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Why We Get Angry, Part 2

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May 13, 2021 8:00 am

Why We Get Angry, Part 2

Fellowship in the Word / Bil Gebhardt

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May 13, 2021 8:00 am

Understanding anger and how to deal with it.

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Today on Fellowship in the Word pastor Bill Gebhardt challenges you to become a fully functioning follower of Jesus Christ.

Again, no any slap a spit in his face a mop woman in a skirt and a crown of thorns on many male mages was when God himself. Jesus Christ never uses a never tied up his own some see that's Jesus Christ. That's the kind of what we do what we we have our own expectations. We try to defend ourselves and our own self-esteem. We get angry at anybody who threatens us. Jesus never joining us today on this additional Fellowship in the Word pastor Bill Gebhardt Fellowship in the Words the radio ministry of Fellowship Bible church located in Metairie, Louisiana Pastor Bill Gebhardt now again he shows us God's word meets our work. What are your expectations for your expectations for your life. What are your expectations for your children or your parents. What are your expectations of your brothers and sisters. What are your expectations of your employers or your employees. What are your expectations of family members and friends.

What are your expectations, you see, when I happens to us as we set up our expectations and that we set him up when someone doesn't meet our expectations. We get angry and almost always wrong.

Almost always were wrong. You see, here's the mission of this.

Here's the fuse that lights it in verse 11. Naaman was furious and went away. And here it is. And he said, behold, I thought, behold, I thought I thought I thought that once I got married, my husband would be different than you are. I thought my wife would be different. I thought my kids would be different than the way there I think I thought I thought as we do. And when someone doesn't mean I thought the service should of been like this in this restaurant I thought.

Then we get angry and the trouble is that expectations in close relationships become demands our expectations avoids that dangerous for us but careful. If you have a vocabulary when you deal with people with words like this ought should must always never you talk like that your problem. You always do this, you never do that. That's my expectations.

By the way, let me be honest about this. Only God always endeavors to understand that only God only God is capable always and never believe news I don't me and it's always in the context of anger and the reason wranglers were frustrated about the unmet expectations you see as we go on in the series are you want to warn you that your expectations better be God's expectations because of their here's your fine but if they're yours you're in trouble. So why do we get angry, hurt from unmet needs frustration from unmet expectations and 1/3 one found in Proverbs chapter 15 Proverbs chapter 15 Proverbs 15 in verse one, you know, the verse hopefully I general answer turns away wrath but harsh word stirs up anger. Notice that a general answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger. The third reason is insecurity from threatening self-esteem when you make someone feel insecure because your threatening their self-esteem. Guess what they get angry.

Angry when someone makes me feel insecure and threatened my self-esteem. I get angry when we give some examples of the kind of words were talking about here is that we are going to wear to you just cannot stairs going to the big event she says to you as it is that what you're going to wear how you feel when someone says that the see how you feel me to be honest here. How do you feel the moment someone says that you angry. Angry parents with children, especially fathers and sons this is that the best you can do is that the best you can do. That's a direct attack on esteem of a human being you angry. Aren't you ready yet. Aren't you ready yet another one. It's terrible for parents. I thought you were smarter than that. Somewhere there is a Taxco what are you doing about like the core of a human being here regular self-esteem right away. They fill them insecurity about, and when anyone threatens us.

That's the way we feel angry Turner Proverbs 18 with me just a few pages you write in verse 19 any sort to give us an idea of just how terrible this is.

He says in verse 19 of chapter 18, a brother offended is harder to be one that a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a suitable you see when you offend people with your speech, you cannot win them. They dig in their heels and they become angry and then have their own issues with anger is it doesn't matter. It may be manifested as a volcano or a toxic waste dump or snowcone. It doesn't really matter. But when somebody is around name-calling, criticism, impatience, intolerance putdowns, it all produces anger because it threatens who they are making angry you see anger is really just the tip of an iceberg, which really is going on as well as under the water. All those issues anger since the manifestation of what's gone below the water, hurt, shame, powerlessness, betrayal, insecurity, rejection, hopelessness, unmet expectations, resentment, failure, disappointment, stress is all under their manifest itself in anger she wanted was that those three things while we get angry, hurt from unmet needs frustration of unmet expectations or insecurity from threatening self-esteem which one are you more likely to fall into which one of those theories you find yourself getting angry with for me. I think it's pretty clear insecurity from threatening self-esteem.

