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Now, let's dive into today's teaching from Pastor Skip Heitzig. The Apostle Paul in this book talks about walking with God. In chapter 4, verse 1, He says that we should be walking. worthy of the Lord. And we explained that that means.
That Our lives should weigh as much as Our profession, we claim to be Christians, our lives. should add to the weight of that claim.
So then he describes what it means to walk worthy. He says that we should walk in humility. In his words, in lowliness of mind, preferring others. He then says that we should walk in unity because there's one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one body of Christ. He then explains that We should walk with variety because there are many gifts in the same body.
That when Jesus Died on the cross? He Descended into the lower parts of the earth. Then he ascended, and when he ascended, he gave gifts to men. And he lists some of the gifts in the body of Christ. Then, He says that we should walk in purity, all in chapter.
Four. Walk in purity, not as the other Gentiles walked. But we should walk completely different in the new man, as he describes it. Not like the old manner of life, but. with new values, new standards.
Then he Says that we should walk in charity and love. preferring one another. loving one another. Then Uh he says that we should walk in Sanctity, we should walk in the light. As he is in the light.
And then he says we should walk. Circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, redeeming the time because the days are evil.
So we should walk Circumspectly or carefully with precision, be very careful where you walk and how you walk.
So, all of those things put together. Give us the meaning of what he began with in chapter four. And that is A walk that is worthy.
So that's chapter four and part of chapter five.
Now He's going to in chapter five. I should open my Bible actually. Um Beginning in verse 21, that's where I left you hanging last week. We should walk Domestically. That is, our spiritual walk should be shown in our relationship with our.
Family, our wife, our husband, our children. our parents, etcetera.
So, all of these things speak to what it is to walk worthy of the Lord. But you know, as we were worshiping, I had a thought. And And that is We talk about what it means to have a walk with the Lord, and you and I should walk worthy and walk with Him, but. The great truth really before that Is that God desires to walk with us? The only reason we can have a relationship with him and walk with him is because he draws near to us and desires.
A relationship, a walk. with his creation. Don't you love Genesis where it says, God came walking in the garden in the cool of the day? And it sounds like he made a regular practice of wanting to take a walk with Adam and Eve. Walk with his creation in the best part of the day when it's cool.
Before the sun and the humidity made everything miserable, it's cool, it's fresh, let's take a walk together. And then I've always loved the story in Luke 24, how Jesus came walking on the road to Emmaus with two of his disciples, and as he was walking with them and fellowshiping with them and talking with them, They didn't recognize him. And I feel like that is my life so often. God is With me, and he's walking with me, and I don't recognize it. I don't recognize him.
I just sort of launch into my conversations and my life and my diatribe and. It's the Lord. Walking with us. And then, when Jesus left in that beautiful scene in Luke 24, the disciples turned to each other and said, Did not our hearts burn within us as he spoke? Walked with us and spoke to us along the way.
And it's my prayer that as we gather for these Bible studies, that you and I will walk away saying, didn't our hearts burn tonight as the Lord spoke that message, that word of encouragement, that exhortation, that warning to me?
Now, you have a walk with the Lord. I have a walk with the Lord. And some of you, because of difficulty, I'm reading all these difficulties, all these problems, these challenges in these prayer requests.
Some of you are drawing near to the Lord now. Because of the difficulties in your life. And that's good. That's the right move. Because the Bible says if you draw near to him, he will draw near to you.
You make that overture and And he's all over that. But now be careful. When you get relief from some of those problems and challenges. And the Lord answers your prayer, and life is good again. And then you think, well.
I don't need to walk as close anymore. I don't need a fellowship. As much, as often. I don't need that. I know it's a Wednesday night.
There's always going to be another one. That you keep your priorities. Of seeking him and walking with him. and drawing near to him. every chance you get.
We make that a priority.
Well, I sort of left you hanging, as I mentioned last week. I mentioned to you last week, I kind of gave a quote. It was a Howard Hendricks quote. Howard Hendricks, who was a great teacher at Dallas Theological Seminary. A great Preacher of the word.
He used to say, if your Christianity doesn't work at home, It doesn't work.
So don't export it.
