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What Can Families Do to Create Memories This Summer?

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June 17, 2022 5:30 am

What Can Families Do to Create Memories This Summer?

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June 17, 2022 5:30 am

It is Family Friday and Connie Albers shares fun activities that families can do to grow closer this summer.

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Hello and welcome to Christian Perspective. It's Family Friday, and of course, every Friday, we have the wonderful Connie Alberts with us as the co-host. And I look forward to these days so much because Connie does a wonderful job of addressing issues that we face in our families each and every day. And we all have issues in our family.

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So visit mabts.edu. Well, Connie, there's so much going on, and hey, before we get into this, because I haven't had a chance to talk to you, so we're going to do this for the whole world. You're now, at this point, about a couple of weeks into being a grandmother, and I know for months you would get me so excited every time we talked, because you were so looking forward to it, and it seemed like that rascal would never get here. And now you're a grandmother, and you're about a couple weeks into it.

How's it going? Oh my goodness, you get me started, and that'll be the whole show, Chris. He's adorable.

You could gobble him up. He's so cute, and it is just delightful. You know, it's interesting, because now I'm looking at this child with a greater sense of, I've got to do more.

I've always been engaged, as you know, on the fight, and fighting for families, and trying to do what I can, you know, in my race, in my lane, doing what I can do. Oh my goodness, but just looking at that precious, innocent little face that is trusting his parents and those around him to protect him, and help him to feel safe and secure. And frankly, right now, that's weighing on parents' hearts. You know, what are, what's my kid going to face? What is it going to be like?

How are we going to live in a society where you don't even know what to say anymore about anything? So it's got me fired up because I am a grandmother, but fired up because there's more we need to do, Chris, and that's what we're doing at The Christian Perspective. It's what we're doing when we're out on the road, and we're hosting events, and we're speaking all over the place, and that's sticking that hand out, stretching it back for those folks coming behind us, saying, what do I do? Where's the guidebook?

Where's the roadmap? Where's the five simple steps and the six easy lessons? And we're able to say, here, we can, we'll help you.

Here's some tools and tips, not, not tactics and hacks and simple strategies, but really things you can use from God's Word and from years of wisdom and actually living. There's much to be said, in my opinion, Chris, about traveling down the road and being able to look and say, you know, if you go left here or if you go right, you might hit a dead end. You might wish you would have turned the other way or just gone straight. So it's the most amazing thing, but it has certainly made me even more aware of the need for what we're doing. So I'm just going to be curious to say, I know you say there's more of a need, but I'm going to be curious to see if you curb back that unreal speaking schedule. I thought I traveled a lot. You're worse than me. And I don't mean that in a bad way.

I mean, just, I don't know how you keep going. You're like the energizer buddy, but now that your grandma will be curious to see if you stay home or if you're, but you also have this burning desire in your heart to help other parents and grandparents. I'm going to be watching to see how that works out. And I can't wait. Well, Connie, as we go into summer, you know, a lot of families, school is now out, I think, for most places across the country. And as we look at summer, we've got to readjust now, the kids are finally going back to school after COVID.

And we had to deal with all that. And now they're going to be home and away from their friends. How do we fight to keep our families together this summer as the kids are coming back home from school?

You know, that's a great question. I did a segment recently for a news outlet, and we were talking about different activities that families can do. And Chris, I just, it made me think about you, you and your daughter, because your daughter's getting actually ready to go off. And most families, their kids are coming back.

So I mean, some are sending off, some are coming back. But you, you were a great example with you and your daughter, you went hiking, you spent, you were intentional and purposeful about spending quality time with her going hiking, doing some doing activities that she enjoyed. I tell us what you did, as you were preparing in some ways for your daughter to go off.

And the reason I twisted it like that, Chris, is because I want you to emphasize the intentionality of what you did. Yeah. So I mean, the same would be you, even if she was staying here, but in my case, you know, and if y'all listen to the show enough, you know, that Holman is already out of high school, she's gone to college and got her master's degree, she's getting ready to join the military. And I'm big on memories. I mean, Dickie and I, I don't know, four or five years before they graduated from high school kind of shifted. And instead of buying things, like at Christmas and our holidays, Connie, we, we wanted to create memories, I wanted our kids to have happy memories of growing up. And I mean, like all families, certainly there were times our families were, you know, there was transition, particularly because Vicki was in the Air Force, the kids had to move, you know, I think they went to 10 or more schools as they were growing up. And we didn't want it, their memories of their life together to be, you know, bad. And so when my daughter entered high school, we moved to one place and we were not going to, Vicki retired from the Air Force.

