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Kill them with Kindness- 76

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February 22, 2020 1:00 pm

Kill them with Kindness- 76

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February 22, 2020 1:00 pm

'Kill them with kindness' doesn't always work, but practicing kindness at every possible chance will make your life more fulfilled. Guest of The Cure, Veronica Sommer, founder of The Kindness Solution, shares how she can improve the lives of individuals who look at their lives through the lens of kindness.

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Aimee Cabo Nikolov is a Cuban American who has lived most of her life in Miami. After many years of healing, finding love, raising a family and evolving her relationship with God, Aimee's true grit and courage led her to pen an honest, thought-provoking memoir. Years of abuse became overshadowed with years of happiness and unconditional love. Now Aimee is the president of IMIC Research, a medical research company, a speaker, radio host and focused on helping others. You can read more about Aimee by  visiting her website.
Dr. Boris Nikolov is the CEO of Neuroscience Clinic. You can read more about Dr. Nikolov and the work he is doing by  visiting his website.


Veronica is a certified coach, founder of The Kindness Solution, and a mom of a teen and tween.  She works 1-1 with middle-aged parents who are feeling overworked, overwhelmed, & burned out, She helps them see their disillusionment and lack of fulfillment as a midlife awakening so they can expand and embody who they truly are and experience those little underrated things called fun, adventure, and pleasure!Her signature program takes her clients through a self-inquiry process that helps them move from stress, anxiety, and scarcity, to grace, abundance, and creative self-expression so they can boldly create the life they know they are meant to live on their own terms. If “settling” and “mediocrity” are like 4-letter words to you, she will help you own what you really want and support you in getting there. You can learn more about Veronica by visiting her website.


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Girl is saying he and violence addictions, poverty and even sexual abuse by your loved ones welcome Amy, and Q good afternoon and welcome to the care radiation on your hosting capital joined by Boris half. I think I'm going yes I show is available live on your radio also thrive at, the care and any smart phone and you can also hear us on God is to

We are broadcasting today from Miami via satellite and later the podcast they showed yes it's suffering the tenacity of the human spirit. The will to survive the carriage to keep moving forward despite any obstacle with the help of God and each other. We do provide testimonials so that people know that they're not alone, and they shall testimony started with me having been a survivor from child abuse well into young adulthood. We also have experts in the field and inspirational speakers that are willing to help us with valuable information. Knowing that education is necessary. Awareness is vital in comfort so very much needed. I believe we all suffer or have suffered from something and we hope to be a source of healing for each other. My healing came from God, but other forms of healing are presented as well to service everyone life can be challenging. Always know there's always someone who cares. The song that we played earlier was injured by your site-fest, at least they I am very blessed that I can't take four songs for the brakes that I would love my listeners help it become guys that is a contact form. Submit your songs if I played thing you will be delighted with the gift card I solar Amazon but anyhow, here's my take what I get from this life can be difficult sometimes for all of us. So many things could throw us off or make us feel discouraged, it can feel like were running out of strength or faith.

I know those days.

If we truly listen to God's teachings. If we know to be courageous and of good cheer, we should only have good thoughts and our actions should only be those that are peacemaking and pleasing to God. God was the reason I was strong when I felt I could no longer go on. God is the reason I never gave up the fight in the spot best smile that make it makes it go away. He has always been the angel by my side and he did. Always provide we can think like and act like Jesus Christ. If we allow God to work through us so we can beat that very same angel by the sight of others, and it starts with kindness. We are very excited to have Veronica Sommer, Monica kindness coach with us today. Veronica Summers this coach, founder of kindness solution and mom teen and tween just like us.

She works one-on-one with middle age. Parents were feeling overworked, overwhelmed and burned out. She helps them see the disillusionment and lack of fulfillment as a middle aged awakening so that they can expand and embody who they truly are, and experience those little underrated things called fun adventure and pleasure.

Veronica is also involved in various nonprofits working practically to act kindness to all aspects of our lives and help children despite the many challenges she went to do. She never lost the sight of God.

