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Secrets of a Nurturing Home, Part 2

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December 3, 2020 7:05 am

Secrets of a Nurturing Home, Part 2

Insight for Living / Chuck Swindoll

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December 3, 2020 7:05 am

Becoming a People of Grace: An Exposition of Ephesians

Insight for Living
Chuck Swindoll
Insight for Living
Chuck Swindoll
Insight for Living
Chuck Swindoll
Insight for Living
Chuck Swindoll
Insight for Living
Chuck Swindoll
Insight for Living
Chuck Swindoll

Children arrive at our home with the divinely prescribed personality summer innately happy.

Others are extremely curious. Sometimes the child is a mirror reflection of their parents, but others bear no resemblance. So, how should we modify our strategy to accommodate the diversity of needs. The key is found in the proverb that says train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it today on Insight for living. Chuck Swindoll continues a message. He started yesterday about the secrets of a nurturing your Bible open there in your lap. Close your eyes for a few moments, please message is all about the rearing of children as God would have us do it might be a good time for you before we go any further in this time of prayer to pray for your parents if they're still living to talk to the Lord about them. Maybe one of them still survives, give him thanks for the rearing that you received. Perhaps some deep kneading your mother or your father's life or both. Good time to remember them.

Perhaps the relationship wasn't what it could have been great moment for you to forgive. Now if you are with children. Perhaps this would be a good moment for you to pray for them by name. Maybe one particular child going through a difficult time ask for wisdom something might be gleaned from what you will hear today that will help you parent better just one more. Maybe some nagging worry some eight something you brought with you this morning that if allowed to grow could so preoccupy your time, you would miss the instruction from what the word of God will be teaching us release that burden him. There are times Lord when things are so severe within that they block what were able to receive from without. Today may be that kind of day. For some in the gathering of this size.

Surely there are conflicts that are unresolved. There are heart aches that haven't gone away, perhaps even the grief of near-death conditions or recent deaths in the sadness of that these conflicts may or may not relate to home and family, but may come from the world in which we work, we invite you to enter in Lord enter into that on our behalf and then your entrance may we find relief and release from that which has bound us were able to take only so much, and some have come to a virtual breaking point. We pray for your comfort and your strength. Sam has taken a terrible toll on the human condition, and though there is every possible way of ignoring it or explaining it away from the media about us today we come to terms with it in a place like this. We acknowledge that we are there and it is us. Surely we have failed or fallen in some area.

Just this week, and that ache of that nags us and troubles us some needless words some outburst of anger some lingering resentment ugly caustic response. Lord, thank you for the blood of Christ that keeps on cleansing us from such sins.

Forgive us our father remove from us the enemy's desire to make us ashamed and entered drag us under the load of that failure may we remember that in your grace. You not only forgive you wipe the slate clean, open our hearts, which always results in a generous spirit. We are giving even today reflect hearts full of joy and praise as we have just some now, Lord enter into this very significant time of worship that time to reflect on your good hand upon us in healing our diseases in solving our conflicts in bringing a bond in harmony where there was once distant and a breakdown of relationships enter into these moments where we reflect on the importance of our intimate walk with Christ who loved us and gave himself for us to glorified our father as we in turn enter in what you have for us in the name of Jesus for living to search the Scriptures Chuck Swindoll sure to download his searching the Scriptures. Studies by going to Insight world.or/studies. Today's message is titled secrets of a nurturing home. The verse in Proverbs 22 six begins with training up. In fact, the original Hebrew verb comes from the action of a midwife who would take her finger and after helping in the birth of this child would dip her finger in the pool of crushed chart. Yes, crushed dates or grapes and would reach inside the mouth of the newborn and would create a sucking sensation created first cleanse the palate and they believed to cleanse the system came to mean the whole idea of dedicating or setting apart by the cultivation of a thirst. So right away were disarmed.

The parents immediate task is to create and cultivate first for that which pleases God and that which will be for the well-being of the child. When children are born we do what we can to cultivate a thirst. Please observe the next phrase, a child in the way he should go. This word for child is used across the board for all ages of children living under the roof of the parents. It's not just the newborn is not just the elementary child.

It is not just a teenager. It is a child of any age when he or she is still dependent on the parents for their livelihood.

