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Get your copy at harvest.org. The Lord had the original plan for the family. And Pastor Greg Laurie says it's still the best plan, the one that works. There's a new phrase you hear today, trad dad. That's basically a traditional father.
They believe in discipline. They provide for their families. They protect their families. They lead their families spiritually.
Some call this toxic masculinity. I call it godly leadership. And we need more of it. This is This is the day when the lost are found. This is the day for a new beginning.
Amazing grace has reached the sound. But can you hear the relations of singing? This is the day, the day when lives begin. We all have a father we can look up to. Even if the man we called dad was a disappointment or abusive or just less than loving.
We have a Father in heaven who loves us. And today on A New Beginning, Pastor Dreg Laurie points out, even if we never knew our earthly Father, God is there for us. How does Pastor Greg know? from first-hand experience. Today he brings us a powerful message called How to Be a Father When You Are Fatherless.
Interesting thing about Father's Day. is it is the holiday where people spend the least amount of money. It's way behind Mother's Day. It's behind Valentine's Day. It's behind Halloween.
So dads, that's why You maybe didn't even get a card today. And maybe you got a pair of socks or something like that. That's an unfortunate thing because the reality is That fathers play such an important role in our culture right now. They really do. In fact.
It's the absence of fathers that is the root of almost all of our societal ills. I could barrage you all day with. Stats to prove that, but here's just a few. A child born in a fatherless home is 68% more likely to use drugs or alcohol. 85% of all youths sitting in prison.
are from fatherless homes. 63% of teens who attempt suicide, again, from fatherless homes. Fatherless sons are 300% more likely to become incarcerated. Fatherless daughters who marry have a 92% higher divorce rate. And fatherless sons are 35% more likely to experience marital failure.
Fatherless daughters are 111% more likely to have children as teenagers and 164% more likely to have an out-of-wedlock birth. We desperately need fathers doing what God has called them to do. The Bible says a child that is left to himself is a grief to his mother. And by that, the Bible is saying, when you don't parent a child, and establish the parameters and the absolutes and the values that they so desperately need, they're gonna bring shame to you later in life. I feel like right now we're looking at a generation of unparented children.
That desperately need dads in their life. They've been left to social media. or their peers, or in some cases on the campuses, liberal professors that fill their heads with Marxist and anti-Christian and anti-Semitic propaganda, and then we see the results. In many ways, fathers are the unsung heroes in our nation today. Billy Graham said in a quote, a good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society, end quote.
And that is very true.
So thank God for every godly father out there. And you know, this isn't just true among humanity. Believe it or not, it's also true in the animal kingdom. I read an interesting account in James Merritt's book about fathering. where he pointed out in Kruger National Park, and that's in South Africa, There were orphaned young elephants who were relocated without older bulls or father elephants, if you will, and they began attacking rhinos.
They had never seen this before. The young. Elephants were attacking rhinos and killing them. And they realized after researching this and looking into it that they needed the older elephants brought back in.
So they relocated some older bull elephants, put them in the park, and everything sorted itself out. And one expert actually concluded: even in the animal world, the presence of father figures is essential to civil behavior, discipline, and relational decorum with others. End quote. There's a new phrase you hear today: trad dad. Heard that?
Trad dad.
Now that's basically a traditional father. These are like the old school dads. They tell Lame dad jokes. You know, that's an essential. Right?
They like to grill. They believe in responsibility. They believe in discipline. They provide for their families. They protect their families.
They lead the way for their families spiritually.
Some call this toxic masculinity. I call it godly leadership. And we need more of it. One person put it this way, being a trad dad does not mean you're stuck in the past. It means you're standing firm in the chaos, end quote.
And that's what we need, more men to stand firm in the chaos.
Some of you may have had a trad dad, and then others may have had a passive dad. I'll call him a sad dad. In contrast to a trad dad. They're in the home, but they're not leading it. They're friendly, but they're not firm.
They're agreeable, but they're not godly in direction. Here's a little news flash, your children don't need another buddy, they need a father, okay? A father. And yes, you're going to say those father clichés. When I was a boy, Or You know, you need to be responsible.
You need to be a good, strong leader. Let me contrast trad dads and sad dads or passive fathers and godly fathers. Passive fathers avoid conflict. Godly fathers, resolve it. Paths of dads go with the flow.
Godly fathers lead with conviction. Passive fathers want to be liked. Godly fathers want to be respected. Passive fathers ignore problems, godly dads tackle problems head on. Passive dads follow culture.
Godly dads... Follow Christ.
Now, in my case, I didn't have a dad at all. You know my story. My mom was married and divorced seven times. and I never had a father growing up. And in fact, the guy that I thought was my father, I found out When I was around 23 or 24, he was not my father, so his name was on my birth certificate.
And here's how I found out he wasn't my dad. I always had these kind of bad feelings about this guy, even though I lived with him for a very short time before my mom left him. And I didn't know why I had these feelings, because I was such a little kid. But I found out later why am I. Aunt said, Oh, yeah, we would go over to the house and you'd be in a high chair and you'd be smacking your feet with a ruler because you weren't eating your food.
