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You see, you know one of the reasons you need to believe that you are a worthwhile person? If you don't believe that God created you unique and you don't need to be like somebody else, the first person you're going to be mad at is God. Today, on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, humorist Ken Davis shares encouragement for anyone who has doubts about their worth as a human being.
Well, thanks for joining us today. I'm John Fuller. Ken Davis is one of our all-time favorites on this broadcast because he's so transparent about his own flaws and how he has chosen to find joy in life despite those inadequacies. Ken is a sought-after speaker and award-winning author of 12 books and the founder of the Score Speaker Academy, where people can learn how to become great speakers themselves. And Ken has been on this broadcast dozens of times.
He has, and today's presentation is actually one that we've never aired before. It was recorded back in the mid-1980s in front of a group of high schoolers and young adults. By the way, that's the context for my introduction to Ken Davis. I saw him as a high school student in the Twin Cities. We're going to be jumping in now after some opening remarks.
And here now is Ken Davis on today's Focus on the Family. We live in a funny, hilarious, wonderful world. It's crazy all around us. I'm walking Larimer Square down here, downtown Denver. I'm walking down the street.
I sit on the curb and laugh till I'm sick. People are looking at me. They're going, what's wrong with that boy? You know why I'm laughing? There's a jewelry store down there, real fancy jewelry store.
It has a sign in the window, it says, ears pierced while you wait. See, here's a lot of people going, I don't get it. You gotta wait to get your ears paired. There's no alternatives. What you gonna do?
I'll be back. Hoca haul in them for me. Under that it said, on Thursdays we pair some half off. These people aren't going to touch my ears. I love watching you.
You ever look at each other? I love watching you. You guys come in here scoping each other out. I sat right over there and watched a girl go, look at him, look at him. What are you clapping for, dude?
Uh You're the one they were looking at. Can you do the same thing? Only you don't have a vocabulary like the girls. The guys see something they like, they just go This guy, look at me when I'm talking to you, okay? That's great.
Don't let people put you down. Do you know the Bible says, don't let people make fun of you because you're young. That's beautiful. That's the way God made you, to notice each other and everything. That's it.
That's great, Abha. That's wonderful. It's the only reason you're sitting there, you know that? The only reason you're sitting right there is one day your daddy looked at your mom and went, and there you are. It's beautiful.
This guy's going Yankseen, my mom. You know, sometimes I just want to say thank you, God, that you put us in this kind of a world. With the humor around us, the things that are around us, even in church. We go to church, and I have laughed some of the hardest I've ever laughed. No, not at my minister, you know.
No. At me, at our family. You ever notice Sunday morning is the time that you get the most bent with your family? Oh, as a parent, I find myself with my hands around the throat of a child that I love, going, you get ready and you get ready now because we gotta go to church. Where it can learn it at the love of Jesus.
My wife has a rule about church. This is her rule: once you sit down, you don't move. Yeah. She's here tonight. If one of you stood up to leave for a moment, she'd turn to the friend sitting next to her and go, Look at that.
She doesn't like it when you move.
So she gathered us all together and she said, new rule. We get to church, you don't move. Anything you have to do, you do before church. Because once you sit, you do not move. We all said, Okay, good rule, it is a good rule, but there's got to be exceptions.
We stood up to sing a hymn one day. I turned to her and I said, I need to leave. I'll be right back. She turned to me and said You know the rule. You will not move.
I said, but I need to move. I will come right back. She said, if you move, you'll set a bad example. I said, if I stay, I'm going to set a bad example. Against her will, I left.
I had to. I went to the bathroom real quick, came back. In fact, I got back before the song was done. Slid into the row, sat down. and put my arm around her.
I could feel hostility just radiating. from her body. And I thought, this is ridiculous. Why should she be so angry?
So I put my hand on her shoulder and I gently just hugged her. Beneath the pew where no one could see, she took her elbow and she began to grind her elbow into my ribs. This is a woman I love grinding her elbow into my ribs. I turned to her to tell her, this is stupid. It wasn't my wife.
I'd moved into the wrong role. My wife was sitting right behind me. And the rest of the church is rolling on the floor.
Now do you suppose that God looked down on that scene and went, look. My people. are having fun.
Okay. No I don't think so. I think God looked down and he went, angels, come here. Look at this idiot. I love this guy.
Look at what he's doing. Because one of the reasons for joy is that if we just open our eyes. She put us in a wonderful world. But that isn't the only reason. There's another reason.
Another reason for joy that he has put us here is that he has put us here unique. You're not like me. I'm not like you. Each of us are different. You can talk.
She has to whisper to other people. It's wonderful. You're not like me, I'm not like you. Kids, it is so wonderful. The greatest killer of people your age in this day and age is suicide.
