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I'm like, wait a second, that's weird. How and why would a good God give me a good gift that would take me away from him? He must mean for me to see him through this. We have Gloria Furman with us today and. I'm just going to jump in before we even talk about this book, Gloria.
And I want you to go back in time because you have four kids. That are still all teenagers now. No, your youngest isn't. Your youngest 12. Yeah.
Yeah. So 18 to 12. But I want you to slip back in time and can you recall a day? maybe with four or three that were all little, that was so overwhelming to you. Because as I think through that, I have many days that I'm thinking, how did I get through that day?
Especially with young ones.
So, can you think of anything? I know I'm putting you right on the screen. Oh, you have one that just popped in your mind? All right, take it easy. I don't know what day it was, but I have a photograph.
of the end of that day. The end of that day was resulted in us leaving the elevator. And Three children were sleeping. And the fourth one. Was awake, walking, the oldest.
So there's a photograph of me pushing a double stroller. in which the child in the front seat is kind of Leaning. Flopped over. Yeah. Sleeping.
Had had survived the transfer from car seat into stroller, still sleeping. The second one. That's an accomplishment right there. Yeah. The second one also in the baby seat.
Sleeping, survive the car. to stroller transfer sleeping. The third one I have on my back. Like a backpack, just sleeping. All three sleepy.
Yeah, the oldest took a photograph because she said, Mommy, you look so funny.
Somehow we got from the car To the elevator, down the hall to our apartment, and all three of them still sleeping. All the while, I thought, what am I doing? What what what am I doing here? Um Physically, that was really taxing. It's a long walk down to the apartment.
But it was the end of a really, really long day. And everybody was just too exhausted. And how old were all the kids at that point?
So it would have been one Three, five, and seven. And you know, I'm thinking there are a lot of moms relating to that. And you tell me, and they're also thinking, so where's your husband? Yeah. My husband, um He served as the senior pastor and founding pastor for Redeemer Church of Dubai for 15 years.
That's all we need to know. We know where he is. There you go. He's not there. He wasn't there?
No, he wasn't there physically in that moment at the elevator. Oh, wait a minute. That puts a whole different picture on that.
So you're all by yourself. Yeah. Making the trans so you're transferring each of those kids. Into the stroller by yourself. In the parking garage, yeah.
That's impressive. Like, that's not easy to do. It's like Kid Jenga. Yeah. Yeah.
And that's not just one day. That's probably a lot of days. It's a lot of days. Yeah. Yeah.
Especially with kids that age. I can here's here's a memory I have. Oh, you wanted to ask her this so you could tell yourself. Hers is so much better. Hers is accomplishments.
I hope I'm there. No. Of course, I wasn't there. You're not there. I think you were at a meeting, a church meeting.
And so I've got two kids. I think they were five and three in the bathtub getting ready for bed. I'm nursing the baby and. As that's going on. One of the sons in the bathtub says I think it was the three-year-old.
No, it was a five-year-old. Mommy, I have to poop. And so I'm like, okay, just get out and go ahead. I'm nursing the baby. Goes, I don't want to poop in this bathroom because Austin, my brother, will see me.
I don't know why he had this like. Kind of wanted to do it alone. And we didn't have those bathrooms that had a separate room for the toilet. It's just right beside the bathtub. And I'm like, okay, then just get a, just go out in the hall, go to the other bathroom that's in our room, this little bathroom.
And he said, I don't want to. And I'm yelling as I'm nursing. It's okay. Just get out and go to the bathroom. And so I can hear him get out.
I can hear the water sloshing. And I can hear his little feet going down the hallway. And then he yells, it came out. It came out. His brother, the three-year-old, gets out and sees it and starts laughing his head off.
The other brother's mad now. And so they start fighting in the hallway. The baby starts to cry because I'm starting to get up and he's not nursing now. And the doorbell rings. Yes.
Of course the doorbell rings. And the doorbell rings. And back then you don't have any, you know, you don't have a camera on your doorbell. And so I'm like, oh, that could be something important. I do not know why I would answer the doorbell.
But it was a guy selling magazines. And my thought was. Where is my husband? Why isn't he here helping me? And this is my life.
This is my life. You were like, look what I did. And I thought. I am so bad at this. But it takes us all to, I think, all of us as moms.
have had those days where you're overwhelmed. And you don't know how to do it. And how do we bring Jesus into this new era of having kids? And that's really what you're talking about in your book: Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full. You've had your hands full, you still are.
And you've been living in Dubai.
So, how old were the kids when you started living in Dubai? We moved when our oldest was 16 months, and I was pregnant with the second. Wait, so that scenario that you painted at the beginning, you were in Dubai. Yes, that's right. Oh my.
Goodness.
Now, why Dubai? What's going on? Husband's church planner? Yes. Okay.
Yes. Redeemer Church of Dubai, where we're members now. He has just transitioned his role to another elder, and he is now the chancellor of the Gulf Theological Seminary, a seminary that he helped us start. We serve among many, many people groups in Dubai, a very diverse city. It's wonderful.
And challenging, and all of the things that you can imagine doing ministry there. Yeah. And so when they were little, as I was reading in your book, he also had some health issues with you. Right? Yeah.
So that complicated things as well. It does throw a wrench in things when you can't use your arms. My husband suffers from a nerve disability, nerve condition in both of his arms. It started when we were in seminary and he was typing. In class, and then felt some buzzing in his pinky finger, and then that spread to the elbow, and then.
