And the devil's tempted to them, and you drive them out. because they couldn't contain another burning. It caused them to commit.
fornication. Can I get an amen? Yeah. Defraud ye not one another, except... It be with consent.
for a time equal. Husband or wife feels led of the Lord. to go into special prayer and fasting. Defraud you not one another, except it be with consent for a time that you may give yourself to fasting and prayer, and then come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. How many say amen?
You feel led to have a special prayer and fasting? You've got to go to your mate. And make sure That her need is supplied, or his need is supplied. And that you can give yourself to prayer and fasting. That this means the special time of prayer because we're always supposed to be praying.
But in the Greek it has a definite article in front of it, special times of prayer and fasting. How many say you met? You know, like some of them, they get so spiritual that they cannot have no sexual relations anymore. I mean, they're always praying and fasting. When the mate comes and says, I want to have conjugal love, I want to have.
Uh sex, they say, well, I'm sorry, I'm praying fasting. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. You've got to talk this out. And you're going to find out. As you're married.
that your sexual life will come into a cycle. As you're married, you'll find out there's cycles. And then as you get older, the cycle changes. How many say you mm? And let me say this.
If God has put it on your heart, For a special time in prayer and fasting, and when you go to your mate, he's going to let them know too. That's if they're spiritual. But any time The husband or the wife. Needs to have conjugal love, the mate cannot withhold it from them. Unless he's a sex fiend.
Or she's a sex fiend. that's got to have it 20 times a day. How many say amen? Then you need to bring them in the line and let them pray for them and cast that. Thing out of them.
How many say amen? But you learn your sex cycle. How many say amen? And then whatever Your wife has a need, you want to supply her need, and likewise. Husband Has a need, the wife has to supply her need, and you are to come together again in your appointed cycle.
And only break it? when they consent. You talk it out. Don't you see, weave through the whole scriptures, there's equality. and submitting to one another.
Yeah. I submit. The wife submits because She submits herself to her husband. The husband loves because he gives himself four. His wife.
How many say amen? And when each husband and each wife, each mate, find their place, find their abilities. Find what complements one another. And begin to serve and submit and minister to one another. I tell you what, you're going to have a marriage that's like the word says, you're going to be stuck together with your wife.
You're going to be so glued that you're not too you're thinking of Huh? By when your wife comes, you've already thought those thoughts. When your husband comes, you've already thought those thoughts. You're in the same channel. You're on the same page.
How many say amen? It's like athletes. Take football, play in football. All of those members of that team have to get on the same page and think the same thoughts. And the husband and wife, and later the children, they got to get on the same page.
As one another, and the same page is that they're errors together of eternal life, and the same page is they're trying to help one another to make heaven their home. The same pages that they're complimenting one another, the same pages that once one's weak, the other one's going to come and take their strength and hold them up. Everybody say amen. The same pages that they're together and they're going to love one another and they're going to not let any outside influence, mother, father, huh, huh? Huh?
Bathroom psychologist. break up their marriage. How many say amen? They're going to come together and say, come now, let us reason together because we are married forever and we are one. And we're going to work out these little problems.
How many say amen? Husband? Give yourself for her. You're supposed to be the leader and bacho and so smart.
Okay, pray along for a little bit. And pray for her. She'll grow up after a while. And you wives that has married a little boy, have compassion on him. Let him have his couple toys.
Pray for him. One day he'll grow up. and put away his toys. And that's the only thing that's going to be. to help one another.
Make heaven our home. You see. Give a load of good class right now. You see, what it all boils down to is this: marriage is a partnership. We're two.
people have decided to lose their self into one another and become one. And to live For the betterment and uplifting of the other. And that whatever sacrifice has to be made They have enough love that they're willing to make that sacrifice one for another. How many say amen? And that to realize together That God, if they have let him, has put them together to complement one another.
That has given each one what the other one lacked. And without They're both they're incomplete. It really. The person that's single is really incomplete. It's not good for mankind to be alone.