And I shifted my work where we could be at one place where they wouldn't have to move anymore. And we just wanted to do things to create memories together and try to do fun things together. So like you're saying, and for the past couple of weeks, because she just graduated from school and is only home for about two and a half weeks before she goes to her military service. So I wanted to try to pick some of the things that used to be our thing. And every week when she was in high school, Connie, we would on Saturdays, go to the local farmers market.

And this was something that wasn't daddy's time with mom, wasn't daddy's time with Christian. This was something that just she and I did. And she really looked forward to it.

And it took me a while to figure that out, just because I'm so slow, Connie. Yeah, I finally realized that that was something that she liked doing. And then another thing that we used to do when she was in high school was we live right off the Blue Ridge Parkway. So there are hiking trails everywhere, and there are waterfalls and a lot of neat things to do just outside. And so we would go on a regular basis, you know, as I said, probably two or three times a week where we would go on a hike, there's a place that we called it our meadow, where we would sneak through somebody's cow pasture and get to this other place on up on kind of a ridge on top a ridge on top of a mountain.

And somebody years ago, you know, probably somebody had a house or something at one time, you know, 100 years ago, but they cleared an area off up on top of this hill. And so there's grass, you know, about waist high, because I'm short, you know, knee high for the rest of y'all. But for me, there's just this area where you can have, you know, we can have a picnic or just put a blanket down or take one of the dogs. And that was just always our special thing. And that was our thing that we would do. Well, we haven't done it in ages. And so yesterday, Connie, she came upstairs and said, Hey, you want to go on a hike?

Well, this fat boy is out about died yesterday, Connie, what you wanted to hear. She didn't say let's go to the meadow. No, there's this place called the Boone port trail. It's off in the Blue Ridge Parkway. It's a five mile hike. Now it's not just like walking five miles along a park. It was crossing rivers and streams and climbing up and down these rock ledges and and I I'm hurting today, Connie, but I wouldn't trade it for anything because memories happen when you go do things like that.

And I mean, you don't have to go hike on a mountain where our listeners are. But what are things that are special between you and your kids? And because of what I know, so hopefully she won't listen to this and figure out my strategy is, you know, I know she's stressed because she's fixing to go on that into officer training school in the Air Force and she's scared about what's going to happen. She's anxious about going to medical school in the fall. I know that these things have been bothering her, but she hasn't really talked about it. But when we get away about 30 minutes into one of these hikes, she loosens up and then she starts to talk. And, you know, so that's good because I want her to have the opportunity to ask me questions. And and I'm trying I'm not always as good as I should be, Connie, about keeping my mouth shut. But I'm trying to learn as my kids get older to not offer advice unless it's asked.

And then, you know, try to be careful to help guide them, you know, let them still be decision makers and learn how to make decisions. But they're just, you know, whether it's the farmers market or going hiking or road trips to different places. A few weeks ago, I went to visit her before she graduated and she was going to school in Baltimore and not far away is I don't know if you've ever been to Lancaster, Pennsylvania. One of my favorite places in the world. There's a big Amish community there.

And if you are listening and you don't know the Amish people don't use electricity and they don't use cars, they ride horse and buggy or bicycles and, you know, kind of like it was maybe 200 years ago. And so I took her there and try to create memories. And I do this a lot in summer. I mean, other people I think are critical sometimes of the things that we do.

And it's a little more difficult now because gas is more expensive. But every summer I make a list. And as you said, being intentional about doing things is I'll do wherever we're going to be based.

And again, we're different because the kids are going to school different places. So I might have to go visit where they are or Vicki and I will, but I'll do searches. So for example, when Holman was in Baltimore, I would search on Google, which anybody can do free day trips from Baltimore.

So I, you know, I didn't have the money. I like maybe some of our other listeners to maybe spend the night somewhere. But there are a lot of places, Connie, that you can go that are absolutely free and within an hour or two of where you live. I think about like in Florida, where you live, there's so many cool places in Florida that the average person never thinks about going.

