Without wavering, Jesus commanded us to take up our cross and follow him. In today's world, those words sound archaic, even offensive to some. Our culture screams self-expression, self-care, and self-fulfillment. But Jesus whispers self-denial. He calls us to a cross.
But what does that mean? Today on Insight for Living. Chuck Swindahl strips away our sanitized view of discipleship and reveals three uncomfortable truths that Jesus demands from every follower. This isn't about religious performance. It's about dying to self so we can truly live.
Chuck titled today's message, Three Musts for a New Year. When Jesus was with his twelve. He often looked ahead, for he was the only one. who knew what the future held. And he prepared them with words that were not only Truthful, but they were wise.
Because of that, I was drawn to his counsel. to his disciples Recorded by Dr. Luke in the ninth chapter. I want to point out three things before we look at the three musts. May I do that?
First I notice this. He is saying what he does in verse 23 to all believers. Look at the verse. He was saying to them all, if anyone, That's all of us. Second, I noticed that uh this is a choice.
You may choose to do this, you may choose not to do it. The third thing I observe is that Each of these three musts is an essential. He was saying to them all: If anyone wishes to come after me, Now let's stay riveted to this 23rd verse. He must. Number one, deny himself.
If that word throws you, since you will rarely read it in this culture. Think of three words. Say no to. He must say no to himself. It represents a refusal.
To set one's will and desires. Ahead of or against the will and desires of Christ. In other words, when I deny myself, I relinquish my plans. I set aside my preferences, I ignore my personal desires, I give up my dreams, and instead I acquiesce, I defer to, I pursue, I commit myself. to him and his will.
It starts with saying Yeah. To the one that you have been taught to take care of. Make pretty. Protect Stare at in the mirror. and focus on.
When you're in a crowd. What do they think of me? How about coming across? Did that make a good impression? If you wish to come after him, You say no to yourself.
I realize that I've already lost some of you. Yeah. You choose not to do this. It's your choice. I don't worry about you.
You don't answer to me. You answer to your master. What he does to get your attention, to bring you around to this, is between you and him. And I hope I'm not around. Because he means business.
And so do I. We start with saying no to ourselves. We start there. This new year, I suggest you start there. Form that habit.
We had a good conversation the other evening. We were enjoying a meal with our older son and his wife, both of whom are turning 50 this year.
So we spoke a little more slowly so they could get it. Stop it. We got on a fascinating subject, which I love about their family, is you don't just sit around and talk about what's for supper, you sit around and talk about great things like. When is a habit formed? Suddenly, like you, we got quiet.
One of the children said, I think within six to eight weeks, you're pretty well formed to have it. His mother said. No. I think it'd take a year or so. I thought about that, knowing this was coming today.
I thought, If we want to get ready for This kind of lifestyle, I suggest a year. Give it all you've got for this year. Start. By saying no. to what you want.
That's a major leap for many. Second. Second must. Look at what he says. We're riveted on the verse.
He must. Take up. His or her cross. Is that what it says? Nope.
I left out a word. Daily. See, he wasn't hard pressed for vocabulary. He could have left it out. But he put it in.
Jesus took up his cross once. Followers of Jesus, take up our cross. Every single day. It's a must. Must.
Now this explains and intensifies denying yourself. In that era, understand, every condemned criminal. That was killed under the Roman system was seen in the streets bearing. The horizontal beam of his cross. He couldn't carry it all.
Often, just a horizontal beam was more than he could stand because he had been scourged as well. But either across his shoulders or dragging in the ground or on the street behind him, he's holding on to the cross beam and he's pulling it inexorably toward that place of death. And it was always a one-way trip. You never saw him again unless you went to the place of death and watched him nailed to the cross, the beam attached. The cross beam held up or the vertical beam held up.
dropped into a hole, and there he hung until he died. Merrill Lunger says there's a case on record where one hung for eight days. Hopefully he dies in only hours. Imagine. That's what they thought of when they heard the word cross.
Now you take up yours. Every day. There will be crosses that occur all year long. There's no way I could mark my day timer with them. I don't know what they will be.
But I will have at least one every day. And so will you. Yours will be different from mine, and hers will be different from yours, and his altogether different from yours. or mine. Because the Lord shapes us into Christ's image.
In specific ways, and in, I might add, very private. Crosses. And some of them will be horrendous. Cynthia and I were so pleased to see the old year leave. I didn't want to celebrate the coming of a new one.
