Today from guest teacher Kyle Eidelman, the most important question that you can ask yourself is... What do I think about? Paul seems to understand just how significant this issue is in Romans 12 verse 2. He says, Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. J.B.
Phillips in his translation says, don't be squeezed into the mold of this world without even thinking about it. Did you know that 95% of your thoughts happen below the level of consciousness? Right now you're being shaped by thousands of thoughts you don't even know you're thinking. Your emotions, your decisions, your relationships, all of it flows from your mind. Today on Living on the Edge, our regular Bible teacher, Chip Ingram, is turning the mic over to guest teacher Kyle Eidelman for an important lesson about renewing your mind.
To get us started, Chip, why don't you give us a little setup for today's lesson?
Well, I'm super excited today to welcome a special guest to Living on the Edge. He's a friend, and I could introduce him in a lot of ways, like, you know, a famous author that wrote Not a Fan, sold over a million copies, or he leads a big church called Southeast Christian. And those are nice things. But I want to introduce my friend, Kyle Eidelman, the lead pastor at Southeast Christian. And he has a series called Every Thought Captive.
And Kyle and I have both passionately wanted to learn and pass on how Jesus really changed our lives. And in this series, I've asked Kyle to step in, be our guest teacher, and you're going to love what he has to share. Thanks, Chip.
Now here's Kyle Eidelman with his message titled Mind Mold. I am uh overwhelmed and really excited to share with you that last weekend Across all of our campuses, we Baptized 839 people. 839. Oh, that's a good idea.
Now, listen, you know this, but what we are clapping for and what we're celebrating is not a statistic, it's a story, it's not a number, it's a name. We are celebrating one life at a time, encountering Jesus and discovering the difference that Jesus makes. That he forgives our sins, that he doesn't just forgive our sins, he forgives the guilt of our sins. That he doesn't have to be weighed down by shame anymore. You don't have to be weighed down by guilt of the past, that he sets you free.
And I told so many people in the water last Sunday: like, there's things we're leaving in the water, we're not carrying it out with us, like shame and guilt stay here. And so, when we celebrate these numbers, we're celebrating that one person at a time that is experiencing the difference that Jesus makes. And every life change story has one thing in common, and that is a A change of thinking. A change of thinking. Take the prodigal son, Luke 15, says he came to his senses.
What's that mean? It means that he was thinking about his life one way. And then there was an awakening. And he started thinking about things differently. John 4, the woman at the well meets Jesus, and what changes?
Well, her thinking changes. For a long time, she thought this guy will satisfy me, this guy will satisfy me, this guy will satisfy me, and now she's thinking differently. And she's looking to Jesus to be the living water. Every transformed life. It involves a change in thinking.
And so this week we're starting a series called Every Thought Captive. Comes from 2 Corinthians 10. where Paul challenges believers to address some strongholds in their lives.
Some lies they've believed for a long time. Maybe so long they don't even know where they came from. things that were passed down to them. Generationally. There's strongholds that need to be torn down in your life and in my life.
How do we do that? Paul says: you do that by taking every thought captive. We're going to learn to do that together. To experience the transformation God wants to see take place in our life by taking our thoughts captive. I did a little research as I was getting ready for this sermon.
Looking online for someone. who would be considered a gravity denier, somebody who doesn't believe in the law of gravity. I had this idea that I wanted to use as an illustration, but I needed to find a person who didn't believe in the law of gravity, and I couldn't find one. And so I I Thought what I might just do here. is imagine it.
So imagine there's this guy named Jack who doesn't believe in the law of gravity. He believes in the concept of gravity, but he thinks the law of gravity is a hoax. perpetrated by the scientific community. He will argue his point. He'll say it's all about density and buoyancy.
There's not some invisible force out there. And his friends, they've tried to convince him. They're like, Jack. You need to accept the law of gravity, right? Like every step you take is evidence.
that gravity is real. And other friends just kind of accept the fact that Jack's a little bit quirky. And so Jack finally decides: you know what? I'm gonna prove him all wrong. And he invites everybody over to his house to watch him jump off the top.
of his two-story house. This isn't real. Remember, we're just imagining this.
So don't feel sorry for Jack. He doesn't exist.
So Jack gets on top of his two-story house. Everybody's watching. Down below. They don't. Want to watch because it's horrific, but you can't not watch.
And so, with lots of confidence, he steps off the roof of his house thinking that he's going to float, not fall. But he falls and he falls hard and he hits the grounds and he breaks a leg and he breaks some ribs and he's concussed and he's got to go to the hospital. Why? Because gravity doesn't care what Jack thinks. Gravity doesn't care.