I hate that. And most of the time, it's because kids don't like themselves, they want to be like somebody else. I know that feeling. When I graduated from high school, I weighed about 110 pounds. I had curvature of the bone in both of my arms.
I couldn't straighten either arm any more than about like that. I had no ability to turn my wrist. See how I can turn my wrist like that? Couldn't do it. Couldn't catch, throw a football, couldn't do anything like that.
My hands, I couldn't even do a simple pull-up. I remember a guy throwing a football at me about 12 times trying to get me to catch it. And I couldn't catch it. And the 12th time it bounced off my chest, he said, hit the showers. He said, you'll never amount to anything.
And I can remember walking to the showers and feeling those eyes on the back of my head. I got beat up on the average of two, three times a week in school. It was like a school sport in our school.
Okay. Oh, funny for you. Yeah. You could let her in it? Yeah.
I can laugh at it now, but it wasn't funny at the time. I've had surgery, now I can straighten my arm almost all the way. See that? I still can't turn it all the way. I can't hold my palm flat.
That's really embarrassing in restaurants. You go up for change. The only way I can keep change in my hand. And there's no way I'm going to go up there like that. Put my nickel there.
Lots of change. Load me up. I wanted to be an athlete. Oh, I desperately wanted to be an athlete. There's not a big call for 110-pound athletes.
You know that? What am I gonna be? Water boy? There is no way that I'm going to be able to be. I just felt unless I could be an athlete, I wasn't worth anything because all of the rest of the kids in my class were athletes.
You know what I've had to come to believe? I'm never going to be an athlete. It's never going to happen. I'm not going to be able to walk on the Broncos camp and make a spot on a team. I'll never make it.
You know how I know? Because I can't do anything that's athletic. I'm sorry, you're going to have to laugh with the rest.
Well you're gonna have to leave. Athlete is a funny word. I couldn't do it. I was with a friend in Minnesota recently. He said, come on, let's play hockey.
I said, I don't know how. He said, just skate around and hit this thing. I said, I can't skate. He said, okay, just stand in front of this net. Ah.
I know why they call that little thing a puck. That's what sound it makes. When it hits you right here. It hit me right there. My lip swelled up to the size of a watermelon.
My friends are going, what happened to your lip? Poke? I'm in California. A guy comes up to me. He's got muscles in places I haven't even got places.
This guy comes up to me and he goes, Mike, let's go surfing. I said, like, I don't know how. He said, like it's easy. Tie this leg board to your foot. Yeah.
And then like paddle out and wait for a big one. And then like Right it is.
Okay. I didn't know what the big one was. But I had seen the movie Jaws. Yeah. I figured if that's a big one.
He can write himself in. I started paddling towards shore. I felt a surge of water. I looked behind me. There was a building.
of water. The big one. I did not ride the big one. The big one rode me pretty much, sure. I'm 30 feet under the water praying to God for little things like.
Air. Thank you.
So I moved to Minnesota. A guy, after maybe two, three days, a guy comes up and goes, hey. Let's go water skiing. I said, I don't know how. He said it's easy.
Stand here on shore. Hold this stick. And y'all hit it. Why didn't he tell me about Slack? Boat was doing 80 when it hit the end of the rope.
I'm still standing on shore watching my arms flop around a stupid leg. Why didn't he tell me when you fall? Not going to stupid stick. He trolled half the lake with me. Even fisher going, whoa, Wally, look at that.
And I lost my trunks under there.
Now I'm praying for two things. Air enclosed. I popped to the surface. There's a boat motor my friends coming to get me. I don't want to be God.
I'm naked, okay? Fish are swimming around going, oh, that's gross. How many of you have ever water skied? Let me see your hands. You water skate?
Do you remember the first time you got up? And I didn't get up. You didn't get up?
Somehow I knew that. Who got up? Did you get up? Do you remember? It was scary.
And you're frightened. Everybody assumes the same position when you get up first time water skiing. Yeah. And your friends see you. Are they sympathetic?
No, they look back and go Hmm. Whipper in a circle. That's what they did with me. They crank that boat in a circle. I'm on the end of a 75-foot rope.
New and Mark 9. Even ducks are going, whoa. I fell. Did you know? The human body can skip.
Yeah. Not the human swimming trunks, but I had to swim to shore again. And you get to shore, you got big problems. I'm gathering leaves and sticks here. Sneaking towards your little kids are going, Mama.
Look, it's Adam. It's Adam.
So I moved to Colorado. I was here three days. A guy comes up to me and goes, hey. Let's go. Yeah.
I said He said I said, eat rocks. Nothing worth having is easy. Having joy isn't easy. Noticing the little things God gives us all around us isn't easy. Liking yourself isn't easy.
