There has been a divine selection of you, mister. That is to fulfill God's purposes in history. In other words, you have a destiny. Dr. Tony Evans says destiny begins with leading your family toward faith.
You said you wanted to be the man, man up. Own the responsibility if you're gonna call yourself a man. This is the alternative broadcast, featuring the timeless biblical teachings from the archives of Dr. Tony Evans. Fathers, if your kids are failing or floundering, Dr.
Evans says you not only have the power, but also the responsibility to do something about it. Today he'll explain what that something is as he paints us a portrait of a kingdom dad. Let's join him.
So I want to challenge the men in particular, all of us in general. From pulpit to pew and back again, what it means to be a kingdom dead. These are difficult times. These are times of crisis, and they can be attributed to the absenteeism of fathers. As the single greatest crisis.
No wonder the devil wants to get rid of dads, because if he can get rid of dads, he can destroy tomorrow. In Genesis chapter 18. Those were bad times. Those were tough times because Genesis 18 and 19 deals with Sodom and Gomorrah. We're men.
Had given up their roles and responsibilities. But in the middle of the mess. In the midst of the chaos. In the context of the confusion. God makes a statement.
Verse 19. For I have chosen him.
So that he may command his children and his household after him. To keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice.
so that the Lord may bring upon Abraham. What he has spoken about him. God speaks about a man, Abraham. And he speaks through that man.
So the men here today Starting with me. About what it means to be a kingdom dad. He says three things that I want to share with you. First of all, he wants you to know you have a destiny. He begins verse 19 with the phrase: I have chosen him.
He's been divinely selected. He's not just here, he's here for a divine purpose because God says, I have chosen him. If you're a man here and you're a Christian, you have been selected and elected for a reason. You're not just supposed to live here, pass out, die. He says, I have chosen him.
And I have a reason for choosing him. To be chosen in the Bible is to be selected to fulfill a task. To be chosen doesn't simply mean I'm going to heaven when I die. To be chosen means God has a work for you on earth until you die. To be chosen means that there is a divinely ordained reason for being, that God has purposed for you as a man, something in spite of the degradation of the culture in which you find your manhood located.
He says, I have chosen you. You have a purpose to fulfill. You have a job to complete. You have a responsibility. The definition of a kingdom man is a male who has learned to operate under the rule of God in his life.
I have chosen him to be that kind of man. He's been selected. You have been created and chosen, mister. for a divinely ordained purpose. Because God has chosen him.
I have chosen him. The king has chosen him to represent him. And what did he choose him to do? Verse 18 tells you: it says that since Abraham will surely become a great nation, a mighty nation, and in him all the nations will be blessed. Guess what you've been chosen to do?
You've been chosen. To be blessed so that you might be a blessing. Because in the Bible, a blessing is what God does to you, that He can also flow through you. And if He can't flow through you, He's not that interested in flowing to you. Because you have been selected for a purpose.
That is divine in design. Where heaven wants to visit history through you. He says, I'm going to make of Abraham not something in some foreign by and by, I'm going to do something through him and the nasty here and now. Come on, enough of you watched. Super Bowl 43.
That's when the Pittsburgh Steelers were driving the field. With two minutes and thirty seconds left in the game. And as they got close to the End zone seeking to win the game. Ben Roth Lisberger calls a play to Santonio Holmes in the end zone. Santonio Holmes comes to the edge of the end zone.
Reaches high. Grabs the ball. With his feet planted. Inbounds in the end zone. to win Super Bowl 43.
You say in order to win it. He had to stretch high. But touch low. He had to go as high as he could to grab the ball without losing touch. with the ground inbounds.
If he would have caught the ball. with his feet not touching below. It would have been no good. If he were touching below but didn't catch the ball, it would have been no good. Because in order to be a winner, he had to reach high.
while simultaneously touching low. What God is looking for is a group of kingdom men who reach heaven while touching earth.
So that they score touchdowns for the kingdom of God who go high. But don't leave long. who are not so heavenly minded they're no earthly good. But who not so earthly minded, they're no heavenly good. They're able to do both at the same time.
Touch heaven while being grounded on earth. Our challenge today is the absentee of men. Who fail? At the biblical definition of manhood. Which at its core means, here it is, you're responsible.
even if you're not to blame. See, if you call yourself the man. You're responsible. Even if it's not your fault. Because manhood equals responsibility.
God didn't say, Adam and Eve, where are y'all? He said, Adam, where are you? I'm holding you responsible even though your wife started this mess. You said you wanted to be the man. Man up!
