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Are You Really Willing to Reconcile?

Hope For The Heart / June Hunt
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September 21, 2020 1:02 am

Are You Really Willing to Reconcile?

Hope For The Heart / June Hunt

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September 21, 2020 1:02 am

In a broken world, relationships aren’t easy. Maybe someone has pulled away from you. Instead of making peace, it seems easier to avoid the situation or to blame others. June Hunt encourages us to consider those we’ve hurt and take the initiative toward biblical reconciliation.

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I have contacted me to focus your mind sure to set deep within the heart of every son and daughter is the hope that one day things would really change and that I could have the best relationship possible with my mother with my father regardless of what passes for and it's like maybe one day things could be different in a broken world, things break that includes relationships. Maybe someone is pulled away from you instead of making peace. It just seems easier to avoid the situation were to blame others will today June hut encourages us to consider those we've heard were learning about reconciliation and restoring broken relationships.

Iraq hope for the heart. So let's hear more from June has your heart ever been broken over a shattered relationship and you never thought that would take place with relationship closeness was cut.

The specialness severed no matter how hard you try, you could not get the relationship back together. You couldn't restore harmony. You couldn't have prove unity, pain of someone dear to your heart being gone, so changed that person still is around hearing everything everything apart of your heart you pray God, you can change this God are all-powerful God. I pray I will pray whatever needs to take place just do it and you know he is all-powerful.

Doesn't have pray for things to be different even just get turned back get back to where we once were, of course, in the process that person's changed. Eve changed and the relationship stays painfully changed. What do your mindset. What should be recapture what we want, and yet there doesn't seem to be any movement that direction. It can be apparent child relationship.

They can be husband wife. It can be sibling sibling. It can be friend friend. That relationship is not there, the once special relationship that once endeared relationship once feeling safe relationship. It's not safe at all when we think of reconciliation. Unfortunately, there is alienation the opposite. When you listen to a call from a woman who feels alienated just doesn't know what to do. Neither cover nude. Her daughter's age 43 and 38. I have about zero relationship with them and my grandchildren as well with either of them. Now I don't have any relationship at all. One daughter that lives locally lifetime he called me to more or less let me know that the holiday coming up at a birthday coming up to say it, but like what are you going to do about it and my other daughter.

Nothing she says she has a huge situation or obvious question, but she calling about it once understand why is like not only daughters and their grandchildren. But there's nothing zero is normal.

No, there's a reason why that apparently she hasn't connect the dots. She doesn't know what to do about it or she would be calling will continue why well on my middle very very turbulent life that's putting it mildly MICRA about race without a father. My first husband and I were divorced after five years I learned I was a my second daughter the day after Madsen walked out. Neither of them has really no father blaming you for that. They never have. But I had very very unfortunate marriage milder thought it was about 13 and eight I married him. It was so awful I never do that again back in the lineup about 30 years I've had no desire to have any relationship with the opposite sex was a relationship like between your second husband and the two girls there was no relationship at all. Was there any abuse that I know it was only verbal.

I never saw him do anything physical to them nine months and married a my children to stay with my sister and brother-in-law and they never came back home is the reason they have told you they did not come back to you children think that you abandoned them.

They never voiced that is in their hearts. It's very possible.

Did you catch them away, but what happened they never what came unusual wording, I took them over here to be cared for and then I brought them back here and now. She says well they've never said that she talking to them and she asked relationship special that you want to have reconciled is the relationship in terms of sharing heart-to-heart. Getting a closeness that is special surface relationships working work relationships that, assuming the relationships are in your heart, but it really make a difference under any red flags that year. Picking up here. She said they would verbally abuse verbally and physically, but they will verbally abuse is what she said, throwing off well just verbal abuse sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. Isn't that possibly the biggest lie that's absurd you remember words that say do you for years and years and years when they are calloused when their painful words are huge was going heavy actually sat down and had a real heart-to-heart with each one individually. In this vein know my older daughter wrote anything in that regard become a clam award race he would not deal with it. My other daughter on the other hand would probably talk my arm off and laid off, but she wouldn't say anything he would just jabber so trying to talk to our relationship is so not that it's almost unthinkable to sit down and talk to them about it in your question for me is well and I keep on blaming myself by myself around the block to the fact that my children did not turn out very well start feeling that she's kicking yourself. I wasn't hearing that here blame well nor heart. God is somehow I listen very, very carefully what people say discussing three child wants the best relationship they can have with mom and dad if he could, even when things are good all the still desire within their hearts could have a good relationship.