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For a free transcript, call American Minute at 1-888-USA-WORD. Welcome back to Christian Perspective. I'm Chris Hughes and Connie Albers is here with me this family Friday. I got to talk to them. I think Connie hates that. Oh, I love it.

Our listeners love it, too. Sharing your stories, but we're talking about summer and things that you can do with your family to help keep everybody together. And so, parents, I would encourage you to try to be intentional and put a little thought into things that you want to do this summer. I was sharing before the break that every summer I make a list. It's harder now because my kids are all going to be gone here in a couple of weeks as they get older, you know, they start to move away.

But as I shared with Connie, I want to create memories and times when they can look back and remember that we did fun things as a family and just give them a chance to, you know, be alone with me and share and talk things in with Vicki as well. And so, I look for things to do every summer. And I just Google like day trips from where we are.

And you would be amazed. Now, I live in a cool place in the mountains, so there's, you know, a hundred hikes that I could do. And there's waterfalls all over within a couple hours or trout fishing or we were talking about inner tubing before the break. And y'all, no matter where you live, I guarantee you there are some really cool and off the wall things that you can do. Connie, did you and Tom do those kind of things in the summer?

Yeah, actually, I just recapping for your listeners, those points are spot on. The first thing that you do when you're getting ready to enter your holiday, your summer or your holiday season breaks is you schedule daily activities. You know, your kids are away.

So, it's a little harder for you. Ours are all really close to us here in the city that we live in. So, they're all, somebody's popping in our house all the time. And that, but when the kids are younger and you said create, define, I always say create defining moments. Those defining moments become lasting memories. And you were talking about, I want to make memories with my kids. Well, if we're not intentional, then you know what happens? We get busy.

The tyranny of the urgent, so to speak. But you need to schedule some daily activities that fit the needs within your budget, your time and your location. So, when we start out to do that, Chris, I always encourage parents, get your kids involved. You made a comment, you know, you and Helman, you weren't hiking, but that your son is not as big so much.

If you have a large family like I do, you try to change it up a little bit. Some kids love the outdoors. Some kids love board games. Some kids love water.

Some kids love hiking. They all don't like the same things, but we're talking about building a family and learning that we're going to defer this time. We're going to do this next week or next Saturday or Wednesday. We're going to do this and we'll do it as a family or in your case, if it's like your children are, it's harder to get with them. You say, you know what, every Tuesday we're going to have, we're going to go for a walk. We're going to go get ice cream. We're going to go shopping for a little bit of time, but you want to schedule activities.

There's something that happens to our children, Chris. When they know that something is being planned, it gives them something to look forward to instead of spur of the moment, which some kids don't like spur of the moment. They're your planners. They're your organizers. They want to know what's coming. And for them, honestly, the expectation of how fun it's going to be is better than the actual day because that lead up to the event is what they get excited about. I know, right? I think I know you. And yet others are, Hey, fly by the seat of the pants.

We don't have anything scheduled tonight. Let's go see Maverick or let's go see, you know, a movie or, you know, go have ice cream or do something like that, but it lets your kids know what's coming. And it also lets them feel valued and that they have worth that you're taking time to ask them and include them in what the family is going to do. There's a, there's a bond that happens and that's beyond that bond is even in addition to the intentionality of creating defining moments. So those are super important and you gotta be thoughtful about it.

You know, you, you've got to keep your kids ages, their interests, their, their ability, like you were talking about hiking. Well, you know, how maybe you didn't need to worry about how men available. I say her condition, but she was probably worried about you. Okay. How much farther can I take that before he croaks? Well, we were stuck. I mean, once we were committed and about two miles into it and, and, and I am always very, very, the one time I broke my rule because I've tried to teach that because to always be prepared. So for all these years, I've always cared like a backpack or something. I'd have like a raincoat, a hat, you know, water and food.

I didn't take anything yesterday and two miles into the five mile in the middle of the woods. And there was no, I mean, you were committed in one way or the other at that point, it started pouring down. Right. So it creates more memories. Hey, so I've got some things. I don't know that you really want to go here. You want me to share some, I was just writing out some ideas of things families could do this summer. Well, sure. I, I have, I, I wrote down. You do puzzles.

