Best of 2022: Staying Connected to God: A 60 Day Challenge (Part 2 of 2)

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Apart from me, you can do nothing. That's the whole point that I'm trying to get across in Soul Revolution. That actually all we have to do is learn to stay connected moment by moment to God's Spirit and the rest of the things take care of themselves. That's John Burke and he's with us once again on Focus on the Family. It's one of our best of 2022 programs. Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly and I'm John Fuller.

I'm so excited to have John Burke back with us. He's been here a number of times, but last time we talked about how we can trust God with our hopes and our dreams and really our deepest longings are found in Jesus. When we can understand that, it changes our life. John gave us some ideas on reorienting our minds and connecting with God so that we can be in tune with the things he desires for us.

The good gift giver, if I can say it that way. If you missed any part of it, man, get to the website, download it, get the smartphone app, you can listen that way. But today we're going to dive a little deeper into that content based on his book Soul Revolution. And John Burke is the pastor and founder of Gateway Church in Austin, Texas. He and his wife Kathy have an adult son and an adult daughter and his book Soul Revolution, How Imperfect People Became All God Intended is indeed the foundation for our conversation.

Call us to get your copy, 800, the letter A in the word family, or check the program notes for further details. John, welcome back. How great to be back.

It's good to see you. And let's pick up from last time you talked about the 60 60 experiment. So for those that didn't hear it, give us a quick briefing on what the 60 60 experiments all about. Yeah. So the context, like we talked about last time, is that we all have deep longings. We have hopes. We have dreams.

They're not bad. But oftentimes we settle for too little. You know, it's as as C.S. Lewis said, you know, many times it's not that our we desire too much. We settle for too little. And God actually wants to give us the deepest longings of our hearts, the love and the joy and the peace and patience and kindness, all these things that things from out there can't give us. But it only comes from intimate relationship with God. And in fact, that's what we were created for. Yeah, we weren't created to do life apart from the very source of life and love and goodness. He created us for that. So the Christian walk really is simple.

It's incredibly simple. And Jesus said this is last night on earth. And John 15, five, he said, look, I'm the vine like I'm the trunk of the tree, you know, the vine. You're the branches. Stay connected to me and you will bear much fruit.

Apart from me, you can do nothing. So the 60 60 experiment is trying to help us re orient from the habit we all naturally fall into, which is that we go throughout our days forgetting that God is with us. He is with us and he loves us.

And he promised his Holy Spirit to be with us, to guide us into all truth, to guide us into the purpose he has us here for. And the result is the dreams and longings of our heart. We look back and personally, I can say I'm amazed. Yeah.

And I would never choose any other path. Now, that doesn't mean it's not challenging sometimes along the way. Doesn't mean there's not disappointments.

In fact, many times he uses the disappointments to rip away the things we're using as props apart from God. Yeah. He's not trying to harm us.

He's actually trying to help us. Right. And so that's so the 60 60 is every 60 minutes for 60 days. You know, it takes time to set a new habit.

Sure. So 60 days is a good time period to change a habit. So for 60 days, you set a beeper to go off your alarm on your smartphone or we have an app that that does it. That'll ding your phone and bring up a verse reminding you of how to stay connected or what God wants in this relationship. Or maybe you just put sticky notes in your car and on your computer just as a reminder. And what you're trying to do is change your habit from going through the hours of the day, the moments of the day, forgetting about God who's there with you or distracted or distracted or not listening. Right.

And responding. John, let me ask you this as a pastor. I'm sure you have counseled many, many people that fit this description. But I want to really speak to that person that this is true of. And that is the person that's trying to satisfy longings that are artificial.

It might be success, money, houses, cars, relationship, you know, the beautiful wife, whatever. And how when they reach it, how it doesn't meet the need and speak to that individual. And even in the church, you know, someone who's made a commitment to Christ, it's sometimes hard to shake those habits of what you're actually going after and how to get better oriented around exactly what you're saying, opening your heart so the Lord can help meet the deeper longings of your life. I mean, some people might not even know what those longings are.

That's how distracted they can be. Yeah. And I think the other part is we don't stay connected to the Lord because we fear that if I do, he's going to fill in the blank. So this was my old fear, right? I was an engineer. I had a dream and a goal to start my own, get an MBA, start my own company, be rich and successful, because that was what I was trained is success.

Sure. OK, well, then my dad did that, but it killed him. He died. He died from cancer. But he also struggled with alcoholism, overwork, struggled with stress. He had ulcers.

