In trauma the clock is the adversary but in caregiving it's the calendar While emergencies demand an immediate response quick actions for caregivers often result in several battles on multiple fronts Nothing stretches a caregiver too thin like rushing to a crisis- while already embroiled in one Oh yes my friend you would have fought very bravely and died very quickly - Don Diego to Alejandro in The Mask of Zorro In the long journey of caregiving caregivers benefit from incorporating discretionary valor For many caregivers including me the default is to hurl ourselves or our opinions recklessly at situations [... more]

When someone we love is hurting suffering or impaired we often heroically leap to action and fight the danger Although a good trait in an emergency it's unsustainable in the marathon of caregiving Unlike trauma caregiving requires a different approach In trauma the clock is the adversary but it's the calendar in caregiving Emergency circumstances require immediate action but hasty movement can engage caregivers in way too many battles on multiple fronts leaving us depleted or worse As Don Diego stated to Alejandro in The Mask of Zorro Oh yes my friend you would have fought very bravely and died [... more]