Q&A With Koloff- #82

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This is the Truth Network. Welcome to another episode of Q&A with Kolov, the Devil's Nightmare. Today, a special call today with a dear, dear friend, long-time friend, Megan Hyatt. Megan, welcome to the Q&A show. Thank you, Nikita. Thank you so much. Well, great to have you with us here today. I hear a little one in the background.

Of course, you are a mama, and we're going to talk about that. But you're over in Tennessee, right, Megan? That's correct. Where in Tennessee? East Tennessee, the Kingsport Tri-Cities area. Tri-Cities, Kingsport, hmm.

I seem to recall a place called Freedom Hall, if I'm not mistaken, there in the Tri-Cities area. I frequented it a handful of times in the squared circle. But so you're up there, you're a mama.

Tell us about, you've got a very unique story. We go back, gosh, do you even know how many years we've been friends, Megan? Oh my goodness, now you're making me do math.

We probably go back about 15 years, 16 years. Yeah, and or more. Well, you should be good at math. You homeschool, I think, your children, do you not? Yes, I do. Right? I think all the time, though, and I can never remember.

Right, okay. So yeah, we go back a long, long way. I mean, from the days when you lived in, I don't know, is Nashville considered East Tennessee, Middle Tennessee, I guess, right? Middle Tennessee, yes.

Middle Tennessee, you lived in Georgia. So you've bounced around some, and in that process out there, though, when I say you have a very unique story, here's what I want our listeners to hear. You have embraced the process of adoption, right? That's correct. We have five different, this, excuse me, five adopted children. Yep.

That's correct. Yep, five adopted children, and mainly, has that been mainly through, just to help my memory here, mainly through the foster care pro, or all through the foster care program? Not all of our adoptions were processed through foster care. Our very first adoption, we went through a Christian agency called Bethany Christian Services, who helped match us to a mother who then had the choice, and who she wanted to choose to parent her child. So that was our first experience with adoption. Our four subsequent adoptions, they did come through foster care, and two separate sibling groups of two. Two separate sibling groups, and of course, you're referring to Parker, the very first one, and my little buddy Parker, Parker, and the name of your other children?

Okay. By the way, Parker is not so little anymore. No, he's not. I see pictures of him on social media, and he is growing up into a fine young man, is Parker.

Yes, he is. Our other children's names are Everly, Haven, Michael, and Dre. That's awesome. Well, you have a beautiful family. Thank you. Well, you do, and you are such a wonderful mother.

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Check out your local listings or better yet, download The Truth Network app today. Listen to the resources that are available to you. There's a lot of resources that are available for people who are looking into that or questioning it or wondering if that's for them, classes that you can take, and just talking candidly and openly and like being willing to share your fears or struggles or concerns or questions. Just finding someone that you can bounce advice off of because you definitely don't want to go through it alone.

You shouldn't have to. But there are a lot of things that you come into contact that you probably wouldn't have ever accepted or anticipated or could even imagine. There are a lot of things that children are exposed to that some of us are fortunate enough to not have ever experienced those hardships. And so knowing how to navigate that and helping that child grow and feel safe with you and knowing kind of where they're coming from is a really helpful tool to have in your back pocket. Well, that's some really, really great advice.

Hey, just real quick to get a little back noise. I don't know if that's the wind that's blowing or but I want people to be able to hear, you know, exactly what you're saying. So, you know, we and I know we have a little technical issues even to, you know, getting you online, so I'm thankful we made this connection today, but that's some great, great advice for those out there. And maybe there's some out there, let's say you've never considered foster care or never considered adoption. But in today's climate, more than ever, it has become a real alternative into those mamas out there who are pregnant. And can I encourage you, what a great alternative to consider putting that child up for adoption and or, you know, eventually could become part of the foster care program. But there are a lot of mamas like Megan out there who would love to become a mama and adopt a child or foster care a child. And so we appreciate that.

Megan, appreciate your heart for that and your love of those babies that you're raising and schooling and homeschooling. So ultimately, we were all adopted into the family of Christ. So it's a really great walk by faith type of thing to go through.

Yes, it is. That is a good point. Once you surrender your heart to Jesus, we become adopted into the family of God.

