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How Can Multi-Generational Families Live in Peace?

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June 24, 2022 5:30 am

How Can Multi-Generational Families Live in Peace?

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It's going to be impactful for sure because you and I both know culture and America and around the world is rapidly changing.

For the last couple years but within the last year you know where anything the two year mark world faith with a virus that radically change family livelihood income cost-of-living church entirely attended church and tell all the speakers that you have one, or the culture engagements are going to be bringing Derek latest information of what's going on in her family and how can get involved getting gave an pushback on the culture trying to break down family change how we worship the Lord and how we engage in politics in general felt after EQ value care plan account.

Bring a friend or girlfriend making a girlfriend or family weekend and come you will not be playing at Kauai and excited about multi generational living and what a great topic to it is a topic that people have often asked me about, especially of the modified my children lived at home and I think about multi generational living title display is something that I family to Cairo and now I'm looking for that light apart, then talking about the Danica that you got going to something like I wide open that you can address problems before they arise back today and we kind of Park let multigenerational already is and if it could possibly work for you and your family.

They are going to be walk away, going maybe to fit for our family or maybe it's something that we need to pray about 12 Connie Conley topic in our family that usually participate in this but for those who were listening. Mr. Charlie your life is about order books and your different TV shows. Maybe some of the Dr. Phil.shows but what you mean to tell our lesser what is multigenerational living now at Corinth.

Basically, two or more generations living together and I not necessarily a mother-in-law suite often backed up merrily in the same household. Maybe sharing the same kitchen and living base.

That's really what it means then it could be something as simple as your kids living at home beyond high school.

Maybe there are college kids or their trying to get them their finances built up there living at home or it could be our elderly parents moving in with their For various reason but will discuss a little bit got to really let multigenerational family living is not uncommon and other country craft commonplace.

If you really and American to Western tradition of 18 and out, but the cultures had been doing exactly for tree Americans that have now caught on and I would say even wisely. Life got the idea that could be a really good effective way of doing life together.

Would you want to talk about this today in your trouble all over the world for a while.

We have produced as the ministries of Indian bills, mortgage is there but really since about 2011 we done a lot of work ability start 36 churches. You're exactly right. Other ethnic groups of people in other countries are typically the Filipinos are very, very family oriented know in the United States.

Like you said you 18 or 21 finish high school or later when you finish college nuclear got booted out and then they don't really reconnect in a strong way. Sometimes with her parents again. But that's not the way it is in many other countries, so that's one of the good things about legal immigration where people are, the United States is one of the good things that many of these other cultures abroad.

It is not just little things in an Hispanic Latin countries and others around the world, particularly in the South American others. There's a strong connection that your parents always tremendous influence on your life. I'm not saying that arrange marriages or that we can help modify daughter will go to Io in India laws of war there.

Many of the pastors I knew that their parents because they trusted their parents to find a godly spouse for them many times and again I'm not suggesting.don't get nervous don't start emailing me verbally that one Connie is Chris talking with and I'm not talking today about the spouses but I just think the parents had a great influenced call you. You didn't know this all share a story of the time here, but we believe this on both sides me. My kids are like yours are no longer during college, but during Kober they both came back so a family that did Nintendo necessarily, although I love Amicus back did Nintendo serve you multigenerational living in that sense both argue that he come back in many families listening. I know about what you can talk about labor. You know they faced at that when we moved to North Carolina in 2014 we knew my parents and Vicki's parents were getting older and so what we were looking for our final home. You know where we hope we would ever have to move again. We wanted a home that at some point, understanding that our parents might need to live with us basically. So was our house we live in the mountains and the mountain area.

One question on the country don't have like where you live in Florida basement that much where you live you my boat but anywhere we are glad to help you, but where we are a lot of people out basement so we found a home really blessed work basically is two houses on top of each other that there's a separate kitchen and all that downstairs in and so visual in my parents moved in, but it it created some challenges goes culturally in the United States is not traditionally I was done so we had to learn something from open today.

You can share with us where we can learn about other families. So sometimes are culture issues. How do other cultivar to live together challenge now that the trail and I think you are just mentioning how near home with that app in a certain way with house on top of the house and great example of how me that think that mindset hey there one day mom got a deliberate fact or I will have you ever had a faith for when my kids become adult maybe were trying to encourage that reletting and eating again. I don't know what our children are facing being able to afford a house corrected really difficult market and the idea of designing a home.

