Are you tired of trying to find love? Or maybe you're just trying to keep love alive in a relationship. Could it be? that you're missing the key ingredient in your life. Today?
will discover the secret of Binding? keeping. and giving love away like never before. Stay with me. Welcome to this Edition of Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram.
Our mission is to inspire Christians to be genuine followers of Jesus. It will empower them to be active disciple makers in our world. Thanks for joining us as we're continuing our series, Spiritual Simplicity, Doing Less, Loving More. Today, Chip's going to build on the questions he just posed by exploring our desire for love and connection. and the truth may surprise you.
So grab your Bible and notes as we join Chip with another inspiring song-themed message: What the world needs now is love, sweet love. Do you realize That you were created That in your soul, in your heart, in your mind, Even in your physical body, you were designed and created by God. to be loved. And I want to tell you, you have a receiver built into your heart and built into your soul. Built into your thinking, actually built into the fibers of your physical body.
And you are from the moment you come out of the womb and you make eye contact with your mother. There is something inside of you reaching up and reaching out to get connected and what you need and what you were made for was to be loved. to be affirmed to be cared for, to be held, to be valued, not for what you do. Not for what you accomplish, not for how you look. But for just who you are, And that journey begins with the first breath, and it'll end at your last breath.
And that demand and that drive. for love never ends. But if you don't get it right, and if you end up spiritually and emotionally, like a lot of people spend their whole life just looking, looking, looking, looking, looking for love. And there's only one place to find it where you'll be loved in that way, and that's what we're going to talk about because that simplifies life. There's a song that got very popular.
If you came here a little bit early, you heard it. And it's what the world needs now is love, sweet love. And we had to make it from one city to another, and it was hard to stay awake. And so the little rent car had XM. You know, you got like a zillion stations.
So, like, every 20 seconds we changed to a new station. And you know, if we it was a little song we knew then we'd sing along. But I mean we went through like 50 stations in two and a half hours just to stay awake. And 49 of the stations had songs that were about. Love.
Finding it, losing it, getting it, wanting it, finding it, getting it, losing it, wanting it. Love, love. I mean, we heard country love, we heard hip-hop love, we heard alternative love, we heard easy listening love, we heard love, love, love. Tell you what, what the world wants is love.
Now, if you will open your notes, I want you to read along very carefully with me. Because if we're designed and made for love and we don't get it deeply, unconditionally, and authentically, some really bad stuff happens. And that bad stuff is why a lot of our lives are very complicated. On the front of your notes, it says, when we are not deeply and personally loved in ways that make sense to us, we will settle for any number of pseudo-love substitutes. Pseudo meaning false.
Substitutes, the idea is: I want loved, you want loved, I've got that little thing going inside of me going click, click, click, click, click, click, looking, looking, looking. And if you don't get it deeply, authentically, unconditionally, in a way that makes sense to you. You'll settle. For substitutes like affirmation, we receive from success. It feels a lot like love.
You're good at that. We appreciate that. Wow. You scored a lot of points. You made a lot of money.
You're good. You're smart. Affirmation. It's a cheap substitute for love. Doesn't mean that we don't need affirmed, but it's not love.
Or things like adulation that you receive from fame. Everyone wants their 15 minutes of fame because you were on TV. You're a celebrity. You're important. You matter.
We've seen your face somewhere. And there's this adulation. But it's not love. It's people falling in love with an image. or like the temporary intimacy we experience from illicit sex.
When loneliness and pain and struggle and the connections don't make it, some people log on onto the internet.
Some people have affairs.
Some people do all manner of things trying to fill the hole. And there's this temporary sense of connectedness, this temporary sense that I'm loved and this feels good, followed by lots of really bad stuff. through illicit sex of all kinds. Or sometimes we look for love in the attention that we receive from our appearance and our possessions. I mean think of the energy that goes in.
The multi-multi-billion dollar Makeup business. The multi-multi-billion dollar fitness business. You know, what you possess, how you appear. You get attention and it feels like love. But what The attention is focused on is not who you really are.