And on his deathbed, he said to me, John, I'd give it all back if I could just have my health and my family. He knew the Lord, but he didn't know how to walk with the Lord abide in him. He didn't know how to abide, how to stay connected. And as a result, there were a lot of wounds. You know, his father abandoned their family. He was abusive.

There was just a lot of wounds from the past my dad had never worked through. And I mean, I didn't realize this. And this is the thing. Our deepest longings are really trying to answer a few questions. Am I lovable or am I loved? And do I have worth?

Do I have value, purpose? And really, we're trying to get those questions answered. The shallow strategies oftentimes are like we're trained or we come up with an idea that if I'm successful, if I have a husband who looks like this or does this or is this status, or if I have a wife who, you know, looks like this or does or kids or, you know, you can fill it in with a thousand things.

Sure. But those end up subtly becoming idols. In other words, they become the singular most important thing. And they distract us, just like you were saying, from the one thing that Jesus said is necessary. Right. And that is relationship with the Lord, walking moment by moment with the Lord.

Yeah. And so I think the thing I would say is don't worry about changing all your dreams. They're bad or your hopes are bad. They're not necessarily at all.

Focus on walking day by day for 60 days and just see if you don't end up going, oh, my gosh, this way of doing life with God is so much better. You had a story in the book about going skiing with your college buddies and you encountered what sounded like, you know, ski bunnies. What happened in that story and what was the outcome? Yeah. So what state were you in? Colorado, Colorado. OK, good. Crested Butte.

OK, specific. Yeah, excellent. Yeah. Great ski spot.

Yeah, it's a great ski spot. And yeah. So we were single college, met these three girls and, you know, we were trying to show off and Texans. Yeah. And Texas.

And if you don't know, Coloradans have a love hate relationship with Texans, but they love Texans who think they can ski really well. Yeah. And so we didn't know. But these girls were like leading us into the trap.

All right. And they're like, OK, you can ski. Let's go skiing. So they take us up to the backside. And it's this big bowl, probably two feet of powder, three feet of powder.

Crazy 70 degree. I mean, it was it looked like a straight down drop. So they said to me, you can't fear. You just have to you have to go like you're falling down the mountain plunge and then use the speed to control your speed. So I start. But I'm terrified. So I lean back. Well, that's the worst thing you can do. And I you know, I snowball for 200 yards.

Yeah. She comes back and she's like, no. If you give in to fear, you're not going to be able to you're not gonna be able to do this.

You have to like throw yourself down the mountain and then you'll be able to control your speed. It seemed counterintuitive. Right.

I'd be right with you. But I did it. Yeah, I did it that time. I leaned down. I leaned down the mountain and I didn't fight the speed. And I started to then turn. And it was the most fun I've ever had.

It was a thrill. This 60 60 experiment doing life moment by moment with Jesus is the same. So here's what I challenge people to do for 60 days.

You have to go all out in complete willingness to do his will. Yeah. But I'm telling you, after watching thousands of people do this experiment for 60 days, nobody ever says who goes all out. Oh, I wish I hadn't done that.

Nobody. It's always. Well, that's a good guarantee. Oh my gosh. Yeah. God is real. He loves me and cares about me. I couldn't believe the things I experienced. The way God showed up, the way he led me, the joy, the peace and the way he takes care of the little things.

Yeah. When I just focus on the one thing Jesus said is most important. Abide in me.

You'll bear much fruit apart from me. Nothing. John, that is so good. In the book, you share how you responded at a crucial time when a friend of yours, Jerry, really needed you. How did God work in that situation?

Well, it wasn't it wasn't reconciliation. It's a good this story is a good reminder. So we have to learn to listen to these little promptings. So that's what happened with Jerry. I'm sitting there doing emails one day.

And no, actually, I was working on a message and I was on a deadline. And I have this thought go into my head. I wonder where Jerry is. Jerry was not a Christian.

He and his girlfriend had started coming to our church and I hadn't seen him in a while. And I don't know why I had that thought. And I thought, why did I think that, Lord? And then I was like, I'm busy. And I got it. So I go back to writing my message and I have the thought again.

Mm hmm. And it was kind of like email Jerry. It's like, I don't I don't even know if I had Jerry's email. And I don't have time to do this, but I'll email Jerry. So I email Jerry. Hey, Jerry, haven't seen you in a while. Hope you're OK. Just was thinking about just stopped and prayed for you.

Let me know if I can do anything for you. Shot it off. Well, the next day, his girlfriend, who Jerry lived with, got that. As she had just taken him home from the hospital, having tried to commit suicide the day I wrote that email. Mm hmm. The day the Lord was not the day the Lord nudged me.

