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Sex and the Christian Marriage

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July 25, 2021 8:00 am

Sex and the Christian Marriage

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July 25, 2021 8:00 am

It’s been said that sex is the cornerstone of mass persuasion, and certainly in today’s world, mass media uses the lure of sex to glamorize the pursuit of pleasure. Join Dr. James Boice on The Bible Study Hour as he compares the world’s view of sex with God’s view and discusses God’s instructions on living in a sexually debased society.

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Mass media has perverted the God-given gift of sex in order to glamorize the pursuit of pleasure and to promote a materialistic lifestyle.

In today's world there seems to be nowhere we can turn that sex is not being exploited for everything other than its original purpose. Welcome to the Bible study on the radio and Internet broadcast with Dr. James Boyce preparing you to think and act biblically society's appetite for sex is greatly out of line with God's intent. How then can we maintain biblical standards in this area of our lives in a world of use those standards as irrelevant and out of date. Join Dr. Boyce as he compares the world's view of sex with God's view and shows us how we can counter based morality with one that's biblically pure.

The positive side of the Lord Jesus Christ second great example of Christian conduct in the sermon on the Mount is marriage Christian marriage and the perversion that is opposed to what is lost.

Jesus said, you heard that it was said by them of old, thou shalt not commit adultery but I say unto you, that whosoever looked with on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart, according to Jesus lost is the equivalent of adultery. Just as anger is the equivalent of murder in the standard for his followers as to be quite simply chastity before marriage and fidelity.

Afterwards, it's evident of course that this standard is opposed to the widely accepted standards of our day forward never in the history of the Western world since the death of Greek and Roman paganism as fidelity in marriage been so threatened either from within or without orcs and unbridled indulgence of free sexual passions been so encouraged her so praised the first place it's threatened by the mass media, which use the lure of sex to push materialism and to glamorize the pursuit of mere pleasure. Television fills our living rooms with sex filled advertisements for toothpaste your mouth sex appeal, shaving cream, take it off take it all. Often, detergents the stripper in the newspapers not only carry reports of sexual crimes that would have been omitted years ago. They also sell movies through advertisements that are both more explicit and more perverted than television when writer is noted correctly sex as anyone who sits through an evening of television or thumbs through a magazine noses. The cornerstone of mass persuasion and the symbol par excellence of the life of leisure and consumption.

Unfortunately, this sex is generally not sex as God intended it to be and it is not always within the bounds of marriage Christian ethic of faithful and monogamous marriages also threatened in our day, perhaps even more seriously than by the mass media buy a new hedonism symbolized by the so-called Playboy philosophy.

Hedonism is a philosophy that makes pleasure the chief goal in life and its is evident in the pursuit of the second home. The third car on the right and proper friends as it is in adultery and premarital sex experimentation.

In fact, in the Playboy philosophy.

The two go hand-in-hand. If sex itself, where the cause of the problem, then Hugh Hefner's multimillion dollar empire could be assessed as a prime factor in the moral decline of our time and judged accordingly as it is the Playboy the world has merely capitalized on please your first philosophy rampant in our time and has contributed, albeit greatly to a weakening of the status of married love and of the marriage relationship. The third major source of the present day threat to marriage and to the accompanying Christian moral virtues is the so-called new morality popularized by such well-known churchmen as bishop Robinson of England, Joseph Fletcher, Harvey Cox, the late James pipe and others.

This approach to morality is based for the most part on two fundamental convictions. First, that the proper action in any given set of circumstances as determined by the situation itself and not by any predetermined norm of ethics, even biblical ethics.

Second, that the only absolute demand in the Christian scheme of things is love anything is right that does not hurt the other person and whether it hurts him or her not is the conclusion to be reached in the context of the situation and since not necessarily wrong to commit adultery, according to the spokesman as long as the person committing it has the best interest of all the involved parties and heart is the same as stealing, lying, lawlessness, dishonesty and other things formerly thought to be vices that is what they say one thing must be said for the new morality first and that is it is opposed to legalism and this is biblical one whole book of the Bible is written to combat legalism. The book of Galatians, but this does not mean that anything goes in Christianity, and it does not mean, for the sake of that reason alone that the new morality is right Christian is called to freedom by Christ. Yes, but it's a freedom to follow Christ.

