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October 17, 2021 1:00 am

Those Vows Mean Something

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October 17, 2021 1:00 am

Many couples have prenuptial agreements to divvy up their possessions should the marriage fail. What hope is there for a lasting marriage? With a vision of purity and honor, God’s Word counters the lies we want to believe about marriage. Pastor Lutzer debunks five prevalent myths promoted in today’s culture—which lead to broken marriages. The Bible tells us how marriages can last, come what may.

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There is good evidence in the Bible that marriage is designed more to develop character than to ensure a lifetime of bliss. When marriages break up. Many have prenuptial agreements to divvy up the loot you take seriously the covenants they enter into today.

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This is The Moody Church. Our weekly service of worship and teaching with pastor Erwin lutes or today. Pastor continues a four-part series on till death do us part keys to success in marriage. Later he'll come with a frank talk on why those vows mean something. Pastor Lutzer comes now to open today's service. Our father, we do ask in the name of Jesus that you might make us one.

We thank you today that your word tells us that both Jew and Gentile have been grafted into Christ, and we pray that as we exalted the name of the issuer today. The name of Jesus we pray all father that you might bless us and transform our hearts as we listen to music, and as we are informed about what your people are doing, but even more importantly, we pray that our worship and our sacrifice today may be acceptable in your sight because we come in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. I'm so glad this morning to be able to introduce to you the liberated Wailing Wall. Some of us had been to Jerusalem, and we've seen the actual Wailing Wall. These are the liberated Wailing Wall heard them sing many many years ago when these present singers. I'm sure were only children. They had a long history, but they are mobile evangelistic music team for Jews for Jesus that exist to make the Messiah ship of Jesus and unavoidable issue to the Jewish people worldwide. I like that phrase and unavoidable issue and so they tell people about Yeshua on college campuses in malls and subways on the highways wherever they go. We have to admire young people committed to Jesus Christ, committed to the gospel and are willing to make Christ and unavoidable issue in people's lives.

Let's welcome the liberated amen. Well, we are to and you know Isaiah had a lot to say about that day, that great day he said in Isaiah chapter 55 verse 12 that when that day came, the trees of the field would clap their hands for joy. Want to know about you but I don't want to be outdone. So this is a song that I think many of you know Isaiah 5512 the trees of the field. So join us and clap your hands so as a name and will and he in will and in and in and in a and in and in and in me and in a a and and and thank you very much and that should be our desire as well. Would you join me briefly in prayer our father we come to you today and we are aware of our great needs. We worship you today in spirit and in truth we worship you because we love you we worship you because you redeemed us. We thank you today that you sent Yeshua to die for us. Thank you that he is the fulfillment of all the Old Testament prophecies and we thank you that in him we have redemption. Thank you for liberated Wailing Wall bless them lead them meet their needs lead them to people in whose hearts you are already working because at the end of the day, it's your work and not ours. Our father I ask today in the name of Jesus that the message that will be given may be like an arrow into every one of our hearts, and especially those for whom it is intended. May they know what and grant them the grace to respond to it according to your will, where needy, Lord, and we need your help. In Jesus name, amen. Just look over my shoulder for a moment, tend let me read you this letter. We've been married for 20 years with small children in the past few years we fell into depth. I spent a great deal of time away from home making money now that we are doing better.

My wife wants out of the marriage because she feels that I neglected her emotionally, which I have because I was so focused on work. What troubles me is that she wants to put space between us. She wants to get out of the home. To quote find herself.

I'm afraid what this might mean because she's on the Internet. A lot of her time corresponding with a man she dated before we were married. She is helping him with his issues.

I'm afraid that the old relationship might be revived and she doesn't want to go for marriage counseling and she's quite defensive about this in her decision to leave change some of the details and it's a story that could be told thousand times a man leaves the marriage because he finds someone else because he is looking for a connection and he's in a marriage that he doesn't enjoy and wives. Apparently mothers if you please are leaving their marriage is just as much as the man number of years ago we had a marriage counselor here by the name of Jay Allen Peterson, who wrote a book entitled the myth of the greener grass. I'm not sure if that book is still in print. But if it is, it would be a good read. Good book to read and I have borrowed his title for two messages that I'm preaching on the myth of the greener grass and the intention of the message is to discuss the issue of marriage.

But in such a way that believe me it will apply to those of you who are single for sure, but will most assuredly will apply to all of us who are married or who are thinking about being married. I'd like to begin today by giving you five myths that I think we believe these are myths that I've come up with.