Gravity does what gravity always does. Gravity acts the way gravity always acts. And Jack can refuse to believe in it, but it doesn't mean it's not true in Jack's life. Jack can say, I don't believe in the law of gravity, but the law of gravity still applies to Jack, whether he's aware of its existence, whether he believes in its existence or not. There's another law that's both recognized in science and recognized in Scripture.
That's called the law of cognition. The law of cognition basically says that your life is shaped by your thoughts. To a degree that you probably don't fully realize, and I may not recognize, our lives are shaped by the way that we think. It's the law of cognition.
Now before neuroscience and psychology had firmly established this law that's built into who we are, Scripture had already taught us this truth. Proverbs chapter 4 verse 23 says, Be careful how you think, and here's why. Because there's this law that applies to you. Your life is shaped by your thoughts. And you don't have to agree with that for it to be true.
You don't have to believe this to be true for it to have the power of truth over your life. The God who created you says. This is how it works. There's this law. That is built into who you are, built into this world that says your life is shaped by your thoughts, and if that's true.
The most important question that you can ask yourself is What do I think about? What do I think about? Paul seems to understand just how significant this issue is in Romans 12, verse 2. When he writes to the church in Rome about transformation, and he says, Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. The Greek word here for conformed.
means to be molded by something external. Don't let your mind be moulded by something out there. J.B. Phillips, in his translation, says, Don't be squeezed into the mold of this world without even thinking about it. And what's interesting about this word conform is it's written for us in the present imperative tense, which means stop doing what you're already doing.
Paul's not saying, like, hey, there's gonna come a day where you're gonna have to decide if you're gonna be conformed or not. He's saying you are being conformed. The world you live in is squeezing you and shaping you and molding you. Stop it. Stop it.
It's happening right now. Stop doing what you're already doing. And modern neuroscience. Wood. Underline what Paul is teaching here.
Neuroplasticity shows that our brains are constantly, constantly being molded by what we experience and what we're exposed to.
So every thought you think... Every image you see, every conversation that you Take part in every second of your screen time. Mold molding. There's a pattern that we're being squeezed into. And so Paul warns us that you're Thinking and my thinking is being squeezed into this pattern of this world.
Whether we know it or not, that's what's happening. The law of cognition is playing itself out through the thoughts that we think. And neuroscientists say that The average person has between 60,000 and 80,000 thoughts a day. 60,000 and 80,000 thoughts, it's a lot of thoughts. Most of us would say, that seems a bit much.
I'm not aware of. thinking 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts. But this is the point. 95% of your thoughts and my thoughts are below the level of consciousness, meaning. We're not even aware that we're thinking the thoughts we're thinking.
95% of our 60 to 80,000 thoughts are on repeat. They're just they're just happening. We don't think about the thoughts we're we're thinking. This is why you can look back on your life and have these moments. where you see something you said or did and you're like What was I thinking?
Like, why did I do that? I must have thought about it because I did it, but I don't remember thinking any thoughts about doing that. Ladies and gentlemen, I would like to present to you Exhibit A. This is me, circa 2002. with frosted tips.
I see this picture. I know it's real.
Okay. Like I know that this happens. I don't remember ever thinking about this. Like, I don't remember having any kind of thought process that weighed the pros and cons of having frosted tips. But at some point, I clearly walked in to a salon and said, Well I'll have some frosted tips.
Like at some point, that decision was made. I don't remember thinking about that. Like I don't remember a moment. Where I I stood in front of my mirror At home and thought, you know. What my wife would be really attracted to.
I got him. I don't remember that process. Like, I don't remember thinking. You know what the world needs. It's a pastor.
That looks like he rated the clearance section a hot topic. That's what the world really needs. Like, I don't remember any of those thoughts, and yet, yet, clearly, that happens. And all of us can have these moments where we've Done something or been influenced in some way like i don't know what was conform you know it was a boy band era I looked like a rejected backstreet boy. Like, I tried, but didn't make the cut.
Like, I don't know what was influencing my thinking, because I wasn't thinking about it, but clearly there were some thoughts. I was being conformed in such a way that resulted in me having frosted tips.
So take your thoughts, Captain. You're listening to Living on the Edge with guest teacher Kyle Eidelman. There's more just ahead, so stay with us. Today we continue our journey through a fundamental series called God's Dream for Your Life. And if you've missed any part of this study or want to find more Bible lessons, just go online to livingontheedge.org.