If you have a great relationship Debbie fantastic evening that the parent had to change.

Would like to have daddy and mom that really wasn't any clues as to why she finds herself in this predicament. How would you describe this. She's really in tune with herself like she does that question to me appeared almost like I get out of this about her happening.

I feel guilty and I didn't really hear her asking or even any real attempts to communicate with the daughters hear her say anything. She felt guilty about.

She just wanted off without it. She wants things to change, but she hasn't done. What's needful for there to be change and the truth is, it's understandable. He wants change because no one likes to feel just totally in their relationships that I like your work attuned, not attuned herself. We can learn things we can better become equipped to go. Oh, this is what I need to do that alienation with theirs reconciliation. But then there's alienation.

She just totally alienated your listing the Jew hotdog hope for the heart and with your board just a minute know this phone conversation is from June's nighttime radio program hoping the night if you'd like to talk with Jubilee year, give us a call at 800 like 17. That's 800-644-4817. Now let's go back to our broadcast I don't think that should be the focus of your life. For sure you need to realize that what is typical is that deep within the heart of every son and daughter is the hope that one day things would really change and that I could have the best relationship possible with my mother with my father regardless of what passes then it's like maybe one day things could be different. My thought would be for us to strategize how least you could make an attempt so that there would be an evidence that you have truly tried. Would you be interested in that. Well that somewhere elevated equation had three very. A couple of them almost worked well that's just a sign of hopelessness and yet God is the God of hope as well as a God of reconciliation. So let's do what we can do because God does offer hope for us now. There has to be a reason why there is not a relationship with either of the girls. One daughter does call you. She just make contact but somehow you are not connecting. There's nothing of substance that is said about a wired but what is happening is that there is not any real intimacy between either using the older daughter is a young daughter. I don't know my girl no I don't have a clue how much do you want to know them for getting to wonder if I really do guilty about it all. I feel like everything in their life can start right at my front door and because they are adults they can make their own choices that help know it's still clueless you know there don't make their own choices, they can choose to respond to me. Obviously there has to be a huge mind set change. I don't know that she understands a heart of reconciliation for her to say I don't know them but I do you want to know them, but it's almost like will know commitment strong to get to know to me she seems selfish. She self focused, like narcissistic to think about why she's alone now what I can do.

I think your work. Self focused is absolutely right on, and therefore what can she do you know she's got learned heart of reconciliation because she's not even sure she wants if she is determined. Okay I will do everything I can on my part. Whatever I can do. I will do it while it is true, there may be a few things that you could do so that you know that you have done everything possible in the book of Romans. There's a very interesting passage. It really highlight God's heart on having the best relationships that we can with one another. Notice the wording. Romans 1218.

If it is possible as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

As far as it depends on you, meaning you need to do what you can do to live at peace with everyone so the issue here is, let's determine some specific things that you can do once you've done these things even if you were rebuffed or rejected, which does happen, but your consistency of seeking to reach out, which I still think can be an important part of your role as mother.

There are certain things that you can do without them, responding either of them responding, but I'd like for you to consider several things that I had found had made a big difference in certain relationships. Do you think it's good for her to think of my daughters just a chatterbox disclaims up. She see them as daughters with heart labeling the DC sometimes has how we frame things in our own minds that can help tremendously. What are a few things that she could be doing now begin to do in her life she's minimizing like everything that she does wrong or something, I'll just call them up and climb up as much is actually wanting to communicate with them as you see like she's always a victim seduces the responsibility for what she did as a parent. She doesn't want so the whole conversation taking any blame for anything. Okay, so you got her on the phone and you're the one talking to her, not me you're talking to her is anything you can say or do to challenge her with that you know more about what she felt she could've done better to make out the situation turn out the way she wanted no believes to go back and think what could I have done differently to begin to think if I could do that over there things that I would do differently in certain relationships to evaluate what could I have done differently, and possibly some of those things could be put in place.