Okay. Well, I just, so I think I wrote down, do puzzles together on those rainy days where you can't get out or those super hot days. Cause I'm down in Florida, do puzzles, do go, go and scavenger hunt in your own yard, pick things or in your neighborhood and go on a scavenger hunt. Do, which is probably, you're going to love, do some cooking activities. Chris, you're an amazing cook. And how do we keep, how do we pass that wonderful skills and talents that we have along? Well, we use, we do that in the summer when we have more time, we can do neighborhood game days or put on a play for the neighbors and, and invite them to come along and be part of our family and get to know them and let them get to know you a little bit.

What do you have on your list? I'm writing more cause you're giving me ideas. When you were talking about neighborhood, we live on a coldest side, but we used to do it and we haven't done this in a year or so. We might need to do this every summer. We would invite everybody on our street to come down and we would just cook hot dogs and just to get to know your neighbors.

I bet a lot of people don't really know the neighbors or the people on the street and old fashioned street party might be something fun for people to do. You mentioned cooking. So this is something, again, my son's not that into it, although as he's gotten older, now that he's got to cook for himself, he's more interested in learning how to cook. But something Haman and I do, she loves watching the Food Network and there's a show called Chopped. I don't know if you've ever seen it, Connie, where basically these aspiring young chefs come in and they're given a basket of really weird ingredients and they have to use those ingredients to cook different dishes.

So something Haman likes to do is we'll get mom and Christian. So even though Christian doesn't like to cook, he likes being involved in making it difficult. So on Chopped, they come up with ingredients that you wouldn't use normally or take this frozen TV dinner and turn it into some kind of gourmet meal or whatever. And it doesn't have to be expensive.

I mean, I'm just using that. So you can have the family come up with some weird ingredient and then you go to Walmart and buy it and have a cooking night, I'm swallowing even thinking about this, where you cook things. It's just a lot of what we do is centered around food. Another thing we do, fun with food, and a lot of people out there listening, Connie, have these, I guess you call it flat griddle. You know how it's a flat thing you have on the countertop, you plug it in and you can make pancakes and stuff on it. And so a pastor friend of ours years ago when we lived in Hawaii invited us over to dinner.

And we did this with the kids periodically when they were in high school and they loved it. We love going to Japanese steakhouse, but sometimes that can be expensive and you can't afford to go to a Japanese steakhouse. So what these missionaries did for us, they invited us over and they had one of those flat griddles and they had a little bowl with like raw onions or cut up zucchini or yellow squash, and maybe a bowl with shrimp or pork or chicken, whatever.

You can afford different kinds of meat and different kinds of vegetables. And they set it in the middle of the table. We used to do with the kids. So we'd have these bowls of ingredients and everybody could cook on that flat iron thing on the table, what they wanted to eat.

So it was like having your own Japanese steakhouse at home, but much, much cheaper because we use ingredients that we could afford. Yeah. And I stole that from missionaries. So that's something fun. You know, just about everybody listening, Connie, can have a bonfire at their homes.

And so I'm going to share the secret and we'll have to take a commercial break. I don't know. So this is something you can do with your family. Did y'all ever do bonfires when you were growing up Connie or with your kids?

Uh, weekly. Okay. So, you know, you can do s'mores. Everybody does s'mores or, or I love grilling hot dogs. And part of what I do with the kids is I would make them, you know, cause with my daughter, you know, she wants everything clean, but no, we would go pick a stick. Uh, you know, we'd go to the woods and pick a stick and I teach them how to carve a little point on the stick and she would have to cook it on her stick.

But here's something that I bet most listeners have never done. And then with that good commercial break is, um, you know, the little Smokies that you can buy, they're like miniature sausages. They call them little Smokies at the grocery store. You know, there might be too much of long roll sausages that you get like at cocktails.

Okay. Buy some of those and then buy a package of canned biscuits. And then if you go like to Lowe's or home Depot, they have what's called dowels, which is just a long stick. Now again, I'm the redneck and me is like, just go pick a stick out of the yard, but maybe some of y'all are very sanitized and clean that we're listening and you want to use something different than a stick in the yard.

You can go for less than a dollar, probably a buy a dowel is what it's called, which is a long stick at your home improvement store. You build a bonfire in your backyard. Of course you safety and Connie, what you do is you take a can biscuit out of the container and you wrap the biscuit around the end of that stick and you cook the biscuit over the fire and it'll cook.

