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Created by God for a Purpose

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January 13, 2025 2:00 am

Dr. Kathy Koch shares that when she was growing up, she was dismayed at being taller-than-average and having a very deep voice. But God has used those traits to help Kathy become a powerful public speaker who can be seen and heard quite easily, even without a microphone! She urges parents and kids to embrace their ‘different’ gifts and use them for God’s glory.

 

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Have you ever wished that you could change something about yourself?

Maybe your height or hair color or your intelligence or athletic ability? This is something all of us struggle with at some point in time and Dr. Cathy Cook joins us today to share a really unique perspective on how you can appreciate your unique God-given qualities. Welcome to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

I'm John Fuller. John, we're celebrating the sanctity of human life throughout the month of January and today we're highlighting the fact that our creator God has a purpose for every life. Dr. Cathy opened her message quoting Genesis chapter 1 which says God created man in his own image. She pointed out that God is a personal intentional creator and he doesn't use an assembly line to build his human beings. He deliberately chooses each attribute that he gives us and that idea should blow our minds. Oh it's right, yeah.

Let's go ahead now and hear from Dr. Cathy Cook as she spoke to our staff just about a year ago on today's episode of Focus on the Family. We read in the book of Isaiah that Isaiah understood God's personal intentionality. In Isaiah chapter 64 verse 8 we read, oh Lord you are our father. We are all the clay and you are our potter. We are all the work of your hand.

Say the word all. Everyone you'll ever meet and everyone you'll never meet created by God's hand. He wanted them and he wanted them made the way that they are.

I picture God the creator at the potter's wheel and there's this lump of clay. I think I'll give them a girl this time. I think I'll give her very long fingers so she can play the piano really well like her mom.

I think I'll make her very analytic like her dad that'll drive her mom nuts. I mean I don't know but I know he was strategic and intentional and planned. We all have worth because we were wanted. Created on purpose with purpose for purpose. He decided and we are here. We were wanted. We are wanted.

We are here. God created every person conceived. He is never surprised for God. There is no such thing as an unplanned pregnancy.

We may be surprised and I understand that but to God they're all planned. I'm pro-life. I'm pro-eternal life. I'm pro-abundant life and I'm pro-living. How many of you know people barely alive not living? Do you know what I mean by that? They're going through the motions. They're breathing. They're taking up space but they've chosen but they've chosen to step back and disengage.

How tragic. I want us to live intentionally. I want us to live intentionally because God created us intentionally on purpose. Why were you created for such a time as this? It's so exciting to think about and the dream I have for kids is that they would live long enough to find out. You don't know everything when you're a child.

You're a child. Childhood comes before adulthood and it might make sense one day. No matter what our specific purposes are, I do know that we were created to leave the world a better place. Oh, to be pro-living and to live long and leave the world a better place through who we are and through what we do and to choose life.

To model that in our actions and in our beliefs. Who are you becoming? I don't know what your stories are but I was created to be a chatty Kathy. I was given that nickname when I was about three years old by my mom's mom.

Oh, you're such a chatty Kathy. My parents chose to see all the words in me as a strength to develop, not a problem to eliminate. And that's the power of the parent. I praise God for my parents. They were imperfect but they saw something in me that needed to come out.

All these words in me. My brother Dave is also extremely grateful for our parents. My brother is a clinical chemist at Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia.

He is the past president of the American Association of Clinical Chemists. My brother credits the beginning of the passion he has for chemistry to a chemistry set our grandparents gave him at his 10th birthday. We believe that our grandparents must have seen something in my brother that caused them to believe that there was something in him that would be brought forth through investigation and experimentation and making messes at the kitchen table, which our parents allowed him to do. And as a result of that, my brother now is changing lives through the discovery in clinical chemistry. Back to my chatty Kathy story, which God used for me. When I was about 10 years old, mom and dad enrolled me in children's theater.

They said, go talk there a while. Yeah, true story. I won the library reading awards every summer of my junior high years, reading more books than any other kid. I joined the forensics team in high school and gave speeches and earned ribbons doing so. And what am I doing today? We are who we are supposed to be.

Our childhood matters as we age, created on purpose for purpose, with purpose to the glory of God. And I obviously do not do what I do for the money. I do it for the impact and influence.