With that in mind is actually why it here if you could forward thinking and not because I you're setting yourself up for less complex and greater ease and maybe not such a radical change in your lifestyle because you were staying yet when your children go away.

They move out. Then like you and Becky you jump start this empty life and the life that doesn't involve your kindred and your kids agile and maybe even planning dinner there anything you what we wanted really become more and not as a family unit. But when the children come back with his many many many time the case.

The boomerang kids in shortfalls and financial issues that you now as we come back from the break.

Let's dive deeper into back nowhere up on a break right now, closer talk today about something, the audio today like you got it.

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Connie was talking about how other cultures learn to live together challenge because you tell your brother I mean I love my parents well, but you get used to your way of living in a Lumbee Grocer Does Not Used To Walk around and Were Able to Work or Your Liquids. What'd You Say That You like to Play with the Way You Dress the Way You Live in All the Food You Eat. That Was a Big Challenge This Week. Dietary Change Is Sometimes Not Only Older People with Other People Eat Differently Than You We We Try to Have Supper Together. They Were Living with Us. There A Lot Of A Lot Of Challenges Not Just Culturally but Food and Diet and You Know How Much Time There Was Nothing Connie for People and Get a Feeling for How Much Time Do You Have To Spend Your Family Unit Get to Spend Time Alone or Does Everything Have To Be Done with All Important Elements That We Need to Consider the Direction That We Feel God Calling a Limb Here and Say I Think That the Biblical Model of Family Doing Life Together. It Doesn't Mean You Can Live with You Because He Wanted Children like Failure to Launch or Anything That When We Paint a Picture for I Can As We Model What Doing Life Looks like It May Mean Your Kids Back. It Might Mean Having a Parent with with You Temporarily like I Had. I Made My Mom and Her Husband and with That When My Mother Got L and I Did That. Chris Is an Opportunity to Teach My Kids How to Honor Our Elders and How to Put Them in Scripture.

God Never Tell Them Not to Honor Their Marriage Is Government and Just Because of That Numerical Agent. We Always Honor Our Parents and Maybe Treat My Children Will That Take Place in Our Life and the Value That God Places on Our Children Not to Write to Eat and Their Endeavors or Not Everybody Has a Position on That and to Help Even Make It Work As a Another Five. All of Our Children Lived at Home after High School and Often Interviewed about This Because It Seemed so Foreign and Strange. It's like Why Did You Get to Be Allowing a Young Time to Kick the Kids Out Of Mike Got Your Goal and Your Goal Is to Get like That You so Desire That Our Desire with American You Want to Enjoy Life That Want to Go on Vacation Together Which All 10 of Us Just Went on a Vacation Together with Print Personalities and Audit Kids.

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Maybe They Don't Have a Large down Payment down There That Mom and Dad Could Be a Married Couple When You're Married, Can That They Can Think Money to Be Able to Buy Their Own Home. One Reason You Share the Car, the Burden of Homeownership Bill Maintenance Upkeep That Can Be Shared and Elderly Parents Letting the Gluttony, Yardwork, Critical They Will Do Is Maybe I Did Grocery Shopping. Or Maybe They'll Put You Prepared for It or They'll Take Care Of the Kids While the Younger Couple Are to Work and so They Provide the Child Childcare Because Childcare Has Gone through the Rate of Help. The Older Generation Not Have To Pay for Assisted Living Care Which Can Be Eaten until an Elder Care Are Parent Resources Thinking. Love through Money Quickly That If You Can Make It Work Where They Lead to Gather It There Resources or Lease Extends Them Are Greater Number of Years. Their Shared Responsibility, Bob.

Learning to Share the Responsibilities of Laundry in Upkeep and Maintenance for Really Serving Each Other and Looking for Ways to Serve Each Other the Family Closer Because I Want to Curtail the Loneliness That Has Happened over the Last Couple Years of Isolation, Anxiety, Depression Which Can Come from Being Alone in a Single Place That Hung That Bustling with People You Can Share or Even the Emotional the Physical, Spiritual Upheavals That We Have Gone through down. I Think She Knew All Five of the Kids Stayed Home after They Graduated and Attended College Thing That's for Everyone That We Wanted Our Children to Get through College Debt-Free and If You Put the Clock on Spreadsheet Numbers Don't Lie and It Afforded My Children, Even Though All of Them Had Academic Scholarship.