God said. How many say amen? And let them find their completeness, and let this completeness come together. And be stuck to one another that nothing. can break that Marriage.
Bond. and that oneness and unity. Uh Flesh and purpose. and that together they have got this purpose. That we're going to help one another.
Fulfill the plan of God in our lives. And that's to help one another make heaven their home. Make a godly home to bring up children in a godly environment. and give them a godly chance. and lead them in the godly way.
And together as a husband, a wife, and a family unit, to try to subdue the earth. Is that what he said? Said rule it, subdue it. I believe God was looking down to this day when the devil has come in to destroy all of God's order and the main thing is to destroy the family unit and the fabric of the family, to separate husband from wife. to take parents away from the children.
to separate the children from the parents. Why do we have all this ungodliness? Why do we have all this wickedness? Why is it all this violence in America? I believe because it first started now, the eroding the husband and wife situation, and then eroding the family situation.
Where there is no father, where there are single parents, when the children don't have any guide and rule of the father. Where they have no respect. for the family unit. And all of these things are broke down. And the husband is living to satisfy his own desires and lusts.
And the wife is living to satisfy her only desires and lust. And they've gave themselves to fulfill those lusts. and their children are let out to anyone until they're being molested. Mistreated. Warped.
And if they go off, What do you expect the next generation to have? Do you expect them to have? Any mind to have a family unit when they don't know anything about a family unit? Do you expect them to be holy and pure and clean when they've been molested and mistreated and slung around from post to pillar? Oh, I believe it's time that we get back to the old landmarks and back to God and the word of God.
And the thing to bring it back is, husbands and wives, let's put away all this pettiness. this competition. And again. to submit one to the other and their particular need. The wife to submit to the husband's lead.
The husband to submit to the wife and supply her need and love one another and strive together as a unit and a love to make a family, to bring children in to the right environment and give them a chance to know God and the things of God. And I'll tell you what, though the storms of life may blow from outside, you'll be hide. The protection of the power and the love of God and the Holy Ghost. And God will take us through and will weather any storm and any battle. And when each family unit comes into the congregation of the church, because the church is only strong as the sum total of all of its members.
And if there's trouble in the homes of the families of the church, there's going to be trouble in church. But when every family in the church is together and submit one to another, then we can. do what the 2 said we can submit one to another and we're going to be a strong institution against sin and all the powers of darkness in this last day and then say amen we'll be able to lift up the bloodstained banner To tell the world there is a deliverance. There is salvation. Young people, you can be saved and happy.
Marriage is not a dirty word. But it's a good sound thing that God, the first matchmaker, Instituted and ordained. And you don't have to run around with every calm dick and harry. and Jezebel to find sexual fulfillment with the Fear of getting age and be D. that God, if you will pray, will give you a godly mate, a godly husband, a godly wife with the things that you lack.
And together, you'll join together and join your hearts and lives together and help one another make heaven. May God help us. And I hope this message has blessed you. Give him a good clap offer. Hallelujah.
Help us, Lord, and praise your wonderful name. Amen. I hope you're blessed by this informative and inspirational message by my father brother Hardy, Two Shall Be One. We feel strongly that every Christian marriage should examine itself in the light of God's Word to be sure that they are applying godly principles for a healthy and holy marriage. This teaching defines and expounds the very important meanings of the terms headship and submission, and these are areas that are often misused and abused in marriage.
Also addressed are the questions, what is the biblical role of the husband in marriage? What is the biblical role of the wife? And what about the role of sex in marriage? These issues are soundly addressed in this vital, practical, and enlightening teaching, two shall be one.
Now you may want to add this to your spiritual library. Or share it with someone who is getting married or someone having marital problems. It is available on a double CD set for a love gift of $15 or more to the Radio Ministry. Request Offer 215. That's Offer 215.
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Our mailing address is PO Box 1744, Baltimore, Maryland, 21203. Until next time, this is Sister Sharon saying, Maranatha. Mm.
