Today I'm Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram. Would you like to become a more loving person? And by the way, is there someone in your life right now that's hard to love?
Well, stay with me. Help is on the way to deliver on those two things. Is there a relationship in your life that's broken? Maybe it's an unresolved conflict with a family member, a former business partner, or someone at church. I'm Dave Druy, and today on Living on the Edge, Chippinggram launches a powerful series called Choosing Love: A Daily Decision That Changes Everything.
In today's message, Chip reveals why God's greatest joy is seeing His children love one another. If you're ready to transform your most important connections, this message is for you.
Well, here's Chip Ingram with a message titled, Love Gives. One of God's greatest joys is to see his children Love each other. Isn't that amazing? The God of heaven, the God that created the stars, the God who made us, the God who sent God the Son to die in our place, one of His greatest, greatest joys is when we love one another. And you know, I know as a parent, I mean, isn't that true for those of you that are parents?
I had twin boys. And Therese and I have sons that are twins, and Eric and Jason, and they're five minutes apart. I mean, for the first 18 years of their life, I mean, at times they dressed the same, they had the same classes, the same room, the same everything. Did they fight? I mean I mean thought.
I mean to the point of I mean physical. And I'll never forget the time. We came home from a little getaway a couple of days and well, how'd everything go? Oh, things were great, things were great. And they were kind of standing kind of funny against the wall or something.
And I didn't even notice it, and we had a great time. And years later, You know, when families get together and adult kids tell you what really happened, Oh dad, we couldn't believe you and mom didn't even notice that Eric and Jason got in a fight and Eric went to punch him and he ducked and he put his fist through the wall and we patched it and painted it and we were so afraid you would find out. I remember Teresa saying once, because she grew up with two sisters. She said Do you think they'll ever, ever love each other? I said, honey, this is kind of normal stuff, yes.
I mean, we have to set boundaries and discipline. But I just want you to get God's heart. It breaks his heart when we fight. It breaks his heart when we have feelings inside that are resentful and bitter. And when you have an unresolved relationship with another believer, another brother, another sister.
Maybe you did business with him. Maybe you were in a small group with them. Maybe it was in another church. I don't know. But I'm going to ask you, get your heart open.
God wants to deal with because it matters to God, not just because it brings Him joy, but it's so important. It's such a priority to Him. If we could eavesdrop the very last night, When Jesus was praying in John 17, I mean, you read that prayer, Father. Father. Make them one, even as we are one.
You in me and I in you and and us. In them. Father, I pray that as I leave, that you would cause there to be a supernatural unity in order that the world would know. That's a prayer that only you can answer in your home. Only I can answer in my relationships.
And not only does God the Father find joy when we love one another, and God the Son prays passionately and commands us to love one another and says the gospel, its validity, is based on whether the world sees us love each other, the Apostle Paul commands it. In our study in Philippians chapter 2, follow along I'm reading in the Phillips translation. He says, now, if you experience of Christ, if there's any encouragement and love means anything to you, If you've known something of the fellowship of His Spirit, and all that it means in kindness and deep sympathy. And then here's the command. Make my best hope for you or my joy come true.
Live together in harmony. Live together in love. as though you had only one mind, and one spirit before you.
So just before you open those notes, I want you to think about Is there any? relationship. that you don't have harmony. that's out of sorts. And I'm pushing a little bit because we tend to push these down.
Could have been two months ago, two years ago, could be 20 years ago, could be an in-law situation or a brother or sister you haven't seen in 20 years. God wants to get a hold of our hearts and our life. And Philippians chapter 2 is going to teach us how we can choose love and experience it.
Now, as you open your notes, I want you to see the structure of this passage. First of all, there's a very clear context: there's conflict without. And there's conflict within. The conflict without, you know, there was persecution, there was difficulty, there was pressure. These Philippian Christians, just like Paul, I mean, they were getting intimidated, they were getting persecuted, they were having struggles and conflicts from the pagan world and even from some Jewish false teachers.