I think she just needs to accept responsibility for our own actions.

She seems to think she's been a victim throughout her life, for whatever reason, and she doesn't realize.

I think if she addressed those issues why she feels like such a victim might help her realize how she's not victim in this situation. Her daughters are more the victims if they can't open up to her.

It's because that what they've learned from her more time if they can't open up to her that what they've learned from her good okay using get in touch with what could have been done that she didn't do and then bring up the point about a victim mentality and accepting what is would make a difference in terms of back then. Now when this cometh to show that you can't function is probably the result of multiple generational ask her whether anyone ever ask her experience level juvenile works. If you don't feel that anybody really cares pattern. Then many times it's very hard to pass on what you have never seen you don't have. This is where relationships come into place.

This is where I needed help in order to have incredibly meaningful relationships I learned from those not brought into my life. True friends who would get me to talk to me and continue to pour into me. I didn't deserve it and I certainly did not know how to talk about anything growing up Google by the way, this is after you have gone to the Lord and said, Lord, I want the best relationship I possibly could have with my children, my grandchildren ask you reveal to me anything I need to say to either of them. I want to be accountable. I want to make sure that I have clear accounts. It's, like, if you have a bank account and there is a debt that just grows and grows to basically deal with that account to get current a way you would do that on the relational level. I remember I had a very difficult difficult relationship with a family member, even though I thought that person was primarily wrong, I realize we've been I'm still responsible for my area of wrong I was insensitive and I took for granted things that I shouldn't have this with my father. I remember going and saying I would like to talk with you. I have come to realize I have had an ungrateful spirit and not thanked you for in a mentioned three specific things. It got brought to my mind that I needed to mention and I said would you be willing to forgive me father at that time I had zero relationship I could point to a number things that I thought he done wrong, but that wasn't why was there I was there to take accountability for my area of wrong when I did so then I did notice it did seem to change the dynamic that what I would suggest is for you to say those words wherever God brings your mind and then ask what other areas that I have blind spots and where else did I hurt you.

But wait to hear this from an alienation standpoint, this woman so alienated yet there is hope for her heart. God can do amazing things, even the most difficult relationships. This is hope for the heart with June Hunt and she will be right back with a special message, you know, even when there are valid reasons to feel hurt, even with the other person is undeserving the spirit of reconciliation reflects the heart of God.

Discover more about reconciliation with our free download or you can take a more comprehensive look at different relationship issues with all keys for living these resources and more are all found out hope for the Now let's go back to June hi this is June again, thank you for being with me for hope for the heart over the past 34 years soon will be launching a brand-new podcast number of people who listen to podcasts is rapidly growing. So what a great time to share hope with even more people helping them find God's truth for today's problems. Now you'll be able to hear us anytime, anywhere. To do this, we are transitioning away from this daytime program. So Friday, October 2 is our final broadcast.

As we look forward to the podcast you can get daily messages of hope on my Facebook page and our nighttime program and I invite you to visit my new website, June that's June remember there are no hopeless situations. Only those who have grown hopeless what we know this is a big announcement June of this ministry of hope for the heart will still be around. Thank you so much.

Store listeners for joining us on this radio program over these 34 years. Your prayers and support of meant so much to us that you can still listen. The June order late-night radio program hope in the night at beginning of October. You can join her anytime, anywhere on her new website, June And of course join her on Facebook for daily messages of hope and updates about the ministry, as we continue to share God's hope in this world of technology were also expanding our video presents.

Here's more taking them off my hook and placing them onto God's hook. I get justice in my dried hardened heart was softened. I cried to my father for mercy and forgiveness.

It was a cultivating experience a renewing of my mind.

Enjoy. I had not experienced joy for years. Our mission this year and hope for the heart is to help millions on the Internet like Brenda understand how to believe, trust and apply God's truth through their life to do this, we have an urgent need to convert more than 100 different teaching materials and videos every day more than 13 billion videos are viewed people right now surfing the Internet looking for answers, start your monthly gift of $30 or more today to support this. I hope video project and receive a copy of June's counseling through your Bible handbook make this eternal investment hope for the will we know how big the mission. You will be supporting this project is another way to share God's hope that website is for June member that there is no better sales leaders back here tomorrow. Hope

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