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Resolving Conflict with a Right Heart

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August 31, 2020 1:02 am

Resolving Conflict with a Right Heart

Hope For The Heart / June Hunt

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August 31, 2020 1:02 am

Conflict is something many of us try to avoid. But if we avoid conflict, how can resolution take place? Should resolution always take place? Listen as June Hunt shares a personal story about conflict and helps clear up some misconceptions about conflict.

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Conflict act of striking together, clashing with striking together are clashing with even get the picture of fencing being on opposing sides jousting striking together clashing. This is in the game like fencing would be some support, even though there are some who actually view it as sport because if they can get you upset that you have control of the will. That's June hot with an interesting illustration about conflict conflict is something that many of us try to avoid but if we avoid conflict. How can resolution take place if that's the best thing for the relationship today on hold for the hardware going to talk about conflict resolution. So let's get back to June. She shares a personal story about conflict number of years ago I saw some plaques that I bought and put it in my laundry room. They were real letters from children.dear God, it's very hard for you to love everybody in the whole world there only four people in our family and I can never do it God, please send Dennis Clark to a different camp this year. Dear God, maybe Cain and Abel would not kill each other so much they had their own rooms. It works with my brother. Dear God, if we come back as something please don't let me be Jennifer Horton because I hate her or hate anyone. As a child I remember hating somebody in particular in my grade in school.

This person was so irritating and so snooty and I remember thinking I did not want to go to a girls school beginning in ninth grade I thought at least I will get away from her. At least that is the one bonus. That's one advantage first day at school.

It was hard for me to go but I really want to do it that I was trying to have a positive attitude.

There was, I could not believe it. And for the next four years we were together. It sure made a difference. Several years later when I learned that indeed I needed to change life. I truly hatred I have seen her by way in my adult years that often, but once in a while and I just smile and I do something fun away do something when I see her don't know what's going on in her life, but I know I had a change life to Christ and I know that's what she needs. So instead of focusing on her fault. When I think of her or see her because there are those class reunions when I see her or think about her immediately turn it into a prayer that whatever would be necessary would take place for her to come to see her need for the Lord Jesus Christ in her life that protects my heart from bitterness. I have learned that I can be bitter. Just like anybody because there were a number of years when I carried severe bitterness not just with someone I sought school. I know it's like to have conflict. I know it's like to hate, let me give a basic definition. Conflict is a disagreement struggle or battle over opposing issues or principles. It's interesting when you look at the Latin conflict is easy act of striking together are clashing with striking together are clashing with even get the picture of fencing being on opposing sides jousting striking together clashing. This is in the game like fencing would be some sport even though there are some who actually view it as sport they love to rile you up. They love to get your goat it's there again because if they can get you upset that you have control of when you look at the Greek word for conflict is very interesting.

It's agon. Our English word agony is derived from the Greek agon and originally it was a place of conflict that is really a place of contest like the Olympics and later came to be the actual contest itself not just the place and later the derivative of the word just became to mean a conflict of any kind. And Paul said is been granted to you that for the sake of Christ. You should not only believe in him, but also suffer for his sake engaged in the same conflict that you saw I had, and now here that I still have one thing you want to see in this particular verse conflict that Paul had and that he still has.

I would love to tell you I would love to be able to with confidence. Assure you that one day all of your conflicts will cease and be no more.

I don't read that in Scripture that is not accurate. So what do we need to know in this world you will have Jesus said what trouble. But take heart I have overcome the world. In other words, you may be hit with trouble, but you do not have to be defeated with trouble. Some people say will, but if if I'm going for conflict resolution, then why wouldn't it all be over. Why would it not be ultimately resolved and there be reconciliation. I would just say to understand these two words reconciliation and resolution resolution is finding an answer, we see the work solver you're trying to get an answer and so there are answers as to how you deal with certain people. Reconciliation, however, is 100% restoration to harmony. There are people who will not allow you to reconcile, but you can come to a resolution within your self and you do not have to be controlled by the dysfunction by the on healthiness medicine of another person. I remember one time trying so hard. I kept trying trying trying trying trying trying trying and in the situation I was trying to get the relationship piece and Pleasanton finally someone said June. It will never work.

No, no, you're wrong know I try hard enough and I will try and make it multi piece. This friend of mine said June is you were to do everything you could.

No matter what that would mean she would have to give up her power and she's more power oriented. So if she can be down on you, you, Dan. Then she feels powerful seesaw if somebody can push you down.

They rise up some some people are not wanting reconciliation. Can you be at peace with that and you understand that some people are not whole in their hearts. Some people will not allow for healing. If you are listening to me thinking come to figure out exactly how I can be sure that we have reconciliation. I cannot guarantee that their billing blocks. There are certain things you can do to move that direction, but reconciliation takes to forgiveness takes one you can forgive the person. Reconciliation takes to there can be a resolution that you can have it may not be everything you want, but just think about how Jesus must've felt when he was on earth he knew what he could have done every single person's life that intersected his life that he touched it. He was face-to-face with.

He knew what he did and he was speaking truth and he was God in the flesh, God, who had become a human being and so no matter how much truth. He spoke everyone did not respond. I say this because I don't want you beating up on yourself saying I guess it's my fault. This is what I hear my father must be my fault.

We're not reconciled this Scripture that says as far as it is possible with you. Be at peace with everyone. Romans 12 as far as it is with you. Be at peace with everyone towards God and his words is acknowledging not everyone will allow you to be at peace with them because they're not piece you can be at peace in your heart.

