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September 12, 2021 1:00 am

Praying For Keeps

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September 12, 2021 1:00 am

Does happiness seem elusive in marriage? God’s purpose for marriage is our holiness. Yet in a time when divorce is so prevalent, how can we love like God wants us to love? In this message, we learn it’s never too late to take responsibility for our sins, communicate with our spouses, and forgive them as Christ has forgiven us.

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Stable marriages are the bedrock of the family.

That's why divorce is so damaging since in divorce, there are no winners. If your marriage is in trouble.

Don't touch that dial today you'll hear teaching that could bring you back from the brink and help you navigate what may seem to be impossible waters. Stay with us from Chicago. We welcome you to The Moody Church.

Our weekly service of worship and teaching under the ministry of Dr. Erwin lutes are on this program, we conclude a 10 part series on fighting for your family. Later in our service will learn about playing for keeps. Pastor lutes or comes now to open our service in a moment were going to be standing to sing, thou Almighty King well the good news is that the king is already with us. He has come, but you'll notice the rest of the song says help us thy praise to same.

We invite the king's presence. Even though he is here because we want to open our lives to him and invite his special blessing upon this time. When you join me as we pray together and then we shall stand saying to the king. Father we pray now that you might help us to put behind in our minds the concerns the anxieties the issues of this morning, the issues of tomorrow. Make this a very transforming experience for us that we might glorify you better, and even as we sing the Lord your praises. We invite your spirit to help us to do so for your glory in Jesus name, amen.

You stand as we worship this morning. Together from first Chronicles chapter 16 with me on the bold print. This is God's holy word steam to the Lord, all the earth proclaim his salvation. Day after day, declare his glory among the nations, his marvelous deeds among all peoples for gray Lord and Moses wearing the grain.

He cared about four nations are idols, but the Lord made heaven and before, during, and his dwelling ascribed to the Lord of families and nations ascribed to the Lord glory and strength ascribed to the Lord the glory of his name, bring an offering, and come before him, worship the Lord in the splendor at his holiness trend for him. The world is firmly in place. It let the heavens rejoice, let the earth be glad and stay among the nations. The Lord reigns. Give thanks to the Lord for he is good his love endures forever. Just remain standing for a moment. Father, we want to thank you today for the strong, powerful name of Jesus and we exist today with our sins forgiven because of his name. We thank you that there is salvation and no other except in the name of Jesus.

We worship him.

We love him we adore him in his name. Amen. You may be seated well. This is number 10 in a series of messages entitled fighting for your family and for many of you it may be the most important message of the series because of the fact that marriage is so serious and we know that when the fall happen man fell in the garden of Eden. It affected his marriage terribly and everything went wrong in the fall still does the very same to us today and because of the tension that exists in the marriage relationship. It has become a source of much humor and I thought that before I begin this message, which is a very serious one that I hope will transform your life. Maybe we could just relax and enjoy the fact that human nature is very sting. So here we go.

First of all I want to talk about the insensitivity of men, ladies, if you say amen save quietly your heart. There's a story about a woman who said to her husband. I you know that I love racecars. I can brace them really fast here in Montana. She knew he had enough money to buy her when he said when she said when I wake up on my birthday along the driveway. I want something that I can make go from 0 to 140 and eight seconds while she got up on her birthday, looked on the driveway and on the driveway.

It was a bathroom scale funeral services for the husband are pending. There was a woman who is looking into the mirror.

She said I feel so full about the way in which I look she said I've got weight issues. She said I've got lines on my face. My teeth are crooked that I just look so awful. She said her husband. Right now I need a compliment from you soon. Well dear, your eyesight is near perfect man went to his pastor and said you know my wife is trying to poison. He said all know he said I know your wife. She's a nice woman.

There's no way she's trying to point he said pastor there's another side to her that you don't know he should go talk to her pastor came back later that afternoon and said to the man.

He said you know I just spent 3 1/2 hours talking with your wife. He said I have some advice for you and said what pastor said take the poison when you and I get married and we stand at the altar we bring to that event, the seeds of destroying any relationship because we bring to that event to ourselves the fact that we want to be the center of our own world. We long to be served and not to serve. We are selfish we may be filled with anger.

