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Those Vows Mean Something Part 2

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November 12, 2020 1:00 am

Those Vows Mean Something Part 2

Running to Win / Erwin Lutzer

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November 12, 2020 1:00 am

Some marriage partners see their spouses as replaceable. The Bible tells us how to make marriages last, and today, we’ll see why living a life of love, purity and honor is the only way this can happen.

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Looking to Jesus found her perfect marriage partners either meets, the better one comes along Bible tells us how to make marriages last today will see why living a life of purity and honor is the only way this can happen. The movie church in Chicago this is going to win with Dr. Erwin Sir Jane make it last as long as her over half of even Christian marriages fail. These days, why do believers feel it's okay to split up when the going gets rough. Dave you know I think that you actually answered your own question. The simple fact is that people go into marriage asking the question what in it for me and when they're made changes in isn't meeting all of their needs and they get into some conflict. They try to find someone else, or there may be other reasons also why divorce becomes an option, but the Bible makes it clear that we should be a committed people to one another, even when life gets difficult.

You know, I've written a book entitled, when a nation forgets God. The seven lessons we must learn from Nazi Germany.

Among the lessons I point out that it's always the economy that plays a great role in what happens to a nation. Here's another chapter that which is illegal might also be evil. That's one of the lessons from Nazi Germany that can be quickly applied to America well. There are number of other lessons and for a gift of any amount. This book can be yours. Here's what you do go to RTW that's RTW or call us at 1-888-218-9337.

Now let's go to the pulpit of Moody church were we continued to discuss till death do us part the first of all what we need to do is to live a life of love. Secondly, we need to live a life of purity. Notice what he says in verse three, but sexual immorality and all in prettier covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.

Let there be no filthiness or foolish talk or crude joking which are out of place, but instead let there be Thanksgiving now.

The reason this is important and the reason that Paul puts it here is very clear. True love is entirely different than the perversion of love that comes to us from the world.

The world uses the word love repeatedly, and it's the most misunderstood word you could possibly have because today love is immorality. People get married today and they don't marry a person they marry a body and when the body begins to deteriorate as it does, it ends the relationship because everything is based on sexuality and by the way these crazy reality shows that you can somehow meet somebody and just there, you can tell whether or not they are right for you and they have a connection for you and this type of stuff is being funneled into our young people today. No wonder they don't have a clue whether they're making a good choice when they get married and that's why we as a staff have to help them along the way. It is a very confused world. Now notice Satan mimics God and says this is love.

Paul says let us put aside, he says immorality, and let us live he says with purity. You'll notice that the word immorality is for Neo from which we get the word pornography, impurity, anything that is unclean and filthy.

Anything that is unclean and used about 11 times the word is used in the New Testament and Jesus once uses it to refer to dead men's bones, impurity received a letter this past week from concerned parents what they're concerned about is their daughter is dating a young Christian man who confessed to their daughter that sometimes he's been attending gentlemen's clubs and you know what goes on there and the question is, you know we want to extend grace but also what are the risk factors, I mean these are difficult issues but I would say that something like that. That's a good a good example of dead men's bones, and you can put there pornography you can put to the Internet if that's what you do in the Internet you can put in many television programs many many movies and and all impurity. Paul just really lays it out there. He doesn't even have an exception clause and how can you say this. This is the word of God but sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness why covetousness isn't that where it all begins. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife. That's what happens at the water cooler work. That's what makes the man leave his wife and his children because he's found this other connection that's what makes a wife leave her husband.

And I think that she can do this and take their children because because of covetousness they coveted the world the novels that she has read have put into her mind. The idea to quote the words of one woman who fell into immorality that there was a whole world out there that was unexplored that I had never had the opportunity to participate in, and my curiosity made me wonder what it would be like. There you go. Pornography tells man that you aren't really satisfied with your wife who doesn't look as good as so-and-so looks and so what you have is all of this dissatisfaction that is created and the Bible says covetousness, and in verse five, Paul says, covetousness is idolatry.

It's idolatry. Because what you're saying is that I need this more than I need God more than I need God's will more than I need to please God I need is somebody else's wife or somebody else's girlfriend somebody who doesn't belong to me and God says that's idolatry that's putting me all of your needs. God says, and so that's why the apostle Paul says that what we need is to live your life and then he includes he says filthiness course adjusting vulgarities. That's the idea laughing at dirty jokes, innuendos, and then he says live a life of honor. Live a life of honor and I don't know how to soften these words. I'm not going to go to give it to you.

The way in which God inspired that it be written, and let the spirit of God do the rest.