There, you'll discover a wide array of teaching content, downloadable materials, and daily discipleship with Chip Ingram. Find it all at livingonthege.org.
Well, now let's get back to our lesson with guest teacher Kyle Eidelman. I want us to spend a few minutes just unpacking this connection, this biblical truth of our life being shaped by our thoughts. First, let's recognize that our thoughts establish our emotions.
Now, that doesn't mean our thoughts are exclusively responsible for our feelings. There are a lot of factors that could be at play. But more than we recognize, our thoughts Establish our emotions. We tend to talk about our emotions as feelings that we don't have any control over. I can't help the way I feel.
Or we look at circumstances, situations, we look at people, and we say, well, if this circumstance changed, if this person didn't do what they did, then I'd feel differently than I do right now. But what we find is that there's this intricate relationship between how we think about things happening. and the feelings we have about those things. God created our brains with a limbic system, specifically the amygdala, which helps us process our emotional responses. Our thoughts are connected to our feelings more than we realize.
Our neurotransmitter system connects thoughts and emotions, so what we think about can trigger the release of neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine that influence our emotional state.
So here's how you might play this out. Let's say that you have been feeling pretty discontent lately. Spending more time thinking about your life and what You don't have, or maybe you're behind on some things compared to other people and. and you're comparing yourself to others, and your thoughts have just been very focused on that. But But then you read 1 Thessalonians 5.18, which says, give thanks in all circumstances.
And you think, okay, well, Paul says, give thanks in all circumstances. I should think about things that. I'm grateful for. I'm going to do that. And I'm going to just start taking my mornings.
This is God's will for me. And so, I'm going to give thanks. I'm going to spend my mornings just expressing gratitude to God for some things in my life.
Now, when that happens, there is a neurotransmitter effect. That practice of being intentionally grateful increases serotonin levels, which is associated with mood regulation. Then, you go throughout your day and you're not just reacting to everything that's happening around you, but instead, you've created a different neural pathway that responds with gratitude and thanksgiving when things don't go exactly how you thought they would. You're starting to recognize and see things to be thankful for, and it changes your emotions, it changes your feelings.
So our thoughts establish our emotions. Secondly, our thoughts direct our decisions. Turns out that just like our emotions, our decisions are largely determined by what happens in our prefrontal cortex, which is sometimes called the executive center, because it's where decisions get made. Our thoughts, being molded by the patterns of this world, are constantly assigning, subconsciously, assigning benefits and consequences to different actions. And whether or not you value the immediate pleasure and satisfaction, or whether you're.
consciously thinking about something that Will come in the future because of a decision you make. But we all have these neural pathways that. Much more so than we realize, are making certain decisions for us or taking us in the direction. That we're going. Think of it this way.
Think of a neural pathway as If you get in a car and you drive to a destination that you've never been to before, you're paying close attention. Watching your GPS, and you're aware of the road you need to turn on, and you're paying attention to road signs. But if you've taken that path dozens of times, eventually you don't really even think about it. Like when you drive to work, you just drive to work. You're not paying attention to anything because you have created this pathway from doing it so many times.
And the way God has designed our brains is to have these neural pathways so that.
So many of the decisions we make come from the way we've been thinking over an extended period of time. This is why you can decide you're going to have a calm, rational discussion with your spouse around finances. But like during the conversation Your emotions take over, you start raising your voice, you you're getting sensitive and defensive. Why? Well, because you've got this neural pathway about talking to your spouse about finances.
And even though you didn't mean for it to happen, you're... Response to them, the way you talk, the way you act, starts going down that. that pathway that's been established.
So this is one of the reasons why We get in trouble by putting too much emphasis on behavior modification over thought transformation. Like we think the key to bringing about change is, I'm just gonna do things differently. I'm gonna behave my way out of this. But typically, that doesn't last very long, it's not sustainable. That true transformation, according to Romans 12, comes.
when we change the way we think. Renewing of our minds. brings transformation. Thirdly, our thoughts regulate our relationships. There's a term for how our minds interpret what other people say and do.
It's called cognitive interpretation. That If you come and you say something to me, No matter what you meant by what you said, no matter what tone you think you had, how I think about what you said is going to determine our relationship. And we all have like this constantly happening in our minds. where we're our cognitive interpretation might be constantly negative. In which case, we're going to react in a way that's defensive, or sensitive, or antagonistic, or we might pull away and withdraw.
