Have you ever found yourself trying to avoid certain people? keeping them at arm's length. It's interesting that these two words often appear side by side. It's possible to be patient with someone. Without being kind, I I might I might put up with you by staying away from you.
Avoid you in the hallway. Avoid a conflict. But Paul doesn't stop with exercising patience. He has the audacity to tell us that true love demonstrates. Kindness.
And that requires contact. How are you doing when it comes to demonstrating patience? Are your relationships marked by patients or are you more prone to the opposite? How about kindness? Do you keep people at arm's length or do you draw near so that you can show true biblical kindness?
TODAY ON WISDOM FOR THE Heart, Stephen Davey continues through his series entitled True Love. It comes from 1 Corinthians 13. and Stevens exploring what true biblical love looks like. In today's message, we're going to look at two ways that God describes love. Love is patient.
and love is kind. Could you use help with either of those today? Stay with us. What if someone was free? following us around.
taking pictures of us. throughout the day. What if we were surprised by snapshots that were delivered to us in the mail that had been taken throughout the day? Our facial expressions. Close up.
The captions of our words underneath. Are our actions, all of it recorded in living Color. Undeniable. Irrefutable. Proof That was me.
I was doing that, I was saying that. How much of it would bring us embarrassment? At the end of the day, how much of it would bring us Would we be surprised by the snapshots of of loving actions that those photographs would send us, or would they be catalogued Images of selfish words and self-centered living. You know, it's as if the Apostle Paul has been roaming through our neighborhood with a divine camera. He's been cataloging, in fact, for some time what love looks like, and he has delivered to us copies of the pictures.
They are undeniable proofs of love in action. Let's look at a couple of snapshots in 1 Corinthians. This will be undeniable evidence of what true love looks like in action. Look at verse 4. Love.
is patient And love is kind.
Now these are the first of 15 Verbs. These are two positive statements followed up with eight. negative statement. We'll reserve comment on these eight negative statements. for our next session.
The first two descriptions are nothing less than two surprising snapshots of. of love surprising in that they reveal love in places where you would not expect to see them. If you wanted to see love, you would not look where Paul is looking. And we could translate these first two positive verbs this way. And you might write in the margin of your Bible just so you capture the sense of an action verb.
Love is. exercises patience. And love demonstrates Kindness. First, love exercises. Patience.
This verb From macro thuma'o means long suffering. In fact, it might be translated that way in some of your translations. The word macro is used. In our own English language, there's a prefix for something that's large or broad. As opposed to micro, which is used for something small, like a micro chip.
Thuma'o, the other half of that word, refers to Passion. It's used of something literally bursting into flames. In our modern world, we would call this Long fused. Love. Macrothuma literally could be defined as taking a long time to burst into flames.
Yeah. Long fused patience This is agape. And by the way, this word chosen by the Spirit of God to describe agape has nothing to do with patience with things. This word is always used in reference to patience. with people.
I mean, it's one thing to exercise patience over that broken down lawnmower. Right? If you do exercise it, or that computer that crashes, or that photocopier that keeps. keeps on jamming or that That vending machine, you put your seventy five cents in there and the candy bar slides. All the way to the edge, but then it doesn't fall.
And you push on the machine and you hit the glass and you kick it and you threaten it and all sorts of things. It just won't fall.
Well This has to do with exercising patients like that with people and don't we push and Hit and kick and Threaten? People that are evidently difficult. is what Paul has in mind. Otherwise you wouldn't need to exercise long fused Patience. These are people you'd like to shake.
Or push. Or threaten. And at that moment In the middle of a push. A divine snapshot is taken. Look at the photograph.
You're in the middle of that scene. What do the pictures reveal? Our church is blessed with So many Teachers. I know there are many here tonight. It is a a particular honor.
to teach teachers. But you know what it's like to exercise patience. With that class, don't you? Maybe you'll understand or identify with this incident submitted by John Buchama from Chambersburg, Pennsylvania. An elementary teacher was helping one of her kindergarten students Get his cowboy boots on.
before leaving for home. He'd asked her for help. And she could see why. Even with her pulling and pushing, the boots just didn't want to fit on all the way. They seemed too small.
But she persisted. And by the time she got the second boot on, she'd worked up a sweat. She almost When the little boy said to her, These are the wrong feet. You know how boots can sometimes hard to tell. She looked closely, and sure enough, they were.
She tugged and pulled, and finally got the boots off. And she managed to keep her cool as together they worked to get the boots back on the right feet. Finally, just as she was finished, he said, You know these aren't my boots. She bit her tongue rather than scream. Once again, she struggled to help him pull the ill-fitting boots off his little feet.
No sooner had they gotten the boots off, he said, See, they're my brother's boots, but my mom said I could wear them. She didn't know if she'd laugh or cry. But she mustered up what patience she had to to wrestle the boots back on his feet one more time and finally she finished. Helping him into his coach, he asked, Now, where are your mittens? And he said, I stuffed them in the toes of my boots.