Oh, okay. That's a great idea. And so then when you cook the stick over the fire, you pull this, you pull it off the stick. And then now you have a biscuit that is cooked with a hole in it. And you take that little smoky sausage and you stick it in the hole. And they're not all sugar high.

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It's Chris Hughes. Connie Albers is with me today. Connie's going to hate me because she got me talking about food and hiking and I have dominated the conversation. We're talking about things to do this summer Connie and what we can do to keep our family together. What are some other things that you'd recommend that we do this summer to build memories and to help our family grow closer? You know it's funny when we our kids were all growing up one of the things we did is we we bought a boat and some friends of ours bought a boat. You know kids love to be with their friends. They love to be they're relational. I mean Chris we're relational.

That's the way God made us to be. So we got a boat. Some of our friends got boats and we would go every single weekend or a few nights during the week after you know after work. We would go out on a lake. I live in Florida so there's lots of lakes to choose from and we would just go tubing or the kids would learn to ski or wakeboard. It didn't have to be long. Now that was back when prices weren't so exciting and prices weren't so expensive with gasoline but my point in doing that was it was something our kids really started to look forward to.

No one wanted their devices. One they would get wet and ruined and two they've missed out on the fun of their turn being in the water or multiple kids being on a big old float in the water and making those memories. Of course we want whatever it is Chris. We want to make it fun. It may not be side splitting but we want to make it fun.