I'm sure that they exist elsewhere, but that this is how I see it five myths that we believe that really is devastating our homes and our marriages as people walk out of relationships. First of all, my happiness is number one.

My happiness is number one I'm miserable in this desert demand told me and now I found an oasis I found another woman with whom I have this connection and you are telling me to go back into the desert. My happiness is more important than faithfulness. By the way, let me simply say this, that, according to God's faithfulness is more important than happiness. And if you happen to be happy while you're being faithful so much the better.

But can you imagine Jesus saying to himself while I'm interested in my happiness. The Bible says that he did not please himself. Faithfulness is more important than my happiness my happiness more important than God. My husband and my precious children my happiness. I need fulfillment submit second finding the right person will give me real fulfillment. Finding the right person will give me real fulfillment. Finally I found somebody I can connect with. It's as if there was a piece of the puzzle that was missing and now I found the missing piece. It's not sexual. We can just talk for hours and somehow he is tapping within me something that I never even knew existed. I need to think about this. I need to leave the marriage to get my act together, which in reality usually is. Step number one for the divorce that is being contemplated. It's no wonder that we need people that we can connect with. By the way, David Carter, who has written a couple of books and spends his life counseling couples and getting them back together after infidelity said that the average marriage is like a person is on a the world on the earth.

And when you look at the moon. You'll always see the same side of the moon. Sometimes you see part of it. Sometimes you see all of it but always the same side and there's a back part of the moon that we never see in the very same way. There are many marriages that never tap into the other side of their part.

Here's a man who is very busy. He doesn't give his wife the time of day. She can't talk to him when she's talking.

He's not listening anyway and suddenly she meets a man who just adores her and who loves to listen and enjoys her accent and takes care of so many details. Finally I have found the man of my dreams.

I have found my soulmate.

She says of course after she divorces and remarries she discovers something very very bitter. If it is true that 40% of all marriages today and in divorce. It is also true that more than 60% of second marriages end in divorce. And suddenly this wonderful connection turns ugly know the man who used to be here at The Moody Church 20 or 30 years ago a long time ago told me I'm leaving my wife, because I'm in a desert and I found an oasis.

He wrote me a 10 page letter. Years later.

What a letter I still have it to this day detailing the fact that his oasis turned out not only to be worse than the desert, but it was actually a poisoned oasis and many of these relationships that begin so well when you get to know the person, and now suddenly you're working through.

They turn out lovely and spiteful, but you can't see it at the moment because that person is meeting my needs in a way that my needs have never been met before. It's a myth.

There's 1/3 myth and that is something I can still be a caring person, even though I got this thing going on on the side like a letter I read this week had occurred in the newspaper. I think it was were a brother said that his brother confided in him that he was having an affair and saying whatever you do don't tell my wife because I just love my wife and children how many lies can you talk yourself into received another letter some time ago from someone who said you know I not that the guy want to marry is a wonderful Christian, but he continues to keep in touch with the with other women and always talks about how beautiful they are and he knows that it hurts me, but he keeps doing it and tells me that he adores me alone. All is in fact sweet. Listen, if he adores you he'd be glad to say no to those other women.

I would think some if we love these myths. These lies another one is seven I can manage the consequences. I can manage the consequences God will forgive me. First John 19 like some students who say you can first John 19 you can. 19 God will forgive you number talking to a pastor many many years ago, left his wife for another woman and I hung never forget these words he said to make sure I'm doing wrong I'm sinning. But remember, even David, God is Bathsheba. Yeah, that's true. David did get is Bathsheba, and along with that he got ready for his family and grief for his whole kingdom.

Yes, God did forgive him because God is gracious, but I'll tell you, you know how long the consequences of a broken marriage go on not just on earth, but the consequences have ripples for all eternity. You can manage it.

God won't let you manage it. There are certain built in consequences that are way beyond your control in the lives of your children in the life of your wife and the life your husband whatever and those boomerang forever. Well, so another one is that nothing will ever change. Nothing will ever change. David Carter says that many marriages are like windshield wipers everybody. Each of the partners plays their dance.

They never are really intimate. There never really on the same page.

They argue about the same things year after year after year the same issues come up. There never resolve and everybody knows what the rules of the game are you stay on your side, you stay on your side. I push your buttons you push my buttons and like windshield wipers. They just keep going on and on and on and on and that he will never change, and she will never change.

