A caller named Bill once shared on our caregiver program that his father was an abusive alcoholic for years His father has now suffered a stroke and requires extensive care but sadly still drinks Even though Bill is over fifty with a wife and kids he shared that he still feels like a terrified nine-year-old when he's around his father Bill's dad made his own decisions ones that evidently did not involve a recovery plan I shared with Bill that he can only do his best but his family needs the fifty-year-old version of BILL not the nine-year-old one Bill's [... more]

A listener to my program recently wrote me about drama with her family My family lives out of state but complains I am not taking care of my -year-old mom who lives alone by choice While I help her she will not authorize a power of attorney for health care She has no significant medical problems yet my family is ridiculously harsh towards me and accuses me of things not my responsibility or have not done What do you recommend - Exasperated in Texas [... more]