It's used Joseph when he 17 is called a child, this will work for a child of any age may know the problem with the original interpretation I gave you where they do this and they don't do that and they will do this and they will stop doing that. The problem with that. It does not work, you and I know people who were raised like that and they were the rebels of the neighborhood soon as I got free. They went while in fact they got well before they got free. Furthermore, it's not the passage teaches. It is true. So what is the way that he should go. That's crucial to understanding the verse, we are to cultivate a first in the chicken a child of whatever age you still living under our roof.

What is the way should look in the margin of your Bible. If you're carrying a new American Standard Bible. It may help you with the rendering according to his way now. Don't turn it off yet. Stay with me train up a child according to his way, the term way. He is the Hebrew word Derek DER K transliterated sounds like our word oil. Derek Derek is used to describe mannerism are characteristic.

In fact, it came originally from the idea of making a path a way it later was used by the psalmist for putting 1 foot on oh and pulling the boat talk to where you could stream the bow before you would shoot an arrow. The idea of bending the bow so that it now can handle an arrow to send it to its target came to mean that or Ben's, the whole idea of shape characteristics. In fact, if you will turn to Proverbs 30 you'll see had used five time five times in a row. In Proverbs 30 show you what I'm talking about verse 18, there were three things which are too wonderful for me, the word wonderful means incomprehensible, amazing, profound. I can't figure them out there too wonderful for me, for which I do not understand the Derek of an eagle in the sky the Derek of the serpent on a rock. The Derek of the way of the Derek of a ship in the middle of the sea, the Derek of a man with a maid. This is the Derek of an adulterous woman, and he describes her keep looking at the verses the way of an eagle in the sky know what the bird flies like an eagle has a unique look and those who know that world can spot an eagle from a far distance away. That's an eagle know what the bird flies like that. It's the way of an eagle. No other creature slithers on the rock like a serpent, a goat doesn't walk across a rock like a serpent, a rodent doesn't walk across rocks like a serpent. There is a way about a snake that's like no other way unique to the snake the ship in the sea is a unique unique site. There's nothing else quite like even the sea itself has a uniqueness in the characteristic how it can lift and lower that boat swells and its currents in its way is the way of a ship at sea.

The way of a man with a maid. The picture of romance and love making this husband-and-wife this relationship altogether unique to this one couple altogether different from any other couple. There is a way a characteristic a mannerism about that man with that woman in the way of an adulterous. We even talk about her.

Well, you know she's got the ways of a fast woman. She is an adulterous.

That's just her way brash following inappropriate sometimes impudent.

All of these are describing or at least illustrating the meaning of the word. Way to go back to Proverbs 22 six. This is not an entertaining sermon, but it's instruction you need to hear. So bear with me. I know where I'm going. This will help you appreciate Ephesians 6, all the more because this is helping you know what nurturing is the nurturing mother the nurturing father makes a study of her or his child, each one being uniquely made and adapts the training according to each child never getting somewhere.

Cultivate a first for spiritual things for the right things in the heart of any child of any age within your home and do that, according to the way he has been made. We are not pieces of putty come from the womb, ready to be completely shaped by a mother or father we come made by God prescribed already shaped as God would have us God gave us four children in our family. We have had four children. They are all from the same womb.

They were all raised in the same home. By the same parents.

They could not be more different because each one has a way, a characteristic the day we face the fact that we can't raise one likely word another that we can even discipline one like we discipline another that we can't interest one has. We interested another was a great day in our home. You weren't raised like that. I wasn't raised like that. I had a brilliant brother. I admired his brains, but he had the most boring report card. You could even imagine.

I brought home variety.

I had a lot of things that they could enjoy. They seem to want to be bored, but I brought home one that had several little letters on the report card and regularly I heard your brother makes a soul, not my brother don't talk back. Maybe for you it was Sally and Susie and your Sally, Susie, was this type would you Sally or that type and you were compared to Susie because you weren't like she the problem was that was not your way. There was a son who has no athletic ability but is very gifted in music. Never try to teach a musician to play ball, or even to catch a ball at age 17, it bounces off. Therefore, it can't do it they can play Chopin's Bolognese with hardly thinking about it because they are musically inclined mean stop and think.

Imagine Liberace tidy and for the Cowboys. Just think about it for a minute you been thinking about it. I notice what's the problem you are given a particular child with a particular set of characteristics uniqueness is it is the job of the nurturing parent to make a study of each child. Guess what it takes effort it takes time. It takes flexibility it doesn't come naturally because you were not raised like that. I was not raised like that. We made it because God gave me the wife I got them for little other reason because we were making a mess of it for 10 years and we realize we are going in the wrong direction. We need to turn this puppy around and that took effort and work in tears and counseling and assistance in prayer and mistakes and forgiveness staying in edit until we began to train our children in the way each one should go and look at what it says. Even when he is old. The word means to grow a beard.

