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Breaking Soul Ties Part 2

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June 9, 2022 1:00 am

Breaking Soul Ties Part 2

Running to Win / Erwin Lutzer

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June 9, 2022 1:00 am

Immoral relationships create deep bonds, even between people having “casual” sex. The more bonds we make, the tougher they are to break. In this message, we step into freedom with Christ through cleansing, fleeing, and communicating. There is a way out of the bondage of promiscuity.

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Estimates are we talking about restoring the soul healing in an age of brokenness. What are the soul ties will be speaking about in today's message. Will Dave as you have already implied the soul ties that I'm going to be speaking about have to do with sexual relationships outside of the bonds of marriage covenant relationship between one man and one woman yelled frequently. We as pastors emphasize one series of messages above another. I have to tell you, I believe that this series is especially important important for young people important for older people and perhaps you will miss some of the messages are.

You know those who you think can benefit from these messages we are offering them to you in a permanent form for a gift of any amount they can be yours. And of course the title of this series is restoring the soul. Here is what you do go to RTW or call us at 1-888-218-9337 where talking about soul ties sexuality from a biblical point of view and consequently it is this that determines if you want stories if you want documentation. I don't have time today, except to tell you that you can be led in the wrong direction by an early bonding alien defiling bond that connects you and of course as I mentioned, the desire to return to your first lover or a previous lover because because that's obvious because my goodness drive time to say this is either something within us that tells us that when we get married we should be. We should be pure.

You know that a national magazine, not a Christian magazine but a national magazine said that there are young women who are living with her boyfriend who before their marriage live celibate for a number of weeks are a number of months because God implanted it within the human being to say that somehow marriage is supposed to be special and I should be saving myself for the altar, while fluttering on second get the power of the first bond. Secondly, there's the door to promiscuity.

The door to promiscuity. Why would one alien bond begin that spiral that are obvious is not to see if you are bonded in a polluted bond you feel defiled anyway so what you're going to want to do now is to re-create that whole situation to to re-create the euphoria that God intended that a pure bond should have within marriage and what you want to do is you want to find it somehow. So you begin to go from partner to partner and each time you say this time it will be different. But of course it never is, is a good book written, entitled every man's struggle.

It's a book on pornography, but the author said something very interesting. He said that when he was in college. First time you slept with a girl. It was with a girl he knew he would marry a second time. It was with somebody he thought he might marry and the third time it was with somebody whom he was quite sure that he would not marry and on and on.

The spiral goes, I could tell you stories of a 16-year-old girl that I have time for all the stories high, because what they're doing is they're wanting to create this bond or wanting to connect the deepest part of their soul has been awakened and what they want to do now is to find someone to have that really awesome connection.

Someone to have a permanent connection with, but of course seeking it in all the wrong places. They are looking for something which it this point. They cannot have. I'm not saying there isn't redemption. I'm simply saying that you don't find it, you think it might be me give you another consequence and that is guilt and anger.

By the way, it also can result in the sexual addiction which is one of the messages in this series there is also guilt, anger and shame now over 90 couples who say all know that's not true about us. We are just so happy. And then we are relating well, you give your relationship a little bit of time. What I discovered is that in the initial aspects of an alien bond that may be fulfilling because of last somebody in the desert is found his oasis and seems to be a connection and and I've had people tell me that during those days when this whole thing started. Whether it's adultery or whatever it is it was so wonderful. It was so euphoric.

I felt such a strong connection and catch this. Now I put God on the hold that IN effect said Lord I'm going to deal with this, but I'm gonna deal with this later. Can't deal with it now because I got too much going on this is to quote beautiful, but it will come to regret will be there. The anger, the lashing out the Blaine Main inevitably it will be there. Number four there's the elusive. I call this the elusive exclusive bond elusive exclusive what we mean by that.

There some people today who because of their past find it very difficult to get married because they they are not sure that they be able to maintain a commitment to one partner. Understandably so they been bonded to this person bonded to that person. God joined them over here one flesh. The Scripture says one flesh. With this person one year and so I had people describe their souls to me as being scattered because it was never God's intention that it be that way. And so as a result they go along in life.

I remember one woman telling me, with tears that she slept with other boyfriends until the night before her wedding to her guy because she was thinking, this is contemporary thought, now you don't have to really be committed to one person until your marriage what you think you think that she was true to her bond after she was married. What makes us think that an immoral man will become moral just because he said some words and his appetite and his values have not been changed by God. How can we possibly be so nave to understand now why young people say to each other what you know what will do will just do it once and God will forgive us. I've had them saying it up. What's the blood of Christ. For if you can't forgive this. What's it all about God does forgive us. As a matter fact, the next message in this series is on God's forgiveness, but the simple fact is, once you have been involved, nothing will ever quite be the same again of what we do about it.