We are to be like him. As Christians that's he who taught not only that adultery is wrong, but even that the impure thoughts that preceded her wrong the same way were called to love but the love to which we are called is Christ love a lovely to knowledge discipline discernment end discrimination for several reasons why the new morality is in adequate, even apart from Christ teachings.

For one thing, it's impossible to define a situation limited as we are by time and by partial knowledge, a couple in the backseat of a car may decide that intercourse outside of marriage will not hurt them and that no one else need no but they cannot be sure that it will not hurt them, and they cannot foresee the consequences. In spite of these criticisms, however, the new morality contributes to the ethical climate of our day to a far larger degree reflects it in the cry if it feels good do it has almost become the watchword of our age. Is this standard right is it time for such freedom. As Christians we must say no but at the same time we must acknowledge. Honestly, as CS Lewis and said the Christian standard is so difficult and so contrary to our instincts that obviously something is wrong both with us personally and with our society. In other words, we must acknowledge that we are all sinners, even after conversion and we are not automatically free from victorious over or even innocent of the worlds perversion of sex because of it. Well, what are we to do in this situation. We cannot escape that is monasticism in its un-biblical. We cannot retreat into celibacy for God created sex and God gave marriage. We certainly cannot give vent to promiscuity your even genteel experimentation.

The only answer is that we must fight a debased and perverted morality with a pure one, and we must live and teach what Christ taught is the true way to happiness.

I believe this must start with a clear recognition that the sexual instinct as we see it and know it has gone wrong. I noticed I didn't say that sex or the sex instinct is wrong. Christianity is almost the only great world religion that approves of the body and has thoroughly glorified sex in marriage. I only said that the sexual instinct as we see it and know it has gone wrong.

For one thing, the appetite for sex, stimulated by our culture is enormously out of proportion to its function. CS Lewis, who makes this point far better than anyone else I know says wisely.

The biological purpose of sexist children, just as the biological purpose of eating is to repair the body know if we eat whenever we feel inclined in just as much as we want. It's true that most of us will be too much, but terrifically too much. One man may eat enough for two, but he does not eat enough for 10.

The appetite goes a little beyond its biological purpose, but not enormously.

If a healthy young man indulged his sexual appetite whenever he felt inclined and if each act produced a baby then in 10 years they might easily populate a small village.

This appetite is an ludicrous and preposterous excess of its function. Lewis goes on, or take it another way you can get a large audience together for striptease act that is to watch a girl undress on the stage. I suppose you came to a country where you could fill a theater by simply bringing a covered plate on the stage and slowly lifting the cover so as to let everyone see just before the lights went out and it contained a mutton chop or a bit of bacon when you think that in that country. Something had gone wrong with the appetite for food and wouldn't anyone who would grown up in a different world think that there was something equally wrong about the state of the sex instinct among us. The most popular argument against this view today seems to be in the admission that sex is a mess, but that's become so only because it's been hushed up early answer is that today it's not hushed up. In fact, it's not been hushed up for the greater part of this century and still it is terrible and it's getting worse. We have more divorce today more perversions of sex more illegitimacy 2 to 4 times as much, as in 1940. In spite of the pill, and more downright misery in marriage and outside of it than ever before and people are flocking to the marriage counselors and ministers for help to unscramble the ruin that they've made of their lives. Actually, as Lewis says it's probably the other way around. The human race probably hushed up sex originally because it had become such a mess and if things get bad enough in our day. It may well happen again as the present Playboy age gives way to a new Victorianism know there is a perversion of the sex instinct and we as God's children should know it and resistant of the second thing we must recognizes that in this world. If we are to live as God's children. There are times when we shall simply have to run away from the temptation. I don't believe that this is the whole answer as you'll see in a minute for answer to any evil is never entirely a negation, but always a more powerful good and yet it is a partial answer and at times the only one. Did you know that this was Paul's advice to his converts was for.

He wrote to the Corinthians that they were to flee fornication, and Timothy, a young preacher. He wrote flee also youthful lusts, but follow righteousness, faith, love, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. In other words, Joseph who fled from Potiphar's wife and not David who invited Bathsheba over to the palace is to be imitated. Moments reflection here will show why in some instances this must be so most of the temptations of this life, although they may well be severe.