Everything's not a life application. Everything isn't a teaching opportunity although we want to make a met Chris and I know you want to. You know you want to point out all the things that we that we can teach our kids through this activity. We need to step back from that during these particular activities unless our kids invite us into those private thoughts they feel they're having their fears or maybe their dreams and when you're hiking like you and Halman were or you're out on the boat or we're on a bike ride we we love very long bike rides as a family and of course when you have seven people on a bike that's that's its own little tour right there. So we had our own bicycling thing but they they have shared experiences and it's those shared experiences that they remember and they talk about and now when our kids get together there is not an opportunity there's not a time we get together that partly they're making fun of me you know oh yeah remember that time mom did blah or yeah remember that time when we were out and we got down poured on or remember that time even the mishaps the glitches the not perfect moments those are memory makers they're the things they laugh about and talk about and you know Chris I there's a poem I always share when I'm speaking and it talks about a grown-up son and it's a great reminder that the season we're living in is a short one as you know if you think about your kids from the first like first year like birth to say four years they really don't have memory of much I mean you're they don't know anything and you're they all they know is they're hungry they're tired just like my little grandbaby he's tired he's hungry he needs a nap or he needs his diaper changed I mean there's not a whole lot that's going on besides he's growing and forming and shaping and that continues for the first several years and then when they hit like 15 16 well they should be working you know going to school doing part-time work summer jobs and you don't have as much time with them so Chris we really only have like say four to fourteen four to fifteen that's 11 years 11 years will we have that's 11 summers and when we think about wow and when we think about wow that's only 11 summers that's three months three months of 11 I mean that's all we have and then it gets more difficult to be with our children and make those memories so my that was always my point and purpose is I wanted our kids to experience FOMO fear of missing out when they heard that the outbursts were getting together nobody wanted to miss it because it was bound to be eventful whether it was a fun event or a fun event gone awry that turned out to be funny after everything was fixed but whatever it was we wanted when we said hey like now the kids are all grown but we have Taco Tuesday there's a Mexican restaurant we love to go to and we just say 6 30 you know this restaurant show up if you can everybody will alter their schedule to get there because we did the work going into this season when they were little the boating the hiking the going to the beach the taking camping trips and RVing you know we rented an RV and traveled the country one summer we spent the summer doing that it was magnificent our kids still talk about it so we want to we want to be intentional and make a schedule Chris we want to make it fun we want to encourage that thoughtful playtime of being explorers and adventurers and risk takers and we want to remember that when we give them those times those activities those are our opportunity to reinforce the life skills we've been teaching them through book work so we know they've been learning certain things through school we're going to take a break and see how that's applied to real life you know they read about something you go see it like when your family was in Hawaii you know they don't they they've been there up in there I I've seen you know I've seen a volcano I've seen north shore I've seen all that those are those are some of my thoughts and and those memories will stick with them forever you know like you said your kids they'll get together they're adults and they get together I bet on Tuesday nights and y'all still talk about those things that y'all did as a family and had fun so folks if you listen I just encourage you to put some thought as Connie said in the beginning of the show to be intentional it doesn't have to be expensive I know that times are rough normally and certainly right now with the price of gas and food there's so many things that you can do that are fun and and cheap you don't have to even go anywhere you can create particularly with younger kids you can create adventures in your own home you you mentioned um my mind my mind's going blank Connie um you talked about um hunt scavenger hunt that's the word I'm looking for I'm looking for scavenger hunt that you can do in your yard absolutely free and I know one time years ago my son Christian loved pirates like I don't know if you remember the old um now I'm just brain dead when you get old this happens the Captain Jack series uh you know Jack Sparrow who was he was on Disney and he loved Captain Jack so I know one time I don't remember what it was I hid something in the yard and created a treasure map and you know they would have to find this one thing to find a clue uh to something else and things like that are absolutely free another thing that you can do Connie is um like Hobby Lobby or Michael's the different craft stores we have a Hobby Lobby where I live and I love them just because they're such a strong Christian company and uh you know their family are the ones who founded the Museum of the Bible in Washington D.C. so I love supporting them and helping them but Hobby Lobby in our store and I bet if you have one in your area one they're not that expensive anyway and if you watch there's a rhythm where they have certain things on sale on a regular basis but in our store back in the back they have a clearance area where they're just about giving stuff away and um with my teenagers I didn't know how this was going to go over so when it's an off season like now a while back I found a little uh like plaster nativity set for like an hour or something I mean there were these little tiny little uh figurines and and uh they had a little water or a watercolor paint set I guess and yeah it was watercolor with it so I bought four of those for our family and at first I got just a tad of pushback in the beginning but I put newspapers down over the table and said okay after supper we're going to do something we had a craft time where everybody had to paint their nativity set and so that forced us to be together for about an hour and even though the teenagers blocked at it in the beginning later on uh they started to enjoy it and now you know Christmas they want to see their nativity sets out you know Christian made his I'll just say his was unique and different but uh I think he did that to see to see if I would push back on him but but little memories there are things like you're saying that don't cost much where we want to be intentional and try to create memories memories memories with our family and fun fun times and even if those parents are working like you said we don't have much time Connie we've got to find the time uh to carve out time to be intentional with that time uh to schedule things and and it's funny in our case don't check another commercial break through you talked a while ago about scheduling my daughter Holman wants everything everything scheduled and and she looks forward as you said to the anticipation for weeks she wants to know where we're going when we're