Yeah, amazing. She saw it as an act of God. They came in and he unloaded all the guilt and burden that he's carried, because basically he he started dating his brother's girlfriend. It tore their relationship apart because his brother was in love and and he felt incredible guilt and it just drove him. And he didn't know the forgiveness of the Lord.

Right. So I shared the gospel with him. He came to Christ. The Lord turned his life around.

It was amazing because of one little prompting thought. Yeah. Think of that. And that's the adventure we get to go on with the Lord.

John, that can be one of the big barriers is moving toward people with the right attitude. You're in the 60 60 experiment. You're asking the Lord every 60 minutes. OK, Lord, what?

Checking in. Where do I need to go? And boom, that thought hits you.

Contact so and so. OK, well, I'm not sure if that's the Lord, but in faith, I'm going to make that happen. And, you know, these could be relationships that have historic conflict in them or something. So kind of bundling those thoughts together, the concept of moving toward people for some can be really intimidating. Well, and it can be past conflict or it could be present conflict or just fear. Yeah. And one of the things in the book I talk about using the Lord's Prayer as a model.

Yeah, let's talk about that. Well, and it leads in because, again, it's not being formal. It's just realizing the Lord's Prayer is really a model. Our Father, who art in heaven, holy is your name. In other words, you are greater than I can possibly imagine, better than I can possibly imagine. I'm going to trust you.

That's the sentiment. And then the second, you know, your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. OK, that's a prayer. Jesus taught us to pray that because God's will is not done mostly on earth. This is what we're trying to do in the 60 60 experiment is change it from the way we typically will things to be done and allow God's will to actually work in us.

Now, here's the thing. Love requires willingness and free will. And so God doesn't force himself on us. Many times he waits for our willingness.

And so the responding and obedience, the radical response in those moments throughout the day, it does require humbling ourselves in trust. I think about my own personal experience when our kids were little. We were in the middle as a church of doing the 60 60 experiment. So my watch was going off, you know, beeping every every 60 minutes to remind me to stay connected each each moment of the day.

We go down to the beach and the kids are little. We stay up late swimming. We get up the next morning. And I had this plan in my head of how the day was going to go. We had to get back.

It was Sunday. So we would get up, you know, get ready. We'd be out on the beach by 10.

We would enjoy, you know, the afternoon we'd hit the road by by two because we had to get back and get ready for school and everything else. And it's 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock. But now it's noon.

It's two hours past plan. Right. Time to go.

I.E. my will be done. So anyway, my wife finally confronted me. She says, you're being so impatient. Well, I was like, what? Don't you realize how patient I've been for two hours?

You've not noticed? Yes. And and it just you know. So then we started getting in. We were all in. Yeah. And right as we're in the middle of it.

What do you think happened? The stinking beeper goes off on my watch. The 66.

The 66. And I'm not kidding. In my mind, I said, sorry, Lord, can't connect right now. I'm busy. Not this time. And I certainly don't want accountability.

I do not want. And that is exactly what happens. Right. And what I realize is in that moment, it was like my wound, my pride, my way. It was blocking my spirit from even wanting to consider what the Lord wanted. His will be done. Right.

Yeah. And I literally had to and it was only because this verse from scripture kept coming to my mind. Again, I think it was the Lord's prompting. God opposes the proud. But he gives grace to the humble, humble yourselves.

Therefore, under God's mighty hand and he will lift you up. Yeah. I kept hearing that. I was like, ah, should have never memorized that scripture.

They always come back to bite us. Yeah. But I went for a walk and I just calm down and and I was able to say. And sometimes this is what you have to say, Lord, I can't do it for them, but I'll do it for you. Mm hmm.

That's good. That's obedience. That's abide in my love. And how do you abide in my love? You know how much God loves us.

A depth that we can fathom how high, how low, how wide, how deep. But we only have one thing to offer him in love. Our will. In any one moment. Mm hmm. So I said, OK, I'll do it as an act of love for you. And I went back and I apologized. Even though I wasn't wrong, they were wrong.

I could see it went deep. Still got to go through forgiveness. No, but that is the reality. Yeah. So that's your kingdom.

Come your will be done. And what we're doing in these moments throughout the day in the 60 60 is we're changing our habit of just letting our pride and our will be done. And we're we're actually following his and we're seeing it's better. It was better.

We went out and had a great day. The rest of the day you did have resolution. They apologized to once I led. But leadership often requires humbling yourself. Right. Yeah. And I think in that 60 60 experiment, one of the things is just getting to know the voice of the Lord.