The story says in two years she'll be eligible for parole. I don't blame her. Better have a little agape for scenes like that. It's interesting that It's interesting to me that the first Snapshot. Of love.
Whether you and I think we've got it. or not. He goes right for the The soft spot, doesn't he? Boy, he touches the nerve. Immediately.
As we're going to talk about and describe love, let me tell you that love is long. Fused. This is love. acting toward Unloving acts. I found it interesting that the Pharisees in the days of Paul held to the theory.
of recompense or compensation. That is you return to others, what they deliver to you. That's why Jesus Christ's teaching was so radical. It was no longer an eye for an eye and a tooth for tooth, which was in fact the basis for justice and remuneration.
Now it is self-defacing, self-defrauding, self-emptying love toward Another. How unlike the world who lives by the motto: don't get mad, get Even Right? Do unto others before they do unto you. That's the law of the jungle. Jesus Christ said, here's a new motto.
Endure suffering without retaliation. Paul writes to the Romans: Do not repay evil with evil, Romans 12:17. Chrysostom, the church leader, said that this word for patience describes a man who has been wronged, who has the power to avenge himself, and who will not die. Do it. Paul writes to the Thessalonians using the same word for patience.
He says, We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the faint-hearted, that is, those prone to worry and discouragement. Help the weak, that is a reference to the morally unstable who seem to constantly need encouragement to do the right thing. The kind of people that you say, finally, you know, just leave me alone. Just go do what you know to do. Paul then closes, though, by adding, after that description, be patient with them all.
Same word here. Be long fused. with them. See, anybody can love the lovable, right? Anybody can exercise patience with the considerate.
Anybody can put up with the neat. The orderly. The strong, the refined, the polite. This is not the patience of agape. This is not the snapshot of love.
Anybody can do that. This photograph of this kind of agape catches us when we exercise patience with those who can't seem to get their boots on. They need help. And a lot of it. Why go through the sweat of it all?
Why bother? Because the physician has attributed to his patient inerrant Worth. and value. Therefore, he has chosen to serve him even though the outlook is bleak and this person can take nothing from him but his time. and his energy.
Listen, this is the agape of God. That even Though we were sinners. Christ died for us. Romans 5.8. This is true, genuine, godlike, Christ imitating, sacrificial, surprising love that is patient toward the irritable.
The unexpressive The disappointing the unlovely, this is the surprising snapshot of agape. Have you been caught? Have I been caught? in a photograph with this kind of love. Lately.
Love expresses. Patience. Let's move on. Agape does not stop with being patient. With the unloving, Paul writes further that this love is also Kind.
Being kind. is the counterpart of being patient. In other words, while patience will put up with anything, from anybody. Kindness will give away anything. to another.
It's possible. Think about it. It's possible. To be patient. without being kind.
Isn't it? It's interesting that these two words often appear side by side. It's possible to be patient with someone. Without being kind, I might put up with you by staying away from you. Right?
Avoid you in the hallway. Avoid a conflict. But Paul doesn't stop with exercising patience. He has the audacity to tell us that true love demonstrates. Kindness.
And that requires contact. This is Jesus Christ telling his disciples. To love their enemies He doesn't simply tell them to feel kindly. you know about them. He says, literally, be kind.
to them. He is the model we follow, for agape is truly the expression of the attributes and character of God. This is the kindness of God that leads us to what? Repentance, same word. Kindness.
We're to demonstrate to others what God leads us toward. Peter writes, We have tasted the kindness of the Lord. 1 Peter 2, 2 and 3. Same word. We're being called to demonstrate the kindness toward the world that God demonstrated toward us.
You remember Paul's injunction to feed your enemy when he's hungry, and if he's thirsty, give him water to drink. And in so doing, you're going to heap coals of fire upon his head. And you say, Yeah, I like that part. Coals of fire. I can do that.
That's love for me. Paul is describing a deed from his culture that we could easily misunderst misunderstand. Nobody in Paul's day had matches in the pantry. If you didn't keep your fire going, Those coals went cold. You were desperate.
It didn't matter if you were away on a trip or. He'd gotten ill and Doubled over in pick. Hain for several days you were unable to tend the fire and The coals. turned to dust. The only thing you could do is Go to a neighbor.
And you'd take along that basin. You balance on your head. I've seen him do it and Third world countries. Balancing supplies. One.
Crude basin.
Now, you'd go to your neighbor and you'd have your basin and. And and you'd ask for some coals.
Now if your neighbor gave you Oh, let's just say a handful of them. That could be a problem because if you lived at some distance, by the time you got home, those coals would be cold. But if he was kind to you. He would heap coals of fire upon your head. He would load your basin down.
So that by the time you got home, you had hot coals whereby you could immediately cook. And eat. Or be warmed. This is nothing. For a friend to do to a friend.