Own the responsibility if you're going to call yourself a man. He says, Abraham, I have chosen you. Because God's covenant was passed down from father to son, not because women were not important. It was because the man was responsible. I am the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
And wherever you see it, that's how it comes out. Man to son to grandson, because the men would be responsible. That's why hell wants to remove the men. To remove those who would ultimately be responsible so that women would have to fend for themselves, try to be mother and father, being overloaded. And praise God, some have stood up to the task.
A divine destiny. God built destiny.
Well, what are you supposed to do with this calling? Yeah. The sense of destiny.
Well, he tells you in verse 19.
So that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness. and justice. He says Your responsibility is to command your children. And your household. after you.
Because you're the man. You are to command your children and your household after you. It's called follow the leader. Our problem is we have a generation of kids with no man to follow.
So, what they do is either follow themselves or follow fools. He says the father's job is to command his children. And his household after him. To lead his sons and daughters.
So that his boys know what a man looks like. And his girls know what men to fool with and which men not to. Because he commands his children after him. He sets in motion. A kingdom-based understanding of manhood so that his kids can observe it, see it, watch it.
Follow it. Not that you are perfect. We're not. It's just that you're responsible. Notice the word command.
Command is, you call her shots. You lead the way. This is not. Look, let's get this straight. If you're a man and you have kids, You are responsible to set in motion the pattern that they.
Follow.
So If your kids are fools, that's your responsibility. If they gone crazy, that's your responsibility. If they are rebelling, that's your responsibility. Because you ought to command your kids after you.
Well, my kids don't want to do what I tell them. Huh? Uh excuse me? Why did they have a choice? If it was legitimate.
But what we're talking about is, we're having a generation of children. were telling their parents what to do. He says it's the father's job. He commands his children after him. He sets a standard by which they're to operate.
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The father took his son to the toy store to get him something at Toys R Us. He told the proprietor, would you walk with my son and help him find a toy? Proprietor said, Yeah, I'd be glad to. He took the sun up one aisle and said, Hey, this would be nice. Sun said, No, I don't like that.
took took him up here no i don't like that took him down another aisle no i don't like that Proprietor said, Well, I think this, I think you'd enjoy this. This is for kids your age. No, I don't like that. This went on for an hour and a half. Why can't you find something for my child?
The proprietor said, because what your child needs, we don't sell here. But what we have done, what too many men have done, is we've outsourced fathering. We've outsourced it to television and video games. We've outsourced it to government. We've outsourced it to the church.
We've outsourced it. And so instead of owning it. How could you think of having another man raise your kids? That I'm going to let another man invest 18 years of his life into the kids I birthed. He says it is his responsibility to care for his children.
To command them. Nobody should date your daughter and not come through you. Because First Corinthians 7 says that the father must okay the male in her life. She doesn't get to okay it if she's under your provision and protection apart from you. Why?
Because you're supposed to know how a man thinks, how a man works, how a man talks, how a man walks. And how a man lies. That's your responsibility. But how can you take it if you're nowhere to be located? To command his children after him, but watch this.
It goes on to say, and his household. His children and his household. Look at chapter 17. Chapter 17, verses 25 to 27. And Ishmael his son was 13 years old when he was circumcised in the flesh of his foreskin.
In the very same day, Abraham was circumcised and Ishmael his son. All the men of his household who were born in the house or brought with money. from a foreigner who are circumcised with him. Because circumcision was the covering. Because it was through the man.
that the generations would come. He says, I want you to. Train them in righteousness and justice. For far too many men, making the team is more important than making the kingdom. You'll make sure you're at the game, but not make sure you're at the PTA meeting.
Because our priorities are messed up. Yes, go to the game. Love the game, but don't skip the education, don't skip the responsibility. And then finally he says. that I might bring upon Abraham.
That which I have spoken about him in verse 19. That I might bring upon Abraham that which I have spoken about him. What did he speak about Abraham? Verse 18: I'm going to make of him a great nation. That's what he said.
He said, I'm speaking greatness in his life.
So let me speak some greatness. Mr., in case you didn't know it. Let me inform you. You were created to be great. Let me tell you something.
God's calling on your life is always bigger than you can see. See, because if all you see is what you see, you do not see all there is to be seen. God's calling on your life is bigger than you can see. And Abraham was a rich man. Abraham was filthy rich, the Bible tells us.
He was filthy rich. Am fully lost. Until God got a hold of him.
So, your destiny is bigger than your bank account, is bigger than your title, is bigger than your job description. He had plenty of money. But you can be an educated fool and a rich idiot. He says, I have chosen you to be a great nation under me. I have chosen to build the nation Israel off of you.
When God calls a man to something, he calls a man to something bigger than the man can see.
Now, it's not going to all be the same thing or be at the same level. That's why I like what Martin Luther King says. Martin Luther King said: even if you are a trash collector, be the best one. Be a great trash collector. Because you've been called to greatness.