Notice what it says in verse five for you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous that is idolatry, has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. His folks think it's not serious to walk away from your marriage because you found someone else who feels UN arises within you needs and desires that you didn't even know you had well have to read this again. If you're Christian, you're to be part of another kingdom for you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure. Hey by the way, did you notice in verse five it says you may be sure of this. Somebody here today says you know there's very little that you can be sure about in life and I grant.

But here's one thing you can be that Paul wrote that because he knows that we love to be deceived in this area believe these lies so badly that in order to get our attention eases. Be sure about this.

Everyone who is sexually immoral or impure or covetous. That is an idolater.

You know, you just need to be coveting you have no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God is able To Christian commit the sins yes of course a Christian commit these sins, but a true Christian will always fight against them. A true Christian will never be content with a morality with pornography. He may hate what he is doing. He may find that these powers have a hold of him, but he will therefore struggle with them but he will fight against them because he knows that this impurity. This impurity mitigates against the blessed Holy Spirit of God, who is holding who has taken up residence in our hearts and in our bodies. Do you not know Paul says your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. How can the temple of the Holy Spirit be within your content with sexual immorality of all kinds, whether heterosexual or homosexual, or impurity or covetousness, but is idolatry in the Bible says you have no inheritance.

If you live that way.

Contentedly, you will almost certainly are not a Christian. Now notice he says also live with discernment. I mean, Paul is just giving it to us here with a sense of clarity that is so overwhelming. You'll notice he says that verse six let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience lived with discernment. Why are we so easily deceived with empty words, it's because we want to this message is as countercultural as you could possibly get what you mean impurity. That's where I have my sense of pleasure. And now you're telling me that I can't notice it says don't be deceived with empty words, there tons of empty words out there. Why does Paul say that in my brief pastoral experience from time to time. I've talked to those who are involved in sexual immorality and those who are walking away from their marriages in order to quote find themselves in one of the things that I discovered is that they are not thinking clearly at all. It's almost as if they are in a trance there in another world. Ever notice this you try to talk sense to them and you say to the woman.

What about your children or you talk to the man and say what about your kids and you might as well be talking to some stones and in a graveyard.

He can't hear you because he's in this state of euphoria. What do you mean I'll handle it. I remember calling a man at the instigation of his wife over the phone because he was involved with someone else and he was saying to me.

You know what you mean.

It was just as if you know what connect okay. Look at what you're doing to your wife. Look at what you're doing to those precious children.

God has given you think of the implications of this as it goes on in this life all the way to eternity. Think about it and then realize what it is that you're going to do, but he can't get it. Why he's in a state of euphoria. You know the letter that I began with about the man who said that his wife is on the Internet with a former lover and now she wants to leave and they have is an old there's no way that he is going to convince her to do otherwise because of all the water that's been under the bridge. He probably has forfeited any authority. He has over her somebody else is going to have to do it though, and that's what I recommend somebody has to bring these people down.

It's almost like an alcoholic who doesn't get the message until he wakes up someday in his own squalor and begins to realize I need to change when it comes to immorality is almost impossible for us to see with clarity because we are so desire is to be self deceived you say will Pastor Luther, I hear what you're saying but I just can't go back. I can't go back because I've invested so much in this in this divorce that I'm contemplating well I understand it may cost you something to go'll cost you a whole lot more. Almost certainly, if you keep moving ahead. Sin is so costly is the most expensive thing in the universe you think about this. I know Amanda was in Christian ministry, and that he left his wife of 30 some years to find his dream and it found his dream and three months after they were married. He actually drop dead and I've often thought about that. It's been a sermon to me. I thought you know if he had known that he had only three months to live.

He might've stuck out an unfulfilled marriage knowing that he was going to have to explain all this to Jesus someday. Very shortly. I think you said you know life is tough but I can take it for another three months. You never know how much you have, I often wonder to do. You know, at the wake as he is there. Who's at the head of the casket greeting the mourners. The wife, with whom he had lived for 30 years, with whom they had children or the new wife. Very interesting. All what web we weave when once we practice this to deceive. Now you say will Pastor Luther my husband can change right now before you say that my wife and I met a couple that we got to know through my speaking engagements and we've kept in touch with them.

She's a wonderful woman who came through some difficult situations with her dad.

You know, and then you know there's been abuse and you take all of that. All that whole cart load that she's working through like many of you having to work through this kind of the past, but a real genuine heart for God on the part of her husband. If I could describe them. He just didn't get it to those words mean anything to have you ever met somebody like that Joss doesn't get it. That's the way I described and then you know if you're in this marriage relationship and you without your wife's knowledge go and take all of your retirement account and you lay all that money out because you've come across a scheme that's going to earn you a lot of money on the Internet and you blow it all. It's tough to explain Stephen tough to explain. If you told her you were going to do it for little tougher when she finds out later that your retirement is gone anywhere talking water under the bridge here so anyway six weeks ago. I get this email.