Accepting yourself for what you are and believing that you're worthwhile just the way you sit is not easy. Skiing. It's not easy. It isn't. I was up on the hill.
I was coming down the hill, heard a guy yell, SCIEEE! Yeah. Do you know what this means? It means a ski is coming down the hill. Alone.
If it hits you It will penetrate. You're bad. I didn't know that. Yeah. In fact, when you hear someone yell ski, you're supposed to turn around and look.
Yeah. So you can see where it's going to penetrate. I didn't know this. I felt like an idiot, the guy's yelling, SKIAAA! And I'm going, I am.
Leave me alone! It's my Thursday! Have you ever been embarrassed like that? I was so embarrassed. I paid those people back.
When I found out what it meant, I went to the top of the hill and came down yelling, Tobago! Snow tractor People went and hid in the woods, man. Then I went by kidding. Which turn I paid $25 for a ski list. And the guy who teaches me treated me like dirt.
He was so handsome. Had a nice tan. I was totally intimidated. This is what I want to be. Handsome with a tan, and he had this accent.
And he said to me, Today Jacques Benoit. I am going to teach you. How to fall? I was really ticked. I said, hey.
I pay you twenty-five dollars. You teach me to stand up today. I quit the lesson, went and got in line. I fell in the ski line. You familiar with the domino theory?
Two hundred and seventy people. Laying on the ground. These are not happy people. I didn't want him to know I caused it.
So I'm laying on the ground going, Ho Fair! Oh. Learn this. Skier, get up. Off the mountain.
It was a horrible day. Three chairs hit me in the back of the head. I thought you were supposed to sit on the ground and it would pick you off the ground. Nuh uh I'm right there. Yeah, blood's coming out, you know.
I'm going far out. This is a fun sport. I stood up to leave. And the chair hit me right here. Within seconds, I'm two hundred and eighty feet in the air.
I look over, there's a man sitting next to me. I don't know where he came from. Between us is this steel post. I wrapped my body around that post. I said to the man, God loves you.
But this is my post. You touch this post. I'll kick you off the lift. I got off of that chair. And when I got off, right in front of me was the steepest hill on the whole mountain.
It's not long, is it? It's only five, six feet long. Straight down. And I think they ice it down. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
Yeah. I fell. Do they stop to lift? No, other people get off. I'm laying here.
They fell on me. Pretty soon there's a little pile. 80, 90 people. I'm on the bottom going, who fell? That day.
I got on a black diamond lift. Oh, it was horrible. I don't know how I didn't do it on purpose. For those of you who don't know A black diet, there's three kinds. There's a little round circle.
That's a beginner's hill. The only way you can go on that hill is to push. Then there's a square, you don't need to push. And you can get hurt. Then there's a black diamond.
This means you're gonna meet Jesus face to face, basically. A lot of people run from God all their lives. Get on a black diamond hill and go, I'm yours, Lord. I'm yours. It's a horrible hill.
I crawled up and looked over. It went under like that. How am I going to get down this hill? And then I remembered my ski instructor had addressed this. He said to me.
If you ever come. to a hill which is too difficult. For a slime ball like you. Then he said, You must How you say? Trade theirs.
Do you know what praduers means? No, it doesn't mean walk. It's a French word. It means go across the hill. Till you come to some trees.
Yeah. Then he said, You go into a a snow platter and traverse the other way. Snowbladder? Traverse Diado? On this hill.
Halfway through my first. Snow platter. I was doing 280 miles an hour. I made a simple decision. No more snow platter.
I invented my own turn called sit down, turn around. I'll teach you how to do it. Here's how you do it. Fairs? You pick up the downhill ski.
You menu there? The Daniels kick completely round. Empurita.
Okay. Now you stay like this for a pretty long time. Because you can't pick and move. Good good skiers come up to you while you're like the What are you doing? Sit down, turn around.
Twenty-five bucks, I'll teach you maybe. Four hours later. I was only 50 feet down that hill. Hey, don't laugh. I wouldn't have made it that far except I was wearing those slippery clothes.
I wanted to die. I had sweat coming from every place in my body. I just wanted to die. I wanted to just get off the hill. I heard a noise, looked around.
Here comes a little kid about this high. And he's coming down the hill in perfect form. Hair streaming behind him, yelling, go for it! Go for it! I stuck him with my pole.
Siska Bobian. That is Ken Davis, and we're going to continue his message next time on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.
Well, I love Ken's point: excuse the pun, that God loves us even when we don't love ourselves. And He made each of us special and unique and has given us a combination of talents that no one else has. And we'd like to encourage you with more clean humor.
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Next time, more fun and insights from Ken Davis. Having some of the things that I've wanted in life has not changed my life. It has not brought me the happiness and joy that I want. His love. is what has changed me.
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