I mean, not a lot different than what we see happening more and more and more today. Is it You know, people are intimidating Christians. People are becoming more afraid as believers. to stand up and stand strong because of external pressure. But in this particular church, there's conflict within.
We'll learn more about it in chapter 4 when we meet a couple ladies that apparently had a real conflict that was causing a rift throughout the whole church. And you and I have both seen that happen in a small group or in a family or in a Sunday school class. And so then there's a very, very interesting command. I gave the words, live in authentic, Christ-empowered unity.
Now, the way he says it is, make my joy complete. I mean, he said, you've brought me great joy. You came to Christ. Remember, I was in that Philippian jail, and we had fellowship, and you all came to know the Lord, and there's this tremendous movement happening in this church. He said, So I've received joy now.
Make my joy complete because since Paul is now in Rome, some things have happened, like happen in lots of churches, and lots of families and lots of small groups. You know, this person thinks it ought to be this way, and this person says no. And well, you said this to my daughter.
Well, this is how you treated my son.
Well, you know, every time you come, you know, you think you're the hottest stuff, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And there it goes. And so Paul says, make my joy complete. And he says, I want there to be authentic. Christ-empowered unity.
In other words, he says, I don't want just you to, you know. Put up with each other. I don't want it to be just superficial. From the heart. I want you to love one another.
resolve the conflicts. forgive one another, care for one another. In a way that Christ has cared. for you. Look at this very, very interesting structure.
The structure here, he says, notice it says there's an if then. In Greek, and I won't get too detailed here, but there's called conditional clauses. We have them in English as well. But what I love about the Greek language, it's so clear, there's like three or four types of conditional clauses.
So when it says if, then, if, then, you know for sure what they're talking about. This is called a first-class condition, and the idea is it's assumed to be true. And so notice what he says. He goes, if there's any encouragement in Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, And that you could translate all that since you have encouragement in Christ, since you have comfort, since you have fellowship, since you have tenderness and compassion, then. Make my joy complete by notice.
After these four incentives, Be of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit. Intent. on one purpose. It's it's interesting here. He's going to tell us that Unlike the golden rule.
which is due unto others, as you would have them do unto you. His premise goes a little bit differently. I call it the platinum rule. Do unto others. as God has already done unto you.
In other words, the entire premise, what happens in conflicts and struggles and relationships is we think just horizontal and they did that and they don't deserve that. And when she apologizes or when he does that or when one of my kids comes back and really says, you know, Dad, I'm really sorry and I understood this or I understood that or, you know, what they said at that last Thanksgiving or that family reunion, I'll never talk to them again unless what they need to do, he said, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. He said, here's what I want you to get. The basis of loving people Isn't How they've treated you, good or bad. The basis of our love is a choice.
I choose love. And here's the basis of the choice. The basis of the choice is this is how God's loved you. He has encouraged you. He's come alongside you.
He's forgiven you. Uh he's Been tender. You now have the fellowship. He has come to take up residence in you. He's sealed you with His Spirit.
He's adopted you. He's given you spiritual gifts. Tenderness and compassion. The word tenderness here is splokna. It has the idea, it's rooted in the idea of something deep within the bowels.
There's something tender, deep in the character of God, that you are his treasure. And then the compassion is an outward external evidence of an action that you so mattered that he did something. And what he did was. He chose to go to the cross. He chose to love you and me when we were his enemies.
While we were yet enemies, Christ died in our place, Paul tells us. In Romans 5.8. And so the basis, the incentives, all four of these incentives. This is how you have been authentically, deeply, unconditionally loved.
Now. Make my joy complete and be unified authentically from the heart. And now he's going to show us exactly what biblical unity looks like. Number one, he says, be like-minded or of one spirit. Literally, it means think the same things.