So what Paul does here in the walk of the believer is he takes it into the most Personal relationships, the home life. Marriage Children. And then the workplace. Those who are bosses with their employees, those who are employees with their bosses. And shows how the walk ought to look.
So he gets very domestic here. I mentioned to you last week. That most of the books that I have read on marriage and family over the years from a biblical perspective, most of them tend, when they get to Ephesians, they tend to begin with the teaching on the family in verse 22. As Paul talks about wives and then husbands, etc., that's where they begin. In my view, that's a mistake.
It's a mistake. Contextually and linguistically, and I want to explain that. You see, I believe that this whole Teaching of walking. Domestically, in our home life, does not begin in verse 22, but begins a verse before that in verse 21. Verse 21 is a transitional verse.
That introduces a topic of submission, and then he gives four examples. Of what that submission should look like.
So in verse 21, He says submitting to one another In the fear of God. And we noticed something. That submission is not one-sided. But it is to be mutual. Every one of us is to submit in some form with some type of role.
And why is that important? Because it says in verse 22, where. Again, most teaching begins, most series begins. Wives Submit to your own husbands. As to the Lord Now, here's what I want you to know about verse 22.
You see the word submit in verse 22? It's not in the Greek. It's not in the original. It should be italicized like all the other words that aren't in the original language.
However, it is not, and here's why. The translators believed Because the verse actually just says, wives. To your own husbands. As to the Lord. They thought, well, we need to supply.
A verb That is not supplied, but It obviously belongs here because down in verse 24, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything. That's the crux of his teaching to wives to be subject. They borrowed the word from verse 21 and stuck it in verse 22. And uh It's the word I've told you about in the past, though I don't expect you to remember these words. We don't walk around speaking Greek to one another, but the word is hupataso.
And here's Hupatasa Minoi. And the idea of Subjection or submission is to one another. And then in verse 22, it is not in the original, it's only supplied by the translators. But here's what I want you to get this. He says, submit to one another, and then he gives four, not one, not just to wives.
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Now let's return to today's teaching. And I say that especially to men because some men have only memorized as their life verse. The 22nd verse of chapter 5. Wives submit to your husbands. They know it.
They quote it. The Uh know it in several Translations. Cross-referenced it. And though it does Imply that wives should submit because the word be subject to your own husbands is there. It is only the first of four examples of submission.
Yes, wives are to submit to their own husbands, but husbands, since it says submitting to one another, have also a role of submission.
Some men take umbrage to that. What do you mean, men? I've not heard this before. This is a new teaching. No, it's not.
That's why I said linguistically and contextually. It needs to begin in verse 21. That's the transitional verse.
So wives to your own husbands And then husbands. To your wives in this capacity, love your Wives as Christ loved the church. He said, Well, it didn't say submit. Right. But wouldn't you agree that Sacrificing your life to the point of death.
is pretty submissive.
So the husband is to submit in his role by loving his wife. Supremely, sacrificially. Then Children are to submit to their parents by obeying them. Fathers are to submit in the role by not exasperating their children, etc., etc., all the way down. There are examples of the submission that is introduced in verse 21.
So, wives, let's just take it as it is read. It is implied. Wives. Submit to your own husbands. As Two The Lord You remember back in Genesis?
Three You know, we know John 3:16. Do you know Genesis 3:16? Genesis 3:16, after the fall, God says to the woman, Your desire shall be. For your husband. And his desire will be to rule over you.
That word desire to be for your own husband. means desire to maintain control over. That there's going to be a war between the genders. That she's going to want to be in control, and the husband is going to want to be in control. It's the same word used a chapter later when God spoke of sin.
Uh to Cain who killed his brother. Said, sin's desire is for you, but you must rule over it.
So it all the problems the The tension began. immediately after the fall.
Now And I think we're going to get this as we go through this.
Sometimes marriage can become a duel. And it's not meant God never intended it to be a duel.
So we must all Submit in our roles to one another. Wives to be subject, husbands to love as Christ loved the church, etc. Instead of it being a duel, it's better if it's a duet. One complementing the other. Husbands loving their wives like Christ loved the church.