The Christian has an ally in reason may be tempted to cheat on his income tax, but if he is his reason will tell him that the computers today are very thorough and that the gain if there is one is entirely on the proportion of the loss of money via time and reputation of E should be caught so reason unites with his knowledge of the good and the internal witness of the Holy Spirit to save them the same in many other temptations, but in love. It is not. It's entirely different with love, or with the sexual instinct or something here that operates apart from reason nor even against it will make lovers of Montague in the copula or of the Duke and Duchess of Windsor.

What couple ever sat alone in the apartment reasoning out the relative advantages and disadvantages of premarital sex and then either had sexual intercourse on that basis or avoid it. It does not work that way. Consequently, if you are in this situation, or if you find yourself in the situation, you must start running like Joseph get out of the apartment. If you were there start the ignition.

If you're sitting in the car by the roadside. Visit your friends even go see your pastor, but whatever you do get moving for neither you nor anybody else's 100% able at all times to avoid these sexual temptations in the final analysis, however, even running is not the solution, although it will help. For the moment, do for the duration only negative, and thus only a more powerful and more vigorous philosophy will defeat it.

Is there such a philosophy.

Certainly there is only we should say theology for its tied up as it must be with the nature and the purposes of God's not sex alone. Although sex is part of it. It's not abstinence it's not indulgence it's marriage Christian marriage marriage on the highest possible plane. Marriage is God intended it to be. Marriage is an illustration of the union of the Christian with Christ. All I know that much of what passes for Christian marriage is not Christian. I know that even Christian marriages are often joyless, drab affairs, but this is defeat its failure in the proper anecdote is not hedonism or negation, but rather a high-end ennobling grasp of what marriage should be in candy and a man and woman are united by God and enjoy the privileges of sex within that relationship.

Sometimes when one speaks about marriage.

Those who are not married.

Get the feeling that they are incomplete if they remain single. But this is not true, as we shall see, the sexual relationship is only a part of being married. In the fullness of sex involves being male and female on a much broader scale, much of which is natural and possible even apart from a sexual relationship was more even as wonderful as it can be a marriage is still only an earthly picture of the greater relationship of Jesus Christ to the church and there is always the possibility of wholeness and fulfillment of the whole personality with him.

We all need to remember that the second word is to those who were going to be saying is we go on talking about marriage. Yes, that is all right. That is what marriage should be one should remain pure before marriage and faithful afterwards. But I haven't done that and it's too late for me now. The answer to this type of person you may be one is no it does not too late.

The glory of the way in which God deals with sinful men and women as we all are, is that God is able to pick us up where we are and as we are, and set us in his way, which is always a way of blessing God can do that with you, no matter how far you have fallen.

I would far rather counsel, a man or woman was become mixed up in the sinful sexual relationship any day. An attempt to counsel a hypocrite gossip person was overly proud. It's easier to reach one who is yielded to the sins of the flesh, and one was indulged in the sins of the spirit. All that is true, and yet the best way is to avoid the sins entirely as God gives us grace and he will and we will yield to him and allow him to bless us in all of our relationships and our father.

We thank you for these crews. There are some who were far from your standard speak to them and draw them back and will close relationship with yourself and use these studies to lead us all into a clearer apprehension of your truth and of the way of blessing for our lives. We pray in Jesus name, amen you listening to the Bible study hours featuring the teaching of Dr. James Boyce men and women have been given sexual desires and we have ideas of how to handle those desires. As believers, but what is God's design for us in this area of our lives.

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Was it primarily to reproduce mankind and provide an outlet for sexual desire. Was it to provide companionship in this life. Furthermore, what is it that makes a marriage of Christian marriage join Dr. James Boyce next time on the Bible study our as he explores the deeper purpose of the union of man and wife. God has instituted marriage. This truth comes first in the marriage service, the groom and the best man and I come out bride and her bridesmaids advanced down the aisle when the wedding march stop send the people are seated. I begin, I say dearly beloved we are assembled here in the presence of God to join this man and this woman in holy marriage. Marriage is instituted by God regulated by his commandments blessed by our Lord Jesus Christ and to be held in honor among all men. Let us therefore reverently remember that God is established and sanctified marriage for the welfare and happiness of mankind. Next time one Bible study our bearing you to think and act biblically

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