Some if people have changed if I have time today when I get to the end of this message. I'm going to tell you about a couple that I had given all hope up her and they changed God does change people. It costs something though it costs a sense of honesty and humility.

And it's a price. Most people aren't willing to pay, but because they don't pay it. They miss a tremendous blessing. That's why there are two parts to this message.

Next time when I preach on the topic I'm going to talk about the rewards people miss because they don't work through a difficult marriage.

If you're in a difficult marriage today. God has rewards for you that you are going to miss if you bail out.

That's why it's absolutely necessary that you be here next time to hear part number two of this very brief series of messages. Now you say well I pastor Luke's. What are you going to speak on today I'm to speak about the common termites that destroy marriages and were going to be turning to the word of God. To see this, you know, whenever you hear about tire that blew out you say well you know the tire just blew out well.

The experts will tell us that there have been cracks in that tire for years and then suddenly there was a blowout when a wife leaves the marriage.

When a husband leaves the marriage. There have already been a series of sins that have been committed and a series of sins that have been justified before it gets to that. So were going to talk about those termites today. Those sins that lead to the dissolution of a marriage. Are there times when somebody should divorce well, you know, one could say that there are times when divorce is allowed. One could even say that perhaps sometimes in extreme cases, it's a necessity, but there are two things that should never be done prematurely.

One is involving and the other is to get a divorce. I know what I want you to do today is to take your Bibles and turn to the fifth chapter of the book of Ephesians Ephesians chapter 5 where we have some words from the apostle Paul. Ephesians chapter 5.

Like everything else, there are answers in God's word.

Ephesians chapter 5 the apostle Paul says therefore be imitators of God is beloved children.

First of all number one we should live a life of love. Write that down live a life of love that we should do and you say well how do we do that we should be imitators of God, men made to us. What does that sound like the Greek word, it is really from which we get the word mimic. We should mimic God godliness is to mimic God. It's to be like him in those attributes of his that are communicable as theologians tell us now. We should imitate God and how do we do that as beloved children and walk in love, show how you walk in love two things. First, notice it says therefore be imitators of God, that therefore is therefore therefore a purpose. You look back and it says in the previous chapter, verse 30 do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice, the kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake. For gave you notice you want to be like God. It says therefore be imitators of God, you have to learn the lesson. First of all, undeserved forgiveness, undeserved forgiveness. About two weeks ago Rebecca and I were in the airport in Minneapolis. We had flown to Canada to visit my parents and we are sitting there at the gate terminal lounge there and that we were eating together, and a woman came and she never sat beside us, but she kind of sat opposite us in fact, I don't know if she was even sitting on his seat.

She may have been sitting on a radiator along the window, she looked at us and she said I can tell the two of you have been married for a long time. I said let's interesting. What makes you say that she said because I can see that your wife knew exactly what you needed and the way in which the two of you are relating and we said yeah you know it's 39 years and after 39 comes 40 and we've been around a while and so we began to talk and she said you know I'm older and I'm getting married the first time and I'm marrying someone for the first time and she's dead. She said what advice you give me for a happy marriage and I'm so glad that when I married I married up because I would know exactly how to answer that quick is a quick is a whistle. Becca said learn the art of forgiveness that will thank you very much Rebecca that's that's really a wonderful word of advice and that you want to thank you the opportunity of implementing that so many times in our relationship, but you know she was right. You want to be like God, you have to learn the lesson of forgiveness can I add something to this story. Unbelievable. These are just strokes of divine providence. We talk to that woman and we discovered that she and her husband to be, though they've never attended Moody Church attended our premarital counseling here at The Moody Church and absolutely loved it and praised it and talked about Pastor Bill Bertschi who did such a good job of leading it and I'll thought what you know and when she recognized my voice.

She gave me a hug and she said I just can't believe that sent when we got on the plane. She said she'd already phoned her husband to be to tell him about the experience. Why do we have premarital counseling irritability church because we as a staff know something, and what we know is that many divorces already are in process before the wedding. We can see it ever told you this story know when you been around as long as I have got stories and I'll tell you one 20 years ago here at The Moody Church. A woman comes to me an Asian woman.

This is Wednesday and she's to get married Saturday and she begins to tell me about her husband to be that he's cruel and and she talks about this in. I look at her with a smile, nice and guess what, you're not marrying him.