We may be filled with jealousies and expectations and uncertainties and insecurities and there we stand and we commit to one another until death do us part. Somebody has said that getting married is taking the eagle of a man in the vanity of a woman and putting them together in this intimate relationship and it is like having heart surgery without anesthetic and so God puts them together and says find it out and enjoy like somebody said that for my birthday. He said somebody gave me a humidifier and somebody else gave me a dehumidifier and I put them in the same room and just let them fight it out.

I do believe that this message is going to be transforming. I've been praying that couples who are on the verge of divorce for couples who are in trouble with their marriage are going to be changed because of this message.

I really do believe that Rebecca asked me this morning how the message was coming along and I said if the Holy Spirit of God comes to open people's minds and hearts as I lay my own heart on the altar, so to speak, as I plead with you regarding your marriage. I believe that God can change your marriage no matter where you are at and if you're in a good marriage. I believe that this message will help all of us to make our good marriages better. First of all I'd like to deal with.

Realize that our culture gladly accepts three lies and line number one is very clear. My happiness is number one.

My happiness is most I had a man say to me one time while I'm unhappy in this marriage and I can't believe that God would want me to be unhappy. What Jesus had said that in Gethsemane I'm unhappy here in the garden, then I don't believe that the father would want me to be unhappy and going to the cross made me very unhappy. My dear friend very quickly. May I say that it is much more important to be holy than it is happy and God put you in that marriage to make you holy guaranteeing not happiness but holiness of your response with correct second lie of our culture is this, that if you find the right person. You'll really be fulfilled.

What you need to do is to find your soulmate so a married man that the water cooler meets a woman who just listens to him and just at door as I am, and he's found his soulmate really I remember a man in this church. Many, many years ago who said I found an oasis. I'm living in a desert. I found an oasis. And now you want me to go back to the desert. He said as many of us tried to convince them not to leave his wife and marry somebody else, but he chose the oasis and discovered that it was terribly poisonous would've been better you know if he had just stayed right in the desert actually you know when we are in the period of romance when we romance when were in romance. We are the most deceptive lying people that we ever are in our lives because we put forth our best self. We have this shimmering image that we project and then after we move then then we get married we suddenly discover there's a beat deep in the movers move then then all of the baggage now gets unloaded and here's a baggage of anger. Here's a baggage of insecurity here is a baggage of high expectations. Here's a baggage of laziness and after our mates. Baggage gets brought into the house than ours comes and there we are. I tell young people today that it is very important to realize this young people write this down. It is possible for you to be madly in love with some never marry.

That's true of older people do. You could fall in love with somebody else's wife the best poster child for recognizing that it's possible to be in love with someone you should not marry is myself. You can put me up on the fridge and say he's the poster child before I met Rebecca I was madly in love with this young woman and I thank God today that I didn't marry her.

I might not be in ministry if I married God wanted me to wait for Rebecca and how glad I am. I did get to recognize that dealings itself and thinking that you have found your soulmate can backfire.

There's 1/3 lie of our society. If I find my soulmate. I'm justified in breaking my violence if I find my soulmate. I'm justified like one person said will you know even David got his, but she thought he said yeah I told him I said yeah David did get his Toshiba and you know what else happen. He wrecked his family lost four sons but yeah he didn't get his Bathsheba.

Okay the Bible says in the 15 song blessed is he who swears to his own hurt and does not change. Blessed is the man who swears to his own hurt and does not change you say I got married and now I have buyers remorse.

I know somebody who bought vehicle and brought it into the garage and the moment they did. They wish they could take it back. Buyers remorse maybe you think you didn't marry the right one. Well it's not as important that you married the right one as it is that you be the right one that you be a person of character you know it is impossible for me to over exaggerate the pain in this world because of divorce.

The counselor was telling me how that this couple divorce. This man ran off with his girlfriend is living with his girlfriend so a divorce ensues and now they have a little one-year-old girl and he gets a little one-year-old on weekends, so this mother attends a sporting event where her other son was involved in. She looks down and just in the rows ahead of her. There's her ex-husband.

There is his girlfriend playing mom to this little one-year-old how much grief can a person endure anyway.