Veronica thank you for being with us and welcome to the care radiation having right ventilator that about you and your life is extremely impressive and even more impressive is how you've turned your life around what's come from it and and where should we start thinking we just can you give us a little bit about what what prompted you to be you are today. Well I have to my mom very always had a very spiritual connection God with. I was very lucky to have that model for me now, the beginning of time that we were. We always were very active in our church being fire me on the note and service in the community.

We played together. The family that really gave me a very long foundation. II definitely always felt also a strong connection to God and that I had no angels watching over and ensure that you do for the life to come.

I can see the same except my experiences are little different.

My mother was Catholic. Yes, children Catholic.

While experience of of knowing. Religion was a little different. She presented God as a punishing God in a God to fear, and then she would say that the Bible would tell her things about us, for which we would get in trouble or mainly me actually and so but she did teach us some good things about God. She said if you have faith. He will save you. It's been true in my life and I think the good with the bad may stay with the good. Without a doubt I will think about the wrath very a lot of people are. I'm lucky that I have. I didn't have that judgment like so many people do growing up and that makes a lot of people know stray away from the church in three waves in their faith that judgment and you know you and I both know God loves all about what if we could, and I know my mining concurrent with my kids.

The just, you know. Any time you're having any type of credible challenge of school or you know if she was a friend of anything. Just ask God for help is always there just remembering to turn to him. It's interesting that you see judgment, but even in my religion and I'm careful not to judge myself and not to judge the person whose being judgmental because we could so easily fall into that trap and just try to focus that it's not even about our way of thinking or are human thought process. It's it's not even about us. We have to do it we have to think in the way that Christ would think were not there for the priest that said something wrong that we don't agree with what were not there for over not there because always because we want to because it's good to sacrifice a little because if you focus on not yourself so much. You focus on doing it for God and everything that you do for God in a teacher not to fall on the straps that you could be told mental and judgmental comes anger and a lot of other things and I think that's the opposite of being kind is a kind being understanding and loving it really unconditional anything out like a course numerical here. Her love here judgment right into that category. There's actually one of the principal, of course, numerical judgment is not God, though. Have you read that it invariably currently know. I have met a lot of things be honest I haven't even read the Bible. Although I see a lot of scripture on Facebook my Facebook friends are so awesome. I read the same to battle.

Satan and man I have learned a lot about yeah that II highly recommended. Whereabouts going to baking I maybe have a guy and you're listening to the care will continue talking about why and how and when kindness matters, please do: if you want to share a gesture of kindness, 866 34 truth wife can bring many difficult situations, domestic violence, addictions, poverty, sexual abuse by your loved ones. The issue is not speedier book to overcome all obstacles been shouldered with the love of God, your husband and your family. You can succeed.

Love is the answer. God is the key word reveals baby cobbles life, a warrior who didn't give up and achieve the dream of her life. You can get to know more about her story on God is the key or buying her book on, which will be the world God by right joining us listening to think here today we have Veronica Sommer kindness coach. Remember that you can listen to the radio show life through the cure up under amicable letter.

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And please subscribe last if there all this ending by JP Sachs and Jillian Michaels picked the song and love you guys help you can always go to God is secure contact form, even as your songs go visit your local oh yeah, a little contest J, I may play so this is my take is the real dissenting would return to God.

Would we stay for a while and love God. Anyway, because our fears would matter, even if the sky was falling, he would hold this tight and I would never be a reason to say goodbye it took me a lot of trials to get to where I am. I'm not willing to wait until the fall.

Dissenting. So Veronica, so what about that okay Seger knowing God and being introduced to God actually being a lot active in the church than we ever were so you had a very strong foundation that you know that's the one that the enemy wants the most one that God finds important the one that got that is precious to God. That's the one you doesn't want to give up on so it was a time in your life when your faith is challenged. I know mine was tell us your story. I think they all are very very the first time I really felt challenged. I think with when I was in college I came to learn that my mom and my aunt my namesake are named after my aunt Veronica were.

They will basically put in foster care by their own. Who did not feel capable of taking care of them both because of addiction and mental illness and the foster care family that they ended up staying with Dave severely, sexually and physically and emotionally. Ages four and five and I just I couldn't believe a unit that they could be given up by their parents achieve both existed really hard to even say really what would happen there, but it I had to turn the only way that I could profit was actually first, I was challenged and to cultivate a deeper relationship and I think that also where it sense of justice that I seem to have been translated to fight for the voiceless and you know do something for the people that are suffering massively now on and then you know my device.