Toward the end of the year, it was both elbows. He's had multiple surgeries to address the ulnar nerve. um issues that he has.
So uh twenty years now Ish of weakness, chronic pain, um And uh and all of the Atrophy that comes with not getting to use your arms and having those procedures and surgeries over the years. He uh can preach? Doesn't have to do very much heavy lifting physically with his arms to do that. Uh he teaches, he leads. Beautifully by the strength that God supplies.
But he can't do basic fine motor skills like. Buttoning a shirt, or even like a gross motor skill, like pulling a seat belt across you to clip it in, or opening a door.
So, even I'm thinking babies, he could hold your babies. No, he couldn't even hold them. No, yeah. There's a like a waist pillow that I used to put on his lap and then lay the baby onto his lap so that he could at least sit with the baby on his lap in a somewhat more stable position. But as soon as the baby gets wiggly, After a couple months, then he doesn't feel comfortable, his baby could just roll off and he wouldn't be able to catch.
So that'd be hard for both of you. Very hard, yeah. Hard for him, hard for the kids, hard for me. Yeah, how'd you deal with that? I mean, was there.
Lament? Was there anger? Was there all that? All of the above. Yeah, walk us back there because I mean, you didn't foresee that.
No. And now you're dealing with that reality. Yeah. How many kids did you have when he was diagnosed?
So our oldest was an infant, and I remember him saying, I can't, I don't think I can pick up the car seat anymore.
So She was She's 18 now. When he was diagnosed, probably right before that, but the muscle loss. happens gradually over time.
So For his Our kids' entire memory. Yeah. They don't remember. any time when their dad could do any of those things. Gloria, what did What did your Prayers and your talks with God sound like back then when you were just figuring all that out and realize the ramifications this would have on your future, your kids' future, your family's future, and his future.
We could talk about this for days. I bet we could. I still have those. Hard conversations. with the Lord.
We've learned a lot. about suffering. Uh last night we were talking with our oldest about dating and expectations and Things like that. And the thought occurred to me: when you look for a mate, Of course, you're looking for a strong believer. Um but you need to know that this is a person you're going to suffer with.
Hmm. and you will grow in your theology of suffering together Um As you walk with the Lord together. Um But just know that you This isn't just a person that you're compatible with, or you like, or you enjoy, or you admire, and look up to and respect, but this, you're gonna suffer with this person. Know that. Did you say that to your daughter?
We did. I did cry. How's she responding? She knows. She's living.
This is a reality. Yeah. The kids often asked me. Uh, in their older years, if you had known that dad would have a disability, would you still have married him?
So just very Good question. Um for kids uh to to think through, of course. Um Uh You say for better or for worse. We all do. Yeah.
Um When you stand up there and you make a covenant together, if the Lord had spelled out all those details, would it have scared me away? It's a great question for them to ask. What'd you say? I usually say words to the effect of. Being your dad's wife is one of the greatest privileges of my life.
I never could have chosen it for myself, and I'm so grateful for what God's done in me. Um and in him Uh As we minister to others, we see what God does through Dave's weakness and my weakness. And proves that Christ is your strength. Because there's no other explanation for it. It has to be Jesus working.
And it's interesting, you could have said no, and your life could have been easier. But would you be who you are today without the suffering? Because God has shaped you and Dave as a result. You know, one of the greatest passions of my life is growing spiritually stronger, going deeper, learning more, and connecting to Jesus more. And maybe you feel the same, or maybe you just want to explore what it looks like to follow Jesus.
You can go to familylife.com/slash stronger faith, and we've got resources there that can help you grow in your faith. I really hope that you'll check it out because I'm confident that you'll find something there that will make an impact in your life. Go to familylife.com slash strongerfaith. I mean, what is your you mentioned theology of suffering? How would you explain that?
How would I explain that?
So, who am I talking to? Am I talking to a child? Am I talking to someone in the middle of suffering? I mean, I think someone who doesn't believe suffering exists. I mean, I'm honestly, yeah, I would say you're talking to a mom.
Mm-hmm. Because that's who's listening right now. Moms and dads. I mean, there may be some kids, but mostly parents. And, you know, a theology of suffering is a critical understanding.
That often is not understood properly.
So when you said that, I thought, Well, it's cost theological a little bit. I mean, you're living it.
So, how would you explain that? I would say, too, to focus a little bit on moms. you know, whether they have a newborn or whether they have an 18-year-old going to college. What does that look like? Yeah.
Um you need to know. Uh primarily Not just statistics about the challenges you're facing. I think we're really good at statistics. Drumming up statistics, finding out practical helps and how-tos of surmounting these challenges. We're also really good at.
socially networking ourselves with other people who share the same challenges. Um there's a Facebook group for that, you know, like that kind of Help. And those are all Good things that could be helpful to you, but I think you primarily need to focus on God's character. If you know who God is. And you trust him?
Um then you can face any myriad of challenges. that he brings your way and believe that he's with you. in the valley. um of despair and death. and that he'll bring you through it, and he has perfect purposes.
Um, and that he's not Let's see, working with it. There's not a circumstance in your life that God looks at and goes, ooh. I'll figure it out, don't worry. He's never surprised by any of those things. He's orchestrated your life in such a way to bring glory to his son and build up his church.
Always, only ever doing that. There's no hindrance or obstacle. Um that he has to kind of hurdle over. In order to make something good happen.