going and it's almost to a fault uh Christian on the other hand he doesn't want he's like don't send me a calendar invite I don't want to know what's on the calendar I hear about the calendar just tell me where we're going and we're going so two different kids which makes it uh really difficult so for Holman I mean if I do if I don't have something if we don't do something that I said we were going to do she has difficulty with that and he on the other hand he doesn't want to do anything uh that's that's pre-scheduled let's take a quick break we'll come back Connie we're talking more about summer and and so I'm going to let you give us some more specific things as we close out in this final segment of things that we can do to keep our families together this summer folks if we're going to do more with this perspective after this one a brand is a design name symbol or any other feature that sets an organization or individual apart bringing that 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generous joe's dot org and even subscribe to a subscription coffee plan and never forget the coffee you love or the causes you care about do you desire to build family relationships that stand the test of time does creating a godly family seem like a daunting challenge you're not alone i'm connie yaupers author of parenting beyond the rules and host of equipped to be as a mother of five i understand your struggles for 35 years i have been helping families just like yours build lasting relationships i'd like to invite you to tune in to equipped to be and visit connieaubers.com where i share useful tips and proven strategies to help you navigate the seasons of motherhood faith and life with confidence and joy the united states of america has a strong christian heritage but most americans don't know the truly important role that god in the bible played in the founding of this great nation this june joined nationally syndicated radio host and founder of the citizens for america foundation dr chris hughes for four amazing days in our nation's capital with chris you'll embark on a journey of discovering the hidden secrets of washington dc and rediscover much of america's forgotten christian heritage your tour will include an up close and personal look at the nation's establishment and how it's evolved over the centuries learn about the government and the men who helped forge this new kind of republic one that acknowledged the creator from its very inception know the truth about the creation of the united states of america about the faith of the founding fathers and how christian principles were used to establish this form of government visit citizens for america foundation.com today and secure your spot to join chris hughes in washington dc this june welcome back to the christian perspective i'm chris hughes honey i was if you're with me today like she is every friday honey just gives us great ideas of things that we can do to build our family unit and gives us great parenting and grandparenting advice and today we're just having kind of a simple fun conversation because we've now entered the summer season and you know kids have been away to school some of them are still going to be working this summer and we're talking about things that we can do to keep our families together this summer connie what are some of the things that you and time because i know y'all both worked what were some of the things that y'all did to try to intentionally create memories when your kids were younger well like i said we did bike rides we would just hop on the bike and we would go for miles and miles if there were little ones they'd be in the cars you know on the little bike seat and i'd be toting one and tom would be toting another we were mission-minded meaning we wanted to bring our neighbor kids to be part of our family we wanted to be able to love on them we want to be able to show them you know what what our family stood for and what our values were about and unfortunately a lot of families don't want kids at their house they break things they're messy they eat you out of house and home and so we would just open our home and in the evenings we would have neighborhood kickball tournaments and we would have basketball competitions in the street and you know we'd have the kids be on different teams because all the neighbors wanted to be there again we are trying to build a relationship with our kids and one of the best ways is to include their friends in that journey we would and and we would study like you said earlier in the segment you live in the mountains and you know you can just all these day trips spend an hour go through whatever small museum they have that talks about their city what is what's unique and here's some things parents if you haven't thought about it but what industry is grown you know what what are they what are they famous for what happened what why are they on the map even why do they exist i live in a little city in central florida and there's a really big lake it's called lake of popka and it was one of the largest most famous bass fishing lakes in the country in the eastern seaboard it was just it was remarkable for bass fishing and it was it's where all the celebrities and dignitaries would come to my little city and they would go bass fishing well in the 70s and 80s the agriculture department government was actually paying the farmers to grow but it inadvertently caused some some destruction to the lake from runoff from the farm well that has just become this is like a real micro example of something in your neighborhood in your community that costs you nothing but you can fuel a passion and an interest within your own children and just for our family it became you know talk about friends of lake of popka what are they doing how are they restoring the lake is the lake coming back and the kids would learn about the fish they'd learn about the gators they'd learn about the ecosystem and and how we do have to be a good steward of our our land there's so many things that we do and that you can do if you're in denver or you're in arkansas or oklahoma or kansas what is unique to your state and then go go deeper than that not just your state but your county and then your city and then your neighborhood find out what makes it special chris it doesn't cost anything and and you know what else your kids will then start talking about it as they get older and they can go deeper and learn even more about your city and they start to feel like they own there's ownership i'm actually a citizen and it makes me think about citizens for america we want to instill in our children that they're not just passers-by or they're not just consumers it's not it's not all fun fun can be mixed into learning and and understanding that they matter that our kids are going to grow up and they need to understand their heritage their family legacy they need to understand that this is i have a say and and what i do does matter and teaching them to have a awareness of the footprint i don't know if that makes sense but we're a very intentional family and whatever it is that we're doing we want them to see more to it than just the superficial yeah i think those are all great ideas i love how you talked about museums and learning about your community because that does make your children want to be more engaged and take ownership at every community connie just about has some type of museum they might not even call it a museum there might be a museum within a building i visited a church in tennessee trade tennessee this past weekend which was just a small little community and they meet in an old