It Afforded Them the Ability to Graduate College Debt-Free with Money in the Bank and Then Not Lend Itself toward Purchasing a Homework or Buying a Better Car Than the Beer Car That They Had Going into College and Also Gave an Opportunity for Conversation so There Only Two of the Blessings That Come When You Choose to Embrace That Kind of Lifestyle, but It Might That Chris the Mindset of Hate. We Know There's Going to Be A Lot Of Give-And-Take and I Felt I Would Play As We Come Back from the Brakes. I Know You're Coming up on a Break Here in Just A Few Minutes and I Want You to Interject That Week We'll Talk about There I Get the Advantages There Are Things You Work through in Order for It to Work Cut Eligibility. I Want to Do Again Because Some of Those Issues of One Is to Just Get past Those Good People Are Living with This Is Becoming More Common in You.

You Have Experience of It. Experience Maybe They Can Work Some of the Things That We Learned from Travail Make My Maybe the Same Mistakes. There Is so Important. You're Just Occurring to Our Parents. I Don't Want to Go to a Nursing Home. They Would Rather Be with Family and No That's Not Always Possible, but There Are Challenges You Know so Maybe Is Your Luck with Vicki Here We Were a Military Family Coming off of Our Last Assignment so We Were Looking for All, Not Everybody's Will Be Looking for All, but If You Are You to Be Think about Even Younger People Think That They're Moving to Their Firmer Home One Day You Probably Could Have Kids like You Said You When They Go to College That Will Be Sure Bedroom after an and They Want a Certain Level of Privacy You Might Be Faced in the End, I'm Thankful That More American Families Start to Begin to Take Care Of the Parents. You Might like Waterloo Signal and Are Somewhat like Connie Said It's Expensive to Send Somebody and You're Probably Going Yo Your Parents May Not Be Owed by Force. That Means You Might Have To Pay for What Might Be Much Cheaper Just to Bite the Bullet. Maybe a Two or $300 Electronic Curricular and yet with Richard $300 a Month Now Is A Lot Cheaper Than Paying No Seven 8000 Which Really Can't Be That Much More Stuff for Nursing Home Care down the Line If You Plan Ahead and Get a Home yet.

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My Expectations Were Different for My Adult Kids Only Work for 10 or 11-year-old Yo Lately, You Know You're in College in Yosemite or Prison Living Overall Paying Their Bills on Me and I Expect You to Wash Close Lunch but You Wash Dishes You Need Help Clean the House Year This Is Your House. You Might Need to Mow the Grass with the Expectation Level and You Feel about That. Connie but I Feel like You Need to Be Little You Need to Act like an Adult. I Will Have Your I'm Trying to. It Was about Being Mean or That It Won't Do Those Duties but They Need to Learn the Responsibility As an Adult Because at Some Point the Organ Wants to Start Doing More Detail You Feel about the Lately and When You Children Get Married or Even If They Have a Roommate That Want to Live with Blonde Want to Have To Get up in the Morning and Go to Kitchenette Wash Their Roommate or Their Spouses Dirty Dishes before They Even Start Getting Her Morning Coffee Really Chris Martin Being Considered.

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You Know, and so Unimportant That That the Privacy Issue Is You Need to Establish the Boundary Is Controlling the Remote and Get to Be in the Kitchen. The Kitchen like a 24 Seven Kitchen and There's Always Something Happening with Dirty Dishes. Is There a Time Where You Help Mom and Dad. If You're Married If You're Single or Single Times Were You Just Your Own Faith and That Kind of Thing Have To Be Discussed and and Work through a Common Agreement Needs to Be Made during Your College Kids, Your Adult Children. Are You Married Children, It Might Be Letting the Time. Just Them and Just Being Aware That Other People Have Certain Needs Are Provided for Quiet My Content Noise and Chaos in Your Home.