I was reading somebody who does marriage counseling full-time uses that many people who divorce regret it later on because they underestimated the amount of pain disruption heart ache that would come to them if they were to divorce and his soulmate turns out to be poisonous in the end anyway. There are two things that should never happen prematurely. One is emboldening the other is to get a divorce now with that introduction. What I'd like to do is to ask us to turn to the Bible for a moment and thank you for catching on to that, by the way, I debated whether or not you know it would float. Evidently it did. The fifth chapter of the book of Ephesians because this is what were going to do. I'm going to give you three characteristics of the kind of love that we commit ourselves to when we get married and then what I want to do is to give you five principles of courage that I hope are going to help you and and keep some of you from divorce and help some of you who are in a loveless marriage to get a reboot and a restart three characteristics very quickly and you know is I was looking at this passage yesterday.

It would be worthy of several messages so I'm simply picking out three different characteristics of love and commenting on them. I'm going to begin at verse 25 husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Their husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church. How did Jesus love us. He loved us. The Bible says even when we were his enemies. Jesus knew what it was to love us without being loved back and then he died for us.

Most wives say to themselves. I don't expect my husband to die for me, it's very unlikely, but it would sure be nice to be helped with the vacuuming. I thought I'd throw that in because I do help Rebecca with the vacuuming and I wanted to use some illustration that would convict and so that's what the Bible says. Husbands, love your wives, as Jesus loved it and your wife you are in a loveless marriage. Just know that you are position to be able to experience the kind of love that Jesus had, and for God to use your marriage as a laboratory, where he is going to teach you about the love of God, and I think of Jesus there at the woman at the well. She had had five husbands, the one that she was living with now was not her husband.

And Jesus said to her that if you believe on me, you will find within you a well of water springing up even into everlasting life. If you become a worshiper of God. Jesus said, you'll be number one on God's list even though you had so many marriage failures and the present man that you are now living with will not encourage you in your walk with God.

So I encourage you ladies get involved in the church get involved in the family of God, but don't give up. Even though life is very very difficult and the first thing that we have to do is to recognize here that we have a kind of love that actually enables us to love even in a loveless relationship and you say well you know that's unrealistic. Yes, it is unrealistic. But what if God poured his grace upon your life. What if God began to do in your own heart things that would be miraculous.

The ability of God to work in the human heart should never be under estimated.

This will become clear in a few moments as to the steps that you should take.

So first of all we should be sacrificial in our giving. Secondly, we should be pure in our relationships. Pure love.

You'll notice that Jesus gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing. She may be holy and without blemish. Husbands.

This is God's holy word. It's our responsibility to see to it that our wives are spiritually cleansed by the washing of water through the word of God. My opinion one of the clearest references in the Bible to the fact that husbands have responsibility for spiritual leadership in the home and we talked about that in previous messages, oh, you say well that's an impossible thing I'm not a Bible scholar. I'm not a Bible teacher, can you read the word of God. Can you pray with your wife. Can you encourage her as the spiritual leader if you want a happy marriage. There has to be a pure kind of love where there are no attachments, sensual attachments to other people, but let me ask you how can you experience the love of God and the pure love of God. If the wife is reading romance novels and if the husband is into pornography is not possible we'll talk about that in a moment. So secondly, it should be a peer relationship. Third, you should honor your mate, you should honor your mate husbands. The Bible says in verse 31 therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife and the two will become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

You are to leave and tickly. I've had wives tell me, my husband makes no major decision without first of all, calling his mother and he may or may not make reference to me, but he has to still be committed to his parents. You realize how that devalues your wife.

You realize how it makes her feel when you have not left emotionally and spiritually. Your parents realize how she feels if she is not number one in your life experience and in your relationships, and she is above your family. She is even your children and above your vocation. This is what the Bible says in first Peter chapter 3 verse seven it says husbands love your wives in an understanding way and then it says love her as one who is the weaker vessel as heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered you so pastor Longo.

I've given up on God and I've given up on prayer.

Might it be that you are not dwelling with your wife in an understanding way, giving honor to her. That's the phrase I missed in the moment. I think giving honor to her as an heir to gather the grace of life is at the way in which you treat your wife.

If not, the Bible says that that may be the reason why your prayers are hindered there not answer.

Would you honor her, would you put her in a position where she knows she has your heart, and she has your honor because you let her know that she's number one here on earth next to God.

Well, now what I'd like to do is to give you five principles five principles years ago I used to do marriage counseling. I don't anymore because my staff is much better at it than I am.