She's what you mean. I said, I'm ending the wedding right here I sit it's all over and I called the person who is going to marry. It was not a pastoral staff member.

It was someone else in the community a religious leader and I said that you know what this is happening. He said on the basis of your word. I won't do it so I told her I said and she said I already have gifts and people have come.

She said in my culture there so much shame. I said that's okay I said, here's what you tell them you say this is all Pastor Lutzer's fault. I should just blame me. Let take the rap for this but you know what you're not marrying this guy two or three weeks later she met me in the lobby. She came to me with outstretched arms and said Pastor Lutzer, how will you ever help will I ever thank you enough for ending that married. She said I knew it was going to be bad, but I didn't have the strength to say no and ever since that time I've told our staff that we have the responsibility of performing weddings and we also have the responsibility of stopping them when we can foresee that it's bad.

That's not the only wedding that stopped here so just be warned.

Divorces already and if you're sleeping together that's a whole other thing. Now the sexual relationship becomes the predominant thing.

All of the other issues about the personality of the person you stop growing. You've stopped understanding and that's why it is for many other reasons that you're headed for a lot of trouble. When will we know that God's way is best. It really is so first of all we have to learn to forgive and secondly, we need to learn to love and all talk about this more clearly in the next message and so we have to skip it for lack of time, except to say how did Christ love us what Jesus said you know I come to this earth and they reject me, and I my needs are unfulfilled.

Gethsemane, what about my needs the cross. What about my needs.

Where do I fit into this know the Bible says here very clearly that we are to love as Christ love and marriage gives you a wonderful opportunity to die to yourself and to love someone else selflessly and that's the lesson that you and I resist with everything that is within us. The first of all what we need to do is to live a life of love. Secondly, we need to live a life of purity.

Notice what he says in verse three, but sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness or foolish talk or joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be Thanksgiving now. The reason this is important in the reason that Paul puts it here is very clear. True love is entirely different than the perversion of the law of that comes to us from the world. The world uses the word love repeatedly, and it's the most misunderstood word you could possibly have because today love is immorality. People get married today and they don't marry a person they marry a body and when the body begins to deteriorate as it does, it ends the relationship because everything is based on sexuality and by the way these crazy reality shows that you can somehow meet somebody and just there, you can tell whether or not they are right for you and they have a connection for you and this type of stuff is being funneled into our young people today. No wonder they don't have a clue whether they're making a good choice when they get married and that's why we as a staff have to help them along the way. It is a very confused world. Now notice Satan mimics God and says this is love. Paul says let us put aside, he says immorality, and let us live the says with purity.

You'll notice that the word immorality is cornea from which we get the word pornography, impurity, anything that is unclean and filthy. Anything that is unclean. It's been used about 11 times the word is used in the New Testament and Jesus once uses it to refer to dead men's bones, impurity received a letter this past week from concerned parents what they're concerned about is their daughter is dating a young Christian man who confessed to their daughter that sometimes he's been attending gentlemen's clubs and you know what goes on there and the question is, you know we want to extend grace but also what are the risk factors, I mean these are difficult but I would say that something like that. That's a good a good example of dead men's bones, and you can put there pornography you can put to the Internet if that's what you do in the Internet you can put in many television programs many many movies and and all impurity. Paul just really lays it out there.

He doesn't even have an exception clause and how can you say this.

This is the word of God but sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness why covetousness isn't that where it all begins. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife.

That's what happens at the water cooler work. That's what makes the man leave his wife and his children because he's found this other connection that's what makes a wife leave her husband. And I think that she can do this and take their children because because of covetousness they coveted the world the novels that she has read have put into her mind. The idea to quote the words of one woman who fell into immorality that there was a whole world out there that was unexplored that I had never had the opportunity to participate in, and my curiosity made me wonder what it would be like. There you go. Pornography tells man that you aren't really satisfied with your wife who doesn't look as good as so-and-so looks and so what you have is all of this dissatisfaction that is created and the Bible says covetousness, and in verse five, Paul says, covetousness is idolatry.