And the focus here is on truth. You're listening to Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram. We'll hear more from Chip in just a moment. If today's message is speaking to your heart, don't keep it to yourself. Share this teaching with someone who needs to hear it by visiting livingonthege.org.
While you're there, be sure to check out all of the other faith-building resources we have available, including teaching videos, blogs, and devotionals from Chip. It's all waiting for you at livingonthege.org. Let's continue with Chip's message. See, genuine unity is built on truth. It's thinking, it's content, it's doctrine.
These things are true.
So often, and I see it more and more today, it's unity is sort of like, oh, let's just love everyone, don't judge anyone. It's pseudo-unity. I mean, who are we to say anything? Let's just let this slide. Real unity demands truth.
It demands truth about what the Scripture says about morality. It demands truth about what the Scripture says about sexuality. It demands truth about doctrine when it talks about the very narrow way to go to heaven. and by what Christ has done in Him alone. He says unity.
is rooted in truth. Second, he says maintaining the same love. He says, it's not just about the truth. This phrase here is, have the same love. Mutually love one another the way God has loved you, honestly, sacrificially.
You know, we talk a lot about Romans 12 here as the profile of what it is to be a disciple. And in Romans chapter 12, there's a section in the middle about loving one another, and it says, outdo one another. in honor. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. This is the idea.
This isn't like some, yes.
Well, you know, she's not as spiritual as I am, and I guess they made a mistake. And so, you know, I'll treat them and I'll forgive them because, you know, I am superior. He said, no, this has got to come from the heart. Biblical unity has to do with a genuine spiritual transformation that flows from an internal passion and concern that God gives you because you have received it, now you give it. Third notice, It has the idea of united in spirit.
Literally the phrase? Is like-souled. It means to have a common heart, not just that you care, a common heart, that you're real, that you're authentic. No superficiality. And then the last one here is intent on one purpose.
It's a unity that you say, we're in it together. We're going to resolve our issues. What God has done for me, I'm commanded to pass on to you. Paul, we're going to make your joy complete. And here's how we're going to do it: We're going to be one mind, truth.
We're going to be one heart, care for one another. We're going to have one soul. We're going to connect. And we have a common purpose. The gospel going forward.
People being loved, the poor being fed. People with HIV knowing someone cares. The people that are struggling with sexual identity issues know there's a church somewhere that cares. that wants to help. that doesn't condemn, that doesn't bend on the truth, but actually wants to help people that are marginalized and struggling.
This is what he's talking about. And it's that kind of love. that turned the world upside down. And continues to turn the world upside down, family by family, small group by small group, church by church, community by community. God has called this church at this time when it appears that the world is falling apart and that America is so divided.
God is calling you and He's calling me. Make my joy complete, my children. I want you to choose to love. And when you cross your arms and say, not after what they've done to me, or, you know, I think those people are crazy, and why are these people doing this? And why are they tweeting that?
And I'm so ticked off. Can you imagine, honestly, I mean, honestly, can you imagine the God of heaven Looking down upon the creation that he's made. And then looking closely at his people. The church, I don't mean buildings. People within the Spirit of God is living.
You talk about someone that ought to be ticked off. And yet he's patient and kind and gracious and he's saying to you and he's saying to me, this is a priority, this is a non-negotiable. I'm commanding you to choose to love one another. Not the golden rule, the platinum rule. I want you to love other people the way that I've loved you.
Now, I hope at this point you're saying, Okay, I get it. And those of you that are a little more honest with yourself. Could be saying, you know, I can't do that. And you know what? You'd be right.
I can't either. In fact... God doesn't expect you to be able to do it. But he's going to tell us exactly how.
So I want you to go back to that. former business associate, that ex-mate, A dad, a mom, a son, a nephew. And then I I want to open the text. And what we're going to learn from God's Word. if you're willing.
Is that we can choose love and we can learn how. to be. A more loving person.