But as I was thinking about this message yesterday afternoon. The Lord laid on my heart some practical principles that I think you should avoid no matter what kind of a marriage. You are presently in would you open your heart to these principles. Those of you who are planning to be divorced or you wish you where are you think to yourself, I married the wrong one. Well, let me emphasize again that the one to whom you are married is now the one that God wants for you and he has you where he wants you and now the principles first principle that I wrote down yesterday afternoon is the principle of God's glory. The principle of God's glory.

If you're in pain in your marriage.

The first question should not be. How do I get out of this pain. The first question should be, how do I glorify God in the midst of this difficult relationship that seems to be going nowhere.

That's question number one. And so you really begin by giving your marriage to God and you desire is glory above your own happiness above the own situation you desire the glory of God first.

Now I always like to emphasize that there's a big difference between committing your marriage to God giving it over to God and praying I meet people all the time. The civil you know I'm praying for him rhyme praying for this situation is good to pray and we want you to pray and God brings us to desperation so that we do pray, but sometimes we can just pray without any faith I discovered in my own life that when I commit something to God. Sometimes it is so difficult to committed to him because now I know that I can no longer manipulate the situation I'm recognizing that it is out of my hands and it is very difficult to give it to God. Why because I need faith to believe that it is in his hands and not my own. That's what it means to commit your marriage and yourself to God now. Furthermore, what this means in practical terms is that now you're not going to live in retaliation. One of the great lessons that we have to learn is this that when we are sinned against. We should not sin.

In return, I'm using here the illustration of David who when Saul through the spirit him didn't say all you through that spirit may here's one I'm throwing back. David didn't do that.

He didn't retaliate, don't retaliate. Why vengeance is mine, I will recompense, says the Lord.

If you've given your marriage over to God is now his responsibility, because all that really matters is his glory, the end of the day.

Nothing else really matters. The principal of God's glory. Secondly, the principal of self-examination.

The principle of self-examination. We live in a culture that is filled with wounded Nass wound all the energy and of course we live in such a culture because of the brokenness of the home because of abuse, sexual immorality, molestation, the list is long. Now, as a result of that woundedness which I recognize is very serious. People bring to their marriage. All kinds of issues all kinds of baggage that I mentioned before that they are really willing to deal with and the reason they aren't is because they reason in their mind considering the way in which I was treated. I have every right to be an I have every right to be angry with my husband.

I have every right to expect his complete affection. I have every right to be jealous and on and on it goes. And so as a result of those wounds. What people are really saying is I want you to heal my that's why married you I want you to heal my wound but if you touch it if you touch it, I will scream and holler and make this the most miserable marriage you have ever possibly imagine. You know, I know I reason that I prayed about this message so much and gave it over to God is because I know human nature. I know my own heart. There are things in our lives that we will never admit to, unless God shows us until that time, we are fully justified.

In fact, some of you for whom this particular point is intended.

Right now you're missing it because in your mind you're saying I'm justified to be who I am.

Look at the way in which he acts. Look at the way in which she treats me. I have a right to be angry. I have a right to resent look at the way in which life treated me and I have entitlement considering what I've been through folks if you don't see that in your life and deeply repent your marriage is always going to be in difficulty.

There will always be obstacles to harmony.

So the second principle is the principle of self examination third is one of individual responsibility. Number three.

Individual responsibility now. I spoke earlier about the fact that there men who their wives to come to me and it said you know my husband is into pornography. What would I do a couple of comments.

First of all, be assured of this that nobody who does not want to be fixed can be fixed if your husband doesn't want to be fixed most assuredly. You can't fix him and you can't even contribute to his fixing if I can put it that way because of he doesn't want to be fixed. He won't be, now one of the things and I'm speaking to the wives, though it could be the other way around. You understand that when I preach this, it could be flipped could be the wife versus the husband the husband versus the life of the simple fact is that everyone who is addicted has one agenda and that is to this he wants to continue on in the way in which he is living without interruption and with a minimal amount of problems and hassles.

That's his great desire. Now what you have to do is to help him to own his own stuff to use an expression because you can own his stuff for him, nor should you cover for him. What you have to do is to help him to understand that unless there are positive changes and accountability not just to you but to others that you will expose him that you will not allow this to go on in your home, particularly if it is such an addiction.

It is abuse.

You are not going to live for him. You're not going to cheat or him. Why, because you love him too much to contribute to his particular lifestyle. It must be confronted and exposed and so what we must do as individuals is to realize that it is so important for us to take responsibility alcoholics stop blaming your employer. Stop blaming your wife. Stop blaming your parents stop blaming whoever your blaming because I know something about the characteristics of such people stop blaming and take responsibility and say I am responsible for my attitude for my actions. What I am doing. I resolve to own my stuff would you do that please.