Money just helps pay the bills. I have a low voice. How many of you have heard it today?

Have you said, man, she sounds like a guy. Yeah, I do. I know that.

Like it's not a surprise. People will sometimes say that as if I'm oblivious to my own self. I'm called sir often. Awkward. At the drive-thru restaurant, which by the way, should not be called a drive-thru restaurant.

If you're 16 learning to drive, I really hope you understand that. And when you go to the drive-thru restaurant and order your food, you can see the menu and the microphone, but they cannot see you. So they'll say back to me, thank you for your order.

That'll be $6.82 at the window. Sir, my voice is lower amplified by a microphone. I don't get mad.

It's not their fault. And it's really going to be funny when I get up there and I'm not a guy. The kid working there is looking at the receipt, looking up. And I know what he's thinking. He's thinking, there is supposed to be a guy in this car. And I know what he's thinking. He's thinking, there is supposed to be a guy in this car. And I don't get mad.

It's not their fault. I have a low voice. I get it. It's who I am. So I take it and say thank you usually and drive off. You know, I learned a long time ago to persevere, to believe in the believing of my believing that there would be reasons that it would make sense.

And it has. I don't need a microphone. I'm not going to turn it off to prove it, but low voices go further in a room than high voices. And my creator God knew exactly what he was doing when he'd chosen his love to make me me because he knew exactly who I would become for his glory.

I've been to 30 countries overseas. I've been to many places without sound systems and it does not matter. I could be at a high school gym across town to do an assembly and have the sound system buzz so bad that it could be turned off and my voice will carry to the back row of the highest bleachers because God is good. Because God is a good creator.

Yeah. And God is an intentional personal creator. And I grieve for the children who don't yet believe that.

Who come to confusion naturally because the culture is chaotic and people are messy. I pray that all of us would in our humility choose to change our attitude toward the things we cannot change. Change what we can and leave the rest alone and change our attitudes because it honors God. If I walk wounded through my days angry at my voice that I'm angry at my creator and I say I dismiss you and before long I'll begin to dismiss more of myself and then I'm not here. And I think that grieves God. Because when I was that lump of clay and he made me he knew.

When I was a kid it made no sense. I praise God for parents and grandparents and teachers of pastors and my brother Dave and others who came alongside and were the boundaries that were the blessings that allowed me to become. David writes in Psalm 139 and 13 and 14 verses that are very well known.

Many moms admit that they memorized these verses before they even conceived their first child. David writes for you God formed my inward parts. You knitted me together in my mother's room. I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

Wonderful are your works. My soul knows it very well. Knitting requires careful attention.

The knitter chooses the size of the stitch and the color of the yarn before ever getting started and the knitter better know in advance if she's making a scarf or a sweater. God knows what he's doing. And I know that sometimes that's hard to believe because things just don't go the way that we hoped.

I respect the the grief that's embedded there. But it doesn't take away the truth that God is intentional and he trusts us to become. It says in the scripture that we're fearfully made. It's the same fear as the fear that God in the Old Testament which doesn't mean we ought to be afraid of him but it means as you know that we should honor him and and be in awe of him. God wants us and our children to fearfully respect who he's chosen us to be.

Ladies and gentlemen when I trusted Christ and realized the truth here, oh I praise God that the spirit allowed that verse to transform my beliefs about myself and it changed everything. We're wonderfully made. You're unique. There's no one like you which is maybe good. I don't know you but it might be very good.

One is enough. You know that if you ever get in trouble with the law they can find you because nobody has been created and nobody will ever be created with your fingerprints. That is how creative God is.

I love to tell middle schoolers that if they ever get lost a bloodhound can smell something that is theirs and go find them because nobody smells like them. I mean that might be good too I don't know but nobody smells like you and nobody has your fingerprints but more important than that nobody has your brain cells. Nobody has your exact passion, pursuit, intellect, birth order.

You're intellect, birth order. You're the unique package that you are and to get unwrapped by the people who love you to discover why it is. And then my soul knows it very well. Do you know the difference it makes when a child, teen, or adult knows in the soul very well that they were fearfully and wonderfully made?

It changes everything. I was tall as a child, thought I was too tall, walked home from the elementary school I attended, sat down in the middle of my mom and dad's big double bed and declared to my mom I did not want to be tall anymore. I'm here today largely because my mother did not say well get over it you're going to be tall. Which is frankly what a lot of children tell me their parents appear to do to them which is to dismiss their pain.

