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And he also has a book, The Best Possible Life, which is a bestseller. Great to see you, Jim. Thanks for having me.
So, when did you go from An aspiring baseball player, major leaguer, to somebody that wanted to focus on performance and help others.
Well, my whole identity was wrapped up in my career as a baseball player, and when I lost it, I felt like I lost everything. And so I ended up um I was driving a truck for FedEx and I ended up moving to the desert to live a life of solitude, to figure out what to do with my life, and that's where I decided to become a personal coach to pro baseball players and teach them how to have peace and confidence under pressure. And then that interrexuals came out of that five years of full-time writing and research, 50 to 60 hours a week.
So do you think that your performance would have been better had you had this stuff mastered when you were in your 20s and 30s? Oh, no doubt. You know, the thing that. It's so important to understand if you want to help anybody, including yourself, is to understand the human heart. And the human heart is created for relationships, and our greatest need is unconditional love.
And uh love and connection. Are created for relationships, and our greatest fear is rejection of that connection.
So, most people will spend their entire lives trying to get more of what I call the acronym Palms. Possessions, achievements, looks, money, and status, so they can feel good.
So they walk into a social situation and they can feel okay. And when people find out if it's money and status, they usually feel like when they get both or all of it, Do they feel as though that is this all there is? Oh, yeah, yeah. It's an it's an empty chaster tail existence. Right.
And when people when did you realize that? When you went to study it? Yeah, I mean, I was just like anyone else. I was obsessed with being a superstar. And.
I thought, I'm going to have the best possible life, and that's going to be one where every girl wants to be with me, every guy wants to be me. I'm going to make millions of dollars, and that's going to be my life. And then I got injured and I lost it. And so what I've realized is what I've always really wanted is to feel fully alive. And you started just your baseball career at Portland State.
You went to college and then you went drafted by the Cubs? Yeah, that's right. And how long did you last with the Cubs organization? I was there three years, got injured, went and played college football, and then two more years of pro-baseball. Right.
And then when you were done, you went out to seek more. And what did you discover? When did you realize there was performance science out there, number one? And number two, is that you wanted to learn more and make a dual living? When I was a teenager, my coach told me about sports psychology.
So I've been interested any way to get me to become a superstar. I was really interested. And so sports psychology has been an interest of mine since I was a teenager. But yeah, I left for the desert to try and figure out what can I devote my life to because I've always had kind of an obsessive personality. I've wanted to be a superstar when I was a little kid.
And in that time in the desert, I realized that two things that are really crucial. One is that your heart is the key to your life, your spirit, your will. We've got to get much deeper than your thoughts. We're far more than thinking machines. And then two is that the path to the most peace and confidence under the most pressure Is the same path to creating the best possible life, a life of deep contentment, joy, and confidence.
And that's a wholehearted path. You have to train the whole person. Right. So you have to get on a mission.
So the minute you have a purpose and a mission, and I think a lot of it is it's a job to find out what that is, correct? Yeah. Can't wait for it to hit you. Oh, for sure.
Well, there's some things that we know about all of us and that we're created for a purpose beyond ourselves and we're created for a relationship. Right. So tell me some of the conclusions that make up your the axioms that make up your beliefs. Yeah, for sure. Selfless is fearless.
Self-centeredness is the greatest challenge that we face in performance and life. I'm a performance coach. I've been doing this for several decades, and so I get paid to get people to perform better.
So it's not something you're going to hear from a lot of performance coaches or sports psychologists this idea that self-centeredness is the biggest challenge we face. But thinking about yourself. Especially baseball. In baseball, you have to, it's almost a team sport, but it's an individual sport.
Well, people come to me and they want more confidence. And really, what they need is more presence. But self self-centeredness leads to fear. The more you think about yourself, the more you're going to get caught up in your weaknesses and mistakes.
So tell me some of the things you should do to prepare to succeed. Yeah. Um Well, I think when you think about the whole selfless is fearless idea, it's really. Um Learn and grow is the number one goal that we all have. Every single client, every inner excellence practitioner is to learn and grow every single day.
And within that, we have four daily goals. And the first one is to give the best of what you have, 100% of what you got that day. And some days it's not going to be very good, and that's okay. You have to understand that. Number two is to be fully present.
There's no fear or anxiety in the present moment, only possibilities. Number three is to be grateful. Gratitude is directly linked to inner peace, which is directly linked to inner strength. And you say at the end of a day, you should think about all the things that happened positive that day. Take a few minutes every day and take account, right?
At the end of the day, you want to go through your day and look at what was great and connect with that and fix any mistakes in your mind so you don't keep dwelling on it. And so you want to. Um Fix the mistake in your mind. Go back and do what you would have done for next time so your subconscious doesn't carry it to bed. Right.