It just happens to be on kind of what you look like today. Or what you're driving. or what you wear. Or the temporary things like esteem that comes from position. Oh, you're a somebody now.
You got a corner office. You're a somebody, you know, you're the star on the team. You're a somebody, you made the cheerleading squad. You're a somebody because you have this position. Or finally, the security that we perceive from wealth.
And so we get up early and we go late and We move and we get complex, driven, complex lives because we feel like if we get more money, we'll be secure. And if we'll secure, security feels a lot like love. Look at the bottom of the page. This is critical. This is why our lives get complex.
Our quest to be loved deeply and personally create fast-paced, overextended, complex lives driven. To obtain success, fame, sex, looks, position, power, and wealth in the desperate hope that someday, some way, we'll be loved. But notice the last little line. Just for who we are. Everything in this list, when you get done, even if you receive it, people aren't loving you for who you are.
They're loving you for the position that you have or the appearance that you have or the possessions that you have. And yet, that little dot that little search engine inside of you that wants to connect. You and I and every single person on this planet of all backgrounds, of all races, of all cultures want and need to be loved.
So if love is what the world needs. Three questions emerge. Where do you find it? How do you get it and how do you give it away? Where do you find it?
How do you get it? And how do you give it away? Let's start with number one. Where do you find it? The source of love.
That's unconditional. that's focused on who you are, not what you accomplish. is God. Listen to 1 John. It says, dear friends, let us love one another.
Why? For love comes from God. Everyone who loves God is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God. Why?
Because God is love. John says, the source of the love that you need in your soul. The only thing that'll ever fill you up is the love of God. And he says, when you know him. When you are loved by Him, one of the evidences will be.
That you will naturally overflow in love relationships to others. And the most attractive people in the world, the people that I want to be around and you want to be around, are what? Loving people. No one wants to be around selfish jerks. We all want to be loving people, but it's just hard.
And it raises the question: what would it look like to be loved by God? I mean, that's so ethereal. God loves you. I heard that all my life. I didn't have a clue of what it meant.
What would it look like if you could understand and feel and see and know that you are the object of God's affection? I put it in your notes. Zephaniah 3:17 is to me one of the greatest pictures of getting a grasp of God's love for us. It says, The Lord your God is with you. Part of being loved is someone that won't abandon you.
It's someone that hangs with you. And not only is he with you, he is mighty to save. And you might write in your notes above that word save, write the word deliver. I mean, of course we know that he saves, he forgives our sins, but especially in the Old Testament, when you see the word save, it has the idea of deliverance. When someone loves you and you're in a jam, they show up and they help you get out of the jam.
I mean, that's who I call when I'm in a jam. To be loved by God, the Lord your God. It's his covenant name, it's his personal name, Yahweh. is with you. He is mighty to save.
And then look at the next line. He will take great delight in you. Underline the word in you. It doesn't say he'll take great delight in how you look. He'll take great delight in your position.
He'll take great delight in what you can accomplish. He'll take great delight in your success. He'll take great delight in you. The one that created the galaxies and the billions and billions of stars, after he created everything, he created man. And then he said the pinnacle, the most important, the apex of all of his creation is you.
Not if you do something, not because you've accomplished something, but you as you are, created by God, made in His image, He takes delight in you. He'd like to spend time with you. He'd like to bless you. He'd like to talk with you. He'd like to develop you.
That's what love does. It always brings out the best in others.
So he's with you. He delivers you. He takes great delight in you. Notice, he will quiet you with his love. If there's one thing I hear from people all the time, Christian or non-Christian, in a high stress, complicated world is I wish I had some peace.
I wish I just had some peace in this marriage. I wish I had some peace in my heart. You know when you get peace? When you can unload all the issues and all the concerns and all the cares, and when you have that sort of sense that no matter what's going on out there. It's okay.
For many of us, that happens in a human relationship. There's times I get completely overwhelmed and I write down all these different things, and you know, I'm really struggling, but it's over a cup of coffee sitting with Teresa Usley and saying, Honey, I know I'm not supposed to be anxious, and I know I'm not supposed to be this, but I'm feeling all this. And you know what? I've laid all this out in my journal with God, but I need. I need to sit down.