Sometimes it's because of our own pain sometimes there's a busyness and an isolation and there's just a mess that enters in. But oh ladies and gentlemen my mom heard my heart cry told my dad or husband we've got a daughter we're at the perceived problem that can't be changed she's going to be tall what can we do they problem solved. To all of you who are solution focused parents and grandparents and teachers I applaud you.

When somebody a spouse or an aging parent or a child shares their heart with us that we would honor them by looking for the solution. By the end of the week I was enrolled in tap dance class but what was really cool about tap and ballet was that I got to be the center of the back row which I decided was the position of high honor because I was the only one allowed to be there and so I went from being too tall to being cool tall. I was at an elementary assembly a while back and I was telling my story to try to help the kids believe in themselves and a little boy came up to me at the end he says hey lady I just wanted you to know I don't think you're too tall I think you're very cool tall.

I love that. I mean is there something about you that you need to change your attitude toward and maybe you can't do it on your own but maybe there's someone in your world who would inspire you to greatness because you have chosen to be vulnerable and transparent. When I taught second graders I had no trouble hanging things from the ceiling because of my height. Other teachers would borrow me it was easier than grabbing the ladder and dragging it down the hall.

When I travel overseas I have no trouble putting the suitcases into the overhead bin and getting them down when we land and now you can see me. Like I could be four feet ten and be a public speaker but you'd be like where'd that lady go? You know my height does not make me effective it just adds to the ease of it all.

I was in Thailand many years ago and during my message that I used that four foot ten line and when I was all finished up came to me a four foot ten Thai woman like in my personal space. Almost ran to me. I was frightened.

She's right here. I am four feet ten and I didn't know if I was supposed to apologize and then she said this past summer I was in a car accident and the jaws of life had to be used to cut the car open and I was told by the paramedics if I was one inch taller I'd be brain damaged or dead and then she said I am who I am supposed to be. To arrive at a conclusion that trusts God is a beautiful thing. To change what we can change. Like if I hung out with NBA basketball players I'd be short.