If I fill anything that is personal and it's an attack on me. I mean, I get angry and attack back and almost always almost always verbally with sarcasm.

That's gonna be my response. If you make me feel bad.

I can make you feel just as bad in a very short period of time, and by the way, that's not so grateful. Relationships that doesn't work too well but that's the that's the way anger works easy for a lot of you I think frustration of unmet expectations you set up expectations that are yours and when people don't medium your angry you see it all the time. You know what that's like you go to grocery store.

Those 20 checkouts but only three people working you know that's like your nine people in line. One of the three and then you get up to be the next person they put one of those little things on the conveyor box I'm gonna break how you feel.

She did get angry over that because you have the expectation that I should be able to go right through here see somebody cut you off somebody you know goes through a light would get really angry road rage why you have an expectation that here something is interesting when you think about this from the word of God. Take someone like Solomon in the book of Ecclesiastes 1 of the things that Solomon says to us as truth from God and Ecclesiastes is this life isn't fair. Don't expect that to be about the word of God that's in the wisest man who ever lived.

Life isn't fair.

Don't expect it to be sure that lower your expectations just a bit doesn't usually does it to an amazing thing.

See is an amazing thing. We have a tendency to say why believe that but not for me is the that's and I'm amazed that if you asked the average Christian, do they believe there's this horrific suffering all over the world that happens the innocent people they would all say I guess clearly it does and I would say do you ever lose sleep over that. And I know for a fact they don't and then suffering rings the doorbell and something happens in our home. Cancer comes their way, and never angry at who God I'm angry now.

My expectation was God that everybody else in the world would suffer, but not me and you did me. My expectation and I am angry at you because you not meeting my expectations. See one of the sources of our anger unmet needs unmet expectations, insecurity, threatening self-esteem, so anger is a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by perceived wrong last question can anger be a good thing. Answers yes turn with me to John, Gospel of John chapter 2 John chapter 2, by the way, you know that it's drawn to. So Jesus is angry. By the way, anger has to be a good thing. 18 times in the Old Testament 18 times. It says the anger of the Lord.

So is anger a bad thing. Apparently not. God is God sending one is angry obviously not now Jesus Christ here in John chapter 2 verse 13 the Passover, the Jews was near, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem and defined in the temple. Those who were selling oxen and sheep and doves and moneychangers seated at tables.

Now he gets angry and he made a scourge of cords and he drove them out of the temple with sheep and oxen and he poured out the coins of the moneychangers and overturned the tables volcano. This is being manifested and those who were selling. God said he said to them, take these things away and stop making my father's house a place of business. His disciples then remember that it was written zeal for your house will consume me a prophecy of the coming Messiah out of the book of Psalms, Jesus got angry and it manifested itself and I told you before, only looked at this passage. Why got angry. What happened was under the leadership of the really contentious high priest they had turned the temple into a moneymaking scheme and that is when you came to the Passover anywhere the national feast.

We had to come from all over the world. They would change your money because you can only make offerings to God in temple money and so what they would do is they take your Roman money.

For example, and that converted the temple money but when they did, you might get $0.50 on the dollar they take the money they turn in the profit-making and then when you brought your offering.

They wouldn't one of the priest look at your offering and say it's not worthy to be offered to God that you have to make offerings, they said, but we do have our own offering animals right here and so then you would buy one of the nurse at an inflated cost and by the way normally what they do is that offer you a small amount for yours to take it off your hands and put it now and with nurse and the next person that would do the same thing. That's what they were doing, but there's even more to it than that.

You see the moneychangers and this idea of the way they were handling the sacrifices they did all this in the court of the Gentiles. They pack the court of the Gentiles.

The court of the Gentiles is the only place where a non-Jewish person can worship God, they're not allowed anywhere else in the temple except the court of the Gentiles and they filled the court of the Gentiles. With this in other words, a stop Gentiles from worshiping God.

So Jesus is plenty angry and he manifests his anger in a very, very clear way now for those who think that Jesus is always turning the other cheek and is always benign, you misunderstand him there because he's not like this at all. I mean, the very fact that a man has a whip in his hands and knees turning over tables tells you a little bit that this guy's got anger and he's manifesting now you say will but maybe that's why Jesus was.