Right? Or maybe even to do to a stranger. But an enemy This is one of the kinds of photographs that continue to surprise the world. World Magazine, which I subscribed to, carried In their spring edition 2006, an article written by an atheist. He was he was actually disturbed.
By his atheist friends. Because they never they never did anything good for anybody. He didn't quite connect the dots. He watched the Salvation Army and other faith-based ministries respond with all the hundreds and hundreds of churches to Hurricane Katrina. And he lamented in a newspaper column.
Let me read it for you. And I quote: Notable by their absence. We're teams helping. Who'd come from rationalist societies, free thinkers' clubs, and atheist associations, the sort of people who scoff at religion's intellectual absurdity. He said it was the Christian.
Who is the most likely to take the risk? and make the sacrifices involved in helping others. Isn't that interesting that he noticed? He went on to say that the Other things like drug addiction and AIDS offend Christians, but they are the ones willing to change the fetid bandages. and clean them up.
Bathe them.
Now listen to his conclusion. the only possible conclusion I can draw. is that Christians have moral imperatives that make them morally superior to atheists like me. And so it should be. goes all the way back.
To the early church in the second century. In fact, the pagans were so startled by the kindness of the believer. for those they didn't even know. That according to Tertullian, they were nicknamed by the changing of one Greek letter from Christiani, which meant follower of Christ, to Christiani. Made up.
Of kindness. Can you imagine the church of the 21st century earning the nickname? Made up of kindness.
Well, it's practice tonight, even in the way you leave the parking lot, okay? Put agape to work. Would we surprise anybody? By our kindness, There are two demands that these verbs Difficult demands that they make, these verbs of love, first. They demand that we develop this kind of love through a relationship with the Holy Spirit.
I mentioned earlier, these are the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace. Patience, kindness Yours might say long-suffering goodness. Same words. There they are side by side again. Don't just take it from people.
Give back. to people. These are the results of surrender to the Spirit of God.
So, you don't say, I'm going to drum it up.
Okay, I'm going to leave here and I'm going to be kind. You know, your kids, leave me alone, I'm trying to be patient. You know? No. You pursue the Spirit of God, and these things seep into our Character.
Neither patience nor kindness can be developed apart from the Spirit. Secondly, neither patience nor kindness can be demonstrated apart from suffering. These two action verbs invite difficulty. Patience demands what? Irritating.
People. to be exercised.
So you ask God for more patience, He sends you somebody really irritating. He answers your prayer. This word relates to being long fused as it relates to people. Oh, Stephen? You want to be patient?
Here you go, exhibit A, and there's the picture. He may send you. Suffering. Which allows you to act in kindness because kindness demands unloving conditions to be practiced. Patience demands irritating people to be exercised.
Kindness demands unloving conditions. to be practiced. You don't practice these in private. You got to go public. with these, and not just any kind of public.
Lenski, a Greek scholar, wrote, These two actions are not revealed in surroundings of friendship and affection, where each individual embraces and kisses the other. These are actions in a bad and self-centered world. Maybe that's why these photographs are so rare.
So hard to find. In 1975, a child by the name of Raymond Dunn was born in New York State. The Associated Press reported that at his birth, a skull fracture and oxygen deprivation caused severe. Retardation. As Raymond grew, the family discovered further impairments.
His twisted body suffered up to twenty seizures per day. He was found to be blind. Mute. and virtually immobile. He had severe allergies that limited limited him to only one food.
found after numerous attempts to find something he could Easily digest. It was a meat-based formula By Gerber. Foods. But in 1985, Gerber stopped making the formula that. Raymond thrived on.
Carol Dunn, his mother, scoured The countryside and purchased case after case of it, accumulating all she could. But By 1990, her supply was running out. In desperation, she appealed to Gerber for help. Would they help her? and her son, The employees of the company were given the news.
This article read, They not only listened, But they responded. In an unprecedented action, Volunteers donated hundreds of hours to bring out old equipment. Set up a production line. Obtained special approval from the USDA and Produce The formula All for one. Boy.
In January of 1995. Raymond Dunn Jr., known as the Gerber Boy. Passed away. This article ended by saying, but during his brief lifetime, he had called forth a surprising. thing Called.
Kindness. What a rare photograph. Can we, as people of God, be any less than this? Would the world be surprised by The appearances of love in our lives. Paul says.
Let me show you a more excellent way to live. Let me show you a way to live by agape, okay? Let's hear it. Be patient with the irritating. Be kind to the unloving.
Paul, can you give me anything different? than that. No, you know what he's giving? He isn't giving the Corinthians or the North Carolinians a different way to feel. He's giving us a different way.
to live. And it is radically different. With the outset of these two, first two verbs, surrender to the Spirit. and invite suffering.
So that we can demonstrate to our watching world, who, by the way, has their cameras ready. Oh, that they may take pictures of the patience of Agape and the kindness. of agape which become amazing. Irrefutable. Undeniable.
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