Today I'm Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram. Do you know someone who says they're a Christian, but doesn't live like one at all? I mean they might even go to church and you say to yourself, I want to help them, but I don't know how. If you know someone like that, or honestly would say, I could use a little help myself. And stay with me.
Today's for you. For a Christian, real transformation is more than just a goal. It's a certainty. You just have to understand God's process. Today on Living on the Edge, Chip Ingram continues our series called Free at Last, How to Break Out of a Destructive Lifestyle.
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Now let's open our Bibles to Ephesians chapter 4 starting in verse 17 as we join ship for today's message, How to Break Out of a Destructive Cycle. Once upon a time, There were two small little green caterpillars. And they crawled upon this little twig and connected themselves and spun a little cocoon. And after a fairly short period of time, something happened. actually magically supernaturally, amazingly inside.
And metamorphosis occurred. and two little butterflies burst forth. And one butterfly's name was Barbara. And the other butterfly's name was Benny. I had this conversation, if you can imagine with me, the Wind is blowing kind of gently and The leaves are rustling and They're kind of their wings are still wet.
And Barbara turns to Benny and says, Benny, look at this. This is amazing. Look at the sky, it's blue and I'm not sure what those white things are and... Then she looked down from the limb and I think those are flowers. She was getting very, very excited then.
Having known him prior, You're not a green worm anymore. I mean, you are. Beautiful. She goes, Benny, watch this and Kind of takes wings and Steps off. Forty-five-degree angle, swooshes down, sniffs a flower, comes back up.
Lands next to Oh, Benny, you gotta try it. It's great. It's fantastic. It's a whole new life. It's nothing like the old days when we would crawl around.
And then he kind of looked down and he goes, It's a long way down. I'm afraid of heights. I don't know if these wings are going to work. And besides, what what if I What if I die when I get near one of those flowers, something grabs me? And they had this conversation back and forth and Barbara did everything to get Benny just to...
You're new, you're different. Take the step. Unfortunately, uh Benny said, you know, I I know I was uglier. But I knew what I was doing when I was crawling. He took his wings and he kind of folded him down and He laid down on the twig and He says, I'm just going to pretend.
I know you know and I know I'm a butterfly, but I think I'm just gonna kind of go back. to the old days.
Now, I've never had a personal conversation with the butterfly. But I can tell you this. God in nature has created One of the most amazing pictures as he does often. to express to you and me the difference and the miracle. Of when he changes our life.
If any man or if any woman is in Christ, in relationship in Christ. It says you're a new creation. and the old things pass away and behold It's a process, but all things become New. As we've been through Ephesians chapter 4, the Apostle Paul speaking empowered by the Holy Spirit wants you to know and wants me to know. then a new life demands.
Life change. Your new life demands A new lifestyle. And what he's going to do in verse 17, he's going to remind them of what their life used to be like. Let's read the whole passage to get an overview. He says, So I tell you this, and I insist on it.
In the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do. and the futility of their thinking. They're darkened in their understanding and they're separated from the life of God.
Well, why? Because of the ignorance that is in them, due to the hardening of their hearts. As a result, Having lost all sensitivity, they've given themselves over to sensuality as to indulge in every kind of impurity with a continual lust for more. He's describing a culture of violence and sexual immorality and disregard for people and slavery and the dehumanizing of people and greed. That's just off the charts.
But You, however, did not come to know Christ that way, speaking of their conversion. Surely you have heard of him and you were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. And then he reminds them of what he taught them, you were taught. with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted. by its deceitful desires.
To be made new in the attitude of your minds, and to put on the new self created to be like God in true righteousness. and holiness. In essence, At the very top, you'll see it. A believer whose life does not change. is an oxymoron.
In other words, it's incompatible. It's inconceivable. And yet, the Barna and Gallup research would say that about eight out of ten people in America. who verbally profess that Jesus is Lord, Their life hasn't changed. We divorce at about the same rate.
We lie at about the same rate. Our morality is about the same. We do about the same with our dreams, our money, our relationships. We lie about coming into work about the same as those that are outside of Christ. And the Apostle Paul says, wait a second.
This isn't about some intellectual knowledge about God and you pray a little prayer. A new life demands, creates a brand new lifestyle. But what he's going to teach them is some of you don't know how that works. I want to give you grace. I want to give you understanding about how this really works.