And we'll kind of talk it through. And there's a quieting Of that relationship. And you know what? That's what God wants to do. He wants to quiet your heart.
With his love. He wants to tell you, you know what? Yeah, the economy is kind of rough right now, and the marriage has some struggles right now, and you've been single a little bit longer than you like right now, and you know, there's some physical aimments that you wish would get better right now, but you know something I've like got it all taken care of. Like you're made to live forever? Could you relax, will ya?
I mean, if God is for you, who can be against you? If he's got unlimited resources and you're the object of his affection, You know, you can Most of our anxiety is always focused on what might happen someday, some way. And he says, I got that someday covered. And then finally, notice I love this last line. He says he will rejoice over you with singing.
This is a picture, literally, of God. And for some of us men, this is sort of a hard picture. Because It's a picture of God holding you like you're a little helpless baby, and like you've ever seen a mom. I've watched Teresa do this when our kids were small, and now when she puts our grandkids to bed, I can hear in the other room, and she'll hold the little ones and she'll sing over them. And it's just sort of this.
I just want to quiet you down. I rejoice over you. God's prayer. presence. God's power.
All of God's You are his delight. He just wants you to know that's how I feel about you. You're listening to Living on the Edge. We'll get you back to today's program in just a second. But first, did you know that other believers are paramount to your faith journey?
Keep listening after this message as Chip explains why and highlights some resources we have to get you into authentic community today. Stick around to learn more. But for now, here again is Chip. Can you imagine what would happen? and how free your life could be.
and how you could simplify And begin to push some of the stuff on the front page of these notes to the side, if you honestly in your heart of hearts believed that's how God actually feels about you at this moment. And are you ready? Nothing you can do can ever change that.
Now you can have windows of blessing through obedience. But even when he disciplines us, it's because he loves you. That's why Paul would pray to the Ephesian church. He would pray, since God already loves you, I pray that you might be strengthened in your inner man, so that you might comprehend the height, and depth, and length, and breadth, and to know the love of God that surpasses knowledge or comprehension. That's a great thing to pray for one another and for your kids.
Well, it raises a question, okay, let's can we all agree at this point? That's true. God really loves me and he loves me like that.
Well, how do you make the connection? You know, the fact that he loves you and how do you get it operational in your heart and your life and your experience? Notice what the scripture says. It says, God deposits his love in his followers' hearts through his Spirit. Same passage, 1 John, he goes on, he says, We know that we live in him and he in us because he's given us his Spirit.
Put a circle around live in him, and then another circle, live in us, and you might put little arrows and connect him. We know, he says it's absolutely true, that we live in him, connection, and he in us, connection, because he's given us or he's deposited us in us his spirit. And then he explains how that works. He says, and we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges, literally, the word is confess, agrees with, that Jesus is the Son of God.
God lives in him and he in God. He says there is a condition to experience and receive God's love. Christ died on the cross, fully God and fully man, to pay for your sin, my sin, the sins of all people of all time. He's our sin substitute. He says: if you confess and acknowledge, it's not your good works, it's not your religiosity.
Christ died in your place as your substitute. And if you turn from sin, receive His forgiveness, He says the Spirit of God comes into your mortal body. And you live in him, and he lives in you, and he takes up residence inside of you. And he will then manifest the power and the presence of the living God, and now you have that connection. On my little iPad, it goes like this.
Then it goes. And it connects. And then a bunch of stuff. Downloads. And he wants to download adoption.
And forgiveness. and place you and his family. And grace and seal you with the Spirit. and give you spiritual gifts. And create a new path, and the same power that raised Christ from the dead dwells in you the moment you do that.
Now he goes on to say that when we're filled or controlled by the Holy Spirit, the outcome or the overflow is love.
So the Spirit lives inside of you. The Spirit, God, the second person of the Trinity. Is the means by which God's love gets from out there in here. And then look what it says in Galatians 5:22 and 23. The fruit singular.
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness. It goes on to say self-control.