I'm only going to sketch it today very quickly because will be dealing with these issues in other messages. First of all, there is cleansing there is cleansing the Bible says that if we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us, but to cleanse us. Also the reason that cleansing is so important. Some people who are forgiven have never been cleansed. Cleansing is the subjective work of God by which our consciences are purged in the next message will emphasize how God restores dignity to people because as long as you're filled with self-condemnation. You'll never be able to put your past behind you, but it's it's the cleansing of the conscience. It's not only being pure but sensing that the defilement of the relationships are gone so there is cleansing and that's available to you today my friend. There is also what I'm going to call Lee being fleet being the Bible says flee youthful lusts, could I speak candidly to you today. I think I've pretty candid. Have I not been I like to speak plainly I don't like it when people leave saying, what does he really believe you realize folks that there are some people that we should stay away from there some people who have such awesome power, soul power, connectedness that we could come under their spell and we too could be among those who leave it all behind to find the love of our life and to find this and and rejoice in this soul mate and in all that we need to do is to add some verses of Scripture we could say and it is God who brought this soul mate to me were all capable of that, there some people who should not know your telephone number. Some people whose telephone numbers, you should not have because all of us are vulnerable to soul ties which of awesome power, particularly those of you have been in past relationships woman said to me one time. She said you know I when I think of going to a city in which there is the man with whom I had the first relationship which was so beautiful she didn't marry them.

In fact, she wasn't even he wasn't even a Christian but she said it was that we had a wonderful thing going and she said when I go to that city. She said I would not even dare go alone because I'm afraid I might call them up and we might begin to have a relationship all over again. That's not it is not an example of weakness.

Folks that's that's wisdom that's that's applying the Scripture that says flee immorality. So there such a thing as fleeing is often been said that when you flee temptation.

Don't leave a forwarding address. Many people say I'm going but I want you to know where I'm going and that contact me if you can break it off. One day as a pastor here in the city many, many years ago fell into immorality, lost his church, but wanted to restore his marriage.

I'd come to know him.

He was a wonderful preacher and he called me on the telephone and I said, the way you break off this relationship with this woman is you do it over the telephone with your wife present and make sure it ends. And he said well you stutter when actually I'm not going to do it that way. I feel I should see her one time. Can you guess the rest of the story course. He left his wife, married her for greener pastures, which in the end turned out to be a desert.

So we have cleansing we have fleeing we have communicating what I mean by communicating, I mean the whole. Some relationships why do you think the early church was so powerful that it changed its world upside down.

I'll tell you what it says that it was United. The believers were united in vision in passion and and in relationship by misinterpreting it a little bit that my age I can be forgiven if I'm sliding a little bit over this, but that's what it really says it's as they were all yeah I think I'm getting it right united in one heart, one soul, one mind something like that. Wow, that's what could make Moody church.

Such a powerful force in this city to be united for the cause of the gospel for the love of people with one heart and one soul one line. Those are positive bindings that overcome and protect us from all the negative and destructive bonds that were talking about how you like this for a bond that shall love the Lord thy God with all thy heart with all thy soul and with all thine. Wow, what a bond that's to be were to be bonded to God. First of all, and it is those healthy relationships that fill the vacuum that give us the grace to stay away from the other bonds and to remember that we should guard our hearts with all diligence, why because those cards can be open to wrong kinds of hearts and wrong kinds of relationships is they will pester with what you have to say to those of us who who have a history of bonding wrong relationships the Old Testament there was a prophet by the name of Hosea and he had a wife went from one the lover to another. There is evidence that she was, not just with one lover, but that she fell into the hands of a man eventually who could not even take care of her and Hosea out of love actually gave the man money so that that man could give money to his wife talk about love on the part of Hosea.

But God says this regarding her.

He says I will take her into the desert and I will allure her why the desert was there some people who don't wake up until there in a desert as long as they have one little drop of water to drink, still stay away from God.

No matter how bitter it is, so I'll take her into the desert. I will allure. I will speak tenderly to her goddesses and I'll win her back and she shall sing there, as in the days of her youth.

The Bible says the whole idea is this, that she shall be like a virgin again when they many years ago young man came to me and asked about a certain lady who was here in the Moody church who before she was saved had a series of alien bonding relationships and he asked my opinion. I said well she is no longer a virgin in her body but she is virgin in her heart. I really do believe that there is something to the fact that God is a God of new beginnings.

However strong those bonds have been.

We need not be subject to them for we have allegiance to a new leader and we been bonded to Christ and when we are bonded to Christ we have the resources to break those other bonds that still keep leading us to sin and putting us under the sphere of influence of people who in the end will destroy us rather than less us.