And that is a great perspective as well. So whether it's in the natural and you're looking to have a family of your own and would consider adoption or foster care, or maybe you have yet to surrender your heart to Jesus. And let's just start with that process of adoption and make that decision. And give your life to Christ and be adopted into God's family. And then perhaps at some point, he leads you and directs you.

Maybe you're just not able to have children for whatever reason. And that becomes a viable alternative for you. So, well, thank you for sharing some of your story, Megan. And it is Q&A with Koloff. So we're going to transition here to give you the opportunity to ask me a couple three questions and we're going to flip it around here. And if you're ready, I'm ready, Megan. Are you ready? I'm ready. All right. Well, fire away your first question. You're listening to the Truth Network and truthnetwork.com. Now, key to Koloff here.

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Go to www.koloff.net and donate today. You're listening to the Truth Network and truthnetwork.com. Okay, my first question is where or what do you turn to for continuous learning or skill development? Continuous learning and skill development? Correct.

Man, great question. Well, there's a lot of resources that I have utilized over the years. I like to always say this and when others are interviewing me, that when I look at my life, I look, I consider myself to be a lifetime learner and that I found out as much as I know, the more I learn, the more I find out how much I actually don't know. And so which just kind of stirs the hunger in me to, you know, to learn and learn more and to grow more at the very core. So at the very core, probably no surprise to you, the Bible is my first go-to. It's my first and best resource when it comes, because everything's in there. Every answer I feel to any question you may ever have with life is right there contained within the pages of the Bible, whether it's marriage or it's, gosh, I mean, business, finances.

I mean, you can just go right through chapter by chapter. Wisdom, wisdom and understanding, the wisest man on the planet, Solomon, who wrote the book of Proverbs, if you're needing wisdom, he illustrates in Ecclesiastes that there's a time and season for everything. And so, you know, I have Jewish friends who will say all the financial principles are all contained mainly in the Old Testament. Of course, the New Testament, Jesus talked, I think, more about money than perhaps anything else. I mean, I don't know, they'll quote me on the actual numbers of conversations, but all that to say the Bible is by far probably the greatest resource when it comes to growing and wanting to learn and grow in wisdom and knowledge and understanding. In fact, the Bible says, the Bible says that the beginning of fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.

Correct, yes. And that there's nothing new under the sun. There is nothing new under the sun. That must be Elvis coming by on the southern rail there, Megan. We heard a little train whistle in the background there, but there you go. Well, hey, that just adds to the whole interest of our conversation, right? So all right, he's going to continue to blow that horn, isn't he? All right. Thank you, Lord.

Okay, okay. And then just real quick, outside of that, I mean, there are so many, I feel, so many things you can learn from other authors. People have written, I mean, I've written a couple books myself and can be ordered off of my website, Koloff.net, but all that to say there's so much you can learn from others as well. And I would tell the listener out there autobiographies or life stories of others.

There's so much, whether it's a Winston Churchill or George S. Patton or so many others that could come to mind that you can learn from other people. So consider that. Consider that. Great question, though. Great question. Be a lifetime learner.

I'll summarize it by saying, have a heart to be a lifetime learner, all right? Absolutely. Next question. Okay. With communication being such an important practice in relationships of all kinds, what are some characteristics of healthy communication?

Well, that's another great question. Communication at the very, again, the very foundation, the very core of any and all relationships, whether it's a relationship with Christ or your children, as we've talked about, your children or a spouse or a friendship. I mean, what leads to challenges in relationships, I'll say it this way, is a lack of communication.

It seems like about a hundred percent of the time, somebody miscommunicating a message or something, a point they were trying to convey. And so one is just having the patience to work through misunderstandings and miscommunication. And then placing an emphasis on communication to understand that at the very core of this relationship is going to work. We've both got to be willing to be flexible and to bend and to communicate with one another. And I remember reading again from a book years ago, and I would summarize to say this, seek first to understand before being understood, seek first to, you know, so many times we just want to get our point across, or we're not even willing to listen to what the other person has to say, because we just so much want to get our point across and say what we have to say. And of course, we're all, I'm always right, you're always wrong, but just being willing to admit that, hey, maybe you're not always right, that you can potentially be wrong.

And be open. I had this conversation just recently with someone who says this person was so set in their ways into what they believe that there's not even room to consider. Well, you know what, maybe I'm missing something here.