And three very specific truths flow out of this passage. Truth number one is this. As believers, our lives must be progressively, underline the word progressively. Doesn't mean you're perfect. progressively characterized by moral purity.
Notice verse 17, he says, So I tell you, and I insist upon. That you must no longer live and circle the word live and right above it walk. That's our word. In other words, it's a process, it's a journey. You must not walk as the Gentiles do.
In other words, as unbelievers. In the next line, he tells us the why. Because of the ignorance that is in them, due to the hardening of their hearts. The word ignorance here is not an intellectual ignorance. This isn't that they don't know intellectually this is right and this is wrong.
This is a moral ignorance. This is an ignorance where, you know, when you do something wrong and you feel kind of bad about it and you feel guilty? And you say, oh man, I shouldn't. And then you do it again, and you feel a little bit less guilty, and it doesn't really bother you. He says there's a progress where you can get where you don't feel anything.
where you can sear your conscience. Where you get to the point where, in terms of right or wrong, who's to say what's right or wrong? And you know what? No one's going to tell me what to do about anything. If I want it, I'll take it.
And there's just this total disregard. And that's, he says, this ignorance. And the ignorance happens because there's a process, he says, due to the hardening of their hearts. And then he says, there's a result. Having lost all sensitivity, literally we get our word calloused.
In other words, your soul, your spirit, your heart, layer after layer after layer of turning away from God and doing what is wrong. You lose all sensitivity, or you're calloused. They've given themselves over to sensuality.
so as to indulge in every kind of impurity with a continual lust for more. One commentator writes: It's a surrendering of oneself to all the passions with gusto, with no regard to whom it may injure or hurt. There is no shame, no remorse, no regret. The Apostle Paul is saying, in the darkness of people's hearts, turning away from God, he said, You were on a journey toward. that kind of life, and that's what it's like apart from God.
And so here's his point. He says It's Inconceivable. for a believer's life not to change. Be holy. 1 Peter would write, even as I am holy, John, the beloved disciple, would say, If you say you love God and hate your brother, you're a liar and there's no truth in you.
If you say you love God and you don't keep his commandments, you're a liar and there's no truth in you. Our vertical relationship with God through Christ must get played out in how we treat other people. And in this church, like in America today, A lot of people's lives weren't changing. We'll continue in a moment here on Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram. While you're with us, if you've never checked out the Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram YouTube channel, you're missing a whole other side of this ministry.
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Well now here's Chip. And so first of all, he sets the bar. And he says, look. Your life not changing, you progressively not allowing God's Spirit to control your tongue and your thoughts. And your appetites, so that you progressively become less sinful and more Christ-like.
He says, moral purity. isn't an option. It's not like a salad bar. Like, you know, I love Jesus, and, you know, like, seven out of the ten commands sound pretty good, but. You know, God will grade on the curve.
No, no, no, no. It's that you walk with him. I I was uh In Atlanta, and meeting with a young couple, and they'd listened to something on the radio, and they were excited about it and had their Bibles, and were telling me how neat this was, and that was. And they'd been coming to this Bible study a couple times and were sharing a couple things with me. And I said, Well, where do you live?
And I was expecting her to say, Well, I live here, and him to say, I live here. And they were going to a very fine Bible teaching church. And they said, Well, we live here. I said, What do you mean, the same apartment complex? Oh no, no, we we live together.
Said no no hold it, help me.
So, like, you live together like man and wife, but you're not man and wife. And so, you know, sometimes I can be blunt.
So, you live together having sex and you're not married. Is that right? Yeah. Yeah, we, yeah, I mean, you know, we really love God, we really follow Jesus, we just don't really think that stuff about no sex before marriage is all that important. I said, you know, there's a lot of Christians that do that with a lot of different passages, but God's not really happy with that.
And here's the deal. You know why he's not happy? You're embarrassing him. in terms of how you're living. And can I tell you this?
You're hurting your relationship. Anytime God gives commands and rules, He's not approved. I mean, He actually invented sex and every other good thing. He wants to give you the best thing at the right time in the right way, and you guys are short-circuiting the process. But you know That's sort of one of those easy ones for those out there, but think all of us don't all of us have a few things where we say, you know, we know we're supposed to pay our taxes, right?