And it doesn't need to be a shameful thing or an embarrassing thing if you haven't practiced this. It takes a little time to say, OK, is that just me thinking that or is that really the Holy Spirit nudging me? In fact, you had a story in the book about Kathy. You guys, I think we're in Russia. Oh, yeah. And something at a nice restaurant occurred.

Yeah, I think so. Well, we were living in post communist Russia. So it was right after the fall of the Soviet Union. We moved to Leningrad.

We left St. Petersburg, same city. We were there when it. Yeah. When it changed. It changed names.

But during that time, it was hyperinflation, just horrible economic crash. Yeah. So anyway, we were at a Christmas break out in Switzerland for a conference. So we're having this we go to this really nice restaurant, steakhouse in Switzerland. And we've been eating, you know, borscht and potatoes and cucumbers. You couldn't get much. Right.

And so we're having this incredible meal, you know, and just loving it. And my wife couldn't eat. She has a huge mercy gift. Right. That's not my problem.

Right. But you married opposites. She helps me.

She helps me with the Lord's heart for people. And and so she couldn't eat. And like, why aren't you eating? She goes, I just I can't eat this beautiful meal, knowing some of our Russian friends, the parents in married student housing can't even get milk for their kids. We've got to do something to help them. And so we stopped and we prayed around the meal. And we just said, Lord, if this prompting that Kathy's feeling, we're all feeling we were all like, God, are we supposed to do something? Then tell us. Show us.

Yeah. And we spent the rest of the night brainstorming. Well, maybe we could find trucks in Finland and we could truck food in from Finland. We can raise money from churches in the United States. We started to develop this plan.

Well, we get back that next week to our flat. We lived in a Russian flat apartment and there was a phone message waiting for us. And we call and. It was an organization that had a C1 10 military transport plane flying in a whole cargo load of food, enough to feed 2000 families for three months. Their contact had turned out to be mafia.

They heard we were Americans living there. Is there any way we could possibly help them distribute the food? That's crazy, crazy, crazy goodness. And so we ended up being able to not only, you know, meet the needs physically, but we were able to share Christ with all of them and tell them about the God who cares about their needs, physical and spiritual.

It was amazing. But again, this is the adventure God wants to lead us on. And sometimes it's amazing like that, like he wants to do something through us, but we have to be willing to just seek his will and then willing to act. Sometimes it's real simple. Yeah.

And I like that through both days. You've talked about that, keeping things simple, that the gospel is simple. It's not easy. No, but it is hardest. It's the hardest thing. No, really simple.

That's why the 60 60 experiment is for 60 days. We're trying to reorient our habit of not doing this one thing Jesus said is necessary. Yeah. Getting distracted by everything else, everything else. And I think that's where I want to end with this last question. That person, maybe they don't even feel worthy. That's so much the guilt that the enemy lays on our heart that, you know, we we couldn't possibly be noticed by God because we're so unworthy. Think of the things that you've done and the way that you've acted and the thoughts that you've had. Right.

I'm trying to hit all the check or still have or still have struggled with. But the Lord's good with all that. He just wants that relationship. And those things will take care of themselves when you stay grafted into the vine. That's the point. And so speak to that person that continually has that loop playing in their head.

And they don't know that they can get out of the rut. That's a lie from the enemy of your soul trying to keep you in the trap he's got you in, which is if and I you know, I've struggled with my own sin patterns and even addictions in my past as I was coming to faith in Christ. And I remember that I remember what would happen is I would I would want to do well and I would try and then I would fail. And then I would hear in my head, man, you're disgusting. God is so she's so displeasing you.

He didn't want to hear from you until you can clean up your act. Right. So you know what I do? I'd stay away from God.

The only one who, as I abide, can produce the fruit in my life. Right. So you see, the irony is when we try to do it without God, we stay stuck. Right. And that is the evil one's intent.

He lies to you about that. So if you're feeling that, memorize what I memorized. Romans 8 one. There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. That's how we concluded this best of 2022 program with John Burke on Focus on the Family. And what a terrific reminder about the importance of staying connected to God, the source of life. And I do hope you've been encouraged and inspired to seek God out in a fresh way. I really love what John Burke shared in this conversation, especially the idea of connecting with the Lord every 60 minutes. That sounds healthy and good. It doesn't have to be elaborate, just a quick prayer, acknowledgement.

Thank him for what you're about to eat at lunch, at work, wherever you might be. But that brief moment of connection really helps you center on your relationship with him. If you try it, I believe you'll find a deeper sense of joy and a stronger faith.

And that's what counts. This is what Focus on the Family stands for as well. When you are grounded in the Lord, your relationships, well, they can flourish.

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