Number four. This is critical. The principle of communication.

The principle of communication years ago when I did marriage counseling. I used to say to the couple that would be in my office now I want you to write down all of the fold's and the problems of your mate. Here's a sheet of paper. Some people would say one sheet of paper.

I need the whole notepad okay just one pen might run out of ink, they would write and write and write, it would come like the pen about mighty writer, then I would say all right now I want you to do is to write your own faults. Here's another sheet of paper. Let's see well you know I gas I did lose my temper one time and yeah it's true I hit her, but not very hard. My friend, you see the problem how we can see other people's bolts with 2020 vision and we ourselves can be filled with pride and anger and self-serving and all those things and we are as blind as a brick on the wall to see it. Communication. I find it incredible to think that there is some parents who think that the way in which they really should raise their families is to be supercritical of everybody. So you have a wife who supercritical of her husband, a husband whose super critical of his wife and they even bring up the children that way. Constantly these children are making mistakes they can't obey, no matter what they do, it's wrong, my friend, you realize how your destroying any possibility of a relationship. Remember that story that I told you about a counselor and attorney who said to a man who wanted to divorce his wife he said I hate her.

He said in order to make sure that you really hurt her because you want to hurt her when I chew just for one month. Always say kind things encourage her thank her or whatever she does for you and just don't say as single negative thing then she's going to think that you really love her, and so forth.

So you're going to set her up and then you're gonna really shove the sword in her art by handing her divorce papers and how well you know since I'm getting rid of her in a month. Anyway, I guess I can try the experiments. All that he did was praise her thank her for everything in any area in which he wanted her to improve.

He would always say, you know, is a really great, instead of coming home and looking at what was in the frying pan sarcastically, suggesting that it was an unidentified frying object. He now spoke words of love and compassion when you know the rest of the story, of course, within a month they had a second honeymoon course the words that come out of our mouths. Now something else that is so critical in the relationship is listening, listening, you must talk to each other and you must listen, I know I have problems with that. I think all of us as men do to listen.

One woman said to me you know my husband won't talk to me. He sits there like the great stone face guy understand. I wonder why he doesn't talk to you all that way to mom that I'm the pastor I venture to say that he probably talks to his friends. He probably talks to them very freely and tells about everything that's going on in his life and he gets only won't talk to his wife. I have a suspicion as to why he doesn't because he fears being judged. He thinks to himself, she's going to shame me. She's going to blame me. She's going to ask what kind of a person I am to have these kinds of struggles wives. Would you be able to handle it if your husband ever became so honest with you, that he honestly told you the struggles that is going through at the last and maybe pornography could you handle it or would you just simply say is one wife did that I know about what kind of a pervert. Are you will that really took care of that relationship. That was the last time he would ever talk to his wife about anything that was personal. If your husband begins to talk to you. You need to enter into his world and realize that this talk, no matter how hard it is, is really bringing about healing.

You have to be at his side. I know a situation in which a wife had to confess to her husband that she was unfaithful to the relationship with another man.

The Holy Spirit worked in her heart and she knew that she had to come clean on that and she did later on I heard that they talk from evening all the way to 4 o'clock in the morning and as she spilled out her heart to him. He in turn spilled out his heart to her and they said later it was the first time we really connected the soul to soul honesty in the relationship in the communication number five. The principle of forgiveness. The principle of forgiveness.

This is a huge topic and I preached on it before in more detail. One writer says couples don't fall out of love, but they fall out of repentance, the ability to forgive others a kind of reconciliation that forgiveness sometimes brings about. And then there's a kind of forgiveness where there is no reconciliation. I've spoken about that kind of forgiveness to because remember what ever you don't forgive you pass on your an angry mother. Your children grow up angry, you are a person who is violent in terms of the way in which you deal with issues you pass that on. So what you need to do is to go through this matter of forgiveness and now we're really at the heart of the gospel artfully because the gospel is a message of forgiveness. The gospel says that Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins. And if we receive him as Savior we are forgiven we are accepted by God to become God's children. His daughters and his sons, and God now loves us unconditionally.