No wonder I didn't like the guy. And why did you let him slap me with a roller? when I was a baby. Could have used a little help there, but. But I always said that this man, you know, had no love for me, even though technically he's my biological father because his name's on my birth certificate.
So our son Christopher is born. And I was very young when he was born. I was 22. And I thought, well, he should meet his biological grandfather.
So I called my mom. I said, hey, where is he living now? Oh, yeah, he lives here and works over here at this place. He had a dry cleaner.
So I went over there, showed up with my wife, my newborn son. And I said, hi. I don't know if I called him dad. I said, I'm Greg. I'm your son.
This is your grandson. He didn't even come up from behind the counter. He just looked around, okay.
Now this is your grandson, yeah. And I walked up, we left and drove away, and I said to Kathy, that man is not my father. If a man was your father, he would have reacted differently to his biological grandson.
So I asked one of my aunts.
So I had this experience. I told her about it and I said, I don't think he's my dad. She said, how did you know? I said I did until you just said that.
So, you know, that's very disappointing, of course, to find out. And I never had a father figure growing up. I found out in reality I was the result of a one-night stand. My mom had a fling in Long Beach, and she got pregnant. And got this other guy to put his name in the birth certificate and so forth.
Now, I know what some of you are thinking. What kind of a messed up Father's Day message is this? I came here to be encouraged, maybe some tips on grilling. And you're giving us a sob story.
Well, I hope it will be a hopeful message. Because here's what I really want to say. Even if you've been dealt a hand like this in life, God can step in and change the story. That's my message. Don't think this only applies to.
Debs. It's really applying to Mentors. Father figures and stepdads. Thank God for stepdads, right? Great God.
Who in many cases step in when the biological father stepped out? Pastor Greg Laurie will have the second half of his message in just a moment. Mm. We love to hear stories of how lives have been changed through the teaching of God's Word. Hi, Pastor Greg.
I'm very thankful for your gospel messages that helped lead my mother-in-law to Christ. That then trickled down to my husband. and finally reached me. At that time, I was part of a religious group that I thought was teaching the truth. but found out the real truth by listening to you teach the Bible.
And then my own study in God's Word. I now know Jesus personally. and feel good to share the truth of Jesus with them also. Thank you. How have these studies in God's Word touched your life?
If you have a story to share, why not call us and let us know? Call 1-866-871-1144. That's 866-871-1144. And now Pastor Gregg continues his message called, How to Be a Father When You Are Fatherless. Here's my first point if you're taking notes.
Number one, you're not defined by your past. You're not defined by your past. And you may have a trad dad, a sad dad. Or no, Dad, you're not defined by your past. And I think sometimes people think, well, You know, I'm just going to repeat this behavior.
You know, I've heard people talk about generational curses. And they base this on the passage where Scripture says the sins of the parents are visited on the children.
So there's a curse on your family and you're going to just perpetuate that curse and you need to go and get the curse broken. I don't believe in generational curses, but I do believe in repeated behavior. And there's no question that If you come from an alcoholic home, the chances are higher that you could potentially become an alcoholic. If you come from a divorced home, chances are higher that you two could end up getting a divorce. That's true.
That's an undeniable fact. But listen to this. God can break the cycle of sin in your family. Doesn't matter. I already told you my mom was married and divorced seven times.
I've been married over 52 years.
Okay, so. And I don't drink? And that's never been a problem for me.
So, this is something that can happen in your life. Don't use that an excuse for repeating bad behavior. God can change the story, God can step in. You think of David, who was the son of Jesse. And Jesse had seven other sons.
And the prophet Samuel shows up one day to anoint the next king of Israel. And he said, bring out your sons, Jesse. Jesse charted them out, and they were fine-looking, strapping young men. And most notable was one named Elaab that was a little taller than the others. And as the prophet walked down the line and looked at these sons, the Lord said, This is not the one.
This is not the one. This is not the one. So Samuel finally says, Jesse, do you have any more sons? Yeah, I have one other. He's out in the field.
He watches the sheep. His name is David. We'll bring him in. In comes David, bounding with youthful energy. And the Lord showed Samuel that's the one.
So David. Was in many ways neglected by his father. In fact, David wrote in one of his Psalms: When my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will take me up.
So here's the thing: God says he will be a father to the fatherless. God can be the Father who never had. And that's very important. you may not have had an earthly father. Or you may not have had a good earthly father, but you do have a father in heaven.
Uh who loves you. The Father in heaven who thinks about you constantly. A Father in heaven that is looking out for your ultimate good. A Father in Heaven who has always been there. I mentioned we were just back in Israel and we went to the garden too.
That is believed by many to be the place where Christ actually rose from the dead. And as we were standing there, we reflected once again on the resurrection account in the Gospel of John. where Mary goes to the tomb early in the morning to anoint the dead body of Jesus, and there she meets the risen Lord. She grabs on him so tightly she's probably cutting the circulation off in his ankle. He says, Mary, don't touch me.