I don't know if you find anything about that part. Well, the most difficult for you.

I don't know what it is that he discovered this and that your mother and your mother, sister suffered so much liquid.

What was the product and you became the solution makes breaks the cycle breaks the chain yeah and you did it by you are years you are. It's almost as if your remedy lecture you was understanding kindness you came up with something called me because even your husband or something. I think I read had cancer. You went through some very trying times were cancer and got an and thank God he is in remission and how did you hold yourself together through the it's some held onto faith. I think just as I have, because that's the only thing that gets you through once you lose faith whether it be in yourself or in God or in others who can can be there for you it's it's a lost case and God never wants to loose us as he puts people like you in the world. Listen Veronica is now mulling around here.

It evolved and grown over my working for my daughter grader in middle school and when our kids all through the real person who read my birth already hearing about bullying and bullying like your old bike only, though I I mean united.

I frame everything manner anti-bullying, you know, counterintuitive to me.

So I went on I said you could create some type of a program here about you proactively be kind and and call kindness matters everybody and yeah you help help understand that the person doing the bullying and I will be having their own spiritual just like any kind, any of unkind, you know, child or adult like it because were disconnected from our true self, the divine didn't always say it's very difficult to be mean to somebody who's been kind yeah I knew without a doubt possible possible happen to Jesus. It's possible but is so private with the tri-yeah going and I know I have no and this is the care you live every Saturday at 1 PM Eastern. Please check our dear, please: if you'd like to share an act of kindness your experience: 866 34 through yeah kindness suggestion.

You can suggest any kind with Amy and Boris listen to every Saturday at 1 PM on your radio or at the cure or website God is All shows are available support costs or video book.

Just look for the cure, or any book of John that Wes 1010. Iraq's Orange County I think the songs might take that. I'll give you my take on songs you submit to God is the the contact form FIP you can $25. This is so much my song, by the way I did it again no control over my emotions and it takes me more than a year and still trying to focus on the fight only make me realize no one wins in the end, and you're on your own. Think of solutions and ways to be helpful to create precious memories with God, we learn to always on up to things and realize been lucky so far. It's amazing how incredibly blessed we are. How can we complain let's give ourselves credit for dealing with the pain. Each one of us can be superheroes in common like Bruce Wayne where talking to Veronica summer the time is coach only love is I just have a lot of fun so here's what I love about it Veronica because you know it it helps, especially with bullying with kids to be kind and help out with the that went with the middle aged parents helps with the grown-ups to you know you said something about helping parents find dissolution and fulfillment in their life and it sounds wonderful and what is thereafter may be like 20 years of marriage, like us, but but but I know there's more to life than just getting by and just existing than just surviving. Don't do which just expect that if you got a little extra step that little extra mile leave an impression.

But what's your take. Well I people are aged children. I think Ashley living in the digital ever connected world that were currently finding ourselves a lot to work full time and you don't be a conscious present parent and you know get people to support an activity you foster their faith, but either at home and/or you know in whatever community you go to and you know like for me personally, I do feel like I felt like I lost, lost myself in the achieving and you know growing up a family and all the things that come along with that, I got squeezed out of the equation of my own life and so I wanted to be like you know my old fund felt really feel that false actually I know that they would save me unite all Veronica and you know commented that they felt that I was depressed and I would like you to craft an more than you as an excuse and say what an older like that. One thing why there are definitely older but not really for mediocrity and not knowing like your meant.

You know like because I think what we set the whole thing up. We have these jobs we have these mortgages. We live in the places we have the children to care for both like you know it can feel it can feel confining your not connected to yourself and not go back to how I was able to reconnect with myself, but to recognize you not for copying the work I'm doing. Are you still loved recruiting. I was in recruiting for 23 years, but I realize many years ago that I was meant to do more and really felt a call for service and contribution and you know a minute. Get them whatever you want to call it. And so I felt you know like I have a lot of limiting beliefs around completely limiting very realistic constraints.