And then at the end of the day, how do you start your day? Oh, you ne you need to start your day with uh um Some Uh Space and solitudes. You need to get to a place of clarity in your mind. Like for me, every human heart, the greatest need is for love. And so I have 10 minutes a day where I start off with putting my countdown timer 10 to 20 minutes.
I'm going to put on some Christian music for me and then. Yeah. I'm just going to soak up God's love. I have a mantra that I get from a friend of mine, Ken Chigamatsu, that's Jim, you are my beloved in whom I delight. And so those are the words I focus on in the morning.
And do you relay that to all your clients? Yeah, I think this is what Jim Murphy does, or do you say this is what I want you to do? I do both.
Well, usually what I'm going to say is if I was working with you, for example, I would say, here's what I do, what I'm learning, and I'm going to share with you what you're going to work on, and we're going to work on this together. I'm not the teacher. I'm here. We're both students learning the same thing. I want to live with fullness of life.
You want to live with fullness of life. We both have minds that have negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. And so we're going to work on it together.
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So when you look at some of these teams, we were in the middle of the NCAA tournament. We're up to the Sweet 16. That's right. And you're going to see, and we saw the USA hockey team and we saw a lot of success they're having. Do you see some commonality in that?
And if you are working in the team concept, How do you get people like, for example, High Point pulls off this huge upset? Psychologically, they are not intimidated by these established programs. They weren't intimidated in the game they lost to Arkansas. They almost won that one. There's some clues in that.
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
Well, the Marsh Madness is such a great example. These guys are going to, young kids are going to have feelings that they're not used to. And that can be very scary if you don't know what to do with the feelings. But the most important thing is to understand that I need to embrace these feelings every single time. If say you're playing for the national championship, the goal should be to fully experience the moment, embrace all the feelings that come, and realize that you're going to be uncomfortable, and that's important, and that's great.
Don't run from being uncomfortable. And probably the thing I'm in most awe of, like, you score, you know, if you're Michael Jordan, you're scoring 50 points a game at the highest level. I'm in awe of that, but I can't even relate to that type of athleticism. But I'm looking at this guy, Dylan Darling. He's playing for St.
John's. He has not scored a point all game. The score is tied. There's six seconds left. He walks up to Rick Bettino and says, Call my play, I want the ball.
And Pettina goes, Okay. He calls the play and goes, Wait a second, you haven't scored all game. Just get me the ball. He asked for the ball under pressure. He gets the ball.
And scores with his opposite hands, his only two points of the game, sending Johns St. Johns to the Sweet 16 first time since 1999. Can you describe that mindset?
Well, that's why belief is Michaelis Schiffrin just won a gold medal in skiing. And she said that belief is more powerful than confidence, and it's so true. What's the difference? Confidence is the feeling that I can achieve this task. Belief is that I'm going to be okay no matter what.
Belief is like, I'm the man. Confidence is like, I can do this right now. And so, but the problem with confidence is that one, you can be careless. And two, you may not, you may do everything right and it may not work out. You may fail.
You may lose and you may not get what you want. But belief is a deeper sense that everything's going to be okay. I can't remember who said it, but someone sold me, someone was saying to me, I'm like, you know, at about 30 years old, they just began to excel in baseball. I'm trying to remember who told me. And I said, he said, one of the keys was I stopped caring.
And my sense is he stopped putting his identity and associating it with success or failure. Yeah, it's like I'm going to go out there every day is with house money. Yeah, stop caring. That's a very common idea, and it's not a good strategy. It's can you get to the place where you're not attached to the result?
You know, in golf, I'm sure if you golf, you probably know that when you're really attached to the result, it's really hard, and then you get a couple of really tough days, and then you're like, man, then you kind of stop caring, then you can play well. Or it's the first round of the year, there's no expectations you play well. But it's really about learning how to be fully present in the moment. That's one thing I'm in awe baseball players at because you really do have to forget every at-bat, don't you? I mean, I'm watching Aaron Judge not come up big again in the World Baseball Classic, as fantastic as he is, generational player, fantastic human being.
But there's trouble producing in the clutch, it seems. Yeah, and he's still able. I don't see him throwing the bat, breaking it over his knee. Keeps calm. Yeah, and that's why focus on the four daily goals, redefining success outside of the outcome.
The fourth daily goal is to focus on your routines and only what you can control. And so that's super important, especially in baseball and in life. Jim Murphy has written the book, The Best Possible Life, and his new one, Inner Excellence, Train Your Mind for Extraordinary Performance in the Best Possible Life. Jim, congratulations on your success. Thanks so much for having me.
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