So That love that I just described about his presence and his power and you being the object of his affection, all of that is available. But there's only two reasons why you can't experience it. Reason number one would be... Living like I did my first 18 years outside of Christ. I intellectually was aware of God's love, but I'd never turned from my sin, asked Christ to forgive me, and come into my life.
If you've never done that, today's a great day to do it. It's called being born from above or being born by the Spirit. The Bible calls it salvation. It's when you experience forgiveness and a spirit comes into your life and you are justified. You're declared righteous before God because of what Christ did for you.
Now the second reason you can be a believer and his spirit lives in you, but what I found is I can have this thing. And I'm not going to mention which carrier that it is. But there's times where I can turn this baby on. And I can be working, and then all of a sudden, cannot send mail, cannot receive mail, it drops. You know, just like you have a drop call.
I can't get anything. And maybe it's because there's too many buildings or maybe it's a dead spot, but basically there's interference. There's times where interference from whatever signals come on that little pad and I can't get anything. I've got the pad. I'm connected.
I paid my bill. But there's interference. And you can have the Spirit of God living in you, but if He's not in control, if there's interference like sin, Like you know exactly what God wants you to do, but you say no. If your priorities are out of whack, if you get so busy and so inundated doing other things and pursuing other things, you know, God and His great love. Doesn't plus there's interference.
And so he says if we confess our sins, he's faithful and just to forgive us. and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
So, some of you are here today that you desperately need to experience God's love. And intellectually, you're saying, Yeah, I really want that. And you're saying, I know I'm really a Christian. And you're saying, But my life is crazy. And I'm not experiencing that.
Well, guess what? Part of how you experience it is. He wants to give you grace and he wants to speak to you, but it's been a while since you really talked to him. And he wants you to stop and simplify your life and quit chasing the wind and be quiet before him. And he's going to bring people into your life if you slow down and get connected to him.
Where you get together, and he's going to show up in the physical bodies of other people and love you through their words, and their arms, and their feet, and their kindness. And so all I want to get to you. is to know one thing. You were created to be loved. The source of love is God.
His means of experiencing that love is depositing His Spirit inside of you. And third, His Spirit can live inside of you, but you need to surrender to and be in alignment and obedience to that Spirit.
So, what He has for you. you can actually receive. And so if you want to know the question. Where do you find it? God.
By what means? The spirit. as you walk in obedience.
Now here's what I'm going to tell you. Knowing where to get love and experiencing it. is two very different things. I mean, everything I've said, you can agree with me. And say to yourself, but I still feel lonely.
I'm really kind of discouraged. I feel kind of depressed. I don't feel very loved at all. And I'm a Christian. And in fact, I'm.
Gosh, I read the Bible some and I'm praying some. I'm in one of those small groups, and it's okay. But I'm not getting what you're talking about.
So let's now ask and answer the question, how do you get it? How do you experience love? You can be deeply loved and yet. Not experience it. Many, many years ago, I remember reading the article.
Maybe some of you can remember about the bubble boy. He was born without an immune system. And this little boy grew up and he was in a bubble, literally. Bubble and his parents would have to put things in through this. He never got touched.
His parents loved him and they cared for him, but he never got touched by him. He lived literally in a plastic. Room bubble. Because if he came out, he would die. You know, I think there's a lot of Christians that on the outside There's this God that longs to connect with you and touch you and love you and encourage you, but there's this bubble.
Many times by our own creating, sometimes by the work of others. And God wants to break through that and connect your heart to His so you experience His love. Let me give you the two major ways that God has designed for us to experience His love. God designed love to be birthed and modeled in our Families. Ephesians 5.
Through chapter 6, verse 4. I'd encourage you to follow along, and I don't usually read a long passage, but this one is one. You just need to lean back, and here's what I want you to listen as I read. Notice we said love comes from God's Spirit. Notice he's going to talk about you surrendering or allowing the Spirit to control you.
And then I'm going to show you from Scripture that God has a very clear design that where He wants us to learn about love is in our families. He actually designed the family system to work in such a way that little boys and little girls would grow up feeling loved, affirmed, cared for, not for what they do, but for who they are. Pick it up with me in verse 15. The apostle, after telling us all this great stuff we have in Christ, says, Be very careful then how you live, not as unwise, but as wise. Making the most of every opportunity because the days are evil.