God loves us unconditionally that unconditional love is not given to everyone. It is given to those who are the sons and daughters of God, and now we have the privilege of knowing that no matter how badly we mess up no matter what kind of a past we've had. No matter what kind of mistakes we made no matter.

All of the scars that we bring to the relationship because of the way in which we lived before marriage, regardless of all that now we have a heavenly father who goes on. Loving us accepting us caring for us all the way through, and that gives us the stability to be able to forgive others to be able to move on in our relationships and to grow in our love for one another is all there in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Which leads me to say that if you've never received Jesus Christ as your Savior.

If you're listening to this and God is a stranger to you, he becomes your father if you believe on him and believe that the Lord Jesus Christ died for sinners and because of that death we can be saved, forgiven and welcomed into heaven, there is a story I'd like to tell you about a man whose name is John Barker. This is taken from the book sacred marriage.

I've no clue who this man is, but he says my relatives grew up on the streets during the depression learning the fury and scorn that characterizes so many people in dire circumstances, drinking, seeing women, etc. he said as a result, I swaggered through marriage for many years. Ruling my wife Susan and my seven children with an iron hand while citing Scripture as justification for my privileges and authority.

Years of dominating my wife and children left them habitually resentful, even fearful of me unwilling to challenge me because of the fury it might provoke.

I alienated my wife, my children and lost their love home was not a pleasant place to be, either for me or for them. Susan walked out of the marriage. Were it not for the fact that we had children. Then he says a number of dramatic events occurred which brought a profound change in my moral, psychological and spiritual life, and this was just trials. I mean it was a stillborn baby. It was just one trial after another pounded on this man until he submitted himself to God.

He said in the midst of these many afflictions, I found that the only way I could learn to love and to cease being the cause of pain was to suffer, to endure, to strive every moment to repudiate my anger or resentment my scorn my jealousy my lust my pride and dozens of other devices. I started admitting my faults and apologizing for them. Now man get this. I quit defending myself when I was judged too harshly for the important thing was not to be right or well thought of, but to love took three years of patience, listening, and growing in Susan's trust.

Hundreds of hours talking until Susan's anger dissipated. She became loving, trusting and caring while the rest of the story is. Susan had terminal cancer. He cared for her in the last months of her life and later on he said that he had the memory that he had experienced something that few couples do true soul deep companion ship God brought it about. It can't happen without brokenness. It can't happen unless we give up our right to always be right. As long as we still have our right to be served and the feeling that our anger is fully justified.

Considering all that is happened to us.

You can't have that soul deep companionship comes only with honesty, with taking personal responsibility and saying with God's grace.

This marriage can may it do you agree that with God's grace, the marriage can make it. Some of you should go home and have a long honest talk accepting each other connecting your souls and saying by God's grace we don't have to divorce. We don't have to live this way, loveless relationship. We can have true companionship, which is after all exactly what God intended. Would you joining as we pray father, however imperfectly, this message was preached. We pray today that you might work in the hearts of many couples, some of whom may be in a relationship that is sprayed with anger and resentment and mistrust come to us, Lord Jesus, and show your glory in the midst of our marriages overcome the bitterness. May there be forgiveness. May there be understanding may trust be rebuilt. We pray for those who never accepted Christ as Savior.

May they do so today. Knowing that they too can know that they are love no matter what. Now before I close this program talking to you. The congregation and all who are listening got us talk to you.

Would you talk to him right now. Would you tell him what he has spoken to you about.

And by his grace. Would you agree to be obedient to tell him that right now. Help us, so father come to us and our need show us our selfishness may grace be poured out upon our marriages and our families abundant matchless radical grace because we needed.

We ask in Jesus name, amen stand as we respond this morning on today's Moody Church. Our Dr. Erwin Lutzer spoke about playing for keeps the last 10 part series on fighting for your family. We hope that you found help and encouragement in this wide-ranging look at the battle now arranging for each of our family. Our current series can be yours on CD is our thank you for a gift of any amount to The Moody Church. Our just call us at 1-800-215-5001. Let us know you'd like to support Dr. Luther's ministry. When you call. Mention the series on fighting for your family. Call 1-800-215-5001 or write to us at The Moody Church 1635 N. LaSalle Boulevard Chicago, IL 60614 online go to moodyoffer.com that's moodyoffer.com join us next week for another Moody Church. Our with Dr. Erwin Lutzer in the congregation of historic Moody Church in Chicago


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