So I would take someone straight to Romans 8:28. And just dive into that and talk about all of those things. I would share maybe my own faulty thinking about that. When we first moved, I remember one of the first months that we lived. overseas, I was struggling with getting water.
They told us to get water, drinking water, you just put the five-gallon jug. out and they refill it.
Okay. Not on your porch or on your phone. Yeah, see, this is the question. Where does the go? Where does it go?
So it's supposed to go on a certain day of the week, and you prop the gate open and you stick the jug out and you put the little coupon underneath it that gets you the refill.
Okay. So if it's windy or dusty, you ought to, you ought to. Tape that thing on.
So that the coupon's there.
So when they come do the delivery, you do that and then you haul the water back in and wait till it comes to room temperature before you can drink it.
So I didn't figure that out for a couple of weeks. And so Eat? You need to drink. We need to wait. You didn't have water for two weeks.
Well, I had to push my stroller. No. With yeah, with the baby. Uh, she's a toddler. I take a bag.
She's a toddler. And you know that basket in the back of the stroller? It's not big enough for a five-gallon, but I can, you can put some liter waters in there.
So I push my stroller down the street to the little shop where they sold water.
So every time I missed the delivery for a couple weeks, I would push her down the stroller and put a couple of water jugs in the back of the stroller and then just push it through. These are not really painful. Paved sidewalks. This is dusty, sandy, rocky. Like, sorry, kid.
Mommy, mommy can't figure out the water. And then you drive it home, and nobody does this.
So everyone's looking out their window, like, what is that white lady doing? She must be an American. Yes. Nobody came out to help you and say, here's how I asked around and then figured, like, oh, did you speak the language? No, no, no, no.
Just learning. Like a years, a couple years to get through alphabet and basic greetings and things like that before you can maintain any level of conversational fluency.
So you can say hi and greet people soon.
So it's not like you're going to go to your neighbor and say, Hey, I can't figure out this water thing. I could try to pantomime that, but I wouldn't be able to say it with any new ones. I'm going to sit in the dirt with my child on my lap and just cry at that point. That's who I am. I might have.
Yeah. I might have. But I thought in those rough times and this is my husband's health had also taken a taken a uh a sharp decline after we moved.
So he couldn't even do that. No, no, no, no. No, at that point he um he speaks about this and writes about this, but at that point he was on the couch just staring at the wall. Just in misery, in pain, and depression. And I thought, this is so faulty thinking, Lord, if you called us here, why is this happening?
Why is this so hard? Don't we think all of us go through that though? Yeah. Yeah, it shouldn't be this hard. Right, but.
That's not necessarily an indication of calling or God's goodness at all, the circumstances you have.
So. I had to work through that. And was really encouraged by a book that we picked up off of someone's coffee table. Right before we moved, I saw it on the coffee table and he said, Take it, take it, it'll change your life. And it's like, Oh, I didn't, I was just curious about your book.
I didn't want to take your book. No, take it, take it, it'll change your life.
So we took the book, A Gospel Primer for Christians by Milton Vincent. And in this book, He Speaks about the gospel and applying it personally to your life. And there's a page in there that's completely highlighted, underlined, circled, and starred. that speaks about suffering. And God forcing all of these things to do good to you.
to make you more like his son. That brought me extraordinary comfort to apply the gospel to my life personally in the face of challenges and suffering. Um And has It's been a ballast. Uh getting waters. small pennies.
You know, that's that's chump change. Um A bigger, harder challenges certainly come. Along the way.
Well, you mentioned your husband was on a couch with depression.
So, what'd that look like? You guys, I have to go back to the. To the coffee table in the book, I'd be looking like, Where's that book that says, How to be happy when your circumstances are bad? You're because we're always trying to get out of our pain. Like, we just need to get out of it, we need to be happy, and yet you're picking up this book on suffering.
Yeah. Before you knew. No. Oh, you don't already know? I had no idea.
No, you didn't. No, you didn't. No, no, no. My husband had been cleared. He did all his physical therapy.
He was recovering from his latest surgery. He was on the up. And you're thinking, we're called over here. This is going to be amazing. What God's going to do.
Yeah. The way he puts it, the way my husband puts it is: I wanted to go change the world, but I couldn't even change my genes. Ah. it was obvious, I and now in retrospect, completely obvious uh to him and uh to me as well that The Lord's not going to build his church through our strength. Mm.
He's not. He's going to do it through Christ's strength. And this is one way he was showing it. He's been with us. Through all of that, you asked earlier, what did your prayer sound like?
Yeah, I was going to ask that again. What did it sound like? The whole gamut of Lord, I'm thankful for this. I know it's making me like Christ. Are you what are you why?
I risked it. How?
Sometimes just you just know the only word I can say is help. Mm, um This past Mother's Day, I was pulling laundry out of the washing machine. I guess I was at a funny angle because I threw my back out. My first thought was it's not like you're old, Gloria. I'm not old.
But see, I told I told the Lord that. I'm not old. I threw my back out so hunched over. I I was like Can I crawl to the wall, to sit against the wall to do this? It was so bad.
So bad.
So much pain. You can't. You can't move. Do I stand up? Do I lean down?
I was stuck. And um one of our kids was going through some health problems and All of that emotion just kind of came crashing down, and I crawled to the nearest wall and just sat against it. I was like, Lord, my back is against the wall. And then just like my back is against the wall. Like I don't.
