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October 25, 2020 4:00 pm
Welcome to Man Talk, with your Hosts Will Hardy and Roy Jones Jr. Last week's show focused on how to be a man of purpose. This week's topic transitions from purpose to purity. What does it take to lead a life of purity, and what are the consequences if you don't?
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Yes, so why don't you bring us up to speed real quick on that and finish that last point they will get into this week's topic a man you know we were talking about the three components to purpose and we said, desire, motivation and determination then we specifically gave sub points to motivation is that you have to have enthusiasm, you have to have accountability and you have to have a indole set something that you're trying to reach last point is determination and determination is coming to a decision to fix something or to settle something so you you this particularly focuses on your end objective. What is it that you're trying to reach and the drive that it's going to take to get there and I just reminded of a couple scriptures here are Psalms 44 in 18 heart has not turned back nor have our steps departed from your way. So when you are focused on God and you centered on him.
Nothing's going to allow you to go to the left or to the right is like will talk about in Romans eight, you know, what is it that just separate you from love of Christ which is Shell's tribulation, distress, persecution, nakedness sort all these things and I might add Jeff's cell phone, shell computer games shall computer your computer games you big one there like we talked about right. We know gaming is the number two distraction.
So what is it that's going to separate you in any Chronicles chapter 15 in verse seven, but you will be strong. This is the prophet talking to the king. You be strong and do not let your hands be weak for your work shall be rewarded if we keep our hands to the plow. If we allow God. Again we say aloud because God is not going to force himself on you. You have to be the one to be that man who stands up and be the center of your family because if man if you can. If the enemy can take you out. Then the family got to go to steal, kill, and destroys his whole purpose if he takes you out of the family does go talked about as the man goes so does the family John 1010 up to 99 or was 94% chance the man's involved in church, his wife and his children will be involved be followers of Christ, absolutely.
So sorry, go ahead and send take us start with that purity piece yet think you will with you know folks over the last several weeks in view of her shows been related to talk little bit about the mark from parking lot man's purity and we really we can't speak enough to guess what will talk to you about today's just. Manner purity what that looks like what the consequences are for persons not to live a pure life in a manner purity goes beyond just the pornography or stay with pornography. It requires conscious decision to to live an upright life and not with as we just mentioned was Satan's goal to steal, kill and destroy. I don't think there's any greater need really to slow down from one click is really any greater told his toolbox right now the pornography is released to men and young boys and because it would situate the damage that happens in accumulative addiction that occurs and it gets to a point with a young boy of the world looking one things not enough histogram to the terms of his observations of the same for men and the that the more wrapping up. It goes, the darker it gets in the deeper it gets. So just think about as we go to the security conversation every few statistics to take and write down in just her to ponder on is your listening and you know one thing about change in one thing about make an impact on the country her own city on the community and the church. It starts with one person, if you will try to impact or change one person in this arena and that person changes one person that we can make a difference were never going to be perfect when it will totally escape what we can do is we can get our men back home there in the church. The middle this problem we can get our brothers back home with your sons back home get him back in the in the diligent walk with Christ. Because if we leave them all alone and we don't do something about this. We're going we are going to suffer consequences far beyond our ability to understand.
I think over the next 20 years. Maybe in the next 10 years.
I really do will now and and I know this is this is near and dear to your heart Roy I know it is you know of and this is something that you know we talked about a lot and people might be asking the question.
You know guys you guys talk about this a lot. And that's because the problem is you know we talk about it because of a problem and I think will you got some stats and in reference to two pornography and and and how it has affected just people around the world. You think you will inure exactly what can we do talk about that not every show, but we do talk about with regularity because it does need to be spoken but will thank you so much for saving think the churches will based on statistics your tartlets or weeks ago.
I think more churches and even some sticks out in last couple weeks is that men don't see that big a deal about parking. Even men in the church which shows you that were becoming influenced by the world instead of us enforcing the world won't talk about with that syndrome and there's a name for that out there that will I got educated. He was going on because we were going to share that with you today.
Folks rebuttal good pencil piece paper. Write this down.
A man is hard to pronounce but will get a list talk about tonight for additional quick 40 million Americans are regular visitors to point sons wants us to think about this 40 million populations, give or take 330 million people to talk about your 1/8 of the population is a regular visitor to a porn site and that number is probably going up daily. Is this the statistics. I'm sure company or soaking things on compound and when this to the survey was done 42 million porn websites when existence 42 million allow him 42 million porn sites in NC Roy.
The thing about that is years and years ago, you would have to go to the place now you got it at the tip of your finger. Yes, and folks what's important know about this is that your children and grandchildren have access to this if you provided them with the smart phone, with no parental controls or no monitoring software on that phone. They have wide-open visibility and exposure, and access to this 42 million porn websites and see what we know Roy that that brings up another topic, I was reading there the other day to where because we're doing all the schools are doing a lot of work kids working from home and things like that that you have these you have these sites and people who are actually going out and zoom bombing these locations.