They're so close-minded, in other words, that they're not even willing to hear another person's point of view and accept the fact that that could actually be true and the way I'm believing could actually be wrong. So be open-minded, be flexible, seek first to understand before being understood. I would agree with that, definitely. All right. Well, we got time for one more question. There's nothing wrong to ask for clarity.

Well, no, there's not. In fact, you know, what they teach you is to say, okay, here's what I hear you saying. Now, many people don't do this, but if you ever implement this into a conversation, well, here's what I hear you saying. And when you repeat it back, then that other person actually has the opportunity to say, that's not what I was saying at all. Because sometimes we listen through our own lens, so to speak, right, or the way we want to hear it. We hear it the way we want to hear it, but it's not necessarily the message that's being conveyed or what's actually being said, we're just hearing it the way we want to hear it, right? And so, yeah, so that's a good rule of thumb is to repeat it back to a person.

And if it's not being said the way, or not being understood the way it's being said, then you have the chance, again, through patience to then work through that. So. All right. Okay. Next question?

Yeah. Okay, was there, or is there, a particular fruit of the Spirit that you have struggled with the most, and which one? It's kind of two parts. And how did you improve in that particular area when you feel like you needed to? Mmm, well, we'll develop a whole show for that one, Megan.

I have a backup question if you want, it's more fun. No, no, we can roll with that, because there's, for those who don't know, there's nine fruit of the Spirit, right? Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, self-control. And so, you know, it's interesting at the very top of the list is love. So let's just start with love at the very top of the list, is, you know, just learning, learning how to love. So if you're counting out there, you know, I might have missed one along the way.

Don't hold me, hold that against me. Just go to your Bible. Look up Ephesians 5, 22, and 23 for yourself. And anyway, all that to say, I might have missed one, but hey, all that to say, love is right at the very top of the list. I believe one of the things the Lord may ask, one of the things the Lord may ask first and foremost is, did you learn how to love? Did you learn how to love? And I am forever asking the Lord, Lord, fill my heart with, with your unconditional love so that I can, one, I can see others with the set of eyes, the way you see people, but then I can love them the way you love them unconditionally. So it has taken me time to have to learn that, to have to learn how to, how to love others well, and I'm still learning that. And then I'm going to go to the other end of the spectrum, the word self-control, and I'm learning that I'm really in control of very little. And as much as I like to think I'm, I have self-control that I'm learning to turn control over to the Holy Spirit and live a life submitted to the Holy Spirit and allowing the Holy Spirit to control things.

And then I just come in line with, with, uh, with what it is he's asking me to do. Well, there you go. So I think you've asked some great questions today, Megan. Well, thank you. And I really appreciate that. I appreciate you setting some time aside and, and we worked through all these technical difficulties. Uh, but what you've asked and some of your story, I think is really going to bless others. So, well, thank you so much for giving me the opportunity. Well, I appreciate it. Megan Hyatt, a incredible mother of five out there through adoption and foster care.

Hey, check out Megan real quick. Is there, is there some websites people could go to, to learn more about foster care and, and, uh, and, uh, or adoption? Sure, absolutely. So there's always Bethany Christian services, which was, uh, um, Christ centered, um, Christ centered company that, or agency that we utilize for our first adoption. And then, um, the different thing with foster care is that every government agency, I think within this different States are kind of called different things. So department of family and health services is sometimes DHS, DCS, um, something like that, but I'm sure simple Google searches for, um, uh, programs in their area. And even if you're not interested in fostering per se, like maybe you don't have the capacity to bring children into your home, um, finding other foster families that you can simply support or just encourage, uh, you know, maybe you offer to, uh, uh, babysit the kids for a night so that the parents can go out on a date night. Cause a lot of things like that, um, you kind of fall by the wayside as you're trying to rear these children and, and help them navigate their difficult situations, um, or clothing closets or something like that.

But a lot of churches will also have resources that you could look into as well on how to partnership where they couldn't call it a lot of times, wrap around ministries, um, to wrap around foster families and, and offer your help that way. Awesome. Well, great advice. Thank you so much. And, uh, thank you again for being on Q and A with Koloff and we really appreciate all that you're doing. And for you out there listening in the listening land, thank you for tuning in. Hope you enjoyed Megan Hyatt's story today and her questions. God bless you. This podcast is made possible by the grace of God and your faithful prayers, support and generous gifts. May God bless you for your continual contributions.

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