Know what to do. I don't know where to go. I don't know where to turn. I don't know what to do next, but our eyes are on you. You're going to have to.
Give direction.
Something help My back healed. I'm better. And now I'm not going to twist around the door. Really? If you, I mean, people, you need to know this.
Get in front of your washing machine. Yeah. And pull the wet laundry out straight. Have you guys ever thought like, I'm seeing other people that are loving Jesus and serving him. Their life looks pretty amazing.
Why me? Why us? Why have you chosen us? For suffering. That's a great question.
Everybody suffers. whether they look like it on the outside or not. They do. And if they can't articulate it or identify any suffering, it's coming. Yeah.
This is a a beautiful thing that my kids have learned. Um just secondhand from watching Um Their lives and their father throughout the years is they know that people can suffer invisibly. Mm-hmm. Um, and look normal because their father looks normal. Um He doesn't look like.
someone who'd Describe themselves as physically disabled. The way he puts it is: if it were my legs, I'd be in a wheelchair. And then everybody would see. Um but the children know Um Just because someone looks you know, happy, comfortable and healthy doesn't mean That's the case, which is incredible to have that kind of empathy built into your childhood. Yeah, it really is.
Even the fact, I was thinking about that when you shared that with your. daughter. About I and she's at an age, she's eighteen, so She may not be far away from getting married. At some point. But for all of your kids, no, I never had that conversation with our sons before they got married.
Like, hey, just so you know. You know, marriage is incredibly wonderful. But there will be suffering too. That seems like something that's kind of needed, especially in our culture today. When we don't talk about any of that.
In fact, if there is suffering, we can tend to blame it on our spouse or our circumstances. And I think we, especially as Americans, we run from that. And we try to find happiness and fulfillment somewhere else. Do you think that's true? Oh, for sure.
Yeah. I I think it's part of our Our human nature. As moms, I think we see that coming. Um and we shy away from it and pretend it's not there. And if we see someone else suffering Um We tell them it's okay.
Um Based on our own authority. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, don't worry. He'll grow out of that.
Like, you don't know that. Mm. Don't it'll get better. Like, you you don't know that. Yeah, you're a voice in somebody's life.
Carries credibility and weight. Oh, yeah, because you've gone through stuff. I mean, as you say in your book, nobody probably chooses to be married to Job. And when your husband said to you, what's it like to be married to Jove? I mean, that's not what you're choosing, but yet is.
Right? Yeah. Um It's it's awful. Last last week, um I stepped in this again. I like to encourage moms to encourage other moms with.
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercies never come to an end. His faithfulness is great. With God's character instead of uh giving moms promises that they personally are not going to deliver on. when you see someone in a certain stage that you've already been through.
uh moms want to Assure other moms that it's going to be okay, which is a beautiful thing to encourage and spur on other moms to persevere. And yes, give practical help. And tips and advice, yes. Also, point people to rocksteady confidence and truth. and their faith in Christ.
A couple of weeks ago.
Sorry, uh a year ago. Um, we went on a walk in the woods. in someone's backyard and my youngest and I stepped into a tick bomb. What? I've never even heard of that.
Yeah. So it's where tiny baby ticks are. And tiny baby ticks. All went on our socks and our shoes and started crawling up our legs.
So, both you and your son, my son, and I. Yeah. So, we were having this, you know, like, let's have a not do-by experience and walk in the woods, and that'll be fantastic and wonderful. Wow. Uh got to the back porch and we're like, what are these?
and he had just gotten a pocket microscope for his birthday. Ah, so let's go look. Oh my gosh, it's a tick. These are ticks. These are tiny baby ticks.
And we did tick checks for days. Wash the clothes, wash the shoes, you know, tick checks, know how to do that. And then a few days later, we both found ticks. on our skin. And so the doctor was like, you need prophylactic antibiotics.
So I had to do that. And then Oh, you can. Is that just oral, or do you have to do that? Yeah, just oral and icotic, yeah. And we're fine.
Uh a week ago. We're going on a hike. And you guys are, you're doing this. You're not in Dubai when you take these walks. No, no, no.
This is in the United States. And someone's back there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's have a not Dubai experience and go in the woods.
So this time we're on a hike. Hey, you know what? I remember what happened last year. We're not going to go off the trail. We're going to stay on the trail.
You wear like all the shoes. Check our shoes. Boots. Should have. Should have.
Halfway through this short hike, I can sense he's nervous.
So I looked at him and was like, Hey, you okay? He's like, How old is he? He's twelve. All right. And then I said to him, Listen to what I said.
Buddy, what are the odds that this would happen again? I mean, really? It's going to be okay. Don't tell me. No, we didn't.
We get back to the car. On whose authority do I get to make a kind of statement like that? We get back to the car and he's like, mom. on his knees. Couple baby ticks crawling, like, oh my gosh, this is happening again.
So get him out of the car. Beat off the little ticks, check his socks, put the shoes in the trunk, and then drive back, throw everything in the washing machine. I'm so sorry, man. And he said, You told me everything was okay. It was like.
I I I'm sorry. I didn't know. But why did you say it if you didn't know? Like Yeah. You got me.
You're right.
So. But but It came from a heart of like, I want you to feel comfortable. I want you to feel okay on this hike. I want you to enjoy yourself. And moms do that.
I want you to feel okay. I want you to feel comfortable. We don't let you freak out. Yes, yes, yes. But say something you know is true.