Therefore, don't be foolish. But understand what the will of the Lord is. And he says, Well, what's the will of the Lord?
Well, don't be drunk with wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled, and the word means controlled, with the Spirit.
Well, if you're filled with the Spirit, what happens?
Well, speak to one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. And then, by the way, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. When you're filled with the Spirit, there's a joy in your heart. There's a melody.
There's a perspective where you realize God's in control and He's good, and you choose to give thanks. And then He says, Now I'm going to talk about relationships and how love works when the Spirit's in control. And He says, The baseline is. No one steps up and says, I gotta have my way on my terms. Submit or surrender one to another.
In other words, God, you're the great choreographer. and you're going to put relationships together. You show me my part of the dance. You show me my role.
So that I can Get and receive your love and then give it in the way you want me to. And so then he starts and says, okay, family relationships. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives should submit to their husbands in everything. And just before the women go, are you kidding? He says, husbands? Love your wives just as Christ loved the church.
Well, he died. You're starting to get the point, guys. And gave himself for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing of the water with the word. to present her to himself as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it just as Christ does the church. for we're members of his body for this reason. A man will leave his mother and father and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery, but I'm talking.
about Christ in the church, however, application, each one of you must love his wife as himself. And the wife must respect her husband. Children Obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother. Respect.
Yeah. Listen to them. Obey them. Why? Well, this is the first commandment with a promise, that it may go well with you, and that you may live and enjoy a long life on the earth.
Fathers, do not exasperate your children instead. Bring them up in the training and the instruction of the Lord. He's going to go on and talk about slaves and masters, but here's what he says: the Spirit of God contains the love of God. The Spirit of God comes into a human heart. He's going to say, there can either be resistance or you can surrender and say, I want to do life your way.
This is Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram, and you've been listening to part one of Chip's message, What the World Needs Now is Love, Sweet Love, from our series, Spiritual Simplicity. Chip will be back shortly to share some helpful application for us to think about. Most of us live very hectic lives, moving too fast, demanding too much, and delivering too little. If you're desperate for an alternative that actually works, then this study is for you. Chip's teaching will help you escape this destructive pattern and reveal how to better prioritize what matters most and love others in a fresh, revolutionary way.
If you've missed any part of this series, catch up any time through the Chip Ingram app.
Well, our Bible teacher, Chip Ingram, is again with us in the studio to share a compelling word with all of you. Chip? Thanks so much, Dave. The culture around us is a battleground. and were not called to retreat, but to engage.
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Well, Chip, as we wrap up this program, I think it's essential that we loop back into the topic of surrender and submission. Take a minute to unpack its critical role in a Christian's life and what God actually intended it to look like. I'd be glad to, Dave. The fact of the matter is, we all have to submit to someone. Little babies, little kids, you have to learn to submit to your parents' wisdom because they know more.
So you don't put your hand on the stove, you don't run out into the street. And God clearly. clearly lines out He's designed the world in such a way that he places boundaries and people, and at times, rules and laws. not to prohibit our freedom, But to actually make us free. And whether it's in our personal relationships, submitting to God and His Word, in our marriage relationships, whether it's submitting and laying down your life for your wife or as a woman to respect and submit to your husband to be a team, whether it's children obeying their parents, submission is the channel.
through which God's biggest and best blessings flow, and our human nature just grades against it. And I think for many of us, we've bought into freedom means I can do whatever I want. The very last line in the teaching, I said, the Spirit of God reveals the love of God. and each one of us wants to resist against the Spirit's work in our life. Here's my question for you today.
Are you going to do life today God's way or your way? Is there an area in your life he's been speaking to you about? Submit, surrender, obey me, not your way. And if he is, can I encourage you, do it today. You'll be glad.
Thanks, Chip.
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Well join us next time as Chip continues his series. Spiritual simplicity. Until then, I'm Dave Druhy, thanking you for listening to this Edition of Living on the Edge.