When you start growing a beard guys. Well, not as early as you wish, but probably around 15, 16, before when you are reaching adulthood. You will depart from it.

That's a promise I will hang onto. This is not a promise. This is when the guy reaches an age that he's too old to do anything else and he sold all his wild oats will finally come back to God. That's not diverse that's not a promise even when he reaches adulthood and he's on his own. He won't depart from the training. You know why because he nurtured. He knows who is here except Sue is in the is who he is. That's the parent's job is been my observation that many parents feel at this because they think Lookout turned out pretty good but work for me is to work for him to make it work, drive it home and so I want to turn to Ephesians 6, please do not going to nudge my son when this preacher gets to verse one, say hey boy listen to Chuck. He fixed to tell you some good stuff. Well dad's is not where were going.

It's been my observation that just as wives who have the kind of husband's that great leaders are made of tender, sensitive, loving, sacrificial herring have no trouble submitting to men like that and I've observed that children who were nurtured, not always, but most often have little trouble obeying and honoring. Now you see it in context were on the same page. Suddenly we moved from our separate plates on the same plate stay there in the context of nurturing. Let's look at some of the secrets children obey your parents in the Lord is a caveat on that parents in the Lord. This is not a free-for-all where you could just take your authority and run with it and just remind your kid all the time. What is growing up, that you're the one in charge. Your good daddy, you're the one in the authorities and learn to submit like it always go will reap the benefits of messed up with this verse is about.

In the context of submission. Remember the key word in verse 21 of chapter 5 is be subject to one another. I've got a child of God's given me and I subject myself to the Lord as I seek to find out who the child is how is put together what he likes what he doesn't like what is good at what is not good at how he thinks how he responds. It takes time.

It takes effort and I work at it and I spent time on it so that I will raise a rebel and I will participate in the conflict in the home which I personally could create, but being insensitive and demanding obedience. Regardless, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Look at that kids if there interview here left, obey your parents in the Lord. This is right. In fact, it even says honor your father and your mother, which is the first commandment with a promise. Why, because it'll go well with you in the last through life. It'll be to your benefit in second you live longer than those who don't. Shockwave will stop and think more often than not, the rebel lives on the edge of risk. Risk is another word for danger and if you live in danger long enough, you play with life-and-death situations in the older you get, the greater the risk the quicker the death, but if you live in obedience and honor. It is amazing how the Lord uses that to give you wisdom so that as a result you live longer and you certainly live better. I'm describing a nurturing home and so we will just talk to children will talk to dad's where the leadership begins father's, do not provoke your children to anger the new international version says do not exasperate your children. The new English Bible says do not goad your children to resentment do not goad your children to resentment.

How can that happen to give you a few examples. This has reference to the misuse of parental authority, either by making unreasonable demands, which leave no room for inexperience or immaturity of the child is growing or by going to unfair extremes being too harsh, even to the point of cruelty and brutality or the other side of over indulging and showing favoritism.

I was raised in a home where there was favoritism.

I don't tell you this to have use, take pity on me. I don't need pity any prayer, but I don't need pity.

My my mother deeply engaged in my brothers life as I say brilliant gifted capable in in incredibly bright and knew he was her favorite, and was no secret and along came my sister and my dad took to her and my dad just thought she hung the moon was great to watch this came first of all, wasn't planned, I know I and neither had expected me so I was told you know you weren't expected in what that meant. Then when we start having children.

I understood better what that's another subject. Chuck Swindoll is teaching from Ephesians chapter 6 the secrets of a nurturing home. This is insight for living. To learn more about this ministry. Visit us now chuckles your closing comment just a moment.

First, though I'll underscore that today's message truly represents our hearts desire and insight for living. We are intent on cultivating healthy relationships in the home, not only for families in North America but extending God's grace to men and women all around the world as well. And to that end, we are calling on friends like you to join us in the all-out effort to bring God's message of grace to 195 countries of the world at this very moment while you're enjoying this program in your own hometown chunks teaching spans the globe not only in English but often he's translated into local languages as well. We've given a name to a growing passion its vision 195 through this prayerful effort, and together with friends like you. We can implement the great commission of Jesus by making disciples through radio, our website, mobile app, CDs, books, DVDs, the podcast our lifestream feed and more.

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