Say something you know is true. It could happen again, buddy. It could happen again, but Jesus is sovereign over all the ticks, and if he. If he's sovereign over the ticks, we can trust him. And if a tick goes on you, we can still trust him.
In your suffering, we can still trust him. Why this book, like all these principles you're sharing, like are so good, they're so true. Why did you want to write this? I needed to remind myself of telling. Timeless.
Truth That would not change. And living in a cross-cultural situation. You wouldn't believe all the different cross-culturally based advice that moms have for each other. Really? Oh, yeah.
Even in Dubai. Oh, for sure. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. All of our different picture a melting pot of all different cultures coming together and how we do motherhood in this country and how we do motherhood in this country and best advice for this stage of babyhood and best advice for this stage of that and all of those things all mixed up together and in our church as well.
And I really needed to focus on what's always true. Um and had to to really land on that because Of our own personal circumstances with my husband's disability and in cross-cultural ministry and in having a bunch of little kids soon together, I needed some. Steady rock to stand on. And you needed to train your brain in the truth of the gospel. Yes.
Over and over. And over and over and over.
So I feel like this is really practical. And it hits every stage of life. Oh, yeah. But especially like young moms, when you feel like, I don't think I can do this. I don't even know who I am.
I don't even have a life anymore. But even like when you start out saying hands full of blessings, and your big idea is, while motherhood is filled with real trouble and hard work, a Christian mother's hands are ultimately overflowing with blessings. And I can imagine a young mom hearing that, like, wait, what are my blessings again? You know, as she's transitioning into this new life and Feeling, I don't even have a life that I used to have. This is really different.
What does that mean? Yeah. These hands full of blessings. Right. Um.
Your hands are full of blessings. You have Children In God's image, image bearers, these people have immortal souls that will never die. And the Lord's entrusted them to you. To raise, God help us. Truly.
Truly, we need God's help. Yes. Um and everything that comes along with that. Why do I have so much laundry?
Well, because we have clothes. God's given us clothes. Praise the Lord. Why are the dishes in the sink? Yeah, we've eaten.
Thank you, Jesus. We have water. We have water. So instead of grumbling, because I think we can easily get into this pathway of negativity and grumbling and complaining, and you're saying, no, no, no. Like you can you have a choice to go there But it's almost, we always call it God goggles here.
You're not your God goggles. Your son came up with that. And see things like you're seeing it with these eyes of gratitude and blessing. Yeah. Like, oh, we do have close.
I have a husband. I have a child. Yeah, and even if your husband or a child is disabled. You still have them. And if you, if that is part of your life, God has already equipped you to walk through that and walk that path.
Yeah. Yeah. He's given us everything we need for life and godliness in his son.
So I'm reading this story. about your baby in Dubai in the And the stroller. Share what happened with that. Yeah. We.
It was the four of us: myself, my husband, and the two girls. They were little. Uh enough to be in the In stroller. Um and we went to go watch a fireworks show. In Dubai.
Yep, in Dubai. And are they as good as the US of A fireworks? Probably better, yeah. But they're better. Yeah.
Yeah. Okay, we'll edit that part out. We can't have that happen. There's something different about American fireworks, though. Because it's 4th of July, usually, if you have fireworks, and that comes with a whole different set of holiday.
Yeah. So it's different, qualitatively different. We'll just say that.
So you have one baby in the stroller. I have a baby in the stroller. And uh another uh she's a toddler. or preschooler age at that time. Uh and we watched the fireworks show and the crowds were massive.
and we had come over on the train, And we were going to go back on the train. But when we got back up to the train doors, the train station was. Not open yet. They hadn't opened the doors yet. Um uh riders to get on the trains.
And so as a result, A really big crowd grew. And uh became Oppressive. standing very close to people. And then Uh They opened the doors, the police opened the doors and said, you know, women and children. And they want to get the vulnerable people on the train.
And so we were a little ways back. And the people standing next to me, or like on me, turned and see, like, oh, a woman and children. And they said, Give us the baby? And you fold the stroller and then people were crowdsurfing their strollers to get into the into the train station. And so crowd surfing strollers are coming.
And so I thought like, okay, I've got one baby here. one baby in a stroller. How do I fold the stroller? and pick it up. And hold you, hold you.
I can't.
So I give little baby to the person standing right here on me. Yeah. She's right on me. Yeah. And then I rolled the handle and that's how it folds.
And then I picked it up. And then the guy right here, he picks up the stroller. And I look up. This is split seconds. My baby is gone.
Ah. Gone. You thought the lady beside you was still holding the baby. She was right here, right here. And now the baby's gone.
She can't move. Yeah. But the baby was gone.
So I feel the adrenaline rush again. Oh, I can't even imagine. I. It is hard to describe. what that feels like.
But out of my Petite body came a gorilla roar. I have a small voice. It's like a little lion. I can't really yell as loud as I would like to, voice-wise. But some gorilla inside me just came out and said, Where's my baby?
The crowd went silent. What? Silent and everything. Oh, that was like a God megaphone thing. This is a God thing.
And then all of a sudden, we're being pushed through the crowd. Into the doors. like a few seconds later. Kind of like an amoeba or a paramecium, like it en engulfs things. Like we were being pushed out.
But I would also be a little panicky because I don't want to get on here and terrify my baby. I'm terrified. Absolutely terrifying. This is all happening in a matter of seconds. And uh we you know burst into the into the station.