Maybe he had a bad temper. He did not. By the way when they arrested Jesus to get angry when they arrested him.

They had no reason to rush to get angry.

No. And then they put them through one illegal trial after another. Did you get angry at those trials, no then they said terrible things about them that were true that he can angry no. Then they hid him they slapped them and they punch them and by the way did he get angry at them for that know they spit in his face that he get angry about that. No while they mocked him in a scourge them put a crown of thorns on the get angry about that. No mini nail motocross the angry black father forgive them what they do. You see, the only thing that may Jesus Christ thing angry was when God himself was maligned when God was maligned. Jesus Christ was angry, but Jesus Christ never uses anger to defend himself. He never tied it to his own self-esteem. In fact even told him once and they were calling them names you call me anything you want but don't you blaspheme against the Holy Spirit.

You see, that's Jesus Christ.

That's the anger he's not trying to do what we do what we do. We have our own expectations.

We try to defend ourselves and our own self-esteem. We get angry at anybody who threatens us.

Jesus never did if I don't want to see another manifestation resigned or turned back just a couple pages, the Mark chapter 3 Mark chapter 3, Mark three, verse one, he entered again into a synagogue and a man was there whose hand was withered and they were watching him to see if he would heal on the Sabbath so that they might accuse him. And he said to the man with a withered hand, get up and come forward and then he said to them, is it lawful to do good or to do harm on the Sabbath to save a life or to kill now you got understand something, this is Mosaic law 101. This is kindergarten theology is a good disable life and do good on the Sabbath.

Of course it's as plain as the nose and of course Jesus sets that question up everyone's is an absolutely you can do good on the Sabbath, but notice the Silent, why because they had distorted the Sabbath is no longer was God's day.

It was their day they decided that they would set up their own expectations for the Sabbath. They had their own laws for the Sabbath and you have to abide by the laws and all of them were afraid of the Pharisees who were into my new shop any aspect of Sabbath wall so they kept silent. Now watch after looking around at them with anger. After looking around at them with anger grieved at their hardness of heart, he said to the man stretch out your handy scratch that his hand was restored.

Notice this time.

It doesn't do anything except look at them. If you had a good parent. You know the look okay. It's the look of disappointment. All it takes sometimes is just the look you see he is grieved by the hardness of their heart. You see, he knew they knew the answer and he knew because the hardness of the heart. They wouldn't even say something that basically true. So he is angry.

In other words, how does that apply to us.

Any time God's revealed will or God's word maligned. We should be angry anytime lies are spoken of about God or Jesus Christ should be angry. Anytime we see a brother or sister who is in Christ, who turn our back on God completely and wallow in sin and refuse to repent of their sin, we should be angry. Anytime we see people being sinfully exploited by other people. We should be angry.

In other words, the things that make God angry should make you angry.

I'm afraid we have the so backwards. It's always the things that make us angry that make us angry and we almost never get angry about the things that make God angry. We're not so concerned about God's expectations as our own expectations. We are not so concerned about God's esteem, but her own self-esteem. That's why anger is such a dangerous thing for us.

What is anger a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a perceived wrong. Why do we get angry, hurt from unmet needs frustration from unmet expectations and insecurity from threatened self-esteem can anger be a good thing. Absolutely when we get angry at the same thing God gets angry at.

Well, how should we express our anger. How should we deal with the anger in our lives will afraid to say when I can do without until the next time so please don't get angry, respray father, I view anger as a common vice. We all manifested differently, but we all fill it. Father I pray that we are challenged in these few weeks with your word about why we get angry, what's going on inside of us we getting angry because of your expectations of ours are we getting angry because your characters attacker because we feel that our characters attacked father I pray that we look in a mirror and ask ourselves is our anger from God. Was it from us and once we come to grips with the wrong anger. Father I pray that we learn how to deal with it this upcoming message.

Father I pray that we learn a method and ability to recognize ill-gotten anger and how destructive it is in our marriages and our families in our workplace.

I pray father that when it comes to anger we use Jesus Christ, and his name Pastor Bill Gebhardt on the radio ministry of fellowship in the world.

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