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Then I Did Not Take Too Many Late Nights for Them to Realize I Finally Shut the Client Something Improbable on the There Is Some Natural Consequence for Life like Our Curfew and It Was and It Was a Reasonable Curfew for a College Age and Again Because Were Not Forcing You to Lick Were Helping You Your and Invited Valuable Part to Our down and I Don't Stay up All Night Long, nor Do We Get out. Well Actually Do Get out the Five in the Morning, but I Don't Go I Don't Get the Five in the Morning and Wander around down the Hall with the Pot and Banging It That I Can Make Everybody out at Work. So We Want to Be Mindful of What Their Needs Are like I Care Your Sweet Daughter Would like Nerve. What What Her Dad Expectation. I Think That's Something We Want to Talk about Economy That Management Expectation Established That the Rules for the Most Part, like What Are the Rules and Boundaries within Us That That When That Child Does Move out for When We Are Situation Changes Our Relationship Stronger and Not Fractured so Important Because We Do Have the Continuing Even a Closer Relationship with. But That Relationship Was Completely Different. As You Become Oakley Friends with Your Kids about You and, Very Successful at Making That Happen. Well, It's Just Not Being Able to Share Artwork and the Only Way, or Maybe Even the Right Way That I Want to Invite Parent to Consider the Option.

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You can make it work and it can be beautiful experience doesn't mean it's easy, but as you know, as a married couple learn to guide yourself, you can't live nor anyone on we are really serve the other thing that doesn't mean the doormats and that doesn't need to be taken advantage of, you know, are you dealt with kids living at home doesn't mean they should do all the work and yet we can fit around no were now transferring that responsibility because we are all adults and we do have different habits and routines and preferences, your daughter, she quietly she got a study and if she were to be living at home is artwork I had found that he is a crime they couldn't study without it and send me a could not deal with a lot of people facing they were given not something that we had to intentionally and I think that the thing a quick note that the next segment. Now what does that look like when you have to give Nathan defer to your own wants and preferences and when you need healing for thought here want contracting because either or not totally right or totally wrong if not wrong to voice your need not fear adult children or even your parents voice mercy of the family room right knee and low teacher organization or individual life can be difficult for the energizer current situation is socially new graphics cards give us a call today at 704-4242 crowded with viewpoints voice condition after a set of financial problems.

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How do you negotiate some of these things, you were talking about figured out how to make it work order. Some of the things you suggest. Okay the first thing I think that that's an area if something happened if you get your feelings that you got got up earlier if someone get their feelings hurt because let's say you are very adamant extrovert and I live in a home that introvert so my desire to wake up in the morning is genuinely wanted everybody and say good morning. How is your body deplete what you think you look like I live with 1/2 I lived. I called my kids that one, and even my husband.

They wake up in the morning and they don't want to, they certainly don't want to discuss their day.

They need time, you have to be aware that you got got each person knee like a true meeting and where can we get a morning go with it, just say good morning mom.

What are you doing today humor me on all that takes is a little bit of awareness and conversation, you might look at the scenario transcendent how we going to resolve them. I don't advise brushing it under run you we don't want to die. Leaders thought we also don't want to verbalize everything that comes into our mind and let it come out her mouth like Peter, we want praying and pray and ask the Lord to help find areas that community find areas that togetherness find areas where we need to be sensitive to the needs of other ethical principle something new. It laid out in Scripture, we want to find Catholic expectations are and and if you got elderly parents. What are the expectations well that year elderly parent. As I and you have probably experienced it can be very demanding and extremely time-consuming, they can now require you to be with them and talk with the applicant got work to do. My husband and I both work out of our home have a conversation I had to have them with my mom that I wasn't always available that I have to have block block right had to get work done and I would let them know ahead of time to plan for my week. I won't be able to be with you on this day because I will be traveling or iPad. But I will be back here and I will take you to the doctor. I will be the only hearing me play me how to set does expectations and lay them out and then confidently work on tweaking them which take note intentionality and I do want you all only do your laundry like your bedsheet or your laundry is going to take care of the laundry that that happened just from doing life together in one home near the kitchen counter that with Vista lock or following well that's that Sheridan and we discussed that we realize.