There's a pile of strollers, and a policeman, who's holding my baby. Uh She had been passed with the stroller into the into the into the station. She's fine. She's fine. She was, she's fine.
And then I'm like, oh, I'm not fine.
Okay. I bet you were shaky after that. I was, no, trembling, trembling. I wept the entire way home. My husband wept the entire way home.
Um Well your big idea. The mother bear. The big idea that the mother bear. Um the emotion that you feel and even physiological responses to protect your children. It is a God-given, incredible power.
Um yet It is side by side with our sinfulness and our human nature that says, You want the last? Peanut butter cookie, I'm not sure if I feel like sharing that. But I I would I would jump in front of a bus to save your life. Yes. But be patient with you one more time.
I don't know. You know what I mean? Yeah. It's so good. Like, I would take a boner for you.
Yeah. I truly would. But I'm a sinner. I'm selfish. I'm prideful.
I won't say I'm sorry. I'm having a hard time forgiving you. You know what I mean? Yeah. I heard one dance say, I would take a bullet for my wife and my children.
That's way easier. than living for them every day and sacrificing and serving them every single day. Yeah. But I love too the whole idea of that, that mama bear, like, I'm going to protect you. I'm going to die for you.
That's God's heart for us. Yeah. That's a good reminder, even in the midst of suffering and pain. Especially. Yeah.
Yeah. So, how do you apply the gospel? Because it's what you're talking about, to that. Sinful, selfish part of us.
So, in that book, again, um Gospel Primer for Christians by Milton Vincent. He describes the cross and says, If you're a Christian, this is a summary, if you're a believer in Christ, You are claiming. that the cross says Everything about you. It required the sacrifice of the perfect Son of God to pay for your sin.
So, why would you try to pretend to be anything else? I got this. I, you know, my righteousness is great. Like, no. If you say, I'm a believer in Jesus Christ, that means you are saying it required.
The death of to pay for your sin as a substitute for you. And he absorbed God's wrath, and has given you His righteousness. That's who you are. And that's where your hope comes from. is that not only is God Um able to save you.
Through Jesus, but he's willing. And he's done that. I mean, that. perspective you just shared is so con Contradictory to what so often we hear. You got this.
Yeah. You've got what it takes. You can muscle it up and be the mom you need to be with. Three kids and four kids and a husband. Who's struggling?
How does that jive with the messages we hear so often?
Sometimes even. In pulpits. Oh. Yeah. Um Well, it doesn't fit.
Uh It doesn't fit. Yeah. That doesn't fit. And it doesn't really help you. when you're in the middle of it and you know you know better.
Like the, what's that saying? God won't give you more than you can handle. Like, He's only ever given me more than I can handle.
So. He needs to do it. Yeah. I had a woman a few months ago, um, angry, like super angry. And she said, To me, she's like, I'm struggling with my walk with God.
I'm like, what's happening? She said, He has promised me that I would be successful in my career and that I would financially be able to have a house and have a good car and have all these things. And He's done nothing for me. He doesn't meet me ever. And so I got to the point where, like, trying to find out, is she a believer?
And it sounded like I've given, I've surrendered my life to him. And I said to her, you're distorting the gospel, the fact that Jesus died for you. What did Jesus do for you? He died for you. Like, that's beyond what.
And she said, but he, it, no, I should have more than that. I'm like. That's everything. That's everything. You'll live in paradise.
And I think that when Because sometimes of how we've grown up or culturally, what we've been taught or what we believe. those feelings of like he owes me. No, he's died for us. That the gospel is so weighty. It's so big.
It's so all-encompassing. But it's easy for us if we're not rooted and grounded continually. in the word. It's easy to drift into other beliefs that He owes me. Right.
Right? Yeah. And the world will only reinforce that idea. Yeah. Do you feel like culturally, as you're in Dubai with all these different beliefs and cultures?
Are you finding different distortions of the gospel? Yes. Yeah. That one. Um, the prosperity, so-called prosperity gospel.
Um, God owes me. You know, I put in my time at church, I serve. Um I give. I give.
So I'll get. World finances into my account. Yeah, yeah. Well, somebody might be listening, thinking, well, this sounds terrible, you guys. I'm just going to tell you: like, okay, so great, we're going to suffer.
Life's going to be hard. Is there anything really like Jesus died for us?
Okay, but is there like, what's the good part? Is there a good part? Is there a good part? You get Christ. And is that good?
That's what they're thinking. What does that look like? Yeah. You get Christ. Wow.
How do you summarize that? You get Christ to live, you live. In Christ, your life is no longer yours. You've been bought with a price. Um, That's the most freeing.
Uh comforting truth? Um We would do well to think about that every waking hour. I am not my own. Um I love how Bill Bright used to say it. I'm a slave of Christ.
I love how it is. If there's a problem. Then my master's gonna have to Gonna have to deal with that. And so And there's a, I would add, the joy and the contentment that you find in the midst of the trial. You can't even explain it.
Yeah. It's It's beyond circumstances. It is. It's his peace. That It surrounds us.
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Good idea. I mean, what are ways that You access that truth. And I'm thinking of a mom right now who's maybe sitting with her hands full, listening or watching this on YouTube right now, saying, okay, I'm living the life you were living when your kids were younger. And I want to appropriate what you're saying. I believe it, but sometimes it feels like it's.