In putting this type of material while the class is in session. We talked about you know gradeschool children who will being exposed to this to Betsy that is absolutely absurd pathetic is wrong on so many fronts on the survey from you and we talked about this will announce her again in a person does not have the does not have the mental capacity to take on this type of exposure at such a young age is not healthy for anybody at any age, much less a child or adolescent or teenager and we need to be cognizant that we need to be aware that we need to ask everybody to to really be looking at what your children are looking at on the phone to put some monitoring apps on there that can notify you when they are in an inappropriate, inappropriate website that sort of thing so we hope that you're able to understand what which I'm sure with you. It is not a knowledge conversation.
Condemnation is the conversation of coaching and learning and watching and folks we deal with men by the hundreds each year in thousands, even in our in our seminars and other events over time. It just we know it's a problem absolutely and statistically it's proven to be successful so will share a few more things with you. It's 150 billion with a B hundred $50 billion a year industry globally think about that that's that's incredible you $150 billion a year in a and this is one of things I don't you know trust but verify if spouses you need to trust but verify each other. You need to talk about this. You need to say honey I love you so much I want to make sure that you not be attempted or enemies not get hold of you put agree to put the software both of your phones is women now about 35% women are looking for-L realtors equals bad, I mean Roy, you know, we when you when you talked about that number hundred and and $50 billion I mean that's that's getting up there with what was the guy Amazon Jeff baked basil so that's getting up there with with income that he is making just this guy alone, and it who was one of the richest man in the world that still have big problems and you and and people are feeding into this and it's all walks of life is not just you know the guy who was the blue-collar work with talking about judges were talking about, you know a lot of individuals who are up in government engage in things like this way, that's great. Lead into that.
I want to statistics of Gov. Wilson, 68% of churchgoing men and 50% of pastors viewpoint on a regular basis while the folks just tells you that as much as you love men in your life amend, much as you are loved. It's a problem.
Even the pastor struggled with it because Satan knows what it takes to get a man's attention and getting distracted and folks to be quite honest, it is the looks of the beauty of a woman but is now been perverted and objectified, and you have been totally misled down this path is not what God intended for exact not the way God intended for to be in or the other thing to will that's a really instincts the statistic on this conversation is that pornography uses increase increases infidelity by 300% on so far in a relationship your pornography usage is going to increase the potential for infidelity by 300%. And again, I think it goes back to Roy when an individual might be upset with their spouse and they feel like you know I'm not being satisfied physically like you used to when we were younger. Whatever the case may nestle both sides of the thing exactly exactly because because what what happens is you know.
Either one is going to look for an excuse. That's right yeah excuses.
We all know, everybody's got one. Everybody got I've got one little bit different rights of payphones with this is a really really important topic for all of its it's it's a cautionary conversation with citizen awareness conversation. We need you as followers of Christ men to make a difference in your household with this person lives will be back to this conversation.
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We will protect each other no greater love thinking protection spouses are great acts of love to keep spouse safe from temptation, but a couple more stats. Roy, 47% of families in the United States say that they that pornography is a problem in their home and 56% of Americans divorces involve one party having a obsessive interests in pornography where the obsessive means controlling interest means that they hooked. That's right yet and they can't turn it loose right so as talk scripturally folks about what were supposed to be doing Hebrews 13 for marriage should be honored by all in the marriage bed kept pure for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral, and when you think about marriage bed that is the total relationship is not just the physical bed, but it's the total marital relationship between husband and wife. That means all intimacy needs to be kept pure in the way God originally planned for first Corinthians 618 to 20, flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin. A person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, you are not your own, for you were bought with a price.
So glorify God in your body, do not grieve the Holy Spirit folks by doing this, watching the stuff been let to be a part of your life. Do not do that a man you know Roy Kosar but with so your care will have so got tickled change of. What they want.
One of the scripturally due to his James 127 religion that God our father accepts as pure and faultless is this to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. You know the key part about that is two things and that which we talked about one thing about purity is as the children and that will talk about that on a different day. But that do not be polluted both by the world keep oneself from being polluted by the world. Think about the folks that the normal stuff are exposed to everyday splitting enough is pollution enough, much less to throw pornography on top of stuff for him to deal with on a daily basis. A man Roy and you know this but the point here that you had about cognitive dissonance and it explains how someone would either change their attitude and their beliefs to match the behavior or change the behavior to match their beliefs. While that's that that's that's real deep and and that the thing about it is this you know we were talking today about spiritual sacrifice and how the enemy has a tendency to want to throw pop ups and and and and adware and an spyware at you and in then finally hole you ransom, see when you obsess, now you hell ransom because like you. You have gone down the three levels and you allowed yourself to be pulled in down this enemies Avenue and so what you once believed to be true. Now the thing that's false were calling it true it's right so so we were changing our beliefs now to line up with our actions because we want to justify right you notice human nature, you will want to justify what we doing is correct will him and folks think about that for second year we talked about the rationalization that we do in the middle.