About 10 months ago after a counseling session. I simply asked our counselor in front of Bill, that isn't his real name, but these folks live out of state. Anyway, they've never been to muddy church, you wouldn't have a clue who they are and they wouldn't mind if you did at this point to get me out of this marriage I the deep relationship with Christ, a loving relationship with my sons and daughter-in-law. Just please help me to live in peace so that I don't have to live with this man is been so cruel to me right. Bill left the meeting, agreeing that he was ready to be free.

Also about an hour down the road.

He said the Lord almost spoke audibly to him and started bringing to his mind all that he had in a white piece. It was so overwhelming that he had to pull to the side of the road because he couldn't stop the tears from flowing that took place last July. We spent about four months completely isolated from each other. I still didn't believe a word he said. I began to see changes. In fact, our counselor said he saw changes to after eight months of being very very cautious. We decided to have a private ceremony with our sons and daughter-in-law to reunite our counselors and ordained ministers. So he performed the event he is a different man. 90% of everything that comes out of his mouth is completely different. He's humble but confident. For the first time in our lives.

He is moved to tears often and remember this is the man who never cried. He thanks me over and over again for giving them a second chance.

I just return the compliment with. I'm so thankful you chose us because when you choose the life you choose the kids you understand and the grandchildren we can laugh talk constantly pray spontaneously and spend as much time together as possible. Thank you for your prayers and for speaking truth to me.

At any rate, I emailed her back a couple of weeks later and said you know this is so wonderful. Is it still happening that absolutely she said she never knew that she and her husband could have a marriage like this. You never know what God will do but I'll tell you what the price is the price is honesty. And when there are things in your life that you're hiding from your spouse when there are issues that are huge. Would you go to a counselor that's not that's not a confession of need is just that there's so much water under the bridge in terms of relationships that people don't even know where to begin and you Look at anything objectively anymore is just too much pain too much hurt too many tries and failure go for help, but it's going to take a sense of honesty and what you're going to have is you know the other side of the moon illustration that I gave you that's going to have to come into the picture until you have a better understanding of who it is that you married what her needs are what his need is and that's what were going to talk about.

Also, next time. In the message and you begin there and begin to let God do what only God, the Bible does say that through Jesus Christ our Lord. We have forgiveness with God.

Thankfully, and by the way, if you're here and you've never trusted Christ as Savior. This would be a good opportunity for you to do it. If you have a sense of sin, because of what I preached on and you know that you need a Savior.

Jesus is the place to go the one to go to. He's the go to the man. But if you're here is a believer in all of this stuff is in your life and your marriage is in trouble. Get on your knees and stay there until God shows you the way and if honesty can prevail on both sides of the equation. God can heal a very difficult meaningless marriage and if you agree, can we pray father, and ask in the name of Jesus. For those who are here today for those who are listening by way of Internet radio.

I pray today father that were ever this seed has fallen, that you'll give men and women the grace and the strength to respond.

Grant that to them. Father God, because her needs are great, say the marriages of Moody Church save the marriages of all who have listened and beyond help us Lord is we are so weak and were so prone to deception bring us to reality now before I close this prayer. What is it that you need to say to God today.

If you were to say, God, what do I do about my situation.

What would God say and whatever he says to you, tell them you're going to do it all. Father, please help us. Please help us because we are so needy and those marriages that are in trouble I think of the one that I heard about a week ago over a man is leaving his wife for greener pastures to precious children left behind. God please would you shaken into reality and he represents women who are leaving God come to us in Jesus name, amen.) Pastor Luther if ever there was a time when we needed much prayer is now prayer for our marriages prayer for our children and I've written a book entitled, when a nation forgets God. The seven lessons we must learn from Nazi Germany and one of the chapters is titled this parents, not the state are responsible for a child's training. One of the things I point out is the kind of education that the children in Germany received during the Hitler era. Now of course there is a lot of discussion in the news regarding schools. The opening of schools going to school, whether or not online learning works but the bottom line is this, what are your children learning that is going to be destructive for a gift of any amount. This book can be yours. And by the way, this is the next to the last day when this book is available. It's entitled when a nation forgets God. Seven lessons. We must learn from Nazi Germany. And as I've mentioned for a gift of any amount. This book can be yours. Here's what you do you go to RTW that's RTW or call us at 1-888-218-9337. Ask yourself what is happening in our nation today parallels that there are to what happened in Nazi Germany when a nation forgets God. Seven lessons. We must learn from Nazi Germany and one of those lessons as I've emphasized has to do with the education of children go to RTW or call us at 1-888-218-9337. When you connect with us.

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