You know, not with me in this moment. What would you say to her? Yeah. You need to consume the word of God. Uh like it's your life.
Because it is. I like how you practically get into that, of how it's so different after you have kids. You know, like how that shifts. Like, you used to have time to spend with God. When you've had kids, like, what did that look like with four kids?
Yeah, I had this thought that quiet time meant actual quiet. I don't know why I thought that. We all thought that. Yeah, that quiet time meant actual quiet. And then at some point, I remember saying, Lord.
I can't Have quiet time because of these children you've given me. I'm like, wait a second, that's weird. That doesn't even, that doesn't, that's, that doesn't fit in any category. in in my theology. How?
And why would a good God give me a good gift that would take me away from him? He must mean for me to see him through this. For me to, as C.S. Lewis describes it, follow the dust fairies through the crack in the window up to the source, to the light. Oh, I've never heard that before.
Yeah. So, you know, the dust fairies. Yeah. I don't know if anybody else calls them something else. We always said dust fairies.
Like that, you know, you see them in the light. Yeah. So if you're in the dark shed and you look through the crack and you see through, and all you can see is that band of light and little dust ferries. You follow that through and there's a source outside. It's the sun.
So if I can follow through all of these things that God's put in my hands and see where they come from. Then I can learn more about him. Uh through that.
So sure, um the baby's You know, talking and someone's busy and there's something else to clean, but that doesn't mean that God's distant.
So I can understand that this is The circumstances that he's put me in, and this is wonderful and good in his sight. He's intentional about all of the. challenges, the blessings, the gifts, all of them. He wants me to know him through that. He's willing and able to come to my aid in times of struggle.
He's going to tend this flock like a good shepherd. And I love how Isaiah puts it: he gently leads those who have young.
So he's going to gently lead me. And I can trust him through that. And then, practically, like we said, why are there so many dishes in the sink?
Well, we've eaten. Thank you, God. Why is someone ringing the doorbell? Why are there people in my house? Why do we have the school drop off?
Well, wow, we have an education. That's fantastic. Thank you, God, for your provision. I love one of your headings. How a baby How a baby's cry silences Satan.
Yes. What does that mean? Yeah. It's in the Salms. And the baby Cry is described as a affront.
to Satan, the destroyer of life. Um Culture today Um A culture of life, is something that we Take for granted sometimes. Um But the fact that there is a baby crying. Means someone has escaped. Death.
An image bearer. Uh made in God's image. who cries out Um Satan, we know Jesus tells us, has only come to steal. to kill. and destroy.
And here's one. Who is immortal? Uh made in God's image. Who? Uh defies.
God's enemy.
So when you hear the baby cry. Remember that baby. Is alive. That's good. In the face.
Psalm 8, verses 1 and 2. O Lord, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth. You have set your glory above the heavens and out of the mouth of babes and infants. You have established strength because of your foes. to still the enemy and the Avenger.
That's exactly what you're talking about. What a baby's cry will do. I like that the practicality of that too. I can remember I can remember being a young mom with three little boys. It was insane, like, just busy.
They're so active. and I can remember reading Jesus' words to the disciples, saying, It's better that I leave you. because I'll send you the helper. And I remember thinking, if that's true. If that's true, because I'd rather have Jesus with me physically.
But I remember thinking in my 20s, he's with me. He is with me. He is with me. Which that. started a prayer life of as Paul says pray without ceasing He became my best friend in those days more than ever.
I would talk to him about everything. And my parents didn't live close to me. And I can't imagine for you, you're in Dubai. You don't have any family close to you. But he became my stronghold.
He became the one that I started running to all the time. And I think that's a good place to be when he is our strength, when he is the one. And I always, I had to picture, he's with me. He's right beside me. I can talk to him.
I can complain. I can vent to him. And I can also surrender all of it to him and ask him to give me. His eyes and his ears and his patience, all of it. I think we need to remind ourselves: he's with me.
He's with me. Yeah, absolutely. How about um Us husbands and dads, how can we help? That's a good question. You know what I mean?
I'm sitting here with two moms and wives who. Have their hands full. And I'm not saying we don't, as men, have our hands full, even with the kids at times, but with other things as well. But we want to be your partner. We want to be beside you.
We want to be an asset, not. The one you're complaining doesn't show up and doesn't help when we're there. Talk to the men like How can we help moms whose hands are full, even to help them treasure Christ? Yeah. What comes to your mind first?
You walk with Jesus. You walk with Jesus. You. Uh Stay in the word. You pray, lead your family.
Um, As the Lord leads you, walk with Jesus, and as He's equipped you to be present in all of the different various capacities and Gifts and skills that you have, be present. But I would say, first and foremost, You walk with the Lord. And then, however, that works for your individual family, the practical outworkings of how your daily life goes, that's for. for you all to figure out together. I would agree with that because I can tell a difference.
And I know you can with me too, Dave, when your eyes are on Jesus, when you're with him. The fruit of the Spirit just pours out. And also, I feel like we all, not just men, but we as women, we've become servants. We're serving more than filling our own needs first. Um And it's beautiful.
And I think too, our kids are watching. They're watching us as moms, but we're with them usually more, not always, but usually. But I think when the dad comes in, man, he carries a power and a difference. There's such a beauty of the difference that a man has that I'm like, I want them to see what a godly man looks like because I want our sons to model it. And I think with daughters, I want her to want somebody that has that part of him.