A better way to translate that is, don't cling to me, Mary. Effectively say, Mary, a new covenant is going to be established now. And then Jesus says, Because I'm going to my God and to your God, I'm going to my Father and to your Father. That was a revolutionary thought for a first century Jew. They would never think of calling God Almighty, the Holy One Father.
But that's what Jesus was saying. You too now can call him Father. How did Jesus instruct us in the Lord's Prayer to address God? He said, after this manner, therefore, pray, you know it, our Father. Say it with me: our Father who art in heaven.
So we have a Father in heaven. Number two. Even if you did not have a father, you can be a good father. Even if you did not have a father, you can be a good father now. When Christopher was born, my first son, I realized that I knew absolutely nothing about fathering.
I had no role model. I had no point of reference. But I did the best I could do. I talked to other dads. I read books on fathering.
I wanted to give him in many ways a childhood I never had. I think I spoiled him. For sure. I agree with the statement of James Dobson when he said every Parent owes their first child an apology, and I think you know there's some truth to that. But I wanted him to have a wonderful childhood.
Bringing me to point number three: children are on loan to us. for a short time. I mentioned Christopher. He went to be with the Lord 16 years ago. And that makes Father's Day a difficult day for me.
because I miss my son. But um It's just a reminder, they're with us a short time, and we think they're always going to be there. But they are there, but we want them to grow up and move out and start their own families. You don't want your kids living with you in their 40s, okay?
So. Our job is to help them mature and become responsible and go live their own lives. But Psalm 127 says, children are a heritage from the Lord. The fruit of the womb, a reward, and the word heritage means a gift. Our children are not ours to mold, but to unfold.
They belong to God. And our job is to raise them up in the way that they should go.
Sometimes you'll hear parents Saying we haven't had any problems with our kids. Our kids are wonderful, and they respect us and They do what we tell them to do. They're the best kids ever. And they're giving advice to other parents.
Okay, how old are your kids? Oh, two and three. Um, shut up? I don't know. Talk to me after you've survived the teen years.
And they're young adults, saying that maybe you can talk to us a little bit about parenting. But I think we as parents, especially as fathers, should live in such a way where our child will want to emulate us. Proverbs 30, verse 7 says, A righteous man walks in his integrity. His children are blessed after him. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 11, follow my example as I follow the example.
of God.
So we should say, follow my example. Watch the way that I live.
Now, you're going to make mistakes as a father and as a mother. But you tell the children. Follow the way that I live because dads, I don't want to lay too much pressure on you, but you're a living link. to God. In many ways, the early ideas a child will form about God will be based on their relationship with you, their father.
I've told you the story before of a little boy that was scared going to bed. And he yelled out, Daddy, daddy, I'm scared of the dark. And the father said, now, son, God is with you. Don't be worried. No, daddy, daddy, come in here right now.
No, son, I don't need to come in there. You're okay. God is with you. And the little boy said, but right now I need someone with skin on. A father is God with skin on.
I'm not saying you're God. But I'm saying you're a representative of God.
So live in that way. Uh Great encouragement today from Pastor Greg Laurie from his message called How to Be a Father When You Were Fatherless. And there's more to come, here on a new beginning. But, you know, as we talk about being a father and having a father, It's an important time to ask you if you have a relationship with your Heavenly Father. Have you ever come to Him and asked Him to forgive your sins so you can join Him in heaven when this life is over?
Pastor Greg, what would you say to the person listening? Who's not sure if they've ever come to the Lord and asked Him to be their Savior? Yes, I think they need to make this commitment to Christ. Here's what the Bible says: whoever will call upon the name of the Lord will be saved.
So you need to reach out to God. Not just think about it, not just say, one of these days I would like to, just do it. In fact, you can do it right now. You say, well, how do I call out to the name of the Lord? You do it through prayer.
God is just a prayer away. He desires a relationship with you. He wants you to know him. He wants to reveal himself to you.
So you just need to call out and say, Lord. Save me and help me. How about if I lead you in a prayer? And you could pray this prayer after me. You can pray it out loud if you like.
You can pray it quietly in your heart, but. Direct this prayer toward God and you could pray it after me right now. You ready? Pray this after me, Lord Jesus. I know that I'm a sinner.
But I know that you're the Saviour. and I want a relationship with you.
so as your word says, I am calling on the name of the Lord. I'm asking you to save me from my sin. And I'm asking that we begin a new relationship today. Thank you for loving me and sending your Son Jesus to die on the cross for my sin and then raising him from the dead. I now put my faith and trust in Jesus Christ.
And I ask this In Jesus' name. Amen. Amen. Listen, if you have just prayed that prayer along with Pastor Greg and you've meant those words sincerely.
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Well, next time, more biblical insight on how to be a godly father to our kids. Good encouragement with Father's Day coming up. Join us here on a new beginning with pastor and Bible teacher Greg Laurie. This is a day, the day when life begins.