He tells Abraham, I'm going to make you great. He told David, I'm going to make you great. Jesus told his disciples: if you want to be great, he didn't tell them not to be great, you ought to think great, want to be great, not to be satisfied to be less than great. It's just greatness under God. Not greatness independent of God, not worldly greatness so that people give you 15 minutes of fame and they kick you to the curb when you can't help them anymore.
That's not what he's talking about. He's talking about greatness for eternity and for the benefit of history. And you have been called to be great, and that's called dominion. He told Adam, I've called you to rule. He told Joseph, I'm going to make you second in command in Egypt.
He told Daniel that he was going to be the man in Babylon. He's told man after man in scripture, I'm going to make something of you. Peter, I know you only know fish. Follow me. I'm going to make you fishes of men.
I'm going to do something greater with you.
So don't you tell me I'm just another man. You're not another man. You've been chosen. That means greatness rests on your head. You have been crowned with glory, the Bible says, as a man.
What God is after. It's men becoming men of the kingdom, of men who are representing something bigger than yourself. But notice how he says it. That I might bring upon Abraham that which I have spoken to him. In other words, I'm not going to bring it to him until he's ready for it.
I ain't gonna bring it to him just because I have it for him. I'm not gonna bring it to him until he mans up and takes responsibility for the stuff he knows to do, starting with his children and his household. Because if he's not even gonna take care of the folk in his house, why should I be talking to him about getting to the White House? People talk about the White House name them taking care of their house. He says, then I will bring it to him.
So don't be going to God to bless you while you abandon your children. Don't be going to God to bless you while you walk away from your family. Don't be going to God to bless you while you don't take care of your responsibility. He says, Then I will bring upon Abraham. That which I have promised to do for him.
Then and only then.
So God had to wait till he got right to do right by him. And guess what? God will take as long as it takes. Because he does not want your opportunity to outstrip your character. He wants the person that he blesses to be worthy of the blessing that has been shared with them.
And he has called you to greatness. You are supposed to be a leader. Your position calls for it.
Well, I wasn't born to be a leader, and I never saw anybody be a leader, and I don't know how to be a leader. Oh, shut up. That's all true. You weren't born to be one. You didn't have one.
Your daddy left you. All that.
Okay, now that we got that over with. Let's talk about your responsibility. Because we ain't going to spend years whining. You've been called to be great. God says you've been called to be great.
There it is. Whoop, there it is. He's called you to be great, and so you're supposed to step out there and say, ask for me in my house. Shrimp. Joshua 24:15, we're gonna serve the Lord.
He told everybody else, I don't care what y'all do. That's not how we roll up in here, up in here, up in here.
So that I might bring upon Abraham, even in the midst of a putrid Sodom and Gomala. that I might bring upon him. That's why we're such a focus on men. Ladies, we're not going to leave you out. We got a plan that includes the ladies, but forgive me for starting with the men, because if I get them straight, you'll want to be straight.
When you become God's man in your culture, you may not be the most popular guy. When you become God's man holding God's standard, everybody's not going to applaud you, and you're going to have a bunch of folk booing you. But when you represent the right kingdom and use the resources that are available to you. You can stand in the midst of hell. And you can take off and you can run and you can accomplish great things for God.
because you have been created to be Drake. You've been called to be a kingdom man. Dr. Evans will return in a moment to wrap up our time together with a word of prayer. First though, there's a lot more to today's lesson than we had time to present on the air.
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Team members are available twenty-four hours a day to assist you. That's 1-800-800-3222. And one final reminder, in addition to these daily lessons from doctor Evans on the alternative broadcast, He also leads meaningful, timely discussions with special guests on his Unbound podcast. You can listen to those conversations whenever and wherever you hear your favorite podcast. It's been said that true leadership is the art of guiding others with integrity, humility, and vision.
and that's part and parcel to the Biblical instruction for spiritual leadership in the family. But tomorrow, Dr. Evans points out that merely calling yourself a leader. is quite different from actually functioning as a leader. Right now, though, as promised, he was a very good.
Here's Dr. Evans to wrap up our time together with a word of prayer. Let's pray. Father, I thank you for the word of God that goes forth through this ministry and for every ear that hears it. I pray that you will use the word in the life of each person individually.
so that they know that they are hearing from you and are transformed by what they hear. I pray that that transformation touches them at their place of need. Wherever they're hurting, struggling, wherever they're in pain, or wherever they're celebrating, may you be the center of that. And may they be able to say, because of the word that they've heard and because of the true God that they're interacting with right now, that you have showed up. and shown off on their behalf, doing good by them no matter what their circumstances happen to be.
Thank you for how you're going to touch every listener today in your own special way. In Jesus' name, amen.