That's like, I want a man that walks with Jesus too, because that shifts an entire household. I love that. Yeah, I mean, it's interesting you said that. Gloria, as your first. Thought walk with Jesus.
I've been Last couple years, you know, when I speak in men's retreats with just men. You know, God's given me different messages. The one I've been speaking recently is. Hey guys. You want to know what the sexiest thing you can do for your wife is?
And they're all like, yeah. I mean, this will draw her to you. She'll love you. She'll desire you. And they're like, Yeah, what is it?
And I'm like, It's not getting the gym and get abs and big muscles, although great. If you want to do that, good. It's walk with Jesus. You walk with Jesus. I don't know how to explain it to you, but that's what your wife draws her to you.
That's exactly what you said. It's like, man, just walk with Jesus. Which means, obviously, for both of us, but if I'm walking with Jesus. I get his eyes. I get his heart.
I'm going to look at my wife and my kids and like, she needs me. I need to serve. What would Jesus do? He would serve right now. He would see the dishes being dirty, or he'd see that diaper needing to be changed.
And he wouldn't stand back and say, okay, that's her job. He'd say. That's my job. I'm gonna be your partner. I'm gonna do this.
I'm as much. I'm going to worship God through being a dad as much as she's going to worship God through being a mom, which I love that phrase in your book. Yeah. Motherhood is worship. You know, it's like I am worshiping being a mom.
It's the same thing for being a dad. I love that. Yeah, I think that's really good. And it's easy to get distracted from that. And that's one of the things I think is parents We disciple our kids in that.
Who to look for? and a spouse. I remember I would say that to him. That was, I mean, I don't know if I would, yeah, I would probably do this again because our kids are older now. But I remember saying, What kind of girl are you going to marry?
She's going to love Jesus with all of her heart. And I want them to see, and it's not that she'll be this certain way. She will be, if you're Christ-centered and your eyes are on Christ, you start to look like him. And man, isn't that essential for a marriage? Yeah.
Yeah. And I love your book. I love the practicality of it. I love the reflection, the questions that you've offered. Like just to give an example, when it comes to training our kids, we tend to default to behavior modification before leaning on Christ.
Isn't that true? Why do you think this is and how does placing our trust in Christ work to alter our default? Like these are just really good Things to talk about. Why is weakness a key component of mothering to the glory of God? And then you go deeper into some other things.
So I love the beauty of this. When I first looked at it, I'm like, This is just too perfect. Like, it's just like, just follow Jesus. We all know that. But then you get into the practicality and the beauty of the gospel and how it relates.
To the ugliness and the mundane and the hard of our life. This is a book that would be on a coffee table. And anybody would want to pick that up because it will get them through those hard times of suffering, but also. Like the everyday mundane life, as well. And if you're wondering, how do I get this book?
Treasuring Christ when your hands are full. We have it at familylifetoday.com. Show notes, click on the link. And you can buy it there. Gloria, this has been really good.
I keep I can't get the image out of my mind of, where's my baby? Like a gorilla voice coming out. I also think this too, like you have an 18-year-old that's going to be going to s to college in the States. And that's a big deal.
So I'm just wondering. Would you pray for moms specifically? of whatever stage of life they're in. Because we're impacting the next generation for Jesus with our parenting. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Let's pray. I'm going to Pray one of my Favorite prayers.
Okay. Four moms? Myself. Friends. Ephesians one.
Ephesians, I'm in Ephesians chapter one. Let's pray. God, we pray that um Our friends out there moms who are in the trenches. would have heard of faith in the Lord Jesus, that they would have faith in him. that they would know his love for them, that dies for them.
God, I pray that um That you would give them the spirit of wisdom? and revelation in the knowledge of of yourself. God, would you enlighten the eyes of their hearts? Would they be able to see through all of their mundane circumstances to the never-changing circumstances of? being in Christ.
God, I pray that they would know what is the hope. to which you've called them. That you haven't necessarily called them to any circumstantial changes. as their great hope, um taking a nap or getting through teething, but the great hope of life with you forever. O God, would their eyes be fixed on the horizon of eternity?
Uh would they know uh what are the riches? Of Christ's glorious inheritance in the saints, would they not neglect gathering together with their local church? Investing uh with fellow brothers and sisters who um are walking together. Oh, with you? In this world.
And God, I pray that they would know the immeasurable greatness of your power toward them who believe. It's immeasurable. It's great. God, I pray that they would be depending on you, and not on their own strength. And would you work your power according to the great might that you've worked in Jesus when you raised him from the dead?
And seated him at your right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule, and authority, and power, and dominion. and above every name that is named. Not only in this age. Ah, in this age god of Of uh Nurse the baby every two hours and take the kids to school and pick up the kids from school and go to high school graduations and drop off your kids in college this this age, not only in this age, but also in the one to come that we're all leaning towards the already not yet reality. Um Eternity with Christ.
God, you've put everything under Jesus' feet. And you've given him his head over all things. to the church. His body, the fullness of him who fills all in all. Lord, would we take up our place in the body of Christ and uh And rest.
In him? and keep our eyes fixed on him. Pray this for Any moms who are listening or watching and that they would Hmm. See that you are willing and able. To be with them in all things, even to the end of the age.
In Jesus' name, amen. Amen. Amen. Thanks, Gloria. Thank you.
Okay. I bet you've prayed that over. a lot of And my source. And your sour, yes. That's good.
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