No, I'd just feel short. Change your attitude to other things that cannot be changed. Oh I want children to live long and be strong and find out why they are the who they are. Ephesians 2 10 in the New Testament such a beautiful passage for we are God's workmanship his masterpiece fearfully and wonderfully made set apart for his purposes. We are his workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. He has created and that we should walk in them. He has created all of us everyone you'll ever meet everyone you'll never meet he has created all of us with good gifts inside beforehand that we would walk in them we would use them to change the world for good and not ugly. We're created on purpose with purpose there's something there to bring forth there's hope there. Another element of my story is that spelling does not come naturally to me. The English language makes no sense could I just put that out there now not only does the English language makes absolutely no sense but spelling slays me I mean it just doesn't come naturally to me like the letter c we don't need it like it's in the word science s c i isn't the s doing its job just fine I had a kid say but dr kathy what about ch like the c h like in change I'd rather have a 27th letter for that sound than the letter c so here's the thing ladies and gentlemen I did not say spelling is hard that's a lie there's a lot of words that are easy to spell I did not say I cannot spell that's a lie don't lie to yourself if you lie to yourself you will never become who God intended for you to be what I said was spelling does not come naturally to me don't ever let your weaknesses win always lead with your strengths it's almost like I heard the audible voice of God suggests that I write a book and I'm like but spelling God's like I don't care you know spell check which doesn't always work but I knew I had ideas that more people would be able to be influenced by through the written word than they ever would through the spoken voice and so I humbled myself I surrounded myself with a support system and I've written six books why because God is a good creator and I'm not going to let a challenge win please lead with your strengths know what they are if you're not sure ask someone to help you I travel with the misspellers dictionary no joke it's no different than a calculator for a kid who struggles with math facts in a misspeller's dictionary you look up the word knowledge the way it should be spelled which is n-o-w-l-e-g-e and you will find it there and then they tell you the correct way so don't quit living when life is hard don't quit being or becoming when something is a challenge find the strength why do I still write books with a thesaurus because I can look up an easy word to find the harder word because if you don't know how to spell it you can't find it in the dictionary amen so to all of you parents who say to your children go look it up stop that yeah you're laughing it is not funny you know what story are your kids living better question what story is God writing for them to live I could not have been a jockey on a horse frightening I'm 6'1 can you picture me on a horse trying to be a jockey like I'm eating my knees it's bad bad bad one of the most damaging lies you'll ever tell a child is you can be whatever you want you can only be what God intended for you to be when he chosen his love to make you you when he sat at the potter's wheel and when he knit you together knowing who you are allows you to become that agent of change for God's glory help children grieve what they wish were true the power you have as a ministry the power you have as pastors and parents to help children grieve what never will be to accept what is sweetheart I've heard your heart I I recognize the pain I share your sorrow sweetheart it is what it is and we still declare in our family that God is good and trust me that the longer you live the more that will be made clear to you somehow have the conversation to spin it I was in a group of with a group of young children and I was sharing again my story because part of the passion we have at Celebrate Kids is that children would become and that children would believe the suicide rate in our country is frightening the second leading cause of death for 10 to 14 year olds is suicide it has tripled in the last 10 years we have got to help them be not just pro-life but pro-eternal life pro-abundant life and pro-living it is worth living it is worth it life is worth living the future can be bright and I was trying to say to these kids that when I was your age I didn't get it I was a too tall chatty Kathy who got in trouble for talking sometime and now look what God has done well it's a public school so look what my creator has done and I received a bunch of thank you notes slipped under the hotel room door because the person who hired me knew where I was staying Trent wrote thank you for motivating me to the next chapter of my story Makayla wrote I will find my true story when I'm older I don't know now because my story is just starting but I love knowing that she knows there's a story starting Hunter wrote I did not know I had a story but now that I do know I can't wait to find out what my story is those of us who love children and teens get to partner with God to help the creative intent continue God creates us in the womb knit together fearfully and wonderfully made wonderful are his works oh my soul knows it very well I hope that's true of you and I believe God's creative intent continues in the interactions and relationships and encounters and opportunities that he allows children to have that's you don't ever take lightly the conversations you have with children don't ever take lightly the field trips and the games you play and the walks you go on because in those conversations life happens we have got to make sure we know why we're alive and help our kids know it too why are you the who you are my package of a chatty Kathy with the low voice we're spelling as a challenge and I'm too tall perfect package for this what's your story what's your story what's your story what's your story what's your story what story do you dream your children and teenagers will live out father God we thank you for your creative intent father God I thank you that you chose to make us because of the love you have that you chose to make us us and would you help us become we want to be more like you we want to serve you well with the gifts that you've provided with the perfect package we are help us surround us with your goodness your people in your systems that we can walk forth and do good work for your glory and I pray I'm with a lot of optimism in the name of Jesus amen amen thank you so much thank you we really enjoy it when Dr. Kathy Cook comes to our campus here at Focus on the Family in Colorado Springs and we've been listening to a great presentation she gave to our staff just about a year ago it was a great message wasn't it and I so appreciate Dr. Kathy's willingness to share her areas of vulnerability and how the Lord has been able to use those for his glory and I think she did a great job of illustrating the fact that children are really need to hear that God has a purpose for their lives tragically it's become too easy for kids to give up even to the point of ending their life because they don't see any purpose to it and Dr. Kathy was a big contributor to a collection of resources we've developed called Alive to Thrive which is designed to help adults proactively address issues that can lead to suicide and we want to get this information out to as many parents teachers and youth leaders as we can so we're offering it for free we don't want there to be any barriers so if you'd like to help us prevent teen suicide please make a donation today to support this work and when you make that donation of any amount we'll send you a copy of Dr. Kathy Cook's book Eight Great Smarts as our way of saying thank you yeah the book really will help you identify and affirm your child's various areas of intelligence so they can feel more empowered to tackle their weaknesses get your copy of Eight Great Smarts when you call 800 the letter a in the word family 800-232-6459 or follow the link in the episode notes to donate to the work of Focus on the Family and request the book on behalf of the entire team thanks for listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly take a moment if you would please and leave a rating for us in your podcast app and then share about this episode with a friend that so helps spread the word of Focus on the Family and all that we have to offer families and friends like you and thanks in advance for doing that I'm John Fuller inviting you back next time as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ 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