Blessed is the man that is not the same. whose sin the Lord will not take into account. Same word used for the action of agape in 1 Corinthians 13, 5. Blessed is the man whose sins have literally been erased from the ledger of God's accounting. In other words, Those who are reconciled to God through Christ have had their files of sin.
Cleared out. Because of his great love. Beloved, your record is completely Clean. When it comes to our relationship with God, Our sins which are many. are completely forgiven.
That's true for all who have placed their faith in Jesus Christ. But one of the struggles we have as God's children Is that it's not always easy to extend forgiveness to other people who have wronged us. carrying a grudge, refusing to forgive and holding on to resentment are destructive. and are counter to how God describes true love. We're going to learn more about the relationship between love and forgiveness.
This is Wisdom for the Heart and Stephen's message is called Keeping erasers handy. How do you chip away at a relationship? either in marriage or in ministry or industry. How do you go from I get lost in your eyes to get lost? How do you go from for better or for worse?
For richer or for poorer, in in sickness and in health. To, I despise this person and I want to leave them. It's actually Downright. Easy. It all begins when a person decides to abandon agape and pursue the loves of the world.
Do you remember those loves from earlier sessions? Storge is that Greek word for love that says In general terms, I love you because you're in my family and I'm supposed to love you even though I don't like you. I love you. You know, I'll sing at your funeral, but I don't want to go on vacation with you. Christmas.
is hard enough, right? Another common word for love is philea, which says, I love you because you love everything I love. We love the same music. We both love to hike. Travel, we both love crossword puzzles, the same design and furniture.
In fact, our initials, when you put them together, spell honey. Or sugar. Eros says, I love you because you make my heart beat fast and. You meet my needs. Agape, however, is this new term found outside of Scripture, not even in one clear illustration.
But the pages of Scripture are filled with it. This is the selfless. intellectual commitment Of the life and heart to serve and meet the needs of another. Agape says, I love you and will commit my heart. To meeting your needs.
Agape is a relationship that is laced with grace. Agape is a church body marked. with humility and deference. Agape is a marriage. Without a back door.
Everybody wants this kind of love. Don't they? The Internet chat room promised it. People are searching for it. People want to be loved by it.
I really believe, after studying these words even further, that that Philea and Eros and Storge are really nothing more than the longing for agape. to undergird them. How come so few have it?
Well, in the next phrase of 1 Corinthians 13, Paul will answer that question. And in the process, he will deliver an assignment that effectively keeps agape. Alive. As you're turning to 1 Corinthians 13, I warn you: this is one of the toughest assignments. in the list.
It's only for those who are willing to surrender to pursue this lifestyle of love. This lifestyle that Paul said at the end of chapter 12 is the most excellent pursuit of life. This is the most excellent way to live. The assignment to keeping agape alive I'll tell you ahead of time. is in refusing to keep Score.
Paul writes in the very last phrase of Verse five, where we left off our study. Agape does not take into account A wrong suffered. Oh, my.
Now you know why we struggle with loving like this. Because we naturally keep a running Score. You create a mental file room where you store all the offenses and injuries and hurts, and you oil the hinges on those doors so they can slide open easily and often. The loves of the world keep a record of wrongs. Resentment has an absolutely amazing Memory.
The verb Paul uses here is actually an accounting term that refers to making entries in a ledger. It literally can mean to count. To impute to an account is one of Paul's. Favorite words. You could translate this particular phrase here.
This way. Agape, this kind of love does not keep. Books. on evil. Agape refuses to tally points.
It refuses to record offenses in a mental file. It refuses to keep a journal of injustices. It refuses to maintain some sort of silent witness against the injuries and the wounds of life. I said it would be a tough assignment. But this is how you go from loving someone and wanting to leave someone.
You keep a list. nearby. This is what breaks down relationships and friendships. Everyone in this auditorium has been hurt. by some form of evil or some kind of of unkindness.
Everyone has to struggle with forgiveness. Everyone has to let go of bad memories and give up any desire or even the imagination of revenge. But the truth remains, naturally, we enjoy nursing old wounds, don't we? We enjoy nursing our wrath to keep it warm. Agape says, Fire the nurse.
Move her out. She set up shop in your heart and she's doing great damage. The choice becoming Between becoming a loving person and a resentful person is found in this little phrase. Love. does not take into account or wrong.
Suffered But debt that you can't seem to pay off that wasn't yours to begin with. It plagues you. A parent or a boss or a coach. That was unfair. Prejudice.
or partiality that brought you pain. A board member that made your life miserable. A jury that found the innocent guilty. The guilty innocent. A business partner failing to act with integrity and smearing your reputation.
A doctor. making the wrong Diagnosis. The other guy or gal at work that got the credit You deserved. A neighbor who treats you rudely. A friend who turned on you.