I want to celebrate the ending of the old one. Goodbye. Um it's out. But you know what? You know where I learned what I learned through that in the crosses of it.
Some of them were borderline unbearable. I never dreamed. I would face a cross like that.
Now I'm no martyr, you have yours as well. But I love Christ so deeply that I don't resent those crosses. Having endured them, gone through them, I say thank you, Lord, for helping me live past them. Thank you. Thank you for that scar.
Thank you for what that represents. Thank you for the depth that I have now, that I would not have had if it had not been. that I tasted it. on that day of that old year. I must.
Bear my own cross every day. And so must you. And the third, I must follow him. And so must you. He adds that.
Still riveted to the verse? And follow me.
Now, I hope it isn't pedantic, but I love things like this and their fine points. The first two verbs are written in a point of time. It's called the Aorist tense, A-O-R-I-S-T. In the Aorist, it's in a point of time. In a point of time, I say no.
In a point of time I bear that cross each day in a point of time. But I follow him. That's present tense. I keep on. A long obedience in the same direction.
I keep on following. I don't let the cross of yesterday keep me from following him today or tomorrow. I don't let the pain of what has happened stop me from worshiping him and following him and walking where I can see his footsteps and stepping there. And there. And there.
I want to follow him like that.
So do many of you, many of you.
So keep on, keep right on, keep on following, press on, press on. Press on through that year. Whatever it may include. And I could think of a dozen things, and I will not go there. Let me apply this.
As if we haven't already, huh? Three things come to mind. Three things. Number one, Following Christ means more than believing Him. It includes obeying him.
Following Christ means more than believing Him. It includes Obeying him. Here's the second. Obeying him means more than accepting His teachings. It also includes tasting death.
Write that word down. You need to see it in print. It means tasting death. Death to something? Death to someone?
It means tasting death. Obeying him. Means more than accepting his teachings. It means Tasting death. Tasting it.
I taste it. It touches me. Tasting death, thirdly, tasting death. means more than occasional unselfishness. It means dying every day to something.
Tasting death means more than occasional unselfishness. It means dying to something or someone every day. Or he wouldn't say daily. Every day there's something.
Now, I was tempted at this point to just end everything in this message and we go on to the. rest of the day, but I I was stopped and I am I got a thought just in the last part of my preparation that is very unusual for me to mention. My added thought is Given the radical nature of this message that I've delivered. And realizing what a contrast it represents in our culture. I'd like to add a few words to those of us who are older.
Who would that be? If your hair is gray, Or white. or absent. Or if it should be gray, but you've colored it some other color, okay?
So don't do that to me, okay? And you know who you are. You're among a generation unlike the young generation. This is why I say it's different. I rarely divide congregations.
into ages, but I'm going to do that. I want to address those of us who are older. Will you help me in this year communicate this to the younger generation? Because they don't know it. Why do we know it?
Because Thank God Almighty. We've known the greatest generation. They raised us. They died for our country. They modeled sacrifice.
Thank God. for parents like I had. They weren't perfect, but they knew self-sacrifice. They knew self-denial. It was a part of their vocabulary.
We were raised in a rationing world during the Second World War. Cynthia says that when her parents told her to rush and even the toilet paper? She said, we got four squares.
Now that's pretty specific right there, folks. I'm sure she's thrilled that I would share that with all of you today. It was right down to that kind of rationing: don't eat all the meat, save some of it for the next meal. Don't know how many times I was told that. Take all that's on your plate, but don't take anything more than you can eat.
I was reared with my parents like that. Self-denying parents. We don't need two cars, one will do. And all through my childhood and teenage years and Older years until our kids, my brother and sister came along along with me, there was only one car in our driveway. It was unheard of to have more than one car.
Hear all the grey heads out there? The rest of you go, eat everything on your plate, what's the big deal? That's the whole point. It's a big deal. It starts with self-restraint.
I was raised with self-restraint. When I joined the Marine Corps and had to go through all the rigors of that boot camp, I really didn't have to learn much about obedience. I'd been trained for 20-plus years in my home. When someone in authority told me to do something, I did it. I never asked why, and I didn't question it.
Oh, I did. Got the snot beaten out of me, but I did. And I learned that Beating out snot is very, very painful, and I don't want to do much of that.
So I knew obedience. Why? Because my mom and dad were faithful to teach me that. Say no to yourself. Restrain yourself.