I live in fear for the county is a very expensive place to live and I had made the decision today to buy a very large expense and all of the things that come along with you. There's a lot of fun doing that have to happen to look at your life and the kind of solution starts always with you and an inquiry and going inward to the what are my values. Where did they come from and are they, you know, are they condition and and compromise family. You know, and teachers and the culture that was brought up in and do they belong to me now.

Are they still true for me today or you know why do I believe something different and I think that's really important piece for anyone to realize any ages. We always have a choice. We always have a choice whenever stock and so it took me a few years make that transition from being in recruiting can now doing what I always know I knew that I wanted to do. Probably always back you look at my bookshelf which is hilarious. I have basically people come over there, like the library I wanted like some people off of the book based on what they're experiencing like some struggles with her having a like here you could have said that better because aren't we always creatures that are always changing and hopefully for the better but it's you.

We can feel suffocated with life feel like constantly stressing that there's no time. If you not connected with God. Almost as if, you know, I learned to avoid frustrations having God in my life and it seems like everything's perfect timing and is just my role this change so completely after I realized a lot of my frustrations.

I brought upon myself and I could easily to simplify my life and make things easier.

And that's just one example, which is living by good values bring about better results altogether. In general, with yeah I mean you realize now that I fascinating all day book on positive thinking in mind that you have personal power anatomy. Honestly, I don't been on the books in my bookshelf everything I wanted either self-help and spirituality metaphysics healing. You know they're there. No fiction on there but my point is I you know I definitely did create a lot of my own ankle because my primary question was kind of statement that I had running after had kids with. There's not enough time in the day. What a terrible downward in my right is get up. I did get up earlier. I make the whatever task more simple, easier, faster, to do or you know I need little things that I've learned like I've learned everything that I do gentle and soft works out better to just think about it if you put all those books. All the self-help books together. I do not never read them, but you could you tell me if you put them all together. All of that be already explained in parables in the Bible I yeah I mean I I think that really you know I like 20 like that the rent surrendered earlier life is a really a a little call about low and divine timing. Deputy right now because I just spent the last 48 years in a place of hard work struggle I will try harder. I will work harder man myself and and or and and and you're like why why why my doing and then you realize like it really is no like you always yes and change her goal is like what is before where have I been okay the way you know what and that's why was so compelled to help others and to be the father slept know you don't have to let this way you don't have to think this way you don't have to believe the enemy you have to believe the hype you can still be okay.

And you know and that's why I pray every day and not them either. Any given moment, I can fall any given moment because the more I pray and the more I try to get close to God more than enemies trying. We will continue talking with Veronica summer about how to be kind to others is here so I maybe have a this is here wife can bring many difficult situations, domestic violence, addictions, poverty, sexual abuse by your loved ones. The issue is not spinning their book to overcome all obstacles been shouldered with the love of God, your husband and your family. You can succeed.

Love is the answer. God is the key word reveals baby Cabo's life, a warrior who didn't give up and achieve the dream of her life.

You can get to know more about her at her story on God is the key or buying her book on and on no you thanks for being with us. I mean, capital, and is the care you just heard you can do us live every Saturday at 1 PM on the computer on your radio on social media to slip God is the care later.

The show will be available as a book of the nuts group tomorrow right just put search for the cure within recover both Christian that was, I want testing you beautiful gorgeous.

I learned diagonal angle. The L thanks. We always need God in good times and bad even when mountain time moved her prayers are answered. God will provide, even those things we do not understand God. We want nothing less.

We don't always know the answers.

We just have to know to always put our trust in you. I realize that no matter how many times I worried or stressed or got depressed about anything and everything still worked out okay.

No matter what the matter about it.

Let's no matter how convinced I I thought it wouldn't turn out okay. It still turned on again many times, I finally got Truscott talking with Veronica summer about how to deal with the challenges in life, by having faith and using kindness upon these very important to be kind to each other.

I was also reading some of the things that you read about through rubbed Veronica about the yes the kind of solution.

I really like that idea because physically you saying that kindness is everything.