They will curse us rather than give us hope in our journey of life. The bonds are broken. What does the hymn writer say love these words, he breaks the power of canceled sin. Many of you your sins been canceled.

I mean, you know you've been forgiven, but the power is still there. He breaks the power of canceled sin, he sets the prisoner free his grace can make the vilest clean his blood availed for me. Let's pray. Father, we invite your blessed Holy Spirit to do the work in the lives of all of us and the hundreds and hundreds of people listening to this message, for whom it was specifically appointed and we asked today father that you shall grant grace to break relationships to break off euphoric experiences that keep propelling people away from you, putting you on hold and we asked today father, the deliverance shall come in making hard choices to say no. Grant that all God.

We pray for we are your people and we desire purity, but we are so vulnerable and what is it that you need to say to the Lord today. Whatever it is, would you just say it to come to us. Father, because we need you so desperately for cleansing for victory for help and for wisdom and help your people whom we live, the people for whom you die.

In Jesus name amen my heart to yours today. Have you been blessed as a result of this message.

Have you been rebuked that you been given hope. Do you know someone else who would greatly benefit from listening to this message.

We are making this series of messages available to all who connect with us for a gift of any amount we are making them available in permanent form so that you can listen to them again and again share them with your young people share them with your friends. I remember so clearly sitting in a staff meeting and saying to the staff.

I'm going to preach a series of messages entitled restoring the soul and we talked about how needy such a series is what were making it available to you as a resource. Here's what you can do.

Go to RTW that's RTW or you can call us at 1-888-218-9337 ask for this series of messages restoring the soul.

Actually, I have to tell you that that title came from Psalm 23 that perhaps you have memorized were David said he restores my soul and out desperately. Our souls need to be restored. So remember that series of messages and they can be yours.

Once again, the contact info go to RTW or call us at 1-888-218-9337. I want to thank you so much for standing with us because of people just like you running to win is in 20 different countries in four different languages and the good news is we are continuing to expand this ministry so thanks in advance. You can pick up the phone right now and you can call 1-888-218-9337 it's time again for you to ask Pastor looks her question about the Bible or the Christian life. Thoughts of our future judgment day before God are raising a lot of questions for listener named Darlene who asks. I was wondering if there is any sin that cannot be forgiven. I was not a Christian when I committed those sins that I am a Christian now and must admit I still do worry that on judgment day.

I will not be forgiven. They were terrible sins. I will God react to me on Judgment Day. Also, when we face God on Judgment Day. What will that be like do we stand in front of him and give an account of our life. If he says he was not pleased with our sins, or terrible acts. We may have done then can we go into heaven. I would really like to know what your thoughts are on this Darlene. I certainly hope that you are listening because I have some very good news for you, you know, the very fact that you are a Christian means that, of course, your sins are forgiven.

In fact, I preached a message years ago entitled what God does with forgiven sin and that one of the points I made is that the Bible says he casts them into the depths of the sea and he remembers them no more and I'd like to suggest that. Then he asks us to put up a sign saying I've cast your sins into the sea. No fishing. So, the past is past, God has forgiven you, or you wouldn't be a Christian. The bottom line is, no sin is unforgivable. The only unforgivable sin is that the sin of unbelief that refuses to repent. Obviously you're not in that category.

Clearly you are a child of God.

Now as to the second part of your question even as Christians. It is true that we will be at the judgment seat of Jesus Christ and that our lives will be reviewed since the time we were saved.

That's the question it's not before that time. But what did we do to serve the Lord after he saved us, and at that time, our lives will be under review. As I mentioned, and that we will be accountable to God.

Does that mean that we will see our sins that we have committed since we were Christians no we will not see our sins but our lives will be evaluated and if sin enters into the evaluation. We will see our sins as forgiven as put away, but the bottom line is, having received the free gift of salvation having been forgiven, our past. We are now to live for God and our deeds will be evaluated. The Bible says to see whether or not they are true or worthless. I'm not contradicting myself the one hand all your sins are forgiven. On the other hand we do however have to wrestle with the text that tell us that we shall give an account to God with what we did. Since we became believers.

Darlene, we certainly hope that Pastor Luther's counsel has been of help to you today and thank you Dr. looks her if you'd like to hear your question answered. You can go to our and click on ask Pastor Luther or call us at 1-888-218-9337 that's 1-888-218-9337 you can write to us that's running to win 1635 N. LaSalle Boulevard Chicago, IL 60614 running to win is all about helping you understand God's roadmap for your race of life. Many assume God will forgive moral sin, so they sin all the more. Not knowing the mercy of the Christ died for sins like these. Next time am running to win a real life story of how Jesus restored the dignity of someone with a lifetime of sexual sin. Thanks for listening. This is Dave Callister running to win is sponsored by the teacher

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