Keep your hands off that young woman. You don't have any business going to bed with any woman until you marry that woman. It's called faithfulness, son. Help me communicate this to a generation that That sleeps around and lives around and lives in, and is no big deal. It is a big deal.
Because you do not learn to deny yourself. You do not take up your cross daily when you do that kind of thing. You do not follow Christ when you do that kind of thing. Help me communicate this. And they won't want to hear it, some of them keep saying it.
If I relied on what people wanted to hear, I'd have stopped preaching 25, 30 years ago. You don't stop because they don't want to hear it. I'm not bragging about being restricted. I'm just saying it was the way we were raised. Your kids are not raised like that.
And I can assure you, the grandkids are not being raised like that. My message. To those of us who are older, Yeah. This is a message we've got to get to them. We got to get this message to them.
You wonder how to spend your time at this age of 60, 70, 80, 90. That's how you do it. You help them see the value of denying themselves, taking up their cross, and following the Savior. They've come to Christ great. They believe the right thing?
Great. Praise God. They're not raised right if they don't learn self-denial. Cross bearing. And walking a path that isn't selfish.
I commit myself to telling this to my grandchildren, and I confess to you openly, I have not done so until now. I see it. That was part of the rebuke of my time and my daytimer. Yeah. What in the world do you think you're living this long for, Chuck, if you're not building into your grandchildren?
and teaching them these things. Communicate the value of giving up their own rights. You prepare them for a Christ-like life. And it has to be loud enough and strong enough, and a much of a habit for them when they get to college that don't get their heads turned by some persuasive prof. who buys into the system.
Or some potential mate who's going to take him down the path. or some live-in boyfriend. who's going to get him in the back seat as quickly as he can. Tell them. If you want to exemplify Christ.
If you want to help them learn what real living is all about, tell them. Douglas Southall Freeman has written four volumes on the life of Robert E. Lee. I recently finished the one volume There was a summation of the four. And on page 588, Freeman concludes with this true story.
of Robert E. Lee. It's a cold October day. The mother has her baby in her arms, and she brings it to the white-haired gentleman, Robert E. Lee.
She brings her baby for him to be blessed. And she hands the baby to this great seasoned Warrior soon to die. He cradles the baby in his arms. He looks deeply into his eyes and then into the mother's eyes. And says slowly, Teach him he must deny himself.
And a chill went down my spine. I don't know that I've once said that to my grandchildren, but I will this year. And if they're present, Be ready for it. I'm going to talk about that. Which is what makes the cross.
so valuable to you and me. Let's bow our heads. We sang it earlier.
So we'll not sing it again, but we use the words, beneath the cross of Jesus. I would take my stand. You now know what that means. If you've never trusted in the Lord Jesus, then I invite you to come to the cross. If you have met the Savior, I invite you to come beneath it.
In fact, I charge you to do that. Deliberately through the year Find ways to say no to yourself. willingly and deliberately. Restraining. What you prefer.
for the glory of Christ. And for the joy of living differently from a world. that has long since lost its way. Had I taken the time to go further. in the section of scripture I would have pointed out that This is the way you save your life.
Otherwise you lose it. This is a life-saving message. Jim Eliot put it this way: he is no fool who gives what he cannot keep. to gain what he cannot lose. As you follow through on these three musts, You will lose your will.
And you'll gain his. And you'll learn what living is all about. And you will be changed. It'll become a habit. Our Father, this day We confess to you Our disobedience.
Over the years. We acknowledge Our ignoring The hard truths. And only by your grace have we been able to keep our marriages together. Only by your grace have we disciplined ourselves to live within our means. Only by your grace have we been able to win the wars we were called upon to win.
God. Help us not to forget that we got another generation. It doesn't know what those things are all about. They're so strange to them they're weird. They're so outdated, they're obsolete.
But they're right. And that's why we worship your son. We worship him because he died. that we might live. Thank you, Father, for the cross.
Thank you for what it represents. for the magnificent Eternal benefits. of his death on that cross. We worship him today. Enable us to remember what we have heard.
As the days unfold into weeks, And another cross looms large before us. Help us to get it. To get it. To embrace it. to model it.
In Jesus' name. Amen. You're listening to Insight for Living. Chuck Swindahl titled today's message Three Musts for a New Year. To hear Chuck's message from start to finish, you can easily access the entire sermon on our mobile app.
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