But you know, the government's wasting so much money and we we know that you know we're supposed to put good things in our mind, but I mean, you know, when you're tired, and we know that, you know, our bodies are the temple of God, but you know, Right? See, we baptize certain sins. Or we all struggle with them so much, we just pretend We don't. Right? Paul saying.
A new life. demands a new lifestyle. and that moral purity is first and foremost one of the things that distinguishes us. And then he gives the reason why. I mean, why is that so important?
The second truth is an immoral lifestyle is inconceivable for us as believers for two reasons. In other words, look in verse 20, he says, You, however, didn't come to know. That's in a punctiliar time. He's talking about your conversion. He goes, That was before.
That's for people that aren't in Christ. But you. You didn't come to know Christ in that way. Surely you heard of him speaking of when you heard the gospel and understood that Christ died for you in your place. Paid for your sin and rose from the dead.
And you were taught in Him. That word has the idea of the fellowship and the connection and the community and what God was doing in your life and doing life with people and the progress. And then according to, notice, The truth that is in Jesus. This little phrase in Jesus put this way is here only in the New Testament. It's a reference to the historical Jesus, the Jesus that lived and walked and taught.
The Jesus that said to the woman, Go and sin no more. The Jesus that said, If anyone can. Has anyone seen me sin? See, Jesus was holy and pure, and he said, follow me, and I will make you like me. your life will be transformed.
And so here's the two reasons why it's inconceivable. for us to live immoral lives. Number one, It contradicts who we are. It contradicts who you really are. You are not a green worm caterpillar anymore.
You're a butterfly. You're a new person. You're not a slave to sin. You're a son. You're a daughter.
You've been redeemed. You're loved. You're precious. His Spirit lives within you. You have a Father who's created all that there is.
He's got a plan for you. You're brand new. You're life. You need to fly, not crawl. See, here's the issue, and here's how moralism plays its way out.
Most of us think that the issue of sin. is a behavioral problem. And it's not. The behavior is the symptom. The issue of sin is a relational problem.
See, when people are asking questions like, well, how far can I go? Or should I do this or not? And it's kind of gray, and is this right or is this wrong? And you kind of know what's right already. The focus is on these external behaviors instead of, wait a second.
There is no condemnation for those that are in Christ Jesus. What's it look like to... Draw closer to God. And what are the things that Put a barrier. For those of you that are married, you've been down this.
Road, you know?
something happens in your relationship and You've hurt them, or you neglected, or you forgot something, or you blew up in anger, or you have a history of something, and you've done it again. And then you walk in the house. It happens with roommates as well. And there's sort of this funky stuff in the air, you know? And you know there's a problem?
And you can say something like, I'm sorry. And the funkiness in the air doesn't go away, does it? I'm sorry, I shouldn't have done that. Focus on behavior. I'll try not to do that again.
And if it's one of that like that, if it's, I'll try not to do that again, I'll try not to do that again, you keep on doing it, what do you get? There's just, it's this distance. But when you see Violations in a relationship is I hurt that person. There's a breach. Our love is broken down.
There's not a connection. There's that weird thing in the air. Until you sit down and look them in the eye, and often with a few tears in your eyes, and say, You know something? I told you I would do this. I did it again.
I'm sorry. I blew it. Will you forgive me? I'm really, really sorry. And when there's a confession that's followed by a reconnection of the relationship, then what happens?
See, the issue of sin, it's like just because you're a Christian doesn't mean you're not going to sin anymore. It just means that your sins have been forgiven, and it means the power has been broken. You don't have to sin anymore. But when you sin, what it does is it separates you in your fellowship with your Heavenly Father. And so the issue isn't about just these external behaviors.
And so there's lots of people. I'm going to start do that. I'm going to stop doing that. I try hard, try hard, try hard, fail. Try hard, try hard, try hard, fail.
It's not until your mind gets renewed and you realize I'm breaking God's heart. I'm a son I'm a daughter. That's why a lot of people you don't feel as presence. The reason you don't want to read the Bible or praying for more than a few seconds, your mind wanders everywhere, is because of unresolved issues. The issue is your identity.
The issue is that who you really are. And an immoral lifestyle contradicts who you are. That's not who you are, but it also contradicts who Jesus is. Jesus was not someone who sinned. Jesus was someone who loved.
