If caregivers mapped out a decision tree for our daily lives it would look like a forest Each day we're faced with numerous choices and most seem filled with unpleasant outcomes Sometimes the decisions before us have a paralyzing effect and we don't know what to do next In those moments we serve ourselves well to choose the next right thing as our action step The big problems become more approachable when our heads and hearts calm down For that to happen our decisions require reduction Unlike the giant single unpleasant task of eating the elephant one bite at a [... more]

During one of our many visits to Walter Reed Army Medical Center to meet with wounded warriors we met a bitter young soldier struggling with wounds he received from friendly fire In a terrible mistake he suffered injuries from his own country's military As my wife Gracie walked over to greet him he rudely snapped at her Lying on his back while working out on a physical therapy table he could only see Gracie from the waist up This young man had no idea of her seventy plus operations or the loss of both of her own legs The physical [... more]