Note the community and were going to pitch in sometime. Mom and dad are super strength there any whoever letting Eric. I pictured maybe a picture elderly They're doing and their contribution and bikers, and their current when your kids like your daughter is under the gun with colic like if it's finals week, I would intentionally have food available to me. I made breakfast lunch and dinner if I knew they were specifically stressed, mainly important to test taking skills, general healthcare brain function make sure I would build back into my day one gray allow grace and patience from the long way and remembering your way some people have members that are right they thought it through and the right way and their living with people that well that's your way. That's not mine and that doesn't mean we're talking about relativity. We hear to be flexible and realizing that that is probably the right way to change a tire by other people might do it a little differently and a tire will change or the yard will still get motor all the different things that we have to do the deal and some kid wanted to make it fine and others wanted to get it done that we have to remind each other the Comdata different unique gift strength and talent and that each of us contribute something to the overall health and well-being of our family. Are you covered your above Chris is that I think what he so go bucket River want to cover some of the things you start just spoke to something you do have to think about before you going on appeal of something like economy so much. Your responsibilities of spewed cilantro much in trouble.

The show is ushered through those years and Georgie are on you every week you your mama really control but usually just like you I get by with them among the with the kids in laundry, for example, what you said it made sometimes college kids don't think well know other people house of dirty laundry, but I don't have support writing. I told my wash my clothes you my opinion is approaches if you will fill the wash machine water you ask your people might have somebody to be washed to so that simple communication of the water to become an issue does about the somebody might have emerged to the needs of the working class or school or whatever name was dishes and cooking with my parents. My mom is a great cook and I want my kids to have the chance to experience your demos about saying ridiculous thing about things you can't cook and I certainly took all the great cook you in the end.

So when they moved and that was a way I felt like my mother tribute but would be a blessing you to my kids because they get to see that.

I think you know, you know that I think about food all the time. Theology allowed Cook to make cooking the food is a social thing it's a you all of heaven. 70 people jerked them over which gears review the social thing for me, but also your work himself. A lot of southern traditions and foods are being lost and and so I wanted just to know what real homemade biscuits a flight out of prison. Llamas indicated that we did we do that you wanted. My mom asked me biscuits to make great gravy. Those are things you need the Lord are not difficult with this is cool so I wanted you like it or how to cook some food stuff. So when my parents gave us one thing that I have to smoke did you cook supper so that was your like you said, reset expectations, but Connie what happened was there came a point where that was really beginning to be too much for her. No lien and we didn't necessarily coming to your cooking for six people. She had some health issues and so you be sensitive to those things even if you set expectations. My mom loves the two have flowers or weed before labor came to be designated in the know who this is your you do anything you want this to show your you really do other things but were not going to mess with this you can dig it up, put our buildable waterfall.

I don't care. This is your and you can do anything you want there in a theater so a lot of men and women like the gardener, no ideological tomatoes and stuff so we we preset that it was difficult because I don't know that they ever we wanted them to feel at home, but I don't know you in their mind. Sometimes I didn't feel like they do certain things so you need to try to make it what it is good a job like that. I think sometimes of exploiting of this is new home for every don't want you to be a would you want, but what torture you want to hear remodel what you want to remodel Autocare you can do anything you want another just for much for people to learn you were talking about how you like to get up early in just know that they got shooting by Kingdom Hall about lying down this at the said there still many areas we could have gone deeper and I know parents and and your listeners probably are having more questions than answers.

And it lets you know more and I'd encourage them to reach out to the shelling we can maybe I can wrap it up with need to honor others and their differences may not the biblical mandate anyway to make multigenerational living work want the key element there in October has been going in that you would like to see me change or just wait work likable week flexible common courtesy to other people. We would do it for the neighbor we can get with each other.

And lastly got to decide on an exit strategy. Because sometimes it doesn't work and always take the younger kids like college or young married or living with you. We want to always remind each other that this doesn't permit situation and if it stops working will make will make a change. You can move out or will move mom and dad somewhere else that now this.

For the season. This is what God is called you how were going to live life and work will change that beauty on choosing to embrace multigenerational living environment here for a while till they write 24, 25 years old and Chris. They all gave me about. And like change mother lived here and the mother lived out that thing for your family.

We are fluid our families are fluid and we want to add the collateral as the needs and our families grow and mature for her pointy mood.

I just want to stress that a strategy needs to be handled carefully because feelings can get her going. People move out, and probably end up back together again, you're still family you need to be careful and have lots of communication always love each other.

Love God put God first ever to be an issue. Connie what a great show as always you just know so much. Posted you can go to Connie I is so much greater buzz was her podcast every Wednesday. There's a newer release equipped to be working on another book is just fine doing. This is a test you was going Christian perspective. Learn more about impacting the culture for Jesus.

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