Something should be doing this exactly what were doing talk about here you change your belief system to match up with your behavior when you behavior sinful. Therefore, change your belief system you we can down the word of God. We condemn conviction. What you're supposed to be doing following Christ you're just your letting the world influence your walk instead of you influencing the world a man in CSO. If you out there and you have other relationships going on all of these things you bringing back to your spouse at home so and not only that, but if you claim to be that man of God whom God has called you to be and you have the secret life going on now what you're doing is you introducing the Holy Spirit to all of these this infidelity that is involved in your grieving the Holy Spirit. Amen talked about. And so the consequences of of an individual being involved in this is the Faucher temple and it it it defiles your temple.
It takes away the purity in which God said, you should maintain because our body is no longer our own.
Once we become a child of God. That's right will the mind is being altered and sometimes to an irreparable state is the disconnect the start occur from natural stimulation, Natural Way, God designed it so now this this caliphate stimulation if you will. This simple stimulation is rewiring the brain and then there's a chemical change occurs in this been shown in studies showing that the reaction of the brain.
Once, when is exposed to pornography is quite different than another others motive of exposure for the brain activity so your your hardwiring yourself if you stay on this path and to place it may be irreparable. Which leads us into the next point and and I just like to change up the wording a bit from what with what you have here is the greater the need, the more you going to feed it yes so so if you if you have this drive didst just desire and see now that's just exactly what we were talking about our point before if you're in goal is to be an infidel to your family and you allowing yourself to be engaged in all of these acts of of sin that you're bringing back home. What is that say is you as a man and his leader and as a brother in Christ doesn't say much exactly negatively.
When one of things we talked about were real, their adoring show. The other week. Will was about the supply chain right how your feet into that. So we need to before close out of the lecture mentioned that, but you're one of the things it is will sublet your desire will get greater the need gets greater your that goes darker to folks gets darker as you had to have a greater stimulation, the greater exposure it gets much, much darker you supporting supply chain is what we talked about in. If you think of this way, your demand creates downstream demand, albeit you may not be the person is looking at child pornography but you are speeding that supply chain that supplies to increase the demand for support when explained here.
You start out with this picture to begin with the becomes movies than when the movers are working at a ramp up what type of moves you will commence analysis instead of normal interaction are you going to gain interaction you going to rape you got all these things that are the deep darker modes eventually gets down to teenagers and gets in the preteens and gets into adolescence and gets in the inference for folks you sent inference. Trust me, we know we have relationship with a ministry guy that does travel overseas to us to take children out of these child slavery situations from eight months to three years old five years old to preteens to Teamster like we just talk to us.
We know this is going on.
We know from him specifically this is happening and others statistically show so you're feeding into that supply chain. If you're participating your culpable you're part of that supply chain.
This is another reason. If you can't do it for your own personal benefit.
Think about the children of the countries are being sold into this abuse and sold into the sex slavery ring just because people upstream, creating the demand. That's right and see eventually the darker it becomes, the more you determine to feed the need that you have. Then what happens is you know all of the all of the consequences. All of the wave action if you will. That's going to happen and affect the people around you and you you attempting now to try and cover it up to say well it's not that bad. I can stop any time until you get to the point to the things that you start seeing on the screen now you want to act them out. That's right will because the single screen no longer work so just in there, but was Ted Bundy.
We talked about that that one may was when we were the way that was when he was interviewed by James Dobson. That's what started started with visual pornography magazines back then. Then it ramped up from there and took into a dark spot if we sit there saying every person is involved will go to a dark spot. No note or say there's a high probability. A large percentage of going to continue to go some level deeper than just the front side the front side is sin, so anywhere in that pipeline is sensitive folks. You gotta get out of it is just in the get back to earlier conversation.
Men, women at each other, don't be afraid to put the software agree as spouses and partners. They dip this a problem or temptation.
I won't you help me be accountable to this new better than your spouse. To be honest with love on trust him, but verify if you can help you from out of this mess because it is bad it folks your culpable if you're on the sites you're feeding into that supply chain so don't think because you're not looking at those dark things you're still responsible for feed into that supply chain and directly so and part of it and when you when you do that you know you you are feeding that monster that that's out there. The devour the one who wants to steal, kill and destroy. We talked about in John 1010 Jesus said I came however to that you may have life right in and to have it more abundantly seat not just life, but abundant life so as born-again believers we should be living above our circumstances not engaged in our circumstances will because when when you when you're living above your circumstances. This is Sean Roy that you and overcome her this yeah and and we go back to John 54 and John four. For you know, our faith is what billed us to the point of being in overcome her our faith. If he if it don't don't allow yourself to say always. Not happening fast enough my wife for my husband. You know they don't touch me like they used to. That is the beginning point of when Satan wants to start drawing you to that dark place. That's right. One thing we want to come back to real quick before close is as the father and husband goes so does the family and children. So men, if you think you're doing something that your kids are unaware of trust that will no think you're doing so that they're not attracted to your daughter that tells him it's okay so the young men are tempted by my dad is doing it so it must be okay. You really want that to be how your son grows up to be the judge. Not exactly pray about it. Ask God's help and guidance can still do with what you can't do in supernatural, but you can take the first natural.
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