And sometimes that's what you have to do you have to evaluate okay if Jesus wasn't destroyed because of the terrible things that people did to him then not be destroyed. What do I do so that I won't be consumed within us. The issue is for you to realize that everybody will not be where you want them to be. Some people will choose not change what you don't know who the people are choose never change. I'll give you one word of caution and it has served me so well. Never ever ever put somebody in cement. You'll never change, that's an inflammatory thing to me.

I had the ability to change God interchangeably to watch your words as I had to watch my words be aware that yes, at times we do need to change and the situations change, but that's mean we can never ever be changed. Will that Scripture from Romans 12 tells us so much about conflict resolution in just a few short words as far as it is possible with you.

Be at peace with everyone. This is hope for the hardwood you not sharing biblical principles and practical help for conflict resolution. More about conflict resolution can be folded hope for the right now.

Let's get back to June. She shares a pre-recorded phone conversation with her live audience is with a man who was trying to resolve a pretty significant conflict within his family. Let's listen to her ear while you have a sister or brother issued in the same city. The reason she has not been of help from her daughter about resort hardware.

Powers of attorney mother.

Third, mail fraud, credit card fraud will okay let's get practical here. There is such a thing as elder abuse is this sister doing taking powers of attorney.

He's headed she's fraudulently go from there you think this is conflict is even caregiving.

His mother is 15 years what is often the reason why somebody gets power of attorney money money somehow being able to access what that person doesn't have without power of attorney is painful. If you are on the line with him. What kinds of things would you say isn't there some legal it's illegal, it is illegal yes you could go to the place to turn place.

There are attorneys you have to think outside of what you normally do because you're not typically in that situation. It's amazing how many avenues actually are open that people don't think about. That's what I'm wanting us to do just in this short call once to realize that times there will be a genuine conflict and you need to go beyond and be able to give practical help to someone who literally feels her hands are tied behind their backs. Power of attorney real. Father died five years ago. There power of attorney to their so you have sought to report this. Who did you reported to reported or reported through the Adult Protective Services.

That's what they're supposed to be in existence for you would think so right out of your word for and they said okay. I'm so sorry I noticed your heart so now your mom is where you took her to a nursing home earlier her home later or talk to her by phone and yet you actually have power of attorney's else you could go district attorney. Yes, sometimes what you will meet a brick wall.

But don't be listen to any other place you can think of district attorney Atty. Gen. Judge. He knew some people that his sister, respect, and maybe there would be someone get things mediation try to mediate this or yes that's true. Obviously this person in the ethics department is sorely lacking halted when he was arrested, he appealed to Caesar meaningfully appeal to a higher authority. I'm going to mention some higher authorities when you're not getting due representation responsiveness family attorney, one who practices family law you gone to the police sometimes getting somebody else in the police department who ever you get first may not be the right person. Another would be your local district attorneys office. A friend of mine.

Her mother was a part of the staff of Congressman and that's all she did. She just dealt with these kinds of issues she could get action in the half of the Congressman to help facilitate getting what is wrong wanted to have you thought about going to our placing a call or writing a letter or a combination of number due combination to their local congressman. You could try the Sen.'s office because they have staff that deal with these issues. It's important for you to try these avenues of appeal did you ask elder protective services there suggestion of what you can do figure out what one part of the Rachel Longfellow health report were far, will order for break my heart started doing the web for three different filters through different children of her good out there, one who did go out there. The report will be on file.

Take action. Why is important to build a file mean document everything you.document. It was an attorney. Please know that that's right exactly. I hate that we are in a litigious world, but the fact is abuse does take place in their various levels of conflict.

What we have to say is okay if it deals with something in the legal realm, then you can literally continue to contact in order to build the file and then many times what you find is someone else will come later and report something very similar, and then double. We've had here we have here so it's important to just assume there's nothing I can do that so often our mindset, just one person can't do anything about somebody else is having a horrible conflict and you may be far more important in God's handiwork here it is he's wanting to move to the point of solution, you may be very significant in this area. If indeed there is another report.

For example, there was someone who talked with me about reporting childhood sexual abuse in regard to her brother and she was. Not sure whether to doing things also quote that you feel 10 years from now. You did the right thing. She said reporting said well what are you going to do and she said I would report she did want to make waves well the truth is, she knew right to report well. Nine months later there was a report by somebody else in regard to abuse and so because of her initial report on top of this other report.

There were grounds and the father was removed from the home and the children were dealt with on personal professional basis, so don't feel that one time of reporting is wasted. Just pray for crews to come to the surface. Father would you give extraordinary supernatural discernment paves the way for him to prepare the hearts of those who could be of help in this situation and protect his mother, ultimately, may truth and justice prevail. In Christ name we pray.

Amen. Our hearts are with you.

You continue to hang onto God's hope will be taxing.

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We do not know conflict is going to happen we seen about a larger scale recently but conflict is going to happen in your family, workplace your friendships and even with people you don't know to help you face the conflicts in your life. Using a biblical foundation. There's a great download. That's free on our website. Hope for the or discover more of what the Bible says about resolving conflict and falling practical guidance CRTs for living on this topic that website again.

He is hope for the or call and talk with one of the better webinar hope care center. That number is 840 do you hope 800-488-4673. Now let's go back to June. Are you afraid of conflict in your vocabulary is conflict spelled TR OU BLE have to admit my natural tendency is to do anything to avoid conflict.

Yet, as I think about the serious conflicts I've had in my own life I see times of greater personal growth than if the conflicts hadn't existed at all. Because of these difficult relationships.

I became aware of lessons I needed to learn not only about others, but more importantly about changes that need to be made in my own attitude and actions had everything been peaceful. I honestly don't believe I would have stretched my way of thinking or changed is I need to change years ago I heard this insightful statement never to disagree at all is assigned, not of love, but of indifference growing through conflict, though that's a perspective we probably don't think about what were having trouble with someone.

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