Because when a husband loves his wife like Christ loved the church, the woman feels secure in her husband's love for her. When she is insecure, that's when she doesn't want to submit. She doesn't know what stupid decision he's going to make to place the family in jeopardy. But when she feels secure in his love, It's a delight for her to submit. And when she is so sweet and subject and submissive, it's.
Easy for her husband to love her more. And it becomes not a duel, but a duet. It's a beautiful dance through life.
So wives. Submit your own husbands. Or again, be subject to them. For husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. He s the savior of the body.
Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, let wives be to their own husbands. In everything. This does not imply slavery. When a husband is a servant leader, Then she feels secure. He is serving her.
She sees that, she feels that, she's secure in that, and she responds. Also, the idea of being subject to your husband does not imply that the husband is superior to the wife. And a lot of wives are going, well, that's true. He's not superior to me, and you are right, he's not. Though he is responsible for you.
So when it talks about The head or the headship. The husband is the head of the wife. It's not superiority, it's functionality. It's the function. Every Relationship has to have certain roles for that relationship to function correctly.
Just like in an employer employee relationship, not everybody can be the boss and call the shots and set the policies.
Somebody has to submit to the one who does that.
So, in a marriage relationship, The function is that the husband is to be the head. Does not imply superiority. And here's the text I want to use. In First Corinthians chapter 11, it says, The head of every woman is man, the head of man is Christ. And the head of Christ is God.
That is God the Father.
Now, would any Orthodox Christian, would any evangelical Christian ever dare to say that Jesus. Um is not on the same level as God the Father. Does that suggest by reading that text or quoting that text in 1 Corinthians 11 that the Father is the head of Christ? Is that. Imply that Jesus is inferior to the Father.
Not at all. Jesus said, My Father and I are one. Jesus himself Said that he was equal with God, and the enemies of Christ knew that he was claiming to be equal with God. But For the sake of divine functionality. The Son surrendered his will to the Father.
When he was in the Garden of Gethsemane and he was suffering, and he did not want to go through the pain of being beaten and crucified and death. He said, if it's possible, let this cup pass from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but thy will be done. He surrendered. He submitted to the will of the Father.
Though he was equal with God, and the Bible claims that he was equal with God. For the sake of function. The Father is the head, Christ submitted. The Father. Therefore, just as the Church is subject to Christ.
So let the wives be subject to their own husbands, In everything.
Now women If that is still bothersome to you. Let this add a little bit of Encouragement If your husband does Make Dumb decisions. He's going to have to answer to God for it. The buck will stop with him before the Lord.
So you can kind of take A little bit of relief and stand behind the fact that God is going to hold him responsible for how he's superintended and servant-led. The home.
So be subject to your husbands in everything. Husbands. Love your wives just as As, now, this is how steep this commandment is: as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. Whereas the wife is told to be subject to her husband. Once by Paul In Ephesians 5.
Paul tells husbands to love their wives. Two ties. Here in verse 25, also in verse 28, so husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies, he who loves his wife. Loves himself. The word In English, husband.
Is a word that means to till the ground or to cultivate. It's what a farmer would do. A farmer would cultivate the earth, till the ground, plant the ground, care for the ground. In John chapter 15, Jesus said, I am the vine, and my father is the vine dresser. But the old King James has it right.
I am the true vine. My father is the vine or is the husbandman.
So the idea of a husbandman or husband is a very good idea. Is one who cultivates, kills, works that relationship, is seeking to bring growth out of it.
So husbands. Cultivators, tillers of the ground of marriage, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. Yeah. I do believe we need Christians in all Segments of society. And sometimes I hear people say, we need Christians in politics.
I agree. Or we need Christians. Yeah. Social institutions, I agree. Or we need Christians here or there.
I agree with all of that. But we also need even more so than any of those, we need Christian men in the home. In the home, who will love the home, love their families, till the ground, cultivate the ground. That he might sanctify verse 26 and cleanse her. It's his responsibility with the washing of the water by the word, teaching her truth.
that he might present her to himself. That is Um the Lord presenting here his church, that he might present her to himself, a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
So Husbands ought to love their own wives. as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Thanks for joining us today on Connect with Skip Heitzig. Before we go, remember.
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