It's idolatry. Because what you're saying is that I need this more than I need God more than I need God's will more than I need to please God I need is somebody else's wife or somebody else's girlfriend somebody who doesn't belong to me and God says that's idolatry that's putting me all of your needs. God says, and so that's why the apostle Paul says that what we need is to live your life and then he includes he says filthiness course adjusting vulgarities. That's the idea laughing at dirty jokes, innuendos, and then he says live a life of honor. Live a life of honor and I don't know how to soften these words. I'm not going to go to give it to you. The way in which God inspired that it be written, and let the spirit of God do the rest. Notice what it says in verse five for you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous that is idolatry, has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

His folks think it's not serious to walk away from your marriage because you found someone else who feels UN arises within you needs and desires that you didn't even know you had. Well I have to read this again. If you're Christian, you're to be part of another kingdom for you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure. Hey by the way, did you notice in verse five it says you may be sure of this. Somebody here today says you know there's very little that you can be sure about in life right. I grant here's one thing you can be that Paul wrote that because he knows that we love to be deceived in this area.

I believe these lies so badly that in order to get our attention eases be sure about this. Everyone who is sexually immoral or impure or covetous.

That is an idolater. You know, you just need to be coveting you have no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God is able To Christian commit these sins. Yes of course a Christian commit these sins, but a true Christian will always fight against them. A true Christian will never be content with a morality with pornography. He may hate what he is doing. He may find that these powers have a hold of him, but he will therefore struggle with them but he will fight against them because he knows that this impurity.

This impurity mitigates against the blessed Holy Spirit of God, who is holding who has taken up residence in our hearts and in our bodies. Do you not know Paul says your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. How can the temple of the Holy Spirit be within your content with sexual immorality of all kinds, whether heterosexual or homosexual, or impurity or covetousness that is idolatry in the Bible says you have no inheritance. If you live that way. Contentedly, you will almost certainly are not a Christian. Now notice he says also live with discernment. I mean, Paul is just giving it to us here with a sense of clarity that is so overwhelming. You'll notice he says that verse six let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience lived with discernment. Why are we so easily deceived with empty words, it's because we want to this message is as countercultural as you could possibly get what you mean impurity. That's where I have my sense of the pleasure and now you're telling me that I can't notice it says don't be deceived with empty words, there are tons of empty words out there. Why does Paul say that in my brief pastoral experience from time to time. I've talked to those who are involved in sexual immorality and those who are walking away from their marriages in order to quote find themselves in one of the things that I discovered is that they are not thinking clearly at all. It's almost as if they are in a trance there in another world. Ever notice this you try to talk sense to them and you say to the woman.

What about your children or you talk to the man and say what about your kids and you might as well be talking to some stones and in a graveyard. He can't hear you because he's in this state of euphoria.

What do you mean I'll handle it. I remember calling a man at the instigation of his wife over the phone because he was involved with someone else and he was saying to me.

You know what you mean.

It was just as if you know what connect okay. Look at what you're doing to your wife. Look at what you're doing to those precious children. God has given you think of the implications of this as it goes on in this life all the way to eternity. Think about it and then realize what it is that you're going to do, but he can't get it. Why he's in a state of euphoria.

You know the letter that I began with about the man who said that his wife is on the Internet with a former lover and now she wants to leave and they have is an old there's no way that he is going to convince her to do otherwise because of all the water that's been under the bridge. She probably has forfeited any authority that he has over her somebody else is going to have to do it though, and that's what I recommend somebody has to bring these people down.

It's almost like an alcoholic who doesn't get the message until he wakes up someday in his own squalor and begins to realize I need to change when it comes to immorality is almost impossible for us to see with clarity because we are so desire is to be self deceived you Sable Pastor Lutzer, I hear what you're saying but I just can't go back. I can't go back because I've invested so much in this in this divorce that I'm contemplating well I understand it may cost you something to go back but it'll cost you a whole lot more. Almost certainly indicate moving ahead. Sin is so costly is the most expensive thing in the universe.

You know, you think about this. I know Amanda was in Christian ministry, and that he left his wife of 30 some years to find his dream and it found his dream and three months after they were married. He actually drop dead and I've often thought about that. It's been a sermon to me.

I thought you know if he had known that he had only three months to live. He might've stuck out an unfulfilled marriage knowing that he was going to have to explain all this to Jesus someday. Very shortly. I think you said you know life is tough but I can take it for another three months. You never know how much you have, I often wonder to you know at the wake as he is there. Who's at the head of the casket greeting the mourners. The wife, with whom he had lived for 30 years, with whom they had children or the new life very interesting. All what web we weave when once we practice this to deceive you. Sable Pastor Lutzer my husband can change right now before you say that my wife and I met a couple that we got to know through my speaking engagements and we've kept in touch with them. She's a wonderful woman who came through some difficult situations with her dad. You know, and then you know there's been abuse and you take all of that.