A child. or a parent, Who won't speak to you? True love refuses The urge to write that stuff down for keeps. It will not take into account a wrong suffered. It will not.
Put it into the ledger. What this means is you've got to keep a mental eraser handy. A a big one. And you've got to be ready to use it often. Daily, as a matter of fact, sometimes moment by moment.
Otherwise, your ledger will easily Fill up over time. And every day there are new additions of wrong that can be added to the list. That ledger fills up. This assignment here is not difficult. It is impossible.
We're always losing our eraser. Far away. Or it wears down. We got plenty of pencil left. I love that scene where Peter Ask the Lord, Lord.
How often should a man forgive someone who offends him? Seven times. Peter's patting himself on the back because the rabbis of Christ's day were teaching that a righteous man would forgive an offense. from the same person. Three times.
So Peter Doubles it. Throws one in for good measure and says, Lord. You know, I suppose since we're following you and you are the Messiah, that we ought to forgive people. Seven times. That'd be good, wouldn't it?
And the Lord said to him, I tell you. Forgive that man Seventy Times. Seven. And you can kind of see Peter doing the mouth. Let's eat seven, seven, seven, seven, seven, seven.
490. Times. No wonder Luke in his gospel account Records that immediately after Jesus Christ said that, all of them said to the Lord, Lord, increase our faith. That's the biblical way of saying you've got to be kidding. Four hundred and ninety times.
The Lord's point was this, don't carry a calculator. You know, as soon as you hit 490. That's it. We're done. No, forgive.
He is saying as a way of life. Can you imagine the same person offending you in the same way. 490 times. The point is. Don't keep a record.
Don't hold a grudge as a matter of practice. Don't add up this account in your heart as a matter of surrender to the Spirit of God. You know what the disciples were thinking? Probably then. How in the world are we going to get an eraser that big?
Demonstrate that kind of grace and forgiveness. Lord, we don't make erasers that big in Galilee. And so the Lord will go on. And he will tell them. In that account That when you recognize what God has chosen to forget.
Regarding your own account. It'll actually help you. in forgiving others. Because no one has sinned against you. as much as you have sinned against.
Him. You see, this is the gospel. of agape. Paul used the same word, by the way. that he used in 1 Corinthians 13 doesn't Ledger some offense.
He used it in Romans 4:8. Listen to this amazing erasure of redemption. Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord will not take into account. Same word used for the action of agape in 1 Corinthians 13, 5. Blessed is the man.
That's an understatement. Blessed is the man whose sins have literally been erased from the ledger of God's accounting. Paul uses the same verb again when he wrote to the Corinthians in 2 Corinthians 5.19, God was in Christ reconciling the world to himself, not counting their sins against them. In other words, Those who are reconciled to God through Christ have had their files of sin cleared out. Beloved, your record is completely clean.
Because of his great love. In atoning. For your record of sin In fact, however, as I thought about this, the ledger isn't completely clear. If you take a closer look. In the place of sins which we have committed against God, is the deposit of Christ's righteousness which has been imputed.
Same word. Translated a little differently. To our account, the same accounting word. The righteousness of Christ has been credited. It has Entered into our personal account in the ledger of God, Romans 4:11.
That's like taking your checkbook. And discovering as you look at it, you don't have any money. You don't have to use your imagination for this illustration, okay? Your flat broke. Then you go to the bank.
To ask them if they'll not charge you overdraft fees because it took three days before you realized you were overdrawn. I'm speaking hypothetically here, just coming to my mind. But the bank manager comes out, shakes your hand, gives you a handful of candy. He's smiling. And that's never happened before.
And you say, What are you so happy about? He says, Oh, listen, evidently. Bill Gates. Got your account number. and transferred into your empty account.
All of his wealth Imagine now the readout. Fresh from the teller, the baker's standing right there, you see a deposit. A billion dollars plus. Oh my goodness. You you can drive right past the dollar store now.
You can go straight to target. You're loaded. with cash. Can you imagine that? Listen, Jesus Christ.
credited to your account The wealth. Of his righteousness. You didn't have any? All you had in that account was sin. He withdrew that and paid all the administrative fees.
Against you. And then he deposited, he transferred his righteousness, he imputed it, he credited it, he deposited it into your account. Same word used. In 1 Corinthians. thirteen.
Now, let me ask a practical question. Does forgiving mean Forgetting. Can anyone truly forget? offences. and insults.
And hurts. and pains. No. Paul doesn't say, look again in 1 Corinthians, he doesn't say. Don't ever get hurt.
Don't be offended. Ignore the pain. He says Keep your eraser moving. Choose to love. Which means choose.
to forget. That's different. Webster. A believer caught the biblical nuance of this word when he defined the word forget. Listen to this.
To cease. To remember. To leave Behind. to fail to think of To neglect either carelessly or Wilfully. To cease.
thinking. of something. It can be an act of the will. This is the willing forgetfulness of the world. of offences.