Now, there's no magic pill if you think that, you know, in the next, you know. Minutes or so, I'm going to give you some magic pill. Oh, I'm loving, I'm loving, I love everybody. No, no, no, no, no. We're going to face some hard things because what we're going to learn is Why we're unloving.
The drastic approach and what we're going to have to deal with in order to become loving. And then we're going to start this journey of choosing love, and I'm going to share.
some real practical ways. Where we can actually go on a journey empowered by the Spirit of God. and become more loving. Notice the uh The right side of your notes. And it just asks this question and we're going to answer it in just a minute.
And the question is how to become a more loving person. Choose to declare war on write the word. Selfishness. Choose Declare war. On Selfishness.
And as usual, when I When I go uh high tech here, my uh iPad is not working, so I think I'll go with a little bit less technical one that you all have. Turn to Philippians chapter 2 if you're not already there. And let me read for you. This command. Philippians chapter 2.
Uh we've looked at verses uh one and two. Follow along here in chapter 2 as we read verse 3 and 4. Do nothing from selfishness. or empty conceit. But in humility of mind consider others.
more important than yourself. Verse 4, let each of you look not only on your own interest, But also on the interest. of others. You may be looking at this and saying Declare war? Aren't you getting a little radical here?
No, no. We're born with this innate ability. to be selfish. In fact, let me define selfish ambition here. Four words.
I want my way. That's selfish ambition. I want my way. It's a me-first mentality. I want to be number one.
I'm selfish.
Now, it's very unpopular to admit that. But what is hard to see in ourselves, isn't it easy to see in others? I mean, you get out on the freeway. Are people selfish or what? But you don't slide out of being selfish.
Even though the living Spirit of Christ lives inside of you and you're born again and you're part of the kingdom of God, there's this battle. Galatians talks about the spirit wages war against the flesh. This. predisposition toward my way, my stuff. is rooted in your heart and you'll have it until the day you die.
But the Spirit of God can give you the ability To inhumility. Look at the second half of that text. In humility, consider others. as more important than yourself. Humility can be a very misunderstood words.
So I came across a very, very interesting article. I think of humility as not thinking too highly of yourself, not thinking too lowly of yourself. But having an accurate, sober self assessment. As one person said, humility. is not thinking less of yourself.
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Well, now here's Chip. As we wrap up today's program, I don't know if you caught it, but there was a little phrase. That we tend to think and actually act horizontally. In other words, in relationships, we tend to think, well, she did that, or he did that, or they really ought to do that. And if you've ever sat at a coffee shop and not really tried to listen to other people's conversations, but just happened to catch what they're saying, you might observe that the great majority of conversations in coffee shops are two people talking about someone else.
It's really interesting how we find some, I think, kind of perverted pleasure in talking about what some other political party ought to do, or what the government ought to do, or what someone at work did, or talking about my husband, or my wife, or one of my kids, in not such good terms. And the platinum rule that we talked about is doing unto others as God has already done unto you. I mean, we know the golden rule. We know the joy that happens when we treat others the way we want to be treated. But I think sometimes we say, yes, I want to do that, but I don't have the power or I don't have the will, I don't have the motivation.
And as this chapter of Philippians 2 opened up, What we really heard was If there's been any encouragement in Christ, if any comfort in His love, and we learned that that little word if really means since. Since God has loved you, since He's changed you, since He's poured out all that you need, so take what He's given to you and pass it on to others. Could I encourage you today to think of one person that you have a little bit of a problem with, and then I want you to ponder the platinum rule, and I want you to say, oh Lord, since you've accepted me and you've loved me and you've helped me, I'm going to choose to have an act of kindness toward this person. It might be a note, might be a text, you might pick them up coffee and drop it off at work, but do something kind for someone that you struggle with. Watch what happens in them and then watch what happens in you.
I'm Dave Druy, inviting you to come back tomorrow as we continue our series about choosing love right here on Living on the Edge. Wow. Today's program is produced and sponsored by Living on the Edge. Uh