If you're kind to each other. We concert we can make much more well. Kindness only works in the art teenager. There is no law on the apparent. This is what you do is like a whole a lot of psychology that 11 thing I wanted to say what you worry me about everything always working out. I I drive make it not had any time something good or fair happened like there like everything always working out everything that we always working out breath language that we have to ingrain because there they're just so hammered by some. Remember, you everything always working with breast out there with them but not for me and it funny I been trying to think about how to talk about the kindness solution in a concise way that makes sense. People because it is all-encompassing really you narrow it down. It comes down to self other than the community world and all been in so the self is exactly what we talked about you know, learning to be kind with your own thought and how you treat yourself what you give your mission yourself permission to do and you using affirmations to remember that the truth of who you are and you know that's why affirmations are great and body you know with all the same thinking of going up mental fittings and supplies in front of thanks for applied yourself body you what you put in it matter food matter and you know nutrition and hydration not like all of the things that are just so common sense but is why God Doug nor the bodies of sacred vessel and just to say when we should hurt others. We should hurt ourselves. We think that not good enough, but sometimes we neglect ourselves.

We do we do and we wonder why we don't mind body spirit and here it really is that connection with whatever you know God, divine, higher power, whatever you whatever you know word that you really again, going inward, connecting with the truth of who you are.

Once you are and you are in alignment, then you can then kindness should people around you starting the people we love most in our family who we know our immediate family are the ones that are most unkind behavior because they trigger sometimes it in my you it's good practice for my tone it, practice on the practice of children how to model that will benefit matter school can have a kind of matter program but it always starts at home with the people that you love most and I think it is so important to understand and remember the power of their thought and their action and the effect on another human being, and ultimately the real reason I started kind matter is because I felt like I don't under like we are. Earlier I don't understand bullying. I don't understand kicking someone when they're down using the people to get the lead and be marginalized in some way or their already having something going on so I mean why would we hurt somebody who'd already like that doesn't make any she was being bullied just because she was shy and me and why you know and just because he was different. It doesn't take much, and it's almost like the back methodology and two more kids and acting okay and like everybody else signed the help wanted one another. Everything you play an instrument and you play a sport and you love my you know which one is in the upper pool does the best part about it and that's really dressy but also because rippled a few minutes and wanted to say some something else. You are also the executive director of children's voice international which is a member of the research understand the disease dedicated to help children after being so extra to killed the blue notes restored or themselves. A few left but rather show on the sex trafficking for so does report produce much more prominent than everybody thinks you I glorify what a problem in our country and what's going on here, not people coming from other country is going on in all of our communities and well realize that the company and try to all of us do something about it was that with more information can be found on the kindness Thank you Veronica so much for being with people like you are so needed. Having the delight talking with you.

I have a feeling we could talk all day. Thank you. You also also if you guys don't get to the kindness

Any guests that we had on the show all their information will also be in God is the and thank you to Roger producer Jasper for being with us today and making the sound beautiful Robbie and his positive comments that may be negative for both Elkins or to criticism Jesse's repairable guys a Sufi or certified parable states the seeker prayed along past thinking the crippled and the beggar in the beaten and seen them. He cried great God. How is it that a loving creature can see such things and you do nothing about them.

God said, I did do something I need you in the opening chapters of the book of Genesis, Scripture tells us of the work of God that his creation with tenderness and care, day after day labors to bring forth the earth and all that is in it on the last day of creation, God takes one creature from admits the rest of the pre-and beats into the spot being God's very own breath. God's very own life. This creature Scripture tells us is in four is formed in God's very own image and likeness.

This creature is called to participate with God in the ongoing work of creation. This creature has the most special rule in the universe.

This creature is a worker that is take a moment to reflect on our call to work in what way does the work that you do support those that you care about most. In what way does your work help you to realize your full dignity and your full potential in what way does your work serve the common good. In what way is to work part of God's pulling work of creation.

What are the kind of difficult decisions that you work because you make and how does the work that you do call you to holiness when considering the great dignity and call of the human person.

Our ancestors and the fate were moved tomorrow. Let us here and there, timeless words of praise Psalm 80 Lord, are suffering, how majestic is your name in all the earth. When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars that you have established one of the human beings that your mind what then mortals take care for them. Yet you have made them all a little lower than God and crowned him with glory and

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