We tend to record our offenses In granite. And our blessings in sand, don't we? And at what great cost to our peace of mind and to the joy of our salvation. Wayne Grudem. Writing specifically to a church setting, which of course works in other settings, but he says this.
Where love abounds in a fellowship of Christians. Many small offenses and even some large ones are overlooked. and forgotten. But where love is lacking Every word is viewed with suspicion. Every action is liable to misunderstanding.
and conflicts. abound. This works not just in the church, but in the home. In the marriage on the campus. in the shop In the neighborhood and in the boardroom.
Can we learn? How to love Like this. Yes. In fact, it's no coincidence that the Spirit of God would inspire Peter of all apostles. He would be the one to write.
Keep fervent in your love. for one another, because love, agape, Covers. A multitude of what? of sins. You say, but I just can't forget.
I just can't seem to cover it up. You're right. You can't. Agape is impossible. This assignment might be the toughest one in your life for you to surrender to the Spirit who will himself accomplish it in your life.
Why? Because he happens to be a great. Forget her. Hebrews chapter 8, verse 12 speaks of him who chooses to remember our transgressions no more. That means he's choosing to forget.
He's ceasing to remember. Willfully. He's choosing to neglect the thought of, the record of, our sin. Jeremiah 31, 34, God says, I will forgive their iniquity and their sin I will remember no more. Does God forget anything?
No. He's choosing to act. as if the ledger is indeed, in fact, Clear. and clean. Beloved, we allow God.
to do the erasing. When we surrender to his spirit, when we refuse to keep score, we actually end up winning, don't we? Peace. joy, release, freedom, we ultimately win. The one who keeps a list will only break his heart over and over again.
He's going to relive that offense. He's going to feel over and over again the pain of that insult. or that injury. Agape is the key to escape. the prison cell of our own making that leads us to bitterness and resentment.
Agape is the way out. It is the way on. It is the way up. It is the only way. Every week This author wrote, Kevin Tunnel.
Was required to mail one dollar. to a family he'd hurt. deeply. This article read they had sued him for $1.5 million. but settled for nine hundred and thirty six dollars to be paid to them One dollar at a time.
The family was to receive the payments over the course of eighteen years. They didn't want to forget what he'd done. He'd gotten drunk. He drove his car into their daughter's car, killing her. On the first Friday of January.
Tunnell was convicted of manslaughter. Spent time in jail. Seven years campaigning against drunken driving, even though the courts required only one year, he added six years to it. But he often often forgot to send his dollar, To this family, in time, Four times the family took him to court, He insisted he wasn't defying the order. He even offered to give the family two boxes of checks made out covering the payments.
until the year 2001. An extra year thrown in. They denied his request. They didn't want him to forget. They didn't want to forgive.
It wasn't about money. It was a weekly reminder they wanted to haunt him with nine hundred and thirty six reminders. over the course of eighteen years to haunt him wherever he lived, wherever he went, that he had taken their daughter's life. There would be no forgetting. And certainly no forgiving.
This author asked, Few people would question the resentment of this family, and their grief. But Are 936 payments Enough? When they receive the final payment, will they be able to put the matter to rest? Who hasn't really been able to forget? is eighteen years' worth of restitution Sufficient.
And the answer would be No. This family had sentenced themselves to a life of private haunting. They were the ongoing victims, and every Friday. For eighteen years They suffered all over again their hatred. toward this young man.
When I read that, I thought of how grateful we ought to be, ladies and gentlemen, that God. doesn't require us to pay back our offences. Against him One dollar at a time. One prayer at a time. one act of penance at a time.
This is the agape of God. against whom we have sinned. This is the forgiveness of Jesus Christ. whom we put to death. This is the amazing nature of him choosing to forget the weight of our offenses, that it was.
My sin. Oh. The bliss of this glorious thought. My sin, not in part, but the whole. is nailed to the cross and I can forget about it.
I bear it no more. Praise the Lord. Praise the Lord, O my soul.
Soul. Listen, the willingness to accept this assignment of agape and live with an eraser hand becomes only when we. Stay near the cross of Christ. and recognize our own sin. which he has chosen to forget.
and then imitate him. Without Christ, we cannot love like this. We can't even begin. We cannot experience true love until we experience the love of Christ. And then to demonstrate that love requires surrender.
to the Spirit of God. toward those. who have sinned. against us. I close with this passage.
Pros. We are most like wild animals. when we devour and kill. We are most like Men. When we criticize and condemn.
We are most like Christ. When we forgive. and choose. to forget. With God's help, I hope we'll be the kind of people who reflect biblical love by the way we forgive.
Is there any one you need to forgive? I trust God will help you apply this lesson to day. You've been listening to Wisdom for the Heart with Stephen Davie. I'm Scott Wiley. Stephen's working through a series on love from First Corinthians thirteen.
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