All that whole cart load that she's working through like many of you having to work through this kind of the past, but a real genuine heart for God on the part of her husband. If I could describe them just didn't get it to those words mean anything to have you ever met somebody like that Joss doesn't get it. That's the way I described and then you know if you're in this marriage relationship and you without your wife's knowledge go and take all of your internment account and you lay all that money out because you've come across his scheme that's going to earn you a lot of money on the Internet and you blow it all.

It's tough to explain Stephen tough to explain. If you told her you were going to do it for little tougher when she finds out later that your retirement is gone anywhere talking water under the bridge here so anyway six weeks ago.

I get this. Some email about 10 months ago after a counseling session.

I simply asked our counselor in front of Bill, that isn't his real name, but these folks live out of state. Anyway, they've never been to any church, you wouldn't have a clue who they are and they wouldn't mind if you did at this point to get me out of this marriage I the deep relationship with Christ, a loving relationship with my sons and daughter-in-law. Just please help me to live in peace so that I don't have to live with this man is been so cruel to me right. Bill left the meeting, agreeing that he was ready to be free. Also about an hour down the road. He said the Lord almost spoke audibly to him and started bringing to his mind all that he had in a white piece.

It was so overwhelming that he had to pull to the side of the road because he couldn't stop the tears from flowing that took place last July.

We spent about four months completely isolated from each other. I still didn't believe a word he said.

I began to see changes. In fact, our counselor said he saw changes to after eight months of being very very cautious. We decided to have a private ceremony with our sons and daughter-in-law to reunite our counselors and ordained ministers. So he performed the event he is a different man. 90% of everything that comes out of his mouth is completely different. He's humble but confident. For the first time in our lives. He is moved to tears often and remember this is the man who never cried.

He thanks me over and over again for giving them a second chance. I just return the compliment with.

I'm so thankful you chose us because when you choose the life you choose the kids you understand and the grandchildren we can laugh talk constantly pray spontaneously and spend as much time together as possible.

Thank you for your prayers and for speaking truth to me at any rate, I emailed her back a couple of weeks later and said you know this is so wonderful.

Is it still happening that absolutely she said she never knew that she and her husband could have a marriage like this. You never know what God will do but I'll tell you what the price is the price is honesty. And when there are things in your life that you're hiding from your spouse when there are issues that are huge. You go to a counselor that's not that's not a confession of need is just that there's so much water under the bridge in terms of relationships that people don't even know where to begin. And you can't look at anything objectively anymore is just too much pain too much hurt too many tries and failure go for help, but it's going to take a sense of honesty and what you're going to have is you know the other side of the moon illustration that I gave you that's going to have to come into the picture until you have a better understanding of who it is that you married what her needs are what his need is and that's what were going to talk about. Also, next time. In the message and you begin there and begin to let God do what only God, the Bible does say that through Jesus Christ our Lord.

We have forgiveness with God. Thankfully, and by the way, if you're here and you've never trusted Christ as Savior. This would be a good opportunity for you to do it. If you have a sense of sin, because of what I've preached on and you know that you need a Savior. Jesus is the place to go the one to go to. He's the go to the man. But if you're here as a believer in all of this stuff is in your life and your marriage is in trouble. Get on your knees and stay there until God shows you the way and if honesty can prevail on both sides of the equation. God can heal a very difficult meaningless marriage and if you agree, can we pray father, ask in the name of Jesus. For those who are here today for those who are listening by way of Internet radio. I pray today father that were ever this seed has fallen, that you'll give men and women the grace and the strength to respond. Grant that to them. Father God, because her needs are great saying the marriages of Moody Church save the marriages of all who have listened and beyond help us Lord is we are so weak and were so prone to deception bring us to reality now before I close this prayer.

What is it that you need to say to God today. If you were to say, God, what do I do about my situation. What would God say and whatever he says to you, tell them you're going to do it all.

Father, please help us. Please help us because we are so needy God come to us in Jesus name, amen on today's Moody Church. Our pastor Erwin lutes spoke about why those flows mean something. The second of four parts in a series on till death do us part. At first, young couples see romance is the major component of being satisfied together next time. Join us to find out why the goal is holiness, not happiness. You may know someone who could benefit from this life-changing series of messages till death do us part can be yours on CD or a gift of any amount to The Moody Church.

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