school and i just wandered down the hall between sunday school and church and i never knew that was there and wouldn't have known had i not walked down the hall but inside that building they had this little museum in there they had the history of the people that had founded that community and every community like you say has something like that i love how your kids were involved with the lake i'm in another aspect of my life i'm involved with soil and water conservation so i was cringing when you're talking about because i work with farmers a lot you know how they run off uh okay did your lake in every community in the united states there's a local soil and water conservation district and they have different activities that your family could partake in like y'all were trying to protect your lake where i live we have mountain streams and there's another organization that has what's called the river keeper and i bet if you search in your community if you have rivers in your community almost every river in the country has what is called a river keeper and that river keeper puts on activities to you know they they they might uh tube or kayak down a river once a quarter and pick up all the garbage out of the river or um they have something called live staking which i had not heard of until i got bob to this but as you said runoff is an issue but also when storms come rivers rise and you know go up and down with the water and and if there's not a proper structure like root structure along the riverbank that it can erode and cause damage in those rivers and and uh so across the country there are days where they have life staking days where it's a piece of wood that's about a foot long but it becomes a tree and all you do is you kayak down the river or you go you know you're you kind of would just walk down the river and you stick these stakes into the ground and they will in a in a matter of time become a tree and create a root structure and that's something fun for the family because you could say hey let's go put some live stakes down the river and then we'll go swim on them or inner tubing or whatever it may be you know another thing connie that we used to do and is take a mission trip together we were trying to teach our kids the importance of serving others and serving jesus and so when we could in a summer we couldn't do it every summer but a lot of times we would try and i know a lot of other families that do this you know a lot of churches lead summer missions if you can't go somewhere connie a way you can do it even in your own community or maybe even at your own church is vacation bible school i love vacation bible school and in every community y'all no matter where you're listening our country there are churches that have vacation bible schools and you as a family a lot of times vacation bible schools now or you can find one in your community uh or at night after after work after work you could go i mean it might not be your church take your your family on a mission trip to a church of another denomination or another church across town and particularly small churches connie always looking for help they might not have enough people in their church but there might be hundreds of kids that live in their community and that's a way without having to go rent a hotel without having to pay gas to drive to another town it's something you can do in your community one to serve your community get to know other people in your community maybe learn about a different faith group or denomination of how they do vacation bible school but it's a way that you and your family can create memories and serve together we're just giving you a springboard of ideas there is so much more you know another uh thing that we we like to do is i love history and one thing we used to do and again i know this is something that costs money but to save money connie we would camp and i won't get into all my crazy camping stories but you can really save a lot of money yeah tents are not that expensive and i mean sometimes it's it's less than 15 dollars to put a tent up and you know find a place that has a shower and a bathroom when our kids were available they're not to do this anymore and i used to love to go to getisburg pennsylvania and i would encourage everybody to go there at least once but we would do this the week of the 4th of july because that was the week where the battle actually took place it had nothing to do with celebrating the country's uh birthday uh it just happened that that's when when it all took place when uh the troops from the south were actually going somewhere else they did not intend to fight at getisburg and they got spotted as they were trying to sneak through the mountains just some scouts from the north saw them and they ended up fighting there but uh we and the kids used to love this we would go to getisburg there are battlefields in that area connie where you can camp on actual battlefields and so i would probably this was probably not being a good daddy you know at night i would sit around the fire and tell spooky stories of things that happened on the campground but in that camp what was neat about it why i like to go there they reenact some of the battles so our kids could go learn history and see the battles but the coolest thing is around town they would actually camp like the soldiers would at that time and so like you know my daughter homan wants to be a physician well one of the cool things she looked forward to every year is there was the battlefield surgeon and he would have a surgeon's tent set up and he would show the tools that you know the surgeons used at that time christian love they had you know surveyors that would plot out different things or make maps of where they were going to battle but there are reenactors for the revolutionary war that do events all over the country i know we went one time in ohio there's there's something called um fair at new boston and it was a battle from the revolutionary war where i live here in the mountains daniel boone who was a famous character and a real part of history came through our area and they have plays that they put on where that happens in the outer banks of north carolina there's a play that talks about the lost colony and remember the people that disappeared as part of the ships went back to england and the first colonization of our country and there are things like that connie all over the country that people can participate in and have their families partake in you need to be intentional make a schedule include your kids make it fun encourage that thoughtful playfulness like we have talked about it doesn't have to be expensive for it to be meaningful or to create a memory ask your kids and get excited get excited about what you can do this summer it's only going to be for a few weeks and then it's back to the the grind of school so make it fun and just remember you're creating defining moments every time you make that decision to do that next activity great or small your kids are going to appreciate it and they'll talk about it for years and years to come thanks for joining us today you want to hear more from signing it's a great every week join us every friday for family friday and every wednesday she releases a new podcast go to conniealbers.com and be sure to find out and download her podcast every wednesday now let's go in fact the culture will do it thank you for listening the christian perspective with chris hughes learn more about impacting the culture for jesus visit citizensforamericafoundation.com this is the truth network
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