But our thoughts are constantly filtering what other people say and do. A few years ago, I was having some challenges with some relationships. In my life, and I was talking to a friend about it, and he just really challenged my thinking. Specifically, and he explained to me that this concept of filling in the gaps. And he basically said, look, Any interaction you have with someone, your mind is going to fill in some gaps.
Things that you don't really know, but your thoughts will interpret what they say and do, and how your thoughts interpret that, it's filling in the gap.
So let's say somebody says something, you're offended by it, but let's say there's a context gap. Like you don't know what led up to that, you don't know what they might have heard, you don't know what's happened during their day, you don't know you don't know a lot. And so how you fill in that context gap is going to determine how that relationship goes. Or maybe there's an information gap, like what you're hearing. Is missing some important pieces.
And how you fill in that information gap is gonna have a lot to do with. The direction of that relationship.
So our thoughts are constantly filling in gaps. Do we presume the worst or do we assume the best? Do we give a cynical explanation or a generous explanation? If I pull in the driveway and I see my wife has ordered.
Something else off Amazon that's been delivered to the house. I see a box. Mm-hmm. Thoughts fill in the gap. I can think to myself.
What could possibly be in that box that we need? Like, there have already been a few deliveries this week. Doesn't she care about how we're spending money? Like, I could think those thoughts. I don't know what's in the box, but my mind could fill in the gaps.
Or I can think something different. I can say, well, you know. I never have to wonder if we're going to have what we need around the house. My wife is much more intentional and thoughtful than me when it comes to spending money. She takes care of so many things that I probably don't even recognize, and I certainly don't always appreciate.
And depending on where my thoughts go, depending on how I interpret that moment, depending on how I feel. fill that gap will determine will regulate my relationship. It'll determine the course of our connection for the rest of the evening.
So let me just give you some questions to think about as you process this connection between your thoughts and your relationships. When I make assumptions about someone's intentions, do I assume the best or the worst? Just pay attention to that as you think about your thoughts this week. Do you assume the best or do you assume the worst? Secondly, when I think about my past with this person, what do I remember?
What do I remember? When I look back on our relationship, does my mind think about the things? That went wrong, or the way they made mistakes, or different failures, or negative things? Or do I look back and think about things that are positive and affirming and praiseworthy? Question number three, what narrative do I tell myself about this person when I have to fill in the gaps?
What's the story that I tend to tell about this person when I'm not sure exactly the context of something? How do I fill in the gaps with that story? Number four. Our thoughts determine our spiritual growth. Colossians chapter 3 verse 2, set your mind on things above.
Think about things that are eternal, not on earthly things. When we think Eternal thoughts. It doesn't just shape our emotions and our decisions and our relationships, it shapes our soul. You're listening to Living on the Edge with special guest teacher Kyle Eidelman. Kyle is a pastor, author, and gifted communicator, and a friend of our regular teacher, Chip Ingram.
Well, this week Kyle is walking us through a mini-series called Every Thought Captive, a message the world desperately needs to hear right now. Kyle reminded us today that our minds are being molded constantly, quietly, by the culture around us. Paul called it in Romans 12, don't be squeezed into the pattern of this world. The remedy isn't willpower, it's transformation. And it starts with taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
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Well, now here's Chip Ingram. Thanks, Dave. You know, I've been teaching about renewing your mind for decades, but Kyle brought such a fresh insight today about something that few people, at least I've never heard of it, the law of cognition, that your life is shaped by your thoughts. You know, Scripture taught this way before neuroscience got in on it. Proverbs 4:23 says, Be careful how you think.
because your thoughts shape everything. Here's what's sobering. I mean, think about this. We think 60 to 80,000 thoughts a day. and 95% of them are subconscious.
You know, you and I aren't even aware of what we're thinking the great majority of the time. And that's why Romans 12, verse 2 warns us, don't be conformed to this world, but be transformed. How? by the renewing of your mind. You see, it's happening all the time.
My mind, your mind's being renewed. The good news is this. Transformation comes not by trying harder or more religious services or beating yourself up. It comes by renewing your mind. When you and I align our thoughts with God's truth, He does the transformation.
Let me encourage you, this week pay attention to your thought patterns. because those thoughts are shaping your emotions, your decisions, and ultimately your life. Choose what thought you hold on to. and what thoughts you want to fold. I'm Dave Druhy.
Join us tomorrow as Kyle Eidelman shows us what it looks like to stop letting the world write the script for how you think. That's next time on Living on the Edge. Um Bye. Today's program is produced and sponsored by Living on the Edge. Uh