Jesus is someone who's pure, in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus.
So Externally trying to keep these rules isn't at the heart of the new life. How do you become transformed? How does it really work? And he's going to give us the general outline. In verses 22 to 24.
And he's going to say there's three principles of renewal. Three specific principles that progressively, yes, at a point in time you're justified. God fills you with His Spirit. He forgives your sin, He declares you, He sits you in the heavenly places. He says, Now, there's a journey of walking.
We achieve personal purity by following God's threefold principles of transformation. Number one, we put off the old. Notice what it says. Put off the old self. It's a metaphor, it's a picture of like having shabby, dirty, stinky, torn clothes.
And it's an attensive verb that means at a certain time, at a certain point, you make a decision and you take them off. For some of us, you've come to Christ. and you struggle with an addiction to alcohol or codependency or drugs. For some of us, you have an addiction to pleasing people, or you find your worth in work. We have a lot of these sins that we kind of get rewarded for.
And it says at a certain point, you need to make a decision that you need to take that off. My identity, I please people because I think I'm only acceptable. My identity is everyone likes me all the time.
So you're overextended. Or you're a workaholic like I have been. And you feel like I am my performance, how much I do, how much I accomplish. When I have those uneasy feelings, I just start working because when I work, I feel better.
Some of you have eating problems. When you have that dissonance in your soul, you eat and go to the refrigerator because when you eat, you feel a little bit better for just a little while. He says, you gotta. At some point you make a decision. And you say, I drink every night after dinner because there's this stuff going on inside of me, and it used to be just an occasional glass of wine, but I can't not do it.
And it went from an occasional glass of wine to a few margaritas, and then it went from that to, you know, a shot of Jack Daniels really kind of helps you sleep better. And you've had friends and people talk to you and say, you know, hey, honey, or hey. I I think that's an yeah, I'm just social. I've got this freedom in Christ, and you do. But if a number of people were saying that you have a drinking problem, here's all I would say: well, just don't drink anything for the next seven days.
Oh, I could do that.
Okay, we'll do it. Bet you can't. This is Living on the Edge Chip Ingramram. And a message titled How to Break Out of a Destructive Cycle. It's part of our series called Free at Last: How to Break Out of a Destructive Lifestyle.
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Well now here's Chip with some final thoughts. You know there are some things in the Bible that are very, very clear. and to day's was very, very strong. Those of us that are brand new creatures in Christ Have the Spirit of the Living God dwelling in us. and what we learned today.
unequivocally. is that a new life demands a new lifestyle.
Now, I want to talk just personally and as a pastor to you, where are you at? How are you doing? When I talked about the sensuality and the discrepancy between what people say and how they live, and these very, I mean, very strong words that the Apostle Paul says, and then he follows them up by saying, but you didn't learn Christ in this way. Can I ask you, in not a condemning way, Does your present lifestyle match your new life? I mean, does it really Do you watch the kind of things that would be honoring to God?
Are you involved in relationships in a way that honor God? Do you put things in your mind that honor God? Or quite honestly, when I was talking, Did a little light go on and the Holy Spirit say to you, you gotta change. This is wrong. You've been in denial.
The Spirit of God convicted you. And you might be saying to yourself, well, what do I do, Chip? I mean, what exactly do I do? It's a biblical word. What you need to do first is be honest and identify and say, God, it is true.
My lifestyle does not match my new life. And so I'm going to admit that. It's called confession. The second thing you need to do is repent. You need to have a change of mind.
I don't want you to imagine your life is like someone driving on a freeway and they realize I'm going the wrong direction. And so you repent. You have a change of mind that leads to a change of action. Whatever you need to do, To turn the car of your life around and get on the path of righteousness, do it today. You'll never regret it.
and you will meet a God who loves you and cares for you and has a tremendous plan for your life. But you need to obey what you've heard.
So go for it. I'm Dave Druy. Chip's not finished yet.
Next time, he shares two of the most practical reasons your life is designed to keep changing, no matter how long you followed Jesus. Don't miss the rest of How to Break Out of the Destructive Cycle next time on Living on the Edge. Yeah. Oh